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Honoring Parents During Their Lifetime And Thereafter - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

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lucuma varnish a mission on behalf of the ignorant a like welcome Natasha oh I bought a share my news mom heidi shell with a rapper gonna be a coast especially to welcome everybody who Evan didn't participate at the dinner you can still participate to helping ensure Tyra today she has intimacy the danger of crying myzel an issuance of liver Bianca Ferrari a better motor ats-v the author was before Shabbos focus of also Lynch master father were our grown-ups miss Rita Javed Burki notices are now that she has a very important topic of keyboard of the aim but high off of alchemy so say her a special Ethan welcome welcome back it's good to be back attacker just heard an interesting a few shyness recently someone passed away he left no sons it was just daughters so what'd you do about the Kaddish should you the a them say the Kaddish should be a knuckle to the highest summon there's a work to hire someone and another question which people often ask if there are too few of him and one ask edema but every like the musti's their installation and every single day he has Kadima to the omelet the other person that's been dominant for a few wit months already will not have the omelet are you supposed to be my factor and give up the homage for someone else that wants it there's no doubt about it Rubin has Kadima Shirley Bhima vada and given to Shimon and I think as we'll see there are a host of questions but I think the real point that we have to clarify is how does it work when a son does things the screws for the father whether it's the damage the armor saying the Kaddish learning giving sadaqa we know that there are no free rides in Rockne's and basically how your loss ice among local acaba scar how does it work that a son could generates custom a son or a daughter could generate custom preparing that's no longer alive and as we'll see this is not just health asylum-seeker this is a sukhiya a beautiful sevilla the Gemara this rishonim there are pi skin but i think the main point is to understand how it works we should realize that there's going to be a special message for us as parents assess children but the sight of the sodium as we see is the Hiram solution are non-transferable well higher I can't do a mitzvah and sell it to someone else so how does it work that a son says Kaddish or learns I give sadaqa and it works for the father custom you have to earn your own you can't give it to someone else ah you'll say wait a minute but there is such a concept is the concept be a sovereign foolin the Asaka learns this foolin gives money and that helps for this foolin so you see that's custom are transferable in fact this is in the beginning of race may involve any idea the concept a circus a woman is in shock Inara but the truth is it's just if anything it's just the opposite because the way you suckers woolen works is the soft arm is able to learn to go to this foolin this ruling gives money and gives him an openness NFS and the source of these suckers because he created this learning but there's no free rides in Rockne's and the biggest rally is the same stuff and Arab says let's see a person learnt for a year and now he wants to sell disgust to this foolin in other words he learned for a year on his own now he leaves money desperately to zulan I'll give you half of my learning of top shinai in tests something muhabba doesn't work you can't give a mitzvah that you did are yourself as well how does it work again because by these new school and supporting these sucker and giving him a new cousin FS he enables him to learn so he's not getting a free ride he's not selling this was he's earning disclose but to her buddy sorry the question is how does it work in all of these in your name then a song to do something a son or daughter and that goes over to the parents so the embassies I want to be marked in when I say son its lobbed Africa son its daughter when I say far that's loved after father its mother but we definitely find this concept of school since or is obsessed the cholera bosses alternative le o suta but it's quoted by the was showing him there is a ruin of the Shabbos Simenon mamas discuss their length the famous story about Rebecca Verma keep it once saw someone who looks like he was in very bad shape and yes then what's the matter he told her he sniffed already and he has a terrible dinner waiting fin he didn't do any mitts this and he's in big big trouble and he added but I have a son I don't know where it was I left I never saw my son but I know there's a son out there if only he would say Kaddish and do things this who see it will be a wonderful thing for me that's what he told Rebecca vu have a kiva the grace or if he's thrilled sit down on a long journey he first located the town located the son the son was it terrible I'm Martin even RL didn't know anything and he taught him how to learn how to take a dish and it had a happy ending this person came back to work even a column and says you did such a wonderful supposed to me is she and he thanked him profusely forgetting me this custom is able to go into the Navy so here we see clearly that what a child does works for the son we don't see how but we see it works there's another source and that's in sanhedrin Cove Dalit the Gemara discusses those that don't have a care look at I love hot bomb Fred Digambar why don't we count our Moines as one of those at a local hub or Zeltiq Mart because he had a son yahoo and bro Misaka what the son did what Yoshio did was ask us for his father online but the gomorrah says but this go only goes one way there's no source of album is a cure bro and that's why Lamesa Menasha in the helical my bob even though we had a father obviously Shia so young so therefore we see that this person goes one way Manasseh wasn't saved because of his skier but our mine was saved because of the ice she owes father so the father can help the Sun the Sun helps the father but the third sauce and that's a ton of bill you looked at the end up Erika days but listen to the Lawson I'm Anna aura check really she know as Ben am Tyra Bonet a Mithila saviem may I see boost of a careful in other words if someone could be a terrible Russia but if he in spite of that he taught his children Tyra and Mitzvahs then this children could save the father from orangish Organa and the amis is there are other McCurry's I just mentioned briefly the magistrata in Vevey a romantic ballad turner of Shimon bar Yohai it was the authority of these things whoever has a son you're gay about Tyra kill a mace when someone has a son that learns failure of it's as if the child lives on and on and on and it's a beautiful riot because the pus success among Xavier similar from a Sasha deburr Hashem a love the Russian will bring to us Quran but he spoke to him if you make a judgement at that time ever Mary was lifter but since I brought - onions cook there was you're gay but Tyra it's as if I've rom is still alive and finally there's a ram bond interesting there are boundaries if shot in the pasta can braces para dollars pasta gala by Taylor the sky but I McKinney CSS in chat session I had a son and I was crying action so that man learns what does that mean because now that I have a son that will do tire of mixes it's as if I live on and on and on so