If I Was Not Allowed to Be a Child, Can I Ever Grow Up?

whatever sure thank you for being here [Music] oh you know you know nothing good morning bye bye bye and then I I uh yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah um [Music] yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah okay good morning everybody [Music] today's that class is dedicated by one of the pillars of this year our very owner of Israel a clean angle in honor of his birthday today the 23rd day of seven of seven mazel tov happy birthday [Music] your birthday [Music] and thank you very much so we started last week a mimer on the sahram on the libations it's page 82 Lakota page 82. we're holding the second column oh actually the end of the first column in the Hebrew it's page column three in the in the English it's 82. on top it should say schlach the first come is and we're holding close to the bottom of the page as I mentioned last time this was a moment that was said by the balatonya in the winter of toughkov iron Bays the end of 1811 the beginning of 1812. and it deals with the issue of the Nissan the Libations of wine that were brought with the carbonus as we discussed in the beginning of the share last week the beginning of the mimer all the questions that he asked about the structure of Parish and the system of the Libations of the wine and what it meant those were all the questions that he's going to get back to he started to explain the main point that we learned last time was he started to explain that uh the concept of simcha the concept of joy is revealing that which is concealed that's what Joy is joy is when we remove all the blood we remove the blockages that block our our inner Joy a person has inner joy joy doesn't have to be created so I'm like what's going to make me happy things that distract me distractions have to be created distractions you always have to create the covered in my lettuce it's the beginning of the birthday party in a cake [Laughter] [Music] if I'm distracting myself so then every time I have to create another distraction but real simple it's opening up ourselves to that which is already there now that may not be so easy may be buried and you have to do excavations just like they do in archeology and sometimes there's layers and layers and layers but that's how we Define simcha it's a fascinating definition of that it's good this is all begin to explain the concept of wine because all the Libations were done with wine it says in the Tanakh foreign of the concealment then from there in order to explain this more sister volatania said that in everything in the world whose words and everything in the world this is foreign there's the inner core and there's the outer layer but he says those were his words everything in Mathias in other words there's nothing in reality that doesn't have these two layers or these two dimensions and has the polymers of it and he defined what's the difference the definition of the panemius is the way it's connected to its own source the definition of its concern is is the way it becomes a source for others the definition of its primuses the way it is where they put it the way it's vacas foreign receiving the flow and the energy from its own source it's the Vegas its connection it's it's Oneness with its own Ilah Ilah means its own source its own antecedent its own its own um originating progenitor that's the Primus of it is the way it becomes a source of a flow of energy for something outside of it and the two are always dependent on each other because when there is going to be a premius when there's going to be a real connection with the source then is the way it becomes projective projected to others is going to be completely different they'll be with a different wholesomeness this is the premieres because this is out this is the inside of it what it is and as I gave the metaphor last time you see it constantly you could see it in parenting you could see it in education you could see it in all forms of leadership when somebody doesn't have eponymous when somebody doesn't have this attachment disconnection so then the hitsonius tries to compensate for the polymers in simple English you confuse love with validation when somebody didn't have attachment they don't have consciously vacas with their own source so they think that the more they get validation from the outside the more it could compensate for the lack of interconnection in other words the kitsonius is going to make up for the panemias but it doesn't it's the other way around then the kitsonius become is completely wounded instead of me being a parent I'm actually a child it's fascinating describes this here in today this language is used more often but the 1700s and early 1800s who spoke like this but the way Mama describes it your hash spot to the other that's your sinus that's the outer that's the outer self that's the self that now becomes a source for the other the panemius is my child my Vegas my own Vegas and my source and it's always commensurate 110 somebody who has a powerful penis the concern is just completely different because now I can actually be a leader now I can actually be a parent if not the 40 year old is really the two-year-old which means that tati may be younger emotionally than the child he's trying to educate especially discipline so imagine a two-year-old is disciplining an 80 year old you know what that looks like right so two-year-old may be big and strong but emotionally I'm looking to my child to compensate me for what I didn't get as a child I have no vehicles you know understand the tragedy of this the dysfunction of it and when the child the eight-year-old challenges the 40 year old who we know now is a two-year-old so imagine how the two-year-old reacts right now the two-year-old has beautiful words he doesn't say I'm two years old he has words like foreign wants this is my house he has beautiful words or not such beautiful words I said so because I said so which makes a lot of sense because I'm a very thought out person and the lack of self-awareness could be alarming and a person could live their whole life like this it's not only true in parenting it's true in pedagogy in every form of leadership in parroting it's obviously very obvious because it's 24 7. but it's truly the threat the mission says incited the face of the generation will be like the face of a dog so it'll be so salanta said they say it also in the name of other Israel that the strange expression from the mishna that the leaders of generation that would compare them to a dog I mean okay the mission that doesn't spare words but still lives the end of was a lot of people just finished with a few weeks ago before schmooz so he says brilliantly that the dog always runs ahead of the master if you ever see people walking their dog right dogs don't have patience they don't like the crafts so they go ahead of the master always they go ahead when they come to a fork they always turn around they don't make the turn on their own she says you have leaders they're going ahead of you they're a leader but at some point they want to know they turn around what do the polls say what do they write about me in WhatsApp in the magazine in other words I'm going ahead of you but really I'm just waiting for the cue what's more popular what's more acceptable what's going to make me like this what's going to make me like that see that's the shot of the mission so it always has to do with an Indian of the way I become a source of the other you would think that's Plymouth that's not politics that's your outer that's the way you become a mother a father a teacher a leader a a source of ashba the panemius is me as as a child as a recipient might vacuous in my core how much attachment do I have to where I come from because that's where a person's core is formed and the more attachment you had the more healthy attachment you had the more Independence you can have later in other words when you're a child when you're allowed to be a child when you were supposed to be a child you could be an adult when you're supposed to be an adult what happens when you weren't allowed to be a child when you were a child you remain a child because I'm still looking to be a child so I'm 60 years old or 50 years older maybe even 80 years old or whatever the age but I'm still looking to be a child but who do I look to who do I look do I look to my own children or my own students or my own spouse sometimes the husband or the wife they're a child looking to the spouse to give them what they craved as children now we don't always have ownership over these facts the circumstances of the circumstances but the weirdness of it is priceless because the moment I'm aware of it I could start saying do I really want my 10 year olds to be my mother or to be my father is that even is that fair to the 10 year old just because I'm a 10 year old okay so I don't have to perpetuate it I could I can I can change the cycle right you can you can do you know Generations go like this and you could make a shift and the shift starts always with Consciousness with awareness now that's why I told you real leaders their inner life is much richer than their outer life you think here's a famous person a big person right his life is really about the outer what everybody sees that's not really the life that's why real leaders even if you take away from them everything from their leadership right if you took away every all everything from him in terms of publicity what would happen he would be very happy why would he be very happy because the whole thing he didn't need it wasn't like he needed the people to give him validation so he should feel good about himself it's brought from the balship that he told them that because of something wrong he did so he's punished and what's his punishment that he has to reveal himself in the status punishment some people will spend a hundred million dollars to be elected in the political position in the United States and for some people it's a punishment why is it a punishment for us it's not a punishment for fame it was why because from Plymouth because now you're a leader when you're a leader you have to have your finger on the pulse of the people it's a whole different world was very happy to be a shepherd and the country because the premius is so solid so therefore the kitsonis is also very solid that was the main that was the main the code that we spoke about so everything has a concerns but let me says you'd wake us in your source is the way you become a source of ashba let's now go let's see waiter you see the line starts foreign it's not because the premiuses where you come from your source already the way you're stepping out of your source to become a source for others so even though this is where you become a source for others but