How I Met My Kallah (The Real Story) A conversation with Volf Ber

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So, so on a on a more deeper level, I can say that I was looking for somebody that's fully in the box and I wanted somebody that's that uh knows how to criticize and be toxic and whatever and all these things. That's that's really what I wanted. Okay. And a lot of it's a bakant thing. A lot of people say they they're looking for some a tough woman or they're looking for a [ __ ] you know, like they want that I think that that's what I wanted on a deeper level. So, it took me time to adjust and understand that that's not what she is. She's just a good person. And on the surface, what I wanted was somebody that's that's a that's voiled that aligns with my values. Not so much about the material things. It's about the values. What do we value? Are we nice to other people? Are we responsible? Are we caring? Are we do we want to raise a nice sh? Do we want to have good kids? And and all of these things to me mattered. And and that's my number one message. I want to get straight to it to all the people that are looking for a shik and stuff. My best advice is and maybe I'm not ru yet to say advice, but at the end of the day now I am engaged. I can say that my best advice you certified exactly a little bit more. My best advice would be is to understand that it's possible that in what you're what you say you're not looking for is what you're actually looking for. You understand? Meaning some people are so closed off to go out and give a a person a chance. This girl gave me a chance. Yeah. I'm also different than every other person in her community that she's seen. >> She gave me a chance and I gave her a chance. Yeah. I didn't right away say, "Oh, you're from five towns. It's not going to work. I need somebody that speaks." I didn't say that. Give people a chance. I think that if people would adopt that, they would notice that in the thing that you that you're not looking for, in the person that you think that you're not looking for, there might be something for you that you are looking for. >> Yeah. Celebrities. It's [laughter] too but uh but at the end of the day you also married 20 years. skin. [music] >> [music] >> Destination [music] situation of business modification [music] transportation transportation 8454488 transportation >> 84544488 reach out to me from directly. The number is 34774 Mechi. That's 34774 63249. Mei >> so it's interesting because I want to stick to for a second. Wow. A superstar boy. Yeah. Superstar, right? Yeah. Unbelievable. Right. Picture perfect. I'm attractive. However, at the end of the day, reality. Yeah. challenge officially. >> Although for life. >> Wow. >> Yeah. It is um on an impressionable mind. Yeah. Yeah. By the end of the day, because Yeah. >> Zero [ __ ] zero games. Like, and if he doesn't agree with you, he'll let you know. >> Yeah. You have to let the guy know his food. Yeah. Um yeah, special is important in Judaism. This is important form of the most popular book. The most popular book is the Yeah. So the is basically entry cards in heaven. The sand of the beaches. This is claim to fame. Anti-semitism anti-semitism are different. are equal. Yeah. And as days within nothing around us could touch us, >> right? So confusing. Wow. Family nature ocean. Yep. And yeah, the fact out of town local exactly. >> Thank you. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. I I was thinking the exact same because knew how very well how to do that. how to see a person for who they are. He never asked who are you, where are you from? It was never this questions and I I think he would be very very proud. Like uh and there's there's like they they look up to it. They respect it. They tell me, "Wow, you got a good girl." And and uh and that and that and that's beautiful, especially with the journey and the waiting. >> Wow. So to to finally bring that journey to to a close or to a start is is beautiful that I I feel so gifted and so and I always wanted that. I always felt like when I do get engaged I want to feel very good and happy about where I am, who I am and with who I am and and that's how I feel. So I'm very excited. >> You just mentioned that you were in Shadikhan for 10 years. Were you in Shadikhan for 10 years or you were a Bukhar for 10 years? So I was a Bukha for 10 years. >> Shadikim eligible age. >> Yeah. So I was a Bukha for 10 years. I did not expect to even go into shadikim. I just basically the way it works by yeshiva st after pis you come back to yeshiva you're allowed to get engaged. So before I knew it in the first month of yeshiva after you were allowed to get engaged 40 of my friends were engaged. It's almost a third of the class. >> Wow. >> The next thing I know is I'm getting phone calls. Hey, we have this girl for you. You want to go out? You have this girl. >> Multiple choice. >> Yeah. And the first girl they read to me was a very nice girl from SC. Like a They had a lot of money, a nice family, a pretty girl, the whole like the full package. So without even knowing what is, without even knowing what I am, who I am, how I feel about the whole thing, I I was in shadikim. Now I'm also I'm not going to choose a side. I'm not going to say if that's a good thing or not because was >> irrelevant. >> It's irrelevant like Kenzan I could have done it that way and that would have worked because for some people it definitely does work. Um, but I am grateful that this is how it went for me because I feel like >> and that's when I got engaged to her and the amount of conversations that we had or even disagreements or arguments or or or I wouldn't call it fights but like more serious conversations is incredible. So to be able to go into an engagement marriage and marriage like this is to me I think a lot makes a lot more sense than the typical you meet once or twice and you go and again there's a middle way also but Yeah. [laughter] >> Yeah. I am 28. Just turned 28. Devok remember a day. >> How's it? What a birthday present. >> Yeah, exactly. Exactly. From God. And uh so either way, I'm going to make when I am, you know, in my high 40s at least. >> That's my take it easy. >> Yeah. But I am I am looking forward to that. