How to get out of my comfort zone? - The Kavanah Show on 101.9 ChaiFm - Rabbi Alon Anava

good morning good morning and welcome to the Cabana show body mind and soul and we are live from satat on the 30th of 7 and it is Ros Hodes the first day of Ros hodish we got two days of roses tomorrow will be the first subamos and in the year 5776 and we are the 6th of July on in the year 2016 and this morning La fromat together with RAB Lon anava and we are going to be speaking a little bit um more about the topic that we started last week we were speaking about not you know how not to give up not to um you know how to go that that extra mile how to really save the world one person at a time to reach out to one person at a time and and it seems like an impossible thing that one person can affect another or that it makes a we make a difference to a person's life but the truth is every single one of us every single person you meet every single interaction that you have every single relationship that you have you are affecting the other person and the other person is affecting you and you can either really raise them or you can do the opposite that and that's our free choice and just in uh from the show last week in terms of saving the world one person at a time we're going to go that extra bit in talking about getting out of our comfort zone and what does that mean getting out of our comfort zone so for I suppose for everybody the comfort zone is very very different uh it can be depending on one's time of life your the you know whether you in the really spring of your life the summer of your life the Autumn of your life the Sun the winter of your life your your needs are different uh and it it changes and so as I was researching for you know to do the show this morning I was thinking that really it's one day at a time it's one centimeter at a time that whatever it is that you can do whatever comes to mind that is positive that is going to draw you in the direction that is going to build your life and that is going to build somebody else's life that is that is in your life that is going to make the difference and it's it's you know sometimes you know in this world with all the technology one thinks it's Fame and Fortune and gaining as much physicality is possible however that's not what this world is about as we've spoken many many times and it's about how we going to help one another how we going to love one another and how we going to emulate Hashem in in his world he begs us to emulate exactly what he does to have mercy to judge favorably and to go that extra ceter and um this morning uh Alon is going to be joining me just now we laugh inat from his home and I've been doing a lot of broadcasting from here barash it's the summer month here inat and beautiful absolutely beautiful and absolutely Exquisite and I'm so grateful to him and to his wife d'vorah and their six children the the the work that they are doing and I say every single week to do yourself the biggest favor to go to his website www Alon an.com or you can email him Alon Ana uh uh um uh uh at gmail.com and watch his his story his journey about his near-death experience and all the questions and answers that he gives his deep Insight his his deep knowledge and uh his journey of the last 15 years and he met Aliah about 7 months ago I made Aliyah it's now three months I'm here 90 days it's uh I made Aliyah just after on roses Nissan and now it's roses Tam so and it's been a journey of a laugh time and uh also um just to share with you the SMS L anybody want to ask Alon or myself any questions about Aliyah we've spoken a lot about Aliah we've spoken a lot about um the coming of mashiach we are living in times of mashiach we really are it doesn't look like it it doesn't feel like it it feels like we at the end of ather often and we're at the end of a rope however we really are living in miraculous arms it I definitely think it will be revealed very soon just how miraculously we actually are living especially here in Israel last night I had the privilege to go to the screening of a documentary of uh called above and beyond about the start of the Israeli Air Force and how so they took clips from 1947 of the Ragged remnants of the Holocaust uh coming to Israel coming to try and and and and the the the the elections in the in the United Nations um you know for or against bringing Israel into existence after 200 years and then just watching and listening to these these Pilots that came from America they and they were uh uh some of them were arrested because it was illegal they uh some of them lost their citizenship because they volunteered as as as Pilots as F pilots and they established and the first raid that they sent was three airplanes and one got shot down it was two airplanes two little airplanes with one propeller and they even shot off parts of the propeller and they bombed the oncoming Egyptian Army and the oncoming of Egyptian Army that was about to enter T Aviv turned around and went back it it was just miraculous to actually watch that documentary last night so Alon is together with me now thank and good morning and thank you so much Alon and thank you to your wife and your children for every week the the the the incredible sacrifice and I'm just so grateful so thank you so so much pleasure and uh I was just saying to the listeners that um we're going to be speaking about getting out of our comfort zone literally one cmet at a time that's all we need to do in everything that we do in our teas in our um cooking in in every little thing that shim has given us to do just go that extra little bit yep so okay and um I think we need to go to a quick break and then um Alon is going to um delve into the the topic Johannesburg to Israel sport to business this is 101.9 kab good morning and welcome to the Cabana show buddy mind and soul and this morning I'm sitting together with Rabbi