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I think people get a little ahead of
themsel. They they they [music] go crazy
trying to go ahead and figure out how
much money they should, you know, leave
their kids. It's important. It's very
very nice as much as you can, but don't
think that you're going to work [music]
till 80 or whatever you're going to just
to give money away to your kids. Keep to
your lifestyle. Hopefully, there's going
to be money left because everybody wants
to leave something [music] for your
kids. I think you being with them and
help helping them out now wherever you
possibly can if they want to buy houses
and if you could go ahead and afford it.
I don't plan on taking the [music] money
with me. So, uh whatever we could help
them now and whatever we have all this
[music] not taking anything with me.
>> Welcome to the middle class podcast. Uh
I guess I can say friend.
>> Yes.
>> And maybe mentor as well.
Rabbid Goltharb um who I've known for
many years. You probably seen me grow up
since I was a little boy. Uh Davin in
the same shel in the community. And
today um from feedback from our
listeners, I wanted to focus on planning
for retirement.
Reason being because David, you are
retired. I mean, we never ever retire.
Of course, we're always working and
doing something. But um in the uh
literal sense, you're retired and um I'm
sure you've planned um accordingly to
get to that point. And I want our
listeners to be educated on how to be
able to plan safely for retirement and
how you got to where you are today. So
that's the focus. It's going to be about
retirement and how to get there. And I
wanted to start with David. What do you
do on a daily basis um today cuz I know
you're not working. So what uh what is
the life that you're living?
>> Uh so I'm learning practically the
entire day. I learn myself in the
morning. I have a kusa from 11 to 2,
another from 4 to 6 and learning again
at night from 8 to 10.
>> Okay. So um you're not an old person but
as we say it's
um so that's your full-time occupation
now. Let's call it learning. when you
were working did that was that your
vision for retirement what were you
planning for when you were saving for
retirement?
>> So the first day that I I remember when
I started working practicing law I
always wondered what the last day of
working was going to look like and uh I
had the vision I had the vision for over
40 45 years
>> and this was my heart's dream to really
be able to go ahead and do this.
>> Wow. Because I tell all my clients that
when they want to think about
retirement, you have to have something
that you're planning towards. Is
[snorts] it spending your life visiting
the Great Wall of China or is it
[laughter] La Havdil or learning? Um, so
it's important to know what you're
planning for, but let's take a step
back. Um, so you said you were working.
When did you start working and uh we'll
start from there.
>> Um, I graduated college with a degree in
accounting. I went to law school,
practiced law for about four or five
years,
>> uh, a large law firm. I realized I was
not going to get to heaven from the
corner office of a large law firm. And I
decided to go ahead and join a couple of
other people in business. Um, the
business grew tremendously over about 40
years that I was there. And, um, I was
in the food business for most of the
time. And um at the end I I said I think
it's time to step away and I actually
did it on my terms and I said time to
move on.
>> Mhm. So you started off in a more
corporate
>> correct corporate environment.
>> Right.
>> Um so how old were you then when you
started working?
>> I probably started working about 26
after I graduated law school. Mhm.
>> Um again as I said working a number of
years in a law in in a law firm then
moving into business and [clears throat]
um from there the company grew by leaps
and bounds
>> and so did I. Um the two owners of the
company who were exquisite people to
work for extremely honest people and um
that's where my career was basically at
>> pretty much working at the same company
for that many years.
>> Mh. uh when things go well for Hashem,
you continue to stay. No reason to
leave. And um that's what I kept on
going.
>> Mhm. Yeah. I mean, it it doesn't hurt to
get some good business advice
tangentially.
Um so, you know, when I work with
people, it's an all gamut of ages.
>> So, you were 25 26. Do you were you
married? Were you learning at that point
or straight from law school? What was
the uh backdrop to that?
>> Straight from law school, I uh I I I
joined a very large law firm. So, I got
a feel of what that was all all about.
>> Um family grew together with that.
>> Have a number of children. They're all
married at this time. But yes,
definitely was a challenge to go ahead
and try to balance, you know, the work
at a law firm or any any large company
that you work with together with family
life. But I think I I put in a a pretty
good uh balance to be able to go ahead
and do it.
>> So So you're you're going straight from
school. Um did you learn in coal at that
point or
>> No. [clears throat] No, I didn't.
>> But now you're learning in coal, so it
[laughter] doesn't matter.
>> Um Yeah. So So beginning from the
beginning, like you were literally
starting from the bottom, let's call it,
>> right?
>> Um and how did you get by in those
formative years? Was it a struggle? Was
it easy? Was it hard? How did you get
by?
>> Um, I was earning a very good salary.
But, um, one thing I learned from my
father and when it comes to spending, if
you can't, uh, if you can't afford to
pay the bill at the end of the month,
don't go ahead and buy it at the
beginning of the month. I was always had
my eye on making sure not spending more
than you're earning. I think very
important together with that is a very
supportive wife which I'm very lucky to
have who um you know grew up in the same
background and we were very very careful
how we spent. We had lived in a very a
nice house still the same house that we
live in but you have to be very very
cautious on how you spend money. Some
people have a tendency to figure out
that they want to spend more than they
earn. And I think if you start from the
beginning during your working years and
you keep your eye on that, you can
continue to grow. Your expenses are only
going to get higher. Hopefully, your
salary is going to go ahead and increase
at the same time. But it's being very
very cautious on the amount of money
that you're spending and of course
saving. Um I had a financial adviser at
that time. We built it slowly but surely
making sure that you don't overspend.