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> So I don't want to steal the show. >> Yeah. developments. Yeah. You share the basics. Yeah. >> Is office/ studio. >> Okay. >> Cuz I realized I got to get out of the house. Kendra whenever building. >> Yeah. >> So, let's do a deal. >> Mhm. content is reality is automatically building a market. >> Correct. Well, to have an ongoing benefit to keep a good feeling about giving content. >> Yeah. As I mention Oh, wow. >> I understand. But Yeah, >> but especially ongoing relationship relationship. >> Yeah. >> So office building of Lakewood Road. Yeah. for [laughter] a double and in balcony. >> No way. >> Unbelievable. The office equality for success. Low expectations. some [laughter] >> which is it's going on for so long already. >> Yeah. >> So the excitement >> but shvita is happening. >> Okay. >> And the spread shita spread >> which is made out of the smoked chvita. >> Right. And I introduced now a new product which is it's mulakita. It's a shvita salad. It's made out of cured shvita but it's different. It's cured entirely different. A different recipe, a different method. I don't know. Yeah. Sensitive on the stomach for a lot of people. The taste to the taste fishure under color texture undermeck and underest. >> Wow. >> Yeah. Funny because foreign. Yeah. manufacturing facility upfront funding was by chance obviously by chance and listen how it happened around the mult to like the spreads in the stores and nobody took. Nobody saw what you saw. And the owner from Oh. The kid said he didn't make an impression like a businessman. He didn't make an impression like a person who has money. I I don't know him. >> Yeah. >> So you judge a book by the cover. And in my mind, and I totally didn't give him the credit that he deserved. >> Yeah. >> The respect that he deserved. And we had a very nice conversation. I didn't feel like I'm going to have any benefit from the guy. >> Yeah. >> As a matter of fact, >> yeah. >> And at the end, after a week of trying all the different ways, it hit me. Yeah. Whatever. But it's happening. >> Wow. >> I signed contract with the distributor. Master city is distributed. Wow. And obviously we got to roll it out strategically, but on >> Wow. >> Yeah. So a is a chance for success, >> right? It's so beautiful. And I will just mention excited is because it was 41 going on. 42 like nobody else. However, Ky execution, logistics, distribution, collections, billing, customer service in tie down agitated as the manufacturing logistics quality. distribution in the boxes and weaknesses eliminating the weaknesses successful. Um the top of the Yeah. Don't start focusing on your shortcomings. I like it. Shine and Yeah. So excited because since the day I started working which is 22 years. >> Yeah. But so the fact that the outlook the forecast this alliance >> wow so this that's what's up that's what's up excited and I no fang Baby steps in my life personally, spiritually. And I feel like I'm wasting time. I feel like Yeah. >> Yeah. So, so in my content market handle Yeah. Yeah. Agree. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Back off. Yeah. in. So is uncomfortable compliment. Yeah. Thank you so much. Yeah. [laughter] But uh but we um we have been self consumed vacation. Only way to get over something is to go through it. >> Yeah. I'm going to open house in 8th grade. I'm looking for a high school. >> Yeah. recipe for disaster. Wow. So schools and open house and fish and pamas and don't wear your but just because you're going into a different environment you don't have to lose who you are embrace who you are pick the best in the environ Yeah, 100%. I I on that I can share I can say that I felt like there were so many in the past and they where the whole conversation was about the you remember what used to say >> I love the beast honey thank you you remember used to say if somebody asked about the hit you know >> I don't need your back >> so I felt like So many of the it was all about the hit and the guy and but he's on social media. How many girls profile? Oh, I know him. He's famous. He's not for me. If that's that's what how they categorized me. Oh, as famous. You couldn't look past my personal business that happens to me made me a very successful person like if you can't look past that because the people that do know me know how private and personal I am like meaning public is about my career and who I am in person and how I am with my friends and how available I am to them is something else. So in this here I met a family and a girl that have no questions about what I wear, how I wear it. They never look at it. They never >> rest of them jacket. >> Yeah. >> So I think that I think I can definitely relate that every person should be proud with uh with who they are and how they are. And I think that sometimes when you're taking aid within your own community, there's more questions. I think there would have been situations and I know there's certain whatever meaning so there's and of course there are families where I could have gone into family and nobody would ask that but I'm saying package and it's important to be proud with who you are and how you are and I think that that's something that I was able to find somebody that fully accepts me for who I am like the real me without the fame without the career, without the outsides, what I wear just for me as a person. That's what I feel with my that's what I feel towards her. Like I I feel like I truly accept and love this person no matter what she does, how she does it. It's about her. >> Wells in any relationship to accept the other person for who they are. No, >> I feel like it's very important to point out progress when progress is made. [laughter] >> Exactly. Yeah. Thank you. >> Wow. Wow. Baker. >> Oh, controversial. You're seeing an issue with schools. problem. I don't think I'm not even so controversial. >> Okay. Obviously. >> Okay. >> Crazy doing what? Yeah. develop and nobody skipped a beat. [snorts] Nobody is really in touch. the is connected device Access anything because Wow. See technology is good. Technology is an opinion include reality in the divide educator. iron wallology access there goes the relationship But my point is she's a superstar cle intelligent idle in