How Smart Do You Think You Are? - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (19)

[Music] thank you very much for coming we're on our Tuesday night year uman series we uh I've learned quite a bit from the ramban so far but I think we're just beginning uh today's sh will be for a for Naomi s for David benri Doris B Lana SAR s Lana Ben Lana ysep Ben lanaa B Sarah dor Mercedes will give them you know saying the you never really appreciate it until you need it so uh it's amazing how in uh one second Hashem can really make you realize how much of a nothing you are where the other day where I was uh freezing in the uh in the uh after the elure people say it wasn't really cold and I realized why they weren't cold and I was cold I was getting a fever by the time I got home I had 104 fever so uh was very interesting night uh butm gives us different tests we try to pass all of them uh we will but uh sometimes hem will make make you fail or make you stumble uh for your own good and that's going to be one of the things we're going to learn from the raan today uh that sometimes failure is good and uh sometimes failure is necessary especially when it comes to because one of the things that uh people really do not value very much is people today do not have very much you know faith in our sages people don't have very much value for for theim you know many times I I hear people call rabbis by their first names I remember when I first moved to Florida I met a you know twin brothers that had a very very successful business and uh we were in a house uh someone invited us to the same house and we're having a conversation and uh it got into religion of course and uh they asked me also you know do you listen to anyone do you do this do you do that and we started exchanging different names and you know I mentioned RAB RAB mrai so usually you mention RAB mrai or you mention me today you know you'll get different reactions sometimes I love them sometimes I hate them but you know you're never going to get a neutral reaction it's always something but this one surprised me because I was still relatively new and uh these two yo-yos said oh Yosi I looked at the guy what who you mean Yosi Yosi like who's Yosi you know RAB mrai you mean Rabbi Ys M you calling him Yosi yeah you know Yosi Yosi and I honestly I wanted to take the plate and throw it at them like what's the matter with you forget about you like him don't like him it's irrelevant have a little decency have a little decency but that's the thing people don't have it and you see it more and more today people call rabbis by their first names because it's not necessarily that they're trying to disrespect the person it's not necessarily coming from Bad Intentions it's that number one people want to be friendly and they think that if they call you a rabbi or a doctor or a mister that's not friendly the second thing is which is more critical for our for our topic is people have no they have no concept no value for what is they don't understand how much you have to toil and break your head and sacrifice over and over and over again to ever even understand a single like you're supposed to to ever understand one in one line in the entire understand it like you're supposed to no one actually understands it until they do it themselves and that's the problem people have no concept they think that being a rabbi that's you know is a you know not just somebody that just decided to call thems the rabbi but because someone that's actually learned a lot of Tor teaches people helps people change their life and so on and so forth to do that they think it's the same thing like being a doctor they think it's the same thing as like being a lawyer or an accountant or a or architecture they think it's the same thing what that's a profession that's a profession that's the problem if you think that nuclear physics is in the same level of intellect of sacrifice of wisdom in general as Torah you my friend have to do chuva a lot of it because you have no understanding what to is for example I always tell you guys that there's a lot of people from Florida that watch the shim but unfortunately the vast majority of them do not come now there's thank God there's many many people watching the shim around the world people from Mexico people from Nigeria people from Australia Austria uh you came from Austria right Austria now he's here in Florida uh you know from uh Chicago our dear friend over here now he's here we have people from all corners of the world but the amazing thing is is that there's also a lot of people in Florida that watch the how do I know they send me email and text messages and questions and so on and so forth I always ask myself how come they don't come oh but it's going to be online no so I'll just watch it online I'll just watch it on Facebook I'll just watch it on YouTube tomorrow with the popcorn and my uh and my convenience and that's good if you live in Antarctica that's okay if you live in Israel if you live in Chicago if you live somewhere that's really far away that requires a plane if you require a plane to come to the sh no problem understand you 100% you're doing for watching you're good but if you live within an hour's distance of the and do not attend I always tell people that you're missing a big part of the learning and the big part of the learning is the fact that when you come to the lecture you become part of the lecture as the said in 290 he says exactly I'll read you word for word a person that learns M from the directly from him is nothing like someone who learns it from a book nothing like it he says that when you actually attend a lecture when you hear the rav directly speak you become part of it because in the voice of the ri is all of his strength all of his all of his wisdom all of the things and you are part of it will give the rabbi specific at that moment just Cater to You meaning when you come to the lecture the rabbi 100% of the time will say something just for you and no one else in the world that's why many times people come to the Sho and say it's very different when I watch it online for two years I came to the lecture something happened I don't know it was very different so yeah it's very different when you came to the sh you became part of the sh when you're watching it from your apartment 20 minutes from here you're not part of the Sho you're learning but you're not part of the Shu and that's a big loss it's also a big loss because the says that in the old days when they didn't have YouTube and Facebook or even cars people used to travel days just to attend the just to attend a one of the will travel six months six months just to go learn with ranan for one day one day you'd learn from him and then go back home for six months months says what what are you doing you wasting your time six months six months just go buy a book why are you traveling all six months says no no no don't make fun of him his to is more valuable than all of yours goes what do you mean we're learning day and night all year round we're not traveling we're not wasting time we don't even take vacation he says yes but his is much greater than yours you would never be willing to do what he does his Torah is much more valuable than to when a person travels to learn T he gets something called means you get a reward for going there how much is the reward for going there the says the reward for going there is greater than the reward of being there now you would say wait a minute I came to the Sho I sat there I didn't even play with my phone I actually sat there and listened to the shoe I I play with the phone a little bit but don't tell the rabbi a little bit I played but I listened to 90% okay 80% 70% of you I listen for sure 60 605 I'm not going to lie 60% of the sh I I 40% phone 40% phone 60 okay no 50 50 no stop it sun 50 okay 50% I listen to sh 50% RAB I don't get anything for it says yeah you get something for it but the problem is that the 50% that you listen to the shoe or even if you listen to 100% are you going to remember 100% no you're not going to remember 100% why you're a human being you're not going to remember if you remember 5% that's already you remember 5% of the lecture tomorrow and actually apply to your life that's a huge huge huge how do you remember this taking notes now already it's different learning it again not already different you attended this you multiple times already but one time you just came sat there watch it like a movie 5% of the 5% of the lecture you remember that's already so Hashem wants to give you the full pie he doesn't want to give you 5% reward so what does he do he says I'm going to give you a full reward not for going there I'm not for for being there not for that 5% homeless memory that you have no I'm going to give you for the 20 minutes that it took you to get there for the the $20 you spent on Uber to get there for the gas you spent to get there for the 20 minutes it took you to walk there for the traffic you with stod for all the yelling and screaming you had to deal with just to come here because this one wanted this from you and this one wanted that from you say no no no listen it's 9 o00 I gotta be at the shield the world ends why that gives you 100% even if you live next door even if you live an hour and a half away hem gives you 100% that's that's why it's so valuable to come to if you have the opportunity because you live close by when you don't do it you're missing out on a big part of the the Merit and you also miss out on being part of the sh itself last but not least since obviously is not giving us that much more time to live in this world mashia has to come soon the world is destroying itself so this not really that much time so that means that is fast forwarding a lot of things in the past when a Ben is would give a lecture a few times a year over 10,000 people would show up 10,000 people would show up to every lecture and every single one of them would hear his voice without microphone when his son took over they couldn't hear him say we can't hear you we can't hear you he says I'm sorry I don't have I don't have speaking for my for my throat like my father my father was not like a normal human being he hem is speaking to his throat that's why you heard him but even the Ben is with 10,000 people showing up at every lecture okay you limited 10,000 people today if wants this lecture or any other lecture could literally reach millions of people if every single person right now watching this Sho either live or tomorrow or in six months