How can I reach the point of true happiness in my life? - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] how do I get real true happiness and what is really true happiness true happiness is it something physical or is it something spiritual because anything in the physical world is very limited doesn't matter what you have in this physical world at some point it will end or at some point it will finish or at some point you're not going to like it anymore at some point it's going to you you're going to get used to it then you want looking for the next excitement so the true happiness is never physical anything in the physical world doesn't give you real happiness happiness I'm talking about not a Perman a temporary state that you're happy I'm talking about the real true inner happiness that you look at yourself in the mirror and you're saying to yourself am I really happy with what I have am I'm happy with my life the reality is that most people if they really look in the mirror and they ask themselves that most likely the answer is not going to be 100% I'm happy I'm going to tell you now to take this notepad and to write a list of all the things that you're not happy about in your life you'll probably fill a few pages you can can probably fill a few pages with things that you happy in your life not saying that we're all suffering here but we're now looking at a different angle so the reality is that we all struggle with with something every person in this world struggling with something one will struggle with a bad marriage one will struggle with kids one will struggle with health each person will struggle with something that is annoying them at the end of the day when comes the night when you're sleeping in bed you you're annoyed yeah you you you're thinking of the I wish I didn't have to deal with this right now so the reality is that each and every one of us has in the in the depth of our soul all sort of things that bothers us and the the the thing that bothers us what causes us not to be 100% happy only comes from our soul if my soul is happy then I can be the poorest person in the world I can have the worst life in the world I'll still still be happy cuz the real happiness what touches my is only when my my soul is happy so the question is a lot of people they they they live a very external life meaning that they derive everything from a very external layer and some people they try to reach into a more inner part of their Nish and their entire life is derived from something more internal something more spiritual the point is how you bridge between two worlds because you want to we're in a physical world and you want to be part of the physical world you want to enjoy part of the world but how do you bridge between the physical and the spiritual so ultimately everything that we have in this world it originates in the spiritual world nothing that we have here started here whether it's good or bad diseases people are sick because in the spiritual realm there's a deficiency people are depressed in this world CU in the spiritual world there's a defic deficiency when I'm saying the spiritual world above this world there's a spiritual world and we are just a manifestation of what's going on above us we all know we have a soul in our body our soul is a mirror of what the soul above is and how the soul is manifested into the body that's how it reflects and projects out into the body it starts with even how we look now the soul doesn't have really an image but the way how we look it's a reflection or better even to say a projection of how the soul actually looks so the shape how we have is that's how the soul is again the soul doesn't have really a shape but even in the spiritual structure of the human being the spiritual human being has a head has arms has body to a point is that the MIM explained that everything that comes out of my body how my the shape of my face the shape of my eyes my finger my uh fingerprints everything it's how it's in the spiritual structure which means that the soul is the mold for the body now you could see on the external part you can look at a person and know what's going on inside of them especially when you look at their face face in Hebrew is called panim panim comes from the word p inside some people can look at a person's face and they see everything that's going on inside the ways the eyes are the eyes can move you're happy your eyes go up you're sad your eyes goes down all sorts of things movements in your face how your lips are your nose every little part of your face some people know they can look at their face you know exactly what you're going through because what you're inside your P your P it reflects outside on your face the words in Hebrew they're not just invent like in English or any other language the words in Hebrew represent the reality and the state of what's going on so every word in Hebrew there's a reason for that first man was called Adam Adam because he came from the ad from the land and he also looked like Hashem I'm going to look like something from above every word in Hebrew it what it's not invented it comes from a meaning so the word face is panim meaning that it's showing and reflecting what's inside of me now the thing is that anything that happens in the Supreme World it will manifest into this world below if a person has here a lot of money means that in the spiritual world there's an abundance if a person in this world is depressed means that in the spiritual worlds there's a deficiency of Happiness everything starts from above and then it trickles to below anything so even when people are sick in this world it originates in the spiritual world yes you can blame it or you can point on something in the physical world that actually made it but it started the root of it is in the spiritual world so even when people get sick I'm not talking about when somebody's coughing or sneezing or has a running nose that's what I'm talking about I'm talking about when somebody Shalom has certain sickness the sickness corresponds to our to our limbs if I have a a problem in my body man of my limbs is sick means that one of my spiritual limbs are sick because my soul has 248 pieces to it corresponding to the 248 pieces of of the limbs in my body so if my soul's 100% healthy my body will be 100% healthy and you see it the way to to see how it actually manifests into the world if you know 2,000 years ago there was a great Rabbi his name is rabish Shimon barai he Ro the and he was in a cave for 13 years 13 years he didn't see daylight he ate carobs and drank water which you would think that healthwise he's going to be sick he went out of the of the of the cave nothing normal human being his skin didn't see sunlight for 13 years how cuz his soul was healthy so it manifests in the body the body can work on very minimal great sedim they sleep an hour they eat once a day a little bit they don't need so much from this world so we learn from that that it all originates in the spiritual realm everything that I have here anything that you'll point in this world that you have you can track it that it goes back to the source now when you want to deal with a problem then you have to go to the source of it the problem with medicine and any type of of of a curing in in the modern world is only touching the external part that's why medicine fails it failed in our generation and the way to see it is because if doctors and Medicine would be successful then there wouldn't be any six people the fact that there constantly six sick people means that medicine doesn't work so maybe 20% of it like the conventional part of it it works the person breaks a bone they know how to to to fix it you have a cavity they know how to fix it but 80% of the rest of the sicknesses we have in this world there's no cure for that and the more we become more sophisticated and more learned and more technology and we think that medicine is more advanced it's not people with high blood pressure they still have blood pressure so the medicine in our generation it just numbs things just covers thing this is the solution of Our Generation can come into to Health you go to a doctor you have a problem it gives you a pill you have a rash it gives you a cream there's no cure it just covers the the problem same thing in the spiritual and in the in the in the emotional people go depressed they go to the doctor he gives them okay take this pill relax they don't have a solution they they don't know what to deal with it why because they're going to a very external part of the problem and we deal with almost everything in our life on a very external level now if I deal with anything on an external level I'll never get results and this can be with my health this can be with my mental health can be with my relationship with my husband can be with my relationship with my kids it's how I deal with my kids today in our generation people how they deal with their kids is a very external way of dealing it external I'm not talking about physical things I'm talking about everything in this world has two angles how to look at things you have an external part of it and you have the internal part of it to explain it a little bit better you look at this cup so I had a cup has a external part to it so it has you know designs and colors and then I have the internal part of it and it actually is holding coffee in it can take the coffee in take it out take the coffee out put juice in it whatever the external part is one thing and the internal part is a totally different thing in most cases especially in the spiritual realm what's inside will affect the outside you can kind of see manifest in this world that