Lon anava and um we are talking about going that extra mile last week we spoke about saving the world one person at a time one little bit at a time and this morning is we talking about getting out of the comfort zone that lulls us into this Slumber of it can be practically a laugh time sometimes and suddenly something wakes you up and then how to actually get out of that because it's it's a challenge it's a challenge in this lifetime because we're living in such Darkness so how do we get out of that out of that comfort zone well unfortunately nothing is easy especially when it comes for serving God then nothing comes so easy and fast and you said it yourself that that you when a person is stuck in their in in their comfort zone first of all there's a pro there's a there's two problems here there's the spiritual problem and there's the physical problem the physical problem is that our sages Give an example that a a prisoner cannot be released from his own cell and when a person is stuck in in a in in their own comfort zone then they're not they cannot be released by themselves like a prisoner that is captured in a in a Cell he cannot open the door to let himself out the spiritual problem is that this comfort zone is is a cover of the reality and like I always go back to the original when you want to solve a problem you have to understand where it started so as usual it all started in the six days of creation when Adam and Eve were created cuz originally the world was created in a way that it did not have a spiritual cover that everything was obvious and everything was clear and Adam Adam and Eve Adam they were able to see godliness they were able to see God and whenever they made the sin then they went down in their level so there's many different explanations what exactly happened because we know right after that that God dressed them the Tor says in a very literal way that he dressed them in leather garments in not but spiritually what it means that he dressed them first of all with a body because in the beginning they were just Souls so they were able to see godliness or or to more to be exact or literal they saw the truth there was no deceiving nothing was was there to separate them from the reality but not only they were dressed in bodies the world was covered with some type of an energy that we call it kipa kipa is like a shell like a a a fruit will have a shell will fruit have a peel maybe a hard boiled egg will have a shell but we seen many different types of food that we eat that it has a cover usually the cover whether it's a peel a shell it's not edible it's just covering the the the actual fruit so this spiritual power covered the reality of the truth and the and the real the reaction from that is that now was created two realities the reality that is called Truth which is the the the reality and a reality that is called something that is deceiving and this is the in the cabalistic ter term what's called The Secret of the tree of knowledge the tree of knowledge is is mixed between good and bad that everything the good and the bad got mixed together and it's very hard to to say the difference what's good or what's bad you can take now two apples and one of them is completely rotten inside but the outside looks exactly the same and you cannot tell the difference between the good and the bad and in our reality the bad is covered with good the good is mixed with the bad and one big mishmash so couple thousand years later God gave us did for us a favor and he gave us the Torah the Torah is our manual Torah comes from the word in Hebrew H to teach and in this manual the stick book besides interesting stories is all the guide guidance how do I separate between good and bad so the Torah came and made a lot of order and he told me this animal for example a cow it's a kosher animal that animal for example a camel is not Kosher so it may my life easy instead of me going and starting to figuring out so the Torah told me everything that I need to know what's kosher what's not Kosher what's pure what is not pure what is permitted what is not permitted why because the world is mixed in this power that is called kipa now there are different types of kipot the kipa that I'm talking about is called kipot noga that it's mixed good and bad and an average person cannot know the difference what between the good and the bad and this is one of our main jobs for the last couple thousand years this is what's called the job of sifting sifting the good and the bad constantly I'm sifting the good and the bad and you can see that if you're looking in a very plain and literal level of the Torah it's teaching me what's good and bad now some things I can use my common sense like not to kill well for a normal person it's common sense not to kill but unfortunately for a third of the world to kill it's a normal thing I might even say 2/3 of the world it's a normal thing to kill maybe to kill human beings unfortunately 90% of the world it's fine it's good for them to kill an animal maybe it's not I don't know one one person's Common Sense doesn't mean it's another person's common sense and one person says yeah I think it's to totally fine to kill animals and eat them another person will say no it's cruelty you're not allowed to do that so even if we try to use our common sense in things some things are very will seem pretty obvious like not to kill you come to different uh parts of the world you tell them not to commit adultery they'll tell you no I think it's totally fine I want to have three wives so in some things we can use our common sense not to steal not to kill not to lie but unfortunately that Common Sense doesn't always work so the Torah was very specific about what we're allowed to do what we're not allowed to do what is good and what is not bad the reason for that is is because the realities are are mixed and it's covered by this energy by this