from now simply does thems a favor and presses the share button every single person you have let's say 5,000 views 5,000 people press the share button that automatically becomes a lot more than 5,000 25,000 50,000 100,000 and every single one of those people that hears it because of that share button that took you exactly 3 seconds to do there meets what go to your account but the best yet is the people that contributed the sh by attending by donating by by promoting by doing whatever they can I have a few in different places around the world in Atlanta in Montreal in Toronto a few different places they have Shure parties what's a sh party every week at least once a week they invite a bunch of their friends to their house or to their sh and they screen the sh Al why people like to do things together that's why sports are successful because people like to cheer on together there's a lot more it's a lot more fun to watch an event with 30 40,000 people than to watch at home by yourself on TV even though technically you watch the the the sport or whatever you're watching much better from the TV because of the camera but when you have 30,000 voices saying yeah or Boo or whatever they're saying at the same time it's a lot more fun needless to say with Torah when you have a lot of people watching this you it creates a lot more merits now when a person understands this to the extent where they realize this is the emit this is what makes sense let me do something about it that alone is a first step of change the problem is is that that's only one of the steps the other step is that we still need to learn whether you attend the or you don't attend the Sho you still need to learn now what happens is is that sometimes people take God's advice and they start learning they watch a sh they read a few books and they start changing their life they start going up the ladder getting closer and closer to Hashem they change their uh their their their looks they change their activities and so on and so forth but then if you look at their spiritual lad as it's going up up up up up up all of a sudden if it was a chart like a stock you'd see like a crash at some point now their learning continues it didn't stop they continue to they're learning they're even learning more now instead of learning one book at a time they're learning two books at a time now instead of watching a lecture with the phone they're watching a lecture without the phone now instead of eating popcorn and beastly and all that stuff while they're learning they're just focusing on the book not just the beastly they're not having dinner and at the same time they have a much learning but their spiritual ladder instead of continuing to go higher to get closer to you see them collapsing like a stock that went from 100 to zero in one shot why why if they continue to learn technically continue going up why is the spiritual ladder meaning the value in sham for what they're doing drops so horrendously woman is taking on she's covering herself she's saying she's doing at least one and one per day she's reading some she's praying for for the to come down and and save all of us she's she's doing all the good things she even decide to take on a fast once a year other than the regular fast just for it's good thing how come the spiritual lad collapsed who wants to guess maybe you're gonna start teaching I got to give them more chances you're killing them a person becomes prideful a person becomes arrogance and she goes instead of talking to a and getting close to hem and doing the mitzvah for hem what does she do she says to her friends oh so how you doing oh no I'm good I just finish the uh you know the book of T today it's only 12 o'clock I just finished she publicized oh so how you doing how's everything no I just finished feeding the homeless I'm good what' you do today it's 9 o' already what' you do no I didn't feed any homeless people you start publicizing your mitv or better yet the guys RAB starts talking they interrupt no no Rabbi I don't think you're right over here and they start giving all types of things Rabbi is answering somebody in a question somebody asked a question they say no Rabbi I know this answer they start the answer OB Best Yet Rabbi tell they ask the rabbi question the rabbi gives him an answer say no Rabbi I don't think you're right he's a b cha with still diapers on but he he doesn't think the rabbi's right he's been learning for 20 years still hasn't got out of diapers but he no he read understood maybe maybe one and a half% of it usually the preface of who wrote it but no RAB I think you're wrong still doesn't know he actually didn't even know this he just thought you're not allowed to drive but I don't think you're right about this one Rabbi worst is if you actually did learn a lot meaning he actually finished a bunch of meaning he even finished the shot fin completed it or two or three or five or seven day whatever he did if completed the whole sh people ask him a question he goes ah you don't know it's easy is Right ask him a question he makes you feel like you're a loser you don't know nothing that guy his Torah zero his spiritual climb destroyed everything he just did went to zero why is disgusted by arrogance especially when it comes from the Torah why because that means that means you're not learning Torah you're learning something that resembles Torah but it's not really Tor because way you're supposed to learn Torah is you're supposed to learn it it's supposed to soften your character and make you more humble because the more Torah you learn the more you realize you actually don't know anything the more you learn the more you realize how great the knowledge available is meaning that the more you learn the more you realize how much you don't know in the beginning you thought there was one book once you got to the end of the book it said oh and you can read the recommended books here there's a list of 5,000 books all of a sudden you thought you were accomplished you saw there's a list of continued reading 5,000 books okay fine let me start going through the 5,000 books he starts going to another couple he feels like he's getting ahead getting ahead on book 150 he sees there's a completely different list of another 30,000 books he feels he's achieved something because he already read a 100 books now he sees another 30,000 on top of the 5,000 he starts reading another few books he says there's another list another 90,000 books he feels like he's going backwards instead of forwards that's toah the more you read the more you understand how much more knowledge is available there are literally millions of books available for people to learn toah today different books not the same book that even if you read all of those books for a thousand Years Day and Night 24 hours a day you still would not know even 1% of the Torah that's how big the t is in fact you wouldn't even know as much as did because the tells us in abah ainu had 600 600 chapters to his tractate of aod some say 400 either way our current has five chapters meaning we don't even have what had 4,000 years ago says when they were learning when it talked about you have to know the entire by heart in when they judge you in sh you know you're supposed to know the whole thing but if you don't have then it's not worth anything what are they really talking about talking about you know the entire mishna what's the entire for kazal is they had 600 600 parts to the mishna 600 we have six six parts of they had 600 that's how minimize the Torah has become more and more every generation to fit the generation meaning that even if you know everything that you think is available it's still literally nothing in comparison to what's really there and their Torah was not even as big as a now the ramban says the following the letter continues and he says to us if the person takes priz pride in his wisdom let him understand that God May remove the speech of the most competent and take away the wisdom of the Aged as it says by the prophet job in chapter 12 verse 20 now theab page 152a says that a as he ages his wisdom increases not only because he continues to learn and not only because he continues to have more and more experience but also the that he gains over the years that stuff that he learned 30 years ago and 40 years ago from his Rabbi starts making more sense to him for example there are certain things that I learned from my rabbi five six years ago only now they're starting to make sense and I know for sure that in 10 years from now they're going to make a whole lot more sense in 10 years from now like for example why did he choose out of all the stories in the to tell me the story of you I already have a few different reasons but I know there's many more why is this and why is that you only learned some of the stuff over time so as a continues to mature is matures he starts understanding different aspects of the learning that he has but an ignorant person as he ages his ignorance increases hence the reason of why you'll see brighter than any 20-y old even when they're 95 shalom Shalom all of the Giants you see the vast majority of them days before they left this world and left us as a orphan Nation they were reading they were reading they were reading and and and pasing on things M doing things that no one else was able to do no one else was able to understand such sharp Minds a 100 years old sharp mind like a knife 20 year old dull like a butter nothing the 90y old sharp but then you see the regular average person used to sell cars for a living average person I don't know sold hotels built hotels 70 years old most of the time he's starting to lose it a little bit by 80 he's a misin once as he continues to grow older at 80 years old most of the time he doesn't really want to live they're just forcing him to most people as they gain an age life becomes miserable why because their brain walks away from them they start being you know if they're not really rich and they don't have a family that loves them a lot they end up going into one of these nursing homes where pretty much they feed you daisa all day and beat you up because you didn't go to sleep or because of this or because of that because they're evil people many times and they just you know pretty much everyone's waiting for the guy to die why cuz no one can talk to him he doesn't remember who you are and if he does he doesn't remember what you told him it's a nightmare he's worse than when he was a baby that's the ignorant person that's what says and that's