if you put boiling hot water in a cup then you know now the cups are are are sophisticated they they hold the heat but I'm talking about a normal material you put boiling hot water hot water in it the outside will be hot you put freezing cold water in it the outside will be freezing so our generation is the generation of putting patches of things everything have a problem I put a patch on it I don't cure it I don't go to the source of it to see what's the problem I I cover it with something so my child is screaming here take a lollipop shut up go and watch a movie I have a problem with my my spouse right away okay I can't deal with it I'm going we we don't deal with things we we cover things up it's relationships it's anything we we don't go to the core of it to actually pull out the problem deal with the problem and then solve it now the problem is that a people don't do it because they don't feel like doing it they don't deal they don't don't want to deal with things people rather shut down the the drapes and and ignore the problem the problem is that when you ignore things so it's becoming worse and worse and worse you can ignore problems it's almost like you driving your car and your your your light is going on that you don't have fuel so in the beginning you ignore it cuz you don't feel like stopping and fuel in your car right now and then it goes up again and you still ignore it because you're in a rush and then it goes up and you're like I don't feel like okay my husband who drives the car later he'll drive he'll pump it you you you keep pushing it cuz you don't want to stop to put gas right now but what would be the result if you're going to continue ignoring it you run out of gas and you're stuck on the highway that's it so in our life we push things cuz we want other people to deal with it we don't feel a dealing with it right now so we push it constantly on somebody else but the point is that you can't push things away if there's a problem and you don't deal with it it's going to come back and it's usually going to come back twice stronger now there's a reason why we dealing with problems in this world does everything has a reason nothing Hears by chance there's a a Godly plan there's a script to our entire life and there's a reason why we're dealing with hardship 90% of the hardship that I'm dealing with is my own problem I throw something to the universe universe throw throws it back at me that's 90% of our problems 10% of our problems is the the script of my life my life is a movie each and every one of you has his own movie God is the screenwriter he's the producer he's everything but you're the hero you're the star you are hired for the movie and everybody around you are just you know some actors so 10% of what you're going through in this life I'm talking about just now only bad things I'm not talking about the good things good things we always accept with a smile I'm talking about now bad things 10% of what's Happening not good in my life that I'm not happy with it that's if nothing you're going to do is going to change it that's the script there's a reason for that the reason for that is because our life constantly goes up and down up and down our script is like a road and every now and then there's going to be a speed bump and the speed bump is just in order for me to go up I have to first go down go up or go down that's how our life is that's why if you see how do you see this the sign that a person is alive you connect him to a monitor and then you see the line up and down up and down one time up one second up one second down one second up one second down if the line becomes flat then the person died flat line so the same way that our our our life motion that's in inside of us is going constantly up and down then the external part is up and down one time one day I'm happy one day I'm less happy one day I have more energy energy the next day I have less energy this is the the the the Rhythm of Life if you know how to accept both levels the high and the low then you have a very good balance most people they they don't like the low part they don't understand that sometimes you have to take momentum you have to go back a little bit to to catch some some breath but 90% of our problems in our life is our own doing it's the what I project into the universe I'll throw something negative into the universe something negative will come back at me I'll throw something positive into the universe something positive will come back at me that's how Works people interpret it as God is punishing me oh I did this probably it's because I did this and that and God is punishing me God is Not punishing anybody God s God sits in Heavens and he looks down he's laughing he's like those morons the reality is that what I do in this world there's a right away a reaction so if I'm going to scream at my kid because I have a problem the reaction is going to come back from the the way the kid is behaving kids are our mirror if kids give you problem right on the spot you can know the problem is in me because if my kids are not behaving they're not listening to me they're wild they're screaming whatever it's only my problem kids kids are perfect they have no no issues kids have no issues they start getting issues when they're adults when they were when they born they born 100% pure perfect everything's perfect they're innocent they're honest everything is perfect we we spoil our kids spoiled not by buying them presents we we're rottening them we're making them we're putting on them our problems I can't I'm sorry I know we're not supposed to ask questions I'm sorry but I was waiting for that jum you're saying that when our kids don't behave and if they have a problem it's our fault you I can't problems so that's why that's why I said what you're saying no so that's why I said listen till the end okay then you get all your answers write it down I I did but I couldn't hold it anymore to answer you quickly 50% of the time yes 50% of the time yes but I'll get to it more into it and I'll tell you why 50% of the time and you have to be honest with yourself the way to deal with things is 100% honesty how many times you walk into the home and you're upset somebody annoyed you your husband annoyed you some something going on in your job your business your life something is annoying you and your innocent kid that didn't do nothing just came and said the wrong word and you snapped you snapped at the kid I'm not blaming you we all deal with issues you snapped at the kid and there's no parent that doesn't snap at their kids they're tired they're annoyed whatever don't you think that you think that the kid is going to be like okay my mom is going through a bad day today I I'll be considerate a 5-year-old doesn't think that his mom is going through a Bad Day right now and he has to be considerate and patient because you're not feeling well that the mind doesn't work like that a 5-year-old kid their mind doesn't work a 12-year-old kid their mind doesn't work like that what works in their mind is my mom mom is the most annoying woman in the world right now that's how their mind works you have to tap into the mind of a 5-year-old they're not adults adults you know when they when a person hits the age of 20 they get the level of what's called dat D is some type of a common sense teenagers don't even have common sense they they operate on instincts they operate in things that give them pleasure excuse me a little kid you will do a certain act they don't interpret it how you think they should interpret it so yes 50% of the time the reaction of my kids is me if I would control my mouth then my kid is not going to react back at me I know you don't like hearing it but the reality is you have to have some type of honest analogy and the thing is that when I see certain pattern pattern of behavior with my kids there's there's two things that you you can break it to it's actually much more than two but the two elements that will affect my kid a is the spiritual element and B is the physical element spiritual element is how they were conceived how they were born what they grow up seeing what they listen what they hear what they eat everything around what you do what your husband do till the age of bar and mitvah what I do and what my wife does directly affects the kid directly till the age of Mitzvah and B Mitzvah which means that if the father his thoughts are pure it will manifest into the kids that their kids thoughts are pure the father gives What's called the intellect the M the mother gives the mid the attributes it's a partnership if the father holds himself a certain way it will right away affect the kids if the mother works on herself women are more emotional women have to fix What's called the midot when women work on themselves it affects the kids whether you want to agree with it or not that's how it is our kids are part of our soul they're engraved from us we know that when the husband and wife are together the husband is cooking the sperm in the brain the sperm doesn't come from down down there it comes from up here the sper sperm comes from the brain during the entire act if the ACT is Holy and it's done the right way and the woman is clean pure spiritually meaning that she was in the mik before and you all the points how it should be it's all pure then you dress the soul of the child with pure garments our soul in order to interact in this world has to be dressed in garments because the soul is Holy cannot interact in this world it's a spiritual being so the same way you put your hand into a puppet and you move your toe how do you call it the pinky one it moves the hand you move your thumb it moves the