Brining Out The Best in Yourself - Rabbi Paysach Krohn

[Music] welcome everyone to tonight's year all right to Anonymous for sponsoring tonight for sponsoring tonight's cheer to have the great exclusive sponsoring this year or putting an ad in the dinner journal for next Wednesday's annual dinner of eating sugar Tyra you can call 718-851-8651.com to have this great exclusive throughout the year worldwide tonight we have the cover Davos once again by Pacers noted speaker and author speaking of the topic of bringing out the best in yourself as my Covenant corner by Chrome for tonight's Russia [Music] we come in tonight and of course and the first thing that comes to mind when I come to this helica by smedrish is that has been able to use the bus in the basement this is now the 27th year and we know that just two and a half months ago Horowitz the Boston Revolution I just want to say just something personal I remember him when he was a young boy we were classmates interpret us and the thing that always impressed me about him was that he was a person who was a binance there was nobody else in our class that came from a Relisha family and yet he made everybody feel special he never felt that it was more important than anybody else and if he didn't know that he was from the bus in the family from his Han hogas you certainly wouldn't figure it out because he was humble and he was nice and he was pleasant and it was that way throughout his life anytime I ever had a Bruce here or when he was there it was always with aggressive and aggressive friendship so we certainly hope that tonight's year should be a Swiss for his halogeneshama we know today that there was a levia I'm sure that most of you know that is Victoria between Borough Park and Muncie there must have been 50 000 people that were at the levias that were today and I understand that um in that hasidus there's no has paid them there's only one capital of tillem that is said so I have no doubt that in the next weeks that so much will be written and it's something that we should read and also be inspired by just another one more person that passed away recently a rabbi mitnek who always used to come to the shioram here as a person an Autumn Godel admired not only in his medius and in his learning and it was a rebbe for so many many many years and um it was one of these type of people that when I finished speaking by the time I got back to Queens he was already on the phone telling me how much he enjoyed and what verta he appreciated so you know these are three people that certainly will be missed in Claud Israel and certainly on a night of something to think about what we have to become and how we have to strive to be great and to bring out our best and so I would like to begin by telling you a very interesting Insight that the Bob of a rebel once said and he said we know that hello everybody says but came up with something interesting unusual he said and he explained what it means there are some people that look back at the previous year and they say you know I've done very well I came to minion all the time I had sodorant learning I was nice to my family and I was good to everybody so he looks back and he says you know he had a good year so we say to that person that was wonderful but now Eula you got to go even higher a person should never rest on his Laurels thank you very much a person should never rest on his Laurels oh well a person should never let rest on his Laurels and be satisfied on the level that he's at but you should always go higher the people who look back at the previous year and say you know maybe I didn't Daven as well as I should have maybe I didn't have the sadora in learning as much as I should have and maybe I wasn't as friendly I didn't give the right amount that stalker so that's a person who looks back at the past year and says so tonight is a great night to talk about this topic bringing out the best in ourselves because whether you're an person and most of us have someplace in between now's the time to talk about what we should do and how we bring out the best in ourselves and that's something that every person has to do every waking moment every moment that you're alive you have to bring out the best in yourself in your Middle East so I want to share with you a very interesting and if you take a look at it you'll see he has a very interesting infall it is page 74 if you want to look it up and he says that the word you surround which of course means claw Israel you know what it stands for yaish shishim riboi osis there are 600 000 letters in the Toyota 600 000 because we know there were six hundred thousand men that left Metreon now really there were millions of people that left me trying if you consider the women and the children but as far as men are concerned there were 600 000. so every person that left metrium has a letter that's theirs in the Torah yes there were 600 000 men 600 000 letters everyone has a letter in the Torah and all of us all of us who are descendants of those six hundred thousand that letter is ours the letter that our ancestor Adam it's Ryan that's passed down to us so we each have a letter in the safe return that's ours so when I first saw that I thought of three lessons that we could learn from that the first lesson is as follows imagine that you're leaning on Shabbos there's one letter missing in the safetyra now there's hundreds of thousands that are perfect and they're there but there's one letter missing what do you have to do you have to close the secretary you have to take out another one because if one letter is missing that whole safety Torah is flawed and if that's the case to me it means that if there's one yid out there whether he's in Chile in Mexico and Gibraltar or wherever he may be in Muncie and Monroe and Williamsburg on Flappers on in Queens if there's one year out there that's not fulfilling his topic of what a year is supposed to be then it's Akash on all of us kirov is not only for Asia Turner and hashimeno and all the wonderful care of organizations every one of us has relatives that are not from and every one of us has neighbors that are not from and every one of us works with people that are not from and have not yet fulfilled their toughkeep so that's the letter that's missing so then it's Akash on all of us so if one letter is missing and the safer terrorist flawed you can't use it so that's Akasha on all of us if we know yidden that we're not trying to be Makara but not trying to bring out that they should live up to what their potential could be