life you want proof go to a nursing home after you finish the nursing home go to Mid go see the difference you'll see young and old and in the nursing home only old one guy says that he went to Yesa with Shalom after Yesa continued learning for a little while and he would always see rash learning learning learning in a chair in the corner of the bet midash with his book learning learning learning just sits in his chair doesn't move like a statue people coming people going night day doesn't make a difference he's still there he says he left he went to America made a bunch of money 60 years later he came back 60 years later he had his life had his kids had the family had the business had the millions had everything came back to the same place still in the same place still in the same spot same book same chair 60 years later same he didn't change the chair that's why raash you know who he is or if you want to know you just go on Google and half a second later you'll have 50 zillion different images and articles and so on and the other guy we don't even know his name but to become a rash is it's not just you sit in the chair it's understanding where you stand it's understanding how valuable this is now the M chapter 8 says that a who becomes prideful for his T and why is he doing the opposite of his purpose like how why is this viewed such as the opposite of his purpose says because he doesn't understand the purpose of his learning if you've learned a lot of Torah you read a bunch of books you have a whole library in your house another library at the K another Library everywhere you have a bunch of books you chew them up but now when people ask you a question you kind of make fun of them you make them feel bad about it that they don't know or better yet you don't have any for the rabbi or you don't have or the best part when someone tells you yeah but said this or rabas said this kki said that like yeah you know you don't necessarily have to agree with them you treat the like they're like you you put yourself on the same pedestal as the Giants like you andu same thing we're both human beings we put put pants on one one leg at a time what's the problem you think think you're just like them somebody like that is doing the opposite of what he was created to do why because what he doesn't understand is there's a p in the T that says meaning that you got to it day and night got to what got to the Torah what does that mean literally if you learned Torah and found a way to learn it 24 hours straight you learned toat 24 hours straight no break with the exception of bathroom because you're still human but that's it you didn't eat you didn't drink you didn't do nothing 24 hours straight everyone that's watching think wow that's definitely something to be proud of I know one person that in 24 hours he did a Shabbat he learned the entire shabat if you learn it in a year you're already great he learned it in 24 hours on Shabbat that some do they literally learn in it's not very common anymore because we do not have such in the world but it does happen once in a blue I know one guy that did it 24 hours he learning almost 160 figure I a few thousand pages in regular books 24 hours but not 20 not a few thousand pages of of Harry Potter few thousand pages with one page regular person could take five weeks just to understand it so if you figure you learn 24 hours after you finish this 24hour sh you should be your chest should be puffed up come on look at me who else is like me when Hashem created men he thought about me you know that's what people think what does the mid say what do say say you have nothing to be proud of why all you did is fulfill the minimum what do you mean I fulfill the minimum I I started for 24 hours goes exactly you fulfill the you got to it morning and night so that's what you did you got to it from the morning you study all the way to the night what else do you want that's the minimum as the Mish says chapter two M number n Zak says if you've learned and you've studied much Torah don't take any credit for yourself because that's why you were created that's your point that's the only reason you exist hence the reason why the says someone that doesn't learn T should not be allowed to eat meat that's the say why says the cow is better than him it's fulfilling its purpose it's mooing it's mooing it's giving milk without resistance you ever see a cow says no I don't want you don't take milk no come on move today no no I'm not moving today I'm on strike no the cow will move the cow will give you the milk that's what it's supposed to be but you supposed to learn to I like no I don't feel like it why I'm going to the game shoot some hoops I'll be the next LeBron James Jewish version all 5 six feet of me the most bizarre thing in the world that I seen this generation of how many young kids play basketball thinking they're going to go to the NBA I never understood that just by the fact that you're Jewish you should immediately throw that in the garbage you want to play for activity for exercise I don't know you want to exercise go do it no problem it's good to exercise a little bit but don't live a fantasy thinking you're going to the NBA yeah but there is one guy that's in the NBA that's Jewish uh yeah one you know how many other hundreds of thousands try to be that one you know how many millions try to be anyone in the NBA I used to deal with athletes in the business world so a lot of times we try to get rookies as uh uh as clients because the rookies usually make a lot of money the problem is with rookies is that you have to start dealing with them and talking to them sometimes before they have anything to talk about while they're still in college every kid in college whether he's a freshman or a senior is sure he's going to the NBA sure he's going to the NFL sure what they don't realize is only a few hundred people get selected every year out of tens of thousands and if you don't get selected that graduating year 99% chance your career is over yeah but I worked on it for 20 years to be in the NBA to be in the NFL to be in anything so did 100,000 other people sorry yeah but why can't you pick me next year if you weren't good enough this year you're probably not going to be good enough next year but I tried so hard should have tried something else maybe actually go to school and this is people that have the physical ability ities and the physical stature and they're 9t tall and they're this big and so on most Jewish kids what are they they're little scrawny little kid shooting a ball okay so you hit the hoop it's not enough the best feature is the sneakers what's the but kids play and they dream this thing I'm gonna be a basketball player I'm going to the NBA they live this fantasy why because the yet keeps telling them you are created for basketball you're going to be the next best thing in in in in in game town in in in PlayStation World while the says no no my dear son that's not why you're here you're here to learn T nah that's not possible no you here to learn tah that's the point of your whole life no it's not possible I'm here to be a businessman no no no Tor no I'm here to be a soldier no T fight every single day until the unfortunately just doesn't do anything anymore why you're numb you become so far from the toah you don't even realize you're supposed to learn tah that's most people in this generation now sometimes part of the reason why people quit the Torah world is not necessarily because of their upbringing because they went to Yeshiva they went they learned and they did a few things but sometimes they have a rabbi or a teacher that he himself learned a lot of tah but instead of learning the Torah to the extent where it changed him in a positive way it makes him worse it makes his bad character traits like arrogance much much worse and when one of the students asks a question instead of answering the kid because he doesn't know because he's double-checking the rabbi insults the kid yells at the kid makes the kid feel like a loser and the kid doesn't know how to deal with it and he breaks I know a few kids like this here in Israel different places they simply left the Torah world even though they had the talent they had the upbringing they had the potential but one bad word from the rabbi one yell one Scream one misunderstanding whatever it was that's all took to let the take over I know two kids they're not kids anymore now they're in their 30s that the same principle same principle in New York threw them out of school because they didn't have a lot of money like some of the other people that already didn't make them their fam's donors on top of that there was Safari he didn't really like Safari people so much because he wanted to fulfill the sin instead of the mitvah he want to fulfill the sin of so he decided that first excuse throw them both out unfortunately since he threw them both out at 14 15 years old within a matter of a couple of months they stopped keeping everything and today almost 20 years later they're still both they both still keep nothing tell them you believe in tah 100% believe in hm 100% why don't you keep something n why not it's not for me religious people I don't like them what does it have to do with religious people no listen every time goes back to the same story same story my Rabbi yel why because that Rabbi instead of actually teaching the kids in essence what he was doing making himself more prideful so says if you are learning a lot and it's improving your character you're going in the right direction but if you're learning a lot and it's making you more prideful it makes you think for even a second that you are better than anybody in the world then you're not learning T your T is not from sham now the one thing that a person understands as he really learns toah is that the more proud you are the more it symbolizes that you actually don't know Torah it's the opposite usually you would see the guy that walks in he's the proud he's supposed to be the guy that actually possesses all of what he says he does in the Torah world it's the exact opposite the more proud you are the less to you know now the ram says something very interesting he says that has a certain way to deal with certain people because he wants to protect them because of the Merit of their Torah so much so that even if a person is about to sin Hashem will put barriers in order to try to protect them from that sin there's a couple of examples in the where some of the B were tested from sham the Satan himself was sent