How to overcome your challenges and live a happy life.

I'm just going to touch on a few on a few topics here so that is relatable to my journey and can be relatable to others um the way the way I see life in general is that we all have a specific story okay and this story becomes really a part of us just like when we would watch a show a play or or a movie and we sometimes get so involved and we'll we'll cry along and we'll laugh along and we'll feel all the feelings you can get get a tingling sensation in your entire body just by Watching Two Brothers meet in a show and they're just reuniting and stuff like that the same thing happens to us when we in our life we are the Watchers of our show we are constantly watching a movie of the things that are happening and we are taking little Clues and senses and we have our opinions and we have our feelings no feeling is new so every feeling that we're having goes back sometimes 20 30 or even 50 years into what we have felt in the past and we become that story um for me it was super important to notice what what is my story what are my patterns and I started noticing these little things I started noticing that perhaps um for example I'm working a job because that's where my limiting belief ends like I believe that I can only be successful if I work a job but if I open a business I won't be successful so I started changing that or even for example my relationships because I'm single but but I've been through a couple of of relationships and trying to to date out there but I was attracting only what I felt can fit into the story can fit into the into my show and so I was attracting the wrong thing for me so the moment that I was able to zoom out and say why is hap what's happening why is it happening um and then what can I do to change it for example um the things that I that I eat the habits that I have and of course the beliefs that I hold in my mind the moment that changed everything else in my life changed so now it's it's not it's not me uh doing all these things um unconsciously it's becoming super aware and conscious of what is happening now of course it's extremely difficult to do that it's easier said than done because because it's it's so hard to feel why should we feel if we can just run away which is what the entire world is doing now as a whole right we're we're constantly distracting ourselves with with different things uh uh uh like for number one is is is is with phones and devices and and technology and then there is other kinds of things like like smoking or or or different places where people run away it's so hard to sit with ourselves I challenge any person to sit in a chair during the week not chabas and just sit with themselves for 30 minutes most people cannot do that so the moment we are more in touch with reality and we choose to really feel and think and get in touch with what we are what we want how we're acting that's the moment where you truly break free and that's what I was that's bar successfully what I did with business noticing that it's just a pattern in my in my thinking and the moment that I changed that pattern I say oh I can be successful or I can have happy clients and I can have a lot of employees and I can manage the stress of that and I can still stay present and aware and conscious and I can still enjoy life or I can share my life with others but still feel humble and still want to be uh intimate with one individual person even though I'm sharing my life with tens of thousands that's the moment that that that everything just becomes really how I wanted to live even though it's on mass scale and success is not something that that scares me it's just the opposite it's something that that I embrace that that is me yes I I want to help millions of people yes I want to make millions of dollars yes I want to be super consci I and and feel myself feel the feelings whether it's the whether it's sometimes the the stress or or even anger or or sometimes even a little bit of of of judgment and awareness all of those feelings yeah bring it on because because I'm ready for it and and and those are the things that will help me grow as long as I'm conscious of it and in some way tracking the Consciousness whether it's journaling or being in touch with myself spending alone time writing down stuff um being real close with with a few friends that can tell you you know you're doing this and that or I'm noticing this and that so you're not just in your own head and believing that you're doing the right thing while you're not I really think that that's that's that that that's being conscious and Consciousness will lead to success for many people and my journey has been constantly searching for that Consciousness and as long as I'm not living conscious I am in a lot of pain which I also like to share and but I'm constantly trying to run back to the Consciousness so I hope that explains a little bit about my journey and where I am right now but also how I've been able to build up something for myself how I live my life currently and what I want to continue doing and how I want to continue to help people thank you so much for sharing what what I'm hearing is is that this didn't start the the impetus behind this whole thing it wasn't about sharing your story with the world it was just it was what I'm hearing is that it was about a desire within you to figure out how you're more than than just this same thing that keeps repeating over and over again like the thought that I'm just this repeat my whole life was not was not going to work for you you needed more than that and you discovered that Simply Having awareness and seeing the pattern gave you this freedom to break out of it yeah and then once you