How to find happiness - Rosh Chodesh Adar - Rabbi Alon Anava

okay good evening everybody for the ladies here and for the whoever's on the phone good evening and for the viewers at home uh just one second today ises so this is the happiest month in the in the year let me just mute you all of you I'm so sorry allers are M and they can un themselves so good evening again everybody and today we're going to speak about the most important thing that hasem wants us to be is to be to be happy all the time and what not better night is by today my name is RAB Al see ultimate s is going to be in Ken this is my fourth sh today I'm already because we have the viewers uh the listeners on the phone we're going to do it in English later on we're going to unmute it later on we're going to have questions and answers if you want and we're going to speak for about half an hour 45 minutes then you're going to continue with the Kal then I'll come back and if wherever you want any questions you can feel free to ask we can stay here for as much as you can finish the then we're going to eat it so again my name is Al RAB Al and tonight I'm just going to speak in a very short way about the whole concept how important it is for us to be it says which means that when comes starts we have to increase happiness what kind of a weird thing is that why should I increase happiness all year around why da now the Commandment is is that we we have to serve if we don't serve we're missing the fuel for all our MIT you can have the nicest car if you don't put fuel in the car the car will not drive most people especially in our generation they have an issue with Simka one person is suffering has a problem with his wife or his husband one doesn't have a wife or a husband one has problem with the kids one has problems with everybody has a problem everybody in our generation has a little sack of their own problems everybody thinks their problems is the biggest in everybody's and everybody has a lot of complaints to hasem why why do I have to struggle so much the thing is that there's a reason why we have to struggle we're going to get to that soon the main thing is to understand in order to to fix a problem you have to know where the problem starts if you don't know where the problem starts you can't fix it if you have a headache then you know what you need to take a pill to pass the heada so whatever problem you have in order to fix it you have to know the source of it so we first have to understand what is the source that one doesn't have Sim doesn't have happiness and the source what causes a person not to have to say oh the Tor says if do it then it's very easy but it's not an easy thing we all have a struggle in ourselves that it's hard for us to serve AEM now we know our sages teach us that Hashem does not put anyone in a situation that he don't know how to deal with it which means if if ASM already put you in a situation means that you have the tools and the ability to deal with it now you just have to figure out why but we seen many places in the Torah that it tells us that we have to serve a you have to work we see in our history that all the prophets all theim always got their NE when they were in starting from starting from aov we know the first famous story that yov 17 years we just read it a few weeks ago in the par 17 years he was he was the opposite of Happiness he was mourning the fact that his son is not with him and all this time he didn't have any connection to his Godly Powers because he was not in the inner part of it the M Mystic part of it because you know according to the reveal part theat his son was taken and he was his favorite son so he he was mourning but what our forefather the the best of themob did not know what happened such a prophet he couldn't know what happened of course he knew just that the problem is in the spiritual level yov in the was he was the last of What's called the and he needed what's called all the rest of the mid what is called in the of theal in order to connect to the to have his prophecy y in the is the Once the Zin did not have the he couldn't connect to the Mal the reason why I'm telling you that because I want to touch the spiritual part of the whole point of the Sim but for more examples we know all theim all the prophets in our history only reach the level of Prophecy when there the famous all all his gim was only when he was only most of his most of his G was on Shabbat because on Shabbat he was able to have the most the most and the more he had it the more gim he got all theim any any Prophet you see that they got their level of of Prophecy when they reach the level of Simka we had seven women Prophets one of them is the famous one if you see of all the prophets the women prophets they always were singing Andor everything was singing Because in order for them to reach this level of NE they had to be constantly so not to go too much on that but we know from many many sources that in order for me to reach the level of the ultimate I have to be I have to be constantly happy that's why the other side of Kusa always comes to how do they call it here in America to be the party pooper the one who comes to tears it down because when you are not when you are then nothing works so this is the concept that I'm sure you all know we have to be but why do we get to the point that we're not where does it originate because if I'm going to know where the source of the problem I'll be able to change it and then I kind of solve the problem to before we even get to that every person in this generation has a problem we're all dealing with problems there's a famous story that there was once uh an old man very very God-fearing old man all his life was running after