How to Hide From G-d

Okay, good morning everybody. Thank you for gracing us with your presence. Today's class is dedicated for a complete and speedy recovery of reformer for Kurt Aki David Ben Margullis who's having surgery today may have a complete and speedy recovery. Amen. Thank you very much. Okay, we had the privilege to finish the at least one level of it. So today's sh we're going to learn something very special. It's connected also to parasi as we will see and this is a by the labb a really that he gave on the 12th of Thomas 1957 it's published in the fourth because it deals with one of the one of the laws in the par of I just want to give two introductions before we begin it's a yiddesh but I'll I'll I'll translate and explain for those who don't understand a good Yiddish. I just want to give two brief introductions and then we'll go into it. The generally there are two streams in Yiddish. There's two streams in terra in zya it says ink you have what's called gfa and you could call it the body of t and the soul of ta or sometimes it's called in many the idea is one is the body of t in the sense it's the concrete manifestation of Tira. The pi is like the soul of Taidra, the inner core. Just like the relation between a soul and a body and they both are interdependent on each other. A soul without a body has no embodiment in our world. A body without a soul is missing its inner core, its inner inner consciousness, inner vitality. Together they're completely one. That's why is called it also is compared to a person or a person is compared to it has these two dimensions practically speaking every law it has the gof of the law which means the concrete manifestation of the its pragmatic applications what it means in a person's life and all the details of it some of these are still relevant today some of them only were relevant in the time of the B mikdash some of them will be relevant until for example all the of we don't have the physical manifestation of them now we could learn about them forms says says if a person learns these it's like you're doing it but the doing it you need certain conditions other whether it's or we have today in a physical way and in you have the g the the the concrete manifestation of in primarily of over there the focus every on the inner spiritual meaning of it and that's always relevant even when the physical manifestation of it may not be applicable but the inner idea the inner theme the way it affects the person's emotional and psychological and spiritual life that's always relevant one of the fundamental ideas that we see in many of the is the synthesis between the two streams of which allows every first of all to be understood on a most most practical level but then also to see the inner pious of it and together you have the full picture and the full glory and majesty of every especially the this was a very common characteristic to demonstrate the absolute synthesis and seamlessness between these two streams of ta And this will be no exception. That's intro number one. Intro number two in paras we have the mitzvah known as the mitzvah known as it's quite a an intense mitzvah. And generally very briefly this is the situation. You're dealing with a marriage let's put it this way that's on the rocks as they say. It's a crumbling marriage. It's not a good marriage. It's heading to a divorce. And it's not only because they're disagreeing where to go for PES or where to send their kids for camp in the summer or whether to have internet in the house or not, which can also be explosive arguments. No question. But there's also fear of betrayal, of disloyalty, in other words, of adultering. the husband and the wife. Obviously, they're both in a lot of in a lot of pain, and there's a fear of of dissolving, of the marriage dissolving. The husband tells the wife, there's a particular guy, let's call him Schmele. I have nothing against Schmele, but just for names sake, we're calling him Schmele. And he's the he's spending too much time in the house. He's visiting too much and suddenly the husband sees you know when he comes into the house his wife is very excited whatever he is he's could be a taxi driver he could be a plumber he could be whoever he is whatever it is so he tells his wife I don't want you to be with this person the mission we're going don't be private in a private secluded room with this person. Why? Because he's suspicious. Okay? So, if he just says it to her, he says it to her, as I said in front of two witnesses. In other words, it's a very thoughtout and premeditated thing. I don't want you to be in a private secluded room. Now, we're not talking about to be public. Private steer. That's is called steer. She doesn't follow. There's witnesses that she spent some time privately in a room with him, secluded from anybody else. And there's witnesses for that, too. So now you can understand when she comes home that night, right, what supper looks like. So in a very unique moment, in a very unique experience in Jewish history, God says, "I'm going to be the therapist." It's very rare. Usually he tells you, "Go find the therapist. Go find a marriage counselor. Go find somebody you could talk to, work it out yourselves. That's hard. But here, Hashem says, "I'm going to be the therapist and I'm going to do it for free." Hashem says, "I'm going to be the therapist." The husband is like, "I'm done. I'm done. We're finished." Says, "No, I want to be the therapist." And there was a whole extraordinary process where he would take it to the basa mikdash and uh the cayenne would prepare a cup of water a vessel of water that came from the k was holy water is it was holy water and take earth from the mishk from the bikd and mix it into the water write down on a scroll the parish of saita Yeah. Dissolve it into the water, including Hashem's name, and give her to drink. Now, at any point in the process, she can just say, "Yeah, I uh I'm not interested in my husband. I had relations with this guy." And and that's it. And uh their marriage obviously uh their marriage ends. Their marriage terminates. There's no penalties or anything. un unfortunate. But if she says, "No, I'm I'm innocent." And the husband says, "Really? That's called innocent? I told you maybe a hundred times or at least once not to go into private room with this guy because of this and it was in front of two witnesses and two people saw it." She says, "I'm innocent. I went into a room. Yeah, we spoke about I don't know, we spoke about the weather. We spoke about politics, but I'm innocent." He says, "This can't be." So Hashem says, "Let me be the therapist." She drinks the water. If there was really an act of adultery, the holiness of the marriage was violated. The water could kill her. If not, she comes out fully intact and she actually, as the says, vix of Isra even a better shape. She's she's healthier and uh her children are healthier and she's blessed. In fact, the Gmorrah says in that kana couldn't have children. So she told Hashem, "If you don't bless me with children, I'll tell you what I'm going to do. I'm going to get my husband to warn me not to seclude myself with a particular man. I'll go into seclusion. He'll have to bring me to the Mishkan in Sheila to drink the water. I know I'm innocent. I'll drink the water." And then the Tyra promised that I'm going to vix of Isra. I'm going to have children. That was her bargain with God. Now, if the woman drinks the water and is intact, she goes home with her husband. Now, if her husband still says, "I'm not interested." God says, "Don't be more firm than me." I'm telling you, it's good. Things are fine. You got to this marriage is is salvageable. It's a good marriage. Hashem himself mixes into this marriage and says, "I'm going to decide what's going on here. Are you guys meant for each other or not?" And this is the process of Sait. It's quite a it's quite a unique unparalleled mitzvah in that sense. And as the says, Hashem says, I don't mind you erase my name on the parchment because you dissolve just to make