Money Disputes - Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser Shlita

Amen. Like to welcome everyone to tonight's Russia of David. like to give a big shak to for sponsoring tonight of like to give a big girls for sponsoring tonight give one of the founding board members of to have the great sponsoring or to have the opportunity to have of worldwide throughout the year by taking part in's annual dinner which is upcoming just a few short weeks Monday August 18th by putting an ad in the journal. You can call us at 718851-8651 or email is yeshivvenet.com. Tonight we have the covered have with us once again to speak on m money disputes and cover the call on the for tonight's Russia. We have the scuttle tonight to have Rabo Bald Schlita. I cannot tell you there is in this world an organization that is makim particularly during these days. Why was the basikdish destroyed? So tell us because they didn't say explain what does it mean it wasn't the priority it wasn't number one in their lives yeah learn to you should learn Torah also but it wasn't number one it wasn't the it wasn't the thing that a person has to do every day tora raises the bar of Torah and Rabulita is the one that propels it year after year after year. Anybody that can support the organization and help the organization and get behind it and provide the resources and come to the dinner and contribute to that a person will have in their home. The of the of can be a school for whatever a person needs in life. We have a big topic this evening and I just like to make a very short introduction. Why was the Tyra? Why was the Bikdash destroyed? Because people stuck to the you owe me this and it's going to be to the penny. This is exactly what you have to give. I'm not I'm going according to the nope. Let us make a compromise. Let us try to figure it out. Let us negotiate. Let me look. Let me understand what is your financial situation. The great writes in the safer. How could it be that we got such a severe how could it be for an oven a light transgression? What was it that we only did to we didn't do we didn't do compromise. We didn't try to let the other person understand. He answers unbelievable answer because in truth we were we were deservant for we did bigus. We deserved anish for it. However, if they would have been misn if they would have let things go, if they would have made a compromise, if they would have tried to understand each other's plight. So then would have been misn would say, "Okay, you told the other guy, it's okay. You were a little softer on the den. You made a sure you made a compromise." Hashem said, "You know what? I'll make a compromise instead of going according to the den with clusel whether we deserved it or we didn't deserve Hashem said you know what I'll let it slide however since we stood al since we said I'm only going with the din soak with us it's told that the greatbi was walking in the street one day his son was coming along with him all of a sudden there was a Eid and the yeed was crying. So, uh, Reverend Tbby ran over to him. You see a yeided that's upset. You see that's a ye that's seem you have to ask him what's the matter. You have to ask, can I help you? Can I do something for you? The yeed said, I'm an Leno. I'm a very poor person. Because of my situation, I had to take a certain lo loan and I had to take it from a wealthy man. The time now came to pay up. I don't got money to pay back. So what happened? He took me to a din and in the din I came out they said I have to pay. Where am I going to get the money to pay my so I'm crying. Rabb had great ramanus. You see another yeided in trouble your heart has to be moved. You have to have ramanus. So what happened? He went together with his son and he knocked on the door of the of the wealthy person that now won the din that the oni has to pay. The woman of the house opened the door. She's the great antibi standing there. She called her husband. Why? Hey said at the door the greatest of the generation is standing there. Hurry hurry. He ran. They set up the table. They made everything beautiful. They put a whole meal out. Balabis couldn't understand why he had this excuse that the great Sadi came to his house. He waited for the Rav to start to eat some of the delicacies. But uh he said, "One minute, one minute. Uh I want to tell you something. Your coming here, your visit is worth to me a,000 gold coins. The Rob came to my house. The guttle is in my house. It's worth a thousand gold coins. The Rav was waiting for that beduk. He said, "Uh, please don't exaggerate. I know that a moer, a merchant sometimes exaggerates the uh the fee." He said, "No, no, no. My heart in my mouth. Pe shove in. It's one no 100% it's worth all of that money." The Rab said, "Well, please tell me, is my visit worth $300?" $300? Of course, it's worth $300. The Rav turned to the man, "If you mean it wholeheartedly what you just said, then I want you to know, do me a favor, give to me the of that. Give to me that he owes you $300. You know how impoverished he is. The rich man had great hano from the pikas from the wisdom of the rov. He went he gave him