that's called kitsonius because your penis is the way you're a macabo it's like in a tree right what's more important the roots of the tree or the fruits of the tree on one hand the purpose of the tree is the fruits but what does it all depend on the Plymouth of the tree The Roots and if you give if you make a little scratch if you do a little scratch right in the root of a tree what happens the entire tree is going to be affected the branches the trunk and the branches and the leaves the flowers the fruits if you scratch if you go to a tree now that's a full-grown tree and you give a scratch so it'll be a scratch but if you if you blemish the root it translates into all the results of the tree the fruits of the tree that's where the trees are lead the tree nourishes Me The Roots don't nourish me the roots are independent the roots are the tree itself of the tree is what comes out that's the way the tree becomes a source of nourishment but that's all dependent on how much it has its own roots in the earth its own vehicle so to speak in its own source that's the internal aspect of it and that's invisible that you don't even see nobody sees that what we see is the personality of the tree the adulthood of the tree the tree as a child as a sapling when it develops through that's all underground nobody even knows it but of course is completely dependent on the panamis perhaps a muscle for the balatanyas now he starts giving illustrations and he's speaking of illustrations on three levels he's going to think about fruits physical fruits and then he's going to talk about uh then he's going to talk about animals and then he's going to talk about people which of course works with the three categories of the world of vegetation the world of the animal the animal kingdom and the human being but it's interesting he gives examples of all these three for the Philippines and the khesanis yeah Jesus there's no grass down here that doesn't have a muzzle up there that strikes it and says grow grow which means the blade of grass is not the beginning of its reality there's a muscle we know everything is connected so the Heavenly stars and constellations masalas essentially was the term that the kadmanim the early ones used for groups of stars you know you have the 12 months or the 12 masalas they call it the Zodiac the rambam explains this at length you could even appreciate it today it's not so it's not so difficult to understand but basically in the orbit of the sun and the backdrop of the sun there's different groups of stars different months and that's called the muzzle of that month so like the Nissan April is connected to the Mazel called the group of stars looks like a sheep and the next second month looks like a an ax to show you so if Taurus Arius and then the third month seven is Gemini to um twins looks like twins and then the time was a certain as a crab and then a lion is of fish these are called the masalas but essentially it represents groups of stars so it's the Heavenly constellations so the matter says that every Ace of is somehow connected to a Mazel that causes it to grow which means there is an interrelationship between just like we have on the pla on the planet is what's called an ecosystem and it's a very balanced ecosystem and everything depends on each other right when you're watching uh a lioness chasing a gazelle and and then killing it and eating it right on one hand it's it's hard to see it's not easy to see it's a this is what the jungle looks like right on the other hand it's like a very balanced ecosystem because if that wouldn't happen right all these animals would eat up the vegetation there wouldn't be enough oxygen in the earth it's like a very delicate uh they tried getting rid of they tried getting rid of once in a particular place all the mice with cats yeah you read about it it was a Corbin you have to everything it's with a husband it's not uh there's a macabo everybody gives and everybody takes you have to know when you start changing things in order for it to look better you have to know what you're affecting the climate is very sensitive and the ecosystem is very sensitive so everything is interconnected and it has we see it sometimes we don't so the measure says every Asif has a corresponding muzzle hamakaboy which strikes down what what's he trying to bring out here that even a blade of grass also has an Ela also has a source it also has a Vegas it does it's not from a blade of grass it grew there's a whole inner system s in every fruit or every blade of grass or eight or two as grain there's always two elements you have the flavor of the fruit which is relatively speaking more spiritual and you have the etsam the physical brute reality of the fruit one you could touch with your hands you touch an apple or you touch a watermelon or you touch a peach or a plum or a cherry or blueberry or an orange that's the ezema Masha sapri and then you have the inner flavor of the pre for this obviously you have to taste it and your taste buds could sense the tamapri so one is like the outer element of the of the pre and one is the inner element what what its texture is made up what its chemistry is made up physically and then also the time the flavor of it but if you talk about the time itself there's two characters in it what are the two characters means two aspects two dimensions foreign from the stars in heaven which are responsible for growth commercial like like who says um from the sweetness of the grains that come from the Sun um and the sweetness of other grains that comes from Iraq that comes from the Moon this is fascinating every Star individual star is connected to an individual Asif to one individual things that grows you know today they're learning every day every week how many stars there are it's beyond what anybody ever imagined you're talking about billions and trillions so he says there every Asif is connected to a particular sweetness is connected to the Shemesh or to the area to the moon or to the other stars this already says in zoyar in Zaya base go find out if he speaks about every Star corresponds with a different asaph so when you look at the time of the pre every fruit has a different texture a different chemistry and a different flavor whatever it is more sweet more sour a combination of sweet and sour and you know it's it's it's it's magical I mean right when you think about it you think about it the same Earth and the same sun and you put in a different seed and suddenly you have a whole different reality and it nourishes the person in a different way I mean it's we take these things for granted you know you go to the supermarket you pick up an apple you bring it home and you eat it but you shouldn't you should Marvel at it that's the idea of the brachiate the same Earth the same Sun the same ear the same light the same oxygen you put in a different seat and suddenly it's a whole different reality it's a whole different texture so he says here mighty good thing when you're tasting it there's two characters one is the way the taste is macabul from its source whatever its source is that's one Indian of the fruit the way it gives the flavor into the physical fruit that's already the second which one do we connect to more the premieres of the cutenius you understand what he's saying it's the edelkite of how to eat when you're eating something there's a flavor what flavor are you experiencing the Plymouth of it is the way the flavor is mashpia into the physical fruit which is the physical flavor this is an orange this is a peach this is a kiwi this is a cantaloupe this is watermelon this is a lemon or any other food it could be cabbage or lettuce or kale a cucumber or a tomato or raspberry so that's the way it's macabul from its source and it becomes a mashpia that in the physical fruit you have this in this flavor but that's only the sign is the penis of the flavor is it's connection which star does it come from in other words to go back and feel the mocker the source of the Tom that's already the penis of it it's an expression in Keralis it's higher and higher and higher what do we mean higher and higher it doesn't begin with the fruit in the muzzle itself there's two levels there's the way the Mazel the star is mashpia and the way the star is macabo yet from from a higher source and the higher source and a higher source the mosulosa has a Muslim and another one another one so in every Indian you could look at the hit sign is the cuteness is the way it's manifested in that which receives from it in one case here here is a physical orange the etz which received a flavor from the inner chemistry of this fruit but when you when you when you're tasting the flavor the penis of it is really to be able to sense the inner energy and that's always more abstract it's deeper and in that itself higher and higher and higher all the way to be typhus the ruinous of the time it's a very very able um a little way of eating you understand you see here [Music] you see especially in cities you see it opens a person up to ilum haza in a much deeper way to sometimes people think that with Yiddish kite yeah and with it's the other way around when you're eating you could be eating so you could be eating the penis just like when you hear a niggan right there's different layers of what you hear what he's saying is when you're tasting the food you can actually taste the Tam not just the hits of the time but there's the polymers of the tongue and that is the way it's receiving from its own source it's a sensitivity it's a sensitivity just like when you're connecting to a person right you connect you can connect to a person on the outside what you're telling me and you could connect to the inner energy that the person is connected to it's a whole it's a whole different level of connection so you're actually in eating what are you tasting I could just taste okay this is what the orange tastes like or you can go deeper and deeper and deeper into the panemius of this flavor this taste doesn't come from nowhere there's the flavor on one level and another layer another layer another layer [Music] to understand the miracle of science what we call science or botany to not to take it for granted yeah here he's talking the next level if I think the middle was trying to understand explain to people the process of what happens when when a fruit tree grows you know we eat an orange next new next you know you ate an apple he says understand what happened you're drinking milk on the stand where where did this milk come from the the cow ate grass the cow ate grass whether the cow eat grass and suddenly you have milk where do you get milk from so there's a whole Factory inside the cow yeah that takes this grass and part of it becomes fat and part of it becomes meat then part of it becomes blood and part of