to show them that even with all of their Torah on one end they're everything they're very important in shamim on another end they're still nothing how so he impersonated and looked and transformed himself into the most beautiful woman on earth and enticed both men at different times and both RAB AKA and RAB almost fell to this fake woman to Satan himself something the beauty you cannot even imagine they couldn't handle it they almost fell Satan turned around says you're lucky and then he turned back into the Satan says you're lucky in sh they say don't mess with Torah is very important for us in sh because if they didn't say that i' Slaughter you right now just for thinking you can be with me meaning on one end your Torah is very important to us and Sh and that's why we didn't let you sin but another end you should be reminded that even with all of the Torah and there's no barrier in morality no one is above and beyond it everyone can fall to nothing you're never you're never righteous enough you're never knowledgeable enough you're never free from sin nothing everybody is going to have to fight but like I said it's only hard for the first seven years after that it's easy you can barely walk after that but the key thing is is that this type of protection the says in is one of the hands of to show us to in chapter 22 of he says the following he says first of all what what what are the reasons why a person should never be proud of the Torah that he actually has meaning let's say the guy toiled he has books he learned them he has the he learned it he has the he learned he's learning after he learns and he learns and he learns and he continued to learn and he learned a lot says you still have no reason to be arrogant about it prideful about it or even think you're better than anybody else in the world why he says first of all even the finest mind is imperfect and prone to error even the most accomplished Sage makes mistakes in so many words the ram tells us it is humanly impossible for you to not make a mistake meaning that as smart as you are even if you become the G you become something special as smart as you are it's impossible for you not to make a mistake at some point in fact in page 14a says that the only way that a person becomes wise and actually can stand up on his Torah is after he falls but not Falls and makes a mistake and let's say violat Shabbat because he didn't know this Al or he made a mistake in Al because he didn't learn no he learned but he learned incorrectly if the person makes a mistake in and eats something that's not Kosher because he thought it's kosher or he does something on Shabbat that's not allowed because he thought it's allowed if that mistake is made because he didn't learn no that's not falling that's just you already failed before you started but he learned but he made a mistake misjudged it's said aloud but he misread it's really not allowed it's like for example today I got some guy sent me a message I haven't responded yet and he sends me a whole Milla about uh someone one of my students in uh Montreal is bothering him why is he bothering him because says why don't you watch theab he's talking about wigs why why don't you listen to it it's not allowed it's not allowed it's not allow for it's not allowed for first of all that's not my focus the whole debate between 400 years already I don't have shoes big enough and shoulders big enough to get myself and throw my name into that debate that whole world is completely different that's not the whole thing the issue with wigs that I only mentioned is the issue with a because of real hair wigs coming from you know from uh uh India but the reality is even a woman called me earlier this week or left me a message earlier this week I sent her a 10-minute personal shoe to explain to her that despite whatever she decides to do it doesn't matter to me she come to the sh i' be more than happy I have quite a few students that have wigs and don't have wigs doesn't make a difference to me I simply educate I don't judge people I'm not a judge I'm not a jury I simply provide information you want to listen listen you don't want to listen don't listen it doesn't doesn't make a difference to me I love everybody the same way people think that like if I see somebody with like a with a wig or if I see somebody that's driving on Shabbat like I become a terrorist like I start you know shooting them taking us Uzi out what do you think I'm Rambo I'm providing information providing information you want to do it do it you don't want to do it I did my job I did my job I don't judge I don't nothing you know how many students I have that still wear wigs they're fantastic people amazing people I don't judge nothing I want them to be careful I want them to make sure that everything's okay double check at least make sure that you know where it came from you did you did your search you're okay with it you're not okay with it okay so double check double check it says kosher but you know the kosher kind of looks like it came from China okay so check why why is there only one kosher body in the entire wig world but in the uh in the kosher world of food there's like a thousand you have to ask these questions so ask you you verified your Rabbi say it's okay no problem no problem on the other hand if somebody drives on Shabbat D on Shabbat I see him I know he's driving on Shabbat I'm not going to invite him to my house on Shabbat cuz I don't want drive on my expense I don't want to be the reason for him to drive but if he comes to the shoe I'll give him a hug just like everybody else the point is people think things and they they feel like they're attacked for the wrong reason why because you asked the question you ask the question they think they're attacking you I spoke to a woman today apparently there's not much help here in in Florida uh for people that are needy so someone told me there's an organization that helps people that are needy so I called them because I happened to know if few people that are needy and I I get to know a lot of people so if anyone that's needy I need to know who to go to who helps so I called the woman I said yeah we provide food we do this we do that that okay great okay can you tell me what's the uh when you give it okay we give it on this day okay can you tell me what time okay we give this what's the requirement okay we do this okay fine uh what's the Kut what's the Kash of the food ah it's kosher I said okay I understand it's kosher that's why I'm calling you I'm a rabbi not not I'm not not a priest if I was Priest I go to McDonald's it's easier than you I'll buy the food for McDonald's a dollar you can buy Burger feed 10 people but it's kosher food it's more expensive so I need to know what's the it's kosher sir it's kosher okay sir uh what kind of kosher is it orb is it kosher Miami is it kosher India is it kosher Zimbabwe what kind of kosher is it though sir if they're hungry they'll eat I said I'm sorry if you were serving go that would be okay response if they're hungry they're eat you're you're right but in the Jewish world if you're going to serve the Jewish people some people are they're more stringent on K than others they will accept this one but not that one so I don't want to send the guide to you and he doesn't accept your Kut why why waste his time why waste your time why insult people point is what's the big deal if you're giving this food out anyway for a long time what's the big deal to just look at the label okay okay I'll get back to you she got back to me oh at some point she told me I'm being very aggressive why because I asked what's the K people don't like to be asked questions now I don't even know if I want to recommend it maybe kosher India who knows kosher Zimbabwe it's coming with a bone from one of the bodies they find who knows why what's so hard to look at the label that's the thing sometimes people do MIT for the wrong reason and they do not understand why they're doing what they're doing if you're going to teach teach with the intention to help people not to insult people not to you know hurt people in any way not to offend them not to win a debate like some of these clowns on the internet that like to debate people just for the sake of showing that they won the point of teaching is to provide people information and let them make educated decisions based on this information if they like it if they don't try something else try something else what's the big deal every one of us has a laundry list a laundry list of things to fix I always tell you I'm the biggest one the she was for me you happen to be here everyone has a laundry list okay she doesn't want to change this so she'll change that he doesn't want to change that so I'll change this that you'll find something in the shoe but sometimes people feel attacked why because you mentioned the one thing that really in sh that's what he has to change so in this particular CH in this particular issue this guy sends me a message and he says uh this guy just your you're student in Montreal is attacking me and and hounding me because he keeps telling me the wigs are not allowed and uh I asked my Rabbi and the Rabbi says it's okay and I asked another Rabbi and the other Rabbi said it's okay and then I called Y and I called my other Rabbi and he says the Rabbi says it's okay so why are you bigger than R was a now first of all you're being very aggressive I should tell him but that's not really going to help him but in reality there's a problem with the whole question number one his attitude is awful why are you comparing me to G if I'm an ant I'm still not enough what's what's the comparison what's the comparison two did you actually read what said or did you just assume that what the rabbi said is correct because now if you really believe it's allowed or not allowed is on the line and you relied on an answer that someone said to you that means that you're are in essence saying it's either allowed I'm going to heaven or it's not lot I'm going to G that's what that's your decision here that's what happens in the world that's how works it's not allowed I'm going to ganeden not allowed I'm still going to ganeden because it's just a you know discount version there's there's there's a big difference did you check no he didn't check how do I know he didn't check I haven't responded to him how do I know he didn't check because never said that I know his T that helped him write that bookon he helped him write that book and that answer what he was talking about when it comes to