Finding A Great Shidduch: Histadlus Versus Bitachon - Rabbi Elozer Boruch Bald Shlita

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single lead put in a fire he is if Yiddish guy in all of us and now he's standing up Mr Maya and his box him as hell again they were going his way and we all have to stand by and we ourselves to come to this medicine all over the world I spoke about two years ago last year and I always get a lot of feedback from people it's a very very hot topic for people and we're all in the past of him people in people all over the world Hashem I want to thank Hashem for the civicus that I had this year which one I had was still last year here I didn't have those SIM cards yet and I wish everybody a lot of simchas and I wanted to show and share it as a family War one family my daughter was getting older this daughter my last husband that I married my my other daughter before it was one was like five years before so you know what a simple has to wait five years I did not let her go out with everybody I went out to meet tens of boys to do the hard work that she shouldn't have to suffer and the first one she met with a man which is a good few years younger than her write them the Fastener was like Style by this daughter we pushed it off a good few months and then it was tishire and hashvind this past history in between so we made up the first minute in case life we're gonna make Asana okay I like I got a hole is ready my sister-in-law calls up you can't make it the beginning of your kids slave I waited enough months because she's making classes at the beginning is going to come which shaver box will they be oh I don't want to get a valve Mark like this but I'm waiting so many months so it was too nice you don't have to push off your Chicago because sister-in-law it's not the same night don't worry but this is what I did I had a very good intention about I pushed it off to the second week of Kinsley which was youth based kissly but it always bothered me did I do the right thing did I do the wrong thing I shouldn't have pushed it off but this is what happened sure enough months later my rabbit Kalina River his youngest son got engaged and to make it happen five to ten thousand people you can't find the whole one you want and sure enough they tried to in a destroy which night he's making and they always try not to hurt anybody but in America what could they do and sure enough the day they picked the castle was youth base case live the same day as me the whole Colleen all my friends have my family I told everybody just leave I don't need you go to join somebody and that's what most of them did they went the whole casino and you know when you get old you don't care about these things Hashem you don't care about any of these things but it was very interesting but you know what bothered me it bothered me that it bothered my kids because three children two were learning in ETC one married one that's Israel had to come in and miss that the youngest that's it the youngest is and they bothered them I was so nice to my sister-in-law so all my children Mr Hassan all my friends didn't show up foreign but I always stayed in back of my mind why did this whole thing happen I finally make a symptom five years I should have this be Darkness this is I took my my boss related to us and we're going there is a series of we passed by the bus iron big just jumps to my eyes and my son tells me Patty you remember what you said he said what do you mean by sign you know the story this is the story story last year there was like 80 bahram in a class so big khasi this in a class I think it's beyond but because I see this 40 of them were engaged 41 unengaged they all went to the bassai and seeing on the outside the year before and they said If by next year you'd basically slept The Yard Service iron all 40 are engaged we make a huge Suda sure enough your base case that came the last one began engaged that night this is what happens mice really told me this a year ago a year ago not in New York somebody told me this or the day after the Earth it tells me this says I don't need 40. I need four ten percent four kids to get married now I need four kids ten percent if by next year you'd basically slave four or at least engage I make a big suit of you basically but only one got engaged but at least Hashem helped me that money got engaged you to make soup I'll make a suit on the yard side of the bus eye youth based his slave big suit so Hashem put that date sister-in-law Bubba mice says that episode turned over the world you basically you said by sign I got one the sign is everybody finds it but you know I want to share my own second one before pesach I wasn't ready they started dating before before you know it questions before you let your flight is what's the story with that with that my son usually isn't give out there with the Kalina rabbit is Shabbos Always by the Reverend Shabbos times it happens when the rebel goes away he stays near Shalom he's losing she she was mere stays in your life and he goes to Kalina to people that he know one shop is somebody said about his friend come with me come with me till Ezra's Toyota 25 minute walk walk with me I'm going to somebody come company come to the company he did his favorite his friend a favor he wanted a company so he went to his house for shopping he has 25 bucks and whatever he ate them when the that came up so my son didn't as American but he wanted you know an Israeli girl wanted American Girl and but when he heard my wife tells him the name was mentioned oh I was the ones for Shabbos oh he's like a Schmucker and if he puts a sharper suit in his he's okay with him okay we got through Hashem they so we thought that if you speak the before you know it went so fast she said she'll never take American he'll see he said they never take her took