How can you Love the people you don't Like? A TANYA CLASS BY RABBI YITZCHOK MINKOWICZ

alright so let's talk basically we're going to be having a Tonya class and will do is we will start from the beginning and go through the book but I'd like to just start from the middle for today and the reason is i want to give you like a little image map of where we're going with this overview yeah well more like i love it oh you more like a destination you know what to go to go what to go to go what the goal is and i think that will give us a very good perspective about you know about Tanya so Tanya happens to be it's the recall the the Bible of mysticism in the Habad world and it's interesting that the way just as brief introduction way tanya was actually put together was you know the alter rebbe the first combat Robbie he was a you'd call a modern-day you know spiritual guru or you know a spiritual healer and people would come to him literally from all over the world to seek you know Council and he would counsel them based on the teachings of Kabbalah mysticism and as more people start to come to him guess what happens no time to really you know address everyone in their needs so comes along the outer bearings you know guess what I didn't really want to write this down you know in writing but I see we really have no choice so I'm going to put together you know a book a book of my thoughts and into into writing and in the introduction which will do when we do the introduction he makes a request of all the students that have studied you know mysticism depth that even though you know it's a book the benefit of book is that you don't to say have to wait in line you can always have it handy in every single room in every single house and work you can always have the book and but now the one you know could really comprehend the book so therefore he's asking students that have studied in depth you know people come to this discuss with you and ask you advice you know based on what they read so obviously you should try to you know to help them now tanya is basically a very very deep complex study and it really you know point I want to make is that you know up until I study Tanya you know a lot of things I never understood really well a lot of things bothered me and it really was like a transformational shift in really being able to understand myself and being able to understand other people and answer a lot of questions you know difficult questions that I've had as a youngster and it really has been a tremendous eye opener and obviously wants you you know you study time user base from there you can go on to study many many other things now what I mean to say is like this you know one of the revolutionary breakthroughs a tiny introduces is as follows and by way of introduction to the Directioners is as follows there's something in which we all know that you want to make sure a system is true system is true so how do we know it's true so we all know that the Torah was given to us by God and the toy that was given to us by God it's called the torch back south main stage was written down God struck the Moses it was written down and ever since then anytime you write a Tory if the right you copy from a previous tours and you you monitor to make sure there's no mistakes and this way you make sure there's 100% authentic so the tour is considered the Bible and it's something which can be changed or altered it's like almost impossible because you know the readers reading in shabbat we makes a mistake what everyone having how much making catch him on it so there's no there's no way you can slip anything in or you can pick anything out and say they even computer check it and so on and so forth now the talmud on the other hand originally was written it was only those only be able to study orally the benefit that people will get the study the downside was that obviously they can leap a stick things in but but the the checks and balances was that you always have to go back and try some actually to the five books of Moses now in the five books of Moses it's a powerful godly book in a sense that when you study it you can study it and every time you study you'll find new treasures in there it has you know magical infinite way of growing by leaps and bounds now when you study with the five books of Moses so first of all this you know four different so to speak we say before different lenses you know you have a clear lens you pink lens of blue lens of red lens so when you study the five books of Moses there's literally like a certain like sort of at attitude or way of thinking four different way of thinking one is something which is called chopped simple simple understanding of it the other one is REM is more like you know like different hinz and codes etc josh is more like homiletic you know interesting stories etc and then there's so to speak which is called soul which is a secret the secret of the Torah so in other words so the secret to the tone what does that mean that means anything that you study in Tanya or in anywhere mysticism you'll be able to trace it back to the secrets of the Torah so everything is based on a version of Torah so the Tanya comes in with the revolutionary idea again which is all trace back there tomorrow and he brings the sources when we do that chapter will do one death but just for today's dimension it is the fact is that every single Jewish person has an animalistic soul and a godly soul and again when we do Tanya those chapters you'll see in depth the structure of the soul and so on and so forth but the point is every single person has an animal salt and a godly soul now what does that mean practically what that means it is what's a soul what is the soul a soul is basically the the spiritual the spiritual life force that we have and that's the driving force almost like the basically the engine to a car so in other words every