peace between a husband and a wife. In order to make peace, he says, erase my name. I once saw a I think it's from the he said it says in medashem does every mitzvah that we do. So it's his words, his laws and his statutes. So it says what he tells the Jewish people to do, he himself does put etc. So he asked how's the love god. So he says he's through loving the Jewish people because every Jew is how is he the fear what is he afraid of so he says I think in the name of the mag everything is in the hands of heaven besides fear of heaven so hashem is afraid what's going to be your next move he has he's like in he's very in in in in anticipation what's going to be your next move because you have a choice How is Hashem the mitzvah of midnaf? There's a mitzvah of ms sacrificing love. How is he that mitzvah? So he says is may with when his name gets erased. It's not a simple thing. We erase something. It's not a big deal. You erase it. There's an isert to erase hashem's name. Why? Because the name has kadush. It's a gillus. So when you erase it, it's actually a form of it's a form of of Hashem is erasing a piece of himself or his light in the world. Huh? Yeah. What? What does the say what does the say when they're giving even a death sentence to somebody who committed a capital crime? She says, "Woe unto me. I feel like I light in my head, light in my arm, like I'm losing my head. I'm losing my arm. So this is this is the is now normally if a woman goes into a private room with a man, a stranger, you're not you're not supposed to because of there's an is of but she doesn't go drink water after that. It's inappropriate. It's inappropriate for the man. It's inappropriate for a woman to be. You know, people used to make fun of this. What's going to happen if you follow America the last few years? You see, if everybody would be careful with this, how many headaches the whole two me too movement and numerous numerous numerous situations would have been avoided. There was a a few years ago I remember the whole America there was you remember Clarence Thomas he was a he was a nominee for the Supreme Court of the United States of America a woman came out when he was being nominated her name was Anita Hill if I'm not mistaken and she claimed that when she was his secretary there were inappropriate actions so the whole United States of America had to watch the Senate cross-examining him and scrutinizing him to find out if he behaved appropriately, inappropriately. And then I realized the value of Yehud. You realize the whole America went crazy. Leo, he was nominated as Supreme Court as a Supreme Court justice. So uh but but you see the value because even if nothing happens yeah even of even and a woman that but there's an energy there and there has to be sensitivity boundaries boundaries are not because we don't necessarily trust people even people we trust it's a respect for the intense energy that exists it's very powerful people don't realize this until you see the consequences when there's no boundaries. But generally if she and he are in such a room so it's an is of but then life goes on here because she didn't just seclude herself with a man. came after his warning and demanding don't go into a room with this person in front of witnesses and there were witnesses for both says now they can't just go back to a regular life now Hashem says let me take over and that's when she goes to drink the water okay now here's a question what happens I want you to think about it this is going to be the discussion What happens if a husband is very very suspicious and he tells her husband, she he tells his wife, "I'm sorry. This guy that's been coming to our house every day, I don't like what's going on. This is not good. This is not good for me. It's not good for you. It's not good for our children. This schmeal guy does not belong in our life." Okay? And you're hanging out with him. I see constantly. The other day you went out for coffee. The other day you went out for a sandwich. The other day you went out for sushi. here in the park. I don't want you in a private room with schmeal and even if he does it in front of two. Okay? And then he wakes up the next day and he says, "You know what? I was just in a bad I was just angry yesterday. I was in a bad mood yesterday." And he takes it back. He's he's says, "Forget it. My warning is canled." And then she goes into a private room with that person. Is his ma good effective and it cancels the whole experience and nothing happens. They just go back or once he did the kino he did the kino and now you already have to follow the protocol of the law. Next question. You understand the question? What happens if she secluded herself? And he realizes, oh, we got now some big issues. And he says, you know what? Forget about everything. I take back my wording after she secluded herself. Can they just go back and play house again or now already the DA takes over? Now it's already goes to the authorities. It's already out of his hands. That's a question. It's a big mus about it. We'll see. And we're going to learn this whole based on the perspective of the gone and then based on how it is. Okay. So let's start. He summarizes that I just said Here you have a summation a person is mechane. What does mch mean? That's how the first mission of sait begins. By the way the those who learn they just finished right before they start. So those who have learned dy you just finished the whole sug. It's 48 p 48. So a man is ma. What's makana? He tells his wife I don't want you to be secluded in a private exclusive space with with this particular individual and she names the individual. She does not obey. She doesn't listen to him. So even though it's possible nothing happened, there was no sin, there was no adultery, they were just in a room together. Whatever happened, they ate, I don't know, they they they spoke. But the very fact that her husband forewarned her and she went into a to to to this room and is obviously witnesses that it's true. So now she has a name. It's called Saita. The word sait as he says in footnote one rashi says come. means to be deviant to go astray. She she she left the respect of the marriage. She went out says went going astray from the from from the modesty that's required in a relationship. The says the word comes from there's always a spirit of insanity and folly that takes us over before we do these things. before a person goes to uh behave in this way, there's always a it's like a people don't do it when they're completely sober. There's always a streak of insanity. That's what the gar says in so she's called a once she's called a there's already different that have to happen. They can't be together until she goes and drinks the water, etc. Yeah, because it's spelled sister. It should have been soft but it's with a sin. So the learns from this that it's to turn away from the from the from the path. It's called Yeah. Even in today Hebrew, right? You're going on the road and you go over the beaten track. In other words, there's a relationship. There's certain expectations. There's uh reciprocity. loyal to you have loyalty to each other and you go away from that yeah they have it today still the the theme you mean okay it's a different vart that's a different if the woman for example says I don't want to drink I'm not interested it. I just want to leave this guy. Fine. She could do that also. There's a lot of But for the marriage to stay together, she goes and drinks. And as I said, Hashem says, "I'm going to decide." And and and if she comes out unscathed, the marriage becomes a could be a much stronger relationship. You don't force her to drink. If she wants If she says, "I'm innocent. Nothing happened. I went into a room. Why? I don't want to. I like my marriage. I like my husband. I like my family. It's good. Why do you I did it. Okay. I'm sorry. Fine. Drink. But if she doesn't want or even she says, you know what? Yeah, I did. I did it. Fine. So, she gets divorced from her husband and life moves on. of surah lab and