Israeli but this had happened and you know what the story doesn't it's more in my family my daughter-in-law with others in the family they saw he's getting older they wanted a of him so they made up 40 days in a row they can listen to its knees hotline every day two three minutes there's a many hotlines today there are cabolas and sneeze 40 ladies or macabo for 40 days to listen sneeze hotline for two three minutes excuse for my son to get engaged it was getting closer to the 40th Day they already going out and then my son met the girl and the girl after two days she wasn't so excited about it she'd yes no she didn't know my daughter Matthew reminded herself oh yeah I missed like 10 days and we made up that if you missed it could always be mashed until 40 days she right away took the phone that night middle of the night and she heard that it's not yes going it's not going she listened one for one day sneezed another two minutes and another shear and another share another year that morning by the time she was finished they went out oh okay right there that speak about it and we'll get to the bottom of it and hope I'll get back to another story by the end which connects to these two stories 40 days before a child is created announces Who belongs to who the announcement we don't hear anyways like who know who knows like like we need announcement asks this and he says like this is a regular Mitzvah clawless of but when there's a special announcements from the abistair you personal you together with this they gave it it's much stronger because it's very personal words of the Mitzvah is much stronger yeah but I found a major secretary in telemund tests you see from there a different reasons the medish writes Hashem writes and the Machine is that the ABC is the one that puts his name he's the one that's mazavik so the med is right you can derive from that how hard is to make a that Hashem has to put away everything he's in charge of in other words the reason why he announces that he's in charge he's announcing he's in charge to show you that it's so hard and he's making it a little easier so the announcement makes it if it wouldn't be announcement it would be much harder just like a we learned the toilet and before we're born the Malik teaches us then we forget in order to have a sheikhism the ABC announces that he makes it easier but the medish writes and he see how hot it is so before I go to the Gamora why do we have to work so hard so hard for us why what's for the ABCs to put together from this side of the world to this shamas they don't understand each other it's so hard to turn over the world to make sure but why do we have to go through this hardship so I'm gonna give you three because of the answers that I found pharmacization the first answer is a general answer codicious lady pasius kaisara that writes why Saul had to wait so many years for children he touches the plastic I'll thank you Hashem Ki anisani but I thank you not just because you answered me I'll thank you for the pain if a person doesn't have pain he has told me wouldn't appreciate it when he appreciates something alive and something is hard so Hashem makes everything in the beginning or hardship you want to appreciate your wife and your children it's gonna go hard so every hardship is that shows how great it is to appreciate afterwards I'm gonna thank you Kenny signing for the pain but after the issue that's the conditions Levy that's the sahaka Sora sorrow laughed because she saw all the pain was made to bring out their sanctuary rights [Music] why is that many times that people that are not great they get easy no pain Easy Money everything easy to even a good wife has to work very hard and you see you have to work 14 years by day and by night for his doctor is don't get they get very hard to do him they get from far away and um people that are bad people sometimes they get everything free in this world we don't want to give him the pleasure in this world till he has some Tsar okay this world you can everything you have to have a hardship in this world and the same is in the meddish the medish Hashem sometimes puts together he forces them and and and sometimes it's something I found a partner alive generation I could feel good not even for nobody's perfect but Hashem um some people cry oh I once thought I'm gonna get this I'm gonna get that writes that many times the good husband gets a bad wife or a bad and a good wife gets a bad husband it happens if a many different reasons foreign in other words it's why do people go through hardship it's your name is we don't understand exactly why but good people have hardship the third reason is the helic original Sadiq rights that every Civic is so big that it could bring generations and it could bring even mashiach you think the baldovadiator with lettuce he fights to stop any because you know this could say well he's wrong this is the pastures like the original of Roy should go through hardship regular hardship in this world because you know what you're accomplishing now you have to bring those went through hardship this is three reasons that I mentioned based on this forum again the Christian slavery because they appreciate the great afterwards in this world and the original because it's such a great accomplishment that you want to accomplish but it's a fourth reason and that's the painful one unfortunately many people just push away for stupidity many people don't have that and you have to have duster they go to magachi who who answers to everybody no no don't use this people like that you're not gonna ask them you have to have somebody that has the knows how to have a second language nothing ninety percent of them are no because he doesn't know what to say we have to find the death totally that we're comfortable with and that could have clarity we can't be done anybody I