Rosh Chodesh in Halacha - Rav Yakov Zev Smith

to welcome everyone to 851 8651 email.com Smith someone told me he was very disturbed for for years he making at night and he was told and he went to and they said that is only by day at night there's no in of having and he's very very upset is that true is the night of not consider regarding [Music] the the we hear this question sometimes regarding as we'll soon see the Min women don't do that apply to day and night or only night the qu or only day the question about people don't cut the hair cut the nails is that the whole or is it only by day so as we'll see we have a number of other questions but the focus of today is what is the status of Le the night of this year it's on Sunday night does it have the full din of and as we'll see there are many practical na so I think as well to try to find one that we could work with if you notice we have different types of and of eating in the and of eating mat is only the night of the Yum so the night is a bigger y than the day then we have theah of the is says you eat the by night not and even is by by by day and then we have the of and that it's no difference night and day so now the question is what is and which category does it fit into is it like is it like is it like and once we're asking let's also clarify is there any difference between the first dayes and the second one because regarding y we know the first day is the the second day is called so there's no doubt about it is in the beginning of quotes many I'll mention some of them but primarily the so is grouped together with also as we'll see we find the story in t where D was absent for two days for the suda and Sh was angry it's why is it what kind of w the party for two days straight and and was all angry because two days is two days and where were you for the sud plus the in the famous story The was heading out to the to the and the husband asked where you go that means are on the same level the puts together and what's interesting the real source as we'll see the mentioned in two different places the that on the made a terrible mistake and they they cried andash makes it was 40 days from until because the month was so the of made was the beginning of the so obviously is called that's why the asks since is like the says why don't we say G so the has its terrs in fact says because it's also a little so it's like r that we don't say full Hal so we make half Hal but as we see everything is pointing in that direction is a or as the says is and as we said based on the now we have there's a lot more to say but we have a big agenda but we have to try to clarify is is it night day both and which day so there's a very good lead in the says if someone forgot to say in other words if you forgot by night this year Sunday and Monday if you forgot last night you don't repeat then the says it makes sense that if you forget tonight Sunday night second night ofes you have to repeat the why very P cuz the first night we don't know if it's until the next day cuz you can't be by night but Sunday night ready know but I told you I told you and there's no difference or so the P of the is that if you forget y any we don't repeat now I must mention other that they learn a and they hold that if you forget the second night of you have to repeat there's a lot of lumus to explain that we have a big agenda but we have says if you forgot any night first or second night we don't repeat the and that's the but we did see the made a very powerful statement to the extent that you never if you forgot do so how do we understand that especially today that we have a so the gim say a simple H we do it today like they did then we have a but just like then it was a and they never repeat so we keep it like they kept I must mention because very much as we'll see the one of says therefore is not in other words it's not a full y I think this is the words that we're looking for is a y night and day but since the night was less of a in fact he says it's not a and therefore if you laugh don't repeat it so what I got from this is that we say We'll soon see there other that says considered like a y but the point is it's not a full y and so far the biggest coola is you never repeat if you left out now what I think we could say and I'll prove this as we proceed it's like purm PM is a y but but at night it's a much lesser y you can't be and theas by day so it's basically a a y like the says but the full Y is by day is now let's apply this and you'll see more and more how this affects all the first of all let's taka clarify that if someone forgets by and remembered before he said the word in between and he said oh I didn't say says the put in right there even put in y right there even though it's a little funny it's like a stickle of a he before you put y but it's better than better than repeating the the so on or any time when if you remember before you said the word stick in y does that apply at night if you forgot y remember why not put it in however by us and more clearly seems to say no CU really sticking in in between is a but we have no choice so it becomes a of theing but since at night is and this is based on a r per the end of and the pre says it even clearer we only stick something in there when it's so this is the and that's what seems to be if you remember after don't add I should mention if you said don't say and say then and there are some that that want to say that said the I and the seems to say this the you allow to stick it in in between okay but no one says but the truth is the best a is don't forget to say