other hand and you make a whole show with a puppet the soul gets dressed into garments that's how the soul interacts in this world there are three major garments that are called thought speech and action and each one of these garments is broken down to many different levels but the soul interacts with the world through thought through speech and through actions now you can have clean clothes and you can have dirty clothes you wake up in the morning you want to wear clean clothes you don't pull dirty clothes out of the laundry who wants to wear dirty clothes they stink there's stains I wore it yesterday I want to look nice everything that happens in this world is a manifestation from the spiritual World why do you think we have clothes why don't we walk naked well now it's cold so you can say Okay I want to be warm but listen let's say the climate was good we were born naked Adam and were walking naked there wasn't clothed in one of the reasons why we're wearing clothes now clothes Define who I am I feel nice in clothes you look at a person how they getting dress you can kind of figure out a little bit about the person you like fashion you want to look good clothes you know you you feel completely different when you're dressed beautiful and when you dress with some braggy tracksuit why because the external part affects also the internal part why do you feel much much better when you dress nice you fix yourself up cuz you feel better you go now in the street with your hair is all messed up and you're not dressed you're like you you don't feel yourself was that for all of us no I'm talking what I'm talking about is very very general terms I can't get into every little detail cuz we don't have time that we'll do later on when you ask your questions we'll go into more details I'm just giving very broad topics so the same way that we are dressed into garments in this world that our soul is dressed into garments now I can have pure garments and I can have dirty garments when a person has a bad thought an impure thought it means that the Garment of thought is impure that's it very simple a person refines themselves works on themselves then they're garments will be pure so their thoughts are pure and their speech is pure so they don't curse and they don't lie and they don't say all sorts of words when they don't feel like saying them how many times you say things to your kids that if you really stop to analyze you're like why did I say that that's disgusting to say that to my kid I'm going to kill you how many times you tell to your kid I'm going to kill you I'm going to smack you you sometimes you don't control what you're saying sometimes you have to do an analysis how you talk to your kids I'm I'm talking now we hooked on the kids cuz you're talking about the kids can be a husband can be a friend oh shut up how times how many times you tell friend shut up it's not a way to talk this is not a pure way of talking so how I'm feeding my garments that's how I'm going to behave so my thoughts will be either Pure or not pure my talk is going to be Pure or not pure my actions so what I'm injecting into my system that's how it's going to come out so since we talked about the kids how the mother and the father are together they are dressing the kid with garments so if it's done all holy then the garments of the kid are are clean and holy everything that the Torah came to teach us is not to make our life hard everything that the Torah comes to tell us is not an optional thing it's almost like you going to a dietition and the dietician tells you you want to lose weight you have to eat this this and this you listen to the D ician because you want to lose weight you go to a doctor the doctor tells you take this pill and this pill first of all the joke is why do you even believe the doctor that's to start with but you still do it you have a problem now the doctor will tell you here take this cream it will help you 90% of people will believe that they're not going to ask question they're just going to take it and think that's going to be the Cure so in this world you go to a professional to solve your problem whatever he tells you you do you don't come and tell the doctor you know I don't want to do this and this I don't agree with you what don't feel like doing it cuz you want to find some type of a cure so the Torah didn't come to Annoy Us and the Torah didn't come to limit our life and to make our life hard the Torah came to tell us you want to have a perfect life here you want to achieve what you came down to do in this world you want to be healthy happy all these things then here's your manual just listen to the manual you buy now a a new device electronic device it comes with a manual don't put it in the water don't expose it to Sun don't throw it at the wall don't put it in the microwave the manual tells you what to do if you don't take care of it don't don't don't uh be upset that it's not working so the Torah told us exactly what to do don't eat these things don't do that thing do this do that the Torah is giving us a a a a path a life path to tell you you want everything to be good just just follow it we just come and say okay that I don't like this is not comfortable this this I'm going to round the corner so when you're not willing to go on the instructions then you can't come and blame anyone the instructions tells you again the Torah didn't come to Annoy Us I know a lot of the rules in the Torah we don't like it or we don't see any reason why should I need to do it I don't feel anything but the the the way to understand it the Torah is your instructions what to do now you don't have to look at somebody who's totally extreme and say oh that's the Torah people don't represent the Torah and people don't represent God a lot of people they look at a a certain individual says oh no that's how the a person who religious has to be I don't want to be be that the Torah comes and tells you every little thing that you need to do is if the Tor tells you don't eat this type of food there's a reason for that it will damage your it will damage yourself the Tor tells you dress a certain way then there's a reason for that if in the Torah tells a woman to cover her hair there's AAS reason for that it's not to annoy you it's not to make your life hard spiritually what happens when a woman covers her hair all the blessing that comes to the family comes for the woman the woman is the source of blessing at the time of the I'm going to Sidetrack for one minute just as to understand the concept you and your husband is the Same Soul it's one Soul assuming that it's the real other half half of the people are in generation they marri the wrong person but assuming it's your right other half it's a real other half then it's the same soul and before that soul is ready to come down to this world there's an angel that cuts the soul in half one part of the Soul jump into the woman body One Soul jumps into the male body and for 20 years each one lives their life and then somehow they're looking they're turning the whole world upside down and up they find each other an attraction and then they get married assuming that the wedding is done the right way meaning that the is kosher not that Thea is nice it there kosher witnesses that everything is done the right way assuming that everything is done by the book The Right Way meaning that they're not together before the married meaning that they're doing everything according to the rules the rules of the instructions how to have it the right way then if everything is done right then during the time of Thea they stand together and God SWS the together and all the rituals that you do in the K there's a reason for that why the woman surrounds the husband seven times every little thing you do in there's a reason for that assuming that it was all done the right way the soul gets connected and the one back one now in two bodies but one Soul during the time of the K it's the most holiest day of your life during the time of Thea all the gates of Heavens are open all the blessing that you're going to get for the rest of your life and all your kids life and all the generations you get at the time of Thea that's when you get the check and the blessing this unbelievable abundance goes on to the bride she's the the the vessel to take the not the husband the husband is nothing in the spiritual World women are born perfect they don't have to do anything that's why they're exempt from 90% of the mitv they don't have to do much there's a few things that they have to do just because they're in this world women came here to help fix their husband and to raise their kids and everything that they do on the way is a bonus now they can damage things on the way you can come and say oh I'm perfect I don't have to do anything you were born perfect the men are born completely not they have to work their entire life pray three times a day do all these mitv constantly they have to fix themselves they have to build thems a woman is born perfect she can damage it but the the the original know is the woman is perfect so she's the vessel to get all this all the all the blessings blessings means parasa for the rest of their life parasa the substance Health kids abundance happiness everything the woman gets now here it's all explained in a very mystical way and cabalistic way that this Godly blessing goes onto the woman's face that's why in Thea you cover the face not because you know there's okay one explanation because the the story with Jakob that he got Leah instead of RA and the whole story that's just a a story to to explain it rather this blessing anything that that is compared in the spiritual world to