tasted that you got hooked on it and that's what you're doing all the time now yes and that kind of and it sounds to me like that just LED with you sharing it with the world CU why not yeah whatever yeah yeah I love how you said it you actually brought it out even better than uh what I've thought because because yeah it was a journey it wasn't uh it did I did not have yet the destination but as I was figuring out my life as I was going and as different aspects started hitting you know whether it's friends or relationships or business or you know stress or or any kind of feelings or healing whatever it was led me to to forced me to open up but then that opening feeling is just like wow and I asked myself how was I able to live even with myself 6 months ago or 12 months ago you know when perhaps I felt like I was having the best life ever other people thought that I'm having the best life ever but I'm still questioning wow how how did I do that how was I able to do that because right now where I am now I'm so conscious or I believe that I'm so conscious and probably in 6 months from now I'll be somewhere else and that's another thing that we have to learn to embrace change it's a beautiful it's a beautiful uh thing we people say you know that guy lost his mind well that's a blessing not a curse we all should lose our mind and then get a new mind and and switch cuz it would be a big mistake if we all walk around with a with a two-year-old mindset and and uh uh you know make our pants dirty I mean so keep in mind you we keep on developing right just like little kids have a different mentality every single week they completely change right one week the kid is only crawling the next week he's walking the next week he's running then he's doing a bicycle as adults what happen that we're all changing we turn 19 and that's it we're a Cold Stone like nothing changes so yes of course we change and we embrace it and for the people afraid of change I heard a good quote which is we don't change we become better so don't be so afraid of the change just become better and grow um and that's really what's happening for me um and I did notice my gift of sharing and inspiring others so that's why I share in a sense if it were up to me I feel like I wouldn't share anything like let me just hide away let me um but I do believe that it's a a passion that I have I do believe that it's a gift especially in the world today with technology I believe that it's my mission for for as many times if I can imagine me being on my uh on my dead bed and and and thinking back about everything that I shared and how it helped people it really makes me feel good so that tells me to to keep on going keep on doing it of course with healthy boundaries which are very necessary but sharing is definitely great and I I I do love the the the part of of exploring and becoming a better version of me um continuously and also sharing the part of the the struggles and the and the stress and the and the anxiety fear whatever is involved you know Bring It On yes it all happens to many of us most of us ignore it some of us feel it and don't know what it is so let me be one to share it um and and that's really my mission yeah it's beautiful one of the things that I hear heard is this uh I I'll ask you this my sense is that it's when things start to go bad when we start to feel like our world is crashing in that you get almost the do you get almost at this point the sense that of excitement that like I'm ready for the upgrade I'm ready for the next upgrade yeah well definitely that's a great question uh yeah totally I mean it sometimes difficult to see it because you know the it's it's the challenges can become bigger and and and greater so it's not like the challenges that I'm facing right now is entirely different than what I faced a year ago and the challenges that I faced a year ago was entirely different than what I faced the year before or 5 years before 10 years before so people have to also learn this that they won't be ahead of the game there's no being ahead of the game so many people ask me how do I avoid the Downs how do we how do we how do I not get caught up in in in what's in in the challenges and stuff like that there's no way to protect yourself the only way is you know you you just you just say that what ever is going to come I'm going to be ready and hope the the only prayer you can really ask is Hashem be with me in this in whatever you're going to send me help me just see you even just for a moment help me recognize that it's all from you and that way I'm not so caught up and centered on the on the on the situation life can be tough and I'm going to repeat it life can be challenging can be really tough people have a lot of things they're going through if for some it's with family for some it's with health for some it's with money for some it's just with their own feelings can be so difficult for for for some it's just feeling lost in life no purpose and nobody there's nobody to talk to and they don't trust anyone there's a lot of a Darkness out there and I'm saying it because i' I've felt it and i' saying it because I've spoken to hundreds of people that are experiencing these things so so again I'm going to try to create a theme over here in this interview let did create conscious awareness okay Embrace change because that's beautiful and and and and notice notice these things and notice notice what is happening to you and and the best hook for that is to to run AEM and say whoa I feel so confused just help me see you okay so this is the situation but help me see you it's beautiful that's beautiful what I mean what I'm hearing in what you're saying is that the challenges will never go away in fact