Rav Zev Smith — אדרבה! תן בלבנו שנראה כל אחד מעלת חבירנו ולא חסרונם

You want to sit? Ready? All over. Thousands of yed coming to shoot in many different neighborhoods in America to big sponsor this please contact today we have the to have with us like every Sunday every time every week give us a special treat on the topic Today she is from A Plumbing who sponsors this now. Who doesn't know the words? Imagine what life would be like. Imagine what would be. Imagine what the bias would be if we would see the in the other person, not the but as they say, it's easier said than done. And the question is how does a person take that and make it la to see the good in his spouse in his children in his neighbor even when this you know someone once told me this world is not a safe place to live in you know people have and we have to live with them the applies to them once said I am convinced that loves ludnik how do I know because he made a lot of And that's part of Israel to love. So I want to tell you a gora I think sheds a lot of light onto this important says in doesn't say who it is but the shus in the beginning of parish says it was raka when he was young and he went to work for a big which again the shtus identifies as hook is also a and he left his family for three years he went to work by rebel as hanis after 3 years he told him I have to go home my family's waiting for 3 years give me money doesn't have money he said be I worked in your field for three years I saw you were fabulously wealthy give me at least the behemoth to get home mainly says he went home terribly depressed. The points out he didn't have money for coffee. He had to carry his packages on his back. He didn't have money for to rent. And don't think it didn't bother Abaka. Gora says, but theor continues this same Balabos came with three animals laden with all of the that he really owed. And here turns to say I don't understand you. How did you how were you living like a Malik when I told you Moyes? What did you think? There's so much money I have. So answered very meekly. Maybe you had a very good deal, a close out, a bargain, and you give all your money to buy that item. Those items, does it make sense? Good. You bought very good merchandise at a cheap price. So, give me the merchandise. You better work with cast. What kind of terrorists is that? Okay. Ty behem. What were you thinking? You saw the thousands of behemoths on my on my estate. What were you thinking? Maybe I you rented it out. Okay, so you have more money. Where's the money? I asked you kaka. Kaka doesn't move. I see the car in front of my eyes, right? And you what were you thinking when I said maybe I I gave it as a share crapper to someone else? I you asked me Paris and I said, "What were you thinking? Maybe said maybe I maybe it wasn't you can't use it. Frank if it's not take off my should be going but what kind of terret is that you ask for? I said you saw kakistas all over see was getting desperate he had a terrorist for everything. What's a terrace? That's why you don't give me karma. Maybe you so one second. So why did he have to stand and manufacture a repertoire of Ba Shemma this if you're ending up this say that right away and all of a sudden rebel responded with a glow in his eyes exactly I have a son who's not doing well and I made a neba he shouldn't have any of my hopefully straighten him out continues and this is the I think this is the the grand finale And he said, "You worker, you you went for all my you were so nice to me should be." So as we said, the the whole story doesn't make sense. What kind of terrorist is it? doesn't doesn't but I think the biggest plea is what does it mean is when there's a but is there the doesn't know what a person did what kind of is it almost it seems tantamount the has to be down the every but let me tell you this is dripping with the with with the and and with that we really need I saw two of the they say a similar story they're walking and they saw a dead cockus a dead so the talmid said how unbearable is it stench has a terrible smell which is true. So you see the and the dead dog look at the white teeth. Now I want to ask you a question. Is there a mitzvah to be down the a dead dog? What was the of this? What was the of this? Why did two record this story? It doesn't it seems to be a little funny. a dead dog. So you have to find a a but let me tell you this is a because think about it two people saw the exact identical scene and one could not bear it and one was excited by it and one was uplifted by it. Everything in life can be looked at from a different perspective and it's our decision to make the right decision. Do you want to live with a world of or do you want to see even in a dead dog and then when you have a problem with a neighbor with a worker with a spouse with a CHILD THERE'S SO MUCH of more of but it's more than that because a person as we said it's not a perfect worldki once said after nothing after the of nothing is perfect and it's a very imperfect world with imperfect people. And what do you do when you were wronged? When someone did an AVA, it's the same attitude. Step number one, pause. Because when someone reacts when he's not happy, when he's angry, he's going to have to pay a price. Describes what does a person loses his and he could be of the world even. But step one is pause. You never ever lose by pausing. The more angry you are, the more reason you have to pause. And then you ask yourself, what's what am I going to decide my day is going to be? Am I going to see the good? Because in a in a friend, in a spouse, in a child, there's so much more good than than white teeth. And life is all about decisions. We choose the world we