Living Fully - Becoming A Person Of Consistency - Rabbi Paysach Krohn

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man who makes sure that these are all available for everybody around the world so i hope that tonight all of you that are here and all that are listening wherever you may be that we'll be able to be inspired together we've come together just a few days before and we know that these three weeks are from the saddest times of the year for claude israel we understand what sadness means this past year and a half has been so difficult for so many people throughout the world not only for the general world but especially for yidden as well with death and illness challenging so many different ways emotionally financially and socially but we just went through a shivasavatamas and it's very interesting the gomorrah and tina's base tells us that five tragedies happened on sabatamas i'm going to mention all five but we're going to talk about one of them and we're going to talk about that one that perhaps is talked about the least because we would think as we're touching the gemara that that is not the most catastrophic thing that happened but that's going to be our theme for tonight the gemara tells us that first and foremost the most terrible thing that happened on shiva sabatamas was came down from shamayim and he saw that claude israel was serving the egal and the luchas were broken some say he threw them down something he dropped them but either way we can understand that that is a terrible catastrophe that the luches were broken the second thing was botel hatomet the tomb of the corbin tumid they didn't allow us to bring the carpenter anymore which was brought in the morning and in the evening before shikiya the third thing was hufka air the walls of the city were breached and in that way eventually they were able to get into sheliam and to destroy the basal migdash so we could understand the catastrophe and the fear of what yidan felt when the walls were breached and the fourth thing was apostomus who was a general of the romans burned the sephi torah how terrible that was in the basa migdash and the fifth thing was that menasha who was a king but who was not a good jewish king and he never brought and avoided zara into kurdish kardashian so of these five things each one seems like a terrible catastrophe and it certainly was but what was botel atomic why was that so bad that claudius couldn't bring the carbon tummy in the morning and the carpentamid in the evening and the truth is that if you look through history you will find that on shivasavatamas itself terrible terrible things happened in different places in 1391 four thousand yiden were killed in toledo and spain on shivasabatamas we all know that later on all the eden had to leave spain and that was on tish above and that was the spanish inquisition in 1559 in prague the jewish quarter was burned again that was on shiva sabatamas in 1944 the kovner ghetto was liquidated that means that they sent all the hidden out of kovner and never so many many of them were killed but as we said i would like to talk about the curb intermittent and this past week in pashas pinchas if you take a look at it you will see something that is pointed out that hashem does not say about any other carbon the positive tells us that abrasive you should bring it in my in the appointed time and then the next process tells us that's referring to the summit that was the carbon talmud that was brought in the morning and in the evening why is it so special why does the aviation love that carbon atomic that he calls it my carbon my fire my aroma what's so special about carbon atomic and i believe that the answer is one word consistency and that's what i would like to talk about tonight becoming consistent when somebody does mitzvos in a consistent manner to medius he makes a connection to hashem but when somebody does miss us whenever he feels like it so he's not doing the mitzvah because hashem wants him to do it he's doing it because he feels like doing it but when you do something bitter medius constant because that's what hashem wants then you show that connection now there's a certain person who has written many many books and he's a life coach a life coach gives advice to families he gives advice to business executives and he gives advice to athletes and he once wrote something absolutely incredible and he wrote don't aim to be consistently great aim to be great at being consistent i'm going to repeat that don't aim to be consistently great if you're always trying to hit a home run those of you who know how to play baseball know that many times you're going to strike out because you always want to be great you want to hit the grand slam right you want to be great but if you're just trying to keep the ball in play and you're being consistent by just getting that base hit or getting the runner moved on you're going to be greater you're having a greater effect for the team than you will by that guy that's hitting the home runs and striking out more than half the time so don't aim to be consistently great but be but aim to be great at being consistent so i want to share with you a beautiful story and we are going to hear this name of schlemmer freifeld a few times tonight this story was told to me by perhaps one of the greatest women that lived in our generation and that was ribbits and zahava bronstein allah shelling i remember i used to see her in camp shearer all the time i had the opportunity to speak many many times at the same podium together with her she was really an incredible human being and she told me that when she was making cheva brachas for one of her children she her and her husband rob schlemmers they wanted to have rap schlemmer freifeld should come to the cheva brachas but at that time already rabbi freyfeld who was living in far rockaway was not able to get out of the house and the only way they could do it he said was if they would come to his kitchen they would come to his home and so they came to his home and that's where they had a cheva brachus one morning in rav freifeld's home and he told this story he told the story about the kotsuke rebbe the kotsukureba was once traveling in his area and he went to hear the children who were learning parshas voracious in the heider now at the end of parsha's voracious