Tor and V and everything his entire life was devoted to Hashem but any problem you can just think of happened to him never had money always had problems everything was hard everything was entire life was hard one day he gots he gets runed over he goes up to sh he dies he goes up to Sham he goes straight to hasem and he tells him I don't understand I did everything you told me to do I prayed three times a day I kept Shabbat I ate Kasher I studied Tor I sent my kids to Yesa what do you want from me why was my life so hard so Hashem tells him why you you what are you saying so the man tells him I want a good life I want you to send me back down and I want to have a good life so hasem says no problem I'll give you the option but you know everybody in this world has to have problems so go to the room there at the end of the corridor there's a door knock on the door an angel will open you the door tell him I sent you and tell him that you came to choose your sack of problems he goes to the end of the corridor sure enough opens the door stands there a beautiful angel the he tells the angel the boss sent me to choose some problems so he tells him vakas come in walk around so he walks into this huge room that looks like Home Depot a lot a lot of aisles tall tall uh shelves he's walking through the shelves and all he sees all over the shelves is Big sacks big sacks and he's going and he's going the angel tells him you choose whatever you want and you tell me which one you want and he's running through all the aisles and he sees big sacks and smaller sacks and and he's like this time I'm going to make sure that I don't have any problems finally after a couple hours of running he sees in the corner on the last last last shelf a little bag like this he's like oh I want that one he runs to the bag he grabs the bag runs to the angel tells him I want this bag so the angel writes down the serial number tells him okay go to the boss tell him which one you want he walks all happy with his bag now he's convinced he's going to have a good life he comes to Hashem and he tells him this is the sack I chose so what does tell him oh I saw I see you choose your own sack so each one of us has problems the thing is that we make them look big we make our problems look like a mountain and we are the ones who make the M the stumble I can't go over this mountain it's too big for me the problem is the famous cliche if you look at the empty half of the cup or the full cup full part of the cup if you look at all your problems of course they'll be big if you look at all your blessings your problems are not so important so now that we know that everybody has problems and we know that our main thing in this world is to be how do I bypass it because I understand I understand the Commandment if you do it give me a million dollars and my husband and wife and kids and everything I'm not going to have an issue serving AEM B but if you give me problems how do you expect me to serve you B this is not a fair this is not a fair commandment so the issue is like this in the physical level everything looks one way this is a very physical world the world technically the physicality of the world does not exist we we make it exist there reality is that the world has this illusion has a godly power that enlivens everything we know according to cabala that everything in this world has what's called a nees nees even a rock has a godly power that enlivens this thing constantly even the lowest things in Creations we think only humans have an fish we think some people think that only animals May might have a neish but we know that also trees have neish we know that even stones have everything has a neish a nefes is a godly power that constantly Alives everything now there's a main mainan in cabala that it saysa Mala what originates from the highest Place falls down to the lowest lowest place and there's a Parable to kind of explain it imagine you take now a very tall wall buil from bricks and you push the wall so what will happen the bricks that are on the bottom will fall maybe couple inches and the bricks that are on the top will go the furthest away this is the inion OFA Mala mat mat what comes from the highest highest Place falls to the lowest lowest place so we see from that that daa inanimates in this world their The Godly Force comes from a much higher place to a point that even some of theim of theic philosophy they explain that something like a rock is such a high level of Godly Revelation that it actually sees El that it stand still it can move like theim KES all the high Angels they just see AEM they freeze they can't move from what's called this fear it's not a fear from being afraid rather this awe so we learn that daa the ananymous stones and minerals they come from such a high level that they're when they see Godly Revelation there's just still they can't move that's why we see them as something that is still that doesn't move but in Ence everything has what's called the same thing in our body our body is built from a physical body we have bones we have organs blood everything that's going on in our body and we have the spiritual part that enlivens the body we know that we have in our soul five levels of our soul the highest level is called a lower level is called these two parts of our are way beyond our understanding what they are we don't have any connection to them in this world maybe we'll have a connection to them in the world to come this a very high level of our the three low ones is called kill me I don't even know how to translate it in English is the soul is the spirit nefes is the godly power that enlivens the Goof the body the nees separates into two types of NE there's a The Godly nefes and