the they ripped it up and they left the house after the rov had eaten a little bit had took a a kibid cow from him. We see the importance an individual has to know that on all inonim you have to go easy. You have to try to understand exactly what is your job. If Hashem benched you and you have more money and the other person has less money a person should say okay I'm see it's difficult for you. I see it's a it's a rough going. There are so many days and so many things that happen from a den over a dollar, a dollar to a den over a million dollars. A couple of weeks ago here in Flatbush, I sat and different sides came into me over a couple of million dollars. Couple of million dollars. Last night, somebody came to me over a matter of I would say at most $100. The way that both sides are involved in such a den, the way that they will treat each other is the way there'll be hopefully from all of us. I'd like to bring in a few different in that I think are phenomenal. I wish we had the whole night because there's so many fascinating chuvas to apply in our daily life. Anybody going to a store, a person enters into a deal, a person give stuck, they have a job, they have an employer, they have an employee, anything paid tuition, not that everything mused. They're addicted. It's a shik or something else and they come to you and they're poor. They're a nunnak seduck. I want we to give him stalker. I'm afraid he's going to get stalker. He's going to go out to the street. He'll buy some schnaps before I have to pay for his is that what I'm here for. So Rabenu writes every individual you see an oni guy comes in dominion starts to collect. He is from He's not from hey he's not Jewish maybe but he does not you going to d him up how quick you going to d him up how quick you going to judge him here in our community there was a woman aisha a yeafro and she's collecting money on the street I went over I gave her some money somebody followed me Rav golder I want you to know that she has a big car. I said, I'm happy you told me. I would have given her money. Her gas bills are probably high for the gasoline. I would have given her a little bit more. Who's judging who? I don't care what is sitting on the street on a box collecting money. You're going to say she has a car. She doesn't have a car. Who cares? She's maza herself. It's not the derek of a of a Jewish woman to sit there on the street. A person should not harden their heart. Listen in. a person has to remove cruelty. A person should be careful what strands they have inside. As it says in the we do with the oh therefore the says the of being cruel is bitter and bad. And therefore says gives to you whoever has ramonus on the brios it's whatever it is the guy's coming and collecting whatever it is whoever does it from they say that deserves rakus that call the person that is not mand. So I say right now I'm doing pretty good. I'm in the air Torah, good air conditioning, beautiful base madish, everything is nice. Uh I don't need so much raw. How do I know? How do I know? How do I know I don't need Rahmanas? How do I know all the people that are associated with us? How do we know when the minute will be that a person will need give out the hashem? However, when a person is on others, they bought an insurance policy for the moment that Hashem will have on us and Hashem pays back. As it says in permane is a faithful employer and he pays the tashin is complete is whole is greater than we can imagine. And so says rebel yashov that a person should always remember that it is important that we give an individual the money that they need. Big Shila, we're familiar. Of course, you cannot muzzle an animal. You muzzle the animal. The animal can't eat. It sees all the crops it wants to eat and it has a muzzle. So, the question is asked, what happens if the animal has a stomach ailment, right? Has a stomach and if you let the animal eat, it's going to have a bigger problem. Right? On the other hand, what happens if you muzzle him? If you muzzle him, it's a snapsh. some kind of a tar. It's a tsar for the animals. So how do you do it? Fascinating says you bring in the vegetables that are good that are healthy. There's a certain type of a being that is good and you let them eat that. So we see from that it's not so simple that a person has to take care to bear the animals certainly an individual if a person's amazed one of the mitz of the don't do chuva so there are questions about it however regardless of all of this regardless of everything a person should not become an auror and what should they do it is also to turn away an uni without giving them anything at all. It could also be ash from comes in and after from sees a guy with his hand outstretched, but he begins to d him back and forth. He doesn't give it. Oh, maybe he's going to buy something else with it. Maybe he's going to buy that with it. Maybe he'll buy the How do I know? Am I buying everything Hashem wants me to buy with it? I don't know. I'm not 100% sure if he finishes and doesn't give him Yoshu says it could be because they'll say a person that's a mitzvah doesn't have ramonus. Another very