we definitely see numerous makers and trust me there even more but we definitely seem occurrence that asked us of the son works for the father Brahma Sakuraba we don't yet see how it works what's this forum I have a choice the Kabul sky how does it work with a father passed away it goes to the Sun helps for the father so there's a very excited speaker Ozma in the Chilvers helicase women mem tests their eyes were asked this question why is it Brahmas acha acha and I blame is a cobra also Frank de Raja mr. Hayson mr. Thurber of Shabbos Yoruba Shabbos the father passed away he didn't do anything how do you get scottson so first the rounds we explains how all this works because I restore services anthem as I could grow softer asthma just like everything in cash means a lot of things that gatsby's goes over from father to son the same is also a form of gosh me that goes over but dr. Raja but what does Brahma czaka ABBA mean dr. oz verb because roughly is it only goes over when there's a reason not just school service and dr. oz verse since the father was one of the short film in the creation of the Sun he was Mesabi that this should be a son on this world so therefore sup the rise but makes sense if the son is not even a sham the father gets discussin so at Erasmus seems to be saying it since he was part of the we the reason why the Sun is in the world just like this a mitzvah of keeper of dr. Raja this custom from santa father that's the site of the rajma there's another reason that discuss of this sukhiya but seems to have a more of a specific Hesburgh and that is the safer to see them that's the grace of you the hostile one and girlier be showing him in semen tops off shin ayan Aleph capella Amica is relish but this a sham it shines to go system go all the way back to ancestors why sup T safer to see them Brahma sakuraba to go and show off litem taka the father was no good but in spite of him being a would be nice and as a little matter to my sentai even higher by they are of Zaha been Brahmas a cog in other words why is the Sun shots are such a tonic because he has the father that was what kind of him the father wasn't good outcome but he made a point of he mechanicus children so he deserves this custom of the son so if you realize we have to be shining explain because the the safer to see them stresses that you get to loosen the father gets listen because he deserves it because he was my hanukkah's child to go Bandera hi osa if you remember the town of the valley I was looked up also said still Lawson since the father made sure the child should be a mensch he deserves this fussing but if you look into Razvi he makes no mention of the father being mechanic the child the Razvi just says biologically he's a father he doesn't seem to make it tonight that the father asked mechanical child and the truth is from the original story of Akiva and that to your sign we also don't see that the father did something for the child the father never even saw his child so it seems there are two as Behram in promise acaba the most simple has various biologically he's the father and he's a the Charles de Hampshire but the Razvi but they safer to see them and eternal belly of Ceuta seems to stress that the father has to do something to earn this fussing the emesis from the story of our Moines and and yoshio also eat we don't see that that almond did something to have a good son so we could say it's either the fact that it's a father simply he was a shorter than creation or the father was mechanic the child so in other words when it comes out is that Brahma Sokka Appa is something like you circus the rule then but it's automatic that's the cop since this is a father the father gets close to me goes automatically so this is one understanding of Brahma czaka oven there's another reason why a fought by a son should be very focused on generating school 'some for the father and the Chimera says in kedusha Lamar Lamar album obeys McCobb diver kaya uma Cabra moisten the midst of the rise of keep it over aim has two parts to it bhai of Kate side these most given to eat and to drink and half David Moyes is a rain of cars miskova and other things from the simple reading of the law so Nakamura says the debris Macchio hayleybay the end of climbers ayan it seemed that my Hobday below site is on the same level like macabre Khayyam they're both there Isis the Palio you can have keep it off the Anna Leo will soon see in Simmons I'm above and actually arise some machine him then the hob labor my sight is emitted erisa no less than the happy battalion and that's why we call today share the eternal mitzvah cuz key bit of is an eternal mitzvah whether the father's alive or no longer alive macabre be my site is it there ice okay some say it's only through our born on but whether it's the rises there are born on a child should understand that if he gives his father a cup of tea that's a mitzvah and how about if you give this father a Swiss a good happening alerting Jacques Torah but it's more than that there's this beautiful tumble in the a cranium over the following Schuyler a father told the child to do something and then he passed away and the mother who still liked old child don't do that so now the child's at a quandary what should he do listen to the father listen to the mother so generally when the father and mother alive we listen to the father over the mother but here the father's ready lift up so something i debuted in ten jana even as a sim and memory in this case maybe listen to the mother because the table davis value of is a big amid set of a hardly be myself are no longer alive it's your doorkeeper again the tubers and simmons a my house doesn't agree and he seems to say that macabre my sight is also a mitzvah just like my hobby but higher so we have a mock Leykis Gedaliah pie skin what has precedent have been higher over my sight but what I saw in the truest shy and come a similar age iron that it's very logical the only my ficus is when the father or mother heirs to do something aghast me do this don't do this but let's to be talking about fulsome generating sources were departed parent in such a case all agreement have they be my say goes first why it's very possible the living parent could make their own custom they could be all learning in thousand Inc but never the parent that already passed away is desperate there's no he has no long any opportunity so when it comes to keyboards saying already covers Misgav while you were doing something buying Al's don't buy a house whatever the parents said then you could say but I of is bigger when you're talking about generating skarssen all agrees of the trash I then mohab divert my sight is more important than my hobby Bukharian so it comes out by voice America halahala myself for those of us that are not so you could have parents or one parent there's a mitzvah every single day the eternal myths of keyboard / aim goes on in a certain sense bigger than mohab bigger kaya because the parent is no longer able to generate custom on their own so to differ in Malkiel in a lady Juliana galaxy man South evolve or a bizarre a child should be aware that when he says card is for a parent that's the key omits of their eyes --as of Mahabad item is a and it's posh it that's what my hobby mice is all about the Nazca Mina would be lets say a son if race is out of town he's on a business trip and for some reason he can't find a minion but if you find the minion if he travels an hour and