power that is called kipa kipa again is like a shell that covers the truth covers the reality and I can be deceived by the reality and by a deception something can deceive me now some things are very easy cuz the Torah comes and tells me this is permitted this is not permitted this is culture this is not culture when the animal when the Torah comes and tells me do not eat a camel or do not eat pig it's not because to make my diets not not according to my desire rather it's telling me listen there are things that you're beyond what you understand and everything in this world has a godly power that enlivens it we talked about it many times in in our in our uh classes in our interviews that everything in the world has a certain energy certain power that enlivens it this is a godly power that enlivens everything and it's including everything also animals have it also an animates have it everything has it we mentioned a couple times the name of RAB he mentions according to his teachings of cabal that he calls it nees nees an energy a godly power that enlivens everything now each one of these nees this godly power is built from a completely different spiritual DNA and when you put some of them together it would create something good you put some of them together it will create an explosion exactly like in this world so the Torah comes and tells me do not eat this specific animal meaning because the spiritual structure of the neish of the this Godly energy of this specific animal if I will touch it will cause a s short circuit with my with my soul and will the result will be a spiritual explosion like you're taking explosives and mixing things together so the Torah is very specific you know and and there and each entity has a different type of neish and different different type of energy the the main thing that we see that has a different type of energy is females and male that's why according to a man is not allowed to touch a woman even shake her hand it's nothing to do necessarily with modesty people think it's about modesty there's nothing it is Modesty but spiritually if you're looking at spiritually the male energy is a different energy from the female and if he touches her there's a spiritual short circuit that causes a problem he's only allowed to touch his wife why because it's part of his soul so after the break B will continue by talking about why why it's all covered and how we can actually make a uh see the difference and how we can pull out of it okay so we go to our second ad break we'll be back with you the best part of your day at the heart of your community commun all the talk all the music all the Newser good morning and welcome to the cavan show body mind and soul live from spat and I'm sitting together with Rabbi Lon an and we are talking about getting out of our comfort zone and um Alon was talking about the the start of creation where that's the the nucleus where everything starts and then expands and then when we got the Torah the instruction that we have and the the world that we're living in how to kind of get out of our comfort zone from there yeah now as I started before everything is built from a spiritual component and from the physical component first of all and most important a lot of people think that the world is just physical the reality is the same way that our body has a soul in it if somebody doesn't even believe in that that's a different problem but the truth is that we have a physical body but in the physical body there's a spiritual Soul same thing with the world the world is built on a physical Foundation but there's a spiritual n spiritual soul of the world that Fs in the world now before I gave a short explanation about the spiritual part of it the physical part is a little bit less important because I like going always directly to to the source and in anything a person can be sick yeah there is a a physical reason for the sickness but the source is spiritual and I there's a lecture that I that I gave it you can find it on my website and on YouTube that it's called the source of sicknesses it's about a 4-Hour lecture where I say that yes the the the every disease every sickness that we have it's coming from a physical place but it it originated in the spiritual level so if I have any type of sickness then it means that somewhere in the spiritual level there is a deficiency maybe my soul is sick maybe where I'm drawing my energy there's a problem and I'm drawing the wrong energy or that I'm drawing mixed energy so it's almost like having a contaminated will that I'm drinking water from a contaminated will so I can draw my energy from a spiritual place but somewhere along the way there's going to be some type of a damage in the spiritual channels that will cause my energy to be contaminated which will affect me physically or spiritually or emotionally so everything originates from the spiritual but just to touch a little bit about the physical is that the our human nature is to dwell into things that seem to us to be convenient but they're actually not and a lot of people tend to to not want to move from where they are because it's familiar not because it's good and it can be a job I just meant not too long ago a man that is in the worst job in the world for 9 years and when I tell him when he came to me with a lot of different problems we're trying to find out where the problem is originating from why he's depressed why he doesn't have any energy why he doesn't have happiness why he has problems in his marriage so we we summed it up and we we we narrowed it down that he is miserable because of his job and he's working 9 years in in the worst place a horrible boss a bad job and when I tell him why don't you leave he's like no because it's already it's it's it's already my job I want to find a new job now and get used to a new place and a new uh co-workers and I'm already I know what to do it's he's