sur. Ah, that's another problem. Yeah, that's why the Misha says at the end of they stopped the whole procedure towards the end of the second B mikdash they stopped it all. You know why? Because the men were not more innocent than the women. It says the man has to be completely um pure. If not, it's not going to work. Once they saw that the whole system there's so much corruption and lies. I think Zak he just stopped the procedure because it this can only work in an environment where there's absolute purity and loyalty and holiness. Once people are taking advantage of it, God says, "Okay, I'm out of this. You'll have to now work it out on your own." Okay. When you speak about a man and a woman here in all the details of a man and a woman, it's a mirror for the for the root of masculinity and femininity from where they come. And you could trace it back all the way to the first source, the relationship of Hashem and the Jewish people who are called man and woman. If this is the case, all the of apply also to Hashem and the Jewish people. Because when you look at a man and a woman here, you're not just looking at a marriage on earth. Like everything everything stems from a deeper place. Everything has a shish a spiritual like we often talk about. Are we are we like the woman? Yeah. So when you trace the man back to the source, the woman back to the source, they come from certain spiritual energies all the way back in the source. So when you learn, you could look at it from two perspectives. If you put on your physical glasses, you're talking about a man and a woman's marriage and there is bet suspicion of betrayal. If you put on your spiritual glasses, it's the same story, the same, but you see it in terms of a relationship inside of yourself. You're not talking about a man or a woman outside of yourself. You're talking about something inside of yourself in your own relationship with Hashem. And as he says in footnote three, The beginning of par is is a man a man twice. So say why twice? There's two betrayals. There's a betrayal against the husband down here and my husband up there. So the TA clearly is telling you there's two ishes. There's the physical ish and then there's the ish inside of you. The ish inside the woman and the ish inside the man. Hey, you can ask a question. For there to be a there has to be a warning. The husband got to warn. Where where does Hashem warn? So he says the ko of to his wife is the second one of the ten commandments was I don't want you should hang out with other gods as long as I'm here al panai in my presence don't have other gods. What's that? That's the spiritual form of the warning to the woman. Don't go into a private space to be able to have this exclusive unique relationship with this man. So, Hashem told every Jew, right? I said in the individual form because I'm talking to an individual, not just to the general collective. It's not a husband who speaks to to many people. It's to you. And that's the commandment to every Jew. The second one of the ten commandments says, but yet the whole premise doesn't seem to make sense. You hear a question in a physical marriage. I understand the woman goes into an exclusive private space. She's behind closed locked doors with a stranger. I get it. That's called st. How does that happen with Hashem? It says in Z there's no space devoid of him. How do you hide from God? Where do you go? Where do you go exactly to hide from God? So wherever you went, Hashem is there. So if the husband is there, it's not stir. If she goes into a room with this guy, but she calls in her husband, says, "Come in." It's not stir anymore. The whole idea of is that the husband wasn't there. So the whole premise doesn't apply. You could say Hashem warns us, but he warns us what? He warns us not to worship other gods. But the whole concept of can't exist without right. It's not. Yeah. That would be like a woman. Yeah. Who goes and betrays the husband right away. There's no kino, there's no that's a g of gileas. That's a whole other. But we're talking about the of ish where there's a kino and there's a and therefore there's drinking of the water. That concept doesn't exist. And that's what the the says in giml. Does anybody think you can go in to a hiding place and I won't see you? Where you going to hide from me? Where? Under your blankets. Where you going to go? That's true from God's perspective, but for the person, you're right. So what's the concept of in the of there's a not only for the women for the men also it's called a but here he was he was present the infant of them the answer is there's one situation where Hashem says I don't hang out over there. There's one situation says, "I can't hang out in these places." Which place? The garra says in it's a gammor where a gammor is is also meticulous. This is a gammor in the beginning of Hashem says when it comes to an arrogant person, there's a whole huge sugara there about arrogance. The main sug that's the whole of in Hashem says by it says I can't I could live with everybody and anybody I can't live in the same house under the same roof with somebody who's arrogant somebody who has this this horniness So how do I hide out from God? One way if I go into a place of arrogance, what did I do? I just went into Hashem says, "Sorry, I can't go in there. It's off limits to me. so to speak in the presence of the he says I'm not there and I don't see I'm not present there's a remarkable interpretation of the on this in chapter 23 but not with a question mark with an exclamation point. Literally the means goes on God. You think you're going to hide and I'm not going to see you. If a person goes into hiding, he has this sense of I I I this narcissistic, arrogant, hoardy sense, I don't see him. Why? Because says in we can't be in the same space. And he says in seven battle the end of the Mishna says when Rabbi passed away but humility died with him humility and fear of sin that's the Mishna so the end the last line of told the person teaching Don't teach that when Rebi passed away humility also died because I'm here says I am your humble person that's how that's how ends and told don't say why does the whole sea on the theme of anova humility and this also explains why the whole main suga of ga is in the beginning of saita Because the whole of is how do you go into hiding from Hashem with when doesn't say a person sins I'm not there says impurity he's not afraid of person is dirty filthy I have impurity in me he's still here but Gya creates such a form of of detachment and and and we can appreciate it. What wh why why is ga why does gya do this? Why says why can't I live with abalga? Because what does ga mean? Gya means real gya. What does it really do? It doesn't allow it. It creates a complete the person goes into a place of loneliness to a place of isolation. What arrogance is? The person detaches in their own mind. What does an ar what what's what's what's a form of arrogance? An arrogance means you're completely not in touch with the truth of oneness. That you're a derivative of the oneness of the universe, the oneness of of Hashem. So the is the one who does. Yeah. So the balgy is the one who goes into seclusion and God says, "Okay, you just lock the door. Sorry, I can't go in there. Imm says this is off limits to me. I can't be there. It's it's it's a toxic envir it's the toxicity of G of arrogance excludes the manifested presence of the they say a story about the that he once came to a town and uh there was a very very respectable and dignified and also wealthy Jew who came over and said usually all the big people come to my house and I have a stable for the horses I'll feed you and I have a beautiful room for you and for your your assistance but the said to his uh his assistant he wants to go to another person's house and he went to somebody else's house before he left this fellow came to him said you know you can't compare him to me I'm known as a shamayim as a god-fearing Jew this person there's questions about his morality So the told this to him said