live in. You know, so we think that the is talking about two different people. There's an his life is difficult. But the wealthy person, oh he's not one big, you look at the snapshot, it's talking about two people in the identical situation. There might be an there might be a doesn't make a difference but one is looking what he doesn't have there he's missing he's rush in that respect and he's always saying oh yeah I don't have look what's going to be he has more this no go why don't you talk about what you have good he chooses the life but missed the summit the sees what he has he sees the cup is half full not just half empty so why don't delight with the cup that's half full. And in life, it's a decision. We choose if we live in the world of or in the blissful world of Isn't that isn't that you look at a dead dog, what do you see? It's your decision. And make a wise decision. And of course as we all know the decision to be mata to see the good and forget about the avla is always always the winning ticket the last few years went on a on a crusade on a campaign he saw there's so much problems so much problems and he knew the is the lack of being and he said this dozens of times But the has to have a two-step process. First, hit the pause button. Don't react. And then look at the good. Look at the positive because it's always positive. Doesn't say who it is, but it's what's the right way to go through life. So one said which is very good. One said and then said now what does mean? He has a strong heart. He does exercise. I understand what is but it was something so extraordinary that heard said oh I I see that's the right shot. He got everything you said. But what does it mean on that? He doesn't lose himself. He doesn't get angry. That's the famous. If you don't want to get angry, talk softly. When you start talking loudly, you lose yourself. Be in control. But here's the punch line. Everybody that's a and says that's going on the is the ultimate and in this a person that exercises self-control and doesn't say what he wants to say. He becomes he becomes he's also does says and they're both true. This is and say this is think about it. He lives in this world that's unsafe like the rest of us. He lives at all the nickn pauses. He sees the good. He sees but nothing takes away a moment of his happiness cuz he's living. I remember once I was talking to aid. She tells me I'm flying soon. I already got my flight insurance. I said what's flight insurance? If you don't know in this world there's insurance for everything. I take out a special insurance for this flight. I said thank you very much. I started thinking is there is there insurance for is there an insurance you know what it's called? It's called because all the people you have to get along with all of them are imperfect. And it gives you that that that look I am you look in the B is I mean I'm talking about we're doing the as we're doing the B is giving US LIFE IS THE ULTIMATE sapling and we are tapping into that godless because remember someone has that of is someone that has that le sees the good, nothing will phase him. He could have the biggest. I'll tell you that should be and could be lifealtering if we take it to heart. imagine had a wife that was. So how do you respond when he found something nice? Not only he bought her a gift but a gift wrapped it. Imagine in this but it wasn't posh says why are you buying her a gift don't you I mean we all know it it must been obvious that she's a rashant I want to ask you a question if you see is doing superhuman activity his mom is doing being changing his me and he's giving to his wife what she doesn't deserve you should give wow I am spoiled for you Why are you talking of it? Why are you saying she's held that this is a violation? She's an how you do that. You look in the he has another shot. The same idea. No. So how do you argue with Rav Rafan? What was why is he buying a gift that ripped that and gift wrapping if his wife? He said, "She raises our children. She does two wonderful things." Why didn't he say that she makes me lunch and does my laundry? The terret is she didn't make his lunch. She didn't make his laundry. The only thing she did for him was But what did he say? Yeah. She raises our children. Now, don't forget they weren't stepchildren. They were her children, right? Right? It wasn't like his children that she burned the second he born in the second marriage. It was her children. A mother has more than a father. Rashi says because we're married. But we know a wife is a is a has a bigger benefit of marriage of tandu. So what these things she did she did for herself. But look at the of a look at the coyak that was able to see layers and layers of ra without any good. that Rafa to do that and he found epis something he found some some semblance of Shaho and he's able to leave live a life I'm sure it wasn't easy but he's able to live a life the attitude to buy a gift and gift wrap it look how life is our decision and with a person being the but he finds something and he delights with at and then there's another approach I guess it makes it easier and that's a person has to be understanding you know there's a printed in the in the toa someone stormed into his bestd and started yelling at him that it seemed on his beh and he didn't agree he and he told these words if you don't know how to pask in your there don't paskin he was talking the said was callro and was quiet and they were plotting. So what happened to the girl screaming and yelling he said told him just quiet the man laughed he goes you don't understand he just lost money and didn't spell this out but he was referring to the with said terrible things but the is