that's one lesson the second lesson in the Torah no two letters can touch no two letters can overlap in other words every letter has its own every letter has its own importance and every person is supposed to look at himself in that way that they have their own importance now when you go to big communities whether it's in Brooklyn Los Angeles Chicago and you're shalayim a person could feel listen baby she doesn't need me look at all these and all these wonderful yiddens that are out there and the turret says no no two people overlap everybody has their own mindset everybody has their own ask office and their own talents so no two people overlap that's the second thing everybody's important and the third lesson to me is the third lesson is it's interesting that in English you have words that are one letter I I go I do I think a a book a microphone a glass of water there's not one word in the whole safetyra that is only one letter and don't tell me how Hashem because that's not really one word but the idea is in other words we can't do it alone every one of us is Hashem needs every single one of us but you can't accomplish alone you need somebody else you need somebody in claw Israel and that's the lesson from the Zoya every year is important if one year out there is not fulfilling a topic it's Akash on all of us every year is important no to overlap everybody has their own mindset and the third thing of course is that we can't do it alone so I want to share with you something that somebody told me on my birthday a number of years ago now I have the greatest birthday in the world because everybody celebrates it it's to be schwat so everybody's happy ontube now somebody called me on my birthday and I want to tell you it made such a Russian on me but the truth is every single one of you and everybody that's watching tonight every one of you can think about yourself in that same way and what the person said to me was the day you were born that was the day Hashem decided that the world can no longer exist without you the day you were born that was the day that Hashem decided the world can no longer exist without you that means each one of us has a tough kid Hashem created us because we're different than anybody else no two people are the same even identical twins no two people are the same so every one of us Hashem needs us and Hashem needs us to fulfill our potential and to bring out the best that we can now I want to tell you something very interesting over the years I had the opportunity to get to know a very special Robinson all of you know her name and that was Robertson s the young guys Allah she was a person that had gone through difficult times in life and she always spoke about the Holocaust she spoke about her grandparents and she spoke about her parents and she was a very accomplished person but what most people don't know is that she relied totally everything that she did she relied on her husband and he was the one who kind of gave her all the advice and all the permission to do all the things that she did so as much as she was a public persona he was private but she relied on him totally and she told me that when he died she thought that's it life is over she cannot exist how in the world is she possibly going to go on without her husband who she was so close to and so dependent on a few weeks after he died his daughter their daughter Mrs sloppy wolf she found a index card in one of his suara she read the card and she brought it to her mother and Robertson young guys told me that she was positive there was no doubt that her husband had left that card that someday she should find it and read it and be able to go on with life so I want to read to you what was on that card and I'm going to repeat it twice wrote on that card was like this a long life is not good enough a good life is long enough a long life is not good enough just because somebody lives 70 80 90 years old and if they accomplish nothing that's not good enough that's not what you came to the world for but a good life is long enough and I tell you that I get tremendous when I hear that expression because my father also I'm pissed away at 47. we're going to talk about these things in a moment about when people die but the idea was that he had an accomplished life and accomplish life for good life is long enough so I want to tell you something that she wrote a book afterwards Robertson young rice and she called it life is a test and in there she wrote as follows based on this card the goodness cannot be measured by the length of our years but how we live those years the goodness is not about what we amass but what we give it's not about having more but being more for in the end our lives are judged not by the businesses or the houses or the portfolios we built but by the lives we touched and made better it's not about the houses and it's not about the money and it's not about the businesses it's about how you affected another yid that's really what it's all about so I'll tell you something very interesting how can we manage to do this you know the second gear rubber the svasemus lived a short life he lived only 58 years old he was born in 1847 and he died in 1905. and at his leviath there was an amazing conversation that took place between his grandson who would be the next gay rabbit the imriamas and the emery Emma's younger brother Robert salil the imray Emma said to his brother at least our father had our so his brother said them what are you talking about means Length of days he didn't live a long time he only lived 58. listen to what he said he said I didn't say that our father has shown him I said our father there's a tremendous difference between no one here and no one watching and no one in the world can guarantee for themselves nobody knows what tomorrow brings but every single one of us can guarantee in our lives having Length of days making Every Day Count we can guarantee and that's what the emery Amos was saying about the swasemus he made everyday County accomplished every single day he accomplished every single day that's why he was okay to have what his grandson called arijasiyama it's true many people don't have arik Hashanah but that's not what life is all about it's not about living to be 90 and 95. it's living the type of life that was a point and I remember that when we went to Mir and I was at his cave I repeated it and every time we go with Morty Melman who takes us to mount Judah and we go in ello you're all invited to come and it's a tremendous his Iris to go we go to our palms and we go to his