a half together or maybe with a cottage so meet sided kilobits Eber if it's further than download mill he's partner doesn't have to go bacteria but now that was saying that Davin's the arm it's saying Kaddish could be a derisive keep it off or aim uh-huh maybe talk of a key bit of aim you have to go further than dollars mil because the card is determining is a key amidst their eyes but what's probably most compelling I'll tell you my sympathy behavior but it goes back many years ago I got a child I got a call from one of my children grab a free one a Rabi taki shivakalin stolen and he told me you know you see your son came to Shiva and you didn't send with him Apeco Ando Pecola's they're the words for a snack I said okay I'm gonna in charge of that my wife's not home I'll tell you later no no no you come now and bring the Pekka I said I'm preparing this year and that's gonna talk to me to come it's very important a child wait for a peck oh please make sure to bring it so I think it's good I to come and bring your child to pepper so it's very strange to me you know it wasn't Yom Kippur the boy had breakfast he's gonna have lunch soon but when a child is waiting destiny for a Pecha the parent has to be there and it's made a very strong impression on me because years later the story changes and now the parent is the real Emma MS waiting for a Pecha from the child and then there's no person calling to remind the child that the tact of art the mom of art you know there's that wonderful expression which has a macaron a locum that a son that lost the parent has to shake peck look they say that Cossack $0.11 heard from Glaser util Finkle they once had a dream and his father alt Elizabeth Graham came to his son of lazy you know it says lazy util Schick Peck lovesick peckler the autumn sabbath was robbing the biggest markets tire in his time the older Russia Shiva in Eretz world in American our time where was Tommy them but vice device there's no end discussing the concept of Brahmas akka alba is when the child has to shake peck look to the Tata but then there's no revi reminding us don't forget to send and I always felt at least homiletically amongst uber staff who've gimbal says Bashar spear us is so ready when Remy's about to beam if the armor Levani I need sir I need my children you know that's a call of a parent camisa I need my children are they and that's the source of Brahmas akka album I heard from a very question to eat who forbade me from mentioning his name I wish I could but he told me that after his mother passed away he was macabre a certain and Helga a few days later she came to me in a dream mama she as clear as as can be and thanked him specifically for that ANOVA so he was mamas beside herself he ran to the Clarence burger to Evan told the story forever jump out of this disease Tatyana valve is a society an adult he did something for his mother she came back in a dream but this is one of the main reasons of Brahmas akka abhishek pecker there's an incredible notion of the pelo yeah it's an air keep it of he goes to the extreme that the IKAR of keyboard of zaqqum eyesight and a child to do whatever he could to generates Wilson and law uske don't forget don't forget the Schick pepper and this is not like the Emirates that they say on the earth side but every day he says every day the parents are anxiously desperately waiting for those peplum and then he writes a lawsuit that's almost hard to say over but rajala been shall call you may fire we've talked matter a been there could be 95 years old as long as he's alive he's a child he has parents a child again it could be in the 1890s call you may fire Kate your place shall oven her cuca be fond of we get McKee Lutz saw you tomorrow because Ashla haha as if the father is crying out from a raging fire volume apne you did the can oniy can only have a smallest of mere at seal a buffet of NAVSEA Mia calavicci Darcy and even if the father is a very question the needs of the Pella yet but the parent needs this custom of the of the children in fact he has a special filler to say whatever the case is besides keyboard of there's also this concept of shaking petals and no one else could do because it's only Brahma czaka album and that really gives more meaning to the description of keeping of being the eternal mitzvah because again there's no difference between a person whether is italic or not every parent needs this custom of the children and that's why it's posh it that a daughter even though she doesn't say Kaddish or doesn't learn entire but being magic and Haryana and whether it's near to a solution pastor Thomas Berke was gonna Caban him that's the peck love that a daughter could send to her parent and maybe finally one last point there is a well-known statement bro Cara Dahua which literally means the son the child is the the leg of the parent which is a very strange choice of words you want to say someone's important say that's my right-hand man well this is the mind this is my mind you know he's the mind of the business but they say someone's a leg it sounds very unimportant what's the shot so I think the hookman one says raha one said that the main chains when a person is mister I mean the chains that has the most impact instead of being a mahalik instead of going persons always going you know you should go up and now yeah look at me shylu foil the neshamah becomes an ointment there's no Mitch this is nose listen that's really the most devastating part of a patina from an Omaha law that's going you become appointment but software foot this one way that a made apparent that passed away could continue going and that is this custom of the son the son or daughter creates custom and then the parent goes my Allah my Allah you should have an ally at the shams are Bernalillo annotated esta pasando PASOK in Zakaria gimel Zion Venus a falafel Mahalo Kambei no I'm de Marella a parent is of the undeveloped and they're all I'm them but not this parent because this parent has child sending Pecola and album the ointment becomes the Mahalo so that's why cuz I'll carefully chose broker Odawa it's the legs it keeps the child the parent going when the child knows when its son knows the daughter knows that they are the cara de mujer they won't forget the pepper because that's the only alternative that the parent has so let's apply this smaller Mesa dick first of all as we said who is good who has disclosed abroad Cara da hua it's basically sons or daughters no they friends layer the same should apply to an a nickel a grandchild if they're all that's the biological a nickel the parent had a hand in the creation and more often than not the coos a they had an influence on the a nickel the grandparent was a hot spot so both reasons apply whether the rajab is reason that this is the you have part of the creation or the fact that the say there was much beyond the a nickel and that's why it's Clark that a grandchild also should feel somewhat of a peer of the Schick pepper plus don't forget we pass Kinnear they erase memoir vase that a gray Nicole is high even keyboard of the Kayla vis-a-vis ADA so if we understand that the concept of broad caribou is because there are limits of keyboard over aim then an a knuckle that has keep it offers ADA or Bubba also has the concept of broad Kyra Devore and I just want to add there's a big circuit after now you're there shin-hye and outlets if valid that when a Zadeh snifter so the Anika's also have somewhat of to you