listen I try to copy Hashem. Hashem doesn't mind somebody is pure God says I if somebody's impure God says I could still live in his house but somebody is arrogant he says I can't live in his house. Says this Jew may have some tumor. So I can still go to his house but the arrogance I can't deal with. We'll see. We'll see. We'll see. See you in a moment. Yo, I'm saying. Yeah, you learned. Yeah. No, no, but I'm saying So that's saying in that sense there's something very unique about that's what the story is saying. Yeah. The Gmorra says that is like why yeah I'm arrogant. I'm an arrogant person. What arrogance does ego ego is easing God out. The fact that I make mistakes that I sin. Okay, there's truva. But when the ego comes in, there's no vulnerability. There's no accountability. There's no remorse. And when somebody's in a place of ego, then I'm really blocked. You know what I mean? When I made mistakes, I can apologize. There's accountability. There's vulnerability. There's introspection. When a person is really stuck in their ego, they're stuck. They're paralyzed. They're like in quicksand. That's what the ego does. Anybody here relates to that? just just to emphasize again because it's so important. So that's why even though it sounds like a very very high mad when said like said that someone you know did relieve themselves that was the greatest why the worst is the in the ship when they somebody did something not nice. Yeah. Um there was a that said that died but don't say that I'm not what died but ah how can that happen? That's a good question. How can a bev say I'm humble? That's a good question. True humility allows that because what's really humility? Humility doesn't mean that I'm tall and I say I'm short. I'm wise and I say I'm stupid. I'm handsome and I say I'm ugly. I'm successful and I say I'm unsuccessful. That's not humility. That's humility means it says Mosha was the humblest man on earth. Really he was the humblest man. He walked around he looked at people and he felt humble in front of everybody. How he didn't know that he and only he was chosen to liberate the Jewish people to give them the to change the world. Nobody else was chosen. Says also also in Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. and the one who says in the beginning of sight is said a person should learn from Hashem he neglected all the mountains and he chose hari the same who says I'm humble the real idea of humility is not that you don't know your qualities it's you you you have you put them in context you understand that it's a gift that Hashem gave you and you're a channel for Hashem's oneness for Hashem's light and not only that says inash thought that if somebody else would have received the same skill sets and gifts and resources, he may have reached even a higher level. So he didn't feel oh look at me versus you. Uh of course I should be arrogant. On the contrary, he was humble from people because he really felt if somebody would have gi been given what he was given, they may have maximized it to a much deeper degree. So he always he knew who he was and he knew how to stand up for who he is. When Kaidak rebelled against him didn't say, "Oh, I'm a nobody. Who am I?" Kaid is right. Let me just retire. I'll go to Miami. Kaid said, "No, this is not a joke." I mean, Misha, right? Mosha stood up to the spies. He stood up to theel. He wasn't a pushover. You're so humble. We look at humility, you know, walks around. I don't exist. I don't know. Yeah. Do whatever you want. Say whatever. That's not enough. So a real humble person could say I'm humble. You understand? A real humble person could say I'm humble. They acknowledge that they're humble. And that's also a gift. It's a gift. In fact, there's a ra said I said the first nu said he asked Hashem for three things. Wisdom, wealth, and humility. He said wisdom he gave me. Wealth Hashem gave me is wealth is wisdom but uh but humility Hashem didn't give me said he didn't say yet he said it imagine he said that ah and that's the answer to your question so this explains why the whole of is no because what's the end of how do you get rid of no and that's with humility. Humility doesn't mean I don't make mistakes. Humility means when I make mistakes, I can be accountable. That's the difference between arrogance and humility. An arrogant person is always perfect. Whenever there's perfection, there's no room for God. Accountability is what creates room for Hashem. A sinner could be accountable, could be vulnerable. Says, "No problem. I'm here. I'm not running away." But once you become arrogant, so there's no relationship, there's no oneness, there's no, there's no B. When there's no B, it's a very difficult situation. Says, I was locked out of the room. So now we go to the next step. Okay. Base now. So from here, the says if this is the case, you can't really hide from Hashem. The only reason you hide from Hashem is why? cuz he said I can't live with somebody who's a bulga I so it's something about he said it if so we have here a whole newish in this relationship and this will also be understood from the way it is practically and then from this we'll come to the civ bay explains from and the shows how It's reflected in our relationship with Hashem. [Music] A husband who forgives, he foregoes the warning, no problem. He could cancel out his own warning. up and says, you understand? He tells, I don't want you to be in one room with there's two witnesses. And then he says the next day, I'm sorry. Forget it. That's I'm cancelling it. It's fine. Now, if she goes into a room with him, nothing happened. You don't have to drink. You could just go back to the marriage and that's it. Why? Because the whole problem of stir is because he did a kino. If he takes away the kinoi, it's m it's forgiven. dimension says this can only be done that he forgives her before she goes into seclusion. But once she goes into seclusion, now if he says, "Oh, I'm sorry. I take back my kinoi." It doesn't help anymore. Now they have to go through the process of drinking the water again. She could say I don't want to drink and get divorced. She could say I did it and get divorced or she could drink. But now you can't just go back to the regular marriage once there was. What's the difference? You understand the logic? Why before he could be and after not? Yeah. The answer is huh? Oh. before before there's nothing outside of his warning. Nothing happened. All there is is he told her, "I don't want you to be in a secluded room with this guy." That's there is for his warning. He's a master. He's the balabias. He owns his warning. So he could say, you know what, forget it. I retract. And he cancels it. But once she disobys him and she goes into seclusion once there, now there's something a reality outside of him. So he says, I forgive. What do you forgive? Le she went into the st. So now so to speak the law takes over. Just like a simple example. Yeah. If somebody does something against the law to somebody else, you don't press charges. You don't press charges, right? You don't press charges. You don't report. You don't report. Once you report, the cat is out of the bag, right? It happens sometimes. You didn't report. You didn't report. But once you report it, now the state representatives or the federal representatives, whoever it is, now they have a responsibility to deal with it. The law was broken. You say, "Uh, I I'm sorry that I reported." Okay. It's it's out. It's out of your hands. You understand? Before what was there? It was just his kinoi. There was nothing else. So he cancels it. He cancels it. It's fine. He takes it back because all there was was his warning and he takes it away. Once there's now something happened outside of my control the gar says and that's the he can't be that's it. It's over. Yi argues says he could continue to forgive and take back the whole thing even after there was seclusion even after they come to the B mikdash even after they've prepared the water as long as the scroll was not dissolved and the water was not