If You Are Triggered by Your Child, You Won't Be Able to Help Them

it's a pleasure to have everybody this morning thank you for joining us and of course this morning the class is dedicated to our brothers and sisters in ukraine and our brothers are sisters who have fled ukraine and have become refugees overnight or are fleeing ukraine may hashem protect all of them also dedicated the class is also dedicated with gratitude hashem for the marriage of our children mindy and sam on tuesday 28 order 15782 march 1 2022 mr beryl jacobowitz and lisa jacobowitz dr israel and connie kaplan jacob bernie jacob would previously jaquenovitz proud parents dedicated also the class by mary nissen and her grandson justin turmount in gratitude thank you so so much to be strong honey kaplan and a big mazel tov and opinion with a lot of nakas from the groom and the bride for many healthy happy and joyous years and also thank you so so much mary and your grandson for the dedication and the gratitude and the generosity so last monday we began a mimer a discourse by the laboratory that was said purim your zion purim 1957 that began on the verse that begins on the verse remember what amalek what the nation of amalek tribe of amalek has done to you and we discussed at length the fascinating and very enigmatic madrish imperique der abbey eliezer about this very strange conversation between the jewish people and maisha rabeno where they challenge him about the mitzvah remarrying a mullig they feel that it does not make sense because there's another mitzvah to remember shabbos and maisha speaks about two cups two beverages a goblet of kunditon and a goblet of vinegar conditioner's delicious fragrant wine kunditon is a talmudic term that represents the most delicious the choicest of wines not just a cup of wine it's a cup of extraordinary wine and vinegar we understand is the antithesis of that and moisture says you're talking about two cups a cup of great water delicious wine and a cup of vinegar they're both cups but they're so different the remembering of amalek is a remembering for penalties the remembering of shabbos is a remembering for sanctity and that's how he answers their question and that ebba says the question doesn't seem to make sense and the answer doesn't seem to reply to the question that was the summation of chapter one you can go back and learn the details and by the way you have the source sheets always on the yoshiva.net where you could follow it inside section second paragraph began to deal with another subject and that is the gemara says in tractate magilla page seven that i'm putting there's an obligation to become inebriated until you don't know the difference between cursed his haman and blessed is martha and of course we can understand the connection with chapter one because a human came from amalek and dariesel explains the great kabbalist dairyzell explains in a section called sharakovanas that the idea is literally that a person should actually become inebriated to the point that they could say blessed is haman not cursed is mardica but blessed is hammer and that's the idea it's not just words i'm so tipsy i'm so drunk that i don't know what i'm saying because i say blessed is helmut i get confused that's on a very superficial level but arizona says that within the clipper within the shell there's a spark of holiness that vivifies it and lights it up but it's eclipsed it needs to be excavated when you say blessed is um on what you want to do dariesel says you bring light to that spark and that's why he says you can only say it after your shikka without kavanagh without premeditated deliberation because if it's done with the liberation then you're going to bring the light to the clippers themselves to the shells themselves and the rebel explain what that is all means is that it's not just don't know the difference in cursed as what would be the greatness in that so you don't know so you're confused so go to sleep the idea is that we're extracting we want to extract a spark that is somewhere buried in hammer that's what the gemara says in messages they were descendants of haman who taught tara publicly they didn't only learn they taught this is the same concept what the quran are trying to say the is trying to say that there's something that comes out even of because everything everybody has a spark but the only way i can identify it is adalayada only if i'm in a state of adelaide which tereb explains means not just i drink it's something much much deeper and harder i go out of my dos i transcend my understanding i transcend my brain i emancipate myself and ascend to a space he says that's higher than das than my limited perception and knowledge and generally of higher than perception of knowledge only then can you extract and sublimate haman spark but if you say baruch if you say blessed is before you reach the state then the light could reach himself not just the holy spark buried inside of hammer that was the summation of chapter two now the question is what does all this mean so if gimble section three begins the explanation for yuvon what would be what would be the the cleveland problem uh what would be the problem who went to homan himself then we may actually be energizing the husk of haman the the negativity the evil dimension of as we will explain so one has to be careful that the light goes to the spark that's buried deep deep inside of hama not himself the exterior identity of haman and as we're going to see this will be explained first of all what does this mean second of all why do you need adela third of all how does this apply to everybody's life like everything there's a concept here that's applicable to every person's life so gimbal the yuva and this will be understood again please open your source sheets we're on page one five fourths gimbal of the mimer zucker you if you're