single person operates with a twin-engine a twin-engine you have an engine that drives your animal soul your animal instinct which basically survival and as if you wanted a walk from here to the other room wherever it may be if you don't have the engine how you going anywhere you're not so the neshamah the animalistic soul is basically the engine that will drive you from point A to point B and we all have that without that we can't move we all have that now the engine the animalistic engine is not bad it's animalistic mean to say is it's after survival it needs to eat it needs to drink obviously needs a house transportation and so on and so forth the definition of this engine is you ever see an animal like a cow any type of animal right when it walks has it walk where's the face facing facing down what does that mean facing down so even though that's its structure but spiritually what does it mean when it faces down the only thing a thinks about is itself itself it thinks about itself it does not think about anyone else the only way it will actually think about someone else is if there's a vested interest for themselves so if you want to take an animal and have to do work it's not going to do the work it's going to do the work one or two reasons either you're going to beat it so it doesn't want to get hit more or you're going to feed it the negative of the positive but only you stop feeding it stops working you stop harnessing if it stops working that's the way an animal works that's the and we each have that got that animal soul within us so we each have within us let's think the godly so we'll get to the guard lease on a minute we each have within us an animal soul it means we want the animals all to move you feed it it could be food it could be honor it could be money other pleasures anything so why is it doing it very simple it's called feeding the meter you see the meter the meter runs doesn't mean bad and good it just it could be that it could be good it could be neutral the point is it is self-centered okay now if God gave us an animal soul that'll be fine but God gave us a second engine and that is called what the GAVI sold this godly saw that God gave us is godly what does anybody's called Li what's the driving force sonic carrot it's not money sound on it what is it that love gobby it basically will do whatever is godly intent is it means anything that's in the Torah anything that's a mitzvah anything to help somebody anything to make godliness more felt in the world I think it's a godly act it's on a high so certain people get on a heart the animals will gets on a high from a good piece of food or could drink the godly soul gets on a high from helping somebody from connecting to God from cleaving to God so here you have two engines in how many buddies one is your 11 body problems you have one set of hands one set of feet one head one mind right woman heart so who is a neat for exact you have a car right every car usually has one steering wheel who's the driver of the car one person you have two drivers can't you have two drivers convention we had two drivers right and one was a teenager and one was no one who fits that category but let's say a senior citizen over the age 65 right there she has over someone over 65 that lived his life he's relaxed right I just want to go too fast right and you have two people two people in the car the teenager and the senior citizen sitting in the car and they both want the wheel they both want the wheel now while you both want the wheel because the senior citizen wants to go slowly the speed limit is 50 32 right now does look like anyone's here well we're on to that right yeah right so they want to go slowly no while turns you know a normal ride is not in a rush if we get to tomorrow it's also good you don't forget that today right you don't takes five minutes to get there there's no rush a lot a lot of patience teenager can't wait to air right now the problem is one steering wheel and they each appreciate strongly the way they drive they both want the wheel now if the in the car versus that just instinct to senior citizens no problem be a beautiful ride two teenagers also a beautiful ride two different two different experiences but it'll be a beautiful ride the problem is you put two different people with different worlds of agendas in the same car and they both want the wheel guess what each and every one of us has that within us each and every one about each ever has had within us think about that and once I learnt that that was like that was like the biggest breakthrough I've had from spiritual breakthrough I realized why some days I wake up I'm an excited to go to use visa and some days I want to sleep in and so many examples that you can all you know relate to your own personal lives and I understood people like why one day you know someone's always in while the one dating guy is like normal and behavior right because you think people are like schizo right you don't realize that people have a lot to deal with they have two forces powerful forces we're not talking up a Civ forces we're talking a too strong powerful forces within you within each and every one of us they both want to grab that one wheel and who gets the wheel of it gets burlier programs that are whoever can force the other one out whatever it may be so Tania basically as introduction in the first two traps netanya introduces these two souls and goes into it length which we're going to go back when the study in depth because it's really important to know who we are because commanding now you know you are oh you say oh that's the animals are dogging it's the galleys all talking okay and then once you know who you are and you know the expressions of it the way it infiltrates in your mind in your thought in your speech in your action again time you goes through at length which we're going to go through step