via valence the first week until mature Shabbos they shouldn't take hot shower they should go to simplest they summer more maickel but this definitely Sasha Bayliss honors ADA Turner of manacle to a seder so therefore this explains why the Magana from says in Kalama days see the cutting Bay's that if this person passed away he has no son then the option is the a Nicole could say Kaddish with the Savior now generally this is not done because it's a strong capade that they're not to say Kaddish when a person has living parents but with this we we see this Lamesa there are people are dying that keep the yard sign of their parents and grandparents termina even is seven days and vega days he keeps his aid as the art site why does a does you're excited because as we said they've been a-been but i also has certainty even so he says cod is risky said condition his parents ready now says so on the yard set of the father and these ADA the question is if there's no daughter if there's no son could an a them be the brahmers acaba so the truth is the a them is not a direct descendant we don't have the smarter of the Razvi but then again we find in I love a concept of hostly kidney and that's not only by a swear that once the hunt for his a them is all we like my son did we find this in size out and I love them in Shabbos that Cup game along with days with Marcin if you have if a person's knees are in mer chronically he has good children so Rashi says one of the stories of a good child was a good a them I it's not a son so trashy the hash Lake Illinois so cuz I'll promise good children it means a them Rashi and Paris I a since I'm Italian Lyman hey my Kumu called born of a hopper nice of an asteroid rashes is even though it's going on the daughters and daughter and the daughters-in-law and the sons-in-law but grassy because a person calls his daughter-in-law daughter and it's not a son is a son of a son so we see lalala that a a tan in law child in law is like a Tyrell child there's a famous lawyer that says that up in lisbon yo i got great squid 'some in discursive is a them assume that you're going so definitely we find a reason that an a them could also say Kaddish verse they're also I would add and look us keep it over hmm have valid we find that there is a wave of coyama is a fear to respect a far more mother-in-law so if the concept of scottson is because of keep it up then it makes sense and a the most I know someone told me no not myself macabre no mice very wouldn't be Makai of close comma but let me tell you weirdest macabre learned Columbo from from dogged and show at that time she'll want to The Killers aid them dove it I said you know it's very like the show you're not gonna find so quickly so keep it up is very calm of is all cases so therefore it makes sense that the father-in-law passes away and there's no Sun then the a them could say the Kaddish and I should add again in hookers kisses have a list shin-hye invalid vogue we find that when a fair or strig is nibsy so the son-in-law or daughter-in-law has to keep surveillance so this keep it up there's surveillance they say story wanna dig tell them I'm not gonna say same I know if it's true but it's certainly an MSc site there were two people fighting cats and dogs over the omelet one got there first but the other one it was his father and for the one that got the first it was this so he said what do you like the first but a father looking for sure so the Estes guppy says left the one that's saying that family for the severe go first why I'll show them bias that's what am i showing by he's he's very push it when the son comes home no one's gonna ask me get down to the omelet today but this is understood when he comes home is why is gonna ask me 2,000 for the armor today but this big is answer you diving for the omelet today uh-huh if you know if he says no that's that's gonna be World War three so just given the Amba down so if you want to add that to the Cashman if there's no fighting of the arm it's certainly to give all to get show and buy it shows the trigger or the wife that it's something important Tim the only challenging question is if you have a choice either the a nickel or the son-in-law who should say Kaddish for the year when there's no Sun saying Kaddish so here it's more Mustafa that the ankle goes first after all he's a direct descendant and you have the raspberries and the son-in-law is a subtle or it's Cuban area but it's not been burn are you like you know what we do see in a locker is an interesting thing which don't quote me because it's not done today but some earliest saw some additional scientifically based side agimo the chewer maven Bay's ratio hoc test for emotions hailer k your days all mentioned a mini grocery store Dominic there was no sons that the daughter said Kaddish of course in the SS notion but this has met some fierce opposition the Mafia frien Thamud Martha fry maracas Cadiz game of chess and his three beautiful children in Boris Elio of Hank him soft Tesla Model A morality nor Khayyam that says this is not done and should not be started but the concept the mere fact that there was a time that women that girls daughter said Kaddish showed that the Mitzvah of mohab daivam I say goes on men and women alike if there's no body to say Kaddish so the Makarov Roman cuff lama days you've gotten BAE's ready mentions he quotes a vm and save that you could hire someone to save you Kaddish now how that works is it's not so positive because if it is a child as Brahma zakappa hat is hiring but obviously we're talking about something along the lines of Lucas welcome to my site and that's why I come are gonna from the Bingaman's Ephesus you'd have to pay the person is saying the Kaddish because then it becomes Ashley off and and if you're doing it for free so it's give me an a job ask you the ballgame you know is Morgan Shah via as the master shekel explains and the cloud when you make someone Ashley R and you pay him so now it becomes a pole you could be more secure than it going to do it but this is done no doubt about it if someone pants were with our children at all your high is someone and the source of car this goes to the person that the car dish is being said but I must mention that it's much better to have a descendant even a naina cope because the martha fry em in dollar tests is the fact but if it helps hiring someone but no doubt about it if there is no one to say Kaddish you hire someone you pay them and then this course goes to the nifty part three which is really this the main part of today is what are thus custom what are the priorities in Sequim that a child or a nickel could generate for any summer so i wanted to be mag dimmed is a hey looks safe asuka Charlaine written by Abellio good maka the otama Rebecca Vega a whole safer about swim meesa but what's important to hear he says there are six levels of school 'some that one could generate obviously caddish is the first level that's a very question of hey look a minik more than Callister and most of the Farish is the Alvin for the omelet pan this is only firket Onam that can't down the um it but but Avignon is more viscous the third source is doing a mitzvah capping a mitzvah and doing it very faithfully school seven myths is bigger than down at the ammad the fourths was of the sukkah Charlayne is lima retire teritama turkey neck Akula the fifth course is lima retire Barajas and the sixth course is creating a new lima retire album his example