on chat if you're on the zoom you see it on chat there's a link or on the yeshiva.net you can also get a link this will be understood based on what's explained in jerusalem meaning in various discourses various maimaru various expositions of hasidis but philosophy of explaining that pasik and parasha's see i have placed you i have made you an ali kim to paris literally it means i have turned you into a ruler i like him as like a ruler or a master over power operation ashes or ashley explains shayford v roy de bomacas v sure i have conferred upon you the power to be able to judge and to be able to strike and rule over para with macris with plagues and with his certain with agony in other words to distress pirate to force him to force his hands to emancipate the hebrew slaves that's what hashem tells marshall look i have made you and eli kim eli kim doesn't only mean god alaka means a ruler a master of a para shakuni la vida hashem gave a special power to moshe to break the husk the clipper the the shell of parai and to destroy him lavish emotions so it's explained in various my mom that marsha himself was afraid of power can the issa desire this is stated explicitly in desire my boy there's a verse there's a famous passing in the beginning of parish's boy hashem tells maisha boyal para come to paris and desire asks a very simple question she should have said go to paris not come to paris if i am sending somebody on a mission to go to somebody and speak to him communicate a message to him so the term that's used in hebrew is not come to paris go to paralegal come to paris means what i'm going and you come with me like i say let's go let's let's let's come with me to this person's house but hashem was not telling that to him hashem was telling him go to paris i want you to go to paris. so this says why does it say biopara and the answer that azaya gives is that maisha was afraid to go he didn't want to go so if hashem would have said go to para and moshe would have said sorry i'm not going hashem told them come to paris what does it mean i'm not sending you a loan i'm asking you to accompany me it's like you'll tell somebody come with me to paris let's go together to power come to para in other words you're coming to me because i'm going to be there i'm going with you now the question is why would moisture be so scared of confronting pirate remember this is the beginning of parish's boy there was already there were already seven plagues maisha has spoken to this man numerous times he impartial smites why suddenly now is mushroom afraid to go to paris so desire says and the rabbit quotes hashem was asking moisha to go in to the great crocodile there's an expression of yakeskill that the navy haskell that he compares pyre to the great tannin tannin is an alligator or crocodile in the nile in the nile delta you have tremendous tremendous uh tremendously large crocodiles and alligators they're known as the egyptian the egyptian gators egyptian crocodiles it's called tanenhagel and it dwells they live in the nile because the nile was very attractive for many different sea creatures small ones and large ones fish and so forth that's why the entire economy of egypt came from the nile and it's desert there's no rain there so they need a denial for irrigation that's why they used to worship the nile so para is an example of that large powerful gator crack crocodile or or alligator in the nile hashem so that is afraid that's what hashem says and that's a prophecy in ephesians 29 it's the haptic part i god i will come above you para the great crocodile that crouches in his river in the nile hashem himself had to trigger the war against paris at this point the zoya says other times maesha met para outdoors either at the sea at the delta at the river or in other places outdoors or out in the outer chambers of his palace but this was the first time he had to go into para himself into his personal and intimate sanctum into his most private chamber and why she was afraid to go there sashem says i'm coming with you and i'm going to be the one fighting him boy don't go to paris come so that's what hashem tells me i have given you the special power to be a ruler for pyro and to be able to strike him with plagues what does this mean the is that that sadiq that sadhakir is the person who is an ambassador of light of righteousness means literally a righteous a good person a person of siddha a person of justice and of charity the power that that saddiq can have to defeat the ushayam to defeat the wickedness in the world is only when this malice awesome this is as he says in 19 and many madrashima every russia has this ah so ah is a measurement it's a certain volume so after their fills up in other words after their cup fills up that's when they have the ability to be defeated because that's it their power is gone their power now is finished but before their cup is filled their saw their measurement is filled chaos when they're still in their full ferocious strength on this the gemara says the gemara brings the view of ribbit if you see a russia that the hour is playing to him meaning if you see a russia and he's being very successful don't provoke him alt is garbage don't provoke him you have to lay low sha in birch because a person at that time cannot defeat him at such a time it's hashem's power himself to able to defeat such a person that's what the gemara says as he says in footnote 20 brochures of zion and megillah davos tracked it brought his page seven interacted mcgill at page six quoting ribbitz i believe that if you see a russia and the hour is playing to him the time is smiling to him meaning he's on top of the world this is a power that god gave him at the moment it's not going to last forever it's not going to last forever but at this moment don't provoke altis garabay don't you have to you have to be