if you look it up and veracious hey possible that's where it tells us who lived how long they lived and they died and it just happened to be that's where the class was up to so the kotsuki came in and he said to one of the boys new zealand where are you up to so of course we know that in many years they always learn hummus with a tune with a negan so the little boy said autumn or the monkey left and it says how many years nine hundred and seventy nine hundred and thirty volume almost an asghar starburn and then the next plastic by richard simpson shay said your left and it says how many years he lived and then left it says how many years value almost gets starving and the koski rebels said to the little boy isaiah zuckman in the passage that's not the right way to say the bossic and even the rebbe was looking at him what do you mean the kid tight properly he said names so the kid little boy little boy said it again with the same she said your laptop how many years it says and then almost gets darwin and the koski said name that's not how you say the prosec and the review was surprised i mean the kids said it perfect so the koski said icho desogen i'll tell you how to say the prosec and he said like this by said and you know what the lesson what the katsuka was saying and listen how our freifeld types just a fabulous tai chi and apostate that we all know we all say in halo v the simple meaning is lawyer almost i will not die but rather i will live asap and i will tell over the glories of hashem the way rafael titus the pasik ki has many different meanings lawyer almost i will not live a life of death key while i am alive there are many people that live lives of death while they're alive they're slaughtered they're not levitic that's what the kosko was saying he accomplished every one of us was meant to accomplish something in this world every person comes to this world with a tough kid as a matter of fact i may have told you this once that somebody once told me on my birthday which happens to be too bishop this person told me something that was so invigorating i could not get over it and it really every single one of you from eight to zakheim every one of you every one of you is affected by this comment that i'm gonna tell you but what that person told me on my birthday the day you were born that was the day hashem decided the world can no longer exist without you think about that every one of you the day that you were born that was the day that hashem decided the world can no longer exist without you that means hashem brought you to this world to do something we have somebody sitting here tonight alfred khan his life goal is to make sure that everybody has life insurance that's his goal in life and he's sitting in the back you could talk to him he doesn't sell insurance but he gives advice about that he came to this world to save our modest it's unbelievable how many millions of dollars he has saved people never when a tragedy strikes but because that they had insurance so this person it lives by and you have to do it on a daily basis that's what consistency is all about now i want to show you something an amazing amazing gemara this is a gemara that every one of us would love to know the answer the gemara is in megillah of zayanam bays and kofres 28 different amaroyam were asked the same question and we would love to know the answer you know what the question was how did you live long now every one of them lived long and we all want to live long so the tell me them ask their rebbies how did you do it what was the secret so the gemara tells us 28 different answers now if we're sitting here tonight in brooklyn and eager shira toyota we want to live long what are you going to do i'm going to figure out which of the 28 should you do how do you choose why is the gemara telling us this and now watch we're going to see something so amazing first i'm going to tell you what some of them said and then i'm going to show you the common denominator and you could go crazy it'll change your life watch this the yesterday i never made a shortcut from the show if i wanted to go from avenue j to avenue k i didn't walk through the boston ashore to get through i walked around the block i never made a shortcut through the show another one said rap prada said like hid money no one ever came to show before i did i was always the first one in jewel always every day and then another one said loki nisi shame i never called my friend a negative nickname now if somebody's name is yosef and you call them yossi you know that's not a negative nickname but we know that there can be nicknames you know that uh aren't very negative i mean i'm just happy to tell you something about yosef which has nothing to do with the talk but i could never forget it because my middle name is yosef and i was once sitting in a hotel in eritseal and this bathroom came over to me and he asked me he said you know what's your name so i said pesach you're safe he said you know what yosef stands for i said no he says you vet a special person now you never knew that jasef stands for that right but anyway but that's not a negative nickname but that's what this one di almost said and the other one said i never got angry in my home so what are you supposed to do with these 28 answers but watch this you know what every one of them said everyone would when they asked a question each one started out by saying all my days in other words there was a consistency all my days i never made a shortcut through shul all my days i was the first one in shore me oh my all my days i never called anybody by a derogatory name all my days me oh my i never got angry at my home and my show says we know that certain fathers have to lay down the rules in the home and sometimes you have to be a bit strict but never never with anger now listen to what to say for hasidim says you could look it up it's amazing simon ratiod if you see a talmud that lives long dala you should know he added something to his life that he did that his friends didn't do shayna not those things that they lived long not one of them is written in the torah but not one of those things is in the territory it doesn't say that you can make a shortcut through it doesn't say nature you got to be the first one to come to shul doesn't say natori can't call somebody a derogatory name