let's not forget that says it's a if someone forgets don't forget is the head of the month we all know that everything follows or put it so we have to start the month correctly not not forgetting he says so many times in the we say the word so how what kind of problem does it have you come to the remember us and we forgot to say don't forget so that's why it's a good idea you know people think at night night is extra credit I'll prove it because quing that the gab is allowed to actually announce before before their meing was announce you allow to talk out and announce to remind them to say but so it's a I thought is not so important it is very important just as a COA if you left it out you don't repeat the so let's be clear we should remember to say it's a great idea you get used to it you put before you put something in the S on that page where Y is you can put a tissue or a card or a pen you get there you remember and then you don't forget but the truth is the fact that we don't repeat is not a r that not at all and I can prove it because all if you left that it's it's you don't but no say per is not so we see clearly regarding it has a cooler at night now we can understand the next question and that is the sud first of is there such a thing is it is there pass is it day and night only day so the EM is there's definitely an inion of simple since we prove from and indeed one of so right away it's of something special because it is a and more so we could do better than that the one of the sources was from Shmo from from Theo of the story of David and and Sh the in s test since by David there was a su both days and David was held accountable why he missed isah that they the tour inim based on he has another M that I I found very valuable he says typically when we have a problem what to do with a MIT that we can't do on that day we find like they can't lay on on a certain day but there are two that we and that is and when comes on when this Sunday and on chab we make something special shab because we can't we don't want to today we got we don't do that but they don't want to mix it with chabas is like like because the is push and again that's like we said earlier if you want to find the identity ofes it's very similar to the night is the I'm sorry the day is the and the night also we try to say of course but the day is the now what's noteworthy the devotes an entire Simon not just a SE an entire Simon to one I memorize it it's either four or five words I'm not sure why 405 because either you spell it out it's five words or if you just keep it it's four but a ple the whole Simon is four words and that's similar to Simon Shin in shabis one Simon one sa and that is the the Mitzvah of so the says just L long that there are two that are one SE each and we don't do it because in those days they were very poor they didn't have what to eat yeah there's more than it's more there a few others but these are the two ones that the says today we do very well and but let me tell you don't be afraid to dis spurge don't forget what say except for and now the is that the add the question but not it isn't it says so here there another verit from the not a verit it's a that what's so we see definitely there's an of now but it's a y in the sense that you try to have a suda but there's no pass and that's why if a person had a sud and left that y he doesn't repeat this would be similar to that's also but the is not repeated what's interesting the one of the he says that the purpose of the sud is as a reminder to keep not as we soon see to say but here the bigger question is when should the sud be made day is night also good so if you start with the comparison to it's pretty clear that the should be by day more so as the r says is in a different context we don't repeat if you left that's that the is the day but we could do better and here you see the it seems to be a that if you ate at night where's the talking about a totally different context Mo who ate meat and drank wine and is could become a but the is if he ate wine and meat in a sud he doesn't one of the examples of sud is the after they and the a did their job there was a sud celebration for their contribution so if he ate meat by that sud he doesn't what do you mean they didn't bring wine and meat by the sudes they only brought dog and kitne so why was he eating meat no no this this potential was very from and he brought meat and wine okay what do you have to come on to such a when did they make so why can you say he at do you have to say that you can't be when did they make at night so you have a that night is not good but we could do even better he quotes his father that if you ate you're not why just like Y is not at night so too it's not to what my father said the famous story where was put in and was the Anda her name was am sham to be exact she was very concerned because her brother wasi her husband and if he would D out of pain because he was put into by the Nasi her brother the N would be finished so every day she stopped him from saying except one day she got confused thought it was he said and that was the end of if at night so how did she make a mistake now I would add what he means to say is if at night so he wouldn't wait till the day so the fact that he she didn't know at night is a r there's no at night it's not a such a good Riot because even though even if you hold at not but all agree which is a bigger but it is but no doubt about coton B right but the is it seems that most are clear that the of the is at Night by day not at night now so during the winter you can make a