How to Destroy a Family - R. Meir Simcha Sperling - TorahAnytime.com

i just want to talk about two ideas and obviously take the idea and use it to your own life i want to talk about inheritance yerusha and divorce inheritance yerusha when a person dies and leaves over money for his children i have heard i even know personally there are families who were so close so close i know sisters that were so close people that are so close and a little bit of money created such majors that they did things that they regret forever because nobody's talking nobody cares about anybody else whether this cursing or not i don't even want to mention i just pretty much mentioned it by saying i'm not going to mention it and it's just it's unbeliev this was the closest family if they would have just run the business together it would have been amazing and love and geshmach and they used to go away every umptif they used to go away every weekend they used to do this and that and now there is nothing and when you even mention the name you know don't even mention the name in front of me don't even mention any name that sounds like that name and you know those letters don't ever say words with those letters and it just gets crazy and it gets crazy because of the anger because of the fighting because of the honor because of the jealousy because all these it just it rips you out of your life and there's a lot of stories like this don't be one of those stories it's just not worth it who wants children who are very wealthy and very successful but hate each other i don't know anybody like that who wants to break up and they're fa it's just it's unbelievable and where does it come from my cliques and when you're in it you can't see a thing when you're out of it it's like whoa what are you guys doing you guys are tearing apart your everything i don't care and then another and okay that's also pretty brief but i i think you get the point and just use that point and transfer it to whatever it is that you're going on in your life differently and just stay away stay away make up make a call just make up with that person it's not worth it it's not worth the pain for what for a little bit of covet if you even get covered it's not worth it and another idea which comes up unfortunately a little bit too often is divorce by divorce by many divorces the children when there are children involved and there's a lot of hate and there's a lot of fighting and mediators and nobody's talking and quartz and this and that very often unfortunately maybe only by non-jews or maybe i don't know hopefully not by jews so much and if it is let's try to figure it out into juva but the children are used as weapons as missiles as nuclear missiles and people damage their children forever create a massive reality for their children that they will be getting divorced multiple times and they will not have a functional life it will be deep dysfunction because you're using them because of your macholicus because of your pain because of your anger because of your jealousy we destroy the people around us and the people that we love most it's it's just so sad and it's so painful to see and so painful to hear about but people will not hear it's about the principle all of a sudden now the ulam cares about the principle what about in high school nobody cared about the principle okay that's a joke but it's not about the principle you want to be right you want to be right it's the right thing to do you want to be dead and right remember the guy who drove into the highway was his right away yeah but there's a truck coming yeah but it's my right away and he drives he gets killed and on his grave it says he was right he was dead right sometimes it's better to be wrong and happy sometimes it's better to be wrong and take care of your children sometimes even if you're right it's better to make believe that you're wrong now again obviously everyone has to know their situation everyone needs das terra but use your sales try to get that logic even though it's so challenging to get ira mahlikis and save the people you love these are the people you love these poor children there are so many of them so many of them and they're being destroyed because of machlakis there's a much bigger picture they say yes a lot of us go through challenges and some people have to go through very painful ones okay and we have to try to do the right things to stay healthy but we have to remember that ultimately who's watching us put us here who's carrying us and every troop of our lives is carrying us and that means we'll be able to make it through but we don't have to do it by destroying everybody around us we don't have to but do it by creating massive machis because of our covet which literally takes us out of our world and destroys us so so now who's happy i'm saying that now let's see you won fine so all your kids are off the dara and she's in this and you're here and now it's better now than you're dealing with other issues i'm saying it's a never-ending thing once you're getting involved with the machines it's a never-ending battle and you rip apart everybody imagine you just take it in and you're like you know what this is so much this is a bigger picture yes i've been through a very hard thing okay and maybe i am right but what would das terra tell me to do and now if das tehra has a husband and you're supposed to be doing certain things because it's a danger to your children or the spouse is a danger or you okay fine so then you speak to your das terra but to do things because of principle and to do things because of you know who i am you don't even know who you are because if you knew who you were at kim a child of god an ambassador of god a role model a light onto the nations you would not be doing what you're doing you