wife she's buried right next to the second wife and I always tell over what Rabbi rokham said as important as it is to know your faults to know what you have to fix it's even more important to know your mindless to know what you could accomplish again all of us have to know what our faults are to know what we have to fix but it's even more important to know your mindless to know what you could accomplish so I want to share with you a magnificent story we know that today in Claudia there are many many wonderful Yiddish songwriters and perhaps one of the best is a fellow by the name of Abe Rottenberg I happen to be very close to him he grew up in Kew Gardens I was his spearhead leader today he's in Toronto and he wrote a song recently about Roja and he sings it together with shulum lemmer Shelly lemmer and I'm telling you it is literally impossible to listen to that song without crying the song is called the butterfly and he has a line in that song that's worth the whole song itself and the Sun and the line is like this you can fly and you can soar if you'll only open the door you can fly and you can soar if you'll only open the door and what that means is that we all have kishronus we can all be great every one of us here can be great but sometimes we just don't open the door the talent is there but would just let it lay and we don't open the door and therefore you don't soar and I want to give you a beautiful beautiful example a couple years ago I got a call one late night there was a couple on the phone and they started talking and they said we're very frightened I said what are you fighting what's going on and she said the woman started talking she said I'm expecting a baby in two weeks and we're very afraid I said what are you afraid of I mean that's one of the happiest moments in life for a woman that she's able to have a child and then she starts crying and she can't talk anymore and her husband continues he said last year we were also expecting a baby and we went to the hospital Friday afternoon and everybody was positive everything was going to be perfect on Friday night the baby was born not alive it was called the stillborn and we were so devastated we cried a whole night and the doctors were shocked they couldn't believe it they thought everything was perfect the nurses all the doctors that we had throughout the nine months everybody was so positive that everything was going to be perfect and now we're worried that's why we need that it shouldn't happen again now I am positive that I'm not the only one that they called I'm sure that they called other people as well together but I said to them I want to tell you what to do and I'm telling you if you do what I'm about to tell you you'll see in two weeks the baby's gonna be born and everything is going to be fine I said take out your tillums I wanted you to show you something each one take out your own tillum I want you to look at two paroky of Zion if any of you have a sitter or a tillum in front of you you'll see in a moment why I'm referring to that any article sitter has the tillum in the back take a look at kuf Zion and you're going to notice something very very interesting like arrows in the hand of a strong man chained benehan that's what children are all about in other words just like somebody who shoots an arrow he stands here but he shoots the arrow and it goes far and accomplishes far away that's the same thing with children you raise children in one area but then they grow up and they go far and they could accomplish and the next position the heritage of our home is children and then I told them take a look at your wife will be like a fruitful vinegar in the inner chambers of your home your children will be like Olive Sprouts olives are fresh and vibrant throughout the year and your children that's the governor gives your children will be always alive always levitic vibrant and encouraging and wonderful I said both of you every day say both of these foreign don't tell anybody that I told you to do this you just do it and I'm telling you in two weeks you'll see the baby you'll be born and everything's gonna be fine fine two weeks later Anna Mata Shabbos the guy calls me and he says Rabbi Chrome the second he said Rabbi Krone the way he said it you know you could tell when a guy's happy and you knew that was good news and he says we had a baby and it's wonderful we had a little girl now I'm a male I was gonna tell him you should have had a boy but I didn't I didn't say that I controlled myself but whatever but he had a baby girl and of course he was very happy and he was thrilled and it was wonderful and I wish to Mazel Tov and gave him a brochure and all that and I was already holding the phone I was gonna hang up the phone and he says wait Robert Corner got to tell you something I want to tell you a story that I didn't tell you when I spoke to you two weeks ago he said remember I told you that the baby was born not alive Friday night and we cried a whole night and Shabbos morning we were still crying and this was [Music] right outside Deal New Jersey and I knew there was a shawl down the block from the hospital so I said to my wife I want to go Daven it's Shabbos I wanted this morning but by the time I was able to leave the hospital by the time I came to shore it was Korea satella and I walk in he says Imagine This I'm coming from a hospital from such a terrible tragedy and I walk in and Jacob the famous singer who everybody loves he's such a nice guy he just had a baby girl and he's getting an Aliyah and they're singing Cemetery with Mazel Tov and that's what I walk into from that low point in my life I'm walking in and they're singing Cemetery Mazel Tov for this wonderful guy who had a baby girl and they announced that there's going to be a big Kid Ish right after darling and of course I went over to him and I said mazel tov and then by the kiddish I went over to him and I said do you mind if I talk to you privately I just have to talk to you privately after the kiddish and I said yeah for sure I'll wait for you it's no problem so I had to wait until everybody left to shul and we were private he tells me and Jacobi he said I went over to him and I said to him you know my wife asked me that I should ask you a favor we just had a terrible tragedy we thought we were going to have a healthy baby and never the baby passed away baby wasn't born alive and we want to cry we have to get it out of our system and we know that you sing a song Mama Rahul cry would it be okay with you if we came from the hospital and because