And I think anybody that's going to look
to retire 45 years later, it starts from
the early days, right from the
beginning. If you have a plan and you
have support, again, I say a supportive
wife, you're going to be able to go
ahead and do it. If you step out of the
game and you want to go ahead and live a
life that's going to be keeping up with
everybody else, you're going to run into
trouble right from the beginning.
Wow. So you had that discipline from the
beginning,
>> right,
>> to live uh what you based on what you
could afford.
>> Correct.
>> So um when did you buy a house at which
at what point in time?
>> I was probably married 3 4 years. This
is I I live in Far Rockway. So this is
the first house and only house so far
that I own. Um I didn't want to move up.
uh you know or again keeping in line
with budgets and keeping in line with
what we could afford. Eventually we
extended the house so we we needed more
room but everything was within our
budget
>> and um like the neighbor love the
neighbor the neighborhood continued to
grow. Anybody knows Farakaway so it's
been a great neighborhood a great place
with a great r and uh I have no reason
to go ahead and move anywhere. Okay. So
already you're stemming the tide from
how other people are the direction they
move.
>> Correct.
>> And you're you're staying strong to your
strategy which is so important for our
listeners to hear in our generation, my
generation, let's call it. Uh it's very
expensive and people are doing a lot of
I don't know if you want to call it
extracurricular but it's expensive.
>> Yes. and you were able to stay the
course and uh stay affordable within the
affordable range. Um but how did you buy
the house? Did you save up money for
that? How did you cuz a lot of our
audience are in that, you know,
situation of buying houses. So how did
you do it?
>> Basically my wife and myself all on our
own. Nobody gave us a house. Nobody gave
us money for the house. We bought the
house that we can afford. And together
we we everything that we did we grew
together.
>> So you did you save for the house? You
saved for the house?
>> I was able to save for the house as
well. Right. [clears throat]
>> Wow. And you put down going very
nitty-gritty. You put down 20% on on
your down payment. Like you put down the
full amount to get the 20% down payment
or put down the full amount. This was
back in the days. Everybody's worried
about interest rates. 40 odd years ago
the interest rate was 16%. We were
fortunate fortunate to get a Sunny May
mortgage which landed up to be 13%.
>> It was [clears throat] uh somebody the
government was giving out these Sunny
May mortgages. Funny story, I think the
first 50 people that got to this um
closing office were able to get the
mortgage. So all of the people on our
block, we literally had to sleep in our
cars uh the night before this office
opened and the first 50 people got the
mortgage. [laughter]
>> And again, I'm saying 13 to 16%.
Obviously, [clears throat] the price of
houses were a lot less than they are
now.
>> What was the price of your house?
>> Our house my house was $150,000.
But on the other hand, people are not
getting salaries as they are today. So
everything is relative. you have to
match your salary against, you know,
what the cost of the house. Tuitions
were not there, but they caught up
pretty quickly. So, I was fortunate
enough to go ahead and my income was
staying ahead, not tremendously ahead.
You know, if I would have spent a lot
more on a house, I would have been, you
know, in a bad shape right from the
beginning. Mhm.
>> So once again, if if you work with, you
know, your accountant and a financial
advisor from the beginning to say,
"Listen, this is what you can afford, if
you're going to go over, you're going to
be behind the eightball right from the
beginning." Not a good place to be.
So I want to ask you a very personal
question. In those formative years, um,
how were you able to withstand the
pressure? Was there pressure internally
in your family to spend more than what
you could afford and and externally as
well? Were you was there pressure? Was
there pressure for that?
>> There wasn't any pressure on my part.
Again, I'm a very lucky person to have a
wonderful wife and she also does did not
have any pressure. A lot of times people
feel that's where the pressure comes.
Everybody else is buying a bigger house.
She didn't grow up that way. I didn't
grow up that way.
>> What about your kids? My kids bought
exactly the same whatever houses they
could go ahead and afford.
[clears throat]
>> I learned discipline from my father and
hopefully my kids learned discipline
from me.
>> Did they pressure you though your kids
to live a more I don't know lavish way
or
>> not at all. Not at all. I was I was
but I was very very lucky.
>> That's the kind of life that we set up
for ourself. We didn't go on lavish
vacations because we had to pay
tuitions.
>> And [clears throat] you're right. I was
able to withstand although the people
that I associate with didn't have didn't
didn't live the same life that I do.
>> So I think that's very very important
besides your wife and children. It's the
people you surround yourself with as
well. If you're going to associate with
those people, they're going to go ahead
and put pressure on you. I never I never
felt the pressure whatsoever.
>> Wow. So you had that discipline. Let's
go back to um when you were working.
When did you start saving for
retirement? Was it right away? And how
did you if you did start?
