How I Enjoyed Yom Tov 2024—Yes, You Can Too! 😮

welcome to another episode of positivity this episode's a little bit different it's a solo episode uh where I'll just try to share some of my experiences that maybe you can relate and it can be exciting let me know in the comment section if you enjoy these type of episodes if you think we should do this episode something like this once a week it will really help me out to know where we are going reminder to please um subscribe to the channel uh leave a comment that helps us out out like the like the episode and please share it with a friend whether you're listening on YouTube or on Spotify apple or any other of the other streaming platforms um today's topic is about P it's a few days before pis and I know for me uh there was there was a lot coming up before p and that's that's something that happens in in every other Y and every other religion as well you know by uh in the non-jewish world it's you know Christmas there's a lot of things that come up and people have anxiety and people have stress and people have to meet their families where they're spending more family time and they're getting to take a deeper look at their lives and that's exactly what happens with us in CL Ru that we come to yv and it it kind of forces us to make a little bit of a setback there's for some there's less work for some there's more work but it gets to make we start making a little bit of a calculation of what's Happening especially it comes to two days without no distractions there's a lot of thinking going on there's a lot of change going on and it triggers a lot of different people in many ways I can talk for myself for me it was a very heavy uh yv up until uh a few years ago where I right away was ready and expecting the the chaos and the stress and the discomfort of the yont but also some anxiety and fear um and for some people the anxiety is real because there is let's say if they're single and they don't have where to go or if they're older single they're you know never married yet they also they're they're thinking if they should stay home if they should go away some families have the entire family goes away some some people in the family want to go away some don't a lot of things happen where people can can face now anxiety and new challenges um and I was going to say that there's two types of people you know the person that is just completely doesn't really care how they feel and they just they you know that I got this kind of person and the person that isn't tuned and he does feel and it it it becomes for him very emotional and he prepares for it and and stuff like that but really there there aren't only two types of people there are 8 billion types of people and and in in in our community there is there is a million types of people and and people listening to this there probably 10,000 people listening to this and everybody has their unique story so it's very difficult for me to relate to everybody but I'm not trying to do that I'm trying to say the story of one person of how I dealt with these challenges what what it meant for me and how I was able to fix it to be in a place where I'm very calm and excited and happy to go into yont with the what I think it really resembles and how I will deal with my feelings and emotions um in the next few days so um my my personal story was exactly as I described in in in the in the intro over here that it was a lot of stress and anxiety coming up um I'm I myself am single so right away I can go to that kind of victim place where I say wow it's y of time I wish I was with a wife and and kids and have my own home and just do you know do the things that I that I love doing and what you know just just getting that's basically being in my head and creating a certain scenario that if that was the scenario everything would be better but I I I came to learn very much that that is completely not the case and it's not true so on a physical level we might have a challenge a single might have a challenge of where they're going for yant um but on a mental level this shouldn't be a challenge um I I noticed for myself that I have to know that where I am right now is exactly where I'm meant to be and this is perfect and not just because other people are married with kids and have a own their own home and they're not happy on y but also because because I I truly believe that this is what's best for me there is an experience over here there is something there's something better there's a better place where I can shift my personal energy to and have a very good time over yantv and and that that brings me back to to to to to gratitude which is that if if we are grateful if I'm grateful for where I am in my life then none of the outside things really [Music] matter so I had the opportunity this morning I Journal every day I had the opportunity to journal and I never thought I'll share things in my journal but just to give you a little bit of of uh of a concept of how I reprogrammed for myself what a of means okay so I wrote These two two pages um and I I I I I I wrote that I might have a part of me that hates this time of the year a of P but I'm also excited to see what will come up in those days what thoughts feelings and emotions um the the the pressure the yelling the mess the stress situations um that kind emerge for myself as from as a child but now that I'm an adult there's a new sheriff in town and a new story about this y of it's the Y of freedom and not stress it's Sean where I celebrate the success of the winter and the excitement for the summer to come and this was