something good is compared to light so this Godly light goes on the woman's face at the time of the K that's why you cover the face why because you want this Godly light to stay on the face I don't know if you know when God told Moshe to write the Torah Moshe would sit like this with the scroll and God would talk and Moshe would write it that's why it says all the time it says M would write what what did you say Okay and there's a story that if you look in the Torah in the the AL of is very small there's a question why the AL is small if you if you look at the Torah itself some letters are big some letters are small so the explanation was that Moshe was very humble he didn't want you know it it's it's representing his humbleness the real story was that it says in the Torah called Moshe so Moshe was like I can't write that what am I I'm your body I'm not your body I can't write remove the AL CU every time that God calls a wicked person in the Torah it says so M says remove the Al I don't want the Al I'm not I feel like humble and I'm too humble to to accept you just calling me as a friend so hasem said listen you know everything here is calculated I can remove a letter the Torah is precise every letter all the letters are are calculated so mha says so make the letter small so hasm says okay no problem but now I have some extra ink because when God writes the Torah the ink the amount of ink is precise so he left with a little bit of ink so God took the ink that was left and he smudged it all over Moses's face and when came down from the mountain it says thear open his face was radiating with light why cuz hasem took this ink and may put it on his face it was so radiating nobody could look at mosenu they couldn't look at the the light was too strong mosu for 40 years had a h nobody saw his face like a bride that has you know the screen on the face nobody saw mha's face only when he went into the tent he took it off like a convertible 40 years nobody saw his face the same exact thing happens to a woman at the time of the K the face is radiating now we can't see it because we're in a very low level we don't see this light spiritually the light is on the face of the woman that's why we cover the face in Thea once she goes out of Thea all this blessing gets attached to their to her hair with women and and Men it's different men they're when they have long hair it brings on themselves what's called judgment that's why you see with theim they shave their head because you don't want to have any grasp from the spiritual world you don't want anything grab grabbing on it with men it's different facial hair actually brings Mercy on them that's why we grow beards it's one of the many reasons why we grow beards a beard is built from 13 pieces corresponding to the 13 attributes of Mercy that we say every time we say a man that grows a beard he brings on himself the ham this influence of Mercy on him a woman can't have facial hair that's why naturally she doesn't have facial hair there's a reason how all everything that we have in this world is the reason why it's like that usually normal men don't grow their hair men is not men are not beautiful because they have long hair okay it's a little bit modern in the last 50 years for men to grow hair men never had long hair women there her hair is her beauty so this spiritual abundance abundance goes and holds on the women's hair that's one of the many mystical reasons why a woman covers her hair because if you have now a pile of diamonds you don't put it on the window seal you put it in a safe you have a stack of cash you don't just put it around on your dashboard in your car you put it in your wallet you hide it when you have something very valuable you hide it you don't want anybody to to to to take it same thing here you have an abundance of blessing it's on you you are carrying the blessing the woman is everything the talmud says that if a man causes a woman to have one tear scan this man all the problems that he has is he because he's mean to his wife I mean this I have to tell to your husbands right now but we'll do that women are are by default holy so all the abundance all the blessing that you get abundance I'm not talking about not necessarily money your inner happiness your child's happiness your child's health your relationship with your husband with your parents with your kids all this abundance it's all blessing anything that's good in your life is a blessing people have all little issues that you when you think of it it's something so minor but turns their life upside down people they I don't know somebody told me the other day they have how do you call it amnosia Amnesia they can't sleep insomnia insomnia something so minor I can't sleep yeah it drives a person crazy persons have some a small digesting problem drives them crazy so we don't even we we we we don't Focus that sometimes the small things are the things that really drive us is insane you don't even a big problem to deal with sometimes it's the small things that annoying us so the woman is the source of all the blessings she's the bank and that's the time when she gets it at the time of the K that's when she's cashing the check and this abundance don't ask why don't try to understand even why Talala teaches us is grabbing on the woman's hair therefore the Torah told you you want to guard your blessing cover your hair that's it make sure that nothing external has grasp on it if I have a house full of jewelry and diamonds and valuable things and I go on a vacation I don't leave the doors open cuz I don't want people to come in and take it so I lock it so you only get the blessing of your marriage what do you mean if you oh once you once you go into the that's when the woman gets the blessing now this is one of many reasons why the Torah told you to cover your hair now is the Torah commanding you to do it no the Torah is recomend commending to you do it you don't want to listen it's almost me having a lot of money I'm going to a a financial adviser the adviser tell me invest here here here and here he's the professional and I say I don't want to invest here and here I just want to put all my money in here and he tells you business-wise financially it's not a good move no I don't want to do it so the Torah advises you it tells you you want a good investment do this want a good investment you have a a a a kids that don't have all sorts of issues then do a b and c so it's not a Hala you saying to cover your hair I I'm not of course it's a of course it's a but I'm calling it a reman everything that the Torah tells you is a recommendation because I'm using the wrong term I'm just trying to tell you what it means because the Torah tells you don't do this or do this you don't have to listen right but you're s you don't have have to do it it's just recommend it no I'm saying it's a it's a recommend the Torah comes and tells you the thing like this I mean it's not a recommendation to kosher you have kosher everything that the Torah tells you which it falls under the category of a mitvah Mitzvah comes from the from the word you have to do it do I want to do it or not that's my own decision if I'm willing to do it or not you know the government also tells you they made laws so they say there's a law that when there was a red light you can't cross the red light 90% of people they listen to it 10% they don't want to listen to it so you can say it's a commandment yeah but it's also like a listen anything that the Torah tells you if you don't do it it's almost like the Tor tells you then I'm not responsible don't complain don't complain it's almost you telling your kid don't put your hand on the fire right now are you forcing him not to put the hand on the fire you are giving him a good advice he puts the hand on his fire he gets burned you told him listen I told you don't complain so I'm calling in a recommendation because the Torah tells you listen people think that I'm going to do a sin somebody is going to hit me with a bat and I'm going to go after sham and I'm going to have to to to go to throne to gon because of it that's not how the system works the Torah tells you don't do this you want to call it the Mitzvah call it a Mitzvah you want to call it want to call a recommendation I call it a recommendation because the Torah knows better than me so if the Tor tells me to do this I it's it's for my own benefit whether I decide to do it or not that's my own problem and if something negative happens don't complain don't whine people have problems so they complain why is this happening like this why don't have that and when when when there's no solution then they turn to the Moss helping the thing is that that how I started the the the is everything that we put out there we get right back so the Torah comes with a list of recommendations if you don't want to take my words out of context commandment Mitzvah you have to see I just think like it's different I might recommend to my children that they should study for a test if they want to do well but I'm not recommending that they don't touch fire I'm telling them do not touch this fire you know what I'm saying the differ yeah but again I'm now talking about very general en topics so to to to rewind and correct what I said yes the Torah commands you to to cover your hair but I call it a recommendation because the Torah tells you you want this do this you don't want to do this okay don't complain later when things don't go how you want the thing is that I have guests now I want to set up the table real nice the way I will set everything up I I I set the tone how the how the whole meal is going to be so if the same thing with my life if I want to