>> I think for the first day that I started
working, my wife was working at the time
as well, right when we got married. What
we worked out right from the beginning
is that we would live off hopefully on
her salary, which was the lower of the
two, and save on my salary. As time went
on, obviously kids came. She didn't work
anymore. She hasn't worked all the years
that the kids have been uh uh you know,
been around. Only afterwards, after
everybody was in school, she started
working. So, right from the beginning,
if if [clears throat] I had a $1.50, you
know, went for a savings or something
like that.
>> But I again, it's how you start and how
you put down the foundation right from
the beginning. It's just a basic basic
rule. Don't look around too much. Look
at what you have. Try to go ahead and
say that, you know, that rainy day is
going to come one day and in in the long
run, you're able to go ahead and do what
you want.
>> Mhm. So when you were working and you
saved,
>> right,
>> I'm assuming the vehicle that you used
was the company either 401k like you had
a 401k plan that had let's say a match.
Was that how you save for retirement
mainly or was it other ways?
>> Mostly 401k but uh in addition to that I
work with a financial advisor and they
set up a plan that this is the amount of
money that you should work out and save
every single year. and he is amazed
because I still have that same financial
advisor. And I asked him, "How did I put
all this money together?" And he laughed
and he said that from the beginning he
had clients that were young married
people that they were married two years
and they used to come to him crying that
they're $40,000 in debt.
Fancy vacations, fancy lifestyle,
everything that goes with it. and he
said you were one of the few that you
followed my advice and that's why you
are where you are and you are fortunate
enough to be able to do it.
>> Okay. So um what were the numbers that
you were saving let's say for retirement
and with the financial advisor? What are
the numbers? What were you saving? The
amount of money
>> I was saving at least $25,000 a year if
not more.
>> What was your salary at that point in
time? M probably I was earning I would
say close to $100,000.
>> So 25,000 25 you were saving 25% right.
>> And your wife when she was working what
was her income?
>> Um probably about uh 3540,000.
>> What did what did she do? Your wife
>> she worked for she was uh in computers.
She worked for a number of companies.
She didn't work that many years,
>> but uh for those years that she worked,
she earned a good salary, worked very
hard, and uh we try to put away
completely on her salary
>> uh probably another at least off of her
salary, maybe another at least 10
$15,000.
>> Mhm. So, um important to again point
out, we want to thank our wives, myself
included, for their support in
the household finances,
>> right? uh never really mentioned that in
a podcast but it's a personal thank you
and our audience and our listeners and
our people that we interview our
interviewees
um all thank our wives for uh being the
uh support that they are
>> right
>> okay so you're saving 25% maybe even
more um so let's move on as you're you
know moving along so you you went out of
law and then you were working in the
food business can you tell tell us like
what that was like, what what was that
industry that you were in and what did
you do?
>> So the company that I worked for, we
packaged meals for schools, hospital,
airlines. When I started with the
company was the early stages of the
company. Uh we had a uh production
facility in Brooklyn, a very large one.
Over the years, we purchased a number of
companies. uh one in Chicago, one in
California
and um my responsibility was I oversaw
all the purchasing for the company. Um
the company grew very very quickly. My
responsibility grew very quickly as
well. Uh every other week I was
traveling to different parts of the
world. I had staff in each one of these
offices very responsible and very very
time consuming. Um but I always make
time for the important things. you know,
my kids got a little older and um I
learned with each one of my kids uh
every single night and it was a joke.
One of the offices I always used to
travel to was Chicago, they knew every
night 7:00, which is 7:00 uh Chicago
time, David had to learn with his kids
and I, you know, went into a conference
and I and I and I learned with them
>> and uh on the phone on the phone
>> on the phone. Correct. You know, I used
to bring a stack of firm along together
with me. I could be sitting in an
airport and one of my kids if they're
going to hear this, they're going to
laugh. I'd be sitting with a Yoshua or
something else that they were learning
or if not a Gumar and uh if you're not
there, you know, I always say that
raising children is not a spectator
sport. You have to go ahead and be
present in their lives in a very very
big way.
>> And whatever's whatever's on their mind
and whatever they're involved in, you
have to be involved with as well. Um,
but as time went on, you know, more
responsibility, more travel. I was away
usually every other week for about uh
25, 30 years. Um,
>> how long were your trips? Um,
>> usually I left on a Monday and I usually
came back either Wednesday or Thursday.
>> Um, I'm looking outside of the snow.
Most of the time I travel to Chicago.
This is nothing compared to what I
[laughter] have. Every Monday was a
challenge traveling.
So I let me ask you because again your
uh mentor uh teaching me some life
lessons here.
You had a very busy job,
>> right? [clears throat]
>> And it kept you occupied and traveling.
You found time to learn in a very
practical way. How did that help you in
your business when you
when you were able to learn? Did that
sort of I know for myself but a lot of
people say of course that it gives you
perspective.
How did that affect your career? Like
um I'm very disciplined in my time. Um
[clears throat]
when I'm here I have very disciplined uh
you know what I'm doing every single
day. I didn't change that schedule no
matter where I was. Now, it may have
gotten a little later, but I made sure
that every night, you know, I try to
learn at least two hours a night. And uh
that's no matter what time I'm going to
finish working, that has to go ahead and
be part of your day. And if that's the
first thing that's going to go, you're
not going to work very well. Um I was
able to go ahead and most trips to make
sure that I dabbing three times a day
with a minion. Sometimes it happened,
sometimes it didn't. But the day has to
start early and end late if you want to
accomplish everything. If you're going
to start cutting ends, you know the
first thing that's going to go because
you're going to say you're too tired. It
doesn't work. Don't give up and change.
