Don't Give Up - Don't Give In - Rabbi Paysach Krohn Shlita

[Music] Shame supposed like to welcome everyone to tonight's shash to blazments and family for sponsoring tonight's sh like for sponsoring tonight's share like to thank Dr. Joseph Safy for his support for tonight's sh in honor of Rabbi Pesron like to thank Bergen family for his support of tonight's sharp sponsor please call 718851-8651 or email ist.com we have the cover and privilege to have with us once again Rabbi Pesron noted Irish and author of the Aget series who has just come out with a new book which is available here tonight from sorrow to celebration the three weeks tishov and tubovve it's available for $25 on the back table after this year it's my cover to call up by chrome for tonight's rush Um, First and foremost, I'm deeply grateful to my dear friend and for having invited me once again to come to these two have arranged thousands and thousands of shurum that they have is incredible and I just want to encourage everyone. I know every year they have a dinner so please support because you're supporting sh all around the whole world. I would like all of you to please I can't see behind me but I imagine Voltera are you here? >> Oh there he is. Please give him a round of applause. [Applause] As my dear friends Morty and Yosi know, without Voltater, I couldn't get around any place. He helps me so many ways. It's not shy to imagine. He's from the Philippines and he has a heart of gold. He does everything, including organizing my notes once I put everything down on paper. So, Baltier, thank you very much. And he's going to be selling the books right afterwards. The book is $25. My autograph is free. Most of all, I want to thank the rail that I'm even able to come here in this condition just a few months after a stroke. To be able to speak to all of you is something that is so special to me. A week after I had the stroke, my wife got me a book. It's called Stronger After Stroke. And it was written by a fellow Peter Lavine. Obviously, he's a Yiddish fellow with a name like Lavine. and he's written and studied about stroke and written many many articles all over the place. He's a research associate in the Kesla Institute for Rehabilitation where I was for a few weeks and the one in West Orange Sadikim and they helped the people the from people that are in Kesler in West Orange in such an incredible way. David should bench all of them but in this book there's one expression and I felt it is such a and it's so important for every person that goes through challenges and every one of us in different types of life goes through challenges and that sentence in the book is don't give up and don't give in and that's the name of this topic don't give up and don't give in many times we feel so lost because we have a difficult situation we figure How in the world are we going to get out of it? And it's so difficult to overcome. But a person has to know don't give up and don't give in. And I'm going to show you exactly how to do that. Now we all know that when Schwab or Kamki says or Davi you know it's so I want to tell you something brilliant that Schwab said that at the end of tonight we're say never ends So Rav Schwab says what does the word mean? Most of us always we hope for you. But listen to what Rab Schwab says. Rav Schwab says that the word really means a cord or a string and I would call it a rope and a rope a rope of hope and that's what says why right after we say in that's when we say Allahim. You know why? Because every Yid that's listening all over the world, every man, woman, and child, we have a rope of hope that's connecting us to Hashem. And if you have a rope of hope, you should never give up. Any could happen. That's why you only sayim after you say then you could say because in the times of when gave up and they figured how in the world is anything going to happen? We're lost just like we thought October 7th we lost but look what happened. You got that rope of hope. You could hold up. You don't give up. You don't give in. You know why? Because we and the takes care of us. Now tonight in I want to tell you a fabulous shot that I once saw. We say we say this but we say it three different ways. We say why do we mix up the language and where else do we do that? If you remember by we also say it should fall on them on the enemies of fear and terror because of the strength of your hand. They should be still like stones. And right after that we say so why do we mix up these? So I once saw a fabulous shot because sometimes when a person is looking for Yeshua or salvation and help it doesn't come in a very straightforward way. Do you the way you think it might comes in a roundabout way you would never imagine that it's going to come in such a way and all of a sudden it comes. I'll give you two examples. For example, let's say a guy has to buy a car. You know he's got a job. So either he has to go get another job, his wife has to get a job or he has to ask for a raise. So that's a normal way of getting more money, so he should be able to buy a car. But sometimes what happens is the guy has to buy a car. And he figures, where in the world is he going to get the money? And then a guy calls up and says, you know, you lent me money, many many years ago, and I never paid you back. I just want to pay you back right now. And he pays him back. And the guy had forgotten about the loan. He was maybe even more already. He forgot about. But now all of a sudden, he has this tremendous amount of money and he's able to get the car. That's it came in a roundabout way that he wasn't expecting it. Now for example with studies show that most most come from family or friends. They're