made A person when he's angry a father should control himself and we should never think this is a terror but when someone's angry with us we have to use this the difference is we learn the live that a person has to rise to the occasion and understand when someone's angry he says the wrong think so what do think he doesn't mean it he would never talk of that on a regular day but he just lost the value of alma which is a a lot of money understand him writes about a a a nephesh it's very important and he says what what is that and his lion is a person has the ability to juggle two opposites with yanim he could be even but for himself he's sh on any for himself he wants perfection but for he could overlook even a tremendous you see it's sometimes the person I I'm I'm very sensitive I I I should understand his a that's of keep up your sensitivity Don't be don't be so anything anything lacking in slams in yourself but yet you're not going to help him if you're going to be angry with him if you show him that you accept him you want to help him it's one thing but to lash out that's not going to help it's that fine line a person has to have to understand y I heard this story from my probably 35 years ago but trust whenever I think about it I start to laugh okay the the story is printed told this and he recorded this story that saw had got married Sheni and came before Sukis he built the suka we had done for decades probably 30 years before he he built in this area after he finished the rebbitson comes out new rebbitson first time she's married sukis build so there's not a place to build a suka build it over there every moment was a black gamora as you Oh, you know, and suk is building sukas was hours of blood to gamarra. Didn't say a word. Took a bat to suka built it in the other place. Finished. He's about to go back to Gammorra. His wife comes out. So Mayor Bes mayor, you were right the first time. That's a better place. Not a word. Let the gumar down the drain. Takes the suka and builds it in the in the place they had built it for for probably 30 years. What's the gospel of the story? Very bush. She didn't mean with a malicious intent. She didn't mean to messiah him. Women sometimes are indecisive. So what are you going to gain by getting angry? understand you know I once said that the the sight of Shalom is that doesn't even mean but Shabas has no a whole different personality a whole different mentality a whole different value systems and the marriage is to understand are different not it's remember asked me this question we got to be very careful. Wife they they're very sensily means that will hear her cries and you're going to be in trouble. So he asked me I don't understand BECAUSE SHE'S SENSITIVE I HAVE TO SUFFER. WHY COULD YOU FEEL MORE FESTED? So he told me that's such a shamal is saying she's sensitive and you're going to suffer cuz you have to understand you have to understand you have to accept but you see it you see it how how it's it's part of our history was frustrated she has no children and she gave Jacob a very strange ultimatum I want children looked at and says what am I giving children angry and he said why that's what he told I should give you children it sounds very simple she did she did something wrong and he gave him that's the way you talk to an oppressed soul That's that suffering said soon going to be a time that your sons are going to have to stand in front of her son when he was masquerading as the device and aella mang she said and he gets punished the terrorist sometimes there are two wrongs she was wrong. But you should have been more understanding. You should have understood that she's and sometimes you know would would would be would be avoided if we had this attitude. Instead of condemning and blaming, try to understand understand where they're coming from. And maybe the eight is even easier when you have a little bit of You know the famous what did that mean? So I have experience with bakim I I've seen this more than once countless times some that have the job very uh unpleasant job they give a bak musa he's doing something wrong I have to speak to him. So I approach him nicely and I start telling him and all of a sudden he opens the builtin what I call you know there's a human being he tells me he throws things you know maybe this maybe that in other words I'm innocent the question is why we got to figure it He's not fooling himself. But the said and explains a person could see what's a pesh and for himself because he saw he had that root but I once saw even a big there's a gammor account in fourth place in sh has a kasha says means right but says this is in ins that I found. How could that be? You're so like you, but in these I see it all the time. Even if he's m he did something wrong, but I'm not. I'm still the top. But it's a certain confidence that a person has when I care about myself. I'm going to find a way out. And it's not he's he's he's living in denial. But it's true. He he you know I give a mul if you ever have an opportunity and unfortunately you have to call up a parent about a certain B and the B's out of control wild and you tell the parent usually the mother goes what my Yankee he's such a good boy he's a malik at home I don't you must have a different Yankee. It's not the they don't want to accept the truth. A mother sees a child is cool. But you know what is when you look at you have to you you see yourself with such an eye to how we living on ourselves out we see the mile. So the the is to go the next step live with the is not that you have to be like him but the way you treat yourself treat him and also look for the and also leave and if it's so bad once said his mother never