by step but i figure around they give you like a big picture today so you can have an outline of the map and then we're going to take pieces i want to go to it in depth and it's really profound because it literally chose you who we are first of all a lot of things we don't even know we had them a lot of things we didn't mean OH who knew that you had to go out two souls within you and they're both fighting for one wheel I mean these are this like breakthrough ideas and either way out it's true once a person figures out who he is now we can start living you can at least choose to live now you can lose choose to live so and here is where so to speak we called the test what is the test to see if you ultimately can create the balance what I mean to say is like this the reality is that the godly soul is not going away and the animals are not going away and throughout life it's a struggle we want to be more godly but the other hand we canna Cano in other words the senior says and knows he cannot ignore a teenager because he's the future the teenager knows he needs the senior citizen because that that's basically who brought him here that's who's basically giving him his whole life so another was like this the godly soul needs the animal song why no animal soul no engineering goes from here to there the animal soul really wants to godly soul because when he has the godly soul and think guess what he feels happy if he has a piece and it feels connected so they really each need each other and how do you make it work and it's really a struggle according to tiny it's a struggle every single day every single hour and sometimes every moment then tiny comes along says okay the reality is where's the play out where's the play out so it plays out a in your level of joy and there's a whole big section which we're going to get to in the process of how a coin titania it shows you how a person can really really and sincerely experience true inner happiness true true and a half and when a person experienced in our happiness it's the biggest gift I'm not talking external happens coming from something external now here is where the interesting part is just like we have the god lease on the animals so from within now guess what throw into the mix you married to your spouse you have kids parents friends neighbors people in your community associates you know business acquaintances so kamancheh land two people get together how people do we have you got for and you have eight people getting together native 16 people so one in one makes four exactly so a ECI Casey and the problem if you're dealing with one balance for another balance but fine but everyone is so imbalance how do you create balance so one simple way is saying guess what guess what who says we have to get along right we can be crazy but we all know that a doesn't work and be the tourist sets the bar the Torah says no no we're going to set the bar right now guess what you have an obligation to get along with everybody not only obligation to get along with everybody you have an obligation to love everybody whoa but not only give to love everybody and this is where it gets very very interesting the weight or puts the bar here towards you know you know you should love everybody guess what you don't you love them huh excessively the same way you love yourself the same way the same way you love yourself what does that mean practically when you're hungry when you're hungry right you somehow find a way to get food to your system correct so you have to walk because you felt that you were hungry you have to have to feel someone else's hunger first true truly it's Lydia song choice but the same way you love yourself you have to love yes absolutely to love yourself but the same way you love yourself you have to love the other person for example let's see something good happens to you you're ecstatic you're happy you after the same happiness when something good happens like that for someone else and then do you know you got there so now why is love extremely important because when you really love another human being that sort of speak the test you got it that you're happy with yourself and more importantly you're happy with no human being and I was like this does that not elevate the animal soul to absolutely sure with us yeah call eats everything so comes along tinyint at me is like this there's three areas of love what's the three areas of love one is loving another human being now who's the other human being any Irving not your friends any human being to be able to love every single human being as a tourist has do you have to record this is again it's not Tiny's explaining it but the commandment is Natur oh the a half gloria her car mocha to love every single human being just like you love yourself just like you love yourself that's a tall order that's one love there's another love what's the other love love Torah God gave you the Torah it's always a gift from God someone gives you a gift it's a transient gift today it's worth something tomorrow it's not worth anything every in 20-30 years become an antique dome come work or something and then no one's interested again right but the Torah is something which has been around for thousands of years we all know that when you study Torah you feel great when you file it or you feel even better so the Torah is what it's the biggest gift God gave you given to you by God so we have to love the Torah and the more you love the Toyota mode the Torah can have an effect on you and as the tour is basically like a stranger how's it going to help you if you don't know if you don't believe in the Torah hack on the tour help you so it's not just a commandment to love the Torah it's that when you love the Torah now you connect it to the toe and you have a better relationship with them the lines of communications opened and therefore it will help you and you'll be