the nees ofit the physical nefes it's called beemit from the word behem animal not because it's a cow rather that its characters are like an animal it likes to eat it likes to sleep it likes to have physical enjoyments like an animal same way that in the physical level all the animals they have their heads down they get their food from the ground very few animals maybe lift up their heads humans their heads is up because we constantly look up to sh to get our food animals constantly look down this animal Soul constantly battles The Godly Soul now this the way it works in our body every organ in our body corresponds to one positive Mitzvah we have 248 limbs it corresponds to the 248 positive mitv our nees has 248 powers of our nees that spread all around our body the Tor teaches us that the nefes is the blood which means every part of our body we have the spreading of the nees any place in your body you're going to poke blood will come out so we know that the that's how we learned that the dam the neish is our blood ask a doctor he will tell you that our blood has a warmth to it and our blood constantly bubbles in our body when a person is very very sick either he loses temperature of the blood or rather the temperature rises when they rise it just becomes more sick when they they lose temperature that's already close to death when a person Shalom dies that's it there's no neish in the body the blood cools down ask a doctor he will tell you that the blood constantly bubbles in our body The Vapor that goes out from the blood take a pot put it on the stove put some water and start boiling it they'll start being Vapors let it boil for a while it will burn all the water why because it evaporates but where did it go we're not going to do a a class in physics but the water vaporat and becomes in the air but you see the vapor that's going up this is the in between between the physical that you can see the water and the spiritual that becomes the air the ru so you see the vapor but once it elevates to the spiritual you don't see that anymore where does it go ask a physicist it will tell you it goes up to the Sham to the rakia where the the the gas is the same thing is in our body in our blood is the ne this is where the nefes dwells constantly in living the body since our body our blood constantly bubbles it creates this vapor in this vapor is the connection between the physical and the the spiritual this is exactly where it all happens the spiritual is the exactly how it sounds it's a NE that only wants to serve Hashem it wants to pray it wants to do mitv it wants to keep Shabbat it doesn't want to steal it doesn't want to say it's a sadik it's a NE of sadik there's a mishna famous mishna that says before the soul takes its leap down to the world it says which means so this only wants to serve God but then comes the other tenant the and doesn't want to serve God then says come let's go to a Torah class the says no no no no no let's go watch the football game then says let's go to pray right now no no no no let's sleep in a little bit there's constantly a battle in our body so as I was saying before this vapor in the blood is the Mish where the nees dwells if you ask a doctor and you'll tell the doctor what happens when there's a heart problem if the heart is not functioning the right way meaning that the pumping the in or out the pumping of the blood is not working right you lose blood pressure you lose blood you can lose blood count you have all sorts of different problems because the source of our life is our heart the same way that if Shalom somebody has a problem with their heart it affects somewhere in the body so it's the same thing in the spiritual level so if in the physical level I have a problem in my heart meaning that one organ is not getting enough blood for whatever reason because the blood is pumping in a certain amount of power to have the blood going first of all the the heart renews the blood but the blood reaches everywhere in the body which means every piece of my body gets a re re uh how would you say it in English like reborn power now if Shalom something's wrong with my heart then one organ will not get its and then the person will have some type of a sickness we can see from now that many of our sicknesses become and originate from the spiritual level because I have 248 positive Mitzvah that I have to do if I'm lacking one of them meaning that I'm not supporting and I'm not feeding this particular power in my nees I'm not giving it its substance I'm not giving it its food then it basically starts coming down what's called it starts coming down to this world and it transformed into the physical which means if I have some type of problem if I have a problem in a certain organ means that the sickness started in a spiritual deficiency and it just came down into the body as a sickness so when a person is as much as possible fulfilling the mitzvot he has much less physical sicknesses you will see that the more the person is sanctifying himself then he's reducing sicknesses so since our body behaves in a certain way when we're not going to do a whole sh about the the behavior of the body but the body is a manifestation of how this neish conducts itself in the body which means if I conduct my body in a healthy way I eat healthy I sleep I exercise then you know it should be that my body would be healthy and I'm not going to be tired and I'm not going to suffer from all sorts of problems same thing with our neish if I feed my nefes exactly what it needs the same way that the physical body needs to get its vitamins and minerals and you have to eat fruit and vegetables and you have to have fish and meat and I'm not a dietitian but you have to have everything