have a certain pattern in my life if I'm looking at a very external part then I like I said before I put these patches but if I want to deal with the with the core of things I want to make sure that my kids are healthy and they listen to me and they don't have issues and they don't have problems that effent that it affects me then I I have to follow a certain guide certain path so 50% of what happens to us is our own doing 50% no sometimes it comes from I told you this 50% comes from the spiritual level 50% will come from this physical level so before I was explaining that when you dress the kid with its garments how the mother and father conduct themselves it manifests to the entire life so it all starts with how they met then it starts how they were together before the marriage then how the wedding was if they wedding is koser not koser how there every act that you do in your life you set the tone and then how the child was conceived and when I was saying 50% is physical 50% is spiritual the spiritual part is what I feed my kid how kosher I am what I let them watch what I let them see how I talk to them all these things I'm talking it's very physical things but it affects the spiritual part of the kid and then the physical pardon I'm talking about if I walk home and before I open the door I take a minute break and a deep breath and I relax and I don't bring my issues home then I'm going to walk into the home with a smile I'm not going to start screaming everywhere and pushing and arguing the problem is that we have a very big ego and everything is surrounding me but if you want things to work better then you first of all have to diminish your own ego and then you can start affecting the world now if I come into anything with my ego and my ego is out of control any relationship any any any situation then what I'm ref reflecting out that's what's going to reflect back in just test it wake up in the morning and put on a big smile on your face and be the best mother ever and the best wife ever you'll see that the reactions that you're getting are different now I know what you're all thinking I did it once it didn't work so things don't always work you know instant if a person did a 10year damage to repair the damage doesn't take a day sometimes it can take a year just to reverse the situation the point is that in our life what I started saying before we we like putting patches on things and not dealing with the problem if I want to deal with a problem then I have to go to the source of it in order for me to really cut the disease or the issue I have to go to the route if I just cover it with bandages it's not going to help if my kid has an issue for whatever reason if I don't deal with the kid's issue from the root I'm not going to solve the problem of my kid and one of the biggest headaches that we have in our life is our kids headache I'm talking about not that they're annoying us it's things that I have to deal with healthwise education wise how they're behaving how they're talking sometimes your kids can drive you insane then the next thing is my relationship with my partner so if I'm just concentrating on my own home just that is a bunch a bundle of is issues that I have to deal with question and we're all dealing with issues so dealing with the root of a child's issue you're saying the root is really yourself so that's how you should deal with it no the root of the issue of the child is not only you you are part of the root 50% okay so then the rest of it is what's the root the rest of it each child is a completely different option one child is going to have some type of a behavioral problem because the food you're feeding him it's not Kosher or it's not ker enough or it's not strict and it will affect that child that specific child one is going to be more sensitive to kosher one will be less sensitive to kosher one child is not going to be you give the child whatever food that is not 100% culture it's not going to affect that particular soul in a in a way that it's coming out in a behavior one child will affect directly the behavior so how do we know what each child the root of the problem is then that's a totally different thing first we have to understand how we're dealing with a problem then we can start pinpointing what is the problem and how I'm dealing with it first I have to understand where the problem originates first it originates if we're already talking about our child about our children for you want to concentrate about our children our relationship which manifests to everything around us by the way then you have to track it back to how it all started and it all started how I met my wife how was the dating process where was I together with her before after the wedding these little things I'm sorry I'm talking about these topics but it directly affects everything what if you're about cha then you do Chua I'm also about Chua this is the advantage of this world you can do chuva for everything but if you want to track the problem first first let me track how I met my spouse you can't live in the past you can't oh my kid now has this problem I'm going to go back now and think about what I did wrong oh wait when I was pregnant I watched this movie you can make yourself crazy I that would make me crazy so you do it the right way but if you want to fix a problem you have to go to the roots there's too many problems you can't always go back you can always go back it's not the right attitude if you want to fix a problem you cannot fix it on the surface guarantee it's not going to work how do you connect the problem with the root that's a whole different thing right now first we have to understand the problem we have to have her understand that you have to go to the root private meeting tonight wait what did you say that in order to to to in order to fix something take it you know what take it into the physical level not to into a relationship or to a kids you build now A House suddenly some one of the parts of the ceiling is falling there's leaks you can either cover the wall with cement and stop the leak or go to the engineer and see where maybe we build something wrong oh how am I going to find the engineer we built it 10 20 years ago then go look at the script the the at the blueprint maybe hold on maybe something was wrong you have a leak in your house so you either either have option to paint the wall and then you get the leak again and then you paint the wall and you get the leak again and you paint the wall Etc or you go back to the and you're saying maybe something's wrong with the construction how am I going to figure it out you want to solve the problem figure it out you don't have to be OCD you don't have to be fanatic you can do a track you can do some type of a track it's very easy if I dated my wife like you said cha B cha not B doesn't matter a man and woman having relations before they're married it creates a certain blemish you have to fix it that's one time fixing that's how do you fix the we're not talking about how we're fixing right now that we'll do in the next session first you have to I'm not leaving you with nothing you're going you're going to get all your answers first we have to understand the problem you come from isn't that fixing Yeah Yeah from or not from even F people do Chua the thing is that we have the ability in our life to reverse something I damaged 20 years ago even how you said I watched the movie so do cha you reverse it this is watching movies but okay okay that's so every time you finish the movie do cha that's not the point I don't want to take don't take my words out of context and I don't want to drift too much I want to First tonight I want to First cover the points first you have to understand that if you want to deal with a problem you cannot deal with it on an external level that's it this is rule number one if you you're putting a bandage is not going to solve the problem whether it's your kids whether it's your relationship with your husband whether it's your health whe whether it's your mental health whether it's anything your emotions it has to be fixed from the root once you agree and you come to the understanding that everything has to be fixed from the root H okay now we're ready to move to the next part but you have to internalize that every problem that you have in the in your life and you want to fix it you want to fix everything I don't know anyone who says you know I'm fine with my problems I don't care that my husband is behaving not nice and I don't care that my kids are wild and everybody that's why I started by saying at the end of the night when you look in the mirror and you take this notepad and you make a list of everything that you're not happy with you're going to get a few pages of things that you're not happy with why shouldn't you be happy why shouldn't I have a normal smooth life so 10% Like I said it's part of the B speed bumps that's where hasem says okay here just accept it either you came with baggage from a Incarnation from a previous life or this is part of the script life cannot be 100% perfect but God is good enough to give us an abundance of good so when there a little bit of bad happens okay it's a balance can be 100% good you can be on vacation your entire life you go to Vacation every 3 months for two weeks so this is how life is you have a little bit of good A little bit of bad this is you have to have a balance but if you agree you internalize with the fact that most of of my problems I'm saying 90% don't take my numbers and and and get hooked on it 70% 80% doesn't matter the majority of the things that I'm not happy with my life is a direct result from my own actions whether I'm