we're leaving tonight and we'll come to your house and just sing that song so that my wife and I could just cry because we just got to get it out of our system and yaakov truck he said of course of course you should come I'll wait for you whenever you come don't rush I'll be there I just want to read you one of the refrains of the song Mama Rahul cry for us again won't you shed a tear for your dear children if you raise your sweet voice now is then the day will come he said I want you to know that not only did we come to his house after the hospital he sang the song for us and he sang the song rachem which is a famous song that he sings also very moving very compelling tragic song he gave us CDs he spent time with us he gave us he was just incredible you know at that time after I heard the story at that time what I was doing there's a wonderful yeshivan Far Rockaway Rabbi Groner has the Yeshiva and what that Yeshiva does is they send out many many recordings every single day on different topics they send out whatever and Robert grona had asked me that I should make recordings about and so I was doing it three times a week I would tell various stories about and I thought at that moment that would be a great story to tell about yaakov trucky here the Hassan and the Hassan the singer everybody the whole world knows him and here he spends time with a couple he doesn't even know them and this guy you know concerts all over the world and he's taking this talent that He has and he's giving his heart to these people and singing for them for two people who just had a tragedy so I call him up and I say yaakov I happen to know who he is and was somewhat friendly so I said you know I just heard the story that what you did for that couple I would like to tell this story on a recording it says Rabbi Chrome please don't tell the story I said why not he said because you know why I do these things because like this I'll guess but I'm afraid that if you tell the story I'm gonna get less higher I get less rewarded than I thought you were I said I want to tell you something why do you do what you do you're not the first one to do this there are singers older than you have been doing it for years these guys they go to hospitals they go to homes with their children that are never incapacitated and challenged and they go and they think that you learned it from them if you let me tell the story and eventually write the story people will learn from you and you'll get much more scarred in the oil it says about my clone you really believe that I said of course I believe it he said okay you could tell the story and that's why I'm telling the story and that's why I wrote the story in a book called the glittering world of Hassan he is a man he could fly and he could soar you know why because he opened the door he opened the door to this couple what would other people say look I'm busy you know this is his talent town I don't have to tell you what he gets paid insert and your shall I am all over the world wherever he goes and here's it's a broken a couple and he's singing for them with his heart that's what greatness is that's bringing out the best and I'll tell you something that is so important is disregard public opinion if you feel that you have an idea or if you feel that you have a talent don't listen to somebody who says Nah you're never going to be successful you'll never make it it'll never happen you know why because if you listen and you'll believe people who tell you that you won't accomplish something you know something you won't accomplish it if you believe in yourself that you could accomplish it you're going to accomplish it but if you believe people who say you're not gonna make it don't listen to your brother-in-law to your sister-in-law who you haven't spoken to in eight months and when they tell you now your idea is nothing because all of us have heard ideas that was so good and people did something with them and we think you know I could have thought of that or I did think of that but I didn't act on it and so you can't be worried about what other people think if you believe that you could accomplish something you should go out and just accomplish it now just by a raise of hands and of course on the video that's being taken tonight most people won't be able to see how many raised hands but I'm just curious because I want to tell you a great story how many people ever heard the name Roger Bannister anybody here ever heard that name Roger Bannister one person oh two people okay oh somebody down there a couple right okay fine let me tell you who Roger Bannister was Roger Bannister was a medical student in London a grayish fellow a bright guy he became a very good doctor but on May 6 1954 he was the first one Sensations he may voracious who ran the mile in less than four minutes he ran the mile and three minutes and 59.4 seconds and the World Went Crazy no one ever what maybe not totally in the title because the Tiger tells us that he could run fast on the show I'm sure that he could run the mile in less than four minutes but nobody had ever run the mile in less than four minutes and the world went meshugan every athlete every paper all over the world they were writing who could believe that some human being could run the mile in less than four minutes now hold on to your seat belts because you're not going to believe what I'm about to tell you within the next year within the next year 37 people ran the mile in less than four minutes how could that be nobody ever did it before but then hey wait a second if this medical student in London could do it maybe I could also do it and not only that within the next year after that a hundred people did it today thousands have done it why how did that happen because people like Wheaties I don't think so because people believe they can do it and if you believed you could do it you could do it Roger Bannister believes he could do it and then those 37 people in the next year they felt hey if he could do it I could do it and they did it so I want to tell you a great story and I've told this story many times but I love this story when I was in the ninth grade and served with us I had a teacher that we loved his name was Jaime noser he taught us English literature one night I was in the ninth grade my mother came for PTA to find out how wonderful or how not wonderful her son is okay and this time and ozer you know he spoke to my mother and then among other things my mother's never knew where he got this from or what I still didn't understand it he said to my