the more you grow the bigger they're going to get yes they're not going to get smaller they're going to get bigger but your skill and ability for finding God and finding his presence and finding that ability to be conscious and aware no matter how big the challenge is and then with that awareness to be able to break free from it and grow from it will also increase exactly yeah yeah so I guess where I think I'd like to go now is what let's get a little bit more into what are the tools that you found were most effective for being able to do that work yeah um you mentioned for example like sitting for a half hour doing nothing in the middle of the week yeah that most people have a hard time doing that what else um giving away all the secrets um so oh I'm sorry if you don't want it you don't have of course no I I again I would love to share um so so it's amazing I'm just trying to think how to answer this I I certainly have my uh my morning routine which is which I I do every single day um and it consists of of uh 10 different things that I do every single morning um I'm going to try to see if I can remember it right now number one is meditation for me meditation is sitting usually in nature and just being out there and and and enjoying the the the moment watching my own thoughts what am I thinking this morning am I thinking good thoughts positive thoughts am I thinking how I can do this how I will be successful how I will find love how I will make money money or am I thinking all the opposite thoughts am I thinking what a fool I am or am I thinking how worried I am or how stressed I am what are my thoughts meditation has nothing to do you don't have to listen to to sad Guru some uh uh Indian guy preach and and say oh in order to to to to meditate okay so meditation just means literally sitting with yourself and and relaxing um another one would be um I would also drink water in the morning extremely important people wake up their their body is usually a little bit dehydrated uh water helps your helps for for for the brain it helps for our entire body so I I'll drink water um I'll do some uh uh breath work so breath work can either be some days I'll do more intense breath work five or 10 minutes 15 minutes some days I'll do just a couple of five or 10 breaths deep breaths in and out I just feel like it completely changes me uh breath breath work is just a tremendous thing and people should be conscious and aware of it of how much they do when they do um with who they do it but breath work in general is something that we all do naturally we just breathe and when we have something stressful we take a deep breath in right and then or sometimes we give a big sigh so breath work is something we all do we're just not so conscious about it so the next time something happens in your life or not or you're just feeling not so with it or you have to go somewhere and you're really nervous sit down take five or 10 deep breaths in whatever way you do it there's there's a thousand different ways just do it just sit down Take 5 10 15 sometimes deep breaths and and in and out some people say to hold the breath don't whatever it is just take if you see what see what it does for you you can try it right now as if somebody's listening to this you can take take even three breaths in and out will help you sometimes if I can't fall asleep I'll take three breaths literally three breaths and it just changes me and I and I just fall asleep right away so breath work is extremely uh important um visualization is critical I think that visualization is really what what really gets me out wherever I am whether it's in the moment I'll try to visualize something positive or just sitting uh this is how I manifested my company just sitting every day in the same spot visualizing my company going exactly as I wanted to go the employees the clients the money the the the the clarity um and visualization can be for health visualization can be uh um for for love visualization can be for for for growth for for money whatever it is you can attract through visualization and for those who want the method it's very simple you sit with your eyes closed or eyes open eyes open in a sense works better because you're just um your eyes are open and that's what you're trying to to to to attract and you visualize having exactly what you want but feeling the feeling of as if it already happened and giving gratitude to it so thank you Hashem for giving me this month $100,000 how does that feel oh my god wow it feels really good I feel really empowered every single uh uh uh uh part of my body now feels different because wow I have that $100,000 this feels really amazing what will I do with this $100,000 Okay so where will I spend it what will I do really really uh uh feeling the feeling and and going in depth uh of what of what the of what that feels like that's true resolation and if it's it's for health and you're just really not feeling well currently then you visualize what it would be like to give gratitude when you do feel really good so this is a practice that I do every single morning and sometimes 2 3 minutes sometimes 10 15 minutes sometimes an hour depending in in how much time I have which is another Point um which I didn't mention part of my morning routine is not to have any devices for the first two hours that I wake up and just sitting with myself that that's mistake number one that people make they wake up they look at their phone and now automatically they're in the past they're in the messages the news the whatever it is I wake up every morning without an alarm clock the same time um and just I don't look at my phone I just do my morning routine so visualization is number five then I also do uh 10 