erased the bal could still say oh I was just I was crazy I'm sorry forget it I forgive my kino and they just go home and they live happily ever after like nothing happened. It's a huge argument between the ini can only happen till ini says the m can happen even after she went into seclusion till the mill is erased. Once the migill is erased now she has to drink unless she says I'm and she just wants to get divorced but his mill won't help anymore. So it's it's a huge musi is much more lenient. In other words, at any point till the last moment the bal could say I'm sorry, forget it. Let's just go home. It's a huge comes to say she says there's no between the now you have to hear I'll I'll I'll say it and then we'll learn it inside. There's two types of status. There's two types of seclusions. If a husband tells a wife, I don't want you to go into a private room with your father, with your father. There's no with a father. A daughter is allowed to be with a father in a private room. There's no is with another man, not a relative. But a father, there's no is. But this husband is very, very suspicious. whatever issues. We're not discussing if he's right or wrong. That's not relevant at the moment. But let's say he's very s let's say he has a good room and he says, "I don't want you to be with her in a private room." She's not allowed. She's not allowed. And if she does, and there's witnesses, she has to go drink. She's not like, but if it happens, she, you know, she has to go. try to do something just because let's put it this way. If she does it, there's a complicated process afterwards. So here, what makes the ste a he told her you're not allowed a a woman and her husband there's no there's no problem. And not I meant a woman and her father. A woman and her husband also no problem. A woman and her father, a woman and her son. Yeah, it's not an issue. What made it an issue? His kino. There is a stere with a stranger there. Being in a room alone is an of irrelevant of the husband's warning. Huh? with an withas the best of even a woman who's single a man because of what happened with and you know the story there was a brother who violated his sister David's children in Tanak so the bestd of David was even on a butas is a man to go into a private room with a woman and they're not relatives they're not allowed. She's married. They're not allowed. The husband's kino accomplishes that if she does it, she has to drink if she wants to go back into the marriage. Unless she just wants to get leave your so this is another interesting example. The gammor asks in your shami in saita what happens if the husband tells the woman I don't want you to go into seclusion with a hundred people and she gives him she gives her he gives his wife a list of 100 people you know all the neighbors in in on the block and there's a gam there she asked the question in gamar said that it's it's it's a good keno and she's not let her go in the room with 100 and if she does give you to drink now I ask you is Is there with 100 men? Is there any with 100 men? There's no such a what makes the problem his warning. So there's two types of stis. There's a that without his warning it's an issue. It's an issue. For example, her and a stranger. There's a type of steer like her and her father. Without his warning, nothing happened. A woman is allowed to be with her father. Woman is allowed to be with 100 people with 100 men. 100 people into the same room in the same time or Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No. No. 100 people together. 100 people together. Says that and are talking about two completely different status. Take a look. [Music] You're typhus. The is talking about he told her don't seclude yourself with who's another guy. So once she does it's already the cat is out of the bag. He doesn't have control over it. There was a st something wrong happened outside of himself and therefore the takes over. So therefore the bali says once there the bal can't do anything. I'm sorry even though he wants to take it back it's too late till the he could take it back. Not after do you know shi is talking about a different situation. What happened? It was also a what type a sta with her own father or with a 100 people over here what makes it a just his warning. So if after the concealment after the seclusion they come to the b and he says you know what I'm the whole thing. So he takes away the ko. So what happens? So there was no stitter. She was with her father in a room. What's the problem of a woman being with her father in a room? She was with 100 people in a room. So the steer is also but even though the steer happened already because what makes the steer problematic is what his prohibition he took that away. In the first case is a outside of like he says in 11 came out in a regular with man even though without the she would not be called a she would just be called somebody who violated but there's a mitz is called you're in a secluded place with a man and there's something problematic here his warning makes it of he takes away his kino there was of but with her father it's not called When you're with yourself in a room, it's a st baby in a room, it's st the whole of is why? Because he was against it. A 100 people in a room. Sorry, it's not called steer. I'm not called hide. I'm not hiding now, right? Why am I not hiding? This room has a mill lot of people. Why am I not? Cuz it's not called hiding. If I go with you into a private basement, I lock the door. That's called hiding. I'm not hiding. you what makes it that the husband is obsessed. It's his I'm calling it obsession. It's his obsession. It's his maybe not obsession. Maybe he's right. It's his thing. If there's no his thing, nothing happened. So even after the if he's gone with the wind. So that's why says you could be till the migill is dissolved till the migill is dissolved. You don't have to say there's an argument between you could say they're talking about two different status your not huh Okay. Alhamdulillah. [Music] In other words, it's a warning. It's the h what's making it a problem is one thing. There's no story outside of the husband. There's nothing could call a ste outside of the husband. So even after it happened, if the husband says I don't I made a mistake, right? So the steer is redefined. It's like nothing happened. She was with her father in a room. Why am I drinking water? Cuz I went with my father in a room. In the other case, yeah. Why am I drinking water? No, you weren't with your father. You were with there was an Indian of aish. There was two people, a married woman, a married man, or whoever the man is, and they're together in a room and they're strangers. That's an isra of now. True, without the husband's warning, she still wouldn't drink the water. That's em his kinoi turns her into the gather of a but the st is a mitas. It's aic issue. So once the koi was there and the sta happened even if he takes away the kinoi but the mitsus was there so therefore the bali says he can't be anymore now the law takes over the best takes over the takes over so to speak the authorities take over is talking about in a case where the whole was created because of his kino outside of his kino there's nothing there's nothing there you take away the kino and there's not there's no story Sorry. In nothing happened. There's not there's no story to tell. No. Now let's go to the spiritual level with Hashem. Which one is it? It's the Bavi case or the Shami case? with Hashem. What did we explain? Which one is it? It's there's no real. What makes it a God makes it a So therefore, there's always forgiveness till the end. came on the says we can't live in one place. So in the spiritual dimension of Saita since the truth is that there's no space devoid of him there's no there's not like an objective reality where you concealed yourself from God then you threw him out of the room and you're with a you're with somebody else there's no such a thing so there's no mitas of what makes it what did we explain Hashem said I cannot be in