lavage breakfast a nice lunch early supper but the sud is held by day the next question is which of the days should you make the sud first or second so even though regarding we know the is secondary but here says it regarding but it's it's all that the day is the second day the first day was always a suff the second day was the now therefore says that the should be held the second day however here we could add what's wrong with saying that you make it both days the first the second might be more than the first but the first ises and what could be for us a beautiful R the Tiner was he missed two days of sud and that's why that's talking about one and the and this has to be clarified true the second day is more a little more than the first day but the first day is still the first day ofes even if you say the night has less kadus but the two days both are the second is more but two days so we can begin ourselves make a on both days it's as we soon see that women are in the sud and all of but as we'll soon see the women got the they didn't participate in the agle and therefore the in the the quotes it that they're equal to men I saw points out that called it that means it includes the entire family that's why it's and all the say it that on when we bench we say m and not mag because it is a now since I was a child we were learn Yesa you come into during the week with a white shirt what's and also if it's big day why not the night ofes just like a shabas and we we big day shabas so now we understand both first of all it's clear since as we prove it deserves big day don't forget it's the is quoted as as he would put on night he would put on his his shabas hat whatever it was theow by they would be already by head also prais this Min and he says he have a rem that needs bigas because says in is and you have to have a change of now that's the and I should mention even if a person goes to work you should also have a Begg first you don't have to we your stbl to work but you know a nice nicer tie a nicer shirt whatever it is women T have special jewelry they whe the coverage but no doubt about it we can't say it's a but if it's a y we treat it like a y the question is if it's a y why only his sh's hat why not all so this already in the they explain this is based on the same actually that you shouldn't wear any of your big day shabas during the week now of course we have a but to we bigas during the week takes away from K's big shabas so that's why apparently you limited to one bot in other words really it's similar to the sud there's no to have a full sud you add an extra dish so big shabas we add an extra B they all had a special Rish hat a couple what's theat the this way you can have something coverage and it doesn't it doesn't interfere with kabas so if you want to wear a Cupic to work that's a good idea Nowa this is why probably we don't have all big day shabas we keep it just to one baged now Lisa the aderas he's he said his when he was in Europe the minic was that on they put a white on the coveres now I know we don't do that but it's a wonderful attitude it gives you reminder the opportunity of we D so much it's a day of so it might remind us that the that we could have the Purity we have which is a pretty I'm not saying we should do it because no one does it but it's a great idea at least in the mind to see the day of with all K in fact I saw the in the the would insist by the sud to sing an and that's also is a rem cuz the worder is and so if you like your musim you're getting a lot of them today but also I should mention a that I always bothered me many have Dominic still they fast the problem is now they go to we don't fast so why going into fasting so he says really should really eat a little before not to go into fasting but those that fast fast the whole day and I was thinking could be it's p because since we proved that there's no there's no at night so there's nothing wrong you go in you know there's an there's a that night so that's why those that fast they could fast I should mention what the r says to all of us he says if you are fasting don't fast extra when it comes this man you're allowed to eat what I should say there's an of on on I should say this better two days if there's to fast on the of the there F explain now says but fasting is a No No in fact although the is that fast but the say that on if they get they don't fast says the meaning is they do fast because by itself is children went then and the stopped but the lat say the in most places I'm not saying all places but even today even will not fast some still have the like fast so each follows as many but there you see that we have that the point is that although fasting but fasting on is potentially and that takes precedence a tricky question a sticky question is let me explain there are some people that are some people are not so that we spoke about in a different sh I'm talking about those that are what do we do about the of some some prin not to cut nails or here ones the question is when is Friday what do you do about chab so the question is for those that keep is there any Thursday night cut your nails in or someone that goes to work he does typically he shaves what does he do when he goes to work is there any to cut nails hair cutting or shaving so we could suggest since we saw certain it's not the full maybe it's not the and indeed the in suggest this maybe is not however most reject this and this this is very POS if we know if we understand the so we could say well I think that night is okay but you look at the in he says how could you be how could