Iggeres HaGra #9 - What To Occupy Oneself With On Shabbos

this torah class is brought to you by torahanytime.com okay good afternoon everyone welcome to uh tonight's edition i think it to this is the ninth share on the beer on the igaras hagra and the busy night tonight 7 45 there is a sheer on the news safer of mayor actually it's uh very much on this week's parasha about hayakov avinu by uh saving a sub um was actually trying to rescue ramayana then 8 30 is the regular pasture share very good stuff and then tomorrow of course at 2 30 is the shimru uh wikiho hoshabes so the grudge just was discussing the importance of being careful with every single word that we say and even greeting someone on shabbos ghazal have to sort of bend over backwards and try to find a heter to greet somebody and say good shabbos to them because the sanctity of shabbos is so great so because of its intense kedusha it's difficult for ghazal to find even a heter to wish somebody good shabbos but beyond that the gross said don't speak uh matters that are not very needed then the girl says you should honor the shabbos greatly as you did before me now this is a very important word the guru is saying you should honor the shabbos as you did in when i was present the reason why the guru adds this word is um he's telling his family if you don't continue to honor the shabbos then it comes out that all that all the past kavo that you extended to shabbos you weren't honoring shabbos you were honoring me and now that i'm not here so you're not honoring the shabbos anymore so not only are you are you a lacking in the midst of kabul chavez but retroactively you're demonstrating that all the covenant you showed in the past was not uh significant says the graveyard sam sim cloud do not be stingy at all because all of a person's food is set from rosh hashanah until yom kippur meaning the paranoise that a person makes is established at the beginning of the year let's say says okay you can make a hundred thousand dollars two hundred thousand dollars five hundred thousand dollars however as we know the government says except for what you spend on shabbos or what you spend on yamcha so if you spend more on shabbos or you spend more on yamdiff you're not going to be losing out so it's a win-win you spend more on shabbos you have better delicacies on shabbos and you don't lose out because all of one's missoi noise are set besides what one spends shabbos yamtif by the way that includes for one's children and also rev goldberg has a suffix whether one would be required to honor the shabbos shame shamayim for one to be zoicha that this doesn't come off the heisman or even if somebody is honoring the shabbos uh not specifically the shame shamayim let's say someone just wants to eat expensive steak and that's the reason they're buying an expensive steak does that also not come off the heisman okay it's interesting um shyla the rob goldberg code saddarasaliyahu by the way a common question i i get is which uh which safer is rav goldberg's edition so the um it's called igaras hamosur it has a number of letters in here including the igara the garrosh hagra and the gara saranban and the parish is called bayou khajban okay now comes the gra and this is a very powerful word he says the gambasi levakis i've also come to request of you very very much in a very great and powerful request uh extended meaning i'm really asking you the growth is really laying it out for this request please guide your daughters i ask of you please guide your daughters very much do not let out of their mouth cursing a curse or an oath or falsehood or macholicas i believe the shlock writes it's interesting goldberg quotes a different schla but the writes more than anything else a parent should try to train their children more than making brachos with kavanaugh more than not wasting time the most important thing a parent should teach this child is the media of ms so he's begging his uh wife please do not allow anything to come out of our daughter's mouth that's a curse that's an oath that is false that is fighting barack obama everything should be with peace but with love of akhiba with endearment venajas gently now this is a very important thing the gross says how should one spend shabbos there is a uh a new minogue in among the jewish people which really needs to be uh examined very carefully and that is some people mistakenly think that the purpose of shabbos is to read misbaha magazine and then read ami magazine and then read the yated and then read the hamodiya and then read the queen's jewish link and then read the five towns jewish times and then the jewish home and then the flatbush jewish journal and i'm not sure what they're reading in london but i'm sure they have the equivalent over there and i know mashabacha makes it over there for sure however the grass says that what should one do on shabbos the hine yeshli kama sifre musa i have many muslim in my closet on my shelf imlashan ashkenaz and don't say you don't read hebrew because i have them translated into german or whatever language you need yikra tamid you should always read them so the girl is telling his family you should always learn mostly interesting we know that says in his hakadama that things which are well known are more com frequently forgotten and the benefit that comes from learning musur is not from an occasional study of mostar but rather from the regular study of mosur and the regular review but the grass says the koshikain bashabbas kodesh kadasha certainly on the holy of holy days shabbos frey moser you should not be engaged only with moser farah ming what should you do on shabbos only learn mostar i'm assuming you could learn other things he's talking to his daughters he talked to his wife a man um of course learns other things as well but everybody has to learn suffering on shabbos and only suffering muslim viene tid rahim you should always train them foreign now i believe that the netsif would so to speak allow himself to look at a newspaper on shabbos but only after he finished his uh quota of what he felt he was supposed to learn so i think it's probably a good idea that after the meal friday night or shabbos day one bef obviously you know luffy madre goseinu we need to rest and we need to relax but we should also make sure to use shabbos for its intended purpose so we should have a sort of uh a uh responsibility okay you know other things that i want to look at me you know nothing inappropriate of course but venice owning shabbos but after i learn what i've deemed that i'm able to or what i should or could and then then first of all this way you ensure you use shabbos for its intended purpose and you'll enjoy it will be much more inexhabs when you sort of use it as a treat for yourself when you when you've completed your quota now the growth says something uh that i don't want to get into that much right now the grass says for a curse for an oath for falsehood takaya isam you need to hit them the light don't have any mercy on them if the children violate these things it seems like from the gra the cursing and oaths and falsehood are the you know the worst of the worst even though in the uh evan schlemmer of the guerra of goldberg points out uh it's he mentions this kind of repercussion for any infraction but here the guru is focusing on klala shvua khazov the grass says you should hit them and not have any mercy on them at all now we can i cannot in good conscience give this advice i believe it's illegal in the united states of america and i see at least two other countries here that i know about but i believe it's illegal in the united states america uh we'll leave it at that whatever my personal opinion is um however revolby writes in a safer that sometimes the right word is uh yesh daiker kumar karasharev there are words one could use which are impactful like a slap however therapists or psychologists may say that actually verbal abuse could be much more harmful than physical abuse so one has to always be careful that they don't use the words as a replacement for physical they could end up doing more damage than um than helping the truth is uh we're dealing with a very very weak generation and uh aside from the legalities of it most children today are not really capable of receiving physical uh punishment and being able to recover from it in a healthy way that's just the reality today so therefore it requires great chakra to know how to properly instruct the child i will say that rabshach writes that nowadays that the parent sort of admin gives over the child to the yeshiva and the yeshiva is teaching tairan supposed to be teaching some darkhearts today it's the primary job of the parent to shower a child with love and more love and after that even more love and if in that context a parent is able to offer instruction uh that's the only context that the instruction will be effective but uh for a more in-depth discussion on corporal corporal punishment uh that's beyond today's share but um i think what we could take out of it is how the gra is instructing his family to spend their time on shabbos that it's not a it's not a time to waste time it's not an occasional hazard to waste time but one should use it for self-improvement which is uh mostly accomplished by learning sifrei mussar and if the guru felt his family needed to learn most sir then probably we do as well okay rabbi say tomorrow 2 30. there's no uh there's no igarasagara tomorrow tomorrow it's 2 30 al hashabas 7 45 tonight on el cademiere 8 30 on the power shot and all the details are on the new website rabbi dg.com okay good to see everyone thanks evan for joining have a great night carltov you've just experienced another torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com