like working in a like a robot yes and I told him because you're working in this horrible job and your boss is is like driving you nuts then it makes you sad it makes you depressed you bring the sadness and this depression home so you start fighting with your wife and and it's like a a snowball that your life is a disaster because one little act that you are not willing to to pull yourself out of it because why because you you familiar because you know your P your work your your path to go to to the bus route to your job you don't want to start a different route or you don't want to meet new people and I told him but look at the why why the stubbornness you see that it's not good for you you're not happy there the p is not so good the boss is screaming at you what's so hard for you to say I don't like this place it's not good for me let me go somewhere else the thing is that that naturally that's how we build it can be in a job I give one example of a job it can be in a relationship it can be in a in a in a in a in a place where you live not too long ago we met a young couple that they're going through horrible things with their neighbors lawsuits and all day long they're driving them crazy and when I and when the wife told me about the issue I told her why don't you just leave yes is it isn't it easier just to rent somewhere else I mean you're not first of all you don't own the place if you would own the place I would say okay that's a whole different thing but you're renting an apartment and you have issues all day long with your neighbors the dog is barking this is doing the the kids are doing damages just get up and leave so why do you want to keep on having a headache okay something you you're in a certain position a certain place in this world and it's more not working out get up and leave the unfortunate reality is that people get into this comfort zone it doesn't have to be spiritual it can be a very physical thing and they it's just familiar to them and they don't want to leave because I think it's just laziness and again I give an example with a how I give an example with a job it's it's relationships it's everything it's every little thing even habits I don't believe that there such a thing as a habit I mean there is but it's just a very bad way to define it by saying it's a habit it's not a habit it's just a very uh low power of of be abling to deal with situations if a person says oh I'm doing it because it's a habit no you know animals have habits because that's their nature I don't like words using the word habit that's why I said it's a wrong way of defining it it's nature we are we are created with a certain nature a cow's nature is to eat all day long and then to sleep and then to eat and then to sleep and then to eat and then to sleep that's it's the cow's nature a tiger his nature is to hunt when a tiger is hunting a deer it's not because the tiger is mean he's a nice animal that's his nature is to be aggressive and to hunt so everything has a certain nature to it so we also have a certain nature to us and by me abusing it or or or taking it to a level that I'm not able to deal with something and I can call it blame it as a habit it's not a habit it's just I don't want to deal with the situation so I'm calling it a habit so the reality is that our our our our spiritual our our natural component is is to be inclined to the situation that I don't want to leave my comfort zone because it's familiar and I don't want to start something new because the starting is always hard it's whether it's a new job whether it's a new relationship doesn't matter what it is a starts are always hard and we're as human beings are looking for an easy life we're not looking for a hard life so whatever requires a lot of effort that goes under the definition of hard that I don't want to do it very few people are very energetic and go-getters and like I want to challenge I want something new most people says no you know I've been in this relationship for 10 years I'm I'm already used to all the the problems why start now a new relationship and and uh and deal with something new now I'm not saying that when everything is going bad get up and leave that's not the solution that's not what I'm saying because sometimes yes so you don't have a good job but it doesn't mean you just get up and leave or or a relationship don't think my words are a context because a lot of people they say take something that I said and say oh alone said that everything something bad happen just to get up and leave it has to be done in a very re rational and reasonable way you don't just leave situations on the contrary you have to you have to battle situations I'm just giving an example that a lot of people people they tend to dwell and to sink into a certain situation like quicksand and they don't want to leave it obviously like I said before everything starts from the spiritual place and if something in the spiritual level is stuck then it will manifest into the physical level and I will be stuck somewhere in the physical level and I mentioned before that this concept of kipa kipa is a negative energy everything there was many types of energies in this world there's good energies bad energy energies and I create energies if I will create if I will do something positive I create a positive energy like a wave if I will now drop a stone into a uh into the water it will create like this ripple effect like a ring that will go bigger and bigger and bigger and for whatever reason it will create more Rings why because my ACT has a certain uh continuation so one might say okay it's a certain energy that it will it's Contin to to roll it's almost like taking a bowl and rolling it how come it rolls for 100 m and then it stops it has a certain energy that it goes 100 m from the from the force that I pushed it and at some point it will go slower and slower and slower and