cautious why because this is the time that god gave him power so the rabbit says the kayak that sadiq have to defeat the russia comes at a point when their cup is full in other words they're given a certain amount of power for a certain amount of time and based on who they are at that particular time but then there comes a time that the cup is full in other words their evil their negativity their toxicity reaches a point and then it's all over then they lose everything they lose their power when you see a ferocious and mighty russia doing destructive work it's not going to last forever it's very very painful it's very very difficult to see it but there comes a point that nismala saw somehow say the measure is full and then and then then they're lost then they're finished and before that when they still have that power when their evil has not reached the point that hashem decided this is it their evil has not reached a point their toxicity has not reached a point where they vomit it all out and they vomit themselves all out and they destroy themselves at that point you have to be cautious the gemara says this is very interesting alt is garbage you have to know not to provoke why even at saddaq our sages are saying can't defeat him only hashem himself who gave him the power can defeat him this is generally an observation that our sages make forza shinem and this itself comes from tyra in other words terror itself is saying this to us the turtle itself is saying you should understand that there's moments in life that evil apparently at least at the surface and not only at the surface in some genuine way has the power that god gave it it's not its own power that's why hashem can defeat it but it's part of the process of history on this there's a poster that was set to ef to job this is an eve chapter 40. as you can see in footnote 21 he always has the references to everything so if you ever want to look something up either chapter 40 verses 9 through 12 e of perik mem versus tess through your base so hashem tells io if this is already towards the end of the book eve is of course a book that deals with the question of theodicy why do bad things happen to good people so hashem tells you as follows translation have you an arm like god that's the beginning is an arm do you have an arm that is like god can you thunder with a voice like hashem adeno call gavo vegan duck yourself now i'm sorry deck yourself are they cover yourself bedeck yourself with grandeur and with aloofness clothe yourself in glory and majesty scatter wide your raging anger see every proud arrogant person and bring him down see every haughty narcissistic human being and humble him and bring them down where they stand what does this mean what is he telling you if what he's telling what this means is there's moments that a person not even at sadiq does not have the ability to bring down to defeat the russia the wickedness only hashem himself and that's what he's saying do you have an arm of god do you have the voice of god only god who can guard himself in that level of of grandeur and aloofness or appoint a person as his emissary to do it can then see every arrogant human being wreaking havoc and completely humble him now vahene hatsivoi la maisha leila the commandment to moshe to go to paris came before paris cup was full before the wrath against paris has reached its maximum limit before para has caused so much destruction that his tenure was over should they add marcus until the tenth plague pyro is cup so to speak was not full he still had power shaaza yapari because he had all of his strength marshall he was the superpower he was a ruler of the world um so much on his own was afraid to provoke him to confront him hashem tells him see i have made you a ruler is you should be able to rule over him through plagues and through penalties and through painting him to to to defeat him or levatlyan to obliterate him even when he is in his full strength and ferocious evil power that's a special special novelty because as the gemara says when you see a russia as being successful don't provoke altisgaar there's going to be a point where his cup is going to be full with the toxicity and evil is going to reach a point that he's a goner but until that point that he's gone until they point that he's that he's becomes that he becomes emotionally vulnerable to obliteration god tells eo if only i could do it at that point and that's why moshe is scared because moishe was not asked to go to paris when the game was over when the game was over and the you know the big the the the big shot the rush is really hollow it's a hollow blue and you could puncture it but he was asked to go to pyro when he was still ruling the world which was the most powerful ruler at the time when he was in his full taketh the point didn't reach yet where pyro would already be dethroned spiritually and therefore physically so and maisha felt that martial was afraid moshe was afraid to go to that level and hashem told him i'm giving you my arm i'm not limited i'm giving you my arm the whole power that a power can get is also for masha so i'm giving you my arm and you can go that's why you told me hey i want you to see this i have made you an elite him to power i have made you a ruler even in his full might and strength you can uh you can you can win you don't have to wait till that moment when he's gonna prove to be completely vulnerable and weak and he explains further about pisa yes lavar mashakasa bigamara this will explain what that says in gemara but some at least one of the answers this is gemara brachas page six and megillah page seven i'm sorry broncos page seven i'm gonna give a page six the gemara has a contradiction there there are two different talmudic opinions the first opinion is rabbi yochanan in the name of rip shem and he said you can always provoke a russia