it becomes milk and it becomes a whole source of nourishment for Humanity who created that factory in the cow for us to create such effective we have to train people for who knows how many years and how much money and how much resources and then you plant a little seed into the Earth and suddenly yeah different seed and this little seed so no knows everything how to do everything it's like as though he sat in University for 300 years chemistry on a PhD level but not just chemistry so many other things he has to know genetics and has to know biology and acetocellular biology and has to know about the Sun and he produces it and then it comes packaged and it even changes its color when it's ripe so you could know that it's ripe and it even loses it loosens its grip you know when uh when a fruit becomes ripe the grip becomes uh looser so you should be able to take it off and it changes from green to another color to tell you now I'm ready and it's usually a beautiful color so it should be attractive too because he wants to be attractive like a column attack that says in Madras and therefore now go take it so that's what he was so that's all yeah it's there's a story it tells but this story comes yet from a deeper story that's the Primus of it [Music] depends depends just like taste buds some taste buds only taste potato chips anything above potato chips they're not guidas there's taste buds that potato chips is a cucumbers kale celery and then there's taste buds that are sensitive to deeper levels of time yeah huh you can hear the words or you can hear what's behind the words and you can hear the source of the words Etc the same is true with music in every Indian there's everything we're talking about artists now with an animal s every animal could be a dog it could be an elephant can be a deer there's the primius of the animal what is that the rookies of the animal an animal has a spiritual consciousness that's the Vegas of the animal in its own what's its own of his vision it says in the Chariot of a chariot which was carrying the kisser covered this is in the first chapter of your high school it's Lewis because it's a chariot so what does the high school see there he sees four faces and he sees the face of an eagle the face of a lion the face of an ox in the face of a person so it's explained in Kabbalah and exodus that is [Music] the face of the lion is the spiritual source for The Souls of all the undomesticated animals including the lion that's why the Gomorrah says that the Arya is the king of the jungle the king of highest is the alliance the king of behemus which are domesticated animals is the ox the king of birds is the eagle and that's all in the merkava what's the connection the king does not just detached the king is like the leader so the face of the lion is the source of all the nafasis all the souls that go into the highest the face of the axes the spiritual source for all the highest that goes into the Bahamas and the face of the eagle is the spiritual highest for all the souls that go into the eagle so when I'm looking at an eagle or I'm looking at a lion or any animal again the khichis of it is the way the highest comes into the goofa behema which is what I'm seeing right now the way the animal is behaving the what the animal needs with animal goes the nature of the animal which is fascinating that's the hitsonius of the animal that's the way the heus is manifested in the physical animal which is already hit sign is why because that's the way it becomes a source of leadership for the next level what's the source of the animal it's owned vacas in its own illah the animal itself so it's a sensitivity to a different layer of an animal you could look at the animal just because it says what do you see so you just see an animal which is tremendous because it's the life force that's giving life to the Goof and the basurable that's already called that's the way that was becomes a source of ashba for the buff for the for the physical animal you understand what I'm saying the Plymouth is the way it's double in its own just like in a person that's what he says that's already the second level the same is true in a person is in the soul of a person you have the same the source of the person is again like the roots of the tree and the roots of the Soul where your soul is connected to the attachment of your soul that's called the way your dove look in your own source my soul doesn't come from anywhere from nowhere and spiritually Adam that's the face of Adam in your Source you're always like I'm a Kabul because you're like a child receiving that connection that source that Oneness your attachment with who you really are where you come from and then what's your sign is the way the nephesh becomes a mashpia for the Goof that's the tiniest of a person of a person is the way the soul becomes a leader what does it mean becomes a leader it becomes apparent it now gives life to my physical body that's the kitsonius of the person the penis of the person is the way the nephesh is dovoke in its own illah in its own source yeah we have not how can I buy this how do you apply this to the eating experience we'll see we'll see you want to know practically how to eat oh it's a lot of mindfulness here first of all you have to have self-respect without self-respect you can't even begin to deal with this because without self-respect when I'm eating right the food is controlling me so because I'm just hungry when you eat mindlessly which we often do especially if I'm starving right you don't need a whole day you come home you see a pop boom [Music] so I'm saying the first thing is we need self-respect and then you have respect for the food too if not I'm using the food and the food is using me there's no relationship it's like we're exploiting each other huh double abuse yeah you abuse the food and in the process it abuses you um what you don't like to be done to you don't do with others you don't want to be abused don't abuse the food food also has an energy that's a very big lamisa yeah it's an element of self-respect which allows you to respect the food too I was once eating so uh I was once eating but the following story happened [Music] so uh I was continuing so my wife tells me you're not full already I say yeah but there's still food on the plate so she says you can put it in the garbage I said I don't want to put it in the garbage so she said it's important to respect your body more than you respect the garbage because you don't want to put it in the garbage you're gonna put food in the garbage so where do you put it you put it in your body so she says it's good to respect your body more than you respect the garbage but of course it has nothing to do with that right it's it's binging it's it's a form of addiction huh yeah so the way the Netflix becomes a leader of mashpia to give to the goof that's the person but that's the hitsonius of the person [Music] no he's talking even the National Bahamas even enough here everything has everything a grass a fruit a tree an animal the nephew Bahamas too this is in its source how connected is it to its source that's its panimus and then the hitzenius is the way it becomes a father figure or a mother figure for the good and it gives the go-kart just like in a person let's take let's talk parenting that was the martial I gave before right what's your name is what's the Clinton your premise who you who you were as a child or I should say who you are as a child because we never cease to become children we never cease to be children who you are as a child and who you are as a parent which one is you would think parent is child is cutsonius is the other way around who you are as a child that's your Primus who you are as a parent that's only is why who I am as a child is where I come from how I am attached to my own source who I am as a parent is how I become a source that affects others [Music] so that's always stepping out from my inner core to become a source of effect and again the deeper I'm connected to The Primitives the more the kitsonis is going to be wholesome because it's going to receive its nurture from the panemis but if I have nucleus so fruits are always connected they don't have an issue although you can abuse you can abuse plants too but a different level of abuse you know I don't know if you ever saw there was an experiment they once did with different plants you saw and they were treated differently by the people who planted them there was a plan that was spoken to beautifully and treated with diggingly and then there was another plant somebody was cursing and it's a fascinating research and literally the plants receive the same physical nourishment but they came out differently this is a research that was real I mean I read about it though it's fascinating my point is you can abuse plants too huh yeah yeah yeah but in a person you see that you could it becomes very clear the deeper the peninnius is nourished the more the hit signis could be wholesome because if not what often happens is as I said the Kitsoni is compensates for the lack of panamis okay so again we is telling us don't look at these things superficially it's very uh it's very sensitive it's extremely sensitive as a speaker yeah this is the biggest challenge with every speaker every artist every speaker [Music] the question is balance is good you're asking a good question the altered had a son his name was Ibrahim Abram he had three sons his oldest son was didn't speak a lot he looked just like the balatanya he looked like him and they always use and he lived in the city of Le Baba and they always asked him to say something he grew up by his father and he wouldn't speak One Step today you should say something not his own say over from the so he agreed so a big island came because he's going to speak came the time and everybody was looking at him and they saw that he's going through a lot and he opened up his mouth and he said apostic bilibi safante imrase but he didn't say another word you know the translation of the huh Billy beats in my heart I concealed your words in order for me not to sin to you believe and he didn't say a word now you have to understand what was he going through he understood the moment you speak it's already going away from Plymouth he was sensitive to it it wasn't a big messian by him fakat it's like he didn't want to he felt he's doing an injustice not a cat as a sin you're hurting somebody but what does mean in Hebrew right it says about shol he was an Archer he always hit the target he never missed yes that means you miss you miss what's a cat we touch that as a sin the real Touch of hat is you miss the target you missed the point you understand you're standing at a hopper right you're standing and you're on your phone you understand you missed the point you missed