the ones who read. But sometimes what happens is a parent sends a child, let's say to a yeshiva and the guy has a great and he ends up marrying his sister or a girl goes to seminary and that was not the seminary she really wanted to get and she gets into another seminary and what happens? Her roommate's brother is the one that she marries. That's you didn't think it was going to happen in that way. And that's why if we have that rope of hope that's a person should never never ever give up. Now the person can never know how the Yeshua could come. But I just want to tell you an amazing thing. Uh a few weeks ago I got a very devastating text from a dear friend of mine. I known him for many years and he tells me that Nebach in November 2011 13 years ago he was diagnosed with a certain illness but the doctors felt it was dormant and it didn't have to be treated and what happened now in November 2024 13 years later the illness came back and now he had to be in the hospital and he had to be treated so he wrote me like this he says isn't it interesting that the windshield wiper glass in the front of the car is very big but the rear view mirror is very small. Why is that? And he said he once saw a very interesting ashkaf when you going forward you have to have a big blick a big picture of what's going on in the front. If you're looking backwards you just need a small thing. Don't look back. That's not what's important. Not what's behind you or what's ahead of you. And what is ahead of you is that idea of amun. And I want to tell you a fabulous ramban. Everybody should write down this Ramban and you should try to learn it. And the Rambam the Ramban writes almost if you're allowed to say such a thing an adorable expression. Imagine the Ramban says you buy a muza for a buck for a dollar. Why is he saying that? He wants to tell you what's in the muza but he's telling you Muz somebody buys a small little muza, but then he looks into it. He puts it on his doorpost and he is ironing in the words of the of the uh of what's what's in the creation of what's in the muzza. And then he realizes that that's what the all wants what wants more than any of us from all that Hashem wants from us is that we should believe that we are his people. And then he ends when we lishma in that little muza that cost one zeus $1, we can learn so much from that if we just follow the words of and he says that's the whole purpose of yen getting together to d out together that people should get together and everybody should say we are Hashem's creations. And if we d out loud together and we say that we are Hashem's creations and we hold on to that rope of hope, we don't have to worry. You don't have to, you know, don't give up and don't give in because anything can happen. Mashem, tomorrow, you're going to have great news. You'll see. Anything can happen. No matter what the doctors thought it was going to be till now, mashem, it's going to be great tomorrow. You call me tomorrow night, you'll you'll see. And you know something, it occurred to me that that's exactly what Rabbi Yaka did. Imagine you are Rabbi Yaka and you had 24,000 that died. So what would most of us say if we were raka? Okay, Hashem, listen, you don't like my Torah, I'm out of here and forget it. I'll go do something else. That's not what he did. What did he do? He had that big picture of looking forward and like my friend wrote you don't say oh oh what was in the back you say grow we have to grow in the future he lost 24,000 he took five theor tells us in also in tells us that he taught five and they taught to all over and they brought back tora Now, Raa could have said, "Oh my gosh. Oh, look what I lost. Forget about it." You know, he's looking in the rearview mirror. That's not what he did. He looked at the big picture. I have a I don't have to give in. I don't have to I don't have to give up. I'm going to build it up again. And that's what every person, no matter what the mat is, and that's what I try to do myself in this mat, you should never never know from it. You have to do so much exercise and it takes so long and it's repetitive and it's boring and it's over and over and sometimes you get so angry. When are you gonna feel that you could walk like a mench and you see little babies running up the stairs and you know you feel everybody can walk everybody can move around you know easy and it's so hard to live with that you know it says that you're not supposed to be jealous and you're not supposed to get angry but I'm telling you in this situation that's one of my biggest noness not to get frustrated with the exercise and vesic if he he knows already what a sadic is you know even though from the Philippines he always says borasham and and and you know he comes with me to the therapy and then when we come home he drives me he says we he says rabbi we got to do the exercise and you know he drives me you know with the hands I mean there was a time I couldn't lift my hand I mean this is a miracle believing that I could lift my hand this way or that I could move my fingers once I started moving my fingers I began to realize my goodness I have a new shot and z kafuim right z kaf means your back but you know when a person is paralyzed in the left hand and he can't move his fingers and now all of a sudden he can move it. That's also and that's all part of it. You get a new understanding in what the damning is all about. So I want to just say something now. I don't know when I was grew up in the growing up in the 1960s I was a big John Kennedy fan. I love the Kennedys. you know, I was enamored not only about what they stood for. You know, he was a president after Eisenhower was 190 years old. So, you