>> So, you can be successful, you can
retire, right?
>> Even Even I should say learning a couple
of hours a night in the morning. Um
traveling, it's a it's an inspiration.
Um
okay but moving back to the career so
you were um you what was your s once you
moved on from um corporate law
I wanted to understand how you
structured your contract let's go back
there did you have equity in your
company or how did you because I know a
lot of clients are it's hard for them to
or they never were taught how to
structure a contract in the business so
you came in early right you came in
How did you structure your contract? Did
you just say I want X salary or we're
going way back, but how did you uh come
up with your cuz you grew with the
company. So, how did how did you set
that up from the beginning?
>> I was fortunate enough to worked with uh
two really wonderful people. I did not
have equity in the company, but my
salary grew as the company grew
>> and my responsibility as my
responsibility grew so did my salary.
Um, we negotiated sometimes. It was, you
know, they they understood that I'm not
home and I'm and I'm going to go ahead
and have all this responsibility. Every
time we bought a company, I just
inherited their their purchasing
department.
>> And um, it became to be a lot of people
that I was responsible for. You have to
go ahead and hopefully you're working
for people that are fair. If you're
working for people that are fair,
they're going to compensate you
accordingly. they're going to understand
your value and they're not going to come
to, you know, hopefully you're not going
to have to come to them. They're going
to come to you. Uh what what an employee
wants sometimes doesn't match
necessarily what the employer wants and
sometimes, you know, you run into run
into uh problems. Don't stay too long
and don't leave too early. You know,
sometimes somebody wants to become the,
you know, head of the company within 5
years that they're there. It doesn't
work that way. You have to work hard.
You have to show your value to the
company and hopefully they're going to
compensate you and see your see your
worth. [clears throat]
>> Gotcha. Um Okay. So at that point you
were growing with the company,
>> right?
>> How old were your kids um at that point
in time when you were let's say moving
up in that company. Were there any large
expenses at that point in time? You said
you were paying full tuition,
>> correct? And that's So you always paid
full tuition. always paid full tuition
plus gave some extra besides the full
tuition.
>> Wow. Full tuition, a mortgage on a
house. So really all the expenses.
>> Camps.
>> Camps. You paid full for camps.
>> And um so really were there large when
did the large expenses come up? Let's
say for your children.
>> Um let's say was the bar mitzvah a large
expense for you? [laughter]
>> No. Each we had three bar mitzvah. Each
one of them was a shabas only bar
mitzvah. We had the family But we didn't
make any big affair. Once again, in line
with everything else that we live with,
we made up our mitzvah that we wanted.
We have a particular lifestyle to keep
it under the radar or nice, but you
know, very very balabatish. We didn't
have any big affair only because that
was our lifestyle.
>> And I'm not sure if you know your your
salary or the amount of money that you
have matches your lifestyle or is it the
other way around? Maybe it's your
lifestyle and therefore the kids always
went to camp. We took some vacations. We
didn't take any lavish vacations. All in
line with doing that.
>> Um
>> that's it. There's these
>> simple very very simple. It's well
simple is not so simple,
>> right?
>> Simple but not easy. I think
>> that's correct. That's correct. You have
to work at it. You really have to work
>> disciplined to be uh
>> um what did the bar mitzvah what did the
bar mitzvah cost [laughter] back? I
can't remember. Um, my youngest son is
close to 30, so it's been a couple of
years.
>> Not a fortune of money, but enough
money. But if you're saving, you should
be able to go ahead and do it. Again, if
you're going to have a lavish bar
mitzvah or you're going to make a lavish
wedding, okay,
it's going to cost.
>> Yeah.
>> Right.
>> But everybody, I'll say it the way it
is. If you want to keep up with
everybody around you, you know, just
make sure that you have enough money in
the bank account.
>> Mhm.
>> If you can't pay for it at the end of
the month, don't spend it at the
beginning of the month.
>> Okay. So, you were able to pay for the
Bitzvas,
>> correct?
>> And their weddings without going into
debt,
>> correct?
>> Did you ever have to borrow against your
house or
>> No,
>> never.
>> Never.
>> Uh-huh. Wow. Okay. [laughter] It's
already like a a bombshell. um for a lot
of us.
>> Yeah.
>> Um so what was the uh what was your
salary like when you were in your top
earning years? What was uh you know what
were your numbers at that point in time?
>> Um not tremendous probably uh 350 400
maybe some years it went higher than
that. [clears throat]
>> Mhm.
>> And and if you keep within your
lifestyle you should be able to go ahead
and do it. So, I made a I said a line
when I introduced the podcast that you
might know this, you might not, but
um the middle class income range for us
is between 250 to $350,000,
>> right?
>> So, you were not at any point making a
lot more than that,
>> right? So, you were you are a middle a
middle class uh you know representative.
Um,
to be honest, while I was talking to
you, I thought you made a million
dollars a year. I'm being honest with
you. [laughter]
>> That's good.
>> That's You give off that impression.