then stop so the same example that I can kick a ball in the first 10 m it goes the fastest and then slowly slowly stops every act that I do it's like I'm throwing something out to the world in the beginning it will be powerful then slowly slowly will stop slow down and then stop so when I do something positive I help a person I talk honest I don't curse or I do positive actions then I the energy that is Created from that is positive I do something negative then the energy is negative that's why a lot of people they don't understand they something bad happens into in their life and right away they say God is punishing me I did this so God is punish me punishing me because I did that it's the worst way to analyze is the master of the universe because God doesn't punish anyone people think that God is standing in the heavens with a baseball bat and a bunch of angels and you do something wrong and then you get hit on your head and and this is a very very wrong way of looking of of looking at AEM at God or analyzing Judaism or any type of religion because the reality is that God doesn't punish anyone you do an action and right away you bring on yourself a reaction and that's it and stands on the side and sometimes he laughs and sometimes he cries but if you go and bang your head at the wall you'll get a headache you cannot complain to the wall and you cannot complain to your head and you cannot complain to anyone you did an action that is negative now deal with a reaction so nobody's punishing anyone so the reality is that I do a certain a certain act and I will throw a certain energy into the universe and that energy will come back to me so these energies are sometimes is covered and hidden by this power that is called kipa and in a very short explanation is that we see it the time when the Jews were in Egypt in MIM people think that they were in Egypt south of Israel that's the the literal part of the story that they're in this in a country called Egypt but the word Egypt in in Hebrew is called MIT comes from the word m m is a limitation something that limits you our sages say every generation a person needs to see himself like as if he came out of Egypt so comes a very special Rabbi from liadi who's known as the alter RAB who's known also as and he says every day a person has to see himself like as if he left Egypt now leaving Egypt is not leaving the country Egypt rather living my state of limitation CU I'm constantly limited by things spiritual physical and emotional things would limit me and if I don't go out of my limitation I'm stuck in my Egypt so I am a slave to the reality where I am and every day I have to go out of my limitation I have to reach out and leave my MIT now what was so hard for them 3,000 years ago or 3,300 years to be more precise what was so hard for them to leave Egypt okay so the literal level explains to us it was a big army and there was guards and they couldn't leave and whoever would try to leave will Shalom get shot down and so forth the reality is this is this is what spiritually happened this is what the book of the zor explains that there was certain type of cipot certain types of these energies and parau who we know him as Pharaoh he was a a very powerful individual he was a sorcerer he wasn't some some regular man that's why they were able at that time there was a lot of sorcery and black magic at the time that's why they were able to duplicate the plagues in the beginning so Moses came and threw his staff and he became a snake they were able to do the exact same thing Moses was able to make the the water turn into blood they were able to do the same thing only when they got to the plague of Li of kinim then they say elim they could not do that because it was we it was a little bit it was too small for them to duplicate but Pharaoh was a very powerful individual and he was able to to put spells and to to create these energies so there was a certain energy a certain kipa at the time that was called Kev Kev is a dog yes but Kev comes from the word Kul it's all heart meaning that it's just desired only physical Pleasures now this powerful kipa when you know our sages say that a slave was not able to leave MIT now when you think about it how did they do it now in our days there's surveillance and sophisticated walls and fences and and drones and cameras and you can kind of a guard a border and how did they did it 3,000 years ago they did it because they had control with this kipa of the slaves minds and when the slave will come to the Border this kipa that that would manifest in the level of thought would convince the slave to go back to MIT wow will convince the person why do you have to run out to the desert back home your family is there your job is there even though you hate it and you're a slave but it's okay cuz you have food and you're in a everything is is is familiar to you well are you going to now go to a new place that you never seen a desert that is all empty and you're not going to be next to your family and this energy would convince the person that the the the slave to go back and that's how they kept the slaves from running out by controlling their thoughts at the time it's hard to picture but that's the that's the mystical explanation that par was controlling the slaves thoughts and that's how they were controlling them not to leave their comfort zone because they were in Egypt they were stuck in the state of limitation so you know the Torah comes and tells us a story but you have to really dissect the story and remove the cover and see what's the the the depth in it the depth in it that they were stuck in a comfort zone in a spiritual power that was controlling their thoughts fast forward now 3,300 years we are in the exact same place we are we are stuck in Egypt in MIT Egypt is not the right way to say it we say in Hebrew m is a state of limitation and my thoughts are being controlled