know, Kennedy showed, you know, that there's youth. So, that, you know, was so great and his accent was fabulous. And of course, his brother Bobby as well. So, I want to say something that Bobby Kennedy once said that I think is so positive and I loved it. I used to say it over so many times. I can never say it in his accent and I wouldn't even try with the Boston accent. But he said like this, "Some men see things as they are and ask why. I dream of things that never were and ask why not." And that's that's a great great expression. I just want to repeat it. Some men see things as they are and ask why. I dream of things that never were and ask why not. And that's what, you know, to that's what he did. He said, "Why not? I lost 24,000. tell me I'm going to build it up and I'll have even more. And that's what he did. And a person should never give up and never give in. Just because a doctor says something, the doctors are only they're not the one. They don't pus. They age to Poskins. So you could say, why not? I once saw a great poster. It's never too late to become what you could have been. It's never too late to become what you could have been. Now again, I'm not a singer, so I'm not going to sing this song, but one of the greatest songs that was created in our time is a song called You got to hear Benny Freriedman sing it. And the chorus, I'll just say it for you and and you'll see that it's so amazing. There's hope if we sing together. There's a we don't have to be afraid. We're not going to fall and we're not going to tremble. We're not alone. We have the and that's and that's the main thing that we have to know that we have that is that core. That's that rope of hope. A person should never give up. You're looking for your daughter. She's so old already. You're going crazy. She's 21, right? And you're going nuts, right? See, see Volter, he already knows that sometimes I can't feel the left side of my lip. So, he's bringing me the tissue. That's that's what kind of tadic he is. I didn't even ask him. There's like one step, you know, when I washed already salt on the table. It's unbelievable. I mean, I told him he's going to go back to the Philippines. He'll probably be 20 pounds heavier and he'll probably become a y. Now I just want to tell you something. We're going through very very difficult times. Not only because of Israel and the anti-semitism that's all over the world but right now this is a time and since it's a time of introspection it's a time that we have to think and that was the whole purpose of this book it's in three weeks to you know when it's a time of to get us to think a little bit and if that's the case I want to tell you what I think is one of the most fabulous malams you'll ever hear in your life and the malam is going to give us a way that we should all live. Every single one of us that's here tonight and watching all over the world, every man, woman, and child, listen to this brilliant mal. We all know the mig for me and I will dwell in them. So of course, everybody wants to know what's them. So people say it means both migdash. That's what the descent. There'll be two but I'll dwell in both of them. But then the says but there's two extra words in the in that it says oh the next it says so shall you do it. Why does it have to say it said so two extra words? So he says something brilliant. Every person has to build a midash in the chambers of his heart. A person has to prepare himself. You have to be a walking talking mdash and a dwelling place for his holy resting place. And that's what he says. And that's what is every one of us has to become a walking talking bdash. And tonight I'm going to show you how to do it. And he says like this. He says something so brilliant. Your head your is like the kesh in the B mash. Why? The kesh holds the represent which is the wisest thing that was ever given. The biggest given to the world. And your brain is where all decisions are made. Studies show we make over a thousand decisions a day. Now, not every everyone is so important. You wake up, are you going to get up now? Are you going to put the alarm back on? The snooze alarm. You know what shirt you going to wear? What what what shoe you going to do in you know what are you going to say to this person? What are you going to say to your wife? What are you going to say to your kids? Which business are you going to try to do? So, we make thousands of decisions. Where does it all start from? from the moyak and that's why the tora is represented in the because that's the moyak because we want the tora to be the one our guiding light as far as all the decisions that we make but I want to say something that my wife said I have to be very careful how I talk about that and that's technology and our phones our phones many many people whether here tonight or watching all over the world have phones that mish destroy our brains for example Even if you're looking for something that's cauter on your phone, but you know how many advertisements come and all of a sudden that advertisement is there and you're so enticed by it that you got it and you're not you're not looking at what you were looking for. But you start looking at that advertisement and that advertisement is poison. And it's not only poison for you, but it's poison for your kids. And that's why it's so important the technology. We have to be so careful with our phones, with the WhatsApps and the chats. I know that so many people are on chats and chats are killing us. Not only a lot but the absolute waste of time how many hours a day we spend on the phone and how much nar and how much immorality and the truth is that today even if you look let's say in