"How to Feel When Things Go Your Way": The Baal HaTanya on Vayishlach

thursday night trolling we challenged real challenge i finished mine the rest of the guys are still eating um we learned something different every week so this coming week is your test kisliff and it is the ula of the maggid's talmud and we're going to learn something from the tanya now we usually try to do something that is partial related so we have something partial related from the altar are letters various different letters that the alta rabbi wrote at different times they're not in chronological order in a gerus sim and base the second chapter we get is a letter that was written in fact it says when it was written which is unusual uh there's only a couple of times iniguerosa credit where there's a quesadis where there's a like a subtitle that says when the letter was written here it says very clearly at the top of the page not peanut butter but peter berg yeah which was temporarily called leningrad and then back to pata well you yeah this is paterberg or petersburg or however you want to say it anyways peterburg was the imperial capital of the czar that is where the prison was for those who were charged of high treason which the altar ebba was he was kept there in prison in peterborough for 53 days corresponding to the number of chapters of tanya a lot of people think he wrote a chapter a day that's not tanya came out before the altar was imprisoned it was clearly that he was there for 53 days so after the altera left petterberg it started a new kufa a new era in his teachings in fact sydney point out it's interesting the other place where you have a little uh subtitle before the letter is zion of ugeras akadesh which was written after the passing of mendo haradaka very good who was a senior talmud of the maget and the rabbi that that al viewed him as a as a rabbi as well and after his passing so there was a letter of consolation written but what's interesting is over there it says i in chapter 27 and then it says when it was written here it says when it's written and then it says the chapter number base so there's a tradition that the way you read it is like this after the aldrebe left prison base two double because whatever he was doing before now that he came out of prison he's gonna double it it's understood that the whole imprisonment down here from the earthly court of the tsar was a reflection of a kit regular prosecution in the heavenly court this actually is based on information that was conveyed to the altar when he was in prison and he was visited by the magette and the balsham tiff who were already in hamas but they came to the physical world to visit him in fact when the fida could have visited the prison in in paterberg his father the rabbit ashab asked him was there enough room in the cell for three people meaning to say when the balsham and the magette came to the altar in prison they physically came with their bodies even though they were returning from ghanaian at any rate over there in prison the margin of the balchemt have told the al-qaeda you're in prison because you are disseminating tatus about shampoo but why me a lot of people are the seventy there's no because which means intelligence where you're taking concepts that are supposed to be abstruse and abstract and unknowable and you're actually explaining them in a way that the brain can appreciate so they're saying that's too far you you cross the line um so that's what's happening right now there's a charge against you and the heavenly court and it's being resolved in the heavenly court and if it'll be resolved favorably in the heavenly court it'll be resolved favorably down here see although it says so when i get out should i continue doing what i was doing before should i stop they said no no if you get out that's the green light because it means you are acquitted in the heavenly court and if you are acquitted in the heavenly court means what you're doing is good so if you do get if you do make it out of here don't don't only continue but double down so this is the hint here ah peterburg after he left peterburg base he doubled down okay so here we go kotenti mikol um i've become small i've become diminished from all of the kindness and all of the et cetera emis truth this is obviously from this week's parasha from parish vaishla this is yankovino speaking to hashem before he confronts asaph although rashi explains this although yankee had already been promised that everything's going to be okay hashem told him already i'm taking care of you don't worry but so i so why is yankev davening and saying save me from asaf he already has the guarantee ah because katoya mikhailov rashi explains that yankee felt that because of all the sodom all the kindnesses that were done to him he probably diminished even the even the guaranteed asset that he had which was which was you know a good guarantee it's coming from hashem it's a good bank to back up a check but he felt that he cashed in all of his checks and that's what russia says that he feels kathy means that my son have been been diminished ramban actually says a little different he says no kathy doesn't mean my school means i i become small i am unworthy uh the the altareba says a little bit hisa says his own pirish and it's a little bit of a combination of russia and and and ramban but at any rate the point is this is yankovino speaking about his his fear that he has diminished all of hashem's favors and he needs to uh he needs to ask again for kindness for divine kindness okay so here's the altar so like i said it's not exactly russia or ramban it's it's kind of both that every kindness in fact he says it kindness and kindness that ever pointed out