minutes of reading and reading is just amazing because I buy a book that I like now I'm reading the power of Letting Go um or a business book or a personal book whatever it is and I want to learn every day this is exercise for the brain the brain loves to learn there's an immediate good feeling when you learn something new so reading is part of my morning routine sunlight super important the most healthy the the probably the healthiest thing in the world healthier than any vegetable or mineral or exercise is just sitting in the sun and if there's no sun then you can just sit in nature the sun is always out there sometimes we can't see it or feel it but it's always out there so sitting in sunlight is amazing that would be number seven number eight is to exercise in the morning every morning I take a walk 10 15 minutes or sometimes I'll do some some yoga I also think yoga is probably a triggering word for many for me it's just basically stretching my body I do like to follow certain practices but it's it's about stretching the body and it's about getting into your body not into your head about getting into the body um the next thing I do is I DAV every single morning sometimes in sh sometimes at home but I I do enjoy to DAV every single day so that's number nine um number 10 I think is maybe taking a good shower hot shower cold shower both are very beneficial and healthy cold shower can give you good good energy a hot shower can help you re relax your your muscles your body so after going through this intense I I call it my own uh uh daily Workshop I feel like there is there is structure within your day to help you out stay grounded to help you understand hold on where are my thoughts where are my body what am I doing what do I want to do it really sets you up for for the day and it it helps it it it helps you avoid the chaos it helps you avoid the disaster of life it helps you avoid the busyness because you actually took time for yourself to ask yourself what do I want to do how do I want to do it of course I eat a healthy breakfast every morning which which consists from of of protein fruits and vegetables every single morning so that's another thing we are literally the foods that we put into our body I think that most people don't understand that they probably think that food just goes into the body goes out to the body it has no no no effect on them but it does it it very much has an effect on on our body because our body keeps on changing every single day things change in fact every year we literally have an entire new body from A to Z every single body part is is is is uh rejuvenated or or just renewed complet completely so even our skin for example every 30 days an entirely new skin and so you choose if you want to if you want to build that from from uh from uh from sandwiches and and and danishes and candy or if you want to build that from healthy fruits and vegetables and protein um but a a collectivism of all these different things that I mentioned really help me stay grounded happy healthy uh and and present and aware so that I can know who I am and and know where I want to go and when I go I feel good about myself because I know I'm doing the right thing that's an incredible morning routine and that's something that I hear again and again is a habit of many successful people which is to keep the phones off in the morning and have dedicated rituals and practice ISS that um address physiology address how your body is actually going to feel address your emotions address your mind address your spirituality you know learn before you go into the day um because again yeah that it sounds like what you're saying is that positive structure in the beginning of the day gives you something to sit on a solid thing to sit on that when you get into your day and your life starts going hectic and hey wire you have the ability to be like wait a second this is not me this isn't the me that was 2 hours in the morning before my day started let me just like try to hold my head on my shoulders and like be more present than what's happening yeah whereas if you wake up in the morning and you're just straight on your phone like you don't even like the day just takes you around and round like a washing machine and you don't it spits you out at the end and you don't even know who you are anymore you didn't even give the new day a chance you know cuz you you just went into Yesterday yeah most people don't wake up to ask themselves what what exciting thing can happen today I wake up in the morning the first thing that I say is obviously Mo thanking God for believing in me today for giving me my soul back and I didn't have to thank you thank you that I'm here wow I'm breathing I'm talking I'm seeing you know maybe it's a little blurry in the morning but I'm back and then I say today will be the best day of my life today is the best day of my life and then I start just thanking for everything that I have you know thank you for my health thank you to for for my for for my wealth thank you for family for friends for nature just getting right into that mode of of of of just wow because because excuse me because when we wake up in the morning there is a tendency by Nature we are kind of sleepy um the stress hormone is up I think cortisol it's called I think is is really usually higher in the morning we're just as human beings it is a little bit difficult it's morning we want to stay in bed we want to do nothing we want to so what's what's you got to create that tool to get you out there and part of my message is I I I feel like I'm in the enjoy life movement month because that's been for me my my constant role my goal my mission is I want to enjoy life and I want to help people enjoy life