you say no one knows what he meant he was so there was so much he says says Mak if you figured it out exactly why it's a you could say well night is better but if you understand the way the command says so don't play around in other words you keep it until you're certain it doesn't apply and that's why I think the P I think cross the board assume if you if you're n with then don't be make at night and I saw a whole list of but the is until you could say with certainty it doesn't apply then you keep it the biggest R is that all the Pim discuss what to do on sh when when when and no one says Thursday night because if you hold that is a problem it applies night and day this would also give guidance to the next question if you go if you on is there any difference the first day or the second day now logic would tell us maybe the first day is not so CU don't forget the real is the second day but an attack of the Y and that's pish on the he says this maybe you could be make but again the take the same approach do you know exactly why it's us how do you say that and again I think that the mainstream not first or second day and the biggest R is going back to the cut down and everybody after discusses when falls on chabas what do you do because again you're going from Falls an a of shabas what do you do as far as cutting nails and hair cutting now if you know the calendar is a shabas only can only come out the first day and yet there's a problem of Saw points out that if you hold of the there's no difference first or second day a question that we're going to have in a few months is often falls out I mean every year the question is is there a to eat meat can you wear big Day shab or B of shabas can you wear freshly laer clothing don't forget is also beginning of the nine days so so the EM is that although a person that makes a bris or could have have meat on during the nine days but the meaning is many people don't do that nine days we don't have meat certainly that isn't how could you have meat and indeed as early as a in the end of he says it clearly of is the is the and and and his point is the begins on and the says it also now I did see some and others say you allow to have meat but it's not don't forget begin the only one that that was I saw if a person is every single to have then he would be but even that's but for those that are not so the overrides the that's why it also makes sense not to wear big day shabas on cuz we don't wear big shabas during the nine days now in fact someone asked me he every he buys his children a treat should he do that ones so I told him that's a good opportunity for could tell your children you know today is the beginning of the nine days but we have a minute we're going to buy something special not as special maybe you could do both but let them have is and nine days there's no is n days to buy a Danish so you could say we're going to buy something a little less than whatever you usually buy but n days is and you'll give them valuable question about the year about being during and primarily so the EM is if we hold it's it's then can't be a shot but then again it's not it's not a real full Y and that's why the EMS is there are some shs that have the Min he doesn't he does the grow interesting the grow in is a in the the very end there's a story there that someone by was an AAL and went to the Amid and as the meing guess the girl CL in his sh that the shot be a Talis over his head for so this fell went up for and put a Talis over his head so looked at him and said so the fellow got the hint and he stepped away but the meaning of the gr was not the for the and apparently also why maybe only P him he didn't let so the one of the that girl explain the that the hell that we have to pronounce and how do you do with if you don't typically don't allow to be they do allow it but the I should mention isn't and the going to a B on so typically it's not the place to be it's not time for but if someone has yard side I saw the had of his mother he went to the B of on the yard site to be there even though now he added a question added a point that that answered a question that I that I had this out of my range but theim say that the is not by the basic so what are he going no one's there so he throws in that's if you go then that doesn't work but for the rest of us said if a person has a reason to go let's say he's just for a few days and he has no time to go to the and I should mention the was he says what that means out of my range but he does say another interesting question is many people are not to make on now some not but for those that are the question or often is asked is let's say it's let's say is Tuesday this year let's say Tuesday could you make a it's but it's not yet the don't forget the fluctuates so let's say you have a let's say tu not yet can you make so here is that the the reason the problem is it's not a good but making and the seem to say it's no problem as long as it has a status of it's okay what's tricky is let's say you have a time that you know let's say this this is the is in the morning can you make a after the before this not a good but some you have it's after the but not yet so he said it's not a din Ines only It's A din when the when the when the Le is not seen it's not the right time but if you know that's after the you can make a even though it's not yet but the point that we see is that you have to know each is treated differently now the big Su which is a sh for itself I hope to do but not now but the big Su I want to point one point I want to bring out is the is of does that