interesting question. A person has to pay on time. A person has to pay. It depends if a person's hired at night to pay before the morning. That's before the of the tinus that starts in the morning. Before you're allowed to eat, you have to pay the person back. So there are certain people that come in the evening. What happens? Typical case, you have a babysitter. The babysitter comes and they do their work and at the end individual says, "You know what? Uh, I tell you what, I'm going to come by your house tomorrow. I don't have the cash on me. I'll do it. Even a Shila person takes a check out and writes a check. How's the person cash the check at night? Strictly according to the den, they should give the money. Doesn't matter if a person is young or person is old, whether they're dependent on this money for their livelihood or whether they're dependent on this money to help them to get through the week. So, it's a fascinating thing. If a person doesn't do it, they're on a mitzvah and also a mitzvah. It's an assay and a loasa together. Both a positive and a negative. If an individual doesn't eat matzah, it's the first night, first seder night, and they don't eat matzah, they're only oay, but not a loasa. They didn't do anything wrong. They didn't do a negative. They just didn't do the positive. But a person that doesn't pay on time, they're on a theory says the for a person who doesn't pay on time has an impact on the person's time in this world. The time that we have that we're granted all of us 120 years. However, the person that pays on time and they're meticulous. They make sure they have a worker. They pay their worker. They give them the money. They make sure that the individual is paid on the in the proper time. That individual will have added life. That's what desire says. The general idea is that a person will have to request payment. They will have to say I would like to have payment. In fact, it's a good idea if somebody is owed money or a gross or whatever every once in a while has to say that there is uh a bill. I'm not telling you have to pay right now, but there is a bill. If a person doesn't say it, so then it could lead to certain problems. However, uh if the individual says I am on immediate payment, you could pay me tomorrow. As long as they are a gavra, they're not afraid. They're not afraid that the person won't give them, they're allowed to do it, then it's okay. However, the writes in said perk that one has to be mish you have to weigh whether the employee really wants to give up their rights or the employee is like they're a they're a little bit timid and they don't really want to give up their rights but they feel that they have to. Children and young babysitters who may not want to be so bold as to ask for their money on time are not included in this. The says there's no difference concerning paying on time between a god and a cotton. The Rajba writes, "A person that withholds money from a child is considered by the Torah aanov." The same way if the person would withhold money from an adult, the shak says the name of the even if one's in a situation where they don't have to pay on time, they should still try and pay on time. Very fascinating. Shila today's world in today's world uh so many people going for kra sadikim all over the world carer and leans and uh all the beautiful places where people are going all over the world all different places and they go sadikim so So there was a person and he asked his friend please I can't go to travel kadikim I would like you to go for me I want you to be my and I'll pay you very nicely you be my you for me because I need Yeshua he said where he said I want you should go to the kev of the hana reishimai and he appointed him you're my you'll go and you'll don there and I'll pay you the decided instead to go to fell out the yard site of the homaly melik instead he's going to go to the rebel and abd over there it'll be the same thing big yeshua everyone knows normally melik the tremendous yeshua on that day you go there you go inside it's impossible it's stopped people coming from all over the world just to be by the nomly mel I went. So uh yadlim gave to me a list of people to be mispol. Okay. I took into all the different satl they gave to me as I'm walking in more and more names they're giving me and I'm holding them up. However, my hands are up here. You crowded so bad that you can't I couldn't put my hands down. Smashed. You you have to wear like protective clothing. And I'm there. I'm smashed. my masle. One of the names that I didn't balo for yet fell down to the ground. I told the guy next to me, I got to go to get that paper down at that little kit down on the ground. He said, "You're not going." I I have to go. He said, "You're not going. You go down. You're not coming back up." I said, "I got to go. I have to." He said, "Please, Reb, don't worry. have it in mind. Have the name whoever he is, you have like a general, you know, cl for everybody. You'll include him. I said, but how can I I promise I'm going to do it. Anyhow, I went down there. Sure enough, you just have to know a little what he everybody