the target you have an opportunity to sit in the presence of maybe the greatest person of the generation and you're busy checking a website did you do a head you missed the point that's the idea of a cat you're not aligned you're not aligned with the energy he didn't want to step away from the world of Plymouth uh so you have different shamas I guess he felt that this was not his uh his Lucas but we have to respect where he's coming from you understand my point okay so so now you have the opposite there's the fame so what's the balance he says he never met to ask him to speak and he says I'm not speaking [Music] there was Aid who told me there was a you do told me the love of bully if it's in flatbushes I forgot so Thomas he said he was upset at a simcha so somebody asked him to say something so he got up and he said this balsamika thinks that a rabbi always has something to say and he's right and he started to talk [Music] of course there's another nakoda if a parent let's talk about a parent if a parent says oh I'm not done with my primius so I'm not going to parent you [Music] I'm sorry because I'm still a child we sometimes feel that way so I don't want to parent you I want to still be a child well now you're a parent you have a responsibility so you have to parent but you have to be self-aware and work on yourself the same is true in the senior a person we live in a generation where for a person to say I'm going to be quiet just I can work on my penis yeah it's not the right thing [Music] they want to hear me they won't hear me tell us you have to speak like the Gomorrah says in megillah right you remember the lotion Mila bissella can betray one word is worth a seller silence is worth two slime so this is a famous vart somebody said that's true but if you're silent the whole day you only get too slow if you speak many words every word you get a seller ah so silence is much better than words but silence is too slow [Music] that's the story they say I once read up that the Bible was Aid when they asked him to talk about something he was abolished so he said today that's what I read once years ago then I saw it from somebody whatever but then it is clear so you have to appreciate this but sometimes I can't afford I'm saying okay I'm not gonna parent I'm not gonna be talked anymore I'm just gonna go into uh I'm going to the retreat and I'm going to become silent for pneumius that itself could sometimes be an Indian consignee it's running away from responsibility rather than going into panimius the shot is that my kids has to always be balanced with a self-awareness so taka person who speaks and speaks and speaks and speaks and there's no Reckoning there's no nothing it affects the quality of what they're saying it's not it's not two divorced worlds the Primus comes out on the sign is the more wholesome the panemius is the more the sinis will be a flow of it if not the Chinese becomes a compensation and then you're never really being Mashpee or you're being macabul and if it distorts the message that's why people who are in the public whatever type of public eye as speakers as teachers as roshishivists in the world of politics in the Haverhill in the world of kadusha whatever world it is they have to make much more than everybody else they have to have much more because if not the messages get distorted not even consciously not necessarily I'm not talking about corrupt people who are actively corrupt I'm not talking about that unconsciously they become distorted because I need you more than you need me so I'm being a must be really I'm being a macabo so I'm just telling you things in order to be able to compensate it becomes very complicated that's imp parenting it's one of the hardest things to be able to parent with with with with MS right because we have all these fancy words that we can all quote you're a child you have to respect your beautiful stuff but sometimes I'm using these beautiful Concepts to camouflage my own unresolved tension foreign so it's not about your benefit is ultimately is about the benefit of the child but what if it's about my own insecurity so it's a whole different things I use these words in order to put pressure on you to be maybe inauthentic so just like this I should be able to feel better about myself so who's the parent it takes so much inner clarity and discipline and truthfulness and humility [Music] to be able to step away from my own fears and insecurities and ego and be able to ask not what my child can do for me but when I could what I could do for my child that's what parenting is it's mysterious it's real real parenting is stepping away from my needs for your needs that's what a leader is that's what Malco says that's what a leader does that's what a leader does am I ready to do that or do I say I'm still three-year-old so I need you to to give me and that's what my parenting is because I'm a baby but don't call that parenting it becomes very hard that's why you have to be so aware of your triggers when your child says something to you and by the way this is not just your child at 10 years old even more when your child is 20 years old and 30 years old and when your child is 50 years old even more you're ready yeah a language and this 50 year old should know bad and he speaks to me yeah can a tiger not only when I'm 20. also when I'm older I have these things and you become triggered but surpassedness to say I'm Aid with a Long White Beard or a short white beard or a black bear whatever it is I'm not talking about the beard it's a passage for me to say well there's something unresolved yeah but the truth is in some ways if I can admit I'm a child and this is unresolved and you just triggered me in a very deep way and I could be curious and I could be aware and then you can make a choice and respond from a place of attachment and connection rather than from a place of distortion and guilt it makes sense what I'm saying and then I impose guilt on you and we're both we're both miserable so self-awareness is very very important [Music] did I answer your question I did perfect it says what does that mean so there's two Tai Chin one is my soul came out when I spoke you spoke with your nephew she didn't just speak like a robot like artificial intelligence [Music] my soul left when I spoke [Music] there were only words there was no soul so on one level it means it was insincere but he's saying something much deeper it could be sincere but because I'm speaking something of the nephesh went out because it can be the same level of the vehicles in other words real speaking is a form of mysterious real speaking I know not all speakers feel that way but [Music] real speaking of if it's real speaking it's almost as if if you're eponymy because you're stepping away from Primus and going into so why the answer is because you're called on to be a leader you're not just called to be a Macabre if I would have been if I wanted to be a macabo then hashama could have remained in like pregnant in the Ain't So if and then it's a macabul but Hashem sits down in hashama to do something if you disconnect from this Source but all hash Spa if it's real is a form of not disconnecting but it's a form of stepping out not disconnecting stepping out of the source if I'm pregnant in my mother's womb I can't be a much for you somebody once asked an interesting Shiloh there's a dinner yeah stand up there's different levels different levels the camera says indeed that a child in the womb of its mother learns the whole Torah so he's the biggest town with whoever existed better than Google of the stand up so when you see a pregnant woman obviously if she doesn't have a chair on the bus or on the train or whatever obviously you give her a chair that's basically but I'm not talking about my time [Music] the answer is huh that in the womb it's still everything for itself so ultimately we're called on to give that's the process we were once children our parents were once children they became parents and then one day we become parents and we hope our children continue that shall sell us but if you detach it from the womb from the Vegas it becomes it's it's it's it's it's flawed it's it's very flawed but whenever there's a spot there's always a danger that Russia huh [Music] the commander doesn't make a difference the difference be the difference between the male and the female is the male forgets it [Music] that the malach Bob so the boys forget it the girls remember [Music] says that he forgot the whole Toyota so somebody asked me why don't you make a so I said because she doesn't forget you ever saw women forget so you think they forget the Torah they don't forget a thing you said 29 years ago so you think they forgot the whole title okay [Laughter] [Music] foreign [Music] became rabbit in 1950 51 he he Mama almost didn't say a word I heard from people who were in New York before and he barely said a word and not it was it was natural for him not to speak there's a letter from his father-in-law that ayat to him and he says why don't you write me letters often and tell me what you're doing what you think and he writes back to him he says to our people who live on the outside and there are people who live completely on the inside and he said I'm not saying it's better or worse I'm just saying I'm that type of person and he says I just I don't have really want to share and he says whatever I share it's going to be boring he says there's not a lot going on so they write he says is it going to be and therefore I don't have he said I don't know what the sheb claw it's all inside and you could see it then he once wrote to the Bianca calendar the love of benebra of yak of Lando the father of emotional for many many years he wrote them in the 1940s he says why don't you do more so for a person who didn't have Buddhist which means doesn't have a talent for for public work that's interesting right but you know you saw so but the point is that when he spotted to speak it's a different type of talking if by Nature you know you talk and talk and talk and talk you're already born you started to talk so then it's more you know fine so it's more natural but when your whole nature is a is not that and then you're talking so why are you talking because you feel that it's a it's a schlichus it's a whole different thing it's not that you need it it's not like it's even natural for you so you're touching on something very uh very very real so such talking comes from even a deeper eponymous you understand it com it comes from an inner calling it comes from an inner it's not I'm compelled or there's a compulsion there or that I need it for something it's completely like a choice that comes from feeling that this is this is your Slickers from Hashem it's a whole different type of talking foreign I remember growing up sometimes