know people screaming meals also I'm picky it's true hey please give me right but one thing for sure the status that people think they do and they don't do enough and they mixed with that they say it's when the time comes and because of that they don't do status and unfortunately that's a tremendous Outlet to themselves into the kids yeah and I'll be marked them together writes the steerer there's a contradiction here you saying 40 days before you created Hashem announced which is your shadow and here you say it's like caution like Chris yams of it's the impossible the governor asks that in Satan so the more answers very hard much harder like Christian says the morale is also very hard but not like Christians means you're ripping like Nissan that you need specific shiny civigration is very hard this is foreign in other words because it's hard he married his baby project whoever helps is because it's his project asks the morality what people say today yes people ask this question if they announce it is stupid doesn't explain Kasha that's Emerald that's his answer explain it the people that go around I just had it this week I went to show gag in my mouth of a month ago Hashem now yeah we'll come to times no you have to establish how do you know that I just heard the market Chase thing on the that you have to establish it I just ask them a simple question how old is this market share he didn't marry children right he said yes youngster sure he doesn't know our base um says the king asked on medical only feels himself yeah yeah foreign [Music] and I call it Atlas laziness and use I asked up St Simon once that's all about Beethoven he says across the street oh opens their business across them talking we'll be talking that sort of time to tell me however time writes this time went for a month's time for business and they took enough money for the business but for food kosher it took only for one day so he says why because there was no restaurants like today and they didn't find such kosher food and it was stuck to eat but coconut fish she says your Fine Food why for the business for the money you took a lot of money for 30 days ah that you did not be talking you're so listen you'll be talking if one thing you don't have to talk and you can't see in something else you have been talking that's a steering you but talking foreign clarifies clearly if one wants to look at our barriers what is real but talking there are three types of the talking because people make a terrible mistake with Joseph there are three types of people there's one person that sits back and says whatever I have a person has a sore whatever Hashem does Hashem does he says that's laziness there's another person that does a very good and shoutlessness this is going to save me healthy but this this one he says you're telling your buddhistam how to run this world that's not good we're talking the talking is but you're the one that does it I'm gonna try whatever I can this problem was he says not the problem he told us if you're not going to tell them I'm not going to Grant him the only key him only if you're gonna tell power right now to get out of it oh you you you made it that this establish must be you can't say I want this girl I want this boy that you can do foreign what do you think the girl is going to sit and wait for you to decide when you want her and just because there was an announcement 40 days before she was born she's gonna wait around for you she's not gonna raise you because Jagger is to scream at the tombidden if a poor person comes to rich man and tell the rich man I'm poor I need money and the rich man says why is this if you believe in Hashem Hashem sent him to you to help you you shall help him so why are you telling him Hashem sent him to you that you should be talking about talking to one to help him parents and friends the kids are screaming we need your help and we're telling them to talk we have them housing them but we have to do the maximum we can foreign that it's like a dick Morris has like a messiah someone lost his Aveda issues like Aveda someone lost a hundred ten thousand dollars you don't say that Hashem will help I'll find it you're a diamond drink you put ads you scream did you see it that's like a you're supposed to go out do every proper status but they're not covered to able to get a there's one thing that you find them if a girl wants to be sneezed they cannot run out to look for then she could rely on it say if I see them right hey a girl normally girls you get dressed fancy and she didn't want to go out the dimension and see on she didn't want to be initial and people should look at her she looked nice today unfortune is the opposite before the house and the people say you know whenever she makes the children and then and today after the concert people get married the but they didn't even care make appointments and not forget I tried didn't work out if the kids and boys would pay themselves for the house and they wouldn't talk like that they they they they uh the people they don't know realistic expectations nobody's perfect people need a dracher people need to try working show and buys and there if when once they married it's out over till it's married you could try all your status but once it is Hashem wanted you yeah people have assumed in this world I mean sometimes a parish of getting you can't but people try to try to make sure and buys boss reduce no let's wait ten years no I tried goodbye we got used our life has to be the way I want not that I'm living the ambitious wealth and I'm a happy boxers foreign so how much your status do we have to do I asked him but they both said the same answer bismuth left till you find the shitless you gotta do there's no limit to establish in The Lager when somebody was fasting three days that he asked how much uh Estados should I do to