willing to deal with it I'll solve it I'm not willing to deal with it I'm going to continue having a headache that's how it is that's what I'm saying and I'm not inventing it it's proven 3,000 years ago our sages already was talking about it the entire Tora of cabal is explaining about it the thing is that we are like bats in a dark world and we don't know what's going on us we don't know how to deal with things we don't know how to approach a relationship when you got married nobody came to with your manual and says read this manual you're going to have a good marriage nobody told you that you know who told you some type of an example how to deal with marriage your parents you looked at your parents and you're like okay that's how marriage is supposed to be so we kind of mimic our our parents relationship we try to refine it cuz we always look at something and we try to refine it so I'm saying I'm not going to be like my father but a big piece of my pattern of behavior is what I saw at home Growing Up So in in most cases a father that screams on his kids all day long most likely his father was screaming on him all day long so that's how he deals with things with screaming so I'm not saying it's 100% usually we're better than our parents usually but we bring a lot of back baggage with us so the thing is that if I want to change my path I have to do some type of an analysis what's going on so the Torah came to tell me here's a list of rules here's a list of recommendations follow it you'll be fine the problem is that we have an ego and in most cases our ego is out of control so I'm much more smarter than a rabbi that said something 2,000 years ago and that's all 2,000 years ago it's a prehistoric oldfashioned way our sages were 10 times more smarter smarter than us and when they told us to do a b and c there's very deep wisdom in it for 3,000 years how they educated kids was a system and it never failed 50 years ago we decided that we're smarter than that and we're changing it and we're failing now I'm not saying that if you look at history books that 400 years ago kids were not spoiled but probably 99% you have a guarantee that in the last 3,000 years the way kids behave to their parents is a completely different thing ask your grandparents how they were my mother I don't have to go to back my mother tells me I dare to answer back to my parents I would dare to answer back to my teacher my father would walk home I would sit like this just ask your parents and your grandparents how they behave to their parents so yes we have to take responsibil ility to most of our problems and if you don't take responsibility and you throw the responsibility on somebody else then you're putting a patch I don't want to deal with it we have to take responsibility it's the easiest thing to take my problem and to throw it on somebody else and at the end of the day when I'm looking in the mirror and I don't feel like dealing with my problems nobody wants to deal with their problems so you you you cushion your life with all sorts of very instant gratification ations and Little Pleasures to not to deal I don't feel like dealing with it right now it's natural it's human we don't feel like dealing with with an issue right now who feels like dealing with problems so we cover everything with all sorts of things the problem is that the true happiness that one needs to pull out is in the root you can cover your life with many layers of of small small parts of Happiness small moment M of happiness but that moment passes and you're back to square one cuz anything in the physical has a limit nothing in this world is Limitless so everything ends you're go on a vacation it will end you got a good meal the the food will get digested you watch a good movie the movie ends at some point back to reality this world all everything is with limits the only thing that doesn't have a limit is my soul so the through Happiness and happiness is a very big term happiness will manifest into you know a good relationship being calm being happy being relaxed being you know enjoying life the things that we don't really enjoy life even the the little things that make us happy we don't really enjoy it because we have baggage carried with us so the point is that one needs to come to the understanding and saying okay let's let's be be true to myself right now I can lie to everybody in the world I cannot lie to God and I can definitely not lie to myself I can lie to all my friends and put on a smile and everything's good and everything's fine and but deep down inside you can't lie to yourself if you want to be smart then at the end of the day before you go to sleep our sages say told us say is not necessarily reading from the book yeah reading from the book is very important but you sit down for two minutes and you make an account what did I do today what did I do today was I a good mother make a list what did you do how many times you screamed was I was I a good wife was I a good friend what did you do you make yourself a list every day you're going to have a whole list of things you need to work on yourself for the next day now ultimately if you look at yourself and you're saying oh I'm 100% everything's good then either you're lying to yourself or either you don't you know the the the the problem is so hidden deep that you're like no no everything's fine but at the the end of the day when you're sitting with yourself covered in bed and your thoughts are going on and your emotions are all messed up from the day if you're really true with yourself you're saying am I really 100% happy no I'm not 100% happy cuz I have to deal with this issue and this issue and this issue and this issue Hashem didn't create the world with issues we create issues Hashem tells you you want to have a normal life follow the rules that's it you follow the rules your life will be good now you can't reverse the problems within one day a lot of people tell me oh yeah I applied what you're saying for two weeks it didn't work it doesn't work like that you know one year of damage two years of repair but you have to balance it everything in this world has to be in a balance everything that loses balance then it will tilt to One Direction if you're looking at the structure of the spiritual spot they're they're broken into right side left side and center the top what's called is in the center the bottom is called is in the center the whole the whole foundation of the teachings of cabala is put yourself in Balance when you're not in Balance things don't go good you get seasick you know the the the the ship is Rocky you get sick your life is Rocky you're not in Balance things don't work out if you balance your life then you're centered that you don't have issues and even if something bad happens okay part of life you don't get overwhelmed because some little thing happened and most of the little things can be prevented and even when they happen you can know how to deal with it so you need to bring yourself to some type of a very balanced State and whether you like it or not do you agree with it or not the Torah is the source of all of our problems the Torah is not a story that Moshe said this and ab did that and the story actually happened there's a reason why there's a story but inside the stories there are teachings and messages and mystical teachings that tell Torah tells us this is the guide to the world yeah sometimes it's not 100% how you like sometimes it's not exactly what you want to do but you know there's a there's a give and a take in every relationship if you want to have some type of a good relationship you have to give in a little bit in business you have a partner you're not 100% happy with with a partner but he's putting his weight in the business so you're willing to to give in a little bit because you're getting a lot in any relationship it's a give and take and if I'm only taking then it's completely off balance and it's never going to work a relationship has to be a give and a take it starts with my husband then it goes to my kids has to be given a take with the kids we PE we think in our distorted way of thinking that the relationship between a parent and a child is the child owes me something the child doesn't owe me anything I actually owe the child more than what he owes me it has to be a give and take relationship any relationship that is not a free a good motion then it's not a healthy relationship what does the kid have to give us another topic no write the write the questions okay the thing is that any relationship I have to give in something same thing with the toah sometimes I have to do something that I'm not really happy about it it's the question is what am I gaining the gain and loss am I'm willing to lose here something but here look how much I'm going to gain so it all depends a lot of people say I don't feel like dealing with all the problems that I have my kids my husband my par my health but if if you would go now to a doctor and you tell him this is my issue and the doctor will tell you do this most people say okay the doctor said he has a diploma on the wall I'll listen to him 90% of the time it's going to not going to cure the problem here the Torah come and tells you this is your problem this is the solution 90% of the times you don't listen to the Tor and you say I no no that sounds like a prehistoric solution it's an oldfashioned solution I don't want to deal I need something practical people come to me with issues I tell them what to do they tell me give me something practical tell them no this is the Practical thing you hit the nerve you know the Chinese medicine one of the only ones that actually works they go to the root