wigs for we're not talking about we're talking about just the wigs for verus when it comes to the modesty isue all that stuff that the have the do not but some people mistaking thinking that says it's allowed why because they read the answer incorrectly if you double check with the co-author raon M he says to you what does he say no if you look at the what happened before what is he talking about he's talking about can a person say let's say he's praying in his house can he sayma next to a woman that's immodest no can he say next to his wife if she is has a wig on instead of a instead of a that wears regularly and he says yes it's his wife it's in the house he's allowed to do kma meaning if she's wearing a wig in the house she's but she wears a wig in the house no problem that's allowed he never said go wear a wig in in the streets but that's the problem people just you know they assume that someone assume that someone read it they don't double check and what happens there they don't get to the bottom line they don't get to the bottom line why because people are either spiritually lazy or extraordinarily arrogant or simply do not want to change simply don't want to change but the problem is is that if you don't want to change no amount of Tora is going to help you doesn't matter how many M that you read that doesn't matter how many shim you watch there's some people that have been watching my shim for two three years they became Angels honestly I asked him to give me once in a while I ask give me I don't know how people do so they go to test like it's walk in the park say give me some people watch for a couple years nothing happened not out not often not often but it happens some sometimes you see people they watch all the sh but nothing happens why because in reality the way that the two people were studying differently one was watching the Sho with an intention to apply what he learns the other one was watching it for entertainment and and mental stimulation purposes only he liked the way I sound he liked some of the funny things I say once in a blue moon he likes the little action when I do my little dance here that's what he likes he likes that he thinks I'm funny he thinks I'm this thinks of that that's what you like but as far as changing his life nothing two years still married to the Goya three years he's still driving on shab nothing changed it's not common because some of the things I say are relatively hard for people to hear on a regular basis which requires a person to change or to Simply stop watching but the point is is that it does happen why because some people simply do not want to change and that's what we learned from the k last week that the most important mid the most important character trait of a human being is the desire to change if you have the desire to change automatically all of your character traits improve you're less angry than you would be if you didn't have a desire to change you're less stingy than if you would have had you didn't have a desire to change and so on and so forth now now even if a person has learned an enormous amount of T the says that you're still going to make a mistake we're going to learn why you're still going to make a mistake why hasem actually causes a person to make a mistake as a way of helping him the continues and he says secondly a person really deserves little credit for his genius because the man who knows more than others merely is following the dictates of his nature and is no different than a bird who is whose nature is to flap its wings and fly meaning just like the M says you learn a lot of T don't be proud because you that's what you were created for the uh you're never going to see a bird flying in the air says haha I can fly haha I can fly you're never going to see that why because that's the point of the bird fly you're never going to see a chick a chicken start making fun of the fellow chickens look I can lay eggs look I lay eggs you're never going to see that why cuz that's the point of the chicken if it doesn't lay eggs Slaughter it eat it as a schnit that's it finished but the reality as long as it lay lays eggs it's may be worth it for you doesn't lay eggs okay it becom Schnitzel a human being has a purpose a Jew even a higher purpose what's the Jew's purpose learn learn the book of that's what you were created meaning if you actually follow this advice that means that you're actually following your nature you're following the purpose of why you were created nothing to be proud about you're following your instruction set it's good you'll get a reward for it but there's no reason for you to think that you're doing something above and beyond to make you better than other people all you're doing is you're following instruction you'll get rewarded for it they're not following instructions they'll be punished for it you should feel bad for them and that's what I try to tell people sometimes you tell people to do something you wanna you wanna help your friend you want to help your colleague you want to help your cousin your mom your dad your whoever to do chuva but they don't want to listen you send them a video they said please do me a favor don't send me this Rabbi anymore this ruven guy he's crazy don't send me anymore you send it anyway next time they say okay don't send it third time they don't say anything but they don't watch it you keep sending it once a week but after a couple of months sending it you see nothing changed or better yet they keep telling you don't send it don't get offended don't get upset at them it's no there's no reason for you to be upset at them why the fact that they don't see the emit like you do is no reason reason for you to be mad if anything you should cry cry for them maybe then they'll watch May they'll see theit because so long if you actually care about them rather than care about being right and them being wrong you should cry not get mad if you told your mom to stop driving on Shabbat and she doesn't want to listen you told your dad stops you know making money on Shabbat and he doesn't want to listen you told your brother to leave his non-jewish girlfriend he doesn't want to listen you told this one to do this and no one wants to listen to you don't get mad at them there's no reason for you to get mad at them unless you just want to be right if you just want to be right and that's the only reason you're telling them that stop anyway why because you're not doing it for the right reason you're doing it out of Pride you're doing it to win but if you're doing it because you care about them to do chuva then you should cry why because they don't see the EMT like you they don't see the truth like you which means that if they continue going this route their end will not be good that's a reason for you to cry not to be mad imagine you know that this blind guy is standing on the tracks of a train and the train's coming but he also happens to be deaf too and you could call him Steve not nothing Steve come he's deaf he doesn't hear you you go like this nothing he can't see you like this even more nothing smoke signals nothing what are you going to get mad at him for that listening he can't hear you he can't see you he's blind he's deaf he can't see you yeah but the train's coming okay so that's not a reason for you to be upset as far as get mad at him you should feel bad to the extent of doing something else about it maybe cry maybe pray maybe do do a big mitvah make a big donation for K I don't know do something else but definitely don't get mad the poor guy can't see that's that's the difference a lot of times people tell yeah this one I'm so angry she didn't listen to me I'm so angry they didn't listen to me you're so angry don't do anything do me a favor why you're making things worse you're trying to be right no one wants to lose a battle meaning that even if she agrees with you that you're right she'll still disagree with you why she doesn't want to lose the debate so even if she agrees that really hasem said to keep Shabbat she's still gonna say no it's not for me why she doesn't want to lose the debate why because you came from a bad place what is that like there was a certain Jew that lived in a place called P he was a tailor and he was known as the best tailor in town so the parit the nobleman of the Town came to him and said uh listen is a very precious garments that I got I want you to make me a special suit but make sure it fits me make sure it's this make sure it's that make sure this make sure that so the Jewish parit you know the Jewish uh uh Clothier says no come on no do you really doubt me aren't I known already as the best as the best in town I make the best suits in town the best dresses in town okay that's why I came to you no problem sometime passed he came to the nobleman with this new beautiful suit he shows him the suit puts it on him and the nobleman hates it he starts cursing him out he says you stupid this and you bad this and he curses his mother and where he came from and where he went and you're the worst guy in town I'm gonna ruin your business and I'm gonna do oh the guy me skin the poor guy just took it the Sue he said you wasted so much of my money I went all the way to Paris to get this stuff and you wasted all of this I'm going to ruin you I'm going to this to you the the poor guy shriveled up into a little turtle back into his little shell and ran away immediately he went to one of the the son of of and he told him the story and the re says take the suit remove all of the uh thread from there all of where you sew together remove all of that take all the stitches off and then sew it back together using the same exact stitches and then go back bring it to the noan in those days unlike today they had says something we don't ask 25 questions today people ask me questions I give them an answer they ask me five more questions about the answer but why is this but why is that can you give me a source yeah I give you a source yeah but can you give me another source yeah but what one source is not enough you didn't know there was one source for this now you want five more sources why you don't trust the one source is not enough is not enough is not enough what it's not nothing's enough no I just want enough somebody else also said it what you want God himself to come to your house say it to you is that enough in those days you didn't need that said something finished he said take the stitches off and then put it back in the same exact places enough so this guy did it without asking any questions