you cannot sustain yourself just on oranges or just on bread same thing with our neish our nefes needs to be injected with this Godly vitamin which are the mitv in order for my nees to be to be live once my neish is alive then it will trickle down to my body and it will enliven all the organs in my body the thing is that we know that our heart according to Nature has two Chambers the right chamber is where the N is the left chamber is where the ne is this is the Mish where it dwells now we know the is over the body it's not that it's one place it's almost like saying you know is everywhere but one time one person can say oh you know but we see that in a synagogue there's morea or next to the SE there's even more and in is there's even more and then you go to more close todash more so how can you tell me that is everywhere if you're telling me here is more and here is less you can't compare the that is in a synagogue where you have holy books and T and prayers and then you walk 10 ft away there's a toilet and oh that is there's nothing there so how can you say hem is everywhere so in technical yeah hasem is everywhere some places it's more revealed some places it's less revealed in a synagogue in a bet midash in a Yesa in yush in different places the godliness is more revealed same thing with our body our soul is all around the body some places it's more revealed for example we know that the the part of the not the the is in the head but the neish is all around the body but we we know that the Mish is also in the right chamber of our heart the left chamber of our heart is the now here comes the source of all the problems if I eat in this world bad food and I do anything that I can to damage my body I smoke I drink alcohol I take drugs whatever whatever I do to damage my body I'm going to live like that if I smoke I'm going to be coughing all day long I eat bad food I'm going to have aches all day long I don't exercise I can barely move however I treat my body in this world that's you know simple simple biology you damage your body you're going to be sick it's very simple same thing in the spiritual if I don't feed my soul what it needs the soul becomes sick and my soul needs Torah and my soul needs mitv and my soul needsa Holiness and my soul needs food if I feed my Soul what it needs then the chances it will be sick are much much less the same way that if Shalom there's going to be a deficiency in my heart it would affect the body and the body will become sick same thing with our soul if I don't feed my Nish constantly what it needs then it will affect the rest of the part of the Nish here it can affect two ways one it can manifest into the body so if one of the nefes one power of the nefes does not get its power so the part of the body that gets its its life from this part of the nefes will become sick so one person will have problems with his hands one person will have problems with his kidney each one has different problems for example not too long ago my mom started having problems with her wrists in her hand and she went to all the doctors in the world anyone that she went to could not solve the problem they told her we can't see anything we don't know what's the problem so then she turned to me hoping I can come up with some Hocus Pocus and I told her you know what let's put it to the test if your risks risks are hting might be that you're lacking mitv that have to do with your hands so I told you know what do you wash your hands in the morning do you do yeah but you know I I do it like at 11: I told her no no in the morning you have to do it right when you wake up not two hours later the hands have such impurity on them in the morning in in in two words two weeks ago we did a class about that explains it but when we go to sleep our soul leaves our body and the S goes up to sh it goes up to Sham to give has to give an accounting it writes a journal what it did the whole day so after 120 years when the soul goes up to sh they tell the soul oh you you wrote yourself what you did the soul goes up to testify in other court cases of other Souls more than that the soul the same way that at the end of the day your cell phone ran out of battery you plug it in to charge at the end of the night you wake up in the morning the phone is full so you need to charge your soul now what happens is when the soul leaves the body then all the other side of impurity all sorts of spirits and angels and Hashem only knows what it comes to attack the body because the gar gives a beautiful example if you take now a bucket full of honey and you pour the bucket of Honey out you empty the bucket then the whole bucket is full of honey so what will come to the bucket all sorts of bees and flies and all sorts of a you know ER bugs but if you do the same thing a bucket full of sand and you pour the sand nothing will come because there's nothing to enjoy there's nothing to liak so when the soul leaves the body all these all these Spirits they come to the body and they want to L to suck from the now if the person is that's a that's a big that's a big fish if Shalom the person is but if somebody did one mitvah that day oo this is a good meat for these to come the calls it is something that from the outside that it can't go in so they come and attack the body and what happens is in the morning when the soul comes back into the body then it has a tenant in the body I always give the same example take a beautiful house you go to a vacation if you leave the house all open Robert will come to rob the house it's very simple you leave a beautiful house even if the house is not so beautiful you lock the doors you lock the windows you put the bars on you put the alarm on but the problem is what happens