but every one of them said miyomai now watch this but the hamikdava denative and we're going to talk about him later as well you know what that says at the end by departure of sithis bhamir tezwa malef he writes every one of us serves hashem in a different way media shall come and they adam shawn everybody serves hashem differently some do it in torah and even in terrorists some like ions some like bacchias and some do love it in trilla and some do said everybody serves hashem in different ways and that's wonderful and even in mitzvahs some do shabbos some dude everybody has different things but watch what he brings to your xiaomi kala mitzvah anybody who does one mitzvah and he keeps it up may tivoli he gets good and he lives long days when it's consistent he undertakes to do something and he never ever misses it in my humble opinion that's why ralph scheinberg lived over a hundred years you know why he was macabre on himself to do something that nobody else did he won many many pairs of citizens i don't know how many you wore 50 60 70. that's not the point if there's no way that it was at the riser because if it wasn't the right side of islam allah would have done it ramosa would have done it ravalayasha would have done it so he did something that his friends didn't do but he did it me oh my that's what the kumar is saying by maharaja so tonight before you go to sleep you got to think about what can i do from tonight's year at eagle to a torah i'm going to undertake something it doesn't have to be a derisive samia taiva but from now on me oh my all my days we need this hussem covet is not over we know there's so many problems in the world we all want to live long i'll give you some examples i'll give you some examples what different people can undertake for example from now on let somebody can make your capola i will never ever bench unless i mention a sitter if i don't have a city i'm not going to bench i'll wait till i get to sit and i'm going to bench i will not sit down to eat until i have a city that i know that i'll be able to bench rough shack always used to say and if you take a look at it it says the school of panosa is to say brickham wasn't carefully and i'm not going to test anybody here on a la mercha but you know very well that when you're saying alameda you're skipping three or four words and when you're benching about there especially on chapels which would say i mean it's a joke right so you got to make up it doesn't seem to tell you got a bench and a sitter but this is a typical thing here's the second thing standing in one place when you say ashiyotsa i don't have to tell you how many people are sick today i have somebody that is to me like a brother in south africa his name is david aranowitz i love him like a brother he has a swarm store in south africa the main swarm stone in south africa if you look in all the arts school books you'll see the cuddle book shop in south africa him and his wife last week somebody came into the store and had a terrible case of covert everyone in the store got covered he ended up in the hospital she was in icu she just came home before shabbas she rather just came home before shabbas and she still needs zero for slimer where do we thank hashem that we're breathing i don't see anybody here in a wheelchair i don't see anybody here on a run on a ventilator a respirator when do we thank hashem when you say ashiyatsa you know what you can make up from now on from tonight on and i would never ever ever ask you to do anything that i don't do myself stand in one place when you say ashy outside and think about the world how does it take nine seconds colon your lungs your kidneys your heart your digestive system the blood the circulation system everything when do we thank hashem for all this when we say ashiyotsa it's kadai stand in one place now it's interesting i've been talking about this for a while and a lady once called me she said rabbi cronin you're right because don't we say ef you have salam i never thought about that you have shalom to stand in front of you so maybe that's something that we can undertake miyami it doesn't say that terry got to stand in one place where you say ashley yotar but that's a way to thank hashem for your life and for your breathing and for your health that's me oh my here's another thing start saying broca's out loud so other people could say oh man there's a whole story arab motion once gave advice to somebody who needed an operation and he told his wife tell your husband you should be makable to say broca's out loud some people should say amen why you were thinking rama says what he said on main is brigamatri in 91 alex the word malach 91 he said every time you get somebody to say on main or you say i mean create some and the malach will protect you and that husband tucker had an operation and he lived many years afterwards from now on doesn't say in the torah you got to say brah so cloud let's be like those days they all undertook something beyond my now one was it the raiser that's what i said but it was immediate i'm sure you could come up with other medicine you have to do the ones that i said but think about it get your family to do something special get your child your grandchild your spouse anyone start doing something special every day that's the consistency that's the carbon dominant and we're going to talk later about doing every single day but that's the consistency that we're talking about now i want to tell you about two wonderful things that every one of us can do on a consistent basis one of the great organizations and we have so many great organizations in claudia's role today of course eager sheridan eagle shooter toyota's right up there with all of them all the great ones one of the greatest organizations in claude israel is torahanytime.com millions without exaggeration millions of hours of learning are done all over the world by the turret anytime dot com people shiman ko yakov and his brother reuben they started many years ago and i'm so proud to say i was right in there right in the beginning and everybody knows that anybody who gives a share you always hear my voice before and after because i was right there right in the beginning i trusted them i told them you got a great thing going many people didn't want to believe them but today all over the world now they