is human hair Mayer people are losing let the other go that's where Mishnah is let's learn that certain Antioch wave that's typically in the olden days they weren't a big London let's learn so creating a school Sairam that didn't exist is the highest level of Brahmas Aqaba I guess the plan is pasta Tama Turakina coulomb that's for sure but he creating a school that doesn't exist founding a new shear a newly would is the greatest class and that's basically the level of scottson my palms around the world who once told us he was a young 12 year old child is lived in litter and his parents sent him to learn and even saw one of the neighboring yeshiva slab Ithaca his twelve-year-old child who's very lonely but occasionally when the parents knew that the Bala Gullah was going from their City to slump-buster they sent me God's got regards my parents those Mama's life-saving if the parents had more notice nabela Gullah they would write a letter I got a letter from his parents I've seen a bigger young kid but when the parents had even more notice his mother would send what he said a haste of kugel I don't think it was haste with him he got the slab or scrub but she said that a sophistical when i got the ace of kugel it Guevara young turk mom is young - hey Tsukuba thunder mama I said when he got older he looked in retrospect he says this is a message for him both his parents already won if though when he says when I say Kaddish I'm sending parents regards when I learned Tyra I'm sending a letter but when I learned her a mnemonic Tyra and I Kazakh Tyra that I'm sending my parents a hey Sakura so that's putting things in perspective you know people do things they want to do things but lima retire abiram how sokka's Tyra is the greatest scores for a parent but now let's discuss specifically discussing without doubt the most beloved discourse and there are children that are moisten FS is the saying of the Kaddish as we saw this as the makar in the earliest sources but what's important to know is that this is a score that child should really be focused on just to give you an example the Adelie yolk that's Emily Olli the college surah Valera Ghulam but they say after the Vilna Gandhi was the goggle hot dog in Simmons Samba of the children's he has the following challenging question a man fell into the river and he ended it couldn't find him Suzanne's life was never an akuna and there was no health of her three Mary but you came to the otter Leo crying at least let the son say Kaddish he's floating somebody's in the river no there's no there's no avail is he she can't get married okay but at least let the children say Kaddish but how could say Kaddish if you're not accepting that he died so he writes very strong washing because others arguing says Kaddish is devar my I'm the Mumma shel olam but W dua that every parent waits actually for that car dish and that's maxilla Medina chaga hanim and that's keep it of the rice so when a child says Kaddish for the parent and a father should ever be mindful the child to say Kaddish because he needs that so the f4 says the adelio even out Suffolk you should say Kaddish in other words the wife cannot remarry they don't sit Shiva there's no Eurasia but to leave a person me Suffolk without Kaddish is unthinkable so the fact that he considers kava shut their eyes and he allows it even if there's no hat Mary showed the unusual importance of the cabbage in fact the mere fact that the child is saying Kaddish and people are answering you hates my rabbit which is theories a mr. Gruen Simon cook our faith quotes Feria cottage that when he didn't say H murabba that's a key omits of the eyes of an agnostic besides Minnelli Searle you know we're very focused on saying kedusha but places the Kaddish yes Rob is more than kedusha so the child be the one that's generating the kiddush simcha lying with his Kaddish should know the special importance of his condition I should mention that the Hibernia idea tough base a few days says that if someone doesn't know his parents passed away you're not to tell them because might see diba Luke's ill paying bad news is no good but if it's the Sunnah doesn't know you have to notify him you should say Kaddish I mean look how important that is this Kaddish I would this mention also AIT's a type of commercial and for someone that I say Kaddish spend some time right at the beginning and learn the meaning of the Kaddish you say Kaddish 11 months I made a freshman listen this expired 13 times that you say Kaddish but if it has no meaning if it's Aramaic which it is and it's some type of strange lawston it loses the flavor you could even learn it during ship if need be but it's something that's important you say it you know what it means it gives the kindest more meaning and then when you say person's the cottage with the oiler manse is the cottage and that's the greatest loss the next course is what the remorse says in China evolve is bigger than Kaddish and that is when the Sun novels for the Ummat their mother says that Kaddish awesome is really made for katana mecan't down to the ahmud but the real supposed to happen to the almond because he has Kaddish and also brokest so good the zimmerit broth is krishma versus shots so that's a much bigger a full of package of schooling for the father Abba yah she once pointed out of the vanilla that even if you hold till as media born on but a son that's a for the father is the time of the rice versus happening which their eyes --as the dry summer have died by my side and here twelve mentioned it's kadai to do it right spend some time learn he'll first shots learning what to do a child that's diving for the ammad and he's doing things incorrectly it's hard to believe it discuss the safer Manuka kedusha that was a pound of a convolutional empirica I love Simmons off he says if the belt filler is rushing you know some some Bolly Tefila seem to feel that Dominic Yates uh you sure attempt to Hara fire him so the data has to be clarifying in lightning speed he says if a child at avens quickly any knickers shots but he's Nicklaus sorry I missed a laya shenoy says avoid not Seaborn he's rushing the whole Tebow just to hurry up that's hardly a source for a child that I've been so such a record-breaking speed the knowing that I'm with him but Burke assemble it filled up and slowly but at least to learn the basic Alana give you a few examples when he says that ends abraca or Kayla Kadesh pause because if the shot starts after finding before the tiba says or main they can't answer remain because the next brother started and if you do say I'm ain't Romania Simon so what kind of schools is that the master let's even Romania cyma so you finish the broke up wait when you say the other side shots the shots must say Kaddish colors colors and Baroque right now cloud don't forget the Teva that are still gathering can say could you staff vi2 with the shots just saying you must sum over to a culture for is meaningless that's not to do so the real kedusha skull age and buff say it out loud say my them out loud you have to wait the same or even see the finish we have to say it out loud not just Vocaloid noise make sure there's a real minion a proper minion at once I once saw this there were 19 people and they wanted to make - minion so they went into two different rooms they kept summer right in the middle so he was sort of mature after both sir often you know people have all these creative ideas to make them in you have to have