you have a problem in the hand they poke you in the leg you have a problem in your in your neck they pull a finger why that's how it works you go to the root you go to the source you have a root canal you don't shave the tooth you pull out the root you do a root canal so if I'm not willing to deal with my problem in the roots the problem will stay there that's it and problems usually grow they don't keep a certain they don't sustain where they are they will grow and grow and grow until I actually deal with it and if I never deal with it I'll never solve it so the point is that anything that I want to deal with I have to go to the root and the guide that tells me how to get to the root and what's the connection to each thing is the Torah it's not the story in the Torah it's the teaching that comes with the Torah so you can try all the different things you have problems with your marriage you go to a marriage counselor he's not going to solve anything he's not going to solve anything he's going to sit with you take a lot of money do this do that what if it's a friend person who the Tor teach to help you solve your problems if it doesn't have to be a FR person if a person takes the wisdom that the Torah offers and you apply it it doesn't need to have a yaka you know how many people learn the Torah of cabala and they apply it to their life and they're not even Jewish or they're not from one has to do with one has nothing to do with the other in general everything is connected because if the Torah tells you listen don't eat this animal don't drink this with this there's a reason for that you know that when a person doesn't eat koser it affects directly the soul if the Torah told you don't mix meat and dairy it's not to make my life hard or not to enjoy a tasty dis dish because it doesn't have dairy margarine in it the Torah tells you if you mix meat and dairy it's going to affect your soul your soul is going to affect less my soul is going to affect more each soul will get affect completely different so one person you know how the Kosher diet is going to affect them they're going to be depressed one person will have anxieties one person will have fear one person will have nightmares one person is going to be add one person is going to be upset one person is going to come down to their body each person it affects different our body our our spiritual structure of our soul is kind of similar to our body so one person can be allergic to meal products and one person has to have milk one person can be allergic to to to vitamin C another person has to have extra of it same thing in the spiritual level but anything that the Torah came to tell you theor tell you keep the laws of koser it's not to make my life hard that I have to drive now extra two miles to a Kosher Supermarket to buy kosher food I have to pay another $100 on my grocery bill because it's kosher it's not to make my life harder it's to make my life better so kosher is the first thing that affects our soul and the more strict you are with koser the more you refine your soul that's how it is it's not about being fanatic it's not about being Ultra Ultra Orthodox fanatic it has nothing to do with it it's how it touches your that's it your soul is spiritual anything you put into your body food gets digested becomes blood the N is in the blood it gets affected right away and you can and this I can't answer you now because we're going to sit here for two weeks but every part of the food in the kosher you'll see how it affects people look at people that are very nervous all the time look at their diet guarantee they're eating a lot of meat and the meat is not 100% kosher makes them angry all the time why are you angry who's annoying you well you buy from a kosher buter but it's not 100% kosher I didn't tell you where you bought the meat I'm talking about not Kosher meat so people that eat kosher meat shouldn't be angry and upset you'll be surprised that half the meat in our country is not really kosher but that's not on us if we go to the Kosher Supermarket and we buy Kosher meat what did you say it's not your fault I'm kidding like if you what more could you do you go to the Kosher Supermarket you buy the Kosher meat there's much more half of the meat in this country is not really kosher country is is even worse no we're talking Kosher meat Kosher meat half the meat that you take out of the the the the Shelf in the in this country is not really kosher it has a stamp on it h it has a stamp on it but the is not done right or they weren't particular with how they did What's called the the the koshering of the meat is you know you can be very uh what L lenient is a nice word the fact that it has a a a stamp doesn't mean anything doesn't mean anything now when you said it's not our fault I'm saying what do we do about that we start like just heard about meet ourselves no but you know but you know what look listen I don't want to come right now with Solutions cuz I want to finish what I want to tell you then you're going to you can come you ask me with Solutions but you know how we buy meat I live in Israel but even when I lived in America we used to be a group of people we would buy the meat from an organic farm from a farmer that we know and we would give it to the sh that we know that will'll Slaughter it koser it wrap it and ship it and we pay 20 30% more than the cost and I know I have real healthy kosher meats 90% of the meat that you pull out of the the Shelf today forget about kosher right now is injected with antibiotics hormones junk poisons just see how they're they're growing the meat in this country forget about kosher right now 90% of what you eat in this country is poison that directly affects the brain if if you want to separate the Torah right now the nutrition what you give to your kids and yourself 90% of it is garbage look in the supermarket what you buy half of it is chemicals food coloring MSG GMO junk everything white flour white Sho all these things it's junk now people think okay so I'll get fat no it affects your brain right away you know why 90% of these countries on medication the food the food is poison it affects the brain so the thing is again I'm not coming now with Solutions but it also trickles into the kosher world I said kosher because the Kosher diet is the foundation to our stability take a person that is completely strict with koser is focused like I told you we buy our meat from a farm that we know that it's grass Fred it's organic I know the I know how he how he does it so I don't go to the supermarket so I buy my meat we make an order every two months so I have a second freezer s but I know my meat first of all it's 100 times more more B it's a good it's good meat it's fresh second of all I know it's 100% kosher now I'm fanatic with kosher look at my kids I'm not coming to show off with my kids but you see the kid straight it's it's not all messed up so here is the give and take and am I willing to to to give in and not be fanatic or am I'm willing to be fanatic I'm using the word fanatic just to be extreme but I'm not fanatic am I willing to be strict but here I don't have to deal with a list of issues so what am what am I giving what am I taking so I can be like okay I don't feel like being so strict 6 hours 5 hours milk the kosher and the hire okay don't be strict but then you're going to deal with a list of problems it's very simple so CER is one of the basics of the basics but the Torah teaches that everyone has their their um Rabbi and who you ask questions and if you're not you know and you're following to no but if your Rabbi is the certain way and he says this is the way we're doing it those are your Customs but maybe your Rabbi is not right says what maybe the rabbi you chose is not right okay let's say you're safic Jew hasn't do Safar it's nonsense but not every for the way they do their meat saying there's one way to do it and that's it there's one way to do it and that way is written in has nothing to do before before and that was is equal for everybody there's no difference there's no difference then after the came this is the book for everybody after came some people came and you know added all sorts of Customs shouldn't be the way they are they should we should just all be like the same ultimately yeah but that's not the should be the same I don't want to get into that issue right now about the fight between the Asad Andi we have a we have you know that the law the in how to slaughter an animal it's exactly the same for everybody it's exactly the same there's no you know new law in how to Cas the meat there's no l law it's it's the same for everybody the problem in our generation that people started taking all sorts of discounts and that's why I said that many rabbis the fact that they have a long beard in aaka and they have a title Rabbi doesn't mean that they're 100% right I'm not talking about that but okay what I'm talking about that doesn't matter who you affiliated with if you are ashaz far blish it doesn't matter we all have the same book so one will put thein like this one will put thein like that one will say the one will say the O doesn't matter but there's laws and then when it comes to Kure there's no difference there's a there's no invention of oh I'm saf let me go with a new book okay so you mention Safar came the 100 years ago and he added all sorts of things according to his KES so the they add this this and this you're allowed to add little but you can remove things and if the tells you this is how you Slaughter the animal and if you did it wrong the animal is that's the doesn't matter how you look and unfortunately in our country I'm telling you that's that you'll