I דינר 'בוני עולם' R' Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz Speech I 'Bonei Olam' Dinner I — נאום ר' שלמה יהודה רכניץ

vicious admire him Robin and Rosh Yeshiva Aaron you're on I was taught my whole life that every person has a defero as to whether he wants to be my Commandments or not the tiger gave us 613 mitzvahs and hopefully most of us are being Micaiah most of the mitzvahs but there's something that always bothered me the first mitzvah the tire is Peru or of who Millis or 'it's the fruitful multiply and fill the world the Kim of this Mitzvah as stated in the Navi is Los Zetas Arzo the a bestir wants a yeesh of Elam Davis tur wants more people it's an Indian of the of a yeesh of Elam so there are two parts as a matter of fact even galleon by the way had this live until Mountain tire so how in the world could the abus should give us one Mitzvah that we can't control it's not in our power why do we make the a bish to look cover your whole like he's teasing us every other myth so you can control prove who is not in our hands I realize that the very strong and powerful answer is that it must be in our control we can do it in ideal world every addition couple can have a child but there's clearly something that we're not doing right we're seemingly lacking an integral component in assuring that every last couple can have a child if we look carefully at the first midst of the tire Prue or Hulu milliwatts are 'its there are two parts to this Mitzvah the first part is on a yakit an obligation on each individual man and obviously because one person can't fill the whole world by himself the second part is the Mitzvah is under Robyn and I have a riot Brewer that what I'm saying is Emma's the Gomorrah and Shaba says it's not falafel alum at Aleph that after Marius from Shawna when we come to show Maya they're going to ask some questions and one of the questions is a sacked of the period Arabia what's the strange language of a sakta why would you say he am superior there review what's what's the passata and in addition while the a B student already knows the answers to all the questions that he's asking why can't you just tell them Oliver look how many children I have what do you asking me consciously you can't see look how many children I have it's talk of the only one of the questions that a regular layperson one of us can see so the question that they're asking in charm I am is not only if you were the Khayyam the Mitzvah as a young kid but a sock were you an asking in this in Ian in what way did you help the cloud be mcian millou asuras what could we do for the a mr. to help another couple have a child what must we do the answer is easy because it's not my question the Kumari of hummus ass why were all the Moi's except Leia akari's why were they all barren and for the Gemara then they shot that is America Masada but feel awesome shots are Deacon they burst it takes pleasure and seeks out its felis of tsadikim so yes we all dive in for our own children and for our grandchildren and sometimes even for our close friends but that's not enough just like the months and the always all had to dive and every one of us has an obligation to dive in for everyone else to have a child additionally as with most other mitches to continue to be oh you sick in this Mitzvah we must give money and not just money for our own children but money for all of college girls children we need to realize that the problem of childless couples is not their problem it's our problem the infertility becomes our infertility the pain becomes our pain the tears becomes our tears yes Claudius Rome needs everyone to participate in the midst of yeash of Ireland and indeed we do nobody say take a look around see there are thousands of sounds of thousands upon thousands of pee we're here tonight to help individuals they don't even know you're the Martin breakfast tells us if the a bestir was chilling the entire day and has the choice to write anything he wants on the cloth and what does he choose to write words that are so appropriate for tonight's dinner meet cam for yourself which nation can even be compared to the eating who gathered together in immeasurable numbers because they know that someone else is entire and not just any tire that's Casals showed us there's no greater pain that exists in the world if the ADA sure wanted to hear that felis of his people there's no think shortage of unthinkable scenarios that would force us to give a sh ride or there not lay a line of people with sick Hinda life where they're not thousands of unconscionably syrup that the knots knots easy about remembers if from committed which would invoke the strongest and fiercest fields from collier all so there's no doubt the Gemara saying that the pain of infertility is the greatest pain of all it might not be visible it might not look as dramatic but take a moment and speak to a childless couple who are willing to share their private emotions and you'll shudder as they relay their pain that should not do a Jahannam that they endure daily because for a childless couple there's not one diagnosis that sire is reborn every single day it's miss cottage the whole yelling tummy there's no respite at all they spend their days avoiding people occasions and places that will put them in an awkward position of silence and embarrassment they listen to their friends complain that the new school bus schedule is way too burdensome how difficult is to deal with the five year old they have who's still wetting his bed what would they give what would they sacrifice to sleep in a wet bed with a child it's so hard to imagine what it's supposed to be a simplest Duntov pays off by the Seder when all the other children are being asked one by one to save McManus Donna there are so many things we do what to say there give a Shi sha la tinnitus it's all about the children on my plate Sethe if the couple wants to go out and have a conversation they can go out during Mar because they already are yet to the Mitzvah of Mara and they're simply waiting what's going to embarrass the next I would have to imagine how painful it is for a childless mother pleading Tosh M but her parents some who are here tonight don't have to imagine it they see it all too often it's