and they're being being controlled by this kipa by this negative energy that in most cases I created but there's something even more bigger than that that our generation is controlled by thoughts we know that there there are three Wars three big Wars that have to happen before the coming of mssiah they're called go Magog two of them already happened World War I and World War II the world the war the war first of all is a spiritual war unfortunately the first two two ones they it manifested into a physical into the physical world so we had an actual physical war of it now mhia is coming very soon we are already in the third war the Z calls it is a war of thoughts so we already started the war now yeah you might see in the physical level that countries are fighting with each other and it looks like any second it can erupt to World War III but this war already started a long time ago and this is the war of thoughts and this is this go Magog before the coming of mashia and the war of thoughts I call it the war of screens because 99% of human kind is is hypnotized by a screen and 60 70% of our day when we're awake of course we are Glu to a screen and it beeps and I jump on the screen and it makes a noise and I jump on it and it can be my phone it can be my tablet it can be my my my my computer we are attached to screens and 80% of the time that I'm attached to that screen is nonsense I'm not utilizing my time if I go online to shop to check my bank account to communicate to do positive things that's good but that's 10% of the time 90% of the time is junk it's nonsense and I'm wasting my time and I'm B basically being controlled by the screens I might be looking at an article on a website but 60% of the of what I'm not looking at is being registered in my subconscious all the ads all the banners that are popping up and down you go on a social network you go on Facebook yeah so you concentrate on the center maybe on the posts but around you there's B banners and ads and things are flicking and and flashing we don't realize that all these things are going into my subconscious and and I'm hypnotized by the screen yes it's a HP like a hypnosis yeah so we are all we are all slaves to the screens and these screens are controlling our thoughts that you see you put a child now in front of a screen all day long the child becomes violent and curses and and and and of course they're blaming it on many other things add hdhd no you are feeding the child junk from a screen because you don't want to deal with a child it's much easier to put a child in front of a box for three hours and to play with him then you feed the child that that nonsense and then the child is is behaving accordingly so I know we have to go into another break but we'll continue later that how finally now that we figured out why am I stuck in this reality how am I getting out of it okay so we going to our third third break and we'll be back now up to Le you informed this is 101.9 High good morning and welcome to the cavana show body mind and soul and we are live fromat on roses I'm sitting next to RAB of a and it is just just amazing to to be here in Sp um and to we're speaking about getting out of our comfort zone and uh you know I know um you know a lot of alon's Journey to actually getting to spat was getting out of a lot of comfort zones and my journey as well also getting out of so many so many Comfort zones so is possible and um so you gave us a background and now you're going to share with us how people can actually do that how do we take the next step yeah the first of all and most important to understand that we're all stuck in a comfort zone and if you think you're not then you're living in denial if you're now looking at the screen and saying this guy does not doesn't know what he's talking about I mean it's fine you can say that but that's just a sign how deep you are stuck in your comfort zone now the comfort zone again one might interpret it as a negative thing one might just interpret it of a situation the the the topic is so Broad and so hard to cover in one hour it's extremely important that you don't take every word and take it out of context and saying oh this is happening because of that that is happening because of this this is just being OCD about about nonsense a person needs to really know how to analyze situations especially when it comes to the world of Torah the world of Judaism that are the first thing that the Torah tells us to do is appoint yourself a rabbi a rabbi doesn't necessarily need to have a black hat and and a black beard a rabbi means a teacher somebody who inspires you and somebody that that that is able to to to to help you and to guide you and to teach you and you can be the the best doctor in the world but the best doctor in the world also needs a guide and also needs a mentor and you can be the best businessman in the world the best anything in the world also needs a mentor a guide and that's when the Torah says make yourself a rabbi again people confuse it and they saying oh a rabbi means he has to have a black suit and and sit in the synagogue all day long and I'm going to ask him questions in in in the oral law no a rabbi is a teacher and it can be the same gender you are you don't have to necessarily go to the other gender if you feel less comfortable but the concept is that I have to have a guide I like calling it a personal trainer because if I'm going to if I if I want to do something I need somebody to to make me do it somebody to inspire me somebody to guide me that's why I started off by saying that our Sage you say that a prisoner cannot release himself from his own cell so if I want to be now world class championship in boxing I need a personal trainer doesn't matter how how strong I am and if I want to be now anything that you're thinking that you want to be you need somebody to guide you and you need somebody to teach