>> That's very, very good. That's just what
I want.
>> I thought it would, you know, um, but
that's, you know, middle class salary,
nothing extraordinary, and able to cover
all those large expenses,
>> um, and put away as well, right? Uh, so
as as you're moving along, you're always
con saving for retirement using your
401k. Did your company ever give you
like a bonus or anything that for your
retirement or was all funded from it was
all from funded from your salary?
>> And they matched it, but it was not uh
it was really nothing much.
>> They didn't really do a large match.
>> You know, in in in defense of all the
people today, these things cost a lot
more money than when I was doing it. You
have to be fair to them. Okay. But I
think that the um the affairs or the bar
mitzvah or the weddings that people are
making is is is really
you know higher than a lot of people
could actually afford.
>> Mhm.
>> Again you know it's not fair to uh
compare what was done 101 15 years ago
when the salary and what the costs of
things are. But even even within that
range, if the salaries went up and the
and the costs went up, it's just doing
the same amount of budgeting and just
seeing what you could afford and stay
within those those those ranges.
>> Mhm.
>> I think [clears throat] that people are
getting uh a little carried away,
>> getting out of hand a little bit.
>> You know, every magazine is now in the
last couple of weeks, one magazine in
particular is having article after
article about spending and spending and
spending. Is anybody listening? I hope
so. [laughter]
>> Yeah. Well, I say the same thing. I
don't know people listen to me, but uh
um uh so okay. So, you're putting away
money for those. Okay. So, I just wanted
to understand what you were geared
towards at that point in time. So,
you're making let's call it, you know,
you bring up a good point that it's,
>> you know, $350,000 in previous correct
dollars. So that is a little bit higher
than regular middle class, let's call
it, but it's still not something out of
the ordinary. Um, did you ever use
credit cards?
>> Sure.
>> You never got into credit card debt,
though, right?
>> No, I don't believe I don't believe in
debt. If you can't afford it, don't buy
it. That's all.
>> No, I I didn't get into credit card
debt. Uh people use that uh whichever
way they want to because they figure
they're going to get the money
somewhere.
>> It's it's it's just a gamble.
>> It really really is just a gamble and
the interest rates are just
>> huge to go ahead and do it. They got to
be better ways to go in and get money,
>> right? Cuz that's the the reserve that
people use um today when they can't find
the money for it. They go into their
credit cards and there's a lot of credit
card debt. So the only thing that I had
in reserve which I have and I still
don't use is just a line of credit on
the house.
>> You know, one of these [clears throat]
line lines of credit if you really need
to.
>> But once you take the first step into
that, you know, you're going to get
comfortable borrowing against that,
>> you're going to get into trouble. That's
it. You know, every financial advisor is
going to tell you the same thing.
[clears throat]
>> Live whatever you can within. I you know
that's that's the message you keep on
and that's the message I kept on telling
to my kids as well. I don't think any of
them are in debt. They're not living in
houses that they can't afford. Um you
know sometimes it gets a little tight
but as soon as you step out of that your
comfort zone, you're going to run into
problems.
>> Mhm. I I want to bring up one other
topic that um comes into planning that I
brought up in previous podcasts and it's
a big important push that I'm always
bringing up now at least. um having
insurance policies.
>> Sure.
>> Mainly life insurance starting with
that. What is your take on thoughts on
that? Did you get it and when did you if
you did when
>> what are your thoughts on it?
>> Um I don't know if it was two weeks
after I got married or 3 weeks after
[laughter]
someone sold it to you, right?
>> No, I said my my father said to me, make
sure that you have life insurance.
>> Um I had a lot more life insurance when
my kids were younger. I was a little
crazed on insurance. Maybe because even
some people that we domin with you saw
passed away young did not have any life
insurance and life just spirals out
after that right
>> and I was very very you know uh strict
in buying life insurance as well
sometimes it was expensive but I just
felt like it's just a a responsibility
that you have and a cost of living that
you have to just add on you know as you
get older you maybe want to ease up a
little on the amount of life insurance
that you have because you have other
savings but at the beginning when you're
young I think it's a necessity and each
one of my kids you know if they're in
yeshiva or otherwise some yeshivas offer
you know even term life insurance very
very cheap I think it's a must I think
again it's irresponsible not to have it
not that I'm giving a plug for selling
insurance
>> but I think it's just something that
somebody should really have
>> so um so life insurance is a big thing
have you seen you you've seen stories
like personal stories
>> of people that have not had and the it
was
>> yes unfortunately the person he was not
well he was a child diabetic he was not
able to get insurance his uh he passed
away it was very it was very very
difficult for his wife his family I'm
sure
>> it's not all the answers but it surely
makes uh things easier
>> so you made it a point to to take care
[laughter]
>> um another like for people more towards
the retirement age
>> right
>> um tell me what your thoughts are on
this long-term care insurance.
Everyone has a story, but what's your uh
>> My story was that somewhere along the
line, I actually bought long-term health
insurance for my mother, and she was in
an assisted living for a number of
years. And for a good number of years,
we were able to pay for her stay over
there because I bought the long-term
health insurance for my mother, my wife,
and myself also. a number of years ago.
I also took out long-term health
insurance. Um, nobody knows what the
future's going to go ahead and bring.