spoke and she never learned this before the the the movement but she simply had so much another Eid. How will you dare talk bad about the Eid? That was the attitude of Israel that that that just prevents any negativity to other person. You look in the I think there's a tremendous feel to say this a big part That's a tall order. So much is expected of me. How could I do that? But the answer is go the way to do is the words at the end of that param because by yourself you know how to do that. Do it for do the real. Now I want to ask you, you don't have to be a dian. You have to be a but not a dian. You lent call him. You lent loyal $1,000. Okay. And you had a month later you made up a month of pay said where's the money? What money? And he starts yelling, "I owe you money. They say here's the Adam and they made a that you know you belong you borrowed money from me. Okay. Okay. You're right. I'm sorry. And he pays you. Next day you're in Bezon and all of a sudden when he walks Bezon who lia reba yesterday he lied through his teeth. He's walking to be yes. What could he do for you? I want to say this about a certain throw him out. Right. Not true. says he feels he can't be I can't pay on time. I'm I'm a man. So he pushes it off. He said give me time. said, "Look how look how look how you could see the and I could say you could see a and see the he's lied but he's because this pain and what whatever you want to say but again for us we have to be that we don't say it's but for we have to be because but you know something I think it's also we have a very tall order in the in fact but how do I love him he's just he's always doing the wrong thing you know what the Look at the look at the and it's easier to be him. It goes both ways. The secret of success is but when you see with an when you see the is easy to be a person and maybe you'll see when a person has this control he's in control he doesn't get and I was thinking maybe that's the because an iron He sees good big you know what happened. I'll tell you one incident. Two people I know them very well. Best of friends since their childhood over 50 years. They were the epitome the picture perfect of of and then someone came up to you one day out of out of the blue. He says they're holding now by a mat of I said what? Yeah. Yeah. Something happened. It was it was he kissed him. But the imam is holding. I was thinking of 50 years. So let's say he did wrong. That's all you see the wrongdoing. Look at the Don't you make a mistake. Can we live with ourselves? and of both of them they never spoke to each other. It's unbelievable one incident and I realize that the the the of of of le includes everything because you can have the best friend and the best and the good EYE BUT IF YOU SEE WHAT DO I DO NOW my eyes say this my eyes say he's lying then you need that to that of this that you have to start understanding the person and then you could hold on to the friend and hold on to the and hold on to the shenan And maybe this is the real message of the we began with because tak it it's it's it beyond belief someone worked in someone else's field for three years left his family behind and he he wants to just get paid what he deserves and one bam after the other the person lies this and that and only how is a human being able to make up so many truth him. How was a human being able to make up that don't even you know who that human being was? Everybody say it was who personified after and the beginning of although at that time was not the grace. He was still young but he had those midas that he had when he was older. And look at the of an if it makes sense. But he had a heart that was full of sheas OF MAYBE UNDERSTANDING OTHER PERSON the other person and is able to see a because a heart that's full of is always full of because he wants to see that the like that person and himself wouldn't tolerate this but he was that was able to juggle two opposites for himself self for Yanim he's going to go through the THE THE MOST BIZARRE stories but I won't accept Yanim but you know something I'll tell you I can guarantee people like schools I can guarantee for any difficulty I'm just going to use idea now let me I want to be very clear let's talk about one story okay put yourself back when you went to camp okay it's a good story you came to camp a little and your masle. You live in Muny camps in the mountains. It's an hour and a half away. You left your glasses at home and you come out. You can't see. You can't read without reading glasses. You slept back to my you just came but you heard your next door neighbor punked is going back to he lives next to you. He's going back to my has a brother's house that night. I'm a you say, "Oh, your uncle do me a favor." And you heard you going to my glasses. I know you're busy. I'm I'm Muslim. Leave it on the bench by my house. You don't have to ring a bell. Just pick it up, put it in your bag and go to the and bring it back. I heard you come back tomorrow morning, right? Yeah. So the uncle says what? Of course. What a friends for. I'd love to do it. Sure. No problem. No problem. We hear the word no problem. You should know there's always problems. Anyhow, the mis the next morning sure enough your friend is there and you're expecting to give you the glasses and so you walk by him like you know you don't want to like much him and he goes by. So you say, "Where the glasses?" Oh, I don't believe it. I can't believe it. I totally forgot. You think to yourself, I'm not going to say a word. You know, poor Dav. I'm not going to scream, but he's off the map. So selfish. How could he do it? What are you supposed to tell a person? He's I next door on the bench. My mother did it. It took