the level would have very long fabregans now if I bring in five six seven eight hours and these fabregnans were not because uh you know a few shorts there were a few negunim in between but the circus my modem were long could be an hour an hour and a half close to two hours you can never see them on shots or see them on the sectors [Music] it was long and hard and complicated and intense and it went for hours published for hours and and then the devil would finish the fabrina and I heard it and whatever I understood I understood that it was such a tiny it was a pleasure I and I would always Marvel would finish the fabrangin and either go to the Davis whatever this man was or go out and when I saw he got up there was it was like usually when you finish such a presentation for hours and it was transformative and Brilliant and ingenious so you're waiting for a little feedback you know what I mean then I would finish everything he will go from and there was no there was nothing happened like next boom there was like no uh I would always Marvel on it he wasn't like trying to live off the previous energy in the next moment was and I would because feedback does he want to hear from somebody how it what you know you finished six hours you want to hear vizgiveness you know people it was a fascinating thing it was like right back right back to where he was without any uh any strings attached to let me live off now from the previous moment and you understand what I'm saying it was fascinating I always saw it okay very more much more comfortable I don't know more or less comfortable but it was like it was back I wasn't feeding off [Music] I just have to take a minute break because I have to call my son because he needs to get a lift to Yeshiva so give me a moment just want to finish a few more lines ah this yeah yeah he's on his way he told me on my way he wrote to me he's on his way I'm in Show 18. I'm yeah I'm almost finished yeah I took a break my kind students were very gracious they allowed me to take a break I just wanted to make sure everything is fine you have your filling snacks okay have a beautiful beautiful day in Osage I love you Okay bye so he's there yet he's there yet [Music] okay he wrote to me on my way so okay did you sleep enough [Music] okay I'll see you if there's any problem call me I'm should we talk about parenting yeah so I didn't want to be a hypocrite [Music] let's learn another few lines [Music] anyway everybody understands the Indian here mundane was saying novel let's see it in the morning right remember well let's see in the morning what do we say we bring the Novi ation vikara Zales ever Amar Kudos Hashem twice one calls to the other one so we translated in Aramaic or macablin Dane mundane kadish may Allah rights and then we translate the next words the next person the carousel there doesn't mean they call out to each other what do they call out to each other hey hey Mahal wake up what's with foreign the grass has a source in the star the star has a source in its muzzle it's muzzle as a source the possible cases Higher and Higher and Higher malayam and then that just was higher of them that's called the evolution of energy from mother to child the child becomes a mother to the next straw the child becomes a mother on one level you're a child and then you become a mother to the lower level you understand so the ability to say Kadesh to say Kadesh the malach has to get from somebody nobody has created in a vacuum nobody nobody is you emerge independent Independence is a fallacy attachment is the core of reality the more you're attached the more you can be independent the more you have healthy attachment to your source now you could say kadish always There's A din of macablin but the noise now you have the opposite in davening in the morning before Shema what do we say remember [Music] what's the next line the noise name is what's happening first you say macabreeze I receive and then I give permission so he says is where I receive from my source so why do I have to give you permission I give you permission means what's it mean he gives you to the other person you don't have my permission sorry even nice without my permission you can't sanctify your creator it's fascinating you're giving permission in other words without your permission they won't be able to do it that's the idea of empowering obviously if you feel you need my permission without my permission you can do it so why do they need permission from another malach the answer is let's go back to our muscle with children children need somebody to believe in them to give them permission to shine if you didn't give your child permission to shine what happens he remained stifled his whole life if all I could tell you is you're a loser you're a nobody can I tell the story with there was a child he asked a question you know what the question was in Yeshiva asked the question he was in second grade they learned parishes boy and parishes boy moisture tells [Music] so he asked his teacher why does it say look twice says once I think it's a good question the teacher I don't know why Beverly didn't have an answer so he made fun of the question he said this question you'll ask by manistana you'll do a fifth question by manistana you'll ask this question and he made a joke out of it and from that day became a joke whenever a child asked a question that people perceived as stupid which means usually they don't have an answer so they called it binary obis that was the question that was a muscle for a stupid question and this this man told me that since then he never asked a question again because he was humiliated [Music] so when he told us to me years later I told him he should call his teacher and ask his teacher if the clay Yoko was a stupid person you should ask him why was Sabbath because the Claire asked the question asked the question over there [Music] thank God the clayaka didn't have a teacher when he was in second grade who told him he was stupid for asking this question because then there would be no clayakan didn't have such a teacher what's my point you can Empower a child or you can stifle a child the noise them with shoes [Music] [Laughter] what's the definition of you give permission for people to shine probably the best definition of you give permission people need permission why do they need permission because they need to be empowered they need to feel the confidence you have to have to feel that they believe in them so ah that's what he says no that's hush boy he says that's because that's what empowerment means because empowerment doesn't mean I give you power you don't need my power it means I give you permission because you could make a mistake you could think empowerment means I give you my power I don't give you my power I give you your power in other words I give you permission to exercise your power to flex your muscles that's what empowerment means empowerment means doesn't mean I transplant my personality into you I turn you into a shadow and extension of me that's the opposite of empowerment real empowerment means can you give permission to your children or to your students or to anybody you meet to shine it's really permission the right word is permission we look at permission as just I give you permission permission is a very deep thing what happens when you don't have permission you feel inside I'm not allowed isn't that what so many people feel I'm not allowed oh that's the word I'm not allowed why I'll disappoint I'm going to make a fool out of myself I'm going to embarrass my family I'm going to embarrass me yeah I'm gonna get everybody angry whatever it is in other words you need permission to shine you need permission to cast your light so that says mundane that's the malach and look what comes first is always somebody has a parent and then and you'll see you know they put in the word right I don't think it's an arena you save a noise right yeah somebody Davis knows they don't say Vanessa yeah they do that I saw myself [Music] you grew up with no um you can give your shoes without Ava you can give it a sauce because they're saying prophecy without permission yeah Elder named you know they suddenly emerged as prophets so what is my answer um you're jealous for me you're getting jealous you think I'm jealous because there's other Nivea my wishes that the whole nation should become the theme you don't understand I'm not this is not a mishbach business I'm the navi everybody is under me I want everybody Drew to be a navi that's my shirabenu right what do you think I'm afraid of two people who are prophesied because I'm going to lose my job my salary is going to be cut down because Elder made to do a better job than what should I know the Shabbos is going to go to them you got the wrong guy Yeshua I never chose this job I'm not this is not I'm not I'm not in a control business you see why should I buy new if I could speak so in one of his finest moments what he's thinking I don't mind if there's 14 million prophets foreign that's the impression you get from all of my mother Miller right I'm not trying to keep the codes you know a programmer you have a patent and you keep the code to yourself and if you pay me enough money I'll give you a little bit of the code and lease it to you for three months that's that's that's that's normal in the business world but if you're so connected to the swords you're not into that the moment you start owning Gods obviously you don't have God that's ego so I may live is already the next level this is true in all this thoughtfulness and all the evolution of all the words this is [Music] tell us the whole chain of Ilah and Allah is always what's up mean the whole Evolution from Ilah illah means the source Allah is the child Ilah is the antecedent Allah is The Offspring elah is like the seed of the apple tree and Allah is the Apple and then the apple has a seed which becomes an illah for the next apple tree that's called Humanity right the child of Adam and khava is the Allah and then he becomes an illah or she becomes an illness thoughts and words are ill of Allah the thoughts produces the words the words come from the thoughts but then the words produce actions Etc so that is all says The Holy Spirits from godliness of illah Allah is always from an external placement sinus what's up what's up the ELO would never become an Ela for an allul if it wouldn't go into a place of hittsonius when the ill is in a state of pneumius it never becomes an illah why because it's Dove to its source it's like a child connected to the parents you can get married when you're two years old why not the talk list is so you're born and get married we all know by animals it's much younger right a few weeks later boom leave very there's many animals that they become independent very fast with children