able to connect together exactly correct then there's a third love what's the third love love of God right you have to love God and it's in the Sh'ma right there after I saw someone walking full of God what does that mean you love God very simple you love God you have a connection with God a deep connection you would do anything for God as a smart says mahalo valve clever call national Mandela with yall heart you know it's all with your whole night so these are all three loaves comes along mysticism message says guess what every one of these three loves is connected and you cannot have one without the other and now becomes really challenging people taste I love God I would do anything for God my friend forget about it my neighbor my sister my cause it whatever it's something else right I love God but I mentioned I don't like certain Commandments right have you hear this huh whatever it is they're exactly whatever whatever they whatever to whatever the mounds are you hear this all day long so what do we say no no if you love God then you have to love the Torah have to love everyone cuz of any question who gave who wrote a Toro who gave you a tour of God so you like gob you don't like his product who created all these people God so you like coffee you don't like you don't like the people he created right so it means if you don't like somebody what you're really saying is what not only don't you like the person you actually lost your other love in life which is God well now you have nobody evil you know the toy aren't God if nothing so in other words love if it's real it's to God etcetera and it's all the people so someone you cease only love God right and they pray correct and they commit it to God but they don't get along people guess what now that we shouldn't be judging don't get me wrong for yourself you know if you're on fire and you love God and you just don't like people guess what you know you don't really love God true but you really don't love God saying that you love God you don't like the people you're missing something right if you love God in the Torah fine two out of three and wanting to do I love god i love the tour I sit and study Torah all day right and I pray and I do charity and everything but certainly I don't like guess what you don't love God you know the Torah it's like it's like having like you know I got a bracelet that has three three rings if one of them is opened you don't have a bracelet anymore you have three hoops whatever you want to call them it's not a bracelet a bracelet my definition means if it's made out of three rings this one is connected to the other so if one of them is opened or one is broken or one of them is off there is no more bracelet it's take it all I was on take all of it it's all nothing it's kind of like though because the god part of us we love ourselves we've gotta love the other two I mean it stands to me it stands to be because we are God's children are in God and God is in us guys Torah and they therefore it just follows yes but it has to be you know I agree in theory it follows yeah man the question is how do we make it how to make a practical ha you know how do we look how do we actually live it how do we actually live it I seeing done and everyone what ok fine so yes how do you have a war criminal how do you love someone yes that and that we will wield a with that soon that's a good question and we'll get to that soon no we'll get to that soon but let's first get to the first point let's get the very first part down right no it's a good question we will get there it's up soon at the first part so the first part is if you love god and it's real you're going to love the Torah any love the people if you don't love the people there's something week and you love for God if you don't love the toad or something leaving certainly we can love for God now what happens on person I love all people i don't want god i love the TOA that's very rare by the way that's very rare but the reality is the reality is if somebody really those people he automatically will love tour under God it just he made us here I never really studied talk enemy really learned about God but he automatically by definition will love tour in love God okay so now the real question is what is missing in the link how people can love God pray and study but have an issue with other people how could we love everybody so comes along Tanya tiny comes along and comes with it with a an answer an insight as follows what do we say before every one of us is really cheap our human being warming to about you mean we have our physical body and we are soul or if you said before the animal soul in the godly so now everything that really exists in the world has two parts to it you have the physical component any of the spiritual part of it so let's let's give an example right and we spoke about a little on yom tov for those that were there you have let's say for example you have lighting shabbos candles all right see the physical lighting and candles and then you have the spirit that brings into the Shabbat the same thing also a human being every human being has the physical component of the human being the person's physical body which represents a course human being that basically is physical and just want to pursue themselves and their own interests and we also have what the godly soul within us now if for example two people get together and each one so to speak is just came by their own self-interest is they really into unity no at most you'll have a partnership if it works for me and it works for you if it were in business the minute it stops working for me and for you it's over that's called at most a partnership but then there's when two people get together it's just when they get together who's getting together how many people do go get there we go getting together for people there's four forces they get it