half a half a minute. So you have a good time, right? So I guarantee is same story. Change one fact. You were the one that had brother Kassa and your friend needed glasses and he told you same story. They're going to be on my bench. Bring bring them tomorrow. Same story. But here you are the one that forgot the glasses and you hear he's very angry at you. How do you defend yourself? I think within 10 seconds you have a perfect excuse. He angry. He is mamish nishkimesh. I'm going my brother's casta. I didn't see my brother's my older brother's family for a year. They come with the children. I didn't see my grandparents for three years and I have a kasa with pictures. I got to late. I had to catch a ride, be back in the morning. And he thinks my whole life is his pair of glasses. Doesn't he understand? Even the zoya says a person's a bar. We forget. I I don't want to deal with him. He's so selfish. Such a self-centered person. Huh? Sounds good. I think it sounds pretty reasonable. I may have had to we got there late. We had to run to you had to go to the picture. You know who's right? The one that wants to be right. Right. That's after for yourself. If you have and you have to have give it to and that will strategy change the change the and you'll see how easy it is to accept to understand and even if it's wrong but that's a and I'll tell you something else which I think it's a mitzvah of if this mid of to see is is important in everything. It's it's life and death in because as we know struggle, children struggle struggle with with bigness in in our world and what might save them. What's the only thing that really might save them is when the when they feel their parents believe in them. Children are very perceptive. You can't fool a child and the vibes are there. If they feel you believe in them, they're going to try. You have to realize for for us is nothing for them trying and one baby step is so difficult. It's a Yamsu and here you have the mil makes all the difference. You could have one parent that says ohm he came to he came by by by okay but he came the first time he came in a month. Is that a big he came by by a and he left right right after? Here's where it makes all the difference. For him, it was you have to see the not a long way to go. But then there's a parent that means well, but he's so far from where I want him to be. He's so far from his from his siblings. That's going to destroy the child because you're seeing the the the but does he have any reason to do more when he feels whatever he's doing is nothing because he's not like his brother. But these words to see the mil and not the is the and children also have difficulties. But if you see the little baby steps and that's creates yams for them and you appreciate that and you glorify that and you magnify that they have they have a reason to go on. They have the incentive to go on. And some parents have to hear this. I hear this some parent but this is not my family. He's just so different than my family. Listen accept that and work with that. Don't just ple him apostle child is not going anywhere as you know another important from our gamor there's a I'm going back when I was still the ba and he had a problem I knew he had a big problem and one night it was pretty you know late late at night then it was just a few of us he was there another the two were there and he was singing the niggan kafi but he wasn't just singing it he was feeling it He was painting with it. He was experiencing it. I know he had a problem. So when it emptied out, I went over to him. I said, "Listen, I feel for you. I I knew the problem." I says, "But I want to ask you a question. Do you have any other you have any good in your life?" Goes, "Of course." Well, what do you mean? I said, "You have a problem, but tell me some good you have." And Mama suddenly started the sun started to shine on his face. He said, "What do you mean? I have this, I have that, I have this, I have that, I have this, I have that." I said, "Wonderful. So do me a favor. Every so often change the niggan. Instead of always singing ki lama, start to sing a new niggan ki ki lama. Why do you give me this and that and this and that that you just enumerated? And I told him that if you do that, you're not the first person that sang the niggan that changed the niggan. There was a story where it says were crying and there was one there was one that changed the niggan to kay and that was the story of Yeshua and they saw the most horrific scene they saw in all his ugliness and as the mash points out they all rise including Rabaka. He was very sensitive to But then they went a little further and they saw even worse. They saw a a a fox coming out of and this is too much for them. And they started crying place and it says corumas you see a fox running around and you look at a bik few minutes ago just rice ka and he's laughing and I said why are you laughing? He goes why are you crying? So he said wait look at that's why I'm I'm laughing cuz I saw the nu of was the cayenne. I know now that the nva of gula is also the cayenne. And they told him, "Look at the golden of was able to take the greatest turn into an ord that mida of positivity. what he what what got him through the that he had when he was working for three years and all throughout his life he was always the one that was seeing the mil he was seeing the he was seeing the go the ghoul and the galos and then you understand we just we just learned it hopefully the mission bay it's something that it's it it defies explanation imagine imagine living in a bas mikdash and for years you live mikdash like like eaten live with Bikdash and then it's the first year there's no BD there's