possible that when it that a woman is diving for children she devises different methods of how to be miss fowl she cries you made me a promise Ava schtor that since I gave the fruit of the a todas to my husband I would have heavily later so where's my curse where's my separate later she so badly wants a child she begs her Twala the claw of higher power birds fighting if they rhoynish you may not have talked to me that I'll endorse a giggle Bannen then I'll spend not nine months with sorry bur that I have the pain of that lame Ashiya you curse the knowledge and until today every now hush Bar None moves on its stomach on the ground and eats on the dust of the earth where's my koala I'd like to know who in this hall can walk into a hospital room and see light later a 25 year old bossy sure all ravaged by enema flow weighing 80 pounds lost all her hair it's just a few days left if the doctor told you we can save her we can completely reverse the situation with no side effects it's just a matter of money I don't believe and nobody's gonna convince me if it is even one person in this hall who would not write a check way beyond their means to save her rabbi sigh why do we need to see this 25 year old in a hospital bed she lives around the block from you and she's suffering unimaginably ziram that go on and on like I said it's not as visible or dramatic but it's there silent yet screaming a sweet smile but a horn that's ripped into pieces who can hold back tears when seeing rapid lung a young father hardened closely as he possibly can a sick child who's crying from all the suffering and pain that these terrible maquas cause he begs to be a mr. just to let his son live why do we need to see that father to understand the Charter the father and others like him are sitting among us here tonight so how do we bring them out of Jahannam on this earth how do we cure them to completely reverse their problem how do we transfer them the young ela simcha I'll tell you how with money a simple check how many tears and mock lists are there that we have to deal with and maybe I see a little more of it where it could be an ocean of Aisha no amount of money in the world will help but the hard statistics are that more than 85% of childless couples that come to buy them eventually have a baby a mother will never be able to cut her own baby a father will never be able to walk to shul hands in hand with his little tired engli nobody that's right nobody has the right to drive a luxury car build a fancy house and go to Pesach programs or spend money on unnecessary luxuries before they give one of these couples just one chance to hold their own baby nobody has the right to go on expensive vacations or their annual trip to Florida no man has the right to buy an expensive suit and no woman has the right to buy expensive jewelry before they sponsor at least one procedure for a childless couple and let me assure you make no mistake about it that no fancy car for a luxurious vacation or anything that has the best that oil my buzz the best offer can bring you even a semblance an iota of what you would experience watching the joyous tearful faces of one of those couples finally holding their newborn baby in which you had a fail look in which you are a off' in your mind if you don't agree with my assumptions i suggest you go to buy the island and take a genetic test to see if hear me Xena hovering it's at the octave but I have to give all my chocolate to Talmud Torah this is that will lead to Talmud Torah but the Heder called and you know how important it is tonight you shall be Robin this will lead to the nitrous bass Robin gente Casa Scala and to generational Bhima Khayyam all the mid-season attire you may not even realize that we plead for this during the holiest moments of Russia on Yom Kippur when we recited in asana taketh cowboy Avram the comedy beret on how many will pass on and how many will be born me you feel me Alice who will live and who will die it's not a double Russian me if he only humus is on the UH feet and calmly averin and Tom Lieber Alan how many will be born and how many will pass on were essentially asking did we create more people in the world is there more he Shoveler were there more people who were born than horn iftar this is the driving force of boy Neelam Tommy Bahrain imagine just for a sheer moment the pressure that wouldn't let most of us sleep at night to decide comedy Brian why are we forcing her shame about her to make daily decisions on Tommy Barrone who'll get a child who will have a chance and who won't have a chance and if we're true us gunnin well a boxer wouldn't have to choose at all just two months ago we all it's Hanukkah left do you ever wonder why the Shama SH always stands higher than all the other candles in the menorah I'll tell you my answer it's the first night of Hanukkah and the single flame is glowing at the right side of the middle Europe how are we supposed to have just one there your son asks but I see two - oh you mean the Shabbos he doesn't count the second I taught thee are we supposed to only have two candles tonight why are there three three oh that's the Shama Sh he doesn't account night after night the Shabbos goes about his task of kindling lights each evening he welcomes the newcomer and settles him into his place in the menorah two flames three flames for flames the childish brings them to life and then stands and watches over them yet still the Shama she doesn't count he gives light to all the candles but he never attains the status of a conical lights in his own right he himself never gets the Shiva's of an air Konica us with astonishment Oh Larry symbol vowed he never thinks about himself his entire job in life is to bring light and to bring life to others and this is why the shamash towers above all the other lights in the menorah to forego one's needs to awaken aflame and others there's no bigger Swiss the Shama shiz indeed and should power over everyone else in my life I have never had the privilege of knowing such a hey Lagash Amish a Yid who never had children of his own yet dedicated his entire life tell Jewish mothers and fathers bring children to the world lips when Abbas - Leith is the greatest shine shine ever met because of him thousands of