something that's cautious politics or business even politics there's so much filled with so immorality you know even the president you can't even talk about the president without immorality you know all the headlines that are going on and in business how many people are being taken away from their jobs because the terrible things that they did with women, you know, in the business world. So, you're looking at business, right? You want to grow a business, but you open up the phone and and then you have to read all that trash and all that immorality. And that's why you have to be so careful, especially with phones. And that's what I think what the Malam is referring to that your brain is the your brain is the kesh. And just like none of us in our right minds would bring a smartphone into an orang kesh into a ban mikdash, you have to be so careful, you know, where you take a phone into a shul, you know, we have to realize, you know, we're so used to it, we're so dull to it, it almost doesn't make a difference, you know, to most of us. We take it for granted. And that's really, that's the first thing. Now the second thing that he says again which is so brilliant is not only that your head is the moyak and your head is the kesh but the your heart is the just like bread is the nutrient and the sustenance of the world without a heart a person can't exist. So he says your heart your heart is the your head is the and your stomach is the misbeh just like the misbeh consumes the your stomach consumes food. Now what does it mean that your heart should be like the the upon? The heart is where all the emotions come from. And so therefore I think that from tonight on we have to be careful what we watch in technology. Even if we watch by accident and what you read in the newspapers, even if you're going to say a kasher newspaper, the Wall Street Journal I would say is a kosher newspaper I'll be right. They certainly like Israel and you know basically the hashkuffs are okay. But I don't have to tell you what you can find in in the Wall Street Journal because the news is news and everybody wants to sell newspapers. So you know we're not only reading only the business or the other stuff that happens as well. So I just want to tell you what does it mean to have a heart like Allah come upon him. I want to show you what does it mean when people have a heart and they're thinking beyond themselves. This is one of my favorite stories about Rab Ga. Many here are old enough to remember Aba who was a fire of Torah the rashiva of tells and I had the to speak to many many times when he was in campura. I interviewed him about what the old tells was like you know in in LA was amazing. So many years ago he was traveling from LaGuardia to Cleveland with his rebbit and they were going back to Telss and he was in the airport and he noticed that there was a buck from the yeshiva from the B medidge that was trying to get on the flight but he didn't have a reservation and he knew he would have to go standby. So Rab GIFA was watching to see if the kid got on and said the kid did did get on. He was the last one on the flight. On the flight as the traveling to Cleveland in those days when our gifted was alive, they still gave meals on domestic flights. Today you don't even get potato chips, nothing, right? Only on international flights, they'll give you tissues or whatever. But you know, certainly they'll give you meals, but no, not on domestic flights, but in those days they did. Now, what happened was as they're flying from Cleveland, from Laguadia to Cleveland, the stewardist gives this ber a kosher meal. So he was an al kid. So he says, "Ma'am, I just want to explain to you. There's no way that this could be my meal. I didn't even have a reservation. I got on the standby. There's no way that this could be my meal." So she said, "Young man, we appreciate your honesty, but I just want to tell you the rabbi told me to give you his kosher meal." So he said, "The rabbi said I should eat his kosher meal. I can't eat the rabbi's kosher meal." So listen to this. He goes over to Raifa. He says, "Roshiva, thank you so much, but there's no way that I could eat the Rashiva's kosher meal." So Ra Gifa, those of you who remember him said this is yoga and I want to teach you something. He said, "I'm going back tonight to Cleveland with my wife. No matter no matter how late we get home, I'm going to get supper tonight, but by the time you get to the dorm, the kitchen's going to be closed and you're going to go without supper. I just wanted to be sure that you have supper tonight." So that's a that's a heart to Rashiva. You would think he's thinking about Rasha. That's not what he's thinking about. He's thinking about this poor kid who's going to go to sleep without supper because he was a standby. That's one example. I want to give you another example of what does it mean to think out of the box and to have a heart. That's we spoke about your head being the your heart being the Listen to this. He was a Spanish fellow. He ded now he was not of any sort but I may have told this in Woodlake. I hope you don't mind. Yi Yasi was a great host for me in Woodlake. Unbelievable. But him and Linda, but I just want to tell you that um this guy the R used to come to SH at 6:30 in the morning and he learned uh Gomorrah with 15 people and this Visha fella what he did was he came early and he gave these 15 people coffee and tea every person coffee the way they wanted it with sugar without sugar 99 milk red milk or whatever coffee with milk without milk you know all everything. He had a whole list but he had this mishas he only gave a half a cup and people would say why do you give us a half