Getting AIDS, even if you're on Medicare
or something, it's very, very expensive.
It's not going to solve all the
problems. Hopefully by then you put away
enough money, but the money goes very
very quickly having a uh an aid come in
24/7.
>> I think it's a necessity. Have a good
insurance person. And um a couple of
years ago, we signed up uh and get
long-term health insurance.
>> So, just to educate everyone, long-term
care insurance is um an insurance policy
that covers someone an insured who needs
um an aid.
>> Um my grandfather, case in point, um he
took care of himself, but he used his
own assets,
um used his own money, and it's
extremely expensive. Correct. Everyone
has a story. I say with this um with
long-term care, it's extremely
expensive. It's important. Um the age of
recommendation [snorts]
is 55 to 65 years old to get a plan or a
policy. There's a lot of different ways
to do it. You can put a rider on life
insurance. You can get a long-term care
policy that has cash value to it.
There's a lot of sticks, uh you know,
kosher sticks, um that you can do with
with long-term care. That's important
that uh you know you stress that.
Curious to know in the 401k planning
that you did the money I'm assuming was
invested in that [clears throat] 401k.
Do you know how was invested? Do you
know like what specific investments it
was in and how much it grew
percentage-wise per year or? Um, any
investments that I put that I invested
in, most of them were mutual funds,
>> and I tried to at least match the S&P
for the year. That's the way I um I I
gauge it. If if you're savvy and you
want to go ahead and invest in
particular your own stocks, be my guest.
I'm not savvy enough to do that. And I,
you know, if I wanna if I want to bet
money, I'll go to I'll go to the races.
I that's not my business to go ahead and
do that. Most of them were stock funds.
Um they were pretty aggressive, right?
When you fill out your form, you say,
"Do you want to be uh you know
aggressive? Do you want to be mid?" I
was always aggressive, but again, you
need a financial advisor that has a good
handle on what's going on in the markets
and um actually to go ahead and shift
things around after you're done. I hope
after this podcast to review the uh the
>> right view over here what I have what I
have over here
>> it's convenient.
>> Yes.
>> Um so that's you know that's very
important because I tell people when
they have a long time frame to save be
more aggressive be more aggressive
because that's going to give you the
most money and you don't have to worry
so much about short-term ups and downs.
Um, it's good to hear from someone on
the other side that you were able to
invest aggressively, but I'm also
hearing that you had an advisor helping
you through that.
>> Sure. [snorts]
>> You know, right?
>> I [clears throat] I know the food
business. If you ask me about peaches, I
could tell you about peaches. I'm not in
investments. Go to professionals. That's
what they do for a living. You have to
trust the people that you're actually
going to put your money with. But don't
make a mistake and just let it sit
there. I had more than one one time that
I was not happy with them. I said,
"Thanks for the time." I picked up and I
moved the money. Um, you you just you
can't be an absentee landlord. You need
to watch your money like you watch your
kids. Okay. And uh
>> that's part of the responsibility.
>> I think that a financial advisor, right,
>> who gets paid.
>> Sure.
>> Um but ultimately earns you more money
through the relationship, right?
>> 100%.
>> It's worth the uh
>> Yeah. Yeah, I mean that's a self- pitch
in a way,
>> right?
>> But, you know, I bring people on that
they should say from the other side how
important it is
>> to have that advisor, the planner. And
you were always aggressive. Wow. Because
I know a lot of people in their 401k, I
don't know if it's familiar, but they're
in something we call target date funds,
which take the day of your retirement,
and they adjust the portfolio as you get
closer to that. But a lot of times they
underperform
>> right
>> significantly what more aggressive
investments can get.
>> And if you need a planner to help you do
that, then you're saying it's worth it.
>> My advice is always go to a
professional. So whatever you're doing,
go to a professional. That's what they
do for a living. You have to trust them
>> and you know, and I'm sure you find
people that trust them and they'll
advise you because that's what they do
for a living. Sometimes a person thinks
he's smarter than the financial adviser.
So I said, "No problem. you hang out a
shingle, become a financial advisor.
>> And and you the same thing with taxes.
You're you're CPA. What
>> a lot of online softwares now, but what
do you say?
>> My my cousin is my accountant has been
for all the years. Um I just said to
them very very simple. You're straight
as an arrow just like I am. I don't want
to get any fan mail from the IRS. You
know, you don't call me, I won't call
you. Um, and uh, I don't want to find
out to do whatever anybody wants to do.
It's not in my nature to do it. Go
straight. You'll get to the end and
you'll be very very happy. That's all.
Don't Don't [clears throat] try to do
any Don't try to outsmart it. Sooner or
later, it's going to catch up with you.
>> Going to catch up to you,
>> right?
>> Um, okay. So, at this point that you're
retired,
>> right? I don't want you don't have to
answer what you're not comfortable with,
but are you living the same standard of
living that you had while you were
working? Yes.
>> Basically.
>> Yes.
>> Same.
>> Same. Get up the same 5:00 a.m. every
morning. Do what I have to do. Don't
live outside your means. And you'll
hopefully stay healthy and you'll just
keep on enjoying doing what you want to
do.
>> And and you feel secure in what you
saved up in retirement to continue.