candles have been lit in our world close to 7000 you Tisha candles [Applause] he the shillelagh Candela glowing with kedusha were kindled in our world thanks to the work of this quiet unassuming shaman yet for himself he asks nothing I'll tell you something most people don't know the person is started by a limb is not Rolly Lochner its Rebbetzin baccala upon learning that they've exhausted all the different procedures and that they would not have a baby on their own she decided she would dedicate her life to helping others have children and no we can't imagine the tire that she goes through but after may have asked reshawna they're going to come to her and trips flame on there of Shabbos and say we need you they'll look back and say it's 8 o'clock in the morning but the Malacca Cherise will bring them into a massive Hall that's occupied by the largest golden life they're ever created which will then probably have 20 or 25,000 candles and they'll say to her you need to light a candle for every child who you and your husband brought into this world and if someone asks this is if you ever forget to light on their of Shabbos from then on you have to light in the extra candle so Rebbetzin balcony did you forget whatever she and her husband will look into the eyes of the my lock him and say no we never forgot anyone we never turned anyone away we were I sit with every last couple and then they'll go to the mayor's and cover their eyes they'll make the Bravo and they'll have a vision of all the daughters of the children who belong to her and her husband the Box their children and just like Yaakov Evita roughly may know who initially was not Cara built up twelve chaton they too literally built up their own shaven Claudia so let me tell you a MYSA which I was involved in a small way there was a couple who although they tried for many years they couldn't have children but they desperately wanted to hear the sounds of a child in their life they want to be Makana the child so they adopted a child from an organization cuts called al at first it was blissfully beautiful everything was perfect but very early on this little boy began to act up in this babe they did the best they could but before long it was no longer in their hands his child went off the derrick no you dish in office whatsoever he kept nothing no shadows no cashes no devel nothing one night he walked by his parents bedroom and he heard his mother crying to his father look at what we did we tried for so many years to have a child and we decided that we're going to do something nice something good we did admits when we adopted a child and now we have a child like this it hit him like a rock he felt sick he felt he was so useless he felt like such a terrible person his parents had given him everything and he had given them nothing in return right there and then he decided that he was going to do something something for them and something for himself the next day he went to his father and mother and he told them he's ready to change you want me to wear its villain fine but I want something in return I want you to go meet with Bella although they had no interest in going through this anymore they've been through it so many times for him they were ready to do it to where it's filling so they chose to go through a procedure the next negotiating chip was Shabbos the couple didn't want it but the child said I'll keep Shabbos if you continue pursuing treatment this went on as he only agreed to continue his journey back to either Skype as long as they continued treatments it was a long process but slowly the boy found his way back home he was once again a friend bother even making a cm on the cestas breakfast you can't imagine what kind of seemed they planned but then never the middle of the planning tragedy struck the boy began began not to feel well and the diagnosis was yet Amala he decided to make the see him in the hospital what an emotional moment it was they both brought all the food there and he was ready to start but for some reason his mother wasn't there he sent something was wrong there's no way she would missus for anything in the world his father dodged his questions but finally had no choice but to admit she was also in the hospital at first he was horrified but then his father broke the news that morning she didn't feel very well the broader the hospital took tests and discovered she's pregnant a short while later she came up for the scene it was one of the most beautiful moments of her life the boy went into remission but then a year later after he already had a baby brother the sickness came back and this time there was nothing they could do no treatments would help on one of the last days of his life the ill young man asked to speak to his little brother as tears streamed down his cheeks I know that no one thinks that you understand what I'm not about to say he said but I know you understand me Mommy and Tati did everything for me they gave me everything and unfortunately for most of my life I gave them nothing back now I'm going to go on to the next world and I want to give you something I have nothing to give you I have no yoru sure I don't own anything even my hospital gown is borrowed but there's one thing I can give I can ask you to promise me that you always will give the nachus to our mommy and toffee that I was never able to promise me you'll give nacos promise me the little boy looked at his older brother and seemingly smiled a few weeks later the young man was lifter this is what by nyalam does when all else has failed when dreams have been but there seems to be no hope Balaam gives elides to couple's mitzvahs novice and yet it's a sham I along with all of you will experience her clay vase a year you mull you loved me you love these miss off him girl Avery Sal I was thinking that I have to decide how much to give it's a binomial and then I decided I'm not going to decide you're gonna decide every check or credit card that's written tonight or pledge that's given tonight and while you're doing it your media will be Mikado that by every Fela your darling for the cloud not only your own children so we can yearn for a world where there's no childless couples any dollar I will match thank you for listening [Applause]