a cup you come to show you give us coffee and tea why don't you give us a full cup so he said I have my reasons but he wouldn't tell anybody and he said beside the kitchen is right outside the bashmed you want any more coffee or tea just call me I'll get it for you and sure he know he did anyhow one day he wasn't feeling well so he wakes up his son and he says I can't go to Sh today. I'm not feeling well. Could you give coffee and tea to these wonderful people who come to learn a half hour before dinging? I'll give you a whole list of everybody you know who wants this coffee. What kind of coffee? What kind of tea? He says, "Aba, of course." So he gives him the whole list. Sure enough, the kid runs the sh. He goes into the kitchen. He sets up everything. He's got this big tray with 15 cups and he's about to go into the bish. All of a sudden, he sees his father. He says, "Aba, what are you doing here? I thought you don't feel well." He said, "I forgot to tell you something." He said, "What did you forget to tell me?" He said, "I forgot to tell you. You give only a half a cup to everybody." He said, "A half a cup? What don't What do you don't people want a full cup?" He said, "Of course they want a full cup." So he said, "Why do you give me a half a cup?" He said, "I'll tell you, but you can't tell anybody while I'm alive." Afterwards, you could tell people. Listen to what he said. He said, "There are two people of those 15 who have Parkinson's, and their hands shake terribly. And if I would give everybody a full cup, their hands would shake. It will go all over the garra, go over their clothes and go over the guy sitting next to them. It would be so embarrassing. So like this, let them yell at me, but like this can yell at those people. And if I gave everybody a full cup and gave them a half a cup, they would also feel bad that I was isolating them. So that's the upon and that's a heart. And that's what we have to do. tell us that one of the reasons that the BDO was destroyed was because we needed somebody is not as f as you, somebody who's not as learned as you, somebody's not as wealthy as you, somebody that doesn't have the kids that you have or whatever you have to love every year. That's what the upon is. And I'll tell you one more great story. And this story, I saw this with my own eyes. In the five towns, there's a group of women. There's an organization called Mashl. Now, I was at the warehouse where these women come twice a year. Once before Pesak and once before Rash. What they do is they all come, they bring their children's clothes that are not usable anymore. They're perfect. You know, they're a little old, but they're not ripped and they're not discolored. And they pack them up in boxes and they send it on a trailer to Israel. So poor people in Aisro will be able to have clothes for either for yund or for the summer or for the winter. So I was there at Mashl and I saw in the warehouse how all these women are packing boxes putting in clothes and if the clothes look a little afraid or whatever they're not going to give it and they send it on a trailer on a boat show. So listen to this. So oni that's where all these women come to get the clothes but not one name is mentioned on a box so nobody would be embarrassed. Everybody goes to an office and they're given a number based on what they need and that number let's say 36 or 42 or whatever and then they come and they take that box. So this lady, let's say, had number 42. And she comes home and she opens up the box and she sees beautiful clothes for kids and she calls her kind and she says, "Kinder look, we're going to have beautiful clothes for Rashana and for the rest of the winter." And she was so happy. And as she's taking out the clothes, she notices an amazing thing. There's a dress in there. She wasn't expecting a dress, you know, she thought it's only for her kids. and she takes out the dress and she puts in front of her and she sees that takit and that night she had to go to Chevroas. So she calls in her husband. She says, "You know, I didn't want to go to the shas. I didn't have a nice dress, but this looks like a nice dress. I think I'm going to try it on tonight, and if it fits, you know, we could go to the chevas. I won't be embarrassed." Sure enough, she puts on the the dress at night, and the taka fits for fine. And as she's about to go out of the house, she feels a pin sticking into her skin, and she couldn't understand. She opens up the dress. She sees that the pin is stuck to an envelope and the pin inadvertently opened. She takes out the envelope and in the envelope is a letter. Thank you. And in the envelope there's a letter and it says like this. If you are reading this letter, you probably need the money that's in this envelope. And in that envelope was $195. The exact amount of rent she had to pay for that month. Now, if I was in the five towns and I saw who that lady was who put that in, I would sit down so I could stand up for her because that's what godless is. That's how your heart is upon him. You're giving clothes for kids. But who thinks that if the mother is getting clothes for the kids, probably she also needs a dress. Who thinks like that or she also needs money? So that's that's kavaldic and that's beautiful and that's how people should act. So that's the moyak. Be careful with your phones. Be careful what you allow into your brain because all your decisions and the way you talk and the way you act and everything that you do is going to be dependent on what you thought and what you saw and what you read. And of course your heart has to be beyond just like upon him. That's the nutrients of of mankind. That's the nutrients of what