the presence of agasm like the says in the beginning of so the whole is what makes it a hashem's will hashem's desire there's no objective steer outside of god's desire just like we explained in the shi when he says don't go into a hiding with 100 people there's no objective ste nothing happened what makes it a what makes it an isur his roson his issue so therefore he can always be Michael he can always be even after. What makes it a st from Hashem? Not that there's a real st where God is everywhere. Hashem is here. Hashem is there. Hashem is truly everywhere. Up, up, down, down. Right, right. I still remember is here. You can't hide. What it say? Hashem is here cheering you on watching the next move celebrating you know like a real fan besides if I become arrogant then he says there's no so if the whole thing is so then even after the [Music] could be at any moment he's like okay let's forget about this let's just go let's just go back They tell a story that there were two boys. They were very mischievous. They were very wild. The mother didn't know what to do with them. So there was a big rabbi who came to the city. So the mother decided to take these boys to the rabbi. Maybe he can help them and inspire them and you know whip them back into shape in the old expression. So she takes one of the boys to this great rabbi and he goes into the rabbi's room. Rabbi closes the door and he says, "David, tell me where is Hashem? Where is God?" David doesn't answer. The first boy, "Tell me where is God?" Doesn't answer. He's quiet. The rabbi gets a little anxious. Tell me right now, where is Hashem? Doesn't answer. I don't have time. Tell me where is God? He picks himself up. He runs out of the room. He starts running home. It's a half a mile. He runs top speed. He comes into the room. It's his house. He's out of breath. He goes into the room where his brother is. He locks the door and he says, "Mut, you won't believe what happened now." Says, "What happened?" Says, "God is missing." And they think we did it. That's the new issue we're both facing. They think we did it. So what's the bottom line? The bottom line is God is not missing. The reason is missing is because he says his so the whole steer is only because of the kinoi like the explains in the so there's always but wait even the shami says it's only till you erase the migilla once you erase the migilla even the husband can't say let's just go back home forget it at that point it's already outside even of the husband's domain and And we can understand why until the migill is erased. All there is is a stir that was created from the kin. If he takes away the kinoi as we said there's no st because the of the st is only created because of the kino like when he tells her don't be with your father in one room. But once the migill is dissolved you know once hashem's name is actually erased in the process. So now even the husband can say okay I'm retracting the whole thing because now there's a real story that happened. You didn't just go to the b mikdish. You erased hashem's name in the process. You have the water waiting. Now she has to drink unless she says she's tummy and then there's no point in drinking because the whole point of the water is to verify what happened and now she already verified it. So she just gets divorced. They get divorced from each other and she moves on. So now comes the last call. The only time the forgiveness helps even when the whole steer is based on the kino is as long as the migilla the scroll that the prepares with par wasn't erased. for those. What does it mean when you put a scroll into water and the ink gets dissolved? It means there was parchment, there was ink, the cayenne used a quill, a feather, whatever he used to write on the parchment. And now in this water, the ink gets separated from the parchment. What does this mean? That even before it was erased, there were two separate entities. There was ink, there was parchment. The parchment could be blank. You place the ink on the parchment. Now it's written on it, but you can also erase it. Just like when we write something and then you take an eraser or white out or whatever it is and you erase it. You wrote it with a pencil and then you erase it. This means even before they're two separate entities that were brought together. That's only letters that are written. What about letters that are engraved, right? Like if you have a tombstone, you had the for example, the two tablets, the letters were not written. They were engraved. It was stone. You don't they didn't write it didn't write on the stone. It engraved. What happens now? What are the letters made out of? The letters are made out of the rock itself. The stone itself, it's engraved. Mob. It's from from the heaven itself. Here you can't separate the two unless you take the rock away. Also, if you want to get rid of the letters, what else do you have to get rid of? You have to get rid of the entity itself, the stone itself. Because the letters are made up of the rock. That's what you made it out of. So, are letters that are engraved are letters that are written. So, he says, where the letters are one with the object with the stone in which they are engraved. You can't just get rid of the letters and have the stone intact. By the parchment, you dissolve the ink and you have parchment. You have blank parchment. You're back to square one because initially they were two separate things. They came became connected and now you separated them. You put sugar in your tea or your coffee, right? it gets dissolved. You don't see the sugar anymore. You just see a cup of tea. But if you cook it, what happens? The fire evaporates the water and what happens? The sugar collects together and it remains on the bottom. So even after it was mixed and you don't even see the difference anymore, there's still a way of dealing with this uh compound and going back to square one where the sugar is one thing and the tea is something else and you mix the two. So the ink was attached to the parchment. They became one but you can separate them and they go back to the way they were initially. You can't do that with flour and water. If you take flour and you mix it with water and you need the flour and now you want to separate the water from the flour and go back to the flour the way it was, good luck. How you gonna do that? Right? Once the flour is mixed with water, now it's a dough. So it's you can't separate it anymore. The flour and the water becomes one withas. In physics, you have a chemical compound. When you have a chemical reaction and it changes on an atomic level, it's a whole different type of change than when you put the sugar into the tea. I'll cop him. So when you erase the migilla, what does it mean? It means the two things were separate. When the letters are engraved in the rock, now I can't just take away the letters. How you going to take away the letters? Unless you take away a part of the thing from which it is engraved because it's not two separate things. It it was made from the stone itself. The letters are engraved in the stone. It's the stone that created the letters. What does this mean on a spiritual level? your typhus. There's two ways of experiencing Yiddish. One is ink on parchment and one is letters engraved in the stone. What's the difference? Ink and parchment means we're two separate things. We become connected. When letters are engraved in the stone, it's not two separate things. the very letters come from the rock. It's a whole different paradigm. So he says when the migill was not erased, what does this mean spiritually? The whole about learning is for dollars. means as follows. As long as the mgilla doesn't get erased meaning when a person's experience of yiddesh is there not hashem is there and I'm here and the ink attaches itself to the parchment at best we become connected that's why they can be erased when things are two separate entities you could take away one from the other but if we appreciate the untethered truth of oneness of organic And one is it's not