you know most people one of my mentors Bob Proctor said most people Tippy totoe through life hoping to make it safe to death and I feel bad for people that have that I really feel bad like why why would you do that why like you have one life and and you don't know how long you're here you don't know when's your last day you so why not enjoy life how long are you going to suffer in in your marriage how long are you going to suffer within your job how long are you going to suffer with your health how long are you going to suffer with your feelings and emotions not knowing what they mean what they are like wake up wake up enjoy life there is a way I we I understand for some people it's been so difficult so they just completely contracted they they they froze um and and and and honestly they gave up they just choose to live a life with the bare minimum okay I'll just do what I have to do and just go on and just be on my phone all day I I I could understand that but so many people really deep inside want to want to break free and want to enjoy life and that's my message to people enjoy life that's why I share the food that I eat the routines that I do the the the the energy the the the teachings that I have the the the the knowledge that I have I want people to be able to enjoy life and of course recognize in everybody's story and everybody's pain and everybody's uh thoughts feel everything everything giving validation to all these things but also saying Okay now what's next you want to stay with that you want to how long do you want to stay with that or do you want to break free and and grow and and and just uh uh and and and be prosperous and be abundant and and have everything you want come on come on here's here's a photo of of everything your life can be you could have happiness you could have joy you could have you could have abundance you could have a nice family good children a good relationship a good a good marriage a good business a lot of money a nice car a nice house you could have everything you could have everything to believe that that that that God sent you down here that Hashem sent you down here to just to only suffer and struggle that's nonsense this that that's some some teacher or or or or within your upbringing that had a difficult life and maybe gave you that kind of perception or or or difficult parents that that were sorry for them struggling but that's that doesn't have to be your life it you you could have a lot more you could you could break free you could be successful and one of the biggest lessons that I learned is that yes actually all that pain and all that story that you have because the bigger the story somebody shares with me about how painful their life is right now or was and the stories that they had or the stories that they believe they will have I say wow what is the outcome if they break free from that if they can escape that wow how powerful is it and I say it for myself so I felt this and that and that and that and the other thing and I had my things that didn't go well but what did it teach me what what where did it bring me I'm sitting right here you wanting to have this kind conversation with me I have a successful company with with with clients I I have nice clothing cuz I cuz I cuz I make decent money I have uh I I have a full life that I probably wouldn't have had if I wouldn't have gone through certain things that I went through so whatever you're going through that's literally Hashem giving you fuel for your gift for your next move for that for that surprise for that positive energy that love whatever it's going to be but you got to be willing to learn you got to be willing to zoom out and say okay I can I can see something beyond what I'm thinking and feeling right now it's beautiful the light comes from the darkness yeah I think you have to go now right uh if you want you can go I maybe I'll have till 5 okay so that's yeah if you want to if you want to continue um so yeah we can continue for sure so so he talked about the you know how important being conscious and aware is talked about the tools that you use the morning routine that you use for it um you know knowing how I might have reacted to hearing this you know in past years of my life feeling in a place where you know things were very dark what do you say to someone who who listens to this and and says but you know Ellie you don't understand my story I don't have anyone to talk to and like I don't even think I could try to do I don't know how I would even get myself to do all these things yeah um I would say two things I would say number one I understand you I can't properly understand you but like I hear you like I acknowledge what you're saying and if you want me to say it I'll I'll say it yeah life sucks sometimes it's really really difficult and challenging and if it's so dark let me give you a hand I'll be your friend here's my number number call me how can I help you what is it that you need is it a friend is it a mentor is it a coach is it a therapist is it what do you need what do you need is it a job is it money what do you need what what is it that you need let me help you those are the two things that I tell anybody that messages me or anybody that listens to this I would say those two things yeah acknowledge life hurts yeah nobody's here to to argue with with that if you look back in our in our history in our I don't think that that that orank I don't think I don't think they had it easy I really don't think they had it easy everything they experienced I don't I don't think they had it easy but they they had this this this capability of of of seeing stuff they had this capability of seeing a a full story they had a cap they had the ability to