have something that's called daily dose and they started it oh maybe about a year ago i'd have hundreds of thousands of people that are listening now i'm gonna give you a telephone number you could write it down you put it in your contacts and every day you will get a burst of information in less than two minutes and then at the end they summarize it with one sentence and they put it to music and you get a burst of inspiration from one of the speakers around the world it's fabulous the number is 929-355-4268 again 929-355-4268 and you put it on your contacts and you whatsapp them just write add me and every day you're going to get it right daily me oh my every day you listen to it wherever you are in the world you have a phone you have whatsapp you'll be able to get daily dose and you can email them daily dose email torahanytime.com dailydose email torahanytime.com you know why this is good not only because it inspires you but it's every day it's consistency that's what we have to undo that terrible catastrophe of the carbon tubing no longer here we have to become people of temedius we have to become people of consistency and we do that hopefully that hashem will bring us back to on big dash and then allow us to bring the carpenter morning and evening here's another organization if you never heard of this you will not believe what i'm about to tell you it's called dailygiving.org now this was started by a doctor that i know in new rochelle he's a pain specialist dr jonathan donet and he called me up and he called three other upon him and he said he has an idea wouldn't it be great if we could get people just to donate one dollar a day i said how are you going to get people to donate one dollar a day he said look not everybody has the opportunity to give stalker every single day isn't it a govaldika mediterra to be consistent and give stalker every single day men and women and children if they can so i said so what are you gonna do he says i'm gonna start a website it's called dailygiving.org and i want you and three other up on him to judge i'm gonna present to you 80 organizations and you four pick out 40 of them and these 40 organizations as many people as we get they will get every 40 days because it's only going to be 40 organizations and i'll start over again we're going to give them as many people as signed up i said so what are you planning he said i'm planning to get a hundred thousand people to sign up i said jonathan you know you're a nice guy but you're out of your mind where are you gonna get a hundred thousand people to sign up so go on daily giving.org you'll see today alone they gave out six thousand and seven hundred dollars to the organization they've given it out to 40 organizations after 40 days it starts again now they just added a few more organizations because the whole world is calling everybody wants to be on it they don't do gifts to your shivers or basiaco's or schools it's organizations like hask and mcdonald and ursa maya tora anytime.com these type of world asked high lifeline these type of world organizations go on dailygiving.org sign up it'll cost you what 365 a year maybe a little bit more because of the 376 a year but all these organizations are getting money every day from your soccer and every day in the evening you'll get an email that says your dollar went to this and this organization and even if nobody gives another penny they have so many people there's six thousand seven hundred people that signed up that in the next year they're gonna give out two million dollars of stalker even if it stops today and this is started january 1 2019 unbelievable one guy had this idea everybody thought he's crazy how could he how's he gonna possibly do this but it's being done and the myla of it is consistency to medius now i want to tell you a great story we mentioned before rap schlemmer freifeld loyola so there's a wonderful wonderful safer that was written in english it's called in search of greatness it was written by abyakov reiman and he took the stories and the shmuzan of rabbi freifeld and he wrote them up in a very very good way very beautiful way he's a great writer and in there he tells a story the story is on page 125 and 126. rafrifeld once went to visit the khasanesh this had to be in the early 1950s was nifty in the 50s and rafael told over in the shmooze that he was so intimidated to be in the presence of the god ladder he could not open his mouth to speak he couldn't talk he was in front of the god ladder world but he said that spoke to me and listen what the hazaris told him the khazanes told them i want you to know that many godolam of previous generations were not geniuses many godzilla of previous generations were not geniuses now three names were mentioned now i have read these two pages at least ten times and i called rabbi ryman to find out these three names of the derelict that i'm about to give you i still don't know neither does rabbi ryman were these three that niche pointed out over these three that were examples that rabbi freifeld gave but either way they're both certainly reliable these were not geniuses but they became good had their the first one was enough totally too you heard the berlin that we mentioned before the second one was the kovner rover a beautiful haunted spectre and the third one was the i mean could you imagine the question was not genius but freifeld said they each had four d's and if you have a pen and paper write these four d's down because this these four these are the key to success and the key to consistency before these are desire dedication drive and determination i'll repeat it again desire dedication drive and determination if you have those four you will be successful in anything that you do especially if you do it every day that's consistency desire dedication drive and determination and i'll tell you something amazing every one of us in order to be successful has to have a goal you have to have goals in life you want to finish a massage that's great you have to have a goal and i'm going to show you how to achieve the goal and how to plan the goal you want to finish shasta that's great you want to learn tanakh you want to learn you want to have a state of mission anything you want to do you have to have a goal you have to have goals in life and i'll tell you something that i love how