How to SUCCEED in life | Letters #18 and #19 of 30 Letters in 30 Days

bar we are rolling I apologize for being late um I'm not asking for any pity but I'm just asking for your understanding that it is tough to turn out a quality class even non-quality any type of class just every single night to get it out um not easy okay so thank you for being with me um we're goingon to give s Daka as has become our custom here and this is in accordance with the fact that this whole learning that we're doing is a not just a preparation for yness and for the Reb's birthday but it's a gift of Tyra uh for the Reb's birthday and the spoke about the fact that the gift should be Torah study along with Saka so we're going to give a little Saka on the pushka app yay oh my pushka is full I have a $36 limit on my push gun now it's full all right I'll figure out later how to empty it I'm not going to do that while I'm sitting here with you guys how do I silence this so it doesn't bother okay great silenced all right Thursday night L shishi last night of the weekday we have uh a double letter CU we do the letter for tonight and for Friday night together I made a earlier here's our first letter for tonight um it's from the Tess I think both letters are from Tess tonight yeah and this is letter 2885 Brooklyn Shalom okay first day of um 1954 shom that means it's written to a man in answer to your undated letter by in which you [Music] write you say about what what's happened to you and your family and that you have not seen success in your Affairs and you conclude that in your soul in English would often say like in my heart but he says BF in my soul that in your soul you are a uh you are a Jew who wants to perform who wants to keep observe uh mitz but you're not Pious and you don't keep shabas Etc okay so somebody wrote to the deba that he's he hasn't had success he and his family he's looking at him him and his family's situation and they haven't had success in their Endeavors and also I want to in my in my soul I want to be a observant Jew but I'm not and I don't keep shabas okay okay just like it is regarding the physical life of the [Music] body a person speaks day and night imagine in theory if a person were to speak day and night about the benefit of eating food and he wants to get that benefit of eating food he wants to eat some of this food but as long as he doesn't actually eat his body will not benefit from all that talk that he's talking about how he would benefit from eating food but he's just talking about it he's not actually eating and over the the the time he'll get weaker until the end he won't even have the strength to speak anymore about the benefit of food now obviously that's just a mush right that's a an analogy but it's such a great analogy because it's first of all it's funny it's actually funny imagine this guy who's constantly talking about you know what would really be good for my body you know it is good for my body eating food yeah you eat food and you get calories and you can do stuff and you get nutrition and your body re rebuilds itself from from the from the nutrients and the food and he's talking and talk but did did you eat no no no but I I want to tell you more about food but did you eat no I didn't eat and he J Vala he's talking day and night about eating food and it's going to benefit my body but he doesn't eat he never eats until he's starving and now he's too weak to talk about the benefits of eating funny cuz there's an old joke I heard it from my uh my grandfather oliv a Shalom and I've also heard uh Josh Gordon all shom say this joke in the name of his father so I think it's probably just a joke that the old Jews used to like to tell but and it's not funny but it's you know the joke is there was a farmer who was uh upset because he realized he's spending so much money on oats for his horse this cost too much why why I have to spend so much money on oats so he cut down the amount of Oats that he gives the horse now he's saving money is great and he looks at the books he's uh about to to make a profit but he starts to save a little bit more money so he cuts down the oats and that he's feeding the horse and and now saving more money he's getting closer to actually uh breaking even and making a profit then finally he cuts down the horse to no food at all and uh once he's he doesn't spend any money on on horse food so now he doesn't have that expense oh now he starts to make money and then his horse dies and he says what rotten luck I have that just when I started making money my horse died the horse died because he starved it to death right okay and I said it wasn't funny so the point is I love this musle that I was saying there's a guy who's talking about how great food is for your body I'm not talking about junk food okay I'm not talking about you know the garbage do we eat I'm saying nutrition and the guy's not eating and he's malnourished and he's starving okay so it's a so too literally so when you're talking about the mus was about the N is about so the the analogy is the life of the body the analogue is the life of the Soul even the guy speaks constantly about how he wants to do Mitzvah and and the benefit of and the like but as long as he doesn't do it in actuality the soul isn't getting strengthened so the soul is being deprived of what it needs and it's going to get weaker over time now everything we said above about the body yeah everything we said about the body