mother Mrs cron your son is a good writer but he's never going to write a book no in the ninth grade my mother was not thinking that I would be writing books I mean we both loved writing and that she was the one who taught me all you know about writing and then she said to Mr Olsen why do you say my son won't write a book nah he's too religious nobody's ever going to read what he writes okay fine now I guarantee you that by the time the next mother walked in for PTA he surely forgot what he told my mother but my mother didn't forget she came home and told me and I surely didn't forget and almost 25 years later when the market speaks came out I went looking for Mr Rosa I wanted to see is this guy still alive the guy who said I could never write a book or I wouldn't write a book and sure enough I found out that he was the head in hafter in Long Island a modern day school he's the head of the English Department and I decided I'm gonna call him I call him up I said Mr Jose remember you you taught interval that's many years ago oh yeah it's some very good years there I said my name is you remember me he said uh I think I might remember I said you know I have a gift for you you said it after 25 years you have a gift to me I said yeah when can I bring it you could bring it tomorrow fine I drive out to Nassau County I come to this big office he's sitting behind this big desk head of the English Department I show my own graduation book those of you who want to start with us remember we used to write the scroll that was the graduation book I showed him the letter and how handsome he was when he wrote us a letter I said I want to tell you a little story I know you're not going to remember this so believe this but in the ninth grade you once told my mother in PTA that I would never write a book I just want to show you I just wrote a book for a company called on scroll has 95 short stories I'd like to give it to you and I'm going to autograph it for you well the guy went crazy he could not believe it he comes out of his desk he puts his arm around he says come with me takes me into one of his classes he says boys I want to show you a former student of mine he just wrote a book and I taught him how to write [Music] let him think that he taught me how to write but the point is imagine if when I first sat down to write that book and I was writing the first story and I would think this is crazy I'm going to write a book my favorite teacher Mr Jose said I can write a book so what am I wasting my time that would have been horrendous first of all none of the books would have ever been done and the truth is all the speeches came only because of the books because somebody figured I think I could write a story maybe you could tell a story and that's how it all got started okay of course run but but the idea is you can't believe someone who says you're not going to do something if you believe you can do it you're going to do it and if you don't believe you're not gonna do it and that's what you learned from Roger Bannister don't ever give up you have a talent we all have talent every single one of you here tonight and listening men women and children every one of us they're able to created us to accomplish something there are many many accomplished people in this room tonight many people have done wonderful things and the many people who still have what to do they haven't fulfilled their tafka yet and Now's the Time Now's the Time they should put you in this world for a reason not for what you could do for yourself but what you could do for others and I'll tell you a great story about somebody from Williamsburg he told me the story himself should never for slimy as an older person already his name is Herschel Weber must be close to 90. that's right listen to this what he told me he told me he was learning in a Carlo on Ross Street in Williamsburg and he was walking down the stairs from the Carlo it was going home for lunch and suddenly he sees a man walking on the sidewalk and the guy says I have a pain and the guy collapses and he falls on the floor and Herschel told me he ran over to him to try to comfort him try to help him but he was not a doctor and he tried to call an ambulance doctor somebody whatever and he told me he was standing by this guy he saw the guy turn from white turned blue turned red and he dropped dead right in front of him and then when the police came he overheard one officer say to the other if we would have got here five minutes ago we could have saved him and he told me he felt so bad that he decided and I want to mention those two other people to be as close for them Herschel cough and a fellow airlish glance gets one had a bakery the other had a cleaning store and they were able to get out if an emergency happened they all took first aid they all learned CPR and they got little oxygen tanks little oxygen tanks and anytime there was a emergency in Williamsburg then they said call Herschel Weber so I just want to tell you something that I've never said before in public because I just found out about it I heard about it twice this week this past week and most of you will know this name it's incredible he wanted to get a small oxygen thing so he went to Park Surgical in Borough Park many of us know that store and the guy behind the counter he never saw Herschel Weber and he wants to buy an accident a little oxygen tank he says you know cost money he said how much does it cost but he he had only half the money he said I can't sell it to you he said no but I'm trying to save lives he said yeah but I don't know you you're like well you know how could I I don't know you I'm sorry and just then you sure all left what's happened to walk into the store and you show up for what sees the owner of the store is arguing with this guy he says what's going on so how's your weather says I'm trying to buy an oxygen tank so I could help people and the guy won't sell to me because I don't have the money he says how much is it he says well I only have half and you saw love quotes gave him the other half and he talked that's that's where the first oxygen tank came from from Hershey Weber now listen to this a couple weeks later he tells me that there was an 80 year old woman that was sleeping at night she wakes up in the morning and she wants to talk to her husband he's not responding so she shakes him and he doesn't move and she realizes oh my gosh he's dead he must have died in his sleep and she runs to the front window she's yelling somebody help I think my husband died and a whole crowd gathers and