another thing that I I discussed already um rashash time with my personal therapist and you know I I came to notice that all this pressure that we have around yont is really it's not it's not our own pressure it's just a buildup of pressure that we have growing up for every individual parent what they felt or what they taught their children and for some it was the right way for some it wasn't for some kids it was the right way for some kids it wasn't they needed a lighter more more open perspective so while now as an adult of course for most people they they they kind of get it or they have their own style figured out but subconsciously there's still something happens in their body they they still hate this word or this time or or the energy that they're feeling and they don't even know where it comes from and this is this this is why you should feel all these feelings because now you have the chance to reprogram it for yourself for your family for your spouse for for for your future for your own future to come allow all these feelings to come up so that you can rewrite the story if the story for you a of P was that from after PM you couldn't take food into the dining room into the bedroom and there was pressure you had to clean and you have to your entire room was turned over you had to eat your your your meal and the in the in in the in the hallway and you were yelled at and you couldn't eat anything or there was it was limited and it was completely pressurized and everybody was yelling and scream whatever if that was the story sorry that that was your story but it's time to write a new story you're the own author of your life you write your story so rewrite the story for what it means for you in the perspective of what what what can you honor is it the family time is is it the freedom is it the Y of do you enjoy getting a a new Becka new clothing a haircut um and for me personally I decided to make it a time where I just reflect it's the end of the winter beginning of Summer yeah that's always going to stay the same and so for me it's about celebrating the winter and about getting prepared for a summer that I believe is going to be just extraordinary and beautiful so reprogram the story and anytime a feeling within you comes up an uncomfortable feeling or thought or emotion allow that in allow it feel that so that you can reprogram it and and and heal to to get to something that you do really enjoy okay now um so I wrote I get to rewrite my story and celebrate this I get to celebrate this what the is about which is is which is freedom and I I I can't remember I I don't think freedom is discussed enough growing up and and that's okay I I I don't think most malom get the concept of of Freedom so why should they talk about it and again love to all or not um but you know Freedom what does what does freedom mean I can say what it means for me Freedom means free from from from my subconscious mind my bad subconscious mind free from the opinions of people free to be able to do whatever I want whenever I I want it uh um of course within the boundaries but not to belong to not to be not to stand in my way of my own freedom and not to and not to have definitely not to have somebody else stand in the way of my freedom of my choices of my of what I want to do so if you think about what this y resembles it's just beyond beautiful no it doesn't resemble the screaming and and yelling the common joke that you know we have all the the the makas and the tus and the pressure so that when y have come we feel like it's a real Gila we get to sit and and enjoy a little bit you know but that's not true it shouldn't be that way it shouldn't be that we go through a goulas every year for a month before yont so while a two-day y with no distractions can bring up thoughts feelings and emotions I'm actually excited to see what will come up regarding being single um you know like I said while there's a physical challenge for some with placement where they're being the mental challenge can be avoided and should be avoided in my opinion um so I want to allow myself to be a victim um to my own mind and I will feel grateful and happy and excited with accepting of where I am and that this is what Hashem wants for me so I detach from everyone's story and attach to my own um and this is what I just described but this is also what I wrote in my own personal Journal um so I'm going to again break it down to three main parts that you can take out right now um so that you enjoy this yub okay um number one um this I wrote for myself so you can apply it for yourself if you want I will stay grateful for what I have and not resentful for what I don't have so yes while this time of reflection is upon us and everybody's you know you're thinking back what did I have this winter what am I going to get this summer I'm I'm I'm I'm feeling grateful I'm grateful for my journey for my health for my family for my business my career this podcast the listeners the friends that I have I'm grateful and I'm not going to allow my mind to go to places where it's going to say yeah but you could have maybe had this and you could have maybe had that um because I came up with this beautiful quote this morning which is if I can't appreciate the the the things that I have right now in the moment I will never be able to appreciate the things that I wish for right now okay think about that for a minute if I can't appreciate the things that I have right now I will never be able to appreciate the things that I wish for right now that's very scary imagine that I tell you that no matter what you're going