a day later comes back to the nobleman with the suit he said here sir I fixed it he's very angry he says okay okay I hope you did for your sake puts on the suit looks in the mirror and he says You must have hands of gold what did you do how did you fix this it's unbelievable and he starts giving him compliments and his mother and his father and his creator and his everything and wow you're the best he ends up paying him more money than he owed him just as a tip for how great he is and how amazing he is you're the best ever I don't know what you did but you must have hands of gold now this poor Jew has no idea what just happened so he goes back to the rebi he says please teach me what just happened I didn't do anything he says no no what you don't understand is that when you seed that suit together the first time you full of G you're full of pride Pride doesn't yield any Grace so your suit was full of G that's why he hated it his repelled it because one Gan hates another Gava arrogant people hate arrogance you're never going to see two arrogant people as best friends if they're married it's on the way to divorce already the same day doesn't work doesn't work but after all the insults where in one second you went from being the besty best guy in town to now he's going to ruin your life humbled you so I knew if you take out those stitches and you reso them in your new humble nature that humility will create the grace that's necessary so when you gave him the suit it came from humility automatically his liked it if you're going to help people whether it's by teaching lectures or reading a book or giving a CD or giving advice or whatever it is is if you're going to do it from humility good go ahead and do it because that alone will yield results but if you're going to do it for the sake of winning or for the sake of being right or for whatever other thing that you have this motivating you that's not the right place it's better not to do it at all because it's not going to yield the results that you want and it may weaken you worse than what you already started now the theal continues saying that if a person acquired knowledge one of the other reasons of why he has no reason in the world to be proud is because that newly acquired knowledge also gives him a newly acquired responsibility what is that responsibility says that if somebody learns Torah and does not share it with people it's like somebody who doesn't have a God why because Hashem is the one that wrote the Torah one of the main things that hasem teaches us through the tah is his character traits one of them is being gracious giving giving Hashem gives never gets no one gives anything to hasem you're MIT are for you your learning are for you your Torah is for you everything is for you nothing is for hem hm gets nothing from us now if a person learns this learns this toah the right way he learns that hasem is very gracious in essence you're supposed to repeat and emulate AEM so if you've learned T but you're still not gracious you're not sharing the Tor then it's like you're you're not you're somebody doesn't have a God so that's what says or says that a person that has acquired newly found knowledge has no reason to be proud because he now has a newly found responsibility which is to share that knowledge to teach other people in whatever form or another so having another job especially if you're not getting paid for it what are you so proud of now one of the things that helps a person is the stumbles that hasem puts in front of him we asked before why is it that Hashem makes sure that no matter how smart you are and how hard you try you're going to fall at some point you're G to make a mistake you're GNA violate the Mitzvah instead of uh you know doing the on the Rashi you'll do the on the which is not all instead of starting Shabbat at the right time you forgot that they went back an hour you violated Shabbat for a whole hour made mistake honest mistake we forgot instead of keeping this keeping that you made a mistake Hashem is going to make you make a mistake on purpose so the say one of the of the reasons that a does this and forces a person to fail is actually in order to protect them from themsel because once you see that your own wisdom your own knowledge your own learning failed you you now no longer have a reason to be arrogant as smart as you are you failed at some point and if you failed that means that you're flawed you're not as perfect as you thought sometimes you'll forget an and your own student will have to teach you that sometimes you'll misread something happened to me a couple of times I misread something a student of mine during a sh corrected me on one hand it makes me feel like I'm zero on another that didn't continue with this error for a long time but if you're trying to be ar again you don't want to you know you your your your chest is uh is puffed up you don't want to be wrong you tell the guy no no there's no way that you're right and I'm wrong will sometimes make you make a mistake intentionally just to Humble you because he likes your tah he values your Torah he doesn't want to lose it he wants you to continue climbing but he doesn't want you to continue climbing climbing climbing climbing and then becomes so arrogant that everything goes to nothing so he wants to once in a while get you climbing then have a bump in the road why because you made a mistake get up go again get up go again if you see a make a mistake there's nothing to make fun of there's nothing to even feel bad about that's actually indication he's going in the right direction he has God's protection is protecting him by making him fall once in a while not making him fall with major sin where it becomes a public desecration of hasem or something like that talk about he made a simple honest mistake simple honest mistake now the other tools that gave us is M and I'll give you a couple of stories of simp understanding what it means M what does it mean a person that has a Torah mind versus an average person a famous story of a couple came to Stein Shalom and a couple had a debate they needed D they wanted a rabbi to help them they had some money and the husband wanted to buy a fancy car the wife said um worried why is he worried worried about people going to see you're driving a half a million dollar car it's people going to look at us doesn't look good so okay no problem we're not going to get a divorce like people do today we're going to go to the rabbi whatever the Rabbi says that's what we're going to do today people fight they get divorced two days later people can't handle fights anymore they think that uh a marriage is a recreational activity so they go to the rabbi of Sidman says what's the problem he says oh my husband wants to buy a car it's a very fancy car he goes what's the problem with the car goes no it's it's it's a very fancy car it's very okay so you don't have the money no no we have the money okay so what's the problem buying the car so the wife says I'm worried about and uh so he looks at the husband he says you how many times you've completed the sh no no no I I didn't I didn't I'm not telling I'm a businessman oh you complete so how many all these you have 36 how many of them do you know by heart no no no I'm businessman I don't know by heart oh how many how many do you know by heart be one line how many Mish do you know by heart gu's embarrassed now he goes no no I I don't I don't I don't know any Mish by heart buy the car buy the car buy the car no one has anything to be jealous about that's that that is if you have no Tor you have nothing who's going to be jealous of you why they going to be jealous of some piece of metal that cost you a half a million dollars with some rubber on it they're stupider than you what they jealous of what do you have you have a piece of metal moves voom voom voom what what's the what what's the what's to be jealous if you have no Tor where you going to go in sh car can help you in sh no so what's going to be jealous of that's that t but that's only going to come from somebody that acquired Torah through toil and understands the value of it some of the that I know people look at them and they think wow he knows a lot of to wow he must have a very uh very Supernatural memory gifted person they don't understand what these people went through one that I know when I first met him I didn't know what his financial situation was all I knew is that he studied a lot of Tor he had a few kids and he was doing his best that he can M and the the the the income at the at the call 400 bucks a month learns 12 hours a day 12 hours a day $400 a month three four kids you can't do much with it so one day I don't know do conversation came up oh yeah no today it's a good day why what happened no I found some cookies in the bitet so I had some food for my kids so what no I had some food for my kids what do you mean you had food for your kids cookie what do you mean you don't buy cookies cuz no I had food for the kids I had cookies that's why I fed them I found in the big nobody ate them was leftovers so I fed the kid the cookies that's what he had to feed his kid that's it he founded in because people had a party there's a few three four five 17 cookies whatever it was that's the food for the kids why because I'm learning T and everybody's happy another time different person says when he was learning in New York was learning in New York people look at him today they think he's a computer they don't realize what he had to do for it he says when he was first learning he was so poor that after his stomach was pretty much growling to the point where he couldn't learn anymore he was late already at night he would look at the fridge to see if if there's anything left if there's a cookie left or some leftovers something so he could eat why because he wanted to learn toah he could have gone to work could have been a businessman smart guy no I want to learn toah I want to learn to another guy the Kil says that they need somebody to complete the sh I'm sorry to complete a m for p why because all of the all of the firstborn don't want to uh don't want to fast so you need to either uh finish a yourself or you have to attend a but something happened the guy that usually does it didn't do it they called him listen please can you help us what do you mean I have to finish m in one night okay he said says he studied all night until he was spitting blood why the public needed him to learn learn to now you go look at these people these are wow probably Born This