there's two types of sodom there's acid that's alpitava and then there's a hasid that's beyond that's uh miraculous and actually miranda's to these two dargahs with the tube sukkum that he brings which which we're going to see in a second um but let's let's get up to that in uh one and a half lines so with every hazard that hashem each and every let's translate it like that with each and every acid that hashem does to a person or for a person he has to be exceedingly humble he should be humbled by the kindnesses because hasid is the right arm that's from pasaque leo from the tikuni zayar khasid is hashem's right arm so to speak the amine and like it says in shirashiram his right hand embraces me so these are the two daggers of khasid again means a regular acid and you mean it is the makif it's a higher level the hog the hog is the transcendent because it's surrounding you so that's an even higher level of acid hey thanks for uh alerting us to our technical problems okay that when hashem is kind to you this is called closeness with hashem he's being kind of you he's drawing you close the yasir says much more intensely but upon him than before so every time hashem is kind to you that means he's drawing you close this is important to note that we're describing this as closeness we're describing this as being drawn close to asha very important for the explanation over here the kolhakov yes it says anyone who's closer to hashem in a more intense way and uplifted above and above has to be even more humble it's inverse proportions the more kirov hashem shows you the closer hashem brings you the more humble you have to be kamisha kosov hashem nearly like the navi yo says from afar hashem appeared to me in other words that and when hashem appears to you you feel far you feel far you don't feel close you feel far we're talking about it we're talking about during the live stream remember which we said when jacqueline gordon was here here you are so there's there's a perish of that if i go up in in the heavens means if i'm flying high spiritually so then where's hashem there beyond like i didn't reach there yet but let's see if i go down low if i realize that i'm in the pits if i'm humble hineko here you are right so when you think you're flying high that's when uh uh you got a long way to go but when you uh let's see you gotta uh surrender to win spoke about that paradox yeah so anyways when you see hashem and hashem is close to you or drawing you close you have to feel far that should be the reaction canada here's a little bit of a logical explanation the kule kamedafk everything before hashem is as naught everything before hashem is insignificant which that means it's a common expression we use to mean that in in in comparison to hashem even the greatest loftiest entity is insignificant but anything that's more in front of him meaning anything that is drawn close to hashem who yes is more like nothing the i in the ephesus and absolute naught you understand the principles everything before hashem is nothing so the more before him you are or let's maybe before is a funny word because sometimes you think about it chronologically that's not what it means in front of so let's say like this in front of hashem everything's insignificant okay so the more in front of hashem you are the more insignificant you are see it's the opposite what you would think oh hashem brings you up front come on sit at the head table oh i'm important no no no everything in front of hashem is as nothing so the more in front of hashem you are the more he calls you up front mrs mcconnell of you the more insignificant you feel so he calls it later the uh the clip of the ishmael casa de clipper yeah the opposite reaction the entitlement reaction okay and he calls this here behind us this is the holy reaction to hasid this is avraham's reaction to hasid shamr which avraham said of the afer i am dust and ashes remember we had this in partisan we learned the shame schmool here in this share how he said it over there that avraham was saying can't you be nice to the people from studying like you did to me i know they're worthless but i'm also off of a for i was also worthless and look what you made out of me that's how that shameless small explained it okay so the aldreb is saying here that i am dustin ashes is actually the reaction to the kindness when hashem saves you you feel even more insignificant because the closer hashem is the more you're overwhelmed by his infinity and then by association the more you're impressed with your own finitude and insignificance now we attributed this to avramovino but it's also the attribute of yankev and that's what yankee was alluding to when he was saying to me i became that's why he excused himself for being afraid of asav meaning that was his justification and it wasn't enough for him that he'd already been guaranteed by hashem that he's going to be okay when hashem told him i am with you but he said okay that was then this is now maybe you told me you're going to be with me but i have certainly cashed that in already and there's nothing left from that promise because yankee was exceedingly small in his own eyes because of the great kindnesses hashem had done from for instance kiba makli with my staff with nothing but my staff i crossed the river well there's two different explanations i crossed the river with nothing but my staff because he was um robbed by uh ace of san olivos so he had nothing but his staff another explanation is he split the river with his staff either way we're talking about a hasid that hashem did for him and yankov's reaction to that was like wow you've done enough already hashem it's like how much can you do for one guy for