closed up on top. I was in the underworld, the and everybody's crowd. It's almost impossible. It took three big guys to come and to pry everyone. They screamed jump and I jumped up and I took my place again there. I didn't drop anything else. I was careful. But just right. So what happened? He returned. He went to the normal melik. The returned the ber found his zeug. He found this. However, when the said, "I want the money that you promised me." The said, "No, no, you didn't do your no. You didn't do your I sent you to the you went to I'm not to pay you anything." Interesting. Torah, does he owe him the money? Does he not owe him the money? Silverstein number addressed it says if he doesn't believe in the co of the po only in the great and he doesn't think that is Yeshua is coming from another place the is not to pay the however if the believes in general like the nom like all of the Great karim all over the place. The akrit all the places where they go ribnets and you know we have a number of karim here huge huge why because he does believe in those as well. So then it could be very well that the legens were po Yeshua. So the fact is that now they argue the guy didn't do the it seems to be that maybe he just wants to get out of paying the for his job ramps to be of the since the changed his even if the believes in the of there is a big difference between and but if you talk to you may not see such a great difference gross adds that sometimes there's a difference that channel that s of the Yeshua that comes to you this ber felt that his Yeshua would come through even though he got his Yeshua anyhow therefore he's not high of the pay the rea does have to pay says that even in the is not it's not guaranteed hopefully it will happen if he was saved what do I care I don't care where it was as long as I two days ago. Tremendous crowds the whole day half an hour from this base of madish. Oh adds the following. If the would initially come to him and say to the ber instead of going to Israel I'm going to go to leans I'm going to go to Ukraine I'll be on the sadikim and the ber would be masim as long as he find his zebu so then his t is only because he wants to avoid paying the and therefore he would have to pay it would seem as though that since the person is not mock cockpit and anybody would be very happy. I went uh a couple of days ago I went to Yakov. I must have carried together with me people phoning in to send a text with names. I must have carried in I would say 500 names everybody holds by sadikim no matter who. I got a guy interesting on going up to Rabeno Yakab. So a guy stopped me as soon as I came into that like the place where you first enter into the bas and he said I'm a shila shila he said uh I'm a litak okay nice to meet you I'm a lit what what do you say by I don't go to kir city what do you say what do you do over here what's the so he wanted the exact I gave him a what he could say he was afraid do do you say in the name of the saddic do you ask that sodic is a uh fascinating but sadikim sadikim is huge. Another uh interesting shila probably get it maybe once every uh once every few weeks at least about paying a shaken paying a shhatan how much to pay a who is the more than one uh one started it off he didn't do anything else other than give the name and then they followed up and other people uh read the the it was especially difficult do you have to pay more all different different shilas a mother took took her six-year-old son, six years old. He took him out of the gun. It was the end of the day. She met the mother of this six-year-old boy, the Ganes. The Ghana, the one who teaches the Mora. She's 36 years old, and she's not yet married. They began to talk. As they spoke, the Ghana told the mother she has great sar. She did not yet find her zeug. The little boy saw the teacher crying and the little boy felt so bad. It's his teacher. She cares for him. She helps him. She puts the food in front of him. She helps him with the blocks and the string and the beads and everything. He felt very bad. The little boy listened in closely to the Ganes talking to his mother. She spoke about what bothered her. The next day when he got to the gun, when he came into the kindergarten, he went over to the teacher and he said, "I want you to know I have a neighbor, six years old. I have a neighbor and the neighbor's name is Ary. He is a very nice man and he didn't meet a kala yet. He doesn't have a kala." The six-year-old said, "I think it would be a good idea if you would meet him. You might like him." Six-year-old. When he came back from the gun, the yell at Hapella decided to take matters into his own hands. So, he went over to Arya, his neighbor, and told him about the Ganesek, about his teacher. Believe it or not, Arya also told his sister about it. The sister went to the Ghanaas. Lo and behold, they set up a meeting. I don't know if they went out or was a Bash the details weren't clear on it. They went out. It didn't take too much time until they were engaged. The Shila is is the six-year-old get shakus today is it could be very good you know not a bad business has gone