you and most important need somebody to inspire you because if you don't have inspiration coming from somewhere you will not move an inch so the the the the first step was one needs to appoint himself a a source of inspiration spiritually there's no doubt that if I'm stuck in a place that I'm spiritually I'm not moving the first problem is that I don't have a mentor I don't have somebody who's inspireing I don't have a rabbi or a Ritson or a friend that spiritually can inspire me by telling me come join me to this class come and join me to pray now come to my Shabbat table because we are prisoners and the reality is that doesn't matter who we are we can be very successful in one place I can be extremely successful in business but I'll have very very hard problems in my family life or my relationship with one of my kids all the other kids are good but one of them I can't find a bridge to to communicate and in essence if you if you really remove your ego because ego our ego is the is the biggest problem any obstacle that that comes my way is only because of my ego because my ego will tell me oh no no no no I have no problems oh no everything is under control it's their problem it's her it's her issues she's the problem not me the first thing you have to do is to remove your ego out of the out of the the the entire area because our ego is it will stop us from doing everything and when you remove your ego by diminishing yourself and saying um I might be great in this department but I'm very not great in that department and I I'm not a I'm not the best husband I'm not the best employee I'm not the best employer I'm not such a good friend cuz this person I didn't I wasn't really honest with them the first and most important thing is that I have to be very honest with myself and the first thing I need to do is to remove my ego and when I remove my ego I can start doing my first analysis where am I failing and what am I doing wrong because if I have my ego in the meeting my ego will tell me you're not doing anything wrong it's the other person that is doing wrong you are 100% perfect and everybody around you are wrong so you remove the ego and you say no I'm actually I am wrong I'm not the best husband or the best wife or I'm a very not nice worker or neighbor and when I remove my Eagle I can make a real true analysis by seeing where am I lacking where am I stuck where am I stuck in my life am I stuck in my my my social skills am I stuck in my in in my career am I stuck in my relationship I'm stuck somewhere so comfort zone is also being stuck somewhere now when I make this true analysis of saying okay let me remove my ego let me see where I'm bad where I'm not so good and then I turn to my to my inspiration to my guide and I tell that person I have problems with controlling my anger I have problems with controlling my eating habits I have problems in controlling anything that I have problems with then the the source of inspiration the rabbi the rebit and the whatever it is is able to tell you oh okay so for this thing let's do that because there's no black and white you cannot answer in a in a in a show or in an interview if this is a problem do a b and c and add a cup of sugar and everything will be okay because every individual is completely completely different my eating disorder is different from your eating disorder I will overindulge over something physical because of depression and a certain person will overindulge on something physical because of a completely different thing it's nothing to do with depression or anything it can be or a source of emptiness in their life because they lost somebody or relationship so unfortunately there's no black and white why did I say that we got to Tor and everything is in it because all the answers of our problems is in the Torah so after I made my first analysis of saying I'm not that great and then I go to my source of inspiration which usually should be a source of inspiration that is coming from the world of Torah Noto long ago somebody was talking to me and and and she calls me once a month we know we talk about different things and then she said I found my mentor and oh unbelievable man and this and that I was like great I'm very happy that you found your source of inspiration and and when when I was going into all sorts of questions one of the questions was I don't remember something like where does he pray or something like that and she was like oh no he's not Jewish and I was and I was like you are you found a spiritual Mentor you're Jewish you're religious and you found a spiritual Mentor that is not Jewish I don't understand yes like if you would tell me that your business or your career Mentor is not Jewish that's totally fine he's teaching you your trade but but in your your spiritual work of serving God you're finding somebody who's not Jewish I don't understand he can be the best person in the world the most widest man ever but he's not Jewish he doesn't even know anything about Judaism how can he inspire you in Judaism so the point is that yes you want your source of inspiration to be somebody who's coming from the world of the Torah that can quote the Tor the Tor is very difficult you know the book is very thick and when you open the book all you run into is stories you know you not any any any lessons just stories so you need somebody to explain to you the book but in the Torah is all the ad in the Torah every little problem that we have the Torah will have the solution to it so I have to make a very quick analysis and this is a very very basic way of how am I getting out of my comfort zone I mean you should definitely follow it but it's much more to it as first you have to make a a real honest analysis of yourself and you have to move your completely remove your ego and if you're now looking at the screen again or or you're driving in your car and you're listening and you're