never be afraid to confront wickedness and a wicked person in the most ferocious manner you can always provoke a rush and he brings a verse and brings the impostor from michele said as we learned before that you shouldn't provoke a russia if he's successful you shouldn't provoke so the murder gives different answers one is if it's personal or one is if it's to protect the interests of god that's one answer another answer is if you see him being successful or you see him not being success not so successful and the third answer is very interesting it depends what type of tsatik you are that's the last answer of the gemara there's a sadiq who's not a complete sadhik and then there is a complete santa where is this as follows says if you see a russian who's being super successful don't provoke him any other gummer that's only an incomplete sadiq but sounding mutually but if it's a complete sadhik then you then he says you're allowed to provoke even in this world what's the difference is what does it mean to provoke a russia anyway what does that mean what what does it mean to tease him i'll meet something much deeper lavar of course in life our job is always to protect innocent people from destruction that's our job the posix says never stand by idol by the blood of your friend the first and foremost job of the jew is to create a world of goodness and kindness to stand up to evil to stand up to injustice to stand up to corruption to stand up to violence to bloodshed to abuse to lies to falsehood whenever somebody sees it that's the responsibility a person however wants to be effective a person has to be able to appreciate and be sensitive to the dynamics because i don't want to be right i want to be smart yeah and hebrew is an expression right very often people are right but they're not smart you don't only be right you want to be effective so the question is how to do it when to do it now this is a very very delicate balance so the kimura is struggling when can the saddiq provoke a russia what does it mean to provoke russia what does it mean he's garus so he says what it means is that it's something much deeper than we imagined it's to actually take from them the sparks of goodness when they're still in their power because when you take away from them when you take out of them they're positive sparks slowly and they serve so much your members call out so ultimately you extract all the goodness vanishing rack around only the negativity remains then you could defeat them completely because the only thing that is really alive is hashem hashem gives life to every force and every person and every power in the world even evil and even negativity has buried and contained within it consciously or subconsciously some holiness some godliness when you take out the sparks of godliness and only only the negativity remains then it's ultimately lifeless it's like a corpse then you can beat a dead horse what's the expression right a dead horse you can beat because it's dead it's not going to fight you the power of the russia to fight is because even the worst of ra has some spark of godliness there it's corrupted it's distorted it's eclipsed it's but it's there but the moment you extract all the sparks of goodness and now only there are remains so what happens now that sadly can defeat him so the rebels says when the gemara talks about provoking the russia it doesn't just mean standing in front of him they tease hey i can tease you it's much deeper it's actually going and extracting the sparks of goodness from that person from that russia it's taking it all the way taking it out um and hence the gemara is teaching us in this there's a fundamental difference between the complete sadiq and the incomplete santa the explanation is what's the difference between a sadiq gummer and assad shinigam there's two types of sadiq there's what's called a wholesome sadiq and a non-wholesome sonic so the tanya in chapter 10 the balatanya it's all about what's happening inside of us the world on the outside is a reaction to the world on the inside that saddam gomer is somebody that his own ira his own negativity his own brokenness his own toxicity has been completely transformed that's what makes him at santa coma it's not the gum or in tanya doesn't only mean he's a good guy it's a very very deep place of consciousness where all of the parts of the self are now completely unified and integrated there was a seamless flow in the tsa gamma between all parts of self the divine self the rational self the animal self the biological self if you want to use neuroscientific language there's a seamless flow between the prefrontal lobes the limbic brain the amygdala and the divine consciousness they all work seamlessly in the most unified and integrated way so that my amygdala my limbic my prefrontal lobes are all doing their own function based on what god made them to do without overreacting and without hijacking any other part of the person's life depriving us of our ability to live at every moment with fullness with absolute meaning but this is a great great avoider that that sadhu gamma accomplishes to transform all of the ra inside of him to goodness but sadducam or an incomplete sadiq is also called satik osa has full control of his life or her life but as a tanya says there's still some connection with with what's called means close of of excrement or some filth in other words there is still some stuckness going on in the body and the mind of this person yeah and it may not necessarily be conscious he's still holding on to some stuff goddammit means literally filthy clothes and we call them filthy clothes because like clothes they don't constitute the person's essence clothes are something i wear it's not my essence but guatemala means there's still some some dirt in my clothes i'm still holding on to it and as long as i'm holding