somebody says get her shall Weber and eventually he comes running with his little oxygen tank and he comes upstairs and he told me he saw the guy was died five hours ago there's nothing to do by now there was a big crowd outside listen to this it's hard to believe this he told me he was sitting with the almana trying to comfort her and then as he walks downstairs he hears one year to say to the other foreign you see that Herschel he killed him he told me he was so hurt he could not how could he'd say that about him how could he said about anybody of course he understood what they meant he realized that the guy probably thought that they called Herschel Weber to be a doctor and he's not really a doctor so he couldn't save the guy he should have called the doctor right away and not try to help but of course it was too late by the time he got there he told me he could not stop crying and the next day he went to the satma rebel listen to this and the South America he says to the South America he says you know I believe that we should have an organization that in case there's a medical emergency that there should be a group of people that will be able to help and the rebel says bring me a shower chuva could you imagine and those of you who are taking notes write this down and look it up you will not believe it and the Shari chuva Shar gimmel ice listen to what it says it's good and properly is because to be intelligent volunteers they should be ready and prepared that was the language and that's the language of the Helga Reba start the organization and call it at Salah every one of us in those people that were helped ayat Salah some of us even though people whose lives were saved by at Salah how did it start one guy one guy he opened the door he could fly and he could soar and he opened the door what happens if you walk tonight on Avenue J you saw somebody die you'd have nightmares you talk about us for three days and then you'd go on with life that's not what Hashem ever did has you ever went and learned first aid he got two guys with him and he got a tank and then Davis just said you know something Herschel you're the man you cared and I'm gonna give you this horse of ourselves and flushes of thousands around the world fly and you could soar if you'll only open the door jakov cheki opened the door to that couple the satma Reba opened the door and Herschel Webb opened the door to the South River's house and that's how things happened you can't just sit back and let life pass you by that's not what life is all about just to have a real Hashanah that's not what David should have brought you in this world for every one of us has to think what am I doing for other people in claw Israel that's how you bring out your best look into your heart every one of us has talent I don't have to be like you you don't have to be like me and both of us don't have to be like him I mean he's not here now so we can talk about him I'm sure he would blush like anything think about Allah this is he's been doing shioram what 20 years right how many years has he been doing closer to 30. how old is he today he's probably 40. so he's doing it since he's 10. right he was a young kid when he started making the shioram I couldn't believe it and Flatbush and Williamsburg in summer and winter and daytime hollamide and then he starts in all countries in all cities he was in his 20s and Margaret's Terror like that it's unbelievable he was a guy who felt he had an idea and he went and he did it then he changed the world that's absolutely incredible and that's what we have to learn from you cannot be shy we each have talents and one day we're going to be Monday which is going to ask us what'd you do in this world what did you accomplish so you became a millionaire but what'd you do with it it's not only about you it's what you do for other people I want to tell you about two people who changed our lives and you might not realize that they were public school kids I'm very close to both of them their names are shimen and Ruben koyakov they started torahanytime.com now today torahanytime.com is a household word last year over 12 million 12 million hours were learned throughout the world because of these two guys let me tell you how they started they buharian boys they came to America they were in public school they were in public school and you know there's a wonderful organization called Jeb and what Jeb does is they go into the public schools and they have classes that they give to these kids they take them out for an hour or whatever of Chris and they're able to teach them some Toyota so whoever it was in Japan those years and Forest Hills he comes into Forest Hills High School and he sees two kids he finds out that they're Jewish koyakov he says would you like to hear some Torah there's a rabbi gonna give a lecture now we're not interested no they're serving pizza oh Pizza okay we'll go so they went whoever that Rabbi was I don't know who he was he should become benched forever but he inspired them that they decided next week if they serve pizza again they're going to come and they started coming every week they came to that Jeb class I'm sure in the beginning they didn't have yamakas obviously and they came and then Sherman told me that he decided you know I really want to review what this Rabbi says so he had a little cassette tape recorder and he started recording and then he said you know I'm going to send this out to some of my friends this is good stuff my friends are not religious you know they should hear about this and then he started taking a little video camera and he started videoing different people that were giving lectures and one day he comes over to me we were out of shabbaton it's higher Wallace down made a shabbaton I have to be one of the speakers there and they were there not as a speaker they were just listening with their parents I still remember on Shabbos he comes over to me and he says Rubicon would you mind you know there's a lot of people that are becoming speakers these days would you mind if we came and videoed you and then we would send it out to other places I said well come with God of you of course you get video he says you think it'll work you know we want to send it out to a lot of I said of course it'll work he says but everybody's telling us that there's no way we can do it I said don't be ridiculous time Heritage Foundation he did he makes these recordings and um tens of thousands of people see it every tissue above we have over here right Mr Einstein all right doesn't your son uh