you should do. Be careful and mak of course everybody here obviously eats kosha. But what happens when you go out of town and you're on a plane and you don't see that O and you figure no the K is okay. But what's a K? Anybody could put any letter. You could put a Z. You could put an F. You could put a U. But you know, you have to be much more careful when you go out of town and you're in business and you don't have the regular hashk that we have in New York. Don't take things for granted and don't cheat on certain things that you wouldn't eat at home or you wouldn't eat in New York. And that's what it means. That's what the Malam is telling us. the upon and if each of us believed in our heart that we are a walking talking midash we would act different we would talk different you know David comes a walking talking bdash he and I we remember abd so we know and you know y you you get your sh's answer by David so you know that's a person who's a walking talking bdash the way he talks the way he acts even his jokes everything is it's all with a sensitivity you know for other people, never to hurt any other people. Now I want to tell you two fabulous stories and with that we'll end and these stories can mish change your life. Last year I wrote this book. It's called from sorrow to celebration. Three weeks tishabove and tub and you know when you're writing about three weeks and shivas and and tishab you know it could be a very sad negative type of book and all of you know in all the mag books that I've ever written or all the speeches that I give I always try to be positive and to make people feel they can be great and be even greater. So how are you going to do that in a book that's about such a sad period you know during the three weeks. So somehow the put into my head that I should look up which gimm passed away from tishov throughout the history of yiddesh kite and I figured if I could find some yard sites of prominent people in this 3-week period the stories about them would be fabulous. So you're not going to believe it. Rebel Yash was nifted 28th day of Thomas. Rashi was nifted the 29th day of Thomas. Roima was nifted the fifth day above the Rebi was nifted the seventh day above the 10th day above. And so therefore in this book I have stories about all these on the day of theirite during the 3-week period from Shivas Thomas you know until tishov. But I want to tell you to me what's one of the most one of the most fabulous stories. I realized that um on the 18th day of Av the 18th day of Thomas rather was the yardite of um Rab Isaac Isaac who was the second chief rabbi chief as rabbi. He was a tremendous. He gave a shi in and used to go to his. So he was a brilliant. So I I once heard such a fabulous story about him, but I want to give you the background to this story. In June of 2013, in June of 2013, I was asked to come to South Africa. In South Africa, there's a fabulous R. His name is Rabbi Warren Goldstein. And they have what's called Sinai indaba. I love that word indaba. Indaba is a zulu word. South African zulu word which means conference of important matters. So Rabbi Goldstein called me. He said listen we're bringing in famous speakers from all over the world. And we want you to come and you're going to be there from Mat Shabas until Sunday night. We're renting a hotel that's going to hold 4,000 people and there many many conference rooms in that hotel and throughout from Mat Shabas until Sunday night there'll be dozens of dozens of speeches in all the different conference rooms and everyone will start on time and we'd like you to speak twice and then I want you to do something else. I'll tell you when you get to South Africa. So of course I was very very happy to be honored to come. There were many great speakers over there and I must tell you they have something in South Africa that mamish we must learn here in America. Every single speech starts exactly on time. How do they do that? I'll tell you how they do that. Let's say a guy's up here speaking. So when Morty Melman is sitting, you know, when there's 10 minutes left of the speech, he holds up a sign 10 minutes left. And where Yosi is speaking, when there's five minutes left, they held up a sign five minutes left. And when the time is over, the floor opens up. the speaker falls in and that's the end. And like this, every single speech goes on time. So once I got to Rabbi Goldson calls me up and he says, "Listen, I need you to do me a favor." He said, "The 4:00 speech is going to start on time on Sunday and then I'm going to give my major speech after that." He says, "But he said, me and Rabbi Barl Wine, who was one of the speakers, we wrote a book called The Legacy about Lithuanian Gdelm. We'll give you the book. we'd like you to interview us. Would you mind interviewing us from 4:00 to 4:30? I said, "No, of course not. I'll be honored." So, of course, 4:00 I was there and they're both sitting up front and I'm sitting on on the side and I prepared some questions that I was going to ask. And now it's 4:25. I know I got 5 minutes left. So, I turned to Rabbi Wine. I said, "Rabbi Wine, I would like to ask you a question that I've been wondering about for 25 years." And he looks up 25 years. I said, "Yeah, remember 25 years ago you were over in Miami and you needed a mile for the second day's pesak and you called me in New York and you asked me if I would come and spend yand with your family and I would do the bris and I came and it was fabulous. I love being with your family. I love being in your home." But I said, you know, Rabbi want I want to ask you something. My rev your was packed. In those days, people didn't go to Vietnam for Pes like they go today, right? They