you know if they're independent at 40 you're lucky the shot is the word macabo you can't be noisin if I didn't have the e-law the connection to the Eli because I can't become a mashpia so the more Panini is the most but this is an accordion because if not for the sinus and every printer what's the kitsonis the ability to go out of your organic connection to your attachment to be mashpia it wouldn't be the whole in other words if you would remain in a realm of climate is what would happen you just remain dovok there's an expression in ID in in the laws of kashras ID the torad lamivla Loy palette Alto never brings it in my modem it's fascinating how he uses this it's an idea in science and when you're absorbing when you uh when you're it's of blood say when you're busy absorbing you don't uh lipolit you don't you don't expel you don't emit you don't spit out I didn't [Applause] you're dumb to the other food says in one of them I modem when you're in a place of Bala you're absorbing Loi palat you can't be mashpia so to be my you have to go away from mivilla to go away from ibly you're going into here's the clown anybody who gets their whole life from Chinese it's because they have no penis that's why if you ever find yourself in a crazy crazy desire to talk and and and and control and and get validation from others you have to always go back and see what am I missing because it's going to be distorted you understand what I'm saying what's so funny because I'm talking about it because the guy who doesn't stop talking is talking about this oh wow that's already a good thing that's a good thing after so many years you started to think about yourself huh that's good that's a compliment finally I got a compliment yeah how do we know I guess you know I guess we have to look at our age and our circumstances and our abilities as long we have something to say to share yeah yeah did that means to say you know Olive teach aleph you know bass teach bass I don't have to know Allah tough to teach aleph but I shouldn't fool myself and say just because I'm teaching Olive it means I know everything sometimes the dip you're right but the deepest you read this sometimes the deepest Aliyah of course it brought out a whole new it brought out a whole new depth [Music] foreign [Music] I heard it myself who said that moisturis really foreign so that's that's the holy stylish of of Allah is always but that hidsoni is is what allows for establish it's like if we're only panimia's dick you can never become a parent so the whole evolution is always from the beginning there's an Indian of the word pinnemius comes to the word Panama what does the word Panna mean what does the word upon them so usually people say pandem comes from the word panimus because in your face you could see the insides of a person the deeper parts of a person's personality usually expressed in the face like more than the back or the legs or the arms or the chest like a person's eyes and a person's nose in a person's mouth and a person's brain it's all in the area of the upon him and that's where you can hear the person you could see the person you can they can express themselves usually pundum is connected to penis because that's where an inner part of a person comes out is something else means when you uh you turn like when you tilt your body or your head in a certain direction right keep on the way light there's an expression in near me you'll pay to the base they turn their back to me not their face oh there's an expression in parishes Hashem don't pay attention to their to the gift of karach so the word pandem comes in the word why physically because if somebody calls me right somebody says if you took Jacobson what do I I do this to them or you put you put up your foot to them you don't do that what do you do you turn your face to them you turn your face you don't turn your back to them you don't turn your hand to them I mean unless they want to pass you something so which part of you tilts itself and turns to somebody if I want to talk to you or you're calling me it's always my face so the pastors because that's the part of the body that you turn to somebody summoning you or calling you or wanting to speak to you or communicate to you but now let's take it on a deeper level sorry [Music] based on the idea that every the Plymouth of every unit is called Ela every Ilah every illah which is every Source pointer turns and connects to his e-law so that's your opponent is when you turn away from your illah and you focus on your Allah so what's your polymers the part of you that turns upwards to your source it's poina to your vehicles where you come from you turn away instead of absorbing now you become the mashed so premius is always poignant you're always pointing that you're always searching for my own mocker my own that's penis you hear the definition of plymus says I go out of that and I become projective so now I'm not being pointed to my source on the country I become my soul I become the source I'm now the source I'm now the mashmiya you're the macabul in in penivious the more macabul the more Panini is the less macabo the Morehead Chinese you would think it's the other way no because you'd warm a combo the more you're actually connected to your own inner energy because remember the more attached we are to our source because we're all come from somewhere so the more you're attached to your swords the more your core is wholesome because your core is an is an owl from an illah so the more Allah the more powerful the more wholesome now you become an ELO which is you step away from your source and you become a must be you become a parent that's the khesanius so so it's a fascinating description if you talk like in parenting or a teacher in education or let's say a leader of a company right s is how you're leading the people let's say how you're parenting your children what's your penis your penis is what about your child how is your inner child and the the the the depth of that Insight is so marvelous it's so powerful because the more you're aware of that panimus the far more effective is your entire ability to lead the less you're aware of it the more blinding is my ability to lead because it's like severance now this is also connected to Panama and primius why because the deepest part is the part that's poina so the shot here in Panama is connected at its core at its inner core like the baby when it's fashioned at its core is poignant to its mother to its father says there's something in the middle [Music] what's the middle there's something in the middle between the two and this is where this is where the drama happens there's something right in the middle [Music] there's where you come from there's what you create and then there's you mean who was my Essence always connect these two characters there's the fruit the time I pray the way it comes from the Star there's the tamapri the way it comes into the physical fruit one is a macabo one is them and then there is and who am I there's who my parents are this is who my children are you can't live off either and who are you he calls it Atmos that's a third element first he spoke between premiers there is who did you become because if I am only the source that I'm not me I'm a primius is the way I'm dovoking the source is the way I become a source for influence for you the way I pass on the energy to you and then there's the prince what he calls penis which connects these two just he's seen the parentheses after he quoted dates after equals dates he says really means is that only the hitsonius of the Elion becomes the pnemius for the but the Primus of the alien doesn't go down to the [Music] what does this really mean that in leadership there's an inner core that doesn't come out it remains connected to the source if the whole is based on his it means of the Ilah is what becomes an illah for the and it creates the primius of the Allah so now the the Allah's relative to the higher level is only continuous you understand you understand what he's saying so for what one level is if you go to the next level that's only concern is that's where the balship said every answer every question he has an answer but for every answer he has a question why every question I have an answer if we go to a higher level there'll be an answer but if we go to at a higher level it's going to be a question [Music] is of the illah becomes an illah for the owl so whether the penis Remain the polymers remains dovok that doesn't come down to the Allah so what comes down to the Allah so the pinimius of the Allah [Music] you understand because the Primus of that illah doesn't become an owl that's why the Ariza says all the stances so now you can understand what penis means on one level I may be reaching my primius but if you go deeper it's all ketones because because my penis which is my vacas in the in my Ilah I'm only connecting to the kitsanius of that illah which became a source for me and then if you go even further right you go to the Primus of that elah which is already much higher than the khesani is but that Mimi is is connected to its illah which is only it's [Music] the moment you know this you can already reach much more to the miss it's the able kite of it it's the edelkite of it it's not trying to put down the but this also means something else why is this so important this means that the leader's life inside is much more richer than outside that's what I said in the beginning of this year because where is this polymers eponymous remains into Vegas you never sell your penis you never project your penis why is that so important because the real job of a leader is to be there for the people so it's always about what the people need the real job of a parent is to be there for my child my child is not my therapist my child is not the person with whom I'm supposed to work through my polymers you understand Mike Vegas needs to be intact that's my penis once my primius is in that now I can be a leader a leader is always concerning this because a leader is always what do you need not what I need from you if the premius is healthy they could be healthy it's only if not there's a confusion suddenly you're not you're not you're not you're not my student you're my teacher I'm the baby that's why real leadership when you go back to your regular life it's very rich it's more Rich you know why you're back in diplomias he goes back into his diving into his learning this is where it is your typhus facade what makes leadership powerful is that it's only hitson is not in a bad way because you're in touch with what the people need you're not busy working out your own intimacy you can't be a child as a leader but when you're talking to Hashem you want to be a child of course you want to be a child you want you don't want to be a you want to