You're not worried about running out of
money?
>> No.
>> Or anything like that? And do you have
also enough, do you think, to, you know,
save to give to your children? Also,
>> I think people get a little ahead of
themsel. They they they go crazy trying
to go ahead and figure out how much
money they should, you know, leave their
kids.
It's important. It's very, very nice. As
much as you can, but don't think that
you're going to work till 80 or whenever
you're going to just to give money away
to your kids. keep to your lifestyle.
Hopefully, there's going to be money
left because everybody wants to leave
something for your kids. I think you
being with them and help helping them
out now wherever you possibly can if
they want to buy houses and if you could
go ahead and afford it. One of them is
making if somebody is making a wedding
to be able to help them financially as
well. That's what the money is there
for. Um I don't plan on taking the money
with me. So uh whatever we could help
them now and whatever we have all this
not taking anything with me.
>> Do you help your kids you support them
like you uh
>> each one of the kids after they if after
they got married I helped them for a
number of years gave them monthly
amounts um still helping one but for all
the kids everybody was helped for at
least uh four or five years if not
longer.
>> Wow. And and I I'm assuming based on
your approach you you set rules for that
right? you said like like you I don't
know how it worked like I'm going to
support you for 5 years and then
>> depends on the particular yeah pretty
much I I set the rules if somebody
wanted to do something uh different the
other side it's totally up to them this
is what I could afford and I thought I
was always very generous and whatever I
had to do uh I'm here to help my kids
it's not your kid market it's our kids
together
>> so don't step out and do more than you
can but it's your kids you want to help
them as much as you possibly can.
>> Mhm.
>> Okay. So, so tell us more a little bit
about retirement planning and your
thoughts on it. Um, you know, since
you're there.
>> So, I have a lot of friends who are
getting into the same or are in the same
boat as I am. I think before somebody
retires, at least on male, I don't know
about the females, they really know have
to have some kind of plan of how they
want to spend their time. The last thing
and the first thing that every wife is
worried about is they say, "Uh oh, are
you gonna be you're gonna be following
me to Costco every single day?" They
don't want that. Okay? [laughter] Not
the way to go. You need to go ahead just
like just as you were had was successful
or had a plan or had some idea while you
were working. You need to figure out a
different plan, another plan as well of
how you're going to spend your time. I
don't mean the first month or two when
your wife says to you, you know, clean
up the basement. You could figure that
out. But afterwards, how do you want to
feel, you know, um, successful in
retirement, however it is. If you want
to learn or you want to do or you want
to, did you have a passion while you
were alive? Well, you while you were
working, now's the time to go ahead and
do it. I believe that there's tons of
organizations that could use people to
volunteer their time. These are people
that were experts hopefully and what
they did and didn't make a difference or
whatever it is. But just think through
very clearly and smartly how you want to
spend the time.
>> Um you know president of the company who
was not Jewish um he came in one day he
and he he said he was going to retire.
Everybody asked him what are you going
to do what are you going to do when
retire and he said I love to play golf.
Well he says well you live in Chicago
what are you going to do? He said 6
months a year I'll be in Florida. The
other six months I'll play golf in
Chicago. That was his life dream. I
think he's still playing golf 10 years
later. I would hope that by now people
in our community are not that's what
they want to do. That's not to say you
can't play part-time, but really think
how you want to go ahead and be
successful in in your retirement. It's
your time. You know, we all worked hard.
We got to a certain point. It's a time
to give back. Okay? Your time is what
you have. give back to other people,
help other people out, see what you can
do to go ahead and, you know,
give over to other people what you've
learned through the years.
>> Mhm.
>> So, you're saying that's this is a new
thing to me. I
>> never thought about it
>> that someone should think about the
vision that they have to keep them, I
don't want to say occupied, but
fulfilled
>> correct
>> in retirement because it just comes up
on you,
>> right? I mean, you're preparing for it,
but this piece is not. You're thinking
about the financial piece, but you're
saying someone should think about what
they want to do in retirement because
what are you going to do? You're not
working. What do you I know my
father-in-law,
[snorts] he's retired, but he's he's
just working more on his own terms.
That's that's how I phrase his
retirement.
>> It's it's a big problem. It's a big
problem on your family life. and uh
>> you're going to get depressed if you're
not going to go have a full day. Before
you retire, think about after the first
two months when you're cleaning up and
you've gone on all your vacations that
you want. What is your day actually
going to look like for when you get up
to when you go to sleep?
>> If you could figure that out, you're
going to be happy, your family's going
to be happy, and the world out there is
going to be happy because you're going
to be able to give back everything that
you learned and everything you did.
What are some Can you give some examples
of what someone can do in retirement
that's fulfilling? You said some
organizations. What do you know? Yeah.
What do you know? I don't know of any
particular but I'm positive that if
somebody was an expert if he was an
accountant I am positive that each one
of the yeshivas would would welcome
people coming you know being being very
careful but coming in and helping them
out even if it is in fundraising.
Okay, nothing wrong with sitting down
and trying to call people to raise
money. other organizations could use
tremendous amount of organizational
skills. Every organization has
organization that we have here in the
community positive they can go ahead and
and volunteer their time. Um if they had
accounting experience of some sort,
every yeshiva is putting up a building
or doing something financial.