that would apply to the right and therefore now tying it back to the other piece of information the person mentioned in his letter to the debba the debba say says you don't really have to go searching for other reasons for their lack of success see isn't it interesting these two points the person mentioned um me and my family don't have any success in any of our endeavors oh I really want to be from I want to do Mitzvah um but you know I'm not so that first starts with the mush of the guy who's talking about the benefits of food and is starving because he won't eat and saying okay that's kind of like you you speak about the benefits of Mitzvah but your soul meanwhile is starving and it's getting weaker God forbid and then you you also mentioned that you're not having success in your life well you don't have to go searching for any more explanation then you have it right there you have it right there and and theba spells it out um yeah your lack of Torah observance is enough of an explanation Lavar to explain had the lack of success you see it right there we spoke about this last night I think about how the often speaks about the idea of I mean the words of the Z are Hashem looked into the Toyota and he created the world and that the deba calls it theba used the English word blueprint that Toyota is the blueprint for the world this is also by the way similar uh when the rebba introduced the 12 suim and the second B of the uh you know there were two dates and there was um so the second batch the second group of six of the 12 suim starts with braus and that's similarly what the said about what what's the meaning of the verse Bim that a child should know that the Abisha created this world so if it's the Aisha's world that means there can be no contradiction between following hashem's law and succeeding in hashem's world it's a false dichotomy it's a false dilemma it's not true I spoke about this at length last night and if you didn't hear last night's share you can go back and listen to it at any rate so that saying your your lack of success in the world it's you know like put two and two together like you're not doing what you need to do to strengthen your Nama and then obviously that's causing lack of success in your material Affairs okay let's keep going here um yeah yeah where would I oh okay now that EBA anticipates a question well hold on a second um you know I see people who don't observe Mitzvah and they're successful so why you telling me that my lack of Torah observance is the reason for my lack of success so that de anticipates that question even though we see people who don't keep Mitzvah and they are nevertheless successful we do not know hashem's calculations why he pays some people up front when he pay why he pays other people at a later date and and and the reason for the difference between the two in other words I mean this is a common concept that's explained in many places that sometimes when you see Wicked people prevailing it's because whatever good that they have done they have earned some reward so Hashem just pays them all the reward upfront and that's it but they're not going on to get more than that whereas other people have a great reward coming and they haven't gotten paid yet but they have a huge reward in store and that can be one of the explanations for why you see the wicked prosper and also conversely why you see the righteous suffer although theba doesn't mention that explicitly since you yourself write it's one of my favorite things when the Reb will say in a letter since you yourself write using the letter writer's own words to help give them Clarity and and the reason I love it is is I want to be clear it's not like throwing words back in someone's face God forbid cuz that's you know a dirty trick in an argument where you take someone's own words and you use it against them it's not a dirty trick it's actually a valid ma like in debate you know if you use someone's own words to defeat their argument but that's not what the Deb is doing at least that's not how I see it it's that the Deb is getting people in touch with their own Clarity and you know I've found this many many times I mean more times than I could count um in fact it's almost every time you find this that the question contains the answer or the problem already points you toward the solution so it's like that EBA takes the letter which is written in a state of doubt and sort of cuts and pastes and gives it back in a state of clarity and says like you're already answering your own question right okay um so since you yourself write in in in your letter that you believe in well T already writes about the the reward of keeping chabas the importance of keeping chabas and the reward of as well as the other Mitzvah that you don't mention he mentioned the guy specific specifically mentioned chabas but the says also the other Mitzvah in other words you're answering your own question you say that you believe in TOA well TOA says that there's first of all it's a necessity to keep Mitzvah but also there's a reward for keeping Mitzvah so like boom right there without maybe consciously realizing it you're answering your own question now if you listen to my advice how take from immediately that that's no joke take from immediately you should check all of your misas in your house to make sure that they are ker the guy says he's not observant maybe he doesn't even have misas but that's a nice way of saying and