together so when two people get together so we have four people here so it is so basically it's two people each one is each person has two parts so if the physical is meeting up the physical at most you'll have as a partnership but what happens if you're coming to meet somebody and really what you're trying to meet is what the spirit the spirit of the other women being so what happens when you're dealing with the spirit now is the spirit physical is a spirit selfish or is the spirit basically selfless and really the part of God that we each have this is part of God so now when two people come together here if you have to you'll come together and let's say for example here there's one there's one parking spot right and there's two car there's two cars coming for this one spot is it possible for both in together impossible so if this car parks here no the other car can get there if the other one one here this one can get there can they share the spot you can't share the spot however in the world of the Spirit go to p 2 people spur take up the same space yes I'm not a contradiction to you you're not a contradiction me hey let's do it together how you can't explain it in the physical work at the physical world two things can take one spot in the spiritual world two things could take one spot so when two people meet and the two physical human beings meet there's not gonna be any love there it's not going to be loved at most of the partnership but when two people meet and yeah it's the physical bodies that are bringing them but really what's meeting is a spirit that's when you can have what a real relationship that's when you can have one is that's what you can have real love so in other words satanic makes a revolutionary statements and says when two people meet if to these two people the most important part is their physical body their animal self love is not going to be there yeah they'll get along to help each other partnership whatever you want to call it love will not be there not going to work however if when these two people need what's meeting yeah it's true to your own veyance but what's really meeting the spirit is meeting that's when love can rest and flourish flourish if love if the spirit is what's coming together so Tanya says when two people meet and you want love what has to be coming to the table a spirit the godly soul so in other words like this when someone prays it's very possible to praying for what although all their needs the praying for all their needs for the glades so to them and it's about them and there's no spiritual aspect fear whatsoever and therefore when it comes to getting along with somebody else it's not going to work because they never brought to the table their spirit they never brought to the table God godliness was all about them so even though it looks like prayer we see but it really isn't it's them coming with a shopping list coming for a shopping list it's not really cleaning to God and therefore when it comes to the love between one another what happens it doesn't work however if what they're really praying they're really getting rid that they're not bringing their shopping list they want to cleave the god they're bringing the spirit so what's the problem they meet someone else the same thing so if they're if you're bringing your physical self your animal soul to the table it might look like a prayer it might look like Torah study but it's really not and if where is it play out where do you see the proof in the pudding how you get along with other people but on the other hand if you're able to get along with other people by definition so you have to really get along with somebody else see according to tying it's very simple to people cannot really get along and have real love if they're physically coming together because it's tubulin beings they have to get together and they have to be in sync if I'm here and you're here into the physical parts there's always you can create sink the only way you can create sink if you leave the bodies behind conceptually and the spirit meets and the spirit you can think up so once the spirit is seeking out syncing up then you can love God right you can love the Torah you can love another human being it doesn't make doesn't make them as who the person is so the real question is when you're coming to the table who who is coming to the table is it your physical self or is it a godly support if it's the physical part you might be successful you might be conquer you might just do that whatever you're going to do real love is not going to be there it's impossible you want real love leave your physical body out leave your animals sold-out show up spiritually and now we're talking love and now we're talking relationships and once that theer love will be in all levels with God with Torah study with the other young being think about practically you sit down another human being and it's all about you where's the room for somebody else there isn't sitting he's trying to study Torah but you have all your ideas what Torre should have been written like you know ever sit down you know IIT CH classes so certain people they know all the answers they have all the questions and they don't just they don't listen for a minute you know that Miss after the class they don't learn anything how can you learn something if you only wanted to hear yourself in class you come to pray the prayer service is boring sure was boring you never empty out the vessel come with an empty vessel you'll walk a little something you might not always walk wait a full cup you look at something but if you didn't walk away with something it's only because the vessel was an empty if you're a full cup how you put into the in there get rid of the cop there's stuff this in the cup sit in and you'll get something if you have a full cup and you put it outside is warped more water going to go in there if