on to it i don't allow complete transformation complete transformation could only happen when i let go when when i'm still holding on when i still feel dependent on some clothes that are dirty i can allow all the right inside of me to be transformed that's a very very intense idea what it means is that we have to allow for things to be transformed in our lives and the way we allow for things to be transformed in our life is when we let go when i feel that i have to control everything and i feel dependent i feel like a loser i feel like it's like the epitome of addiction where i i become dependent and the reason i become dependent on these things is because i'm not completely aligned with infinity so now i need you and i need this to to to fill the void and these are things that fill the void in ways that are not really going to fill it right so i'm still holding on to stuff that saddened gum gummer let go everything could be transformed that sadik shaina gomer still didn't let go completely he says asia there's something he's still holding on or she's still holding on to some clothes that are that are alien to me so the ra can't be completely completely transformed it was incomplete um because since inside me since inside him his own negativity has not been completely transformed to goodness because he's still holding on to some of the unclean garments so therefore certain things are dangerous for him for him to go into the russia and take out the sparks could be a hazard what may happen is not only will he not be able to extract the sparks but furthermore he could be lured in and he himself can fall in love only the complete saddam that the inside of him or her has been metamorphosized he can go anywhere and he can extract the positive sparks even in the russia during the time that he's successful what the rep is saying here is a very very profound idea in life my relationship with other people always begins with my relationship with myself my relationship with the world outside of me always begins with relation with myself in other words we often talk about how other people become a major obstacle in our lives how other people become a major source of agony or grief in our life now objectively that may seem very true but what he's telling us here is i have to go into myself and see what is happening inside of me the only way you can trigger me the only way you can bring me down is if i am stuck somewhere and that's what the gemara is telling us andreb is explaining so profoundly when we talk about extracting sparks of goodness in every situation even in that situation which seems to be completely alien there's always a condition and the condition is what places can you go into some places are too triggering in today's terminology i'm just using my own words some places some people are too triggering for me to be able to extract the sparks you know what's gonna happen i'm gonna be lured into it and i'm gonna fall not only will i not be able to elevate the sparks of holiness but furthermore i will be schlepped down why because i am still stuck i'm not in a position to be able to be fully fully present without fear i cannot be fully present to be able to take out all the good i just can't and then it's actually dangerous i have to have my boundaries because this person or this situation if i go there because i want to take out the sparks of good what my happiness i may become overwhelmed and instead of me elevating them they will just slap me down so in each person's life we have this distinction between how well did you work through your own stuff this is so important because we often respond to the other when we're really supposed to respond to ourselves so when the gomorrah says do not provoke a russia when he's successful but rashbi says yes provoke him the governor says there's a contradiction depends where you are are you it's sad the gum or it's alex shane and gummer what does this mean it depends what's stuck inside of me what sudden what's stuck inside of you provoking here doesn't just mean teasing provoking means having the ability to go into that space and extract the goodness and when you extract the goodness you leave the russia hollow empty and ultimately when there's only negativity somewhere nothing can survive so taking out the sparks is actually the way to defeat because all ra feeds off tough all negativity feeds off goodness this is a theme that's explained in many swarm of kabbalah and the works for example of the ram khal rabbenu sato the famous ramakhal who has many famous works and jewish mahshav discusses this at length but in manisfar all ra is being fueled by tithe it's getting some oxygen of taif some oxygen of goodness but this is a very very sensitive topic because the ra is powerful the toiv is really fueling it but the toy of the goodness is hidden now i want to come and extract all the good and what's left is only the ra and it can survive and that's the way of defeating him the question is can i really go there so he says the person who's worked out they're not holding on to any toxicity anymore they're not holding on to the unclean garments then they can go to that place and they can find the goodness and extract the goodness and then the russia falls but a person who's not it could be a sakura could be a dangerous not only don't i'm not not successful in extracting the sparks i myself may be defeated you could come in via schleimer this is an this is this was the introduction to start explaining the concept of adelaide the concept of abdullah yadan that the only way i could say blessed is haman is if i go to a place of adelaide as we will see soon in the next class but i want to say this also applies to many other situations like everything that we learn there's the concept the way it's expressed here but the concept applies to many different situations