if you don't have them you better get them you should start putting on every weekday as is in accordance with with very interesting thatb gives a formula here uh you should put on and what should you do and at least dma the and the it's very interesting I I I've seen many letters that speakin but not necessarily that formula ofin and I mean obviously it's not this is not a general directive but this is written to this specific individual uh it's nevertheless very very interesting that theb is giving him sort of this formula um of how he should conduct himself uher uh you should keep a kosher home some in your house and all that is in addition to keeping chabas I'm laughing because the guy the guy wrote to the de I'm not from I don't keep chabas and the is like yeah and not only should you start keeping shabas but fill it and cous like shabas you mentioned yeah also shabas but also Kus and and fil since you mentioned this we're talking about he passed away in the I think maybe and so this letter we said was so he was he was originally from R I think they called him he was uh also involved in reloc hting the's o which is a whole Amazing Story a very prominent illustrious involved in Jewish Education in involved in the and the network of schools so apparently this person lived in ER he knew R and so the Reb says since he mentioned reaba in your letter um certainly he could help you with all this in your you know the kasas and the shabus and the filling the and he could also show you how to put on and I'm certain that when you do all of this in a very short time you're going to start to see success in your endeavors I await good news may you be written and sealed for a good year in the name of the signed by the secretary okay that's uh was a fun letter to to learn that the mush about the guy who speaks about food and never eats is a really uh it's a powerful it's funny it's powerful and it's very very clear okay all right by the way this is just coffee and why am I drinking coffee at 9:00 p.m. cuz I am I still have to learn ROM what do you need to know my personal life okay second letter butter Brooklyn New York shom this is from this this is actually I don't know why we did this is the second letter because it's actually written two weeks before the first letter so it's out of chronological order but it's fine okay this is yish uh I apologize for the nas the nas in general by the way are gaer that means awful downright awful um so I apologize in general for the PDFs I told you this before that like two three days before this project started I was speaking to le' shov and I was like how can we do this we need a lot more support we need a whole team and then we just threw ourselves into it and we said you know what any anything worth being done is worth being done poorly you just got to throw yourself in and yeah it's not going to be perfect but perfectionism um is uh it's not a good trait so so I mean obviously try to do things as good as you can but sometimes you just got to say I'm going to do it it's not going to be perfect but at least it'll get done so I hope you guys appreciate that we had to overcome our perfectionism in order to bring you this series yeah so the N is the I'm sorry the and it's me I'm I'm the one who's obtaining these the the the English translations are pretty good by the way that's Zan bendit Zan so the English is pretty good um uh the but the the nas are awful I'm sorry and and the Yiddish here nudus I don't know the the the the AI that we use for this just crashed because it didn't know what to do with the Yiddish so I'm really actually afraid I'm going to pronounce everything wrong cuz it did bizarre things with the Yiddish words with the the V I'm going to try to maybe I should even take off my glasses so I can't even see the all right I'm sure you find this all fascinating in of in answer to your letter from the 10th of is I'm really perplexed by what you write in your letter that the difference between previous years and um this current year is unnatural or beyond the natural order the original like unnaturally inexplicably unnaturally different this year in and from the context of your letter I don't think you meant that in a good way meaning you you said that this this past year has been you you didn't say but you but that's that was the implication because the whole letter was you know context of of complaining so yeah so this basically this person wrote to the rebba and saying I'm having an unnaturally bad year okay according to my view if you will think about try to remember regarding health matters and and and pay attention to the fact your wife is expecting may be in a good and auspicious time it is clear that yes your current year is it is unnatural but unnaturally thank God good I love it because the guy writes to the and says my year is unnaturally bad and not only does Thea say to him uh unnaturally bad no it's not it's not that bad I mean maybe it's bad but it's like you know naturally bad no the deba says it's unnaturally good unnaturally good meaning uh unnatural is a weird way saying of saying it and in English it sounds like synthetic is unnatural in in the sign in the in the the the idiom of means nature nature natural doesn't mean like walking in the forest and listening to birds sing natural means the predictable order of creation the things that we get used to and we don't see God's hand because it's just the way that it all always is as