you have an empty cup even though it's dry but eventually when arranged you guys hold up now have to pray hard but eventually we filled up so it's almost puts down a very very simple solution or simple remedy or simple plan you want real love in your life now let's love with yourself lovely the spouse a child a parent a friend love across the board gone tura you want love get the body out get the animal soul out and you here for one thing regardless holes here once the godly soul is here skies are based on that who can you love you got anybody in other words it's it's the other person's really never the problem it's really when you're coming in are you pushing through one out right or are you coming at empty vessel there's a famous story guy comes to the round body complaining it is rabbi everybody descending August bothering me most high-end Sarah Rachel everybody hasn't showed everybody right I mean everyone's a problem everybody in the community is a problem any other legitimate reasons he hasn't reasons why everyone's like it's not working out with everybody and everyone's always the other guys at fault and he has valid excuses what do you do with a guy that there are mice is very simple robber except to him nicely who asked you to spread yourself out all over the shoulder everyone's a problem you know then you you took up everyone seat and everyone is telling you they need this place maybe if you had like one seat rather didn't have your stuff all over the place don't what you don't any don't would be like no only be like bothering you so usually when you have an issue with everybody or whoever it may be it's usually because you basically is too much of you there I don't the spiritual physical part of you now so that's basically the the first part of 30 second chapter of Tanya with the altar which introduces this revolutionary concept to allow yourself to tone down the physical tone down the animal soul and bring in the spirit now unfortunately a lot of people go through life because you need to survive with becoming machines machines of what of producing and because you can't machine and producing you forget about the spirit now you might become a good production machine you'll work hard and you'll study hard and you'll yell a mass stuff and you'll achieve stuff etc guess what happens it's all about you and you forget that you have a godly soul and you forget yamila me and then what happens you can't go wrong with anybody and that's why it's important as you educate yourself and add you you gotta practice humility and practice the spirituality and bring in the godly pneus this way you can be successful but also get built to get along with anybody and everybody could you imagine if you're able to be friendly with anybody in the world let me think about this you think could you can you think it's possible yeah absolutely it's possible what but it's once and it's one simple ingredient you don't need to have 20 different languages and recipes and remedies if you basically just open up guess what happens the other person's open up to you now let's talk about the second issue second issue and here it gets a little Wednesday complicated but here gets a little more involved and that goes as follows obviously from our part from my part everyone's part I love everybody everyone's wonderful what do you mean walk rock reading them whole Who am I not going to like God trade everybody and everything remember the minute you say I don't like this person really you saying is I don't like the Creator I don't like God and you know like yourself either because you have a part of you in that person but now here comes a real issue let's see somebody is not behaving appropriately and it could be extremist one to ten from a1 to all the way you know if to attend you know going on for example right now in Israel and so on and so forth the other parts of the world so the question is very simple do you love them because God created them or do you not like them like do you love a terrorist I just went ahead and gossip girl killed killed somebody whether whether the person's related to me not to everyone's related task everyone's everyone we love right so what are you at somebody that's been being destructive and again it could be from a simple thing to totally out of hand so Tanya comes along and says like this you have to be able to separate what you mean separated you have to be able to separate between the person and the act God created every single person and therefore you have to still respect and love every single person the person that did the terrible act who create a person God so the person has to still be loved the actions of the person shirt is not okay and that is something not only taught to love the actions are wrong and that part you actually have to temporarily hate temporary and ikes a temporary this tiny says temporarily a time explaining the minute while you the actions you have to hate if someone does something which is against Jewish law secular law against moralities against ethics you hate the act what do you need it something like that it's against law it's against Jewish law it's against ethics its skin society rules and so on so forth and that part you have to hate temporarily explain them in white temporarily so they make a clear distinction between people you love everybody because God created them and you really creating the godliness in every single person how can you hate the good but there's no God in that person how do you move however the act since God gave us freedom of choice just like that person that's something bad we can do bad things to we are freedom of choice there's no guarantee you know in the guarantee that you're okay is when after 120 that is a guarantee but until tomm others don't don't be assured in yourself that yours that you made a home run 120 only made up why because at any moment at any