apply at night so first of all I must mention that the begins withes now that's not an overstatement the part ofes was an is of doing but here we see something if you want to take home a riddle with you they ask your family which Mitzvah changed drastically now let me tell you the cloud when someone says things changed run away from him he's dangerous light light nothing changed people say today is different don't listen to that but I'm going to tell you this one MIT that changed drastically because and spells it out was given to men but as the since when it came to the AEL the men gave willingly for the agle and the women refused to give their jewelry the men lost the Y and the women got it but there's more to it cuz you might say ah women they don't want to give the jewelry not because not true because when it came to the call to give to the women gave more than the men quicker than the man so as the T this points out he writes it very poetically that it the men lost the Y ofes because ofus to the agle and their to the Mish the women got thees because of their to theel and the fores but be that as it may say let me tell you that we lost a paid vacation called No and the women got it and that's the Yum that changed the identity of the Yum was a man's yum and until the a women didn't have to e it was it wasn't like of mat have mat they were after the agle the changed so so that would be why you can't play around with the now what's included it's not like shab so primarily the ISA is sewing mending or laundering the the the again this is not a punishment this is a reward now M does say if a man says he has a minute not to do there's no such Min so if a person wants to be lazy he can be lazy but the laundry or the sewing Etc now but I must mention it's not more than can't be big day things you need for for you allow to wash you allow to mend so it's not more you know I put it this way there are four level y that we have and during I would think that this is sort of like or maybe but it's not a complete it's what's not necessary now to go through the whole because they Aus different gar but one thing my point I want to bring out is the question is is there to do do laundry Lees let's say you Monday night on so again it's we have enough guidance it's not it's not the full but and many other but then again it's not the and that's why says that women could do however it's a big as we said typically will not between night or day and that's why the interesting begins and he makes a point he says the Min of is not like a of a of eating special Foods on on on it's a of and is it's a that every person has to keep and he quotes eight that the is a it's not totally in which country you come from if you like Dominic if you accept Dominic it's it's a but and therefore he says I don't know if like like like the IIT now I saw a very thorough CH in the CH in Sim and he proves conclusively that the Min is that night or day they wanted to fix to make money for he says not at night the is not like the and says I believe but we do know that's not the we don't do night or day now which day of so like we said like everything else both days says there is that seems to be if there's a that only the second day is awesome but the is we see again and again that regarding even though have the full Kad but there is definitely at least the parti kadha both night and day and both days what's also and this has to be mentioned the of wom is a married woman it's not totally in being married single girls also have that and I saw has an you look at the that they they said and then the the men brought but not not the so the girl girls the sing girls were also part of the the Godless of not giving into the ago so therefore it's not like girls should it's the same inion that women don't do Mal so too girls don't do Mal and since we have an old Min on we give something to take home I'm going to leave you with feares for regarding today I told the Friday we have a 3day coming up they looked at me while I said yeah shabas suay and and shabas is shabas and Sunday Monday so I'm going to give you four again the is a big hope to do other parts of it but these are ones that you could think about it's very much to get last night we had a transition sh and then and the question is what do you do in in benching on sh into this year is Sunday and Monday you went from so to make a long story short if you're eating you're eating after this man you're benching after this man and your neighbor he he's one of the Marin L he ready and he said so now what do you do you ate onab but it's so it's a big but to make a long story short some say we go if you ate shabas you say shabas would say not eat a kazas at night and you could say both okay Mr doesn't say that doesn't say that so many people will eat a k has to be B so you can't be Mah tonight that night and you could do both and some only say say now let's F fast forward two weeks from now two weeks from now is is going for him so the question is if you go typically and you say both you do the same on and therefore you would say [Music] both absolutely not and is beautiful because even if you say shabas and then y it's not a Ste because with say goes first it's shabas now shabas over now say benching on is going into when do you say Al early so once it's p and in seems to be the think about this that will be different than is the discuss so everything happens you know but this was an interesting story some daving during the week beautiful daving Shak and left out y somehow he forgot y could be Turn the page but what would you say