Hofstra doesn't your son make recordings also on the parasian he sends him out so here these two guys from public school and they send it out all over the world now if I speak no matter where I speak and if they're recording it by the next day it's across the universe and today you could follow anybody there are so many great speakers on that program of Torah any time and if you don't use the internet they have a telephone access number a telephone you can hear it on Telephone you'd have to have the internet people are asking to relief that I mean it's unbelievable who's on there men women tremendous tremendous anybody can listen literally men and women to public school kids if they could do it what should we say about ourselves and I'll tell you another person that changed all our lives that you might even not realize I remember when I was in Camp I'll go to many many years ago so there was a fellow there was a great artist he was a lefty and every year they wanted him to be the artist on color wall because nobody could draw a banner as good as mayor's lodowitz he was a great artist and what happened was he had a friend in Camp also a wild guy just like him mayor Vogel these two Mayors were inseparable and then they went on after Camp they went to yeshivas or whatever eventually they both got married Fogle was married a short time he had a massive heart attack and he died never had any children and in 1976 mayor's Lotto was decided that he wants to write a parish on McGillis Esther and he'll do it his friend mayor Vogel and give it out to people and like this they'll be able to learn on Purim about mcgilla says there he'll make a nice commentary and like this it'll be his friends in the Sharma but before he gave it out he wanted to ask people if it was really worthy of giving out so he showed it throughout David Cohen surrounded you can't give this out it's fabulous you gotta print it the whole world has to see this he said what do you mean printed I'm not a printer feldom is a printer he said you have a company he said yeah what's your company well I do artwork so it's called Art and I drew a manuscript so it's called scroll on scroll so he said print it on the art scroll and that's how odd squirrel started tonight when you go home take a look at the mcgilla sister you'll see this story right in the beginning in 1976 when mayor vocal passed away one man is there anybody here if any yid in the world that speaks English that doesn't have an odd scroll safer a sitter everybody's got something right one man May aslanowitz and then he got another Sherman to write an overview and they changed the world I remember a number of years ago I had a certain problem I went through a mayor I want to have nothing Sherman I asked him to Daven for me he said you're asking me I said you have nothing is there a bigger my researcher than Odd Squad in this universe all over the world wherever you go one guy two guys I think Dr Sherman was born in Newark New Jersey we're not talking about salmania we're not talking we're not talking about Maisha we're talking about two American boys who had a talent and went with it and that's what we have to think about tonight on Australia shallow the Apes should have been shoe don't sit back you know I once heard a great thing that the word creation and the word reaction write it down you'll see out the same letters creation and reaction every one of us in life has to decide are you a person of reaction are you a person of creation most of us are reaction we let everybody else do the work and then we respond you can't be that way you got a person you got to be a person of creation think about it take a walk with yourself talk to yourself and think about what talent did they wish to give you that you could do something for other people and how do you do it I'll tell you one of the ways hang around good accomplished people don't hang around these people that are eating beef jerkies in McAllen don't hang around these I don't want to say what because I'm in a basement these people who go to kiddish clubs on Chavez Club Dr Sherman and those shoes that they have a Kiddush club before that for children that's what that's what jewel is you go drink before Muslim you got to be out of your mind you got to be out of your mind to do it and you got to be even crazier to do it in front of your kids what do you think your kids are going to be like that's not what these those are not the friends that you should have you should have friends that accomplish things you should have friends that give you encouragement friends that build you friends that think that you could accomplish and I'll tell you something amazing something that wrote to atonement and one of the letters number 128 and he writes like this there's a mistaken tendency to focus on how great to our leaders in their mature years in doing so we skip the years of struggle to become great as if they emerged from birth as accomplished scholars in satikim an English expression you lose the battle but you win the war surely you're gonna fail and you have failed but I assure you you will you will emerge with the crown of Victory on your head remember Sherman writes in a book that Oscar printed on Bar Mitzvah failure is not the enemy of success it's the prerequisite great people were not born they were made they made themselves great through desire and effort and by failing by learning from their failures and refusing to submit to them we have somebody here I don't want to embarrass him who went through a difficult difficult time and lost the business that was successful because for whatever reason other people got involved and people thought it's the end and just the opposite the failure of that business led him to the great success that he is today and the fjg he had a different business but look what he accomplished who doesn't read the fjju teaches history it's entertaining and people love it and this is a person who could have given up because he had a success before but then it failed but that failure brought tremendous success don't worry if you fail you just keep on going and that's how you become great let's review very quickly and we'll end with a great thought from our footner and a great story let's remember what we said even if a person had a great year you got to go higher the year was not so great as far as our rooknis so we have to try to improve but tonight is the night to improve and as we said we remember our princes all these great people who we lost this past year we have to realize nobody lives forever and