find a piece of bread one time a day or two times a day he's dying thousands of girls are crying every night this screaming help if you're here or not I don't know but people hear it they're from Pain bismuth left we gotta turn over the world and people say yeah the hammock Dover that receive in dvorim and the Posse write the following lotion is a Civic Israel why do you have to use your mouth so he Compares it to him even a lady that the ebishes said it says sometimes it comes easy because that's your Civic foreign or he does for others Hashem helps him let's go through hazal to see the crevice is in everything in life they got more need I'm giving you the mama kindness to check it up good morning says on three things doesn't work and the status without Twitter doesn't work the Gamora is talking about three things having Bonham's Harlem good children's Harem limited and panelsa anything on all the gamara says anything a person can say a person can sound the true status we must have both this is that you saw it in everything foreign take for your son's wives give to men you could go around for your son your son could go around advertise I need to share that but a daughter has to be sneezed now how could she go around says give her clothing she should look beautiful you know the people should wanna and take off noon base on how much you have to spend till a tenth Savannah a billionaire a tenth of his from Megan for his daughter even if he has euroshima foreign [Music] Gamora Sanhedrin ivov says someone then lets his daughter who's a baguette is 12 and a half sit it's going to say these are Russia a father that lets his daughter sit he's a Russian and the mother says it's talking about Surah she says he needs on the business he needs his help in the house she has bad because of him he doesn't want to buy a slave or another worker to help him out he lets his daughter sit why is that because her father's to marry of a child and if you just let us sit how much Russia because he's poor and he needs it it doesn't matter you let us sit who he used to do whatever he can to get or married unbelievable times they got married by 12 12 and a half your daughter becomes a bigger is 12 and a half and you don't have a what should they do what would we do but wait I said wait says you have a slave evid Kanani it's worth a lot of money because it's going to work for you for the next 50 years a million dollars free him he doesn't have to work for you let your daughter marry marry him busy busy join us the whole town will talk come and eat free no he's losing million dollars everybody's gonna talk better again I'm never talking about a batter IES rights he can't force a girl and he can't somebody that's a good boy and he likes she likes him but talking about that she's masking to it she likes it but what would we say today let's wait not to perform you I'm not a this is the biggest Mara Malcolm his status million dollars take care with Kanani not normal but Madoff suddenly you disadvitis regardless what are we going to do we got to do what we can soccer Memphis I know girls today maybe they waited for Ben Tire and holding by 35 and 36 they're still waiting for their calling a man every year gets hot and hotter you can't find beder khateva a box to learning 35 a normal Baja very hard almost impossible what should they do what you do they do you know what they should do Hashem created only a certain amount of boys and girls the Golem of Prague is not coming tomorrow here to be whatever is here that's available we got a not 35 12 and a half yeah I feel so bad for them they could have gotten much better they feel so bad no one should be done them but we knew we mean your best that we want you to have deuters and cloudy so good morning a person should sell everything he has think about it what does that mean I have a house here in house I have a business sell everything you have millions of dollars give everything there's no high missions why because it's dirty surprise not one miss it's all the mistress for Generations foreign for your daughter take millions of dollars whenever you have together now if you think about that what about to get a to himself this is a mile or something better I'm getting even a time what about a girl should just get a to bring you the Shadows that's much more than that foreign it's worth it so I had to give you a few years ago on the phone you had to do a great girl 28 years old I told him do me a favor I'm giving you 25 000 today 25 is nothing people give it like nothing to get a so he tells me he asked somebody advice and somebody said that you know maybe people will be high maybe his daughter is not so uh something is wrong but uh everybody knows she's a great girl that's why he's offering twenty five thousand dollars she's still sick in the 30s why his mind is but to spend whatever it costs tiniest game along with base Richards a girl that's 12 and a half years old never she lost her father's son she's now going to make herself not nice looking in the day of availis she makes herself look nice then all the people should one of us is making guys blue and some say to hear and some say the face different shot them what it means we're talking about availis 12 and a half years old everybody is in the standard this seven weeks she's not going to dress fancy because she's an azaleas it's a mitzvah no no don't tell me stories of Ash yet you do establishments then they are available to look fancy and nice that people should want to grab you for this is foreign nobody's doing anything today like this that twice above and onion Kipper they close the max volume they left them in shoes all the girls went out to dance in the vinegar and all the boys says everybody went there they didn't let him go to show out of there they had a few hours time whatever the time was and they went and what