see the the the full picture so that's what I would say to anyone going through something right now yeah it's difficult all right it's difficult very difficult but but but when you're ready Reach Out reach out to somebody it doesn't have to be me reach out to to your own family friend parent son daughter um whoever it is there's always everybody always has somebody that can help them I believe and for those who don't have find somebody then then then it's you then it's you you yourself will help you get to where you need to go that's that's sometimes what we have to realize no you know sometimes no nobody is coming cuz nobody can care for you as much as you can care for yourself I think that that's um it's so true it's very first of all very gener that you offer that um thank you and you know and I can hear us with a with with authenticity and I think sometimes people think you know why would this guy who doesn't really know me want to help me but you know I think for someone in that situation to realize that most people in life have been through really hard things and having been through it want to lend a hand to someone who's going through it and can help them yeah it's very very redeeming and and for these people to realize you know if you're listening to this and you're in a really tough place like one day you have the potential to help someone who's in a place just like that yeah exactly and you know a lot of times we have a story this I think was where a lot of people get trapped and I was trapped in this is that our story is is no one's there to help us yeah nobody can understand me story yeah you know because we tried a few times and we trusted someone and they betrayed our trust or weren't didn't keep our information confidential whatever it might be where we felt we were hurt so we're convinced that our in our story with the story that we have written is nobody will help me yeah um I think that um the other thing that you said though where if you really feel like no one's there to help you maybe it's yourself you're the one who can really help yourself I think that that is it's it's it's by on that there are there are moments where we are really the only one who's able to take ourself walk through that door and get over there I don't know if you could share something more on that but you know what are the things that you feel like people can help you with or people can help other people with and what do you feel like are things that someone just has to be able to do for thems and has to know that they can do for thems yeah um great question um I'm I'm I'm going to start by saying I think to me it comes down to one word and that word is Judgment the reason why so many people don't reach out to others the reason why so many people don't help others is because we judge so when I'm helping some when when when when somebody's helping somebody they have this judgment well he's doing well he's not doing well so so I don't know if I should help him or not right cuz we judge whether it's his lifestyle or his conditions or or sometimes we know what he's going through or we don't but now we judge this person and based on that we make the decision whether we should reach out to them or help them or not and the same thing goes the opposite way around because sometimes people judge the people or the person that's going through something now has a question whether he should reach out to somebody or not because he or she is afraid how will that person judge me so my message to people is don't judge don't judge other others don't judge be there full-heartedly if you do judge judge favorably be nice to to one another so that others will perhaps feel comfortable reaching out to you and they won't feel judged they can just feel comfortable saying hello saying I'm struggling saying I I need help and so to the part of the question that you asked of how do we as a human being get out of something I think that really we do need the help of others but that needs that means that we have to take the first step we have to make that phone call hello I am struggling I am suffering I have I need help there's there is there is um it's it's the most beautiful gift that we can have you know think about udish the first uh the first person to ever walk the earth think about it he had everything right the entire planet was his but he was missing one thing he needed somebody else he needed company he needed a spouse he needed the iso it wasn't easy he just needed one more person to walk to Walk um to walk a long life with him and that's what we all need we all need companionship we all need another person we all need a uh a friend that can help us out and it's we have to take the first step towards reaching out towards reaching out um so let's not judge and let's take steps to reach out to people both when you're in a good place reach out to your friends check in on them and and if you're suffering struggling or whatever reach out to a person and the third thing that I want to say is that any kind of action that we do and this has nothing to do with friends or judgment this is what we can really literally do anybody can do it right now there's take action when you do a thing that thing gives you power whether it's taking a walk eating healthy going out of nature praying um whatever it is that you're going to do cuz that's what most people do they when they suffer they struggle they don't do anything and it might work for a while I've been there I've also had those days weeks where I just I don't want to do anything okay but now do something get out of the house go visit somebody go visit a place go take a walk let somebody visit you whatever it is do something that thing will give you power