little old me so we're going to talk about this contrary to a feeling of entitlement where he said well if hashem's so nice to me i must be worth it in fact i must be worth even more now he had the exact opposite reaction his reaction was wow hashem's already been so kind to me and it's hard for me to even expect any more kindness than what i've already received okay he thought that he was not at all worthy of being rescued from his confrontation with asap i'd like to say just say this maybe at some point he'll sin and he won't be he'll be ice-husted he'll lose his status and then the gamora even explains such things are possible it says that uh in the in the oz yoshi so the the lotion there implies uh it says until this nation passes so it says they'll pass over it says it twice so it's a rem is to yay sure bringing the eden and there it's israel and also in the body shady when ezra saif brought everyone back from bubble so um the the yamata says that in potential there could have been as many nisim in the time of ezra when they returned to build the second base of english as they were with yeshua when they first entered the eretz israel and the reason there weren't is because of their sins so there is such a concept that there was a a better version that could have happened and uh we messed it up so that's what uh david thought and that's what yankev thought in fact the gem out of there also it mentions jacqueline as as an example of this uh it's this specific example so he thought you know i i had good promises and but i've used those promises so now i gotta dab and again okay he it seemed him obviously he didn't but it seemed to him that he had sinned machane k now let's talk about entitlement let's talk about the response of clipper machine can be in the realm of clipper what we call lumaza the corresponding side of the opposite side the mirror image the bizarro world who you smoke yeshmael is called cassidy and his silas his sort of uh um the the byproduct of acid the waste product is khasib declippa which is ishmael now yitzhak is good and then yitzchak also had uh he had an issue his ace of is right so avraham had had a child who was his himself with the klippa version of it and then also he had a child who was the next sphere so the qasid gives birth to kavoda but it also has silas of hassan which is and so too yitzhaku was the which avraham gave birth to he gave birth to the next sphere which is two ferrous yankees but he also had a child who was the psilos of the the clip which is ace of you know aggression and anger and hunting at any rate ishmael is the clipper what's happening a lot of things but one thing that means here is that as is as opposed to wrong where every kindness hashem did for him it caused him to feel even more humble the the declipa reaction is when hashem does kindness for me i feel more entitled he just gets increasingly haughty and arrogant and entitled so that's the little teaching here about katanti and what katoente means and to have the proper reaction like yankovino to say when hashem does kindness is for us we don't feel entitled but rather we feel humbled we feel small tiny small whether there's avoid from the vilna gone in the gimora insight it says that uh talmud has to have a sheminish beshminis of gaiver to have arrogance is a terrible thing because if you have arrogance hashem says i can't dwell with such a person but a talmud because he is a scholar toyota instead of sheminish he has to have an eighth of an eighth a 64th an eighth of an eighth of of uh of guyver of arrogance so the villenegon asks why the eighth of an eighth so he says the eighth parasha and toyota is vayishlach if you count him is the eighth pasuk of the eighth parsha so you go look it up and you're like oh here where do i get my shminish meena's sign me up and then you look up and says jokes on you gotta be small anyways by the way there's a joke they say i don't know if you get this but uh you know there's a different shield him so uh therefore like anxious and uh kibatsu all these different uh reveres different shirt so they say a joke that the the the hazen ish had shiram which are very big and very big anyway so the the joke is why why why is the why'd the hazenish make the shiram so big so the shminashvishmina should be bigger okay at any rate so that that's the altered vort now here he spells it out how he wants this to be applied and this is he's speaking right then and there about the events that have just transpired now remember he was thrown into prison charged with a capital crime of high treason the punishment was death was not a joke now he's been freed and he's going back to disseminating this and of course the city are relieved they're absolutely relieved that the deba has been liberated and perhaps even it is only human nature that they would begin to gloat because how did the al rabbah end up in prison there was an asirah the misnak dim made a masira on him so the siddham it would only be natural that they would feel a little bit like gloating over them snagged them huh look what you tried to do to us and here we are okay so here's what the altar says to his side let's take a look here so accordingly according to what i've just said above boss i am coming to make a big announcement to all of anash to all the men of our fellowship al-uribuyak sodim about all the kindnesses the abundant kindnesses that hashem did to us he uses the word sometimes khasid is also called kidula like we say hashem abdullah we say because it's expansiveness largesse magnanimous generosity so hashem has been expansive hashem has been generous with us overly generous with us so therefore i'm telling you la croix bemidjisof shalyan cave to grab