tisha I mean in nine people and her shots began it's a wonderful idea I just mentioned some of them but to learn the outlook is the pertinent a locust you know someone told me once so a person diverting and it was Mama's disgraceful say felt is his job he says how many a variable is there can this miss your father now that might have been told to sharp my ear taste but it certainly wasn't a valid point persons now having to the AMA DS in full control he makes sure he has to do it right the next question should a must I had this when I went to camp in the night the day after I went to spend my time in the Sun in the camp and I was right in the beginning of slice Shem and it was another market share who was a few months after slicin so came an I was out before the ARMA 3 time today he has nothing so I felt very bad I what I wanted to give him the ammad I looked into it rabbi yeah she has a safe at C uni halakhah he casually quotes from anemic broken of a list s that since the Kaddish without Mohammed is ask us for the Father the sun's not to buy us to be Michael who who me some holidays if they keep it up you can't be Michael your father's keep it up sake be my oldest course of diving to the omelet so I told them me I think this says here you had the same thing when he was insulation he knows and he wouldn't take the emit any out because it's not his so the point is revised as the amick breakfast says as long as the other person will understand then you're not supposed to be avato now vita is a superpower by the Rhenish line we spoke about in the past being Nevada is a superpower but in this context the Sun is not the bound to be mindful on the father's covered the only exception he says if the person will be bizarre that he can't dive in so of course they eat SAR is not ask us for the father in other words the difference of doing a cast said which is not right or preventing being go and serve that's the bottom line but one thing all agree if the other person will understand so you keep your right if it's going to cause Mike Lukas Haas mashaallah to for anything we're gonna run right the cloud in noon gimbals it cut above Angliss great that I've washed your Mitzvah so even if a person has right of way but the other person will make him a flake is out of it that's when stepping to the side and being Nevada is the Saha sure it's replica stairs no one's made a face it's made of Hegeman that a person in mellitus could be or even on 19's or a tiger license a that says you'll make it as mule see how real that is so that's hardly ask us for a parent to make my ficus you know they say avert it it's such truth to it after Yaakov took the process ma stuff so aces you could be made able of even higher against the octave oh yeah I'm gonna run yeah Gwen gets a dice I'm going to kill my brother now if ya it's ace of a so enraged something the dog Lamora adenoid how could he wait why did he wait terraces you can't kill your brother but when the father dies and now there are two availability one on it then it's socially acceptable to kill your brother for the government that you could do you cream a able obviously then he could do it'll get away with it so it's unfortunately has a little truth to it but certainly that's not the way in earlier he looks at it I once saw a beautiful my said there was a father's nifty young and they were buff come you sign them and remember you the left good so kind of L came to Menaka Marvel and all the sons in unison says rebel looking for a specialist fellow father he I'll tell you the greatest cost be macabre right now for the next 11 months you will not cause any malaika's for getting the armored or saying Kaddish or anything you'll live 11 months but Shaolin I do I guarantee you that's the biggest force so that will that puts things in perspective custom are great but back a Shaolin prepare you the person does amongst me to keep Shalom certainly to give up a cottage or an armored if need be but again when you're talking about being avatar then there's no bitter if it's my ficus or Atmos nephesh then a person should use the sacral to know when yes and when there's no doubt about it that the schools of tadaka is definitely ask us for a shaman in fact that I'm human in the entire Stasi no capital mg is throughout Omaha Isis buddies - Aloha Mason we can share and here he says the the minik of giving sadaqa after year score the Inca is the sadaqa when mask in his service as a way of giving sadaqa and that he says the way the tadaka is matsan than the lifter from Jahannam he says luster is that the Asha padishah cassia poisons adorably Sheila might see no Malinois certificates men are Cassius me odd nasty rock Wanaka cookie de uma territory circus Austin Island that's how effective and instant it is when a child gives Sadako Lisette an issue as a parent the safest either Minh cook I and explains that she toss see how it works because the Sun is giving his own money and the father gave up NF and how to give sadaqa but I one thing I guess I should mention that there's no doubt about it that the cost of sadaqa is an eternal source even after fear of a person but it makes much more sense are you a mime type of a person but I of should arrange tada could be given now we don't know when the person doesn't know when he's going to be Nesta but you know people spend so much time on retirement plans they're preparing for a rainy day they might lose their job maybe this made that people are always planning ahead know how long should we planned for Nets after talking how long should we play a plan for this must say true boots are Italian and I also often a person leaves he sniffed up he left nope no Tavo no plan and of course my work is la la no but even without my focus but I of a person should make certain plans and then he did it but I of then discusses his fully because he did it behind this is Nagar to all things a person has let him put it in writing let him put it into action and then he has a school SIA you know people have this Minich that them that when they passed away so the children give this farm T Shiva now my experience has shown you Shiva's have enough sperm they don't have enough money children have enough money but they don't have enough sperm so it's a sort of a UH Navajo let the children keep this forum learn this forum generates listen and give the money to Shiva's and Mosinee the money but it's all about making a wise investment it's not just fulsome it's all created equal there are different levels but very important whenever shaft to set up mcian here you say it story it's not it's the other but the school of areolas youngin but the set up the time to use it that set things in motion what should happen afterwards then it's a person's cause bhai of another big score grab an evening with the belt is not so focused on it it's quoted in there and more in Chennai involved outlet is the meaning of giving a novel by Shona math here this crowd has in the current and they were shining robbery I should explain why master even though he's maybe like sleaze she or she she because the other doesn't davon and Chavez for the UM it he doesn't say bar who he doesn't say so there are shots but with the mass fear there's seven breakfast with after every that is and it's a bar who so it's sort of a quasi Cazares are shots this is a lovefest apron around more yet you don't see it and I once saw a beautiful husband why don't we see people focused on it very posh it because only one