I think this idea of having a space where there isn't judgment is so so crucial to to Healing to developing self-awareness to being open to look at oneself um and you know that when you said that that kind of rang a bell for me that like you know that's what that's what people are probably really looking for that's what they really need which is to to um to find places to find relationships where there isn't judgment yeah yeah and um in a way it's you know the the efforts that we make and the efforts that you're making to put yourself out there in a position where anyone could judge you but that's fine is like um you know it I think it's really helpful because I think it starts to wear at that fear that people have of being judged and telling people like you want to have an environment where you're not judged but if people judge you let that be their problem yeah I love that very nice very nicely said um you were talking about me specifically or in general people and I think that's the message that yeah yeah yeah I want to elaborate on that you said it very well let if they can they can judge me but if they judge me that's their problem what I want to add is I'm okay if you judge me just judge me right so so I'm gonna be here to tell you that that yes I sometimes struggle I sometimes have pain by the way suffering is a choice no matter what you go through you can have you can have the worst life suffering is a choice pain pain can sometimes happen suffering is a choice you either suffer or you don't people have the the worst kind of lives they're not suffering and people have the best life and they're suffering so remember suffering is a choice but I do want to tell people yes I can be in pain sometimes you know I can have lack of clarity and that hurts me I can have days where I really don't feel well I I don't feel like I fit in I I feel scared I feel anxious I feel angry I feel mad I can feel so many different things but I want you to to know that so judge me for that you want to judge judge me for that understand yeah judge me correctly judge me for the exact person that I am with my feelings with my uh thoughts with my with my emotions again judgment isn't a good thing isn't a bad thing the word judgment isn't a b a bad thing it's it's ultimately what helps us go through in life right you're you're uh about to get married and or you're about to get engaged and and you have some judgment to do so so um I think judgment is it's not a bad word but it's it's bad if we bend it into one one way one place and just have our own uh limiting um beliefs towards something especially people that's I think that's the number one thing don't judge we judge by a profile by a photo by a video by a quote by a saying by a headline don't try not to judge and and the issue with judgment is that when we judge others that means you're judging yourself and if you're judging others favorably means that you're judging yourself favorably right like how many times have you seen somebody else do something and sometimes you'll even say to that person you say wow neb like he must be going through he must be going through something difficult but then when you do the same exact thing you call yourself an idiot you're like wow what an idiot I am right so that's it's very important to learn to judge ourselves favorably and to judge others and one will complement the other I think that's a really really it's a really good point in that when people people behave negatively and they judge other people negatively they're doing it to themselves without realizing it and you know a lot of people walk around feeling very hurt because of what other people did to them and and and what they're not aware of is that these people are just sharing the pain that they have and in the process hurting themselves um you know a lot of the things that people learn on a journey to try to have a healthier life is that um some people um some people are very negative and some people are hard to be around and and we think of ourselves very often as victims of these people but we don't realize that by allowing ourselves to be victims of them and to get hurt by them that we're they're hurting thems elves in the process yeah and um it's this like quest for I think to tie it back into how it started with you talking about the search for having more Consciousness more awareness breaking out of one story it's like the Quest for having a positive life is understanding that it's going to be like a loop of positivity between me and the people that I'm going to relate to and recognizing that if something is negative whether it's people doing negative things to you whether it's you judging yourself negatively not believing that other people will be positive to you it's about trying to break out of that Loop and find something positive find a healthy morning routine find uh someone who won't judge you who you can talk to getting out doing something and just building off of that yeah yeah definitely so um Ellie thank you so much for coming and being open and vulnerable and sharing us sharing with me and sharing with anyone who's listening more about your story and um I look forward to really enjoy this and I look forward to continuing to learn from you and your story and I wish you lots of on every part of your life thank you so much for doing this I appreciate it thank you so much Ari I really appreciate your time I really appreciate the questions you asked the insights that you shared you're really great at this and you're great at what you do I know you're a coach and you help a lot of people so thank you for your contribution to the to the to the world and it's a pleasure to be your friend thank you so much you're welcome Al