up the shatan is still he did his job whether he's six years old or he's 60 year old doesn't matter the deserves to get paid even if he wasn't asked to make the and he did everything on his own everybody knows A person goes to their friend's field and they improved it. They deserve the tash. A person owes money to anybody who did any type of a deal. Any shin, no matter how they were involved in order to help improve the person's life, the shin who's a little boy deserves the money. Now maybe doesn't get paid with the world famous shad gets paid but he certainly gets his fee. Holding back the fee from that the appella would be going against that what it says in that a person does have to pay. So uh we should be careful on all of these inim there areim that have helped greatly and then sometimes they weren't the ones that finished the shock. Sometimes they weren't the ones who were able to carry it through and others helped out but they deserve exactly how much they deserve. There is a formula for that. the Shakamas, the one that began, the one that was in the middle, the one that finished to close the deal. They uh they owe money. I never forget I helped them make a Everybody has to be involved in there is nobody can say I don't do I don't there are I can give you a number a list I have and you call. Everybody has to be it's a it's a time that everybody has to do whatever they can. who knows a personal thing. Ah, so I thought of a guy. I tell you the truth, there's a guy that came B madish and he had special uh special adults and he would bring them in base madish by musf and he would sit with them. Anybody that does that kind of a work anybody women's league makur services any of the play that people did sadikimos he came in. So I had a tamida a while ago and I decided make a sh this is perfect this guy as sadik the tamida as sad and I made the shak I don't know what happened but maybe I messed up I don't know exactly what happened but it didn't make it past the telephone call you know usually they go out one time maybe two this it didn't make it past the telephone call and it ended in whatever it was Okay, a year passed. I still see the guy in B madish and that young lady was still there. I called up and I said to the parents of the young lady, listen, I think I messed up. Could I give it another try? Would you mind? Right. It's like pesak sheni. You get a second chance. Will will you let Yeah, if you want. I mean, it didn't seem to go too well the the first time. I called up the guy and I told the guy, "Listen, I got to ask you. I I'm not a professional. I didn't do the right thing probably. Would you give it a try?" He said, "Okay, not much else doing right now." They went out, they got married. Just happened like that. You can never tell. You can make a shak. If I made it, believe me, you could try. You know, somebody call. Don't worry about it. Make an effort. A guy one time came in. Master Shahaya came into B madrish. He wanted to meet with me in the study. the study was off the base mush and I'm meeting with him and he began to complain and he told me about his daughter doesn't have a shak and he started to complain about it and I said to him why why are you complaining do you know that the shak could be mamish right outside reb what do you mean right outside I said right outside this door in the base medish there could be a right there he looked looked at me. He said, "Oh, we go outside. They're ready to dam. I see a yeed that came in. I know this yeed." I walked over to him and I said to him, "Is your son busy right now?" He said, "No." I said, "I have an unbelievable sh for him." I read the shak on the spot. They got married. Was a mistake or was it ashkas? Did I know what I was doing or just somebody trying just trying make you can never tell what will happen? six-year-old made a shak uh interesting we have sadikim in the Jewish community all the different various organizations too many too numerous I can't even say how many that there are they're al sadikim they go out at night they help you in different ways and and the daytime and they leave their jobs and they help people who are stranded and people locked out and people medical emergencies, all different groups, all different for everything. There is nobody like a person could go and say good every day about forget about what's wrong about yeden. Forget about we're not interested in that. We are interested in what's right about yeden. You want to talk about I guarantee you there are not enough hours in the day to talk about each of the various groups and the tremendous that they do. But for tonight we'll just single out one hat is unreal as member member walks in should stand up. Should stand up. Oh, you say mitzvah. The people that serve on and for any of the organizations, it doesn't matter which. You stand up for them. There's a member of Solah and he works for a certain job, certain employer, and he has to drive different places at different times. He has to take and transport things. However, he gets a call on the on the beeper, whatever on the uh walkie-talkie, I don't know. Uh he gets a call and they