when the robbers come to the house they see a beautiful house and they're like why should we empty the house let's just stay here it's a nice house and then the person comes back from his vacation and he sees a bunch of robbers sitting in this house now according to Nature he will call the police but in the spiritual level when I leave my body lying on the bed at night with no guards then all these Spirits go into my body and they suck thisha this Holiness and then when I come back in the morning they don't want to leave so I have a tenant I have many tenants and they're in my body that's mainly what brings in Our Generation all the phobias and the and fears and anxieties and all these things comes from that so what happens is it brings a lot of impurity on the body when the person wakes up in the morning even if he said there's a lot of impurity on the hands says even not to walk even four steps and to do to wash their hands right next to their bed the right way to do it if you really want is you do first of all and most important to say to say the whole thing not just to say that's that's a a shortcut to say the entire thing if you would know the the malot the virtues of saying you would spend all your time the whole 10 minutes that it takes to say k but you wake up in the morning you put a bucket next to your bed with this cup you wash your hands right away you say mod and wash your hands you walk a little bit to the first available sink and you wash it again then you can say ready sa with a so I told my mom do you wash your hands in the morning oh yeah yeah yeah told them when oh no at 11 I told okay so from now you're going to start washing it in the morning I told her what else do do you do with your hands do you give it to charity yeah once a month I I send a check here and a check there told her no take a little pushka a little and every day put in she lives in Earth is I told her put in a shekel doesn't have to be a lot it's just the act of putting Thea sure enough the Hocus Pocus worked after a month no problems no issues no problems with the risks anymore just two simple things doing a little act with your hand and a little act with washing your hands never mind I also told you to wash your hands after bathroom wash your hands after you touch your hair when you touch your shoes you have to know what you do but why am I giving you this example because every little thing that I bring on myself in the Holy realm it affects the body it's very simple now here comes the biggest question oh you know I see so many people that are very very religious and they're still sick how do you explain that if you're saying that if I feed my soul 100% its food then everything will be okay so the ultimate answer which is not a good answer is because that's what hasem wants in essence you you can sometimes look at a person who looks very religious but you don't know what's going on inside more than that a person can be paying in this world for something from a previous life so you can't really point in something or somebody and say oh you told me a and here it's not working we don't know how it works exactly but all this is to understand something very very simple what I feed my that's how the Nish will split out so in this world everything is physical we don't really see what's going on we have to look at it more in the spiritual part of this world and in essence our soul is the most happiest being ever great great big question in thear in the talmud what are the souls doing in ganeden they're watching TV what are they doing there why you know if you want me to work to get there give me some information that it will be tempting so I will want to go there what does the say that the souls are sitting in they're sitting with crowns that's what you're giving me give me something interesting I don't even understand what it means the thing is that the souls that are sitting now in ganeden they're just it's a ganeden is a very temporary place the souls there in ganeden are just waiting for the times of mashia and then we'll get go TOA and then it's when we get the sakar Ganan is like the lobby but the thing is what they do there they they see Godly Revelation and all all they have from it is pleasure so the Soul by default is Happy the soul constantly is what does it mean that I'll run to singing that's not the S is already by default it means that I have to feed my soul so I can bring out from my soul my outside is not to stand in ch and be like let not if it's good to have a good spirit and to sing or to dance or whatever makes you happy you have to do whatever it takes to bring you to this level because you can bring yourself to a level of happiness you do what you like you have a hobby you do it last week I was in a class A woman come and told me and she's like you know since I stopped doing my art I'm very heavy and it's very hard for me to serve AEM but I feel that the art it's not holy and maybe it's a I should go a class instead I told her look what you're saying you stopped doing your art and you're saying that you went became heavy and it was harder for you to serve AEM yes sometimes you have to go out a little bit from the line in order to gain a lot of power so you can come back so one person does it with their art one person will do it with sport one person will do it with it it doesn't matter sometimes you need to go out get some fresh air and come back each person has to feed their soul according to what their Soul needs so we do have ways in this world to enliven our Sim but that's not the essence of Hashem tells us the Soul by default is in happiness is happy if you look now at the fire take a a candle you'll see that the flame constantly is trying to go up