be a child [Music] there's a Mexican right you don't sit and show with families people sometimes have time as well can you sit with a family [Music] so one level I explained to people on one level people say I come to show it's like you go to you go out with your family to to have the game you sit with the family why ensure the women hear the men here it's not nice why are you separating families so explain to them what happens if a single person walks into show what happens if a divorced woman walks into show what happens if a divorced man walks into the show what if a widow walks into sure what if a widower walks into everybody's sitting with families Hashem and you're the only one you have to sit alone everywhere they feel alone they go to a restaurant they feel alone they go to a game they feel alone they go to a mall they feel alone so why not make one place that even a single person who's never married for whatever reason could feel dignified where's your sensitivity where's your sensitivity at least one place in the presence of God let everybody feel equal dignity even if I have no family whatever happened let them feel dignity but it's much deeper than that it's not just a nice way of getting out of the question it's it's a real thing the point is in the presence of Hashem everybody is a one-year-old child you're not a married person you're not a patriarch of a big family that you'll be afterwards now you're a one-year-old everybody is naked before God like when you came out of your womb now you're in a place of Plymouth Shula is not a place it's a place of Plymouth now you're diving into Hashem foreign [Music] this is not a place this is not a place where you're leading this is a place where you're being macabo you're opening yourself up to your creator so it's not a place to emphasize people's success stories there'll be a place for that you'll come to work be a leader you're a CEO take charge Zion but now strip yourself from all your titles become spiritually naked you typhus huh the inner child the shamish small writes and parishes if he doesn't know he's speaking to Yosef he thinks he's speaking to the Egyptian prime minister so he says it says that the Nar is called the nashama the inner child it says how could you go to your father to my father in anuity and the child is not there thank you [Music] the inner child so now we understand what it really means [Music] oh now you're talking a whole different Indian but sad what's the kavana of Hashem okay we'll get to we'll get them in order to get to that place you have to first go through this you're right there's a vote from the alternative he once said Mitzvah entitled what's the first mitzvah plurview literally means amits would have children first myths for purchase Bodacious so he said in Yiddish but the understanding about this is foreign [Music] what's the first commandment in Judaism you're a Jew make another Jew because that's the ultimate Ultimate Cabana but the process is the truth is the deepest potentials of people come out when they're mashpia because [Music] but in order to reach that space you first have to understand this whole process you understand what I'm saying so you write what you're saying the real cavana Plymouth was to go to the Chinese [Music] and if you remain a selfish plimmy it's not good if the premier is sorry I can't help anybody I'm too I'm too loyal I'm too honest that's why you have to be careful with silence you know when people say sorry you have to know if it's or it's a different type of kitchenius [Music] you know when somebody gets up and says I don't know why they asked me to speak and I'm thinking I also don't know and then so you say you know what don't speak I have a great idea if you don't know why they asked you so Taki don't speak just say Mazel Tov and then suddenly a mess happens like Hanukkah he speaks for eight days he doesn't even have five minutes what to say and eight days later two hours later at the Chevron he's still talking we didn't have what to say right so if you get up and say I don't have what to say so it means two things first of all the attacker don't have what to say and second of all that you shouldn't say so not always does this humility translate into polymia sometimes it's just a form of worst hit science you understand what I'm saying he's talking here real polymers real Vegas it's not like part of the game that you're supposed to say I don't know I don't know why they invited me huh foreign that's what the Madrid says more than the calf wants to nurse the cow wants to wants to give off milk because the Potter has a responsibility as a mother 's another two minutes I know it's late so so we learned that par name is now he says something amazing yes we know the whole tree of the spirit is what are these three categories these are the three categories foreign that's the picture of the Swedish so it's three categories is the Vegas of the Ilah and then feres is the I that is dovoking that illah the eye that that forms right so in a trial you have the child their attachment the umbilical cord to Mommy physically and spiritually in the fruit it's the Vegas with the Mazel and the animal is the Vegas with the merkava the Nethers it's the vacas with the malach above it [Music] and then you have to Ferris is who I am and that's how you say this how you become that's leadership leadership is always defined by Nature site mm-hmm [Music] and it's connected to the names I'm not going to now get in about it this because it's a whole Indian but is always about understanding awareness is your emotions and that's how you say this how you impact other people it's even inside yourself you have these three things is where you come from who you are and that's how you say this how you become a must be inside yourself it's not only to other people it's also to yourself it's three completely different modalities [Music] is your inner awareness of everything and that's always defined by your attachment always [Music] to put it in simple words we usually Define Who We Are based on the information and ideas that were passed on to us and that's the Chabad that defines the nature of your vacas that gives rise to who you are as a person what type of attachments you have what type of rejections you have what type of cases whatever what type of teferas you say this how that translates into functional functionality how you actually create function functional decisions in your life whether it's more natural and the balatanya says and that's why there were three fathers oh sorry I I skipped the line is Kabbalah says every Kaylee has three dimensions [Applause] itself and hitzen is the way the Kaylee becomes a source for someone else like when akali has a handle it's called because that allows me to gain from the Kaylee right then there's the Kaylee itself and then this is where the Kaley's macabo from every Kaylee of water is macabre every cup of wine was macabo for makhavis which came from grapes which came from a tree which came from seeds that's where the Kaylee came from then there's the Kelly itself and then there's the handle of the Kaylee which allows me to take this picture and pour it into my cup that's the hitzen of the Kaylee and that's called Cesars is the head that vacas the who you are and soif is the end will you become [Music] foreign is the ultimate leader extrovert he speaks and he teaches in his mashpia and Yitzhak always wants to go away silence foreign what's a carbon carbon is he goes in the fire goes up glass but doesn't talk huh he laughs because he doesn't talk YouTube remains on the arcade even after the arcade physically he came over the altar but spiritually he remains on Isla tamima he remains a carbon and he's the pin of H what's Ace H always goes upwards that's why it's one activity in Hamish is he digs Wells what does Wells do it removes the cover-ups and it gets to the gets to the Wellsprings deep in the Earth Wells his Wells were ultimately plugged but yitzhak's main vocation and Hamish one thing he does the only thing we know about which means he's going away from the kitsonis going to the polymers it represents yet and then you have yaakov Yakov it says it says by the mishkan there's the bar on the right the bar on the left that we're connecting the beamsa it goes from one side of the world to the other side and in zoyer it says that it actually circled all the walls of the Mishka in other words means all the walls so he says [Music] that's the concept of or when you're in or when you're in reverence you're always in a state of of Bittle look you're like mesmerized you're you're an or Ava is is is giving projection is projecting love ores in a state of Silence of of reverence what's yaakov yaakov is in the middle it's the M sorry it's the atsumis it includes so yaakov is meaning he goes up to the highest because what's the atmos the atsum is real atsumi what's it mean a person has an Atmos what does it mean you have a core that you connect your polymers that's what it means you have a core you're connected to your penis and it extends this means yeah you know you say this person has a core probably every therapist should know this what does it mean a person has a core you have a core you have a healthy core you know who you are you know who you're not what's it mean it means you have a relationship with your highest penis all the way down to your ultimate hits there's a relationship you understand how much self-awareness you have you could see in every projection who you are in your deepest place and your deepest place you also know how to come out and be my spear that's that's the centeredness of Atmos Atmos doesn't mean I'm a child Atmos doesn't mean I'm a parent Atmos means while I'm a parent I'm a child I'm a parent and a child I'm an adult and I'm a child I'm young and I'm old these moments I'm connected to my source and there's no projected eye and then there's moments where I'm called upon in other words you can navigate the various elements in your personality that's Atmos because atomies means you're Macabre both cautious because Optimus is that which is macabo from there and it's much beer to there that's the prince of Jacob was the one to bring together of Raman yitzrook Now isn't it interesting that Yitzhak is the child you would think it should start with your truck and then go to avram right ah it should start avram as the father you took as the child so you would think you start with noise [Music] no [Laughter] what [Music] right so so that's the void that the whole system of ill of Allah is khetanus meaning avram's penises of ram as a father is and that's the first Jewish father of Rama is the first Jewish father he wasn't born a Jew he's the first Jewish father the first Jew who was born as a Jewish he had a brist at eight days so avram as a father