did the girls do the mission says nigamar says the nice one said look it looks beautiful I look beautiful take me because I'm beautiful look at me all the girls take me take me I'm beautiful take me take me next one take me taking them beautiful there's another group of ladies inside I'm standing there what's the whole purpose of marriage have good kids and the other girls group screaming they I don't look good I have no money just take me because you know we have to get married right but make sure you give me a lot of gold give me a lot of silver give me clothing and I'm looking beautiful foreign what's going on here perfect the club by preaches you know what would be today with such a thing happens the girls dance and the boys all the boys add a shoe onion Kipper the kolkatas will come out the maharas will come out to America is didn't have enough money to pay for them to make them look beautiful in to offer the shot from twenty five fifty thousand dollars maybe they would be sitting at your carbonation till the hair become white and loyal damage that means they didn't send only the ultimately any girl that didn't have a gold revealed any broken shoe out because we didn't want to come to that they prevented you shouldn't become ultimately this is what he did in fact when you have the what you've kept what the hell of the holiest day of the year that's what they do he said not the barometer should close the marks and kick them out go to the fields time wasn't like today this is foreign [Applause] I want this girl and grab it away from you even though this is 40 days before you're done you could take it away the xiaomi the beginning of almost foreign then if you dive and you could a person could take away do the person never within the game that doesn't says please I want to have this girl and he starts to keep me punch from this girl this girl you're not gonna do it if it seem rights is dangerous and look what happened to him Rover came and saw him screaming I want this girl said don't do it don't do it I'll do it don't do that maybe it's not yours you take away from somebody else if it would be yours maybe it should have come to you a few years would come to you enough to come is explains it either you'll regret it it might be it really might take away you'll take away you'll become your man but it might not be yours and years later either your husband or she one of the two will die or because maybe somebody else will scream and say please I want this girl and she might not die because the more says the end of the story was that he married all like one shot and then he said I can't stand her that he said before he took her he said I must have of not even she should die I don't want to see anybody taking her why should I that's what he said I told you not to die like that because he never let me says after this one but Philip could take away asks there why didn't you tell me if you could tell me you could take it away so it's more right there in the Gomorrah that he pushed him away because he saw that this does not good for him he was a buck and she was something else he thought not a of him like he saw that inward story was do you run since day sometimes you can ask taka to take away shida but who says this is Xavier who says this is good for you maybe you can find a much better one so it's not the best thing for you to get this was you can't Darwin to take this one because maybe there's a much better one for you but amazing what comes out from the gamara the passions of the gamara is Robert told them if you do his status properly and you dive in general I want a I'm going to help me then it shouldn't be there to everyone away from you but you know I'm gonna ask to have one certain one but Elena say if this is the right one let Hashem help it to go smoothly it comes out from the gamara says even though right after his Hashem is but still digamores says screams out louder than anything you can't wait a day because no it's not good enough to them you gotta make errison nobody should ever take away from you've got to make everything why shemen it could happen come on the whole announcement of 40 days of her is only announcement it's not a lot it's not a final thing therefore he told me was a talmud by disciples sitting there go make a sugar for four years no I'm waiting for you sometimes this is you you waited so long foreign a person is has here in this world even different than his the biggest proof someone gets married with a Arias that I should have this one element is he wanted to marry a gorilla look the message on him told his parents he is I want this one he listened to his parents that's where he was one of the three that the Gomorrah brings down a proof that the Abisha wanted this he wantedly and that's how it brought it all about Hashem wanted it with the soil of the sugar I'm not going to go into little Sugi but there's a big Ram bum you have a chance to look it up pay the process in the eighth chapter the rambam speaks a whole peric about this and their almanites has a very strong argument around them the Gamora right everything in this world a person gets is Mitzvah so the rambam says very clearly people make this mistake and it's built the MS this is the one the English does not go he's in the midst it's all up to you and this is what we're gonna say in acham a person chooses to do bad or to do good the rambam speaks about it against and right you could say a little different he says these words the ivids that you have to do a startless and you have to really want and then Hashem is going to fulfill it in other words you have bahira and the hero brings that Hashem should help you this is his lotion if a person wants to do this a person will try his best to do his Mitzvah because for sure what's going to be it's like all the star that the ability gives in this world it