we know according to the mysticism M that the source of the fire is under the moon so any flame in this world will constantly want to go up to its source but if you look at the fire it constantly goes up and it's kind of like moving kind of like dancing if you want meditate on a candle you'll see the candle is very harmonically dancing we know there's a PUK that says the candle of God is the soul of the person meaning that our soul is compared to a flame same way that our flame that our soul the flame constantly wants to burn and to go up to its source then our Nish constantly is yearning to go up to its source which is AEM so by default my soul is Bim is happiness it wants to serve but now I'm in the body and the Soul came into the body into a very coarse body and if I don't make my mishkan holy then my body becomes even more coarse if Shalom I eat anything that is not ker it makes my body even more coarse if I Shalom lie speak anything that comes out of my mouth makes my body even more coarse you see that the big sikim the great great sikim forget about not lying stuff like that barely put things in their mouth because one little dot of something that is not pure then it contaminates the entire body I had a whole discussion two weeks ago with a group of religious people and I was telling them how important kalav Isel is and they're like no and giving me all the why is not important I told them look I I don't make up things the says very clearly that's it milk that is not is makes your mind not like stupid makes you not not focused so what happens you come to a to do a certain Mitzvah and you're like okay that's not so important you know we know we have 18 minutes before we light the candles on Shabbat how many times people say ah okay I I have the 18 minutes but then it goes to 19 minutes and then it goes to 20 minutes it's okay to get still see light outside it's fine all these it's fine this is the and if each one of you look inside themselves really they'll see that half the things you do is the it's fine it's okay these it's fine this comes from a little very thin what's called bed pure Purity the more a person purifies himself the more the neish is pure the more everything is easier so the easy part to explain it is that when a person sanctifies himself with Tor and mitv then by default the neish becomes more tah more pure the body becomes more pure so if I'm very particular with ker kosher every little thing because it's very easy to say Ah that's not so important that's not so important ah I don't have to wait really 6 hours on the dot 5 hours and 50 minutes is fine no if said 6 hours or 1 hour whatever there's a reason for that the more you are particular the more you bring Kusa on your body so much more so in the things that are less tangible I'm talking here about kosher because everything comes starts with what I eat if you really want to purify yourself you start with kosher you be very strict with kosher but all the things that are L less tangible like my mouth my eyes my thoughts the more a person purifies himself by default it will affect the body the body will be more or should I say less coarse by default things are going to be much more smoother so going back to the beginning to convince myself to be to be happy that's not a good solution to walk around and have fake happiness that's not a solution the re the way for me to reach the real happiness is if I give my soul what it needs and my soul needs Tora and MIT and when I'm going to purify my soul then by default things that look so big are not going to be so big they're going to be like ah okay this is it's not so big and by default there's a rule in physics but explains it very in depth that a little bit of light diminishes a lot of Darkness turn now all the lights in this room it complet we're going to be complete pitch dark bring a little candle that's it the one the light one even though it's a very low light but there's no Darkness anymore which means it's a little bit of lightness a little bit of light diminishes a lot of Darkness same thing in our body anything that I will put into my body in a in in in this even the smallest part a little bit of one mitvah two I already diminish a lot of Darkness cuz I increase the light the more that I increase the light the more more that I killed the darkness it's very very simple the main Essence why a person is not happy is not because they don't have money or Shalom something wrong went or they can't find their other half or their other half is not what they wanted or or or or that's not the reasons why people are not happy the main reason why the person is not happy is because the soul is not happy that is it it's not how much money you have in your bank account it's not anything around the the is nothing a person can have nothing and be the most happiest person in the world there's a great story that a couple people a couple they wanted to really know what it means to to to serve a and to appreciate every little thing so they went to a great sadik and he told him you know I'm not the right person to to tell you go and visit there's a person certain person he lives in this and that Val Village go and visit him and they come and they see this poor Village they see this like little little house they're like what somebody actually lives in this house they walk in they see such a broken house barely any floors nothing barely any food and they're telling this other sadic you know we were sent to you so we can see what it means to accept the the suffering with love tells them me I don't even know what you're talking about he sent you to the wrong place you should go to somebody who hasim I never hadim and by by that they're like okay we we got the