God is in heaven and I'm here is and I'm here. For whatever reason there was a between the two. If you appreciate that there's an underlying oneness. It's all one entity. You are divine. That is who you are. You're engraved. You are letters that were engraved from the stone itself. You are a derivative of infinite consciousness. You're a manifestation of divine light. It's not two separate things. It's like the stones in the I mean the letters in the that's why the Gmorra says that right the letters me and the were miraculous. Why? Because the were engraved through and through. So how did the mem stand when you when you engrave a sach in the stone? Right? H it was like floating because the is a is a circle or the me is like a square. So if you engrave it through and through it was in engraving itself there could be two levels right there's engraving through and then there's through and through but he's not getting into that now there's other others it's engraved when something is engraved in you what does it mean it's who I am it's part of me it's not separate. There's relationships that are written inside of us. There are relationships that are engraved inside of us. You know the difference? If a relationship is written, you can also erase it. If a relationship is engraved, if I'm here, you're here. It's a relationship of of real oneness because the relationship it's it's part of who I am. It's it's the definition of who I am. That's what Yiddish is. There's a Yiddish that you say there's God and there's you and God is the boss and he gave you laws and if you follow the laws you're going to get rewarded. That's at best means no that's a misunderstanding. It's a it's a superficial understanding. If we could remove the entanglement the ego the self-consciousness what do you realize? Complete one. It's complete aus. Person is divine. The world is divine. There's no separation. So he says means if I'm in a place where it can get erased in other words there's a oneness. So yes there's moments of weakness. He says a person can can experience that self-consciousness that moment of separateness but it's only superficial because at the core you know who you are and then there was so there's always forgiveness even after even after ga and hashem is but if which means there's even before was two separate things so now the gyver can really take over. You understand? If you're really one, take it in a relationship. If you're really one with somebody and you know you're one, so yeah, there's moments where you go into a place of fear, insecurity, self-consciousness, ego superficially, but you can always jump on the wagon. Even after city, you can jump on the wagon. But if the paradigm is that we're separate, we were just connected. Now the guy could take over. That's why in marriages, right? What's the difference of a Jewish marriage and not a Jewish? What's what's what does Judaism add to a marriage of no the is different in the secular world? I'm I you're you. We meet each other. If we like each other, we'll get married. If we don't like each other, we won't. And if we like each other and we fall in love, we can also fall out of love. You fall in love, you fall out of love. What's the Jewish approach to marriage? Of course, there's a concept of of divorce, of a get. We know that and sometimes unfortunately it's necessary. But what's the how to go into a marriage? Like it says in Zar, two halves of one soul. What does it mean two halves of one soul? If you take away you from me, you're not taking away the ink from the parchment. You're taking away me from me. It's a whole different approach. So even if there's a fight and even if there's a moment where trauma takes over, you can come back because you have an inner oneness that you could go back to. You understand the difference? That's the when there is a sense of oneness. So the says even if there was there was a hashem forgives even after the he could forgive like we explained in the shi but once if there's a paradigm of separateness. So now we're much more vulnerable state because if there's a paradigm of separateness, we're two separate things. Now if my self-consciousness takes over, now if my ego takes over, it can really separate me. It can really detach from you. Oh, so now I have now already going to get of what's so she has to bring a carbon. What type of carbon? It's the one carbon that came from barley besides carbon the only meal offering that came from barley was a why so the Mishna says in because it's wheat is human food barley is animal fuh what is huh what food eats I know today a lot of people eat barley And they give wheat to the animals. Traditionally wheat is a and seras was wheat and 22 the 22 letters of spoke before to the women about says before he killed himself he told his children three things. Don't don't get into don't rebel against and if the weather on is clear you should plant wheat zero explain what that means so she has to bring a not only that she brings there's different types of carbonas there's a carbon of a mammal a sheep an ox carbon usher carboni a dove a pigeon then there's a carbon dalos which means poverty within poverty that was meal offering you brought grain barley or wheat she had to bring a carbon Dolly dollars. What does this mean? From the gya which took me over, I have to go to a place where I could become as authentic and natural like an animal like a behemoth. What's the mile of a behemoth? A behemoth is I can't live in my brain. A behemoth doesn't live in its brain. A behemoth lives in its natural instinctive place. A behemoth lives in its emotions. I have to go out of my brain because my brain became a source of arrogance. That's also you bring a carbon of an on. The Gomorrah says in a we're not talking here physical poverty. We're talking about I surrender my I allow my das to surrender. I become an onias and I bring a that's the that's what the does when she comes to the mdash he brings from the says so thear says these are people that are they're sly in their das but they make themselves like a behem make a simplicity the loyalty the dedication I don't got to figure it all out Because when I live in my brain over there, a lot of self-consciousness and problems come in. When you live in your in your innate reality, I surrender the ego and the need to understand that could be the fixing of the situation. That's the carbon that the brings. is and when the goes through this process and I find a realignment with Hashem it's not just you go back to a place of purity you go to a place that was greater and deeper than you were before yet is Messiah like the PK finishes Vixra when she drinks the water if she was really pure at her core she's clean venzra She generates seed explains also in if till now she was giving birth with pain she starts giving birth in comfort that's what the garra says the whole birthing process is of a higher level because she drank the sight to water really it's not fear if I would have never done all these make make all these trouble if I wouldn't make trouble I would never have this blessing because she made trouble and she disobeyed and she went into hiding so now she gets blessed but the truth is that's how it is when a person fails and stumbles and then grows from it they reach a greater place than they were originally because they have to work through the darkness so he says what does this mean spiritually They say the garra says that the children of all Jews are sadikim. What's our children? Everyone has offspring. You have biological children bas. But we also have spiritual children. Every action I do is a child of mine. A word I tell to somebody, a mitzvah I do, a good deed I do, these are my children. This is what I produce in the world. It's like my fruits. So sometimes the birth of these children was it came with it came with anguish it was it was what happens now your letter is the birth of this person the children is you reach the ultimate expansiveness the ultimate broadness the infinite consciousness as the gar says the gar