moment you have freedom of choice and we have the evil inclination within us that can so to speak cause us make a left turn and do the wrong thing now so comes alone Tania and tiny says what if to a hate the act if you notice I said you have to temporarily hate the act why it's a temporary hate bag because Tanya says what happens is there's a fine line is the person and is the act so the person is good and you love all the people the action or actions are no good now if it's not a good Act if you love the act guess what happens that's not good your Venture do it oh I love that act let's do it that's come people no way that lacks you don't love now obviously after hate it but when we say temporarily hating you have to temporarily hate it mean to say is that the person that did a bad Act you temporarily hate the act you make a statement the act is no good but immediately you have to pull in something which is called Rock'em in rockland is compassion and you have to bring in compassion to the person and to the act and immediately elevator because what happens if you spend too much time hating the act the hate will drift over to the person and you're going to lose the fine line and you're going to go from hating the Act to hating the person and hating the nature and hey in the community and it's going to be a disaster and now you're Kate you got involved eight of human beings that God created so the hate has to be limited to the act as to be defined but you have to write bringing compassion what means compassion what wounds compassion compassion means to be able to judge the person um that maybe you know whatever the not the excuse the acting the act is always wrong but you know trying to have compassionate person maybe he had a hard day maybe whatever he's going through and this way you're able to hopefully elevate the person and the person could turn around and continue doing what good acts vs negative acts not an easy thing to do right what what if they keep doing it more compassion welcome house you know any of this it's not money what do you think what do you think what do you think you know crying and tears are its ideas to elevate the elevate a telltale to elevate the the negative sponsor no others when someone does a negative act if the person is good why do you do a negative act if the person is a good person why do you want to get an actor think about it if the person is a good person why they do a negative act was I want looking for attention so then after there is deviant behavior no again it's a person by definition is a good person and they did a bad Act you have to ask why did the act now whatever you're going to say all these reasons ultimately who is doing the act is it the essence of the person or the external part of the person and it's the accent the external part of the person because the essence of the person is good it always is good it always will be good it gets covered up right it gets covered up now in other words like this and others like this let's say you have a natural stone right take for example a diamond a natural diamond that's beautiful clear right you can see right through it perfect beautiful piece correct beautiful piece and it's worth let's say it's User number what's excited you know a hundred million dollars right beautiful piece every every one would dream of having it every man would dream of buying for them for their spouse for the wife right beautiful to be diamond now the diamond gets dirty and gets muddy and it smells actually the dirt so let me ask you a question would you throw away that diamond because it got dirty you actually look American Idiot even suggesting it rally what's wrong with you right but it got dirty it's muddy and it smells huh yeah but it smells and it's dirty why throw it out the answer is because a diamond you don't throw out sorry something you don't throw out a diamonds the dirt you got to get rid of you gotta wash it you got to clean it here if use bleach whatever it takes to get the dirt off so the question is what do you mean but throw out the diamond and the answer is again keeps them going back to the same point because the diamond is a treasure and it's one of a kind and it's worth a hundred million dollars and it's a beautiful piece and that time and you don't throw out you got to clean it and you got to wash it and you got to d sanitize it whatever maybe now when you do that you scream at the diamond no you get rid of the dirt and the diamond shining again it's the same thing with a human being a human being every human being is just like a diamond every time you do a bad Act it's like a diamond getting dirty so every time they do a bad Act it's like the dirt on the diamond exactly yeah the only himself is I am NOT a if we do clean under say the other one cannot clean either that's that's fine but we're talk right now about the diamond the dirt let's talk at the human being and the dirt so when a person does bad acts when a diamond keeps getting dirty and dirtier would anybody throw it away that belongs to you now if you work your whole life for it it's your assignment you have to keep on cleaning it so you're not upset at the diamond your acceptance earth got out there right washed off and get rid of it and guess what diamond shining again the same thing also every human being every single human being is a diamond and if you look at every single looming as a diamond how do you look at people like a dominant and he's smile like you smiled at fancy diamond and when it gets dirty quick let's wash it off right make Polly don't sorry i didn't have dirty not gonna tell you when i got 30 while it's also on right so you want to wash it off as quick as possible and that is basically the essence of loving people if you love people that means you view them as a dominant if you don't love them you unfortunate don't know what the value of your being is