I Got Punched In The Throat...

bam I got punched in the throat my first time ever getting punched in the throat I hear him screaming at me you got a problem man you got a problem so we're at the Bulls game and I get up probably go to the bathroom or something but I get up and I'm On My Own by myself and I see like a commotion and I look closer and it seems like an adult man screaming at an older woman and another adult man screaming at him and I realize it's like this guy like screaming at his mother in public and she's screaming at him and the brother's getting involved the brother's getting in between it seems like the brother is getting in between them seems like maybe she's screaming at him that he's drunk because he's acting very drunk and I don't know I just actually pause the way I should have told the story I should have started like this I got him to go to the bathroom I came back 45 minutes later and my father said where have you been I said I just walked around the entire Stadium why did you walk the Old Chicago Stadium the old barn on Madison Avenue why did you walk around the entire Stadium I said well because I was scared to walk back the direction that I came from and I'll tell you then I told him the story that I got up and I saw some guy screaming at what appeared to be his mother and another guy screaming at him who appeared to be his brother and he appeared to be intoxicated so I don't know I'm just a helpful guy I'm trying to be nice I don't know I I think I can be helpful I don't know why I thought this and and I I I don't know how old I was but you know it was in those years when we were going to the game so maybe I was 10 maybe I was 15 I really can't remember how old I was but I was a young kid I go over and I say I think can I can I help you I think it was an innocent can I help you and Bam I got punched in the throat it's my first time ever getting punched in the throat it's guys who know how to fight they know that they know that the first punch should be in the throat because it's very stunning it just your eyes tear up you black out you don't really see anything and it's it's it's incapacitates you and as I'm sort of coming back to uh Consciousness he's I hear him screaming at me you got a problem man you got a problem and I was screaming no no problem no problem and I just walked around the entire stadium so I wouldn't have to see the guy again because I didn't want to get punched in the throat again so I told my father this story so it's very interesting how he took that moment first of all he saw that I was okay like if he was worried that I wasn't okay it would have been a different reaction he saw that I was okay he said well you see that's a game that's a game they're playing it's a game of three roles of a victim uh a persecu uh a victim persecutor rescuer yeah victim persecutor rescuer it's a three person it's like tag on the playground but it's like three parts victim persecute a rescuer and and that's a game that they play and he says I'm sure these people play this game often I'm sure they're very good at this game I'm sure this is one they spend a lot of time with this activity now what you don't realize is when they're playing this game oh by the way later on I looked it up what's later on like a year ago so like like 40 years later I looked it up and I found out what it's called it's called the karpman drama triangle the karpman drama there's a Jewish psychologist but you know I repeat myself named Steven kartman who came up with this concept called the drama triangle and he was into transactional analysis which I'll talk to about in a minute about transactional analysis because that was also very very very very influential upon me but Steph karpman was one of these guys into transactional analysis he came up with the drama triangle Dr drama triangle basically means you have three people it's a three-player game why is it called the game it's not fun because it's a distraction because basically it's an activity that's very intense that people can kind of sort of get their energy out and feel like they're doing something but no one has to express their genuine motives and no one has to actually pursue their genuine goals so it's a way for people to feel engaged and busy and like they're and I'll get to my commentary on this in a minute but so he says when they're playing this game though you have to understand that the roles are fluid the roles are very fluid you're not permanently assigned to these roles usually there's a default role that one person likes to fall into but if there's any change they will adapt and they'll change roles so he said you walked in and you sort of introduced a new factor to the game and so immediately what happened is basically you walked up to them and you said can I play and they said sure you're a victim bam oh and I should now I now I remember well it's coming back to me that when the guy punched me his mother screams stop it so now she's she's rescuer she's rescuer rescuer no I wanted to be I thought I was rescuer apparently I was victim okay so at any rate I learned so much so so much from that one incident I've saved myself so much misery and grief even when people are baffled when they're baffled and they're like why won't you get involved why won't you help come on they want to talk you sit down at I have a nose for this okay it sometimes it looks Earnest it's not it's a game and all that's going to happen is you're going to be extended an invitation to join the game and you could either join it and then have to be subject to the rules of the game or if you're not going to play it I trust me when I say if you're going to be well I'm going to bust up their game and I'm going to call them out and I'm going to let them know this is disingenuous they will get rid of you so fast because you're not playing the game we we're here to play uh tag and now you're you telling us why you're running around chasing each other nothing will happen if they catch you so I learned so much from that just about don't be fooled don't get sucked into the drama don't get sucked I I want to tell you how many meetings I've avoided because of this we're calling an emergency meeting whether it was like at a workplace or wherever or what we have to get together and solve this problem it's like you guys are enjoying this way too much knock yourselves out I'm going to sit this one out okay so just sharing it with you it is a superpower if you can perfect it hey this is shase tab you were just watching a clip from this class class if you want to get the full context the full class that this clip that you just watched was from you watch right here click right here here