she does good in school but the preaching was teaches agitated Yeah. And the value daily lives. guide. for realiz and so young school. I felt like I went to Israel like Yankee went to Israel and he became like free man and he could do whatever and did beautiful >> she felt like she's in a place where she could be accepted where she could be she doesn't have to play she doesn't >> the school values values >> wow >> so my goal in life is in the short term. My goal in life for Anakinder is for them to be healthy. >> Yeah. >> Productive, successful humans. >> Yeah. >> And of the long run. >> Yeah. Nothing wrong with whatever. >> Yeah. >> But of Instagram% this is ridiculous >> 100%. So because was was values and many of the values in in veganism is not really explained yet possibly the most listened platform but mentioned value to adopt another acceptance. in background was and how it worked for me. Maybe I I'll suggest and I'll say be a little bit more open-minded but man values and on a day-to-day life man is a healthy mench I do want to work out. I do like to go swimming. I do enjoy a cold plunge, a meditation, a breath work day. They enjoy value and my hope is that people listen to this, they see it and they can decide for themselves. mention affect. So by the school it's not it's not about school. Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> In school, but in general in public school business, they don't want you to do business. So, I'm saying that is appreciate the podcast because mention entrepreneur feelings entrepreneur. a successful feelings. It says okay value do I lock up my feelings or do I share my feelings value in life it's a it's important in relationships relationships it's weak for a man to share the crybab so she's not going to tell the husband is scary so I'm proud and grateful that I can I have this platform we can share values was can apply and a yay dime down the line that can be helpful to every person and probably that's why feel so connected to me and I and I appreciate it and I feel you guys and that's that's really you know the music switch it aroundion and that's how I feel right Now I made it in business. I'm successful. Webber media is doing very very well. Signed up literally this week alone I signed up three and four new clients. Like I'm hiring and I'm and I'm bringing on clients and it's amazing. Bashem and uh we do social media management help that was mentioned for businesses LinkedIn, Instagram. It's amazing. I'm very grateful for this business. But the main thing that I want to do is to help people to help people in any area like many podcast relationships. I want people to know a little bit relationships part one and two 15,000 views just a few lines mentioning for this I'll And I think that it's so true my my mention what I plea is and especially system red mention It shouldn't be about you all the time. No. >> Exactly. Do you know what he's what demons he's battling? Can you even understand generation or just apply a dietitual connection? I got fired up. [laughter] >> I really care for people. I'm sorry. Hold that thought a second. The phone calls. I get the phone calls almost every day and probably you do as well. Struggle in ignorant. Please release the ignorance to let go of the ignorance openminded and openminded mind bottom line. Okay. So is please let's do that. mentioned on pure health mention level. Yeah. the right benefit for my in mind. >> I was just going to say they said they said the value >> they said the value of the also mentioned look at how you care for your daughter. >> It's not about you. It's not about her. It's about her. Kind of imposing values of Wow. However, Thomas says the skin's vague. There's no reason he should change once a question. You got to watch out what you're doing. You got here inure is as health and it's all about your relationship and in And for the next doing the right thing is one thing. Seeing results is another thing. You just got to keep it simple. foreign. Yeah. Amen. imposed benefits of create resentment in the opposite direction. >> Yeah. for alliance. Yeah. and unfortunately most of the time it's parents. >> Yeah. Out of good intention. >> Good intention. >> [laughter] >> 100% close people that I know the days but in the end I found my through Instagram. So, you like check there's a there's a chance that you're wrong. There's a chance there's a chance that you're doing wrong. Have you Have you checked your own self? of Dame and the mitzvah and the morals and the values. abundance. Yeah. Whenever somebody criticize you legitimate reason. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. [laughter] Spread them salad and elevates meals. Okay. >> Yeah. It's good. >> The final thing that I want to say is that acceptance. Acceptance towards acceptance towards is in life, you know, going with the flows. Accepting for a specific reason. So accepting really of what is I think that that's the one mentioned which was that health I accept my relationship. I'm happy with my relationship status because I know that God is in control. Single married relationship. I'm happy with my relationship status because I know that God is in control. when I met her from the message. So acceptance of what is challenges a bad relationship but I'm saying to accept what is story reason on behalf of love happiness Amen. Amen. Thank you for the rest of happiness, health and love. Loveaged unfamiliar. criticism single. It was a big challenge and she helped me through it. says, "Okay, take your time." Vulnerable one engaged. It was very hard for me and she was able to handle it, you know, like you can't handle. So thank you for green album freaking superstar talent. >> Yeahention is highly right. V music was relevant was the ying and the fal identifying it mala mala. >> Now this is my favorite song. >> I decide to be. >> Yeah. Shout out to and shout out to the Good good people. So yeah. >> Yeah. It's called >> is the way of life. Nature the nature food shelter. This is >> Wow. Wow. >> [laughter] >> Like, share, and subscribe information in the description. Bonus footage. If you sign up, it's $10 a month. Supports the channel. Health can a bunch extra videos. Yeah. 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