the habits learned a lesson a life lesson from these took him you could go crazy because you and i would learn these took them a hundred times and we would never ever figure out what there is to learn from them and yet you'll see what the khabib time learned from this passage the possibility is a beret she should base pasta in and it says like this artichon went out to go to the land of canaan vallavoyu arts and he came with his family to kanaan so big deal why is the terror telling us this they went out to go to kanaan and they came to kanaan that's a whole passage what is the telling us every word every ice in the terrorist khashogg let's look at the previous parasha and let's look of his father avraham avina's father and he took and he took light his grandson and he took sora his daughter-in-law and the passage tells us them he went out from our cousin they were going to go to canaan and what happened then they stopped hey what happened they were supposed to go from brooklyn to lakewood they ended up in staten island now there's nothing wrong with staten island but if you meant to go to lakewood what are you doing in staten island that's exactly what happened avraham of you know meant to go to canaan and he got to kanaan meant to go to canaan and he ended up in kharan take a look at it we have to be like avraham avinu we have a goal we got to get there and if you're kabul on yourself to go to canaan awesome you got to get there you don't change your way earlier show up there to remain in the middle you have a goal you want to finish miss after marcus you don't end up with that fjord i remember i still remember when rav guzman gave a hespit afghustin gave a husband on one of the russia shivers of uh bessa talmud and never he was crying he was crying nobody finishes masektes they learn 10 15 blood and who's learning the smallest actors who's finishing with us you have to have a goal and i've once saw a great line a goal is a dream with a deadline you have to have a deadline you make up your mind you're going to learn more marcus let's say from now to rosh hashanah so how do you do it i'll tell you how to do it you write down your goals you write down dates times and amounts and you keep to that husband i'm going to finish house you're not going to finish us you got to have a goal you have to have a plan and i'll give you an example a small example a little bit embarrassing to talk about it but i'm going to talk about it anyway because i want to show you how i believe you could accomplish every goal that you set out to do some of you may know that last year i wrote a haggadah it came out right before covet and broke hashem was fine right after that came out of gaddafi's lottowitz from moscow said to me okay you got to get started with something else i mean they're almost like slave drivers they want to get you going okay listen that's how you get things done right so i said well what do you think we should do he said why don't you write on the yeoman the roy and let's get it ready for next year i said what are you talking about we're in june this was in june of last year and he says yeah i'm telling you you'll be able to do it just like you did the haggadah you'll do something and i love the idea so i sat down i figured out how am i going to do it how am i going to do it so the answer is you plan out a book now most of the books that i've written have usually about 100 stories so if you plan we're not going to get 100 stories right but if you divide the year into 12 months so then all of a sudden it's not 100 stories in the month of june i had to get eight stories right but eight stories in the month of june means every week all you gotta get is two right two times four you got eight so to get two stories a week it's not the end of the world right so i made a chart here's the chart right here in june by the end of tune i gotta finish eight by the end of july i gotta have 16. by the end of august i have to have 24. but i didn't go crazy because every week i just had to get two if you think about how am i gonna get 100 it's never going to happen and you know something i gave it in and the book is bears hashem my grandson helped me we did the index we just finished it and it's going to it's called yum and the rhyme with the market and it's going to be out at the end of august and time for l and everybody's going to be able to get it but it only happened with seattle deschmeyer there's no question but with a planned out goal you have to write out your goals and map it out and if you do that you can accomplish anything as long as you have a plan i once saw a great great vote don't watch the clock just do what it does keep going it's a great expression don't watch the clock just do what it does keep going and if you do it in a consistent basis you're going to be able to accomplish everything that you want now i want to show you something we're going to see greatness the safer ah writes like this again about consistency take a look at it based on um a person has to be so careful yes high of from tonight on if you still can do a husset for somebody i'm not saying a husband to a wife a wife or a husband that you got to do if you know what's good for you i'm talking about out of the house you know somebody sitting if you can't get there call them if they're not allowing people in because of covet call them you know a grandmother that's sitting alone an older person that's alone we all know people like that call them i can tell you what i did today i know somebody never lost their job i called the person it was a few weeks ago i just didn't have the heart to call when they lost the job right away i just called them and i said i know you lost your job it's got to be so hard but you're such a wonderful person and you're so capable in your field i have no doubt in my mind that soon sooner than later you're going to get another job and it's going to be fitting for what you are because everybody knows that you're talented and this person really is talented i don't know what happened in that school it's not my business but the person who wrote me a text i just read it on the way back on the way here and she said i can't thank you enough that you cared to make that call that you care just to give me the physic when i need it so much we all know people who need pick up the phone you