say, "Okay, uh four blocks from here. There's a emergency." He goes four blocks, stops his job, goes four blocks, picks up the guy, has to take him across town. I don't know, NYU. Has to go and take him to NYU. He goes there, he waits for him. He's afraid to leave him. no family. And finally the guy, he's okay. Everything was fine. He checks out and he brings him back home and he comes into the employer and he says, "I'm sorry I had call. I had to leave for 5 hours, but it's a mitzvah." The boss wants to know, can he potter? Can he fire the hatsah worker because he did his job during company time? They asked a rebel. Rebel answered the following. It is impossible to the driver. You cannot send a driver away. You can't do it. But listen what Rabos says. The driver is just like you and me. You and I are to be to save people. Just like he is, we are. We are obligated. The fact that he stepped up to the plate. The fact that he said lie. That fact means that he was but we all have the we all have to go on the call if not actually by support however said if the contract is over so you're not to rehire him you're not to rehire him but there is a to help out solo member in any possible way when they're certainly when they're engaged in their solo work. I want to just add a little postcript. I would say for the boss he shouldn't even if it has to be that the term is over the contract is expired. The reason is ma perhaps the company's matak in making the money because they're supporting a member of that or a member of any organization. Once they are able to support such an endeavor that will bring braha to the company that employs the person. So the individual if they potter him up I don't know if they potter him up I'm not sure what's going to happen with the future of the company but it's not so posh it's not so simple I was asked this question I happen to go uh to a city I won't mention it but I happen to go okay I can mention it Chicago happened to mention it now there is a sport we don't play sports but there is a sport that people like Baseball. Everyone at one time played baseball. Okay. Baseball. There are two that say we like very much baseball. We won't go to the whole game to but there is a place that we could stand to view the game outside the stadium. Is it mutter or is it not? We're not paying the ticket, but we have the Hano that we could see the game. Or is an individual if they go to a program or a shar or a seminar or a different kind of a program and they stand outside behind the wall, are they allowed to be there? Are they allowed to listen or is it us for them because they're having a revel said the following. What happens if the scheer was stolen and they blew it? The person is why? Because the only thing that you have is listening to the voice. Even the person didn't touch it. They didn't lift it up. Dean Gazelle. There's no den of gazelle by a coil. So therefore, we see that there is no gaze here. It would seem to be that it's mut says it's some one of those things that there is no mushas to uh the old shila I saw it brought down uh from the uh from the of the moan of that what happens an individual that hears a co no co no a nice voice the greatest voice you go to Hear the greatest voice. The greatest voice of a person has great of a person that has great amun and they sing. So what do you pay for that? I don't know. I don't know what you pay for it. However, what about an individual that smells bumim? If you smell bumim little for you have to pay whatever it is a dollar 50 cents and you have you smell it it's even I paid a little money the coil from the greatest coil from the greatest singer in the world the one who has tremendous the one that has tremendous when they sing for that individual I don't make a bra maybe the person paid a lot of money but for the little sim I could be with one little one for that I can make a the I can't make a why because it's not something it's a the coil resonates from the voice box which happens through reverberations reverberations in the voice box since there isn't any mamoshas to it. You don't have to make a bra the misho pas a person is with so we see that uh technically there might not be something wrong with it. However, the Marsham writes about different considerations on this and if the person is asked for money, perhaps they should make a rebel find finishes with the following mits. It's mut because it's like air. However, it has the ray of gazel. The rayak it has the scent of gazo. So a person should not do it. This is one of my favorite. A person is interested in buying a car, interested in buying a used car. They go to the mechanic and ask the mechanic, "Mativo car, how is this car doing?" The mechanic uh advises him and he says, "I recommend you buy it." He buys it. After a few days, Ruvane finds out that there's some serious mechanical deficiencies with the car and the car is less valuable than he paid for it. Does he have the right to collect or not? This happens. Believe me, one time I was minding my own business. Asha Balabos comes into B mad, show I know for a while, and he says, "Rev, I want to do something