opposed to things that are above the way of nature means where you see overtly how there is now obviously there's even when things are going according to Tava but the point is that um if I were to give you an English word to say unnatural I would say miraculous what's the opposite of natural miraculous in the manner of nature in the manner of a miracle or what we would say Supernatural Supernatural doesn't mean really really natural like there's natural and then there's Supernatural it's really natural no super means above above so there's natural and then they're Supernatural that which transcends nature surpasses nature so it's it's like this guy wrote to the Deb and said I'm having a supernaturally bad year and the debba says I think you're having a supernaturally good year okay but Deb is not just saying that Deb is now going to walk him through it okay so first of all he says think about health now I don't know what the guy's Health situation was before but apparently something got resolved or maybe it was his wife okay because then the de mentions your wife is expecting maybe I don't know maybe she was having a problem conceiving and that was the issue but whatever it is that's not whatever was that problem that problem is isn't happening now and in fact your wife is expecting may be in a good and auspicious time like that's a miracle um yesterday we had a letter about uh marriage yeah and no no no no not about no that was yesterday we had a letter about Mar and two days ago we had a letter I think about worrying this guy was worried about his sister-in-law got engaged and the was saying she got engaged that's a miracle and the ne calls it a Ness and so a friend of mine called me up today and he's like I'm just blown away by that one line that the called it a miracle we we forget that Aid is a miracle right like we we throw around these phrases but hold on a second you have to really absorb that like it's a miracle so um like your wife is expecting that's a miracle it's a miracle like stop will you stop a second and just like you're writing to me and saying that your life is bad it's unnaturally bad like your wife is expecting like that's unnaturally good that's a miracle it's a miracle okay so the Deb is not just arguing and saying you say it's bad I say it's good the debbit is walking him through the facts this is not just like uh let's pretend everything is good this is no no let's be realistic everything really is good and if you will look at the facts you will see that it is good and not only it's good it's supernaturally good okay now the re says this that for a short [Music] time the fact that your money in your account is diminishing right now for a short time temporarily I guess the guy had some money issues I don't know what this guy's situation is but I think the guy was super wealthy because that debba refers to the fact that he has enough in a few lines the is going to refer to the fact that this guy has enough money to live on for years so I know I know wealthy people and it's funny you know because wealthy people have a different relationship with money where it's like they have enough money for a normal normal you know like typical family to live on for years but at the same time um you know so you would think they would never worry about about money but then it's at the same time when you have millions of dollars in the bank so maybe one day you're losing you I lost a million dollars yesterday now it doesn't wipe them out it's not like they're not going to live comfortably but it's it's yeah it is stressful bam I just lost a million dollars so you know and if for you know average family to lose a million dollars they don't first of all they don't have a million dollars but if they lost it that would be devastating so it sounds like that's the kind of situation here is this is a guy who has a lot of money but he just lost a lot lot of money and he's stressed he stressed and maybe that was the context of where he said I'm having an unnaturally bad year like man like I was making so much money and obviously the guy made money because he he was wealthy you know and then th this year not only I wasn't making money I got clobbered I had an unnaturally bad year and the I is stopping him and being like okay yeah I hear it you just lost a lot of money this year but you're you're living a miraculously good life and I'm not pretending you didn't lose a bunch of money but like can we just put that in context for a second so here's where the Reit puts it in context so okay so you have less money in the bank account um yeah it's not a real loss it's very interesting the fact that the numbers in the account are smaller it's not a real loss it's imaginary it's so funny cuz it's true it's like it's a video game I was thinking that about that recently like I'm looking at my bank account I'm in the middle of should I talk about my personal life it's not like super personal it's my public personal life but I'm trying to finish building the the soul word's house God willing which we'll talk about maybe maybe later tonight about yud alness and maybe maybe maybe we'll have an event we'll have a soft opening um let me get but you know you look at the money in the account there's so much money you know spend so much money and the numbers go up then the numbers go down I was thinking this is this is a video game like where's the money like where's the gold in Fort Knox I'm not seeing any physical