says the place where stand sadikim can't even stand there. They reach a different place of expansiveness because they had to transform the darkness into light. So by drinking the water the may which has in it has in it earth. Now we understand why the earth why do you put an earth to the water? What do we say by dinger represents the ultimate humility. You bring an afer into the water and the water is essentially holy water. It's holy water. And because it's holy water, it has the power to be able to lift up the woman to heal the person and bring them even to a deeper place. So that's a nick of Isra. So let's summarize the structure. We started off that what that a man and a woman here are a reflection of a man and a woman on all different all higher levels all the way back to Hashem and the Jewish people. So the denim of apply also to us to Hashem. What's the warning that Hashem gives the Jew? That's the key. The problem is how could it be stir when Hashem is everywhere? You can't be in an exclusive place devoid of his presence. The husband is always there. The answer is because about arrogance and hoardiness and narcissism and egotism the egoic mind he says I can't live with this person like the bump says if you go into hiding with a sense of ani my ego lawyer god say can't see you so to speak that's the idea of now we explain the argument between if the husband could forgive after the stereo or not the bi says no shalli says yeah explains it's not a contradiction it depends if the stereo was created through the husband's warning or it has an independent prohibition. If it has an independent prohibition, he can't forgive after the st. If it doesn't have an independent prohibition, it's only because he prohibited it. That's what makes it problematic. He could always forgive. That's the shammy. And therefore, it's not a contradiction with the bi. The garbani would agree. So, spiritually speaking, Hashem, what makes it a not an objective prohibition that we're really hiding from God. It's that he said it's a stir. So therefore you can always forgive. So there's never stuckness even when there is this element of egotism. But that's only when the migill wasn't erased. When migill wasn't erased which represents there's a oneness even if ga infiltrates me rais forgiveness. But once which means there's a paradigm of separateness. Now it's possible that the yeseshas and the ga permeated me and penetrated me. Now there's a to bring a carbon and a carbon of anas which represents the complete b and then of you reach even a deeper level than you were before because you worked through the trauma of self-consciousness and separateness and then you could truly become an untethered spirit the place where baluv are even theim there's only one exception when something that's engraved broke and that's by the Mosha broke the and the was engraved. Huh? So he says in 13, he says in 13, Hashem always forgives. With all sins he forgives because the source of all sins is ga. Why? Cuz what's ga ga means you're separate. You're alone. You're isolated. You're not part of divinity. That's why I have to create an ego. The ego is to substitute for an identity that is a counterfeit identity. My aloneess. What's ga? I'm trying to build up something that doesn't really exist. I'm investing substance into something that's not really a reality. Because gya says you're separate. you're and then the person could separate themselves from the cosmic will. I'm not aligned with the will of Hashem. What's the will of Hashem? The will of Hashem is the design of the universe. It's the design of reality. A leaf never defies God's will. A worm never defies God's will. Why? It's part of a symphony. Ga means I'm not part of a symphony. So now I have to reinvent myself in a counterfeit image with a counterfeit image. And this always comes from a ruus. That's what site is. That's why the of that's why the end of humility. So the of comes from what the covers up the connection the oneness that's what G is and all sins come from that because all sins are based in the fact that I'm not in tuned with the oneness and the desire and the symphonic design that permeates every element of the universe. But there's always forgiveness. There's always forgiveness. always forgiveness and even after the migill gets erased there's a process of sight but he says the affects the of the you separate from that the level of of anoid and this affects it can affect the engraved component. So by the which was broke the which were in a level of because denying that core that core of oneness. So the was affected but generally with all the sins the is not affected the is affected and therefore there's always forgiveness because what's engraved is the oneness by you're challenging that itself. So there's a whole deeper reinvention of self that has to happen. So that was the only place where the kaka was affected. Everybody have a wonderful day and a beautiful day and an inspiring day and an uplifting day. What were the you want to know who are the adists? Amen. Says, "I summon heaven and earth as witnesses." I summon heaven and earth as witnesses. All of reality is a witness. And I guess other Jews were witnesses for every other Jew cuz every Jew was there at the So every Jew had many witnesses that watched it's on a practical level on a level but the says there's witnesses explains that heaven and earth are the best witnesses they don't lie and they don't get old and they don't forget human witnesses you know can wither away why do we learn this this here the ultimate lesson rebellion against ego here as opposed to you would think that here is less of a person to go worship a tree or worship a star less you can ask a general question why did the goal learn from the right. So one of the answers is because this represents the relationship between Hashem and the Jewish people which is like a marriage and the breach in that relationship which begins in the process of therefore is a metaphor for every aa but we also know because it's a breach of that relationship this is where he's testing us the most right So that's the hardest. So why would you make it over here in the hardest? We think that's the least rebellious is the hardest. Maybe that's another another reason because the zya gives a for every so maybe that's also a reason that used this as a paradigm. The many people say that you should call again for the copies. He makes beautiful copies. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. says somebody who's arrogant at the end he betrays his marriage and he goes to anish takes a married woman the cleer says he says because if everybody is a nobody you're nothing she's nothing. He's nothing. So what does matter? You're not even an assh. You're nobody. You don't even exist. There's no respect for the boundaries of another person, for the dignity of a marriage. Huh? Everything belongs to everyone. So take it belongs to everybody. So animal farm. Yeah. Shalom. Shal says that only works tells you. Yeah. Yeah. If there was no kino there's no stereot I don't want to talk oh I don't know could be I don't know I don't know two weeks ago is gan. Ah, one second. What? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. two weeks ago. Yeah. The Gmorra says that somebody doesn't have das you're not allowed to have compassion on him. They don't have compassion on themselves. They they don't discern. So you'll have compassion. It's like enabling. I'll enable you. If you don't have D, I'm going to be and what's going to happen? I'll make it worse. It's like they call it an enabler. So he said that he heard from his father-in-law who heard from his father and he started to cry when he said it that his father told his sonat who told he said uh take a look What a ramanus it is on this person that the t says you're not allowed to have ramanus on her. The hest I remember when he said it was There's of and of what's the difference of a father. Yeah. Who has ramonasim? The father of rakam. This ver doesn't come from. It comes from [Music]