will be good you'll get good if not good then the opposite foreign but they both say the same inside in Charlotte base Simon alif speaks about the haramban and says that the rambam also agrees a person could do what he wants but what shot is examination so he says that even if you choose to do good you must have hashem's help because if you want that girl it doesn't mean that girl wants you it doesn't mean her parents want you so you need Hashem to put in the head of the father mother that girl to want you so that's really throwing you up here only in your prayer but when a person's boyfriend then you need Hashem to help you turn over that the parents and the girls should also want some safe and similar is only telling the person that's it 13 tricks he made on them to persuade them on the shadow in the pasture you see he worked tremendously I'll give you all the money for and still he said if it doesn't work out you mean as well go right left 14 years he worked Day by night in this world he was streaming today where's my helper gonna come who's the helper he's a connector the ABC made help but that's his wife how will I have wrong came with money came with diamonds he had something to offer I don't have money to make it countless how will I have my sugar he what do you mean it's push it it's gonna happen he knew he didn't money efficiently he has no money came to establish them help me I should have something to do with Douglas honestly I need something to help Jaco almost lost himself and then yaakov said to himself what it is going to help me in other words you gotta do the biggest child as you can but if you don't have how to do start this you scream tonight rights even though she'd have stolen the ABC channel like it says a person should not be similar Justin to every type of Estados in the world that you can as the Clio that also like that there are three types of people there are people that are always successful have to do nothing everything comes to them their money they should come everything comes to them the people that such that everything is he says the following for yesterday she does the third one how much he's gonna do effort how much he's gonna try that's how much is therefore every person has to put himself maybe I'm from that group that is yeah so whatever you can I'll do like we mentioned before in other words every day person has to do status and every day earlier is speaks about it a person should do everything is to do is one night before the father then amen they thought the world is hard they must bring those to this world minus foreign whenever he sat with his wife you always spoke about lunch which Richard Durham and whenever you thought of a that he ran away and the first minute says and this gives us a push to do ishta this morning not to not establish more than everything in the world we don't find such a Flawless of establish anything in the title is but we need to start this in other words we know actually Hashem even a bias there's a girl people learn false to grow and Guru never said it the girl right that even when you build a house even when you hit this city even you build the bodies you eat you need the ABC should do it because you stop this doesn't know where his work Hashem could do what he wants but doesn't mean you shouldn't build a house it doesn't mean you should have protections that says it means you can't force a girl to do a that like the maternusa the meditation for somebody to a but about the biggest establance you have to do is [Applause] to make it startless at every time you work and you embarrass yourself I know of one family that they it was Ultimate LA grusha and they ran around from they couldn't find the of a they went to Williamsburg to look also Clap The Doors by shot from the air they were going in the street a few people in the family joined together to persuade shouting to work for this girl that's the grusha to help us find the Shader and they in the street where's the Friedman I make up a name where does he live this person [Applause] I know right here but what are you looking for I know there is what happened the family got involved they made it Asic we're gonna do something Hashem helped they went to Shopkin and on the way up uh we need tremendous not to become to ask others and not to give up ever he says about himself he said it a few times and it's written that he went out with tens of girls and his father to kill his yankov and his uncle was the hazinish and he says my husband issue was turning over World Abrahim was 17 when they started and they were looking that has an issue with kilisiaka tens ago out of 100 tons of girls 50 60. he said even if a hundred girls meet you still go right there so he said about himself he went tons of girls so there's a big number that he went and he wasn't embarrassed as Sarah Prime nobody wanted me yet sometimes that nobody wanted him and we didn't know why what's it the answer was that is when he started dating was 11 and a half yasha's daughter so when she became 17 was 23. that's what we have to do but the English is in charge you know I'm gonna give up there was girls that came all the girls that came to the hassanesh and they said I'll be trying to explain to them you go to apartment building which 50 co-ops 50 families live in an apartment building and they don't have names and buffer security nobody writes the name on the door and you have the address you have to bring a package from you go to the first floor first door no not Korean okay next door this card I don't know someone is a big building huh next up go in let's go in are you gonna be angry on this family why are you not crying why are you not going one of you because my name is something my name is Friedman something else next door 20 Apartments 30 Apartments do you give up to deliver the package to call you you