Again, you have to find the right the
right spot. Not every place is be
willing to go ahead and have a volunteer
come in. But I know one person in
particular person is retired. He's
busier than anything and then there was
ever before
>> volunteering his time. Even if it means
if people just need on a daily basis
somebody to talk to. I have a problem.
Can I talk to somebody about it? I don't
mean a personal problem a financial
problem uh like that. If you could reach
out and help these people just you'd be
surprised how many people would really
really appreciate it.
>> Mhm. Uhhuh. So very specific question.
Sure.
>> As part of your retirement plan,
social security, is that a big piece of
it or is that like an extra thing for
you at this point?
>> So, I did not take social security at 65
or 66 at the advice of my accountant. I
was 70 this past summer. I started
taking now. Uh so did my wife. It's a
nice chunk of change every single month
if you've worked, you know, uh at a good
salary. It's a nice amount of money.
Anybody knows exactly what it is. It
could be close to $5,000 a month if you
worked, you know, a decent job.
>> It definitely helps. It definitely
helps. Depends on how much money you had
you put away over the years, but it
definitely could go help, you know, in
in living the lifestyle that you wanted
to. It's not going to be as much. So
once again, you have to be careful when
you retire as well not to go ahead and
run through your money the first three
years. So be cautious. You're hope
you're going to live a long time. Your
house is the biggest value that you
have. So, you may want to sell that and
move to another place. Um, but hopefully
your spending after you retired is not
going to be more than before you retired
>> because they're not going to fill that
up again.
>> So, Social Security Go ahead. Sorry.
>> I said that boat came and went. Those
the the years of of uh high salaries,
you know, you're just going to live off
off your investments unless you're still
involved in some kind of business.
>> Mhm. So, so you have some social
security. you waited till age 70 just to
give a quick education to our listeners.
>> Sure.
>> Someone could claim social security when
they're 62. If it depends when someone's
born, but we'll use the rough ages. 62,
but it's a significantly lower amount
when they're 62. Full retirement age is
between depending again on when you're
born, 65 to 67, that's when you get the
full amount of social security. But if
you wait till age 70, you get an even
higher amount,
>> right? Um I believe it's 8% per year
additional of um what you're going to
get. So I don't know exact math. Don't
quote me on that. But um so Rev Dovet
here waited till 70 to claim uh social
security because I guess you know you
didn't need it until right
>> or you wait you um so from your
retirement nest egg how mainly are you
getting income from it? Is it interest
from bonds, dividends from stocks? Are
you selling stocks? Do you have a
pension?
How do you receive your income?
>> Um, at this point it was strictly
savings. I have not sold off anything as
far as any of my IAS. I think at 7273
there's a mandatory amount that you have
to go ahead. Um, but I did have, you
know, a nice amount of savings that I
was able to live off. I'm now retired
two years, 2 and 1/2 years. So, I was
able to do that. Social Security kicked
in, which was good. Um, in another two
years, you'll have a mandatory ret
mandatory amount that you have to take
out. Again, if you live the same way you
lived your entire life, your expenses
should not be as much as when you were
uh working.
>> Wow.
>> Again, but if you if you want to travel,
you want those additional things that
you could figure out. But on the
dayto-day living, you should go ahead
and be able to make it. Again, it all
depends on how you set up your
lifestyle.
>> So, savings, you mean a savings account,
like cash in a savings account?
>> Cash savings account, right? Wow.
So, but that money is you've saved up or
you've sold stocks to get to the s
>> no saved up
>> save savings account.
>> A certain amount I always kept in cash
and the rest is invested.
>> I have this thing always to have money
available so there was cash in accounts.
>> Um my mother passed away so there was
some retirement there was some you know
over there
>> right.
>> Um but uh yeah savings.
>> Mhm. So do you find do you have enough
let's say to take extra like if you want
to go away you feel flexible
[clears throat] in that you're not just
uh
>> no still eating three meals a day um
still buying a pair of shoes still
buying suits if I have to
>> no we'll see we'll see how it works for
but I I don't foresee any problem
>> again all depends on the lifestyle
[clears throat]
>> um so we're going to wind down the
podcast a wealth of information here um
things that are life lessons for myself
and a lot of the audience and I think um
fellow retirees or people becoming uh
retired. Um what is a final thought that
you want to give as a message to our
listeners when it comes to specifically
retirement planning and how you got to
where you are today?
>> I think it's discipline. Something that
starts from the beginning from the first
day you start working. I think you have
to set up a lifestyle that's going to
match your income, whatever you're going
to have. Uh, great wife is the way to
go. Um, but if you're going to look
outside where your life is and it's
you're not matching your lifestyle to
what you're earning, you're going to get
into trouble early on. Stay away from
it. You'll enjoy it maybe 40, 50 years
later, but it's definitely worth it. And
it's a very nice message to send your
family as well. If you live a particular
lifestyle, hopefully your children will
follow in the same lifestyle and you'll
have a beautiful life.
>> So yes, so very much thank you for
coming on, but if anyone has any
comments, feedback,
questions, we'd love to hear them. Our
podcast feeds off of it and we look
forward to hearing from you. Thank you
very much.