Iggeres HaGra #8 - The Ideal Realm For a Women & Why

this torah class is brought to you by torahanytime.com okay ah good afternoon everyone shameless uh thanks for joining today we're continuing in the guerras hagra wanna remind everyone you could catch the shir on tarani time and uh now on podcast as well we're continuing in the igarasagara the garage just mentioned how careful one has to be even from dvaram battalion and varamiya saram and all the more so la shanhara late saunas and so on and so forth that there are repercussions of very serious repercussions for uh not just for for these types of isurim so now they're actually what's interesting is two gersais in the igarasagara the typical gersa is the khoil ashar you should take through a messenger he's talking to his wife and he's basically telling his wife that the ideal for a woman should be in the most modest situation as possible namely in the home and ideally in the you know in a laboratory in the perfect world the woman should be called panima shouldn't should avoid leaving the home there are no two ways about it that is what the grass says now uh the reason for that is outsmarters neos i mean we find by sarah where the malachim asked abraham you know aye sorry and abram responded and rashi says this was a way of endearing sarah to abraham by allowing him to articulate that sorrow was where she should have been namely boyal and one would think that the reason for this conduct is for modesty this way a woman is out of the limelight and she's not causing people to pay unnecessary attention to her and cause people to have improper taivo so to speak so the gross saying to his wife basically try not to leave your house go for uber uber eats uber delivery deliver all the grocery stores deliver i it's more expensive says the grah the afm forget about if it's ten percent even if it's three times the price in other words you could go out and pay a hundred bucks for your shabbos order you know or you could pay 300 you know or instead of spending 250 for your shabbos order it's going to cost you 750 dollars to deliver it it's kadai it's worth it what hashem doesn't have money hashem is limited in his resources is god's hand short meaning this god lacking the funding so the rebel shame gives you 250 thousand dollars so i'll give you 750 000 so what what's the difference your banishment has unlimited funds hachem is to the eggs of the lice so supports the whole world so he'll give you extra money and you'll be able to stay indoors god provides every person what they need so part of what a person need a woman needs is not to have to leave the house so i it's more expensive it's 10 more it's 20 more it's three times the price doesn't matter the gra is a big proponent of uber eats or delivery now that's our gear solid ground now again uh obviously this seems to many it to be uh la nala fee dargo or major gaseno this would seem to be very difficult to sort of adhere to and abide by in our times when it's commonplace and it's normative for a woman to be out and about just like anybody else but you know just to get sort of a reality check of what the gru's expectation was and where we are today it should cause us to at least to think and re-evaluate uh perhaps certain practices that we have now our there's a gersa of uh what with goldberg calls girasas aram soiva which i also have in my edition where the grass says alkane therefore called food panel therefore it is the honor of every princess to be in the inner sanctum what's the therefore therefore is a very interesting namely because we said it's so important not to speak extra words and certainly not washing because of the last very large paragraph about the important value of every word we say and how it's so important the grass says that one should train themselves as much as possible to be joche to be alone right the guy the girl began the previous paragraph that's the reason why hazal say that for a woman it's honorable to be home why less of a less time in social atmosphere meaning it's not for modesty is not just for modesty it's to limit conversation that's the reason to be in the house there's less conversation which is a quite an interesting reason to uh not to go outdoors whoever thinks you know i'm better off inside because there's less socializing indoors than outdoors but according to this girls of ram soiva this is in fact the reason why it's recommended to be more indoors now the garage continuation in the next paragraph sort of bears this out because paragraph a talks about excessive speaking and especially latin horror but even varm paragraph c talks about being careful what with what one says we're going to see on shabbos and yamtif and what paragraph b is just about modesty where does that come in that would seem to indicate and support the gerusa of aram soiva that this is a continuation of the importance of limiting uh opportunities for social uh for socializing the guru continues don't say anything that's not very needed meaning we just said before one has to be so careful not to say extra words but on shabbos and yamtif if you don't need to say it don't say it so even this seems like well above our madrega but again it should give us a little bit of a reality check of what the the ideal expectation is even things you have to say to katsumoid do it as concise as as possible kedusha shabbos the sanctity of shabbos is very great uvikoshi and with great difficulty have hazal given a dispensation and a license to say to somebody the following one word shalom meaning to say to someone shalom on shabbos it needs a big header it's a very swara heter very difficult to give such a hetero to say hello to someone on shabbos look in what with one word how strict khazalar by the way this is a reference to this says that one speech on shabbos should not be like one speech during the week twice as quotes that there's a matter of the rajbi had an old mother an elderly grandmother and she was talking a lot so the rashmi said mama it's shabbos today she closed her mouth so we see says taisus that one should not speak on shabbat as much as during the week interesting who even thinks about that whoever said you know this shabbos did i speak as much as i did on tuesday who who would even give such a husband to says one should speak less on shabbos than during the week and then twice's quotes with great bother did they allow one to say shalom so it's again a very big reality check the wave the garage treats speaking in general and how careful one should be not just with lash and hara not just in shul not just during tfila but at all one should have some kind of cognizance that words are something to be utilized when necessary and uh certainly on shabbos and yamcha okay that's the we will pick it up to tomorrow everyone's invited tonight 9 15 for massachusetts on the base tomorrow morning there's a shira at uh 10 30 on and of course the big shirt tomorrow night at 8 30 and um tomorrow again there's 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