can do a chassette every day that's what the saying every day every day you got to do a favor every day you have to learn something so i want to tell you something i want to tell you about two great people 13 years ago for the first time i was in australia i was never in australia before and i was brought in there to speak a few times in different communities different schools and schools and all and the person that i stayed by was a fellow by the name of izzy herzog very wealthy man tremendous balstaka a person who learned and supports the kaila rabbi wurzburg as kylo in melbourne australia and he came to learn every day very very special person my wife and i we were there for a couple of days and then i came back and we remained friendly he passed away and this past thursday night was his your time now everybody knew that i was very friendly with him so they asked me if i would make a video about him now of course i knew something about him but i didn't know so much enough to make a video so i called a few different people in melbourne to find out about him so i want to tell you three things that struck me so much especially since we're talking about now that the time says that you have to do a chassette every day let me tell you three things that izzy herzog did the first thing that he did as i said he was a wealthy man every time he went shopping before yandere with his children he would take some of the poor kids in the neighborhood and he would buy them suits and shirts and ties and jackets and hats isn't that something that we could do don't we all know kids in our neighborhoods that never they could be from broken families and either the father or the mother whoever they're living with can't afford to give them what you could give to your children i know somebody who every single time that he goes on vacation with his children he takes one extra child a child from one of the kids classmates who will never be able to afford to go to orlando or to the poconos or wherever they're going and he takes them along what an unbelievable that is and what an unbelievable question is for those children who cannot afford whose parents cannot afford a vacation we could all do that we just don't think about it izzy herzog thought about it here's the second thing a man in who i spoke to in melbourne told me that when he was 45 he was married with children his father passed away and he was very close to his father he was so broken because he was very close to his father he said during the shiva izzy herzog came to his house and he said to him he took him on the side he said i know that most people feel that when you're helping your yosem or yosemite usually a child but i know adults also feel like a yosem or yosema when they lose a parent especially if they're close to them he said to the person who told it to me he said from now on i'll be your father anytime you want to call anytime you want to talk about something call me don't we know lonely people who could use our listening ear what a beautiful thing but the nicest thing of all that i heard about him was absolutely incredible there was a poor boy who died in the same troll that izzy david every morning a 10 year old boy and he never got spending money from his parents his parents couldn't afford it so izzy herzl called him over one day he said listen i want to have arrangement with you i'm gonna put one or two dollars under my tallest bag on my table and whenever you come to shore nobody has to see just pick up my towels bag and take the two dollars it'll always be there for you every single day not once did izzy ever take out money from his pocket to give it to the kid that would have been embarrassing so don't we all know kids that need money and the kid would come in pick up the tallest when nobody was looking before darling after diving during down whatever but he had his spending money what a beautiful thing and today there are many many kids out there that cannot afford what your kids can afford include them that's part of it now this past year we know there were many many great people that passed away and one of the greatest people that passed away was raptovet feinstein all of us wanted this host to know him i had this host to know him i can't say i knew him well but many many times i had bristol and first year shalom and he was the sondik and he was always the most humble the most special person so after he passed away by the shlaishim my wife is the principal and shabbat high school in the hebrew principle in sha'a kai skull and queens and they asked me to come to speak to the girls on the slayshem of rabdavid so again you cannot speak about a person unless you know him very well unless you do the research and so i want to tell you three stories about rap david feinstein and then we'll see what it is and we'll see what caring is all about the first story i can't get over and i printed it in this book that's coming out now it was on rosh hashanah it was the middle of laning and there was a guy in tracy shalayam he noticed that his wife walked in with their baby and she was coming to hear that kias but now she had to take care of her baby so she motioned to her husband he came and she said i've got to take care of the baby i need a private place is there any private place that i could go he said the only place i know is it up david feinstein's office let me see if i can get the key for you and he goes over to rob dover he says my wife needs to office she has to take care of the baby can we borrow the key i'll bring it right back so that's it of course and he takes out the key and he gives it to the young man and the wife goes into the office and he returns the key right after laning comes to haftara but he was the mockery he was the one who called out tears from true kia so they're standing at the beam of the whole island is waiting and abductor feinstein says to the baltic air wait a minute just wait he's wondering what are we waiting for we just said the sukkam now i have to say that sukkam and then blow shafa abdullah says wait and he's looking around finally he sees the guy in the back that young fellow calls him up the fellow's like wondering what does rock david want from him before schaefer comes over with him quietly and rabdavit says is your wife finished in the office and he said yeah he said okay now