no how could a person go to how could a person go on living so you know you know said he saw through the layers OF AND HE SAW IS RIGHT THERE WHY SHOULDN'T WE cry why shouldn't we laugh why we should be crying he saw when they saw He saw he saw you understand then famous in in says different on how many how often they gave Misbdon once in seven years once in 70 years said if I would have been there would never be Mrs. as why? Maybe this, maybe that. It's the same Shema that he said decades earlier. It's the same that he saw the eight of our problems. But wait, look, look at the very end of life. in the end of a person has to always say that was a dictim and what was a famous story was once going and he was traveling and needed a place to stay so he went into the city anybody they have a place for me to sleep nobody imagine how broken he was must been he goes and he'll sleep in the woods but he had a candle he had a kamar and he had a chicken the bruce to wake him up and the wind blows out the candle and the animal is eaten, attacked by by his wolf and the chicken is eaten. And he kept on saying and sure enough the next morning he heard what happened. There was the army came to the city took away all the people and he would have been one of them. Think about that the he lived with he always saw the good. He always saw He always saw the the one word is you're in good hands with you don't have to worry about what's going to be. But you see now we see how real this was because the says a little later when he brings the most torturous death that a person could have and what did he do? He was saying and he was he seemed to be ecstatic. He says yes I'm waiting my whole life for this. He was able to take the most torturous mo existence a person could have and turned it into a kivos and vos. Look at the benefit of a of a look at the benefit of seeing the in every situation says to say he died from he died to think this but some people they was talking to them. The call to all the doesn't just happen. There's there's a for that. You have to understand that. Let me leave us one more. I think this is probably the the of it all because it's the end of the gor because it's not only that the the the not only on this but this me is so important to you know went through as you know and I used to wonder when I was young how does the bunch judge us there's a there's a melisha you know if you remember your yeshiva days you had a rebi a very nice soft rebi and he wrote yes instead of no you got 50% credit close enough you know half credit some reim you know din you know mark is a mark how does the ba mark us like that that that and you know overlooks things half credit or is the din so I didn't know but I once heard of he quoted the and he said an unbelievable yo I think it answered my kasha And he said a person is punished knowingly and unknowingly. So the conscious is knowingly unknowingly we understand what does knowingly mean? A person who will give himself a punishment. So set up based on a bay per where did his and sent to give but had a way of doing it. He told him a story. There was one person a fabulously wealthy person. He had everything. And there was a one person as one little animal, but he's happy. His and believe it or not, this wealthy fellow took that one animal. And David is listening. He's enraged. And he said, and David said such a rush, he deserves death. NS waited till his words penetrated and N said that was you. You were a Melik is you had everything. You had wives and everything. He had one wife has one wife also that's hears a person do something wrong. So how does judge us? You know I think the answer is he doesn't. We judge ourselves. I give a mush. Okay. Someone comes home from work one day and he's a little, you know, a tough day at work and he says something that not so nice to his wife. His wife says, you know, it's not nice. I feel very bad. You have to be understanding. I work the whole day. He might even quotas. Be understanding. You know, you're not being fair. I don't have there. Just let it out. Okay. It's a good fine. Let's see. Next week he comes home from work and his wife says something nasty. He goes, "This is my borhaba coming to my own house. I get yelled at. Is that right? You have to understand the kids were impossible today. We got to build the checks balance. So many things went wrong. I I can't deal with that idea. Please understand." He goes, "That's not the way you treat your husband. You come home from work. It's just not it's not I will not accept that." Maybe a few hours later you have to supper, but that's not right. And you have to be deaf not to hear the bas you said last week a nice thing but for her you don't do that that's and that he doesn't quote the the part of of but on this he says what does it mean is He says the way the judges us the way we judge other people. Do you have a are you that you understand people then what you do is also understood not as a suffic but you have to decide how you're going to be judged and it's so gaz in the of it because both you could say is right but what are you deciding and this is the this is the the remember the world is very imperfect the best aids that we could give is understand. People have a heart full of full of shemos. And when a person has that, when that meets in his Wow. Like to thank whoever wants to participate. We have places all over the world now. Tens of thousands are listening. Hundreds of thousands are participating. We open the new website instead of all the other five sites which in next week few minutes we have participate in sponsor or 9179155565 or email IST foreign. Amen. Almighty. Sure. That's good. I do this. We could be good.