point later on he was like you want to stay here for for a meal they're like okay we'll do a kib so the wife made like soup wasn't really a soup was like a little bit of water and like a half a potato in it and they were like he gave it to them with these heavy bowls of metal they were like looking at the metal he's like you want it I'll give it to you it's okay you can take it they're like no no they were just shocked how he's so poor but he's so he didn't see his poverty and his suffering as any suffering the thing is that we feed our mind that are sit situation in our life is hard it's actually not our fault before I told you that we have two souls in our body we have a The Godly Soul just wants to do but the physical Soul it wants to eat it wants to sleep it wants to enjoy the physicality so what happens is they constantly fight like two boxers if one is stronger than the other than the one who's stronger he's he's overpowering how we say reading the Torah when somebody's A Little Bit Stronger the opponent is stronger then the other one is losing if our meaning that it's bringing us down I know we want we're going to finish soon because we want to do the but our body is built from four elements the entire world is built from four elements fire water afar sand and air everything in this world is built from these four elements some things are you see the element is more powerful like water obviously water it's mainly the element of water or AF the the sand is mainly the element of Afar but a lot of the things we don't really see but look for example at a tree Tre so you see that the element of water is very dominant cuz the tree has to grow with water but also the element of fire because the tree gets burnt it catches fire right away but it also has the element of a because once it burned it becomes Ash ashes so everything in this world is built from these four elements our bodies also buil from this these elements so when I have a certain mood it's because one of these elements are what's called gab it's empowered so when I get upset anger C and and and and all sorts of emotions of hate comes from the element of fire if I'm in a state of enjoyment or love or sharing and stuff like that comes from element of water the water it enlivens all the pleasures but when I'm in the mode of being very heavy and sad that comes from the element of Afar same way that afar sand pulls you down pulls down you put now a little bit of sand into a cup of water the the the the sand always goes down sinks so when the element of Afar of sand in me is beab then it pulls me down then I'll be depressed and sad and heavy and I don't feel like going to pray now and I don't feel like going to do a Mitzvah now oh another shabus it's only on the on my hands to balance it so I can go forever and ever maybe later we'll continue I know we have to finish for the the the bottom line is very very simple the essence of our soul is constantly when hem tells us if do it or when it says it's because I didn't give my what I'm supposed to get yet a little bit off the subject last week we read in the parasa that when a man has a wife he has to give her three things her clothing her food and marital relations whenever she wants this is according to theat to what the Tora says but the zor says yes what we're talking about here is your soul your soul needs the food what is there food T the same ways that it's very hard to make a living in the Tor money and food is called that one of the 10 curses that got after the sin is that you're going to have to work for your bread that's why we all have to work hard for for our par the time when mashia will come we're not going to have to work anymore it's just going to come so the thing is that the same way that it's hard to get parasa it's hard to sit didn't learn T and women also have to learn tah and if the woman cannot learn T she has to push her husband to go and learn tah but whoever tells you a woman doesn't need to learn T it's not true a woman also has she doesn't have the but if she doesn't have the the you can't tell a woman no no no you can't learn Torah maybe it's not to learn with men but go learn with with women so if somebody tells you no no you yeah according to the you don't have the but why not it's it's free same thing with men I don't have to wear titit only if I have a garment that has four corners then I have to put TI but I wear TI 24 hours a day because it's a bonus why shouldn't I take it and if a woman wants to be uh she needs to know she needs to know basic things how to do in the kitchen she needs to know how to raise the kids she needs to feed her soul with some mystical part our generation is very mystical yeah have to learn women also have to learn some some Z so this is what the Z is talking about the food the Le here it's talking about about that a man needs to but the same way that a man or a woman needs a garment our soul needs garments these garments is our mitzvot and even though the a woman has technically three mitv bread kala candles and family Purity but she has another 500 other mitv she has to keep Shabbat she has to eat K she has to be she has to do this she has to do this women have a lot of mitv too these MIT they cover the these are the garments for the soul on this is goes in the physical level about the marital relation the zor here is talking about that's for a man it's talking about how it's important to say it right on time but corresponding it to the woman cuz women are not they were exempt from any Mitzvah that there's a limit of time in it but the bottom line is it doesn't matter when a man or a woman we all have to feed our soul and when I'm not giving my soul what it needs I'm basically feeding my animal