we could blow shayta imagine that rob david feinstein the godward dirk he's got 250 people interested in lion rose gate them on that woman that woman with the baby if she doesn't hit kia schaefer which are going to get gear straight for the rest of the day in the afternoon that's godless that's what toyota is all about here's the second story the david meyer of 10 o'clock and transfers lime at night it's a minute to ten two minutes to ten and a guy walks in obama bus walks in and he goes over to rashid and he says rashiva can i ask you have a very difficult shiloh to ask can i ask it after my address says yeah for sure then rap david looks at his clock and he says you know it's one minute before 10. so why don't you ask begin to ask me the shyla the guy surprised because he can't ask the whole child he said it's a very difficult complicated shyla but he starts asking the shia and then as soon as he's talking somebody bangs down the table of home so they have to stop and everybody drive them i've including the bala boss and rob david afterwards the fellow comes over throughout dirty secondary yes shield he says yeah of course and he repeats everything he repeated before and he asked him to shiloh abdullah thinks for a moment and then he gives him the answer and the guy is so happy and as he's about to leave he says rashford can i ask you a question if you don't mind he said yeah for sure he said rashiva when i told you that it was a complicated cyber you knew that in one minute i couldn't possibly ask you to hold shyla why did you ask me to ask you the shaila you know i couldn't finish it listen to what he said he said as soon as you said that it was a complicated i knew i would need a certain siata the shamaya to give you the right answer now i knew that in shamanism i was going to dive and attach that you're going to give me dust and we're asking hashem to give us their so i wanted to know at least the topic of what the question was about so i could doubt it properly that hashem should give me the proper daya that i should be able to give the right answer that's it i guarantee you by that time rav david feinstein had probably answered 20 000 childhoods in his life but this man said it's complicated oh if it's complicated wait a second so i have to darvan special that i should be able to give the right daya do you know and one of the things that i wrote in this book your arts new raw you know what palm once told a friend of mine he said every day when i say hosham no and i clap your arsenal you know what i feel bad that maybe i didn't give the right advice to so many people so many people came to ask me advice how many times do people come to ask your advice doesn't have to be a big thing even a small thing did you think about it did you just answer off the cuff or show them you were over your arts noodle who thinks like that rough palm things like that but david feinstein thinks like that we have to learn to think like that you can't just give an answer just shoot it out like that you have to you know the person came to ask your question it's obviously something that's bothering them it's on their mind and here's the greatest one the greatest of rubbed over that i know there's a fellow who prints a paper here in brooklyn it's called jewish views his name is arie hirsch i think the paper is free it's like one of these family newspapers and every once in a while he will take 50 public figures and i'll ask them the same question it's always an interesting question and then after a few weeks he gets all the answers together and he prints it and everybody can see the various answers that they're printing so three years ago the guy called me up and he said to me robert cronin i'd like to ask you a question i'm asking 49 other people besides you i said okay what's the question he said if you could invite any three people from other marisha until today if you could invite any three people to your house for dinner for supper which three people would you invite think about that anybody got any answers by mexico what do you say who would you invite david malek right that's great oh rob david feinstein oh that's a great answer that's a great nobody ever gave me that answer that's terrific i thought you were going to take david that was one of the people that i said i said mella you know a lot of women call out sarah schneider rachel i'm sorry i'll tell you i'll tell you something it was heartbreaking i spoke recently for i must have been about 400 i'm honest there's a great organization called somehow so i mentioned this question so i said to the women who would you invite one lady said something it broke my heart she said eoif i said nobody ever told me that she said he went through so much soros i just want to know how he survived it i'm telling you now wanna said that i'm telling you i was so moved by that so the first one that i said was the second one was rashi to me rashi i mean i always feel that he's the most compassionate caring person and he knew all the rashes he wrote them right so he knew shah sinutanach anything you want to know just call rashi he knew it all right so he was the second one the third one was israel together with the government's heim in the 20s and 30s said those three a few weeks later i rehearsed the editor calls me up he says robert chrome don't forget to get the paper this week all the answers are there it is right i have to ask him i said who gave you the best answer tell me i don't want to wait till i see it in paper tell me who gave you the best answer and i'm waiting for him to tell me you know that i did right he says rep david feinstein i said get out of here you got to be crazy you asked i'm double feisting this question he said yeah i was walking in the lower east side i saw him outside your shivers i'm figuring i'll ask him i wouldn't have gone in to ask him but i asked him i said what did he say listen to what he said that he asked of it which three people would you invite you know what he said three poor people could you imagine that 49 people including me oh we're thinking about ourselves imagine if i had russia in my house boy i'd call the attack i'd call army rhino commercial get the photographers right get the videographers me and dublin right 49 people are thinking about themselves if david feinstein is thinking who could i invite