saying this guy doesn't know what he's talking about I don't have any ego then then that just means you have an ego the reality is that we all have an ego so first of all you kick him out of the door then you bring your source of inspiration your Rabbi your reiton your your your your instructor however you want to call that individual and then you turn to the Torah because everything is in the Torah and when I say turn to the Torah it means that you follow what the Torah tells you is that you learn what the Torah is teaching us to do what not to do what what it should do of course it's much more to it but this is the general idea after the the break I'll tell you one more thing that can help you to get out of your comfort zone and hopefully okay so we're going to our last break and we'll be we'll be be back with you now fresh thinking every Thursday from 2 to 3 p.m. 101.9 High FM 101.9 mahz of power a frequency like no other 101.9 High good morning and welcome to the cavana show body mind and soul and with this morning we live from spat Rish and um sitting together with Rabbi Alon Ana and we've been talking about getting out of one's comfort zone and um alonis really shared some absolute gems some diamonds in terms of various steps that you can take and just in wrapping up the show you're going to share a couple maybe one or two last diment I was just about to say something that that many people might not see eye to eye but we know that the entire world is called in the in the cabalistic termia the world of doing that's coming from the four spiritual worlds that the lowest one is called but we also know from the teachings of cabal that the land of Israel is not from rather from from a much higher spiritual place and you know I have this of guiding and helping a lot of people doing their alyah and not longer a certain individual made Ayah and he told me that he's going through a very hard time and to adjust justing I told him listening listen it's like emerging into a highway everybody's driving 120 140 and you're just accelerating besides that the energy in Israel is a total different energy and you coming from the United States and I told him just just physical in the United States the electricity in the wall runs on 110 volts here in Israel the electricity is running on 220 volts I don't know how it is in in South Africa but even the voltage in Israel is much more powerful much more powerful and I told that in the Israel is is running on a totally different frequency because it's a much more spiritual much more holy place and and the reality is that Israel by default has much less of these kipot so one of the solutions to getting out of your comfort zone is just to come to is because the energy in Israel is totally totally different the energy outside of Israel is a much more heavier energy and it pulls you more down whether you want to agree with it or not or whether you can see not a lot of people say ah Israel is so hard there and everything is hard here nothing is hard here I find that everything is easier here than in any other countries I'm not saying it's an easy place to live yeah we have some excruciating hot weather here sometimes or the people might sometimes be a little bit edgy and and some other things but the reality is that spiritually uh the energy in Israel is totally totally different it's a much lighter energy if you really tap into the energy it actually elevates you so by default it takes you out of this kipa out of this dirt and you elevate it to a much higher level that it's much easier for you to deal with your habits and your nature and all these things that you're stuck in yes so I know this is a catch 22 because getting out of my comfort zone where I am in the world that's a problem to start with so that's the problem with most people that to get them to do alah is that they're in their comfort zone because I have a job and I have a house and I have everything here I've been living here for 40 50 years and that's the ultimate getting out of my comfort zone but when I want to get out of my I have so many different Comfort zones in my life but one of the things that helps me get out of it is to come to is and is is because the energy is completely different it allow it's elevates me that's why we say when we come to Israel we do Aliyah Aliyah means to ascend to go higher and you know if you coming from South Africa it's not aah sorry if you're coming from Russia or Europe it's not a Leah it's if you're looking at it by the by the directions of the globe it's coming down but you're going up in a level so that's why the Al and that's the ultimate going out of your comfort zone and even if you can't right now where you are to do right away alah which you should then you at least have to make way you are in El Israel a holy place and and and a and a a different place and an elevated place which means you're entire spiritual life should be surrounded with the energy of Isel which is a holy energy tap into the Holiness of the Torah Elevate yourself become much more closer to God as long as you're working where you are to climb to a higher level spiritually you reach a certain level of Isel and that by default will allow you to leave your comfort zone yes so Alon thank you so much thank you so so much for those absolutely wonderful words of wisdom and um just that you and your family go from strength to strength the amount of uh incredible work that you're doing is just amazing and please listeners um visit alon's website see his story email him Alan Anover gmail.com and uh so I don't have much more to say and just thank you so much for listening my beloved listeners live fromat on Rish enjoy the rashish enjoy the Hal the beauty of uh two days of rashish especially the ladies and have the best Wednesday the best rest of your week and the most beautiful beautiful shabas from cavana Baba we bring the news bring the