nice for you. I have a mata for you matas mata. We're not all miscabing car. A car. I needed a car. Didn't have a car. I have a beautiful car for you. I thought I was dreaming. I began to think this guy's coming and offering a car. Says, "Yes, it's too good to be true." He says, "I will bring the car to you in your house tonight if you'll be masked. I was waiting for the catch." What does he want in exchange for the car? I did help him with something, but doesn't equal the car. Nothing. I want to show our car. I want to be with you. I'm going to give you a car. Rabisai, I tell you that evening he pulled the car up in front of the house. I was afraid that the neighbors should see it. The car was so beautiful and so top of the linear should drive around in this kind of a car. I mean, you know, you I mean, this is a car. I had considerations. The family said, "You can't drive that car. This is not a car for you." He said, "Don't worry about it. Rabonim today could drive such a car. It's who says you have to run around in an old beat up uh whatever they call that, you know, little thing." Yeah. Who says you have to have that? Anyhow, what shall I tell you? Some people are I took the car, took it out the first day and I went I drove all the way from Flatbush to Burough Park. Before I got to Burough Park, it broke down. Broke down. Probably an inhara. Someone saw such a great car, right? I went to the mechanic, had tow it in my first uh expense. Mechanic took a look at it. Mechanic said, "Ruv, I would be MI. It's this is not the car for you." I said, "I know, but I I I took it already. I don't want to be mazo the guy." He says, "What can I say?" He gave me a discount. I paid the money. I fixed the car. The second day I took it out. No. The whole thing broke down. Middle of the road, I couldn't I had to have a couple of guys pushing the the car and I'm standing like a Anyhow, I went back to the same mechanic and he said, "I told you. I told you." I said, 'What should I do? He says, 'I have a number for you.' He went, has a little office. He pulled the number off the wall. He said, 'Call call them. They will come and take away the car. You will have no more problem and they give you a receipt for it. I thanked him. He gave me an eight to the car was gone. And that was the end of the whole car. Okay. What happened is we learn in Babakama. What does it say? There's the case of the person who's a money changer. He changes money. One of the customers came to him with a coin, a mada, and he said, "Is this a valid coin?" The money changer says, "Yes, that's a good coin." He went and he took the coin. He paid for the coin. Later he found out that the coin, Mizuyaf, is counterfeit. The coin is no good. The money changer is paid for his advice. The riff and the ram say that if the person is not an expert, the to pay is only if the individual was solely relying on the opinion of the individual of the mechanic or of the money changer. However, if he paid, if there was some money in exchange, then the person that gave the that is not proper is muy. he has to pay back the money because he gave an not to him and not to anybody. So a fascinating idea is when a person gives a uh uh person gives an uh they ask you for an should I do this should I buy this should I not buy that have to be careful we need to have a certain amount of understanding or expertise in the area in order to give an even if we are not paid and even if the person does not rely on our opinion sometimes the person needs something and the other guy will give them just a gentle encouragement. They'll go and they'll buy it and it may be not the right thing. It may be exactly the wrong thing. So, we should be careful whenever we are placed in that uh situation. Uh another shila fascinating one fascinating and I have been asked this over the years a number of times this uh particular shila music is very big today. music. It's huge music all over people and music and all types of things. It's uh all over all over. It's like an explosion. It happens to be that sometimes with the band there are certain shas there was a bellass bellassid. He hired a band to play by his son's a Belass. During the wedding, the balsima walked over to the band and said, "Rabisai, some bells inim you know." The band leader said uh they don't know these nigunim but they can play other nigunim you know general uh clearly they can just you know general they'll play the bim had great agnes this is my whatever at the end of the he argued that he doesn't have to pay they didn't play any bells in the gim in front of all the people unsh that came. They didn't play it and he said, "I don't have to pay you." They ted that you didn't uh tell us exactly what you wanted before. We didn't know. Now, the truth is people are very careful about music and others. One time an individual said, "What happened if the band played musical? It was not the type of nigunim that we want to have the nigunim. Yeah, it could be. They do play it by places. But we want nigounim according to the misra. We want nigunim that have is for the heart. Nunim that have a messy nigun that were