know it's Clay is in this building right you keep on going you met the wrong boy the wrong girl it's not that nothing that's not coin Steinman that's all used to give hezek for the ultimate he said never give up and start this never give up and filler instead of the story in malachem Pedic base dalit it's a famous story Asia salvadia avadia Novi was he was a navi it was nifta left over his wife with two children with a lot of hivis he would he he wanted it saved in the VM 100 Naveen he gave them food and he borrowed money and he promised that when ever he lifted maybe she would take care and then she came they wanted to take away her two children as slaves she also tons of amount of money they held up 100 in the VM hidden and they wanted to take away the two her two boys she was never held mono only two kids and take away her two kids she went to Alicia Navi crying tillicia please beg Hashem what am I gonna do with all the jaivas obviously at least she didn't have money to give she needed a million dollars a year holding them out she didn't know what to do she went to Alicia back to Hashem second time a third time how many times 40 times 50 times 100 times Hashem [Applause] 265 times 265 times she went to Lisa Shem issue and they're coming taking their kids already the last time she went is said your husband you promised me they helped me and the value was involving he came and told her tell Alicia disclose that I did that I saved 100 Naveen gave them food and then I gave oil to to to light and was always lit for them and there's some oil in the house the kids say she came to Alicia the last time after the 265th 65 times that's when she came in 265. she came to Alicia and she said he asked her what do you have in the house she told him over the he knew you have oil get barrels from all your neighbors fill up your house with barrels and all the whole stood she borrowed battles and she said close the door take that little oil and start pouring into the barrels she started pouring one and she told their promised her you'll have enough money not just the people the Harvest but for all the kids for a lifetime ever he filled up all the oil and filled up and filled up everything any none of that I'm not a bad novel and then the price of oil went up because she became a multi-millionaire from Deborah zuktipstein is after 264 times she would give up what would be take away the kids she knew you don't give up I have a posture that I am I should have been the same way 615 David said no one more you'll do it but don't do it he kept on going this is the khivas hall below holy saggy he's studless and filler again and again to go about a novel in between us try your best whatever you could do and don't say help but a person that like I said before a person in the locker wouldn't say I'm I have to only little Shadows to get food they ran around to to save their life here we have to save the lives of thousands of noises so for these girls to help them out so what are we going to do about it everybody said what are we going to do we're gonna do Thriller we're going to do establish different cabalis no matter what type of everything if I can see them rights every day a person has to diving for his kids that for him first kid and first income three generations every day to be misspalo and the same is whatever person could do should go around to do for himself I have a lot of good stories to say but the time doesn't allow I'm just going to say a person has to know that it's never too late no matter what happened Ruth she almost gave up but mashiach came out of her a person never give up no matter what age your person happened if it's by shared if we're taking away all that stories don't make it even when you eat breakfast on the table you don't say am I allowed to eat this bread maybe this bread does not want this special to me maybe this milk is not for me maybe this panels is not to me hey let the baby run as world we have to do our establish the best ourselves I want to be Messiah one story and one vault that happened recently which is a lesson one of the things a person has to do for him someone just sent an email a lot of people many different Aces that help people have a lot of Aces because more time for that shim a different time but let me say one story that's still a middle of the live story which connects to the first two stories that said in the beginning of this year and we'll conclude with a short vote there's an old man that told me this story I heard it from him personally in 1954 he was 18 years old he's talking about a person that's back around 90. close to 90. 8 is close to 90. he was around 18 years old he was a waiter in Monticello and a hotel of eisenberg's Hotel anybody knows it I don't know there was a hotel there eisenberg's hotel in Monticello and it was in the summer it was all the good Island were there was there now from Williamsburg was dead over there and it was a real pack Chavez that Chavez and he since he was away to make a few dollars in summer he slept in the Attic he had a small room in the Attic which had too bad but it was another normal room so they gave it to him him was a good janitor the cleaner vagina manager manager General and since the showers were so packed suddenly our older couple pulled over air Shabbos the afternoon I need a place for Shabbos sorry the place is overbooked there's no room so they went over to this bachar and they told them listen you have you went deep in the Attic it's not a normal place but at least there's two beds in that room do us a favor come downstairs we'll give you a closet somewhere we'll put down a mattress shop his father you sleep there how much you sleep he'll do a castle with these people will charge their money but you'll do what has it and we'll give you that and give them that it was the topic of a person this is fine