money here these are just numbers like a video game score right it's imaginary so the Deb is saying to him it's not a real s Beil so the number went up then the number went down but it's you're not actually living differently because of it and then theba says and and and especially you know when you're talking about Bon when you're talking about the real area of blessing of family and real parosa meaning having what to eat having what to subsist on and uh and health like thank God like okay the numbers are going down and it looks scary when you look at the bank statement but the real things in life like There's No Lack in those things so perspective perspective and it's known what the sages say 48b what do they say as dead someone who has expenses for today he has the money to cover today's expenses and he worries about tomorrow's expenses he lacks Faith you have what to you have the money right now any expense you have right now you have okay so you're worried about tomorrow don't worry about tomorrow is as many is so not only if you have enough money for today and really for a few months and actually for a few years you can live on what you have for a few years that's what I was referring to before nor design in room but you're worried what's going to be in the future years uh deposit that's an English word when their deposit in Bank ver CL and the smaller the deposit the bigger the worry out of you're in a room but it's you're worried about money that you don't need right now for many years oh you're forgetting this lack of money has no comparison to the the things that you actually have which is an improvement in health and the fulfillment of your heart's wishes I think he's talking about his wife being pregnant that that was the Fulfillment of his heart's wish so the fact that the the deposits are smaller and you have less money in the bank compared to the real bras you have of improved health and having your heart's gr wishes granted it's nothing it's nothing is do G and to to feel like that you're lacking when you're in such a situation is a it's the result of a profound concealment it's self understood I do not mean to give you giving muser is uh like critique I'm not here to give you critique really I'm not says nor a I'm just I think it's a Pity and it's it's painful when a Jew has so much to be happy for not just spiritually but also materially that he has a not just of the of the soul but also of the body both from The Godly soul and the animal soul is is like instead of being happy with all you have to be happy for you're worried and you're pain about what's going to be how is the one who provides for all Hashem who provides for all how is he going to deal with you um in in many years to come like that that Abba saying I'm not I'm not giving you muser I'm telling you it's a sh and it's AAR it's a Pity and it's a pain I'm just telling you like that's sad like you have so much to be about and it's not just spiritual it's also material it's not just NE neiss it's also NE shabis and and and you choose to be stressed because the money situation that really doesn't even affect your day-to-day life like please please like I'm saying I've said it before I'll say it again a little perspective a little perspective okay since we're in the Happy Days when was this letter written you remember from the beginning the date was wasn't it um y so is the day after so the says we're in the Happy Days what does it mean the Happy Days says from the 10th of meaning the day after the power of as is uh is lost and not found here are making it hard to read uh as of Zite wow cool uh so too the the the influence of asov should be lost and and no longer found and um all the concealments that are res resulting all of his arguments his deceptive arguments should that come from his side should be lost and not found in other words yank the twin brothers that's so basically um he's saying we're already in the the days after tshav so things are getting you know you have the nine days and everything but after that we we're we we go into we start ramping up into SIM so aso's influence is waning and uh the Deb is referring to this guy's stress and his worry as the arguments of asov so that should dwindle as well and then you will be able to fulfill with two B so okay what are the two bases so you could say but it doesn't says so when you say la with one base that means just the heart of the Just The Godly Soul when you say then that's with both the and the and the meaning you should be able to be happy about your spiritual as well as your material the things that are good for the soul and for the body for The Godly soul and the animal soul with blessing okay that's our second letter very very quickly I'll just tease it um I've been those who follow my stuff know that I we we bought a property about a half a block from the aisle uh for a month we we we rais the money Collective collectively from you from the community from the Soul wordss Community virtual community to to get the property and then for like many months was just sitting there and we were trying to get the money to start construction and then um right before Tish before the high holidays this year we started construction God willing God willing God willing I will have news to report about a soft opening very soon and maybe maybe maybe perhaps maybe a Yol of Nissen event I'm just going to float that out there okay thank you good night good shabas