made up by nigunim that were made up that will move a person. Not a niggan that an individual can do that kind of a dance and this kind of a dance and all kind of a dance that oh the band didn't play it. What's a din? I want you to know it's no to me. No to me very much because nigounim have a impression that is extremely deep. The noun go into a person deeper than we could ever imagine. A niggan enters a person. What they listen to the ears that remain innocent and clean are important. We have to insist a person's making a simka. Play the nonunim. Play theim. They ask me what do we play? I tell you what I told him. Play it's not like rebi you don't know it's not a I say tell you what I give you. I don't know anything but I know has a play it. The band listen to me. They played the entire began to sing it together. I don't know how many stanzas there are in but I can tell you they sang it for maybe 20 minutes. These are theim that should be played should be to should be an air of kadusha. It'll be a kala. It'll be a for the bar mitzvah. It'll be a brisma. I don't know. Wherever they play, it'll be a but play the right stuff. And there was very important if you're a litak you will appreciate this. When I was in yeshiva, we were allowed to learn different mus. There were a few one tanu samus tanuer in the back of tanu samus if you litak you know the musigan there's not much to it however fascinating the mus niggan according to the msra has notes it has notes and in the back of the safer if you can still get it, you will find that it has notes. Why? Because we're part of a messy. If you're from bells, you can get that music that they talked about in the bellser niggan. You can play exactly not improvisation, not switched up, not this, not that, but you get the stuff. It doesn't matter. A person has to know where the Messiah is all about. So you have this guy and he's very upset because they didn't play the nigim raitzita says that probably if a person hires the band they don't have to start to ask what kind of a niggan that the the bima wants. If the bima stipulates openly that he wants it it's in the rashus of the band to play that niggan. If he doesn't then they can place something that's anything that's accepted. However, if the is known that they're related or from their admir the mishp is from the admir of theim and they know that these are the nunim that they'll want to play. If they don't play the neonim they don't get the scar shi grow says since the is not the mishb of the admir however they're very connected to the and they say that the band knew that they were close to the band has to make sure that they do have nunim that are for this particular occasion but if the bima doesn't say anything and just hired them, then the Bimha's argument is not valid. Fascinating. However, if there's still time before the and they find out and they could hire another band that does know Satma or Vishnim or Stalin and the or whatever all the or even lit that come and they play the Musig in there even that if there's still time they're allowed to let the first band go and take the second band. Fascinating God the Syra Satyra we miss him every day the Satraim added that as long as they are prepared for the regular it's okay but if they didn't prepare properly they didn't practice they didn't practice so then it's a Shila what they are owed. I can only end off I shouldn't tell a personal misa and you know since we're a a close group tonight you know mainly I have relatives here tonight in one way or another I would tell you there was a they began to play a niggan lon wasn't bad niggan but it was not our miso at a would you believe that niggan was Notu not for Ben the kala got up walked over to the band and said stop play a different niggan admitting the niggan. Can you imagine a zakala ask me how I know the story? My wife at Ara stopped the band. It was so noteworthy that they took a beautiful movie, a video, however you call it, of that little thing. But I guarantee you, Rabo Sai, the little niggan, that little song that they played was today. If they would play it, who would even think? Who would even imagine? A person has to be. A person has to know we we are an am that is holy. We're an amos. We're hik every one of us is hikim that we dance to make us. The we listen to make us. It's that that sets us apart. But Abdul what makes the difference not that I can sing a niggan that sounds like the guy down the street who's on the worker for to the contractor has also on the radio. It means that there's a that my is without a question different from the other we should all be that the shilas that come up in from one end of the to the other input that we should all answer and we should all have good good peace but that we remember the underlying the fundamental what do I say the foundation try negotiate look away don't stand he's right he's wrong I'll never give in I'll never do this I'll never do that don't say it don't say it be the one to give in be the one to negotiate be the one to be a a little softer. Be the one that creates shalom. 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