that's the reality in other words yeah huh give the human being advanced age again no and I'll tell you this was a story will finish off a good story that you know the rebbe would give out every single Sunday he would stand the line for hours hours and he was not a youngster and people would come every son who stand for hours and given dollars every you know wasn't feeling well someone set them I'll be sitting for hours and I just don't get how you don't get tired I need about 20 minutes I would be tired standing standing on feet while you sit down and want you to take a break and there are we responded with an analogy which always always better than giving her response because when you count diamonds you don't get tired I think about that you Clank diamonds so when you view another unb I'm recently using Donna lets people get excited about diamonds the value the beauty whatever but why can't you have the same excitement human beings human beings every single human beings are diamonds yeah the acts sometimes get there ready so what wash it off and the Don and trying again it's not a big deal it's closer giveness fine all these terminologies you saying like water is like forgiveness and the bleach is like you know letting go whatever whatever it means you want to give to it but the message is very very clear if you view spouse parents children friends workers as what the way we view a diamond guess what you'll be smaller than you'd be lucky to be in a presence there process exactly they do a bad Act so you don't all sudden you're throwing out the person oh hey go take a shower it's very simple you know I mean I'll take a shower yourself maybe you'll see things differently right giggle when you clean it on you guys who takes a shower dynatek so you take it oh you won't take this hour donna gets washed off you get washed off I think once a person really really thinks about this literally your whole life changes besides the fact you get along with everyone else but guess what now you seeing a beautiful garden a beautiful people you benefit from it who is what you now you have this view that you never thought you had right you know it's like I was in New York twas they went there was a mentor like this restaurant so it's like in a commercial area so the back they were everyone's trying to think of creating creative space good space so what they do they took the back wall a restaurant I want to make it a private party room and they made like a glass window the problem was that the glass window looked out a someone's lawn there was always unkept so it still the guy to give his lawn was wonderful right if he didn't look messy so what the guy do he put up a huge cloth enemy a cloth but about canvas of a okay I was have a gorgeous scenery with you know water flows and everything and guess what he changed the whole perspective of now the whole back room it's a false perspective time it's not there's no waterfalls there's no trees there but what is in the canvas does it creates that so although when you create a healthy vision of people who's benefiting now you're sitting in a garden we're all these wonderful people it's actually healing for yourself besides the fact meal to get along with the people but for you yes ok any questions clean very thorough and clandestine ok ok I went here I'm with you listen the fact is if you look to Israel actually goes to war you know I mean literally I mean with this big debates rather they go to more Jewish Way Jewish Way is before you go to war you have to ask for peace you have to be careful not to kill anyone got from there intentionally you know the way they go to war the goal early from house to house they can come in they're like and they warn them to leave I mean it's done very very respectful very you mainly because the end of the day is we value life you value our own lives we've got like other people's lives we don't go ahead and kill people and so on and so forth I mean everything's done it was even today there was like a bunch of you know a lot of action one is real tight and it's beautiful though I mean speed will send out later yeah I brother have to be the right I said I picture the way they arrest people they arrest them respectfully they walk with them nicely and you know they're not most people do this they would kill them and obviously this again big debate when the right thing the wrong thing its URL at the point is for this conversations we have to respect all people and again in this there is there is rules of war coin to Jewish slow at the Jewish way to go to war and so on and so forth and as long as you follow the Torah you guaranteed the right thing anyway so that any other questions oh yeah right the soldiers are there to protect the land but it's a different isn't it a different feeling when they're talking to the soldiers that yes they know that the enemy is the enemy but it's a human being first and that pervasive yes it's true it's very true and it's frustrating because believe me it's easy to win a war if you didn't have those rules I went it's easier because you don't God you so can't win but from a war perspective yes it's not it's not right so it's not a fear it's not a fear it's not a fair fight because we have certain spiritual restraints but ultimately look the fact is that because we don't go do that look at how many wars we won with fractional amount of people versus big armies so ultimately it really goes both ways if you if you if you sometimes do things which are frustrating based on like the way other people go fight war but on the other hand we have God on our side you've got on your side if you can win money and all throughout history that's been the case of the Jewish people because listen the old ultimately or whatever means no the whole discussion itself at the bottom as you do we thought you follow God's God's plan and gods way it usually works out