to get in your life you won't be able to appreciate it well that's where some of us are right now you have so many things in your life but our mind is constantly looking for more things so we're not appreciating what we have right now we're just thinking oh it's yff coming up I'm single it sucks well it does suck but there is there anything that you could be grateful for how about something that you wanted a few months ago and now you have it so I'm literally just talking to myself so to all those people that say yeah he doesn't get me but I have this Challenge and I have that challenge I know there's I know there are many out there like that but um I can talk for myself I am grateful for the things that I have I'm not going to allow this y when the Yahara is trying to come in and tell me that uh think about this and think about it and do an assessment on your life and and look it sucks look look you're sitting here by the table and everybody is happy you could also be happy no no I am I am happy I am going to be happy um because I'm grateful for the things that I have I'm grateful for my health I'm grateful for for so many beautiful things that I have and I know that with this gratefulness energy that's the only way that I can continue to grow and enjoy my life no matter what I get or don't get but I I want to stay in this gratefulness energy so this time of the year when it's when it is a little bit challenging I believe is the perfect time to work on it so I'm excited okay um the second thing I wrote is I I will find joy in my space and my freedom and I'll find my peace my purpose I'll enjoy my own uh books and insights so which means that um a little bit like I said before just confront just changing your beliefs creating that space for yourself what is something that you can enjoy this yant you know it is you're going into two-day y right 48 hours for for for most people don't use their phones and stuff like that right so what do you do all those hours are you just gonna think and sit and think I'm such a neb I'm such aun I could have been there could have been no create something that you can do decide uh something that you will work on uh buy yourself a book make a challenge to read that um say to H for whatever do do something that actually makes you feel fulfilled on purpose find something that you can that you can celebrate that you can hold on this y of it could be the smallest thing but you create the meaning for it if not then you're living with a meaning and that somebody else created for you or an old meaning that you don't really enjoy unless you do enjoy go ahead okay so create yourself meaning and the third thing that I that I uh wrote is I can't read what I wrote but um I oh I will find Joy am I oh this I said already um yeah that's basically what I wrote so again to sum it up detach from the old stories um stay grateful and create your own story create your own your own idea and and and and purpose um lastly I want to say that I I I I clearly understand not everybody's on the level where they completely have everything figured out and they and they journal and they made their list and they and they have a a person to speak to and and all of that and for some straight up right straight up it's just it's just difficult it's a difficult y it's it's a long y it's 8 days and it's there is no distractions and and people have kids single mothers single fathers bam all the even married people some people are married with a wife and kids and they still don't enjoy it during the year it's very good to get distracted they work all day and they just come home for shabas and they it's one day and they just but it comes Y and they get triggered from all sides their deepest insecurities come up their deepest anxieties deepest fears it sucks it really really can suck for a lot of people okay because not everybody's on the level where they they take a step back and they look at it and they feel clear right now and they feel uh uh the energy and excited no for some people it is really challenging and to those people I want to say I'm sending you my love and know that you're not the only one that's CH that's that's that's hurting or going through a challenge know that you're not the only one that has a difficulty with their own feelings and thoughts and emotions um and and I can't say for you that it's okay but I can say for myself Ellie it's okay when you feel these thoughts feelings and emotions I'm actually to share with all of you I I actually do feel like I'm in a I'm in a great space um the last month or two and before that I was in a very dark place so that's why I could relate to how some people will will can feel in a situation like this um so therefore I'm I'm I'm sending you my love and I hope that you really get to enjoy this y like I said for what it is for the freedom that it is for your own freedoms Freedom freedom from from uh from your own self um and as as my good friend told me last year um you know P resembles the the fact that everybody can go out of their M everybody can go out of their whatever is holding them back whatever is keeping them locked up whatever is whatever feeling they have that they that they need to get their freedom and for some it is for some it is a spouse for some it's money for some it's health for some it's Clarity everybody has their own things so I wish you that you should be able to get those things easily happy and healthy with clarity with love and joy with peace um and and uh you should have all the the blessings upon you and thank you again so much for listening I appreciate you