it's not a question of it's a question about trying to accomplish if one letter is missing Israel yes one letter is missing the whole Clause Israel is flawed there's no overlap each one of us is special but we can't do it alone we need somebody else and as we said the emery Emma said about this he may not have had shown him but he had a real Hashem and we could all strive for that you can strive you can fly and you can soar if you'll only open the doors yaakov troiki did as Roger Bannister he didn't believe anybody when they said he can't run the mile in less than four minutes he did it and within a year 37 other people did it then next year 100 people did it because they believed in themselves let's remember Herschel Weber when he saw somebody die and what happened look he helped start at solo through the South America because David she gave him this horse Allah the young men in his twenties sure of all around the world because he believed in himself and he believes in himself in simple days as well deserves tremendous credit for everything that they do shiman removing kolyakov telleranytime.com we may not accomplish something on their scale but we could accomplish on our own scales hang around good people don't be worried about failing and just remember this fabulous fabulous word for our footner once said the message tells us B says Adam so what does that mean any child if you tell them the word moi tell them to mix around the letters they'll come up with Autumn what's the move on here everything in life can be measured the distance from here to the Sun can be measured the distance from here to the bottom of the ocean can be measured the only thing that can't be measured is the potential in man Adam is you could accomplish anything if you believe it and if you believe it you'll be able to accomplish it I just want to end with this story now I may have told the story I'm sure that some of you know it but it is such a great story and it is literally a life-changing story a number of years ago in Lakewood they decided that they're going to close the hadoram a few days before the yantev of pesach so like this the young webbies will be able to help the wives preparing for yantef it's a couple days before yantev and a fifth grade web he comes in to the kitchen he says to his wife is there any way that I can help you she says you want to help he says yeah I'll do whatever you say he says you look Hashem we have six children if you could take the kids out of the house for four hours you know I'll be able to bake cook and clean it'll be wonderful and he's thinking what's he gonna do with the kids for four hours in Lakewood but he realizes that Newark Airport is an hour away so he figures he's going to go to Newark airport it's an hour one way he'll come back an hour back so at least you know that's two hours he goes to Newark Airport and he remembers that there's such a thing called an air train an air train goes from terminal to terminal I'm telling you the airport's a monstrous I was in a number of countries this week Spain Gibraltar Morocco Canada whatever the airport's a monstrous so you have to go by train from one terminal to the other you land in Delta you got to go to the United or to American whatever so these kids were never in an airport they were never on an air train and they're going from terminal to terminal and on in Newark it goes near the runway you can see the planes taking off and Landing it goes over the Jersey Turnpike kids are having a ball after two hours a pilot gets on spiffy looking guy with a uniform and a tie and a cap or whatever and these Pilots most of them are wonderful wonderful guys and he sees a father with six kids he goes over to one of the kids he says uh we're all flying today he didn't know what to say were they flying says look at the father and the father says to the pilot well we'll actually find nowhere it says nowhere it says you see we're Jewish and we have a religious holiday that's coming up and it's very busy so my wife asked me if I could take care of the kids and we're just having a great time together on this air train we're just having a wonderful time together and the pilot got very serious and he said young man I want to tell you something he said I've been a Pilots for 25 years there's not a major airport in the world that I haven't landed in two years ago I got a text from my son he said dad you're always so busy you never have time you never came to any of my birthday parties you didn't even come to my graduation and last week you didn't even have the decency to come to my son your first grandson's birthday party do me a favor take my number out of your contacts and then he said two weeks later I got the same text from my daughter he said young man I have flown everywhere but obviously gone nowhere you told me you're flying nowhere but with your kids you're going everywhere and that's the final lesson tonight see your grandfather brings his grandchildren here that's where it's all about the future of claw Israel are your children no matter what you're involved in there's nothing more important than your children and grandchildren that's how you bring out the best in your family because if you don't bring out the best in your kids somebody else is going to if you don't validate your kids and spend time with them somebody else will I remember I once wonderful and I asked them I said I have the opportunity to speak about Hindu what should I tell parents he said tell every parent there's two things they got to give their children time and love time and love and my son of ramzelik was this so he asked he said how much time do I have to give my kids said the classic answer he said as much as they need and that's what we have to do make sure you have shackles with your children and grandchildren before it's too late and bring out the best in yourselves and the rest in your families and if we could do that this is able to have this thank you for inviting me and thank you for listening [Music] thank you [Music] thank you same here you can share your entire month is busting like a big ass throwback Chrome for the inspiring Joshua well basically one way you could bring out the best in yourself and in others is by sponsoring a share even sure Tara putting an ad in the dinner Journal an occasionally ignition retires annual dinner next Wednesday worldwide throughout the year call eagleshire Terrace 718-851-8651 or email ISD yeshivanat.com to Anonymous for sponsoring tonight for sponsoring tonight's year I should cast everyone for coming soon