master and there might be a few brothers and a few you are Titan that's a potential problem what are you do with one laugh there so basically the minion minute was discontinued because it might cosmic like which is worse than anything but I would say if someone has the ability to get mass their son of that is this course that says around ma another Minich the Pacific children Chennai in hey your gimel and the I've it's in the chillest and I love Island Allen explains that the other talks honest should be the Mazama and should read the benching in the he should be the Mazama in benching why since of the I've it's positive because it's a source it's a kiddush it's a sort of a diversification of has to be have a minyan so that's another way of getting sluicin but a to type of commercial on the remains custom of child could generate for the parent but a to type America masculine don't expect anything a person comes to show he's gonna get him after today it's a quiet week or he's gonna go to a semca they're gonna give him to bench and sometimes people have other plans and it turns into a terrible disappointment he might get angry it gets Picasa and a sinner it's much more healthy to go in a world and expect nothing and whatever you get taco rather now person his own home he could bench wonderful but unless he's the rug he can't ask forget master whatever you get huh Karev up but when you start to expect things it sometimes backfires a very very important scores for the neshamah is siblings should keep showing unfortunately that's a time that's very conducive of malaika's Wenzel Avaya who's gonna be mastered where should the mother go Jerusha four states look is a big cause of McLucas I can't imagine the biggest cause for the neshamah that the children work on my son FS to maintain jawline and afters that's a great scores for the neshamah of the Nifty needless to say disgust of Tyra Tom Atari Koenig Akula the oyster vehemence goes back a few hundred years ago in page 331 he says have either car dishes of course but that's only Pharma Omaha or it's a valley multi turmoil Shiva syafiqah lots Villa and therefore be Shiva show my love it's a great source for the parents when the child learns Torah and that's certainly the greatest course I just saw America Shakalaka the he Dorian beer can rape a doll that I love has a shy there are two yards site and only one map there but the good news is this one Tom McLoughlin and when I'm Bart who would you give them after - you would say I mean Tom McLoughlin goes first Zelda's he done no no I can't give the Emirates because the Talmud Qasim Tyra same a free as a soul of Oh Megan that I feel a bit like a sick bay who Brahmas dr. Alba mother for a toll of Tyra is Clark a televised thereby ever ever you could do much better you know if this you don't have to settle for a MOSFET the Famicom govern entire because the greatest course is Lima that tire that's why we see an interesting minute which I never understood the minute is learned miss knives in the base although now I'm just a novel not long ago it was very uncomfortable I'm not supposed to listen to the learning so why is anybody learning if I can't even we can't participate the terraces at setting a tone then in the base although in a place of school 'some palmitoyl kinetic of the don't listen you'll say a cottage but the fact that Tyra has supremacy in the base although is a reminder take that with you you know the availab give out messiahís or shots to learn don't just give it out take it to yourself take more than you could do now be asked us i saw their advise this is written in a safer this was printed in the back of a safer he told his children the day you don't learn a blot Kamara don't say Kaddish I don't need to cognition you're not learning they forget about the Kaddish now no one should do this because you have a right to be mindful on the cosmic father but the message is let's not forget cometary can I get cooler and the flower I don't have time to go through all demand hug him but a person should know priorities you know people spend a high drive on a ticket on a yard site now the meaning of ticklin it's probably because it's a has said and you're making breakfast but a high rob that could help are you shiva a couple of mice that could help with comical come learn is far greater scores than a lavish tickle you know the sukkah Sholem writes it's it's a mitzvah love feresten that there are priorities in titus hunter sharma which i'm trying to do today you know person should make a wise decision what he does Lanisha was a parent another point I think is an oversight when a person has to fill the role of Brahmas akka Ava the sooner the better even before the value that's when the neshamah needs the most listen it's kedai if possible of course if you have these about us to do things then set things in motion right away during deceiver that's when the summers on the grave enum whatever can be done foursome again organizing arranging whether it's a share of the mark whatever it is but sooner than later because the biggest din is after the Patera then it's the Shiva then installation and you know during chili and a lot to do anything that has no scientist to avail us but this is very much cyclists travails there's no business this is not business so whenever possible the sooner the better whether it's after the Patera Shiva slice him but basically you know it's like the gomorrah says about my rope for mark super says my roofer before he passed away he gave an exorbitant amount of money for tadaka more than more than a wish what's the health of the yes then so he said or horrific the bizarre darkly law he saw on a big road ahead of him or her picked up and you go on a very long trip you need the provisions you need to take Ladera the mace is going on a long trip right after the poppy room and the most fulsome and in the timely fashion the better just one point what I wanted to mention I once went to a nice I'm available a year must have been in as close to his mid-80s I'm sorry the early 80s his father wasn't it sucking if the over a hundred years old and he was crying and he said you know why I'm crying he told me he says because I lost the midst of keep it off his mother wasn't if the years ago but it cause money had a parent he had keep it off and to me that was a tremendous wake-up call to all that are still safe at their parents parents don't live forever you know there's a mitts of key bit of the charm because the camera Shiva cameras it's a tremendous cost to have a parent posture to be able to be Makai and keep it of a in fact the zombie says that that's why the kriya of unapparent is more severe than on any other relative because the parents irreplaceable person loses a spouse he can remarry but a parent the loss apparently replaceable and that's the way a person to think Laurie element item as long as therefore that parents that there's nothing like parents but we learned today that there is still keep it off outta my sight true you don't have have they bhai of but the greatest not as one could give parent is the have double my sight keep it off is never over it's an eternal mitzvah if anything now it has a much greater sense of urgency now the parent is crying out from an age Lahav of her Nonis can only help me to talk to believe but that's the reality the violent I need sorrow and this is the time that the parents are sending a message sick Pecola McCobb day before mum I say is not