right he begins as illah for the Allah is the first Jew who becomes the the is the primiest of that but the process of ill of Allah as we say started with not with there's also may be another point and that is sometimes our children are the ones who really help us see arpinius in ways that we can't see it on our own [Music] in other words this is one of the blessings of of having children if you're a real mature parent you teach your children and you also learn a lot from them because from the way my child responds to me I could learn a lot about me you know it's very easy to blame my child and say oh yeah you're you're not grateful but very often it's not that very often the children are just responding to truth so it's an opportunity your child is an opportunity to go back to your own primius because very often with ourselves we don't know we don't know what's happening you grow up yeah yeah it's good you become a child you become a father you become a mother suddenly your children start reacting in very interesting ways not always the ways you expected or you wanted and what happens you could get upset at them or you could say wow what's happening inside of me that they're responding to and you may become so much more authentic because of that you get what I'm saying [Music] or not huh what which play me doesn't live [Music] so so that's what I'm saying that sometimes the Yitzhak says Ayla this is foreign we have a very deep shot Rashi says why does it say twice this is the story of yitza the son of avram now something else happens can give birth to it redefines of Rama as a father also sometimes when I see what type of son I have whose hits you could say wow what did I give birth to did I maybe give birth to something based on my own lack of plymus which means I have to go back to the father instead of going to the child maybe you have to go back to the father and say who did I give birth to in other words what was involved in this ashba was this ashba coming from that was devoid of climbius [Music] the ability to give birth again to his son by giving birth again to himself okay enough said [Music] this year went much much longer than I expected what's the answer what came first the chicken or the egg what reinvents the chicken very good the chicken came before the egg but through the egg there's a new chicken the chicken asks hey why is my egg cracked why is my egg dirty the egg is that came from somewhere maybe you should look at the source of the eggs and then you'll fix your eggs by fixing yourself some parents get very very upset when we say this they say that we're justifying a spoiled generation of entitled kids who have don't have aim but I disagree and I feel that when we as parents get upset at this message is because we're not ready to look at our own truth does anybody disagree with the fact that we may also be wounded that we're not the best most perfect people who ever lived it's not about judging parents it's about self-awareness proof in the pudding is that when you work on yourself everything in the house becomes better children are happier the parents are happier there's more years in the house not less Hashem there's less uptightness there's much more flow people don't have to get offended from this it's like this generation we blame parents and the kids are that not even though they're half young men and they're frivolous and they're anarchists and they're self-centered and they're entitled and why can't they learn from us look how loyal we are to our parents and I say your kids are telling you just because you're traumatized and just because you're in fear and you were never honest with your parents that's why you want them to be the same they're giving you a gift it's the gift of gula it's the gift of Redemptive Consciousness it's the gift of expansiveness doesn't mean that children always make the right decision but what it means is that so much of what's Happening we could look at ourselves and if we can help ourselves we can help everybody around us but it's a very humbling experience because with this you have to say maybe I have to have empathy on my own mistakes and my own deficiencies and my own wounds this mosca it goes very fast that's true it's hard to catch your breath that's true and we have to have compassion for that too everyone has to have compassion with the fact that we're not perfect and we make mistakes but mistakes are not the issue mistakes are not issues me of and everyone is supposed to make mistakes unless you're not human human beings make mistakes that's true it says Hashem created sugar before he created the world why did he create true before he created the world because he knew he's creating a world where people make mistakes the problem is not making mistakes the problem is if I don't learn from my mistakes if I start idolizing my mistakes and worshiping my mistakes and my mistakes instead of looking at them and saying I made a mistake it's your mistake and then you can't learn you can't grow it's I get emails from people quite a few people parents and they they get very upset they're like you speak of these things and all you're doing is emboldening and motivating children to rebel and alienate themselves of course children adults are responsible just like parents are responsible from themselves as we grow up children are also responsible for themselves but I would say that at least in many many cases not in all cases but in many many cases right sometimes the inability of us as parents to be introspective to be curious to learn new things holds back so much of the relationship that we're capable of having with our children sometimes there are children who grow up and are in the same position they're not ready to learn anything they're not ready to be curious about themselves it's not a blame game it's it's a journey into awareness of and yaakov everybody does MS the more you could connect to your own panemias the more you could connect to other people on that level right the more I could connect to my inner child the more I could connect to my child's inner child but if I'm not allowed to connect to my own inner child how can I connect to my child's child I'm only allowed to connect to the adult inside of me so I'm only allowed to connect to the adult Inside My Child So my child is being a child what happens I can't deal with that I didn't I was never allowed to connect to my child you know how tragic that is my child is hurting I'm not let it hurt I was never a lot of hurts How Could my child hurt so what do I do I explained to my child how they're hurting is stupid grow up baby or I'm thinking that but if you would be able to connect to your own Childs you could connect to other people's children to the other to the child inside of other people foreign okay based on a sheer that spoke a lot about not talking I think there was enough talking no huh this is the book how to raise healthy parents I told you a teenager told me very good there was a guy in the kitchen here I was taking the one day over here where they served the soup so a teenager kind of he says you know Robin why why it's not easy raising parents today I'm like you got it not easy the parents are resisting we don't want to go to school we already graduated school the last navua the last Navi in Tanakh is Malachi Malachi is the last movie in the second beginning of khaga is the last of Malachi what's the last navua that Hashem left to the Jewish people literally the last of uh novelist the hearts of the parents are going to return to truth through the children the last prophecy of Asha vegetable you're here people don't realize that was the message [Music] parents can do children through their children doesn't necessarily mean the whole concept of return to Emma is it's a blessing when you could see that instead what do I do what do some people do the worst children in the world spoiled brats I should have spanked them some stupid teacher told me not to hit my kids I should have done what they did to me and then my house would have been a Canadian sure would have been a fake grenade it's called it's called the concentration camp to be able to create a real grenade let's put a real grenadin place of Ms place of Plymouth this doesn't mean someone is going to write to me oh so now you cautioned everything there's no discipline anymore of course there's discipline discipline is important but discipline has to come from it's not from concern is discipline has to come from a place of connection of Love of attachment not discipline because I'm an angry impulsive human being who's who's who's in a very very sad and despondent and depressed place and I'm just acting based on impulsivity and I'm not reflective and I'm not curious discipline needs to come from a place of attachment of trying to be there it's it's discipline needs to come from love if it doesn't come from love it's dangerous right okay since today is your birthday so it's an opportunity to be reborn back to premieres says in Swan this is a birthday is a time you can go back to the vacas where you come from the mail that could be a male that could be optimism so out of his birthday whatever you asked for today is fulfilled yeah I know this I was there yeah okay tomorrow morning there's a class for women at 9 30 a.m and we will resume this Thursday morning at 7 45 base Russia do you have money well this is nice and shoes don't you have to be one doesn't one model could be higher than the other to get the other one position yeah mccoblin Damon then can only happen when one malach no they're not in the same footing mccoblin Denman Day means one Mala has macabo from Ohio that it's it's it's ELO and then this malach can become yeah he's talking about all of them so every Mala has someone it's Macabre from its spiritual parents so to speak yes and then the atmos what's a Shyla [Music] you should always visit your child especially in Hawaii sometimes now listen sometimes our children sometimes our children are in pain she is and they're not ready for a relationship okay so then you should visit then you should visit children are ready for a relationship we should always embrace it if they're not we have to remain patient and not stoop down yeah yeah sure right just say hello and then goodbye I want to stay for 10 minutes and enjoy it in the makeup make a trip out of it make a trip out of it also which city in Hawaii Honolulu Rabbi Krasinski yeah Mitchell yeah it's a park there called Canadian gardenia yeah my daughter knows every part don't worry wow it's a mighty decommer huh oh you missed uh make sure you hear the sheer today important things it's a pleasure and honor to have you [Music] oh yeah I was it was good in Detroit Fresh Start huh amazing I saw you brought it brother's creativity was [Music] ah Mighty dick might addict