to this so this was and he has a beautiful Insight he says what's problem he mentioned in the beginning of he mentioned Place what's so bad you know what he says maybe the the is really for and that menion so if you left happens to be now that's funny we don't say but then again and some say if you by mistake so he doesn't really finalize that point but one thing he does add I found beautiful he says but if this mistake happened you D the whole the whole but you left that you don't have to why is different it's not it's not worse then now you think that's P right didn't didn't quote this CH they probably were contemporaries but he has this same sh and he says that that without even at night call day why he says really what did they do when it came the first day that could be rashan don't forget they thousands of years ago let's assume that either either was Monday Monday or Tuesday what do they do Sunday night possibly or they play cards so we know that all over no one knew when began so they kept two days as one TI was a v it was a v that you have to keep both days and therefore even even y that would be for would be what he's saying is that has a different identity in the rest of the year it was done so until further know don't leave out in in in was always was always done that's wants to say okay is fast following a few months so many make early shabas so let's let's put things inp let's talk about okay which is shabas so you di in early 7 o' 7:30 8:00 you're ready D now your neighbor is still cutting his grass to cover chabas because it's a half before but you made early shabas wonderful so you to sue them the question is when you in do you add into your because don't forget it's still eres 8:00 half hour before you made early shab so that we once spoke about it how does ear shabas work you could turn Friday into shabas but you can't change it a baby that's born Friday after noon 8:00 when is his his M Friday so it's not yet you can't change change the calendar that you could make Friday into shabas and let me tell you there's no there only and if they would be probably and many would make right right after and keep it you know but there's and the qu and he says when you have a question what to say in benching with the just had go with because by always and there is no and this is why the as the the and the and that when you make early shabas whether it's you should not say the ER wrote him back and he proved proved it and it was good that once we make it shabas we can't make a that'll be to the S and the he discussed someone that he says it's not yet but just like if you make early you say otherwise you can't make early must be once you make it you make now that even there is no but you can't and the good news is the has he seems to agree that once it's you all to say so you have a few months to figure that out and the last question is really something to think about every single that we say on we have those beautiful words why because you can't go without that there's one that we say that doesn't have that line and that is when falls on chabas we had it last month take out you look there not that line is not does not is not found and the question is why not whether it's shabis or Y it has to be there now I do know on a regular most of you don't say it but this is sh so that that that that but here it's and writes that it's a mistake and you should put it back in the S and there are some that put it back in the S most of K doesn't say it and I'd like to know why why we have a few months to figure it out never thought of [Music] this [Music] amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] even though of SMI didn't forget anything from the she to repeat it with the just let's what we learn today first all agree is a a big it's the of the month and everything has to be done right but basically is it seems that from all what we learned today both are a real both days are real yam it's true the second day is more than the first unlike a regular yam but both days have the full and night I guess we could say is a partial yam it has some K some but basically the fact that if you left the Y you don't repeat it and any of the Myers of the two nights gives us an indication it's not the full because they never had the first night as it wasn't now do say if someone did forget the so it's not a good Simon so make a good make a c to remember to say but basically we most P you don't add it in between you just move on now we do add we do have a minimally add one food on the Day meal and past's both days should be included and don't don't be afraid to splurge it's on the house is a rebate the second day has priority you only have one special food keep it for the second day but both days should have the sud women have all of is given to women a special bagage should be worn by day both days there's no you know to fast even and and some say even on the also the if you go with if you are it's both nights and both days is the beginning of a and the of eating meat or big is suspended the a the meaning of an for is to in going to B on a yard side or any is okay which is an changed it's basically on women not men and it basically only includes laundering and sewing crochetting Etc and we left and that applies to unmarried women also it's a din girls and women and we had aura that on is going into so they hug butab is going into p no one says and then if you get we saw a beautiful Insight that may be has a different identity doesn't apply but still you make early early you do say and it's a would like to know why is not said on for this