he gave away his key and they went there beautiful Shabbos Chavez the elterid comes down when everybody starts screaming in the top of his lungs you stole my money what money who money I had three hundred dollars in my pocket you know 300 means in 1954 thousands today at 300 000 in my pocket you went into the room and you stole my three hundred dollars so the boss started crying I had only one key and I gave it to you and I didn't answer to you now you shouldn't lay it be in the hallway I gave up my room for you this is what you do to me you can't always give you you can't do what you are I don't care what you're saying you're liar you got me so the book was telling what do you mean there's a genre upstairs the manager the next room maybe he broke in and took his 300 that you're not talking to me that I don't ever have another key take away the money he was screaming and screaming the whole hotel heard all the floors everybody came running around what's going on it it became the color War of the Islam the result he doesn't know which one be quiet be quiet but don't scream back at him that's what he told me what he just give me give me back the money he was copying him the grace America he was in his upper room he heard the baham he came running out who takes it we teach you you're right they told him what happened so he knew this boy very well the boy took him for rides you know picked him up took him so he told him I know the boy very well I knew his parents very well please it's not him and he said in his language I I say witness he didn't take it okay nothing helped he was screaming or going on and that because joiness was our labor everybody knows he's a gun tomorrow morning Sunday morning the altit comes down goes over to this eighth year old and the boy in the air and tells them I found the money it wasn't my other pocket in other words this Eid what two the same jackets Shabbos and the week they had the same type of jacket it was he had the same suit in the same color you know and exactly the same and he came out to chambis and he thought it's the weekday looked in the wrong one and it was empty he thought tomorrow morning again put another jacket because he had the money is 300 000 right there I found the money so this book tells them please tell Brahm everything samagano nobody wants to trust me just come don't say that that you found it say if you you got it already I shouldn't be embarrassed so the person says I should be embarrassed don't don't think they eat it just say it was found and I was in the Gunner don't you could be the guys the god of nah people will say maybe I did it maybe I no I make up excuse no sorry this was a story that happened in 1954. this year how did I get the story I was sitting in the stone the show to eat and I'll delete I asked them about his life and he tells me about on this so he tells me over he tells me over the story her be research type stuck up for him fading old boy and stuck off him in front of everybody and he wanted to show the god of surveillance foreign and I told him did you ever forgive him he was malbert he's 70 years did you forgive him if he tells me he never asked me to forgive him he didn't he wasn't interested he would have asked me so I saw how much pain he has all the pain that came out in his face from that story came out because he never told anybody the story his kids don't know the story he was drinking time with me so I took the guts well listen this year there's already a show you can offer and Grave many years now you could put him into Canadian you could be Muslim in 70 years he looks at me like I'm off the wall I was telling him like I do share like what so I tell him I didn't give up I tell him you know you have many aliens I don't have and Kinder and they need foreign [Music] he became like all white like like what do you want to me I he doesn't ask me he didn't care why he's like why should I kill like he didn't care like if I told him you'll be Muslim you'll see this issues and I see it and yeah um I went on that they said because tired to two of his children and I told the children this year your father did a big thing today I'm not telling you what but he did a big big thing 70 years somebody was stiff I'm sure everybody they found out about it and he had busy busy doing this who knows of how many years that he's a goddess I told him that day I told you I didn't tell him what one of the kids this year all the Baja who's struggling for years and years it didn't go for years I go with them remember what happened I told you and then yeah I remember he told me your members shine a few months later his daughter also ultimately because I became engaged was struggling for years with I came I didn't say anything already then he came to me and he said yeah I remember my father did a big thing so I'm gonna tell you what is it don't find that a different time maybe you'll hear this table though I didn't ever told him but just let somebody told me back he said you you maybe with the schlier to help that he that I should make two simples this year and I went the other day to the other son work hard you have a child in the 30s work the episode this year's guessing you cash in on it yeah he's working and moving don't cash it on it you have credit this year so when I went in my second Sim he reminded me about the story of the Sun and he tells me making soon and it tells me you know that's why DCU also made two hassanas yeah Hashem knows everything but we have to do a studless in every way he started with filler his doubles with being Mojo people in any way a person does this child is help others which is worldwide by myself is going to step up and sponsorship but it's up to the island to make their status and sponsor this year so colleague and she retired 718-851-8651 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