limited to your base high dish keyboard of is Laurie on mum time as long as a person is alive he has a parent living or nap is my half liebe my sight even though after the dough cottage after the first year and there's no nganimate for the first year but there's no end discussion you know there's one sheet that that says that after fifty years you'd have to keep a yard site but that has been rejected a person does keep you out sites as long as he's alive he has a parent this custom are endless and I just sort of just learned yesterday the doctor trying something the moon conjured ever when he would bench this is a mansion crest of a safer he would say I rascally of IRA has a v Murray even though his father was nifty why because my heart liver my son mentioning the father benching the father is an eternal mitzvah what a beautiful message I'm not saying you have to say you have to say that like he did but the child's attitude on life is ironic ammonia vodka Xavi Meyer your Emmy my rusty because this mitch has an eternal mitzvah it's both parents a child as long as he's I should realize the mid-south keep it the one final message for us parents is you think about the Amick of keyboard of a homicide because Casal assumed that whatever the child is is because of you parents and i once pointed out that this U of M of keyboard of are very similar to the few of em of a rabbi movie because ultimately a child Rebbe more because his parents he watches the parents he learned from the parents whether the parents are harsh of Russia Shiva a bonamana throughout the material but a child greatest influence is his parents and therefore the keyboard arm is like like the concept of Robby moving but this is a timely message the holiest site of hard labor my site is because L believe that the child whatever he is is because of the parents so we as parents have to realize to use an opportunity to be that role model to be my scenario with children because one day the father I need sorry let me just close with a mice I serve on your lap young whose during World War one and it was terrible poverty literally there wasn't what to eat and even the most consummate people call their children home free Shiva to work they need an extra pair of hands rebellion that peons house was starving he had nine sons all in yeshiva and he didn't call any of them home so they went to the Rebbetzin they didn't go to valued went to references you know what are you doing you know you're starving you have nine sons able-bodied boys why can you call them home so she said very wisely and go your friends to quote her because he felt was a hakama there's going to be a time that I need my sons now I could manage but no hundin's one sick then I'm gonna need them I want them there I'm gonna send them this message that they're learning is so valuable and the learning is so valuable that's to me more important that's the message of the relationship the eternal relationship parents are my son F is for children and one day children are my son F is for parents but the ache is it should all be anak house throughout Lorient item I couldn't talk to you all take up the jam against your Telugu bigotry character Smith's it raise a very sheer Osaka biggest request a reply myzel sponsored today she the varnish must solve every occupy aver multiple disease will evolve yes I was just they helped us of is also in leader knishmas although Shopsmith of da vitória of Pinterest vanilla Rosa her voice I drew biggest was very solitary to rob them you can sponsor a shear making sure Terry are cold seven one eight eight five one eight six five one an email tape Center at deceiver net.com table scrapes floor what's tired Aramis even ich muss or covered any other occasion or simpler as a shame she got here when we come here will be cecum cecum in five minutes but on America versus seeking today she just take a few minutes justice Sotomayor learnt a possession research there are numerous sources in hazael talking about Madras and gomorrah's ZOA that Brahmins Aqaba the basic husband is because the parent had at hand in the creation one of the slice of suits from the autumn so therefore whatever the child does an extension of the father it seems from the safer to see them as we pointed out from the turnit Abellio suta that it's more than that the parent influence the child to be what he is so it's sort of like an investment that they rightfully reaps benefits from the child and I mean it would be apparent that it had no hand in the child's Kenneth maybe to parent didn't see the child but it seemed that the ruler Razvi and from the magistrate Kiva would Kaddish and from the gomorian Sanhedrin cook valid that are mine was saved because the source of his son ratio it would seem that it works in all cases a biological parent has closed him from the child the Magister the measures cuz I'll tell us if he visited had a child say Kaddish it was a great school for the father even of the father was a Russia it saved the father I'm gay Henan but besides this custom it seems to be an obligation for the child to SiC Pecola $0.02 custom to the father and that's mohab day by my side going to many post game is at Araiza and as we said it's in fact more crucial and more critical the moister than before shaking Pecola is Lavinia and it sorrowful of an innate sorrow and unfortunate there are no reminders and a person the child has to be aware that the parents are constantly waiting actually for the Pecola because as we said it's an eternal Mitzvah the bra Qaradawi is a very profound statement that the child is the legs that the parent is a Mahalo vena item is continuously going if there's no Sun then either the ain't either the a knuckle or the son-in-law or to hire a person that also works because that the people are extending themselves for this course of the NIF them the priorities are basically Kaddish is the one level being the Schlitz if is a higher levels of the Rama and Lehman attire otamatea can negate Coulomb focused I really monitor that connected Coulomb a person should do things right it's not as close of a person's running and flying and a burning and that seebik and Davin the learning healthcare shots is a good idea at least the basics to do things right if there are two FAU of him and one has priority unless the other person will be boots are he should not be move on because this is keep it of and discuss with the father is not here to be my bottom of course in any situation a person should be my son FS a shoreline not to make my way kiss not the fight over the AMA to fight over anything else Crichton of course your amid some the great scores of going to eleven months without malaika's is definitely a very significance course to darker Tatsumi mother's cat zombie Jahannam it's a good idea for all of us to arrange things but I am who you say this way it's done is done by us when they still are a false was the source of math fear is a score sort of like there's a shots but it's not always possible only one master but if you could get it that's kadai being the Mazon main is a good source keeping Shaolin with siblings the grades course learning mission is of course is ICS neshama Tom Atari can negate coulombs discuss but the egg is the copper line because it's this mythical Tama tourism of Kiba Rob is never over it's an internal mixer and as parents we should make sure to make that impact to leave the children that should be the generator of solution and that will be exclusive Oh