went to Florida. Everybody went to Florida, right? Today, they go to all these what they call exotic places. It's hard to imagine, but okay. Anyway, so um I said, I looked at you during my rev and I noticed, Rabb, you're the only man in Miami without a suntan. You're always inside. You're writing. You're making videos. You made cassettes of Jewish history. I've listened to so many of your cassettes. You've written books and articles. The Jewish Destiny Foundation produces more than some companies. How do you do it? You never stop. Don't you ever get tired. Rabbi Wine, you're you're unbelievable. Tell me how you do it. So, he got very serious. He said, I want to tell you what happened when I was 11 years old. He said, when I was 11 years old, it was 1946 and I'm a Ben. He says, I didn't know that. He said, "One day, my father tells me, Barl, we're going to the airport." I said, "Aba, why are we going to the airport?" He said, "Because there's a very special R that's coming to the airport. He's coming to Chicago and he's going to speak to all the Rabonim and many Balabatim and to all the 200 Yeshiva Bakram that are in Skoi and the other yeshivas in Chicago." So I said to my father, "Who's the man who's coming?" He said, "Rabbi Isaac." So you know my father told me that he had been he was the second chief rabbi Ashkanazi traveling at Israel. So I said, "Aba, of course I'll go with you." And we came to the airport. There was a whole cavalcade of cars and everybody followed Rabbi Herzog's car and they came into this big shaber gave a shir to all the Rabonim and then he addressed the tamidim and he said, "Tamidam, I want to talk to you personally. I just got back from the Vatican." This was 1946. And he said, "I just got back from the Vatican and I went to visit Pope Pas. And I said to the Pope, I have a list of 10,000 names of Jewish kids that you people have. Some of the kids, we gave them to you. We thought that you could save them for us during the war. Other kids are in your monasteries. I know where these kids are. Give me back those kids. Not one of them wants to be Christian. Not one of them wanted to change their religion. You know that. give me back those kids. And he said that the Pope Pas said, I can't give you back even one. He said, why not? He said, because we have a rule that if a child has been baptized, we can never give them back to another religion. And every one of these 10,000 was baptized. And he said, "Rabbi, Rabbi Wine said, I was 11 years old." And when when um Rabbi Herzuk said that he couldn't get back one of these kids, he started crying so hard he put his head down on the podium and everybody was listening to him cry. And Rabbi W said, "I was never so scared of my life. I never saw anybody cry like that. An adult cry." And when he picked up his face, his face was red like a lion. And he said, "Boys, I'm talking to all of you. What are you going to do for the future children of Cla Israel? Don't ever forget what I told you. I can't do anything for those 10,000. Those 10,000 are lost. But in America, there's going to be thousands and thousands of kids. What are you going to do for those children? And then he sat down. And Rabbi Wine said, "All the Brim were asked to go up to shake his hand." And Rabbi Wine said, "I don't know till this day." When he took hold of my hand, he looked me straight in the face and he said, "Are you going to remember what I said?" What are you going to do for the children of Cla? Are you ever going to forget what I said? You have an aas to help the children of Cla. And he said, I just want you to know every time I feel tired, every time I want to put my pen down, every time I put my head down, I think of what Rabbi Herz said to me. What are you going to do for the children of Israel? That's why I don't stop. And that's what I want to say to all of us here. We all have hopefully we all have children and grandchildren. We got to spend time with them. And I want to end with this fabulous story. I once told the story in Toronto and when I said the punchline, a lady screamed and she burst into tears as you'll see how poignant how special it was. You know this this punch line as you're about to hear it and you'll see I'm going to give you homework of what you should all do for the rest of your lives. Now what happened was that a couple years ago in Lakewood they decided they're going to close one of they're going to close the yeshivas the elementary schools two days before Yandiff because it's a very busy time and the youn will be able to go into the kitchen and help the wives because there's so much to do. So this fifth grade rebi comes in to the kitchen or two days before y and he says to his wife what could I do to help you? She says, "You really want to help me?" He says, "Yeah." He says, "Listen, we have six kids. If you could take the kids to to out of the house for 4 hours, I'll be able to bake and I'll be able to cook and I'll clean and I'll be able to be able to get things accomplished." And he said, and the guy was thinking, "What in the world am I going to do for 4 hours with kids in Lakewood?" And then he remembered Newark airport is an hour away from Lakewood. So he figured he'll go to Newark airport with the kids. They were never in the airport. An hour there, an hour back. He already killed two hours. And they'll figure out what to do there. And then he remembered that in Newark airport, they have what's called an airra. An airtra is a very sleek train. It goes very slow. It goes from terminal to terminal to terminal. And these kids, he would go with them. He go long-term parking. You don't have to pay, you know, to get on the train. You just go from terminal