Way wow they probably have their father must be a big Rabbi wow they probably have a special brain w no nothing special nothing nothing these people put their Blood Sweat and Tears literally to get to a group of men walk into a big elevator at the same time Shalom also walks into the elevator the elevator ride must have been long because it was one of those old elevators that takes a year and a half just to get from floor to floor and they see the r mumbling something and then start saying kadish out loud says everything okay oh no we just completed the sh what do you mean goes oh I have a sh I have an entire in my head that I review anytime I'm walking not the stuff that I learn in the no that's different I when any time I'm walking from let's say from the house to the that takes me three and a half minutes so during that three and minutes three and a half minutes I learned the the in my head and then on the way home it's another three and a half minutes so I learned a few more dep on the head and then I go to the uh Pharmacy that's another 15 minutes that's another few dep in my head and then I go to the doctor that's another eight nine minutes so now I'm in the elevator it's another few minutes and over time I've complete the sh so you guys ared at the right time I just completed the sh inside the elevator his daughter tells a story says that one time she saw y take out wine and a little cupcake he wasn't exactly a big eater he didn't have a uh Sweets she ABA what's the what happened goes oh I just completed the sh my 202nd time so I figured maybe I should eat something sweet to celebrate my 202nd time who knows how many times he finished it after that 202nd time people think they're a big deal when they do D and finish the sh one time in seven years you finish the sh one time you're a big deal but not really a big deal why finished it 202 times and he had a cupcake what's the sh thousands and thousands of the that just to understand one of them can take you weeks now what do you think it was easy for him you think he didn't spit blood you think he didn't uh toil day and night for it of course he toiled but anybody that came to him with a question he had an answer simple answer a lady calls one time in uh to shom's house says hi can you please uh can I speak to Fe please says no ma'am sorry but uh he's uh he passed away oh okay well do you have somebody else that can help me uh yes yes ma'am what can I help you she goes what time the Shabbat come in excuse me she goes what time the Shabbat come in guy answer the phone says oh it comes in at 6:15 today oh okay fine thank you she go wait a minute hold on a second the guy was curious go wait you wanted to ask Feinstein what time the Shabbat come in she says yes I've been doing it for 30 years every Friday I call him at the same time I ask him what time Shabbat comes in and he tells me what time Shabbat comes in the mosu of America is answering the phone a lady says what time Shabbat comes in he says no problem 6:15 why because she asked the question question you give an answer what what are you so proud of you have the answer you have the answer you're the lucky one now she has the answer she's as lucky as you she has the answer too you're at the same level you're the same level you know she knows 615 you know 615 you're in you're equals now but she doesn't agreed 615 feel bad don't be angry last couple things anybody here know the story that caused salant to in essence reignite the musar movement it's a fabulous story that at first it was hard for me to understand it you hear it a few times it hitch home so this is one of those stories maybe you want to rewind a few times there was a certain shoe maker in town that uh Jewish guy that uh for years just fixing shoes shoes shoes shoes what are you making a few put barely making ends meat but one day something worked out he invented something and he struck gold started making money got rich really quick after years of working barely making ends meat the guy that's the uh almost a beggar becomes one of the wealthy guys in town now anyone that knows wealthy people especially if they're second generation wealth way they didn't actually acquire it thems they're not exactly always very nice sometimes they're a little snobby I met a lot of them that's what I used to deal with now sometimes if your new money if your new money yeah you're not like us you're not like us it's like they hate you for no reason now he had a wedding and he wanted to invite all the other millionaires to his fancy wedding for for for his daughter to see what he made of himself now he's one of the boys so he made a really elaborate wedding he invited all of the other rich people to see that this he's not really the Sho maker anymore he's not really the Shoemaker Aker he's uh he's somebody so you see there chandeliers and there's all types of fancy flowers and there all types of parrots all types of wonderful amazing things it was like a jungle everybody comes in and they see wow what an elaborate wedding you know all these sound special effects but you know it's one guy he don't like it why he's one of those like no no no you're either born rich or you're not rich you can't join us he didn't like it so he decided to make a joke what did he do he took a shoe took off his shoe and he picked it up and he brought it to the to the shoe maker the millionaire he says let me ask you something my shoe if you look in my heel it's kind of it's not it's not it's not stable can you fix it for me the shoe guy multi-millionaire now inventor big donor was so embarrassed he got a heart attack and fell at his own daughter's wedding you're reminding him of his past to fix your shoe front of all these people when R salant heard this story he says that's it I'm opening a bet M says for the what's going to be there goes I'm going to teach people teach them ethics because yeah but these I don't know if they're gonna come these Wicked people they think they know everything looks at them like they have eight eyes goes what I'm not building the BET mus for these that showed them the shoe I'm building I'm building the BET mus for this poor guy that was a shoe maker but now thinks that he's somebody and he got off heart attack because somebody reminding him what he does him I'm building the BET Musa for to remind him that he's still nobody to remind him that there's no reason for him to be embarrassed why because somebody told you fix shoes what are you embarrassed of what's that of be embarrassed of well you have your because you have money you don't have money that changes who you are no for him I'm building it why cuz for him I have hope him I have hope the other people there's not hope for them them some sometimes also no hope for another type of person and we'll finish with this story theim says in his bookem in chapter six he says that there are certain people that are born with Talent memory or the are able to analyze questions they're inquisitive but they don't like to use that Talent they like to do what we call in uh in in Street language bus chops so what do they do says that the makes these people that have talent come into the bet midash and ask questions just to stumble people not because they want to know the answer just because they want to show that maybe you don't know anything maybe I asked a question you know there's a bunch of people a bunch of groups learning and they come they ask them oh what are you learning so tell me on page 32 it talks about who's the rabbi so really who who really is the rabbi ah you don't know ah think about that goes to the next guy what you think so new egg in the beginning of the it says do you uh do you pick up the egg on y you don't pick up the egg ah you haven't got that yet okay goes there hasem said he's gonna give him the present but did he really give him a present no come on ah you know starts asking questions all types of things confus everybody then leaves he doesn't really want to know the answer you guys have seen that sometimes somebody ask a questions and the questions aners but leaves in the middle of the answer you saw that sometimes they ask a question I want to answer okay you ask me answer I start answering they leave it the middle of the answer you ever see that that's that they ask the question they leave though why they don't want to know the answer they're not looking for they looking the bus shops the says he writes about those people says that the uses these people to go and stumble other people but in reality these people don't know anything meaning the guy that stumbled the people with the first question he actually doesn't know the answer the one that he stumbled those other people with the other question he also doesn't know the answer but he also knows they probably don't know the answer but he wants to make it seem like he asked the question that means he knows the answer he wants to make it seem like he knows something because he asked a clever question And even if he knows the answer to that that's the only thing he knows n million other things he doesn't know but he makes you think like you don't know anything and he knows more than you he asks the tough tough questions sometimes there certain questions there's no answer to or few people have it because not many people study it he likes to ask those questions just to show you don't know but pretend like he does that people in the Yeshiva World they call him he comes to the to the starts asking people questions just to create Havoc now the says but for himself he doesn't have anything meaning he doesn't actually possess any knowledge any wisdom any anything he's just confusing other people to think he does but in reality he doesn't have anything and in reality what does he have he has the sin of T because instead of to go learn he just went and just confused other people he has a sin of arrogance where even if he had would remove it from him he is considered in shamim like somebody that works for the Federal Reserve that prints money and has become an expert in deciding and determining whether the bills are fake or not why cuz he deals with a lot of bills you ever see any of these these videos of the uh moneymaking system in America they don't stop printing bills those printing machines they are like MIT they don't stop working they print money like nobody's business now the guys that work in those places I met one guy that worked there and he said they're literally around billions and billions of dollars every day that are being printed but also billions