so for example let's say you're dealing with somebody who's difficult in your life when it says here russia you know let's not talk about it only in absolute terms there's a russian there's a wicked evil monster that too but russia here is somebody who's detached from their source they're detached from their divine source and i'm dealing with this person and it's a very difficult challenge it's a difficult relationship there is goodness that i want to extract and when you extract the goodness the raz gone because iraq won't be able to survive anymore but could i do it and the question is do i know how to ignore shells and see what is beneath the shell and the only way i know that is if i do that with myself if i know in my own life to differentiate between my clip and my knit suits then i could do it with other people if i cannot do it in my own life there's no way i'll be able to do it with you that's why you'll see for example parents who have children are struggling and their reaction is completely different what does it depend on it doesn't depend on the child depends on the parent you'll see patients that come to certain therapists and certain therapists are amazingly successful with them others are colossal failures what does it depend on it doesn't depend on the patient depends on the state of consciousness of the therapist the same is true with rabbis and mashpeem and rashi shivas and masjidham and rebus and mothers and fathers and teachers it doesn't always depend on the person that's coming to me depends on my own state of mind do i have the ability to be able to see through the shell and see what's inside and the only way i know the answer to that question is based on what i do with my own life do i have the ability to see through my own clipper my own shell and see what's inside of me if i cannot do that with inside of within with i cannot do that inside of myself there's no way i could do that for you but that's what people need most what people need most is somebody to believe in their kedusha to believe in their holiness to see it even when they themselves don't see it believe in me even when i don't believe in myself i have so many shells and so many layers and so many husks and so many blockages and so many things that are alienating me from me alienating my external me from my real me so now when i'm provoking you and i'm teasing you and i'm doing everything to get you away from me will you have the ability to be able to say i'm not going anywhere i see the goodness and i'm not going to step away and i'm not going to flee the scene and i'm not going to run away i'm going to see your own struggle i'm going to understand your own trauma i'm going to see the conflict inside of you and i'm going to be determined to extract your goodness even when you are denying it i can only react that way if there's a wholesomeness inside of me if i worked through my own stuff because if i didn't work through my own stuff you know what's gonna happen the moment your clipper triggers my clipper i'm lost i'm gone not only won't i won't be able to help you i will now be completely me sugar i will be completely lost in the process i'm going to lose it only when i have worked out my stuff only when i know what i'm holding on to and i let go only when i can identify within myself what's my clipper what's my not clipper only when i see my own premieres and i work through my own toxicity can i then be fully present in your life without blinking without running without fleeing from the scene because your clipper won't trigger my clipper you know why because i have made peace with myself because somehow i worked on myself to the point that at least i'm trying to be aligned with my own penemius so my shell will not be a blockage my shell will not block my light reaching your light but if my shells are not worked through so then my light won't be able to reach your light because my shells are going to block them my clip is going to block them and your clipper might trigger it so deeply that i myself will now turn out in a worse place i will end up in a worse place than i was originally so this is just one way of applying this to our lives that our relationships with other people has so much to do with how much we worked out within ourselves when i come from a place of wholeness which he calls here outside the gummer everything is different when i come from a place of brokenness tadak shaina gamma everything is different so this is the beginning of the explanation of what we're going to come to the next time about the concept of what adelaide means that only then can you say blessed is hammer what does it mean in life to go into a place of adelaide where i could say on purim blessed islam and as thyrizaw says you can only do this when you're drunk which the reb explained doesn't only mean an alcoholic beverage it means a different experience where the person goes beyond das as we will see in the next year which we're going to have hashem on monday morning 7 30. we're going to continue with if dallas in the meantime i'm going to ask you to review what we learned in both of the classes from chapter one through chapter three and then we're going to continue by hashem mondays if dallas see you then 7 30 and i'm going to wish you now a beautiful shabbos and a good haidesh may this month bring for all good people in the world and for all the jewish people only blessings and joy and health and good news and a redemptiveness and emancipation especially for our brothers and sisters in ukraine and for our brothers and sisters everywhere and for good people everywhere may it be a month that we should be able to experience full joy and full redemption good job afraid to everyone the month of transformation the month of purim the month of annapolis when bleak situations were transformed into great situations thank you