unto the traits of both of those mean remnants leftovers and if you are one of the banayan if the jewish people are called a yankee then act like yankiv and therefore do what she may seem um make yourself like leftovers make yourself like the little chicken wing sitting on the plate that gets left out overnight and nobody's interested in it that's you that's how you should think of yourself not even worthy of being wrapped up and put away your left leftovers like really should i in my face leftovers [Music] something that's totally useless that's how you should feel there's a story uh it's recorded in bay surabi i don't know if this is a story they have outside of khabad but it's in basra is a chabad safer but it's a story that is relating to uh rebellion anyways the story is that the altera was in the home of the miss nagit uh for whatever reason that although used to go in the and very slicks and from the magic to the mystagnum quite often and uh so he was in the home of mistake and the this should of asked the altar says do you know rebellio he says of course you know he was wanted to tell me the amagin they were they were colleagues of course he knew him so uh he says um i would like to know what kind of guy he is because uh you see the bench that i'm sitting on where they were in the missnogg's house he said see the bench i'm sitting on it's stable because i used a neuemelli mellick i took ali malek safer here's the safer namely milk i took the name ali malek and then i put it under the bench to prop up the bench the bench won't wobble so i wonder what kind of a guy it is who's safer than i'm using to keep my bench from wobbling the altar said to the miss nagit you want to know who rebelli malek is i'll tell you if you would put him under your bench to keep it from wobbling he wouldn't say a word that's who rebellion is okay so the alternative says to the siddhim make yourself like shadow in my space make yourself like leftovers i'm not a big deal i'm not a hot shot libilty room lover do not lift up your heart over your brothers meaning them a snag them meaning the people who are against you who are against me who who made the messiah they're our brothers leave them alone don't gloat over them alley empire don't speak to them don't don't don't say anything don't shoot off your mouth and don't god forbid whistle at them like in a jeering type of way like don't taunt them don't bother them be silent with an awesome warning you should lower your spirit and your heart and here come the famous three words the famous three words lyan cave with the attribute of truth of jacob why do i see this say these are the famous three words these are the famous three words this is from so here the entry from yod says a couple of things first of all it says that the end of this letter was that we didn't get to it yet but the last line was added later on f it wasn't the very last line which we're about to get to was added later on actually after the altrebus said a mimer about kamehameha the possibility like water reflects a face so he explained it there's different piroshim there's russia how he explains it there's the targum how he explains it so the the altareb is mimer uh he said that actually the same miner in leoja three times about a beer in kamehameha upon him and after he said that mimer three times he went back and he added another line to this letter which basically is implying that maybe even the mystery will warm up to you and reciprocate but we didn't get to that line yet what what we did get up to is the other thing it says in this from uh and this is all from the marash we have this as a mercedes from from the fourth rabbit from the from the altar of his great-grandson the second thing he mentions is van der rebe if the altered would not have included those three words in this letter if he had written the whole letter exactly like it was but if he wouldn't put in those three uh words of bemidjis emma's lianchev we get us a dish in the latter called we refer to as uh you get a secretive vault he would have had fifty thousand more sid which sounds pretty good so why didn't he omit those three words and have fifty thousand works with him he says but the rabbit demands the attribute of truth so what can you do it would have been nice to have fifty thousand more siding but the rabbit demands emma's so there you go what can you do okay um so he says you have to grab on to the trait of truth of yankee meet in front of every person even these guys who you feel like gloating over but with a low spirit and a soft answer can turn away anger and a subdued spirit in other words don't taunt don't antagonize don't try to provoke a fight even though you're feeling like you now have the upper hand and here's the part that was added the altitude says there may may possibly even be a favorable response and if you'll do all of this then maybe just maybe [Music] that hashem will put into the hearts of your brothers meaning like water reflects a face maybe instead of gloating over them which anyways you're not alone i'm not allowed to gloat over there because we already told you that the kedusha is you should be humbled by the sodium but i'm telling you a further benefit that may also transpire that if you be nice to them even though you have what to gloat about but if you be nice to them not only is it the right thing but it may actually even trigger from them a reciprocal response and they'll warm up to you so i don't know maybe took a couple hundred years but you know where i'm from bringing you a test kiss live tuesday night in lakewood so i must have worked for hashem so you just gotta be nice to people and they'll they'll be nice back to you and that's it walker