to terminal. And they go over the Jersey Turnbreer. They see planes taking off and landing. And it will be such a great time. and Tata took them to the airport and he went on the airplane and they were having a great time together. After two hours on the train, a pilot comes on. Pilot, spiffy looking guy with a tie and a cap and a suit. And these pilots are very nice guys, especially the guys from the south. And he sees a father with six kids. And he goes over to the kids. He says, "We're all flying today." And they didn't know what to say. So he looks at So he looks at the father and the father says, "Actually, sir, we're flying nowhere." He says, "You're flying nowhere? What does that mean?" He says, "You see, we're religious Jews and we have a very busy holiday that's coming up." And my wife asked me if I could take the kids out so that, you know, she could bake and cook and clean and we're just spending a great time having a wonderful time together. He said, "The pilot got very serious." And he said, "Young man, I want to tell you something. I've been a pilot for 25 years. There's not a major airport in this world that I haven't landed in. He said, "Two years ago, I got a text from my son." He said, "Dad, you're always so busy. You never have time for me. You never came to any of my birthday parties. You didn't even come to my graduation. And last week was the birthday of your first grandson, my son, and you didn't show up. Do me a favor. Take my number out of your contacts." And the pilot said to the young man, he said, "And two weeks later, my daughter wrote me the same thing. I should take her number out of my context because I had no time for them." And listen to what he said. He said, "Young man, I have flown everywhere but gone nowhere. You told me you're going nowhere, but with your kids, you're going everywhere." And that's what I want to tell you. You know who told over this story in Lakewood? There was a manal sham Canar who has a yeshiva called Aaron and he had made a kish party for the first graders that were getting their and he invited all the parents and grandparents and he said I'm talking to the grandparents you think that you came just to a littleish party but you should know for your kids that your grandchild that's the most special thing you could do cuz they know you care about them and I want to tell all of you something that I do that is so I don't tell to everybody. But I know thousands of people are going to hear it. But I know not everybody here is old enough to do it. Morty, you're not old enough yet to do it. But yo, you could do it. Yeah. >> Yes. You know, I'm giving you as a compliment. Every Thursday night, I have what's called a Zadei conference call. That means that that at 10:30 all my grandchildren and children call and we all talk. They want to hear what story I heard, what sack I heard from Abd, where I spoke, what I did, what I learned or whatever. or you know anything like that. And I'm just telling you that's how you maintain a shakus with your family cuz I'm begging all of you if you don't validate your children and grandchildren they're going to get validated in places you don't want them to be validated in. And we know that with the phones and the technology that's available and with the friends that are never available you never know where a kid can pick up terrible terrible things. You as the parent as the grandparent you got to make a shas with them. You have to be there for them everywhere, every time. Call the kids once a week. I I have a seda with one of my grandchildren. It's so brilliant. His name we learn a certain prayer together. It's unbelievable. Not every grandparent can do that. But you could talk to them and keep a sh with them. I'm not going to ask anybody here if you know the names of all your grandchildren and what schools they go to and the names of all your great-grandchildren if you have any. But that's an aras. You got to know that because if you know that you they'll listen to you because they look up to you. You're really special in your mind. You might not know he's special. But just remember you're kesh. You're upon him and you're a misbeh for everything that he does. I mean he was he was a kid. He was in his early 20s when he started organizing shum all over the world. I couldn't believe it. The first time that I met him you know I had spoken to him on the phone. I thought the guy was you know for everything that accomplish that he was 65 70 and I seen he was his 20s but hashem we have great yidden that are doing great things. There's so many of you here that I know that are doing great things for I give each of you a fulfill your potential. Think about remember you're a walking talking don't give up. Don't give in to Hashem is going to be there and I hope it's Hashem that I'll be able to dance at all your kids weddings you know without >> without Voltater. By that time, Voltater will have a beard and pay us >> and then we'll be able to dance together. The Filipino Kazatska. Okay. Thank you. Thank you for inviting me and thank you for listening. [Applause] >> The books will be available in the back table. They near the door by chrome for inspiring Josh like to give a big f for sponsoring tonight. Like big family for sponsoring tonight's sh like to give big shak to Dr. Joseph Safy for support of tonight's shori burger for support of tonight's sharp sponsor call 8651 or email is.com said the the annual dinner is coming up in 4 weeks from from tonight August 18th. It's a great opportunity to show and to the speakers are putting out in the journal which will be published in honor of the dinner. 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