and billions of dollars that are coming in from the banks that are old bills that have to be determined whether they're or not if they're fake they're returned and the and the bank loses that money if they're real but let's say the bill is destroyed they issue a new bill and so on and so forth so there are certain people that are experts as determining whether it's fake or not because especially now with new technology it's become harder and harder to determine whether it's fake or not but there certain people that are real experts so imagine this guy he's become an expert and in determining whether the bill is fake or not he says he's an expert in looking at the bills but he makes it in his own mind he starts thinking that just because he deals with a lot of bills and he's an expert in determining whether they're real or not he starts thinking in his mind as if the bills are his those bills are not yours they're the governments they're the rich guys bills you just know you just have a skill you just have a talent that was given to you you have a job that was given to you you don't act that's not your actual money you go home without this money the money stays in the building you go go home to your little Shack the money doesn't go with you it's not your money yeah but I know so much about it so that's a person like this sometimes people have a specific Talent they have a sharp brain where they could pinpoint something you said and they could confuse you making you think that you know more or they don't know much and so on in essence that's the same thing they're only sinning and all of that comes from AR arance these are just some of the reasons of why hates arrogance regardless of where it comes from whether it's arrogance because of how you look or arrogance because of how much money you have or even arrogance that you would have from doing what he said to do which is to learn t a person is never allowed to be arrogant there's only one type of kosher Pride if you're fulfilling the will of hem like we learned about on Sunday if you're fulfilling the will of hem by helping other people fulfilling the will of hem by learning his Torah by doing his mitv with pride not being like one of these people that's looking for a discount he bought a house with 20 with 20 rooms but he wants to buy the uh the muza from eBay he doesn't know that some Chinese woman that knows a little bit of art wrote the muuza that's why it's $35 he has a 5060 $100,000 bar mitzvah for his kid you ask him so so you got for the kid there the kid arrives with a Harley-Davidson bike okay bike's cool but what about the for the kids called meaning he is now responsible for the what about his no we didn't have to get why not no I have something for my great-grandfather so I let him use it the fine have turned white that's how old they are but he want to save money on the sometimes you see guys arrive at the sh but they don't have a talit why don't you have a talit you're a grown man why don't you have a talit no the sh has a talit I'll use a from and if nobody has a talit so he doesn't have a everybody use talit already he arrived late he doesn't have a he just stands there with no talit he does he asked somebody do me a favor can I borrow you're grown man buy yourself AIT what is it a couple of hundred dollars you have a $5,000 watch on your hand you have a $50,000 car lot go buy yourself a couple hundred to no but when it comes to he's cheap he wants to get a discount he wants to buy the that's not really a to it's like a lemon goes to the guy 20 minutes before he Clos the shop right before S no no no no how much they talk now $20 ah it's expensive $5 no in 20 minutes it's not worth it anything no come on the poor guy doesn't have anything gives him that talk for $5 why cuz he knows in five minutes really there a you can't sbody talking about the starts already but he waits for that why he thinks he does a big mitvah by buying a he got a big discount that's the problem we spend a lot of effort to get discounts when we're not supposed to we spend a lot of effort on things we're not supposed to because instead of listening to we listen to the but the line between the two is sometimes difficult to determine the only way that we can know it is simply by seeing what the Torah says you have a question look at the Torah you have a in your life ask him you don't have one find one the key is to understand that Torah is not a tool for you to think that you're better than anybody else it's not a tool even for you to think that uh anything it's simply a guide for you to live your life if you have answers from this Torah that other people don't help them with it and get them to be on the same level as you if you have if you don't have knowledge to go buy the knowledge don't be cheap when it comes to MIT sometimes people you know have a fancy schy house but when it comes to education for their kids the kid needs a tutor tutor comes okay what do you want me to teach him I want you to teach him okay how much you charge oh charge 70 bucks an hour oh wow what you crazy $70 an hour what are you really doing for this kid $70 an hour what are you Lo Martin were you making missiles what are you teaching this kid $70 an hour what do you mean what is he teaching this kid he's teaching him how to get TOA if this kid actually becomes something you may go TOA also that's what he's teaching him to get a tutor for the kid if the tutor required a million dollars and you have it you should pay him if he's a good tutor to teach him to teach him teach him how to live as a Jew if it was a million dollars and you have you should pay it but that's what people don't understand why they have value for the things that are of this world zero for the value of the next World we have to understand thear says something critical we'll finish with this point says gives to people that are he gives wisdom to people that already possess wisdom so the question is how come he gives wisdom to the people that already have wisdom shouldn't he give wisdom to stupid people so they can catch up and be like the wise that's the question so answers the question he says to a person if you had a lot of money who would you lend the money to let's say you had millions of dollars and two people asked you to borrow $10 million would you lend a $10 million to somebody that has $10 million or would you give the $10 million to some homeless guy that doesn't have anything but he wants a chance who would you lend the 10 million to now every smart person would say I would lend a $10 million to the guy that has $1 million as kind as you may be you're never going to lend $10 million to a homeless guy never you may give him a 100 bucks because you feel good but you're never lending him $10 million why because you know that the guy that has1 million can pay you back the $10 million he's borrowing the guy that's homeless can't pay you back he's going to pay you back with your own money if he spends it you both lose he has nothing to lose you're not going to give him that he says that's how it is with those those people that possess wisdom they only possess wisdom because they love wisdom they appreciate wisdom they that why is they acquire wisdom if they acquire wisdom because they love it Hashem says don't know what to do with it when I give them even more the guy that doesn't have wisdom the woman that doesn't have wisdom it's not because she was born an idiot she chose to be she chose to watch Oprah Winfrey and Ellen De generous go save a bunch of monkeys in South America instead of watching a she chose to look at monkeys the other one chose to look at T the wise Hashem will give her more wisdom the one that wants to look at monkeys hasm will give her monkeys why because even if hasem gave her wisdom she doesn't know what to do with it why she's so used to monkeys she doesn't know what to do why she going to give the mon monkeys two bananas instead of one what she going to do with it that's the key if you want to give you even more wisdom than what you have now you have to show him you love wisdom loving wisdom meaning you have to study loving wisdom meaning you have to toil for it you have to make sacrifices for it and you have to pay for it why because your money is your life and if you put your life on the line that fulfills the says in page 62 that a person needs to sacrifice their life for the sake of tah it doesn't need to be the life mamash as far as them jumping off a bridge but sometimes money could replace your life because we spend our time get acquiring money so if to fulfill a Mitzvah is going to cost you $500 don't look for a discount look for a discount when you buy a car not when you're doing a Mitzvah don't look for the rabbi to give give you a discount on the uh whatever it is that he's you're doing for you don't try to negotiate the Miso to be a little cheaper the feeling to be a little cheaper oh this Aliyah is 5,000 no I'll buy the next one it's a little cheaper if you have it buy it why because it's worth it you're showing that you love his T you appreciate his T Torah is not a place you look for discounts many of these parents that are getting discounts from schools for no reason they have the money want a discount cuz they know they can take advantage of the school it's gazel if you don't have the money and you can't afford to send all your kids to the school and you need the discount no problem but if you have the money but you're just simply cheating the system you're not allowed to you're not allow to get a discount if you could pay the full fee you have to pay the full fee and you'll see the people that pay the full fee their kids turn out to be something sometimes the people that can't afford also their kids turn out to be something more likely than not but the people that cheat the system their kids always materialize to nothing why because it all comes from something bad lack of appreciation for so this helps us appreciate to a higher extent but even more importantly even if we are fortunate enough to acquire it one day not to get ahead of ourselves and to think that we're better than anybody else and look to help people instead of win helping people means you simply want to provide provide them information provide them help provide them something they don't have not necessarily win a debate or show them their wrong and this helps people that are trying to help people at least help them in the right direction amen amen [Music] oh [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] the a [Music]