that i'll do something for him that's what it's all about that's how you become a malheset when you're not thinking about yourself you're thinking about others so let's review very quickly what we said and we'll end with a fabulous story let's remember butter atomic we came tonight to talk about consistency we want abrasion to bring us back to the base of middash and allow us to bring the curve into mid we have to be consistent how do we become consistent by being great at being consistent not consistently trying to be great being great at being consistent let's remember all those amaryam that lived longer than they all said me oh my and not one of them did anything that was at the right side tonight before you go to sleep think about it what could you undertake that you will do me am i let's remember what the hazaris told rabbi fry felt that many of the previous generations they were not geniuses but they got heart of it they worked hard and rabbi fryfeld told us about the four d's desire dedication drive and determination let's remember what the told us avraham aveeno went to go to kanaan and he got there he went to go to lakewood and he got to lake where he didn't end up in staten island and let's remember what the tells us and say day got to be foreign with the khassad every day got to be consistent with learning something those stories of izzy herzog how we gave that boy under the talos gave him two dollars two three dollars every day spending money took kids with him to buy clothes and he told that fellow he'll be his father and abdullah feinstein how we waited for that woman to be ready so they'll be able to hit kia schaefer and how we would invite the three poor people i just want to end with this story that moves me greatly it moves me for many many reasons because it has to do with a great yield that many many of us knew rabbi moshe he was the president of agus israel for many many years a fabulous asking and he learned in israel he was a classmate of my father of shalom and every time i would see him and he knew that my father died young he would always ask me how i was doing and he asked me about my mother it was very special but in may of 1998 he was very sick and he was dying and the dinner the 76 dinner was going to be on a sunday night and he knew as sick as he was that that was going to be the last speech that he gave that he would ever give and he kept on asking the doctors if the doctors think that he's going to make it to that sunday night and they all assured him that he would make it so the week before he started writing the speech now at that time his handwriting was no longer smooth was very shaky and never he passed away the morning of the dinner and he didn't make it now at the schloshen i was asked to speak in rabbi reisman shaw here in brooklyn to give sort of a hespit and a memorial i'm rabbi shara now once again of course i called his son shimshi i was very close to him and shimshi was traveling all over the country giving joshua's about his father so he said to me i want you to give the final drasha that he was going to give i said me i mean that's for you the son to give he said no i have so much to talk about and he liked you he always asked you about your father he was with your father in israel let me give you the last speech and he faxed me the handwriting on the paper the shaky handwriting of rabbi shara now listen to what the final speech of rabbi sharon was going to be and he knew this was his last speech to claudius trial and let's think how this could affect all of us and how this will tie this whole speech together the posix says you test prosecute base claudius is standing around hasinai you should surround set boundaries around the mountain lamar tell everybody the pasik tells us hashem says to maisha he shall rule him be careful about going up on the mountain anybody who touches the mountain must you must he's going to die har cena is so holy get everybody around the mountain but don't anybody dare touch that mountain because that mountain is so holy isaiah state and bossic rabbi sharon said the kotsuka rebel taitch dis passing but derek drew in a totally different way now of course it's bedarrow drush but listen to the brilliance of the katsuka rebel who we started with in the hater the kotsuku said many times many of us start a goal we start a project and after a while we get burnt out or we figured you know we're tired we're old let somebody else continue we're going to stop we're not going to continue zuck the helicopter listen what the posix is telling us be careful allah when you go up the mountain you want to start a goal you want to start a project and you only touch it you only start it but you don't finish you don't have that consistency you stopped in the middle you weren't like of rum you didn't go from one place to the other way you were going to get to he be careful when you start a project and you don't finish it somebody who just touches i don't want to say the rest that's not what life is all about and these are the final words that rabbi shara wrote if he was ready to climb the mountain altium and elohim stop kimber moored don't be like those that are satisfied with a little bit ella la la smiler milo go to the top be consistent go to the top of the mountain and reach it that's what it's all about and that's what we have to do in these three weeks we have to undo that lack of to medius that clause israel never lost on shiva thomas we have to start being consistent we have to make goals and we have to follow the goals with a plan and if you follow the goals then you'll reach the top of the mountain that's really what we're supposed to do davis should help that we should be able to go to your shelian which is the top of the mountain and be able to see the binyan base amigdas and be able to see the carbon tumid twice a day thank you for inviting me and thank you for listening [Applause] shame agent should retire mrs boston like he'll be yesterday by chrome for inspiring joshua another way to be consistent is to be consistently support and sponsorship and have a category to rob him call irrigation retire at one or 718-851-8651 ist at yeshivanet.com to have this great host of our bosses toyota robin back to lukas chaka the responses of tonight's share mr 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