Soul so if I'm not feeding my soul with Tora and mitv and and good deeds and Shabbat and and guest everything I'm feeding my animal Soul so my animal soul is demanding more so my animal soul is the one who's controlling my thoughts and making these big problems that they're not even problems they're actually small problems so every problems that you have there's two ways either it came from sham because that what it's supposed to be because if Hashem gave you a problem it means that he wants you to overpower it there's two ways of serving AEM calls them means to subdue something to overpower it is to transform something is the level of aad a sadik has the power to take something impure and to change it to something pure to take darkness and to change it to light we are not sikim yet so we have the level of ITF meaning to subdue something so if I have some type of issue that I'm dealing with meaning that Hashem wants me to overpower it to subdue it to overcome it not to be impressed by it calls it which means if something comes I over I'm overwhelmed oh too hard for me so the bottom line is that all our problems is we we feed these problems we make them why because our doesn't want us to be because if I'm going to be I'm going to serve AEM exactly how it wants so that's my M that's what I have to overpower which means that if an issue comes my way means that I just have to overpower it and I have the Merit that Hashem chose me from billions of people he chose me to be the one who's doing the in this world to to overpower something don't look at it as as a burden oh now I have to deal with this issue no Hashem gave you a spiritual task all you have to do is overpower it to unveil this spiritual WAP that it doesn't look so good and you didem you did the highest level of serving hem this is called so the essence of our sadness is US feeding our animal soul with poison if I want to overpower this I have to feed my soul with what it needs and by default when I feed my soul what it needs my soul will reach its Essence to beim and then obviously I'll be serving AEM Bim what is the what is the the the problem in the Torah that says that it says it's basically telling me you prevented your soul toward serving me with you fed your soul all sorts of nonsense that's not fair so hasm basically telling you you want to serve me B that's is my essence you have to feed your soul with what it needs Good Deeds mitv him Tor then by default things that look big will look already small so today is it means that this month has the power of increasing what does it mean increasing doesn't mean that all day long I'm going to go and dance rather I have the spiritual power this month it's almost like you know I think last week was President's Day every day here President's Day Memorial Day everything is 80% off there's a sale so is the sale tells you this month Sim is very easy to achieve so we have like President's Day now we have a whole month that it's not that I have to increase Sim so I'm going to turn the music higher and I'm going to go to parties every night no the power of sim is much more easy to ATT to attain which means I can much easier work this month to build towards elevating my soul to the level of so if it was harder for me before that to be more now is your month to tap into it and if was much harder for me in previous month to be more modest more particular in kosher more particular here more particular there because I had my yet coming pounding too much D this month you have the power to tap into the power of this Sim and by that you elevate your soul to its originate State you're basically curing your soul and when you cure your soul your soul will get elevated to that level and by default you'll be serving a so you should all meditate on the idea that first of all I have a whole month now a whole month of sales 80% off I just have to tap into it just the the just the power of the month already allows me to tap into it last month was the month of shat this is the month of growing each month has a different month next month will be Nissan it's AES it's a time when I can actually Break Free etc etc so this month is the month that you have the power to tap in to reach to the depth of your soul to enliven it with all its spiritual powers to raise it to the level that you can bring your soul back to the highest originate state of sim and this is only done by mitv Good Deeds Torah everything that you can and by more that you increase it you're feeding you injecting your soul with more and more power by default anything that looks bad starts diminishing you'll see at anyone any great sadik that in such a high level he doesn't sees this the problem in this world as a problem it says okay it's I know another obstacle that I have to a detour that I have to go around it just means that Hashem wants me right now to go this way or once hasem wants to to see that I'll bring bring out in me more the power of my we are the ones who's building all these problems so you should all reach to the level that you can tap into your highest level in your inner part of your soul to reach the highest level of sim and by default we should all be serving aim and from here we're going to go to the should all be merited right away just for the merits it says also from this we're going to leave so you know it's all in your hands have to increase in modesty everything that you can add a little bit more closing the gates to your body then you elevate yourself and you en light lightening your soul to reach the highest level I wish you great success take advantage of thises we're going to do the I'll go out then you can call me if you want we can do some questions and answers or continue with another topic