know half the meat in our country is not even kosher because they they're not doing it the right way and they don't care because it's a it's a business the stamp doesn't mean anything now again you a lot of people are are trying to to to dissect little things that's not the point right now the point is you have to go to the source and you have to follow the source unfortunately in our generation many people round corners it's not the right way the thing is that first of all you have to find the right Rabbi and and yes a lot of rabbis in Our Generations they're not they're not 100% they might have all sorts of ulterior motives for whatever reason I I see things that I can't even believe what rabbis sometimes allow I don't know why afraid to lose their congregants I don't know what they're what what they're doing some horror things that I hear it's not normal but that's not the point I'm not saying that's not what what I'm trying to answer you the point is will go to more specific questions I want to I want to cover the the concept is that every little thing that I do in my life will directly affect my and I mention kosher because that's one of the most basic things my diet how I eat will affect my my soul right away that then what I look at how I talk what I listen every little thing that I do we know that everything that has to do with the level of Purity and impurity that's the thing that affects the soul the most anything everything that that's that's not so understandable mik for example most people say mik bath of water who cares wants you to talk about that she just said so I started with koser because koser there are three types of mitv one type is called UT UT is a testimony we do a lot of mitv for a testimony that something happened in two weeks we're going to celebrate P it's a Mitzvah it's a lot of mitv there's a whole list of mitv in P this is a testimony that we left to 3,300 years ago we celebrate kanuka it's a testimony that a miracle happened 2,000 years ago we celebrate puim many of the mitv that we do are a testimony for something that happened in the past then another group of mitv is called M these are basic things that I don't need the Torah to tell me don't steal don't kill don't commit adultery don't lie these are things that I don't need the Tor to come and tell me and any normal human being will do it but then the third group is called kimim is laws and these are the things that don't make sense don't mix meat and da why why red heer why daa these particular things that don't make sense these are the things that most affect your n now you have to understand that your soul is buildt from layers I explained before that there were five levels the highest level is called comes from the word Unity this is the piece of hm that is connected to hem it's so holy it doesn't even come down to this world this is the pieace of H this the next level is called is a surrounding light this or this is what people call it an aura this is what we call in in in Ines the image this is how we get our shape comes from the then we have these three levels are in our body the higher the level of the soul is the more refined it is the more it gets affected whatever is in our body is a lower level it gets affected from what my body does so dka the things that don't make sense affect directly my Nish anything that has to do with kulture Will right away affect my my soul the more particular with the laws of Kut the more I will refine my soul now you want to call fanatic you can call it fanatic but I'll give you an example cuz not the long ago I was in a lecture and somebody was arguing with me why wine has to be CER she was like I'm totally kosher but I don't believe why wine has to be kosher so it started a whole argument and then I told her that the more is particular with things that has to do be koser it affects the soul in a much more refined way so okay I I I understand you're not going to eat pork but that's like a a very big thing what it will affect your body is in one level so people will be very particular not to eat pork but to eat a bug this big on their salad they're not going to start looking at the leaves they're not going to start washing the leaves or looking inside the the the pepper if there's a bug in there a bug this big is a thousand times more worse than eating pork how it affects your soul now go you can go into the kosher goes into levels and levels the more you are refined with your kosher the more it will affect you so I I gave that woman an example and I told her you know that we are very strict with how we mixing our utensils so I told her take now a spoon and mix boiling hot coffee boiling hot and there's milk in the coffee the heat opens the pores of the material of the spoon the taste of the milk goes into the spoon now the spoon is considered dairy spoon now take this Dairy spoon half an hour later an hour later let's say you're very mped from 1 hour from meat to Dairy you have chicken soup you have meat soup boiling hot soup you take this spoon that is considered dairy right now you put it in the boiling hot soup the soup now is not Kosher because the pores of the S of the spoon now open for the heat of the soup the taste of the meat went into the spoon now the spoon is trfe it made the CH not goer something so simple simple so the reaction that I got was like Oh no you're fanatic yeah you know what I'm fanatic because this minor thing in a very refined way will directly affect my soul you know how it's going to affect my soul I call it the syndrome that's not so important h i don't have to do that fanatic it's affecting you in such a refined way then your judgment is off and you know who it affects the most your kids so the kids their judgment is off and they're not centered a kid when he's not centered an adult not centered it will affect in depression or will affect in anger and things like this with a kid when the kid is not balanced it right away comes in Anger throw things scream I don't know it Tantrums it affects their soul it's like something poking their soul and you try to understand why is my kid behaving like that yeah cuz you fed him onos food so the kid is something's going on he doesn't know have to do with it the soul is sensitive so when I'm being very particular with laws of Kash I'm refining my soul so you see a person that is refining himself he's calm relaxed they don't get upset they don't go they're not emotional you know why the soul is refined so it reflects to the body so you look at certain individuals that are very particular with anything that has to do with Purity they're calm relaxed they not not aggressive what this anger this anger is coming the soul is not eased if you're not if you have issues with anger and we all have issues with anger it means the soul is not is not calm so it comes out in anger anger is not necessarily banging that you know you're headed the wall anger can be screaming being impatient impatient is one form of anger why you impatient so all these things you this because the soul is so refined it affects the soul so I started with kosher but kosher is is the foundation for everything anything that has to do with Purity and impurity things as basic as as washing my hands in the morning there are different levels of impurity the highest level of impurity is the impurity of a dead corpse toat but there's different types of impurity one of the worst levels the highest level of impurity is nid when a woman after her cycle she she she's she reached a very high level of impurity that's why women go to the mik we're going to talk about it in a second because that is like the base of that affects everything but when I wake up in the morning I have very strong impurity it's called Sleep impurity to why because my soul left the body at night when you go to sleep your soul leaves the body by default if you didn't guard your body the right way by saying and all the things that you have to do it then all these cipot this negative energy that comes into your body to to suck the Holiness that is radiating out of your body because if you did one Mitzvah today one not 10 your body is a factory of Holiness of Kusa you're radiating Kusa you did five mitvah today you just produced nuclear power of Holiness you gave charity here you help your friend here you set a blessing you eat you did you do probably 50 Mitzvah every day you are producing unbelievable power of Holiness the problem with most people is that they have too many holes in their system so all the Holiness goes away if you contain the Holiness in you you would be flying flying no issue no problems so you do a lot of mitv but you're not holding this it's running away it's the whole system with the Israel and the Palestinians Israel giving Palestinians medals to build buildings they're using it to build bombs to to shoot at us it's the system I'm giving you something you're shooting you you using it to kill me so I'm feeding my soul with cuz I'm doing a lot of mitv and then I don't guard it so the other side of H comes and takes it this is what's called that's what theal explains y means to suck that the other part of Holiness comes and sucks my Holiness so I'm I feel why do you feel tired at the end of the day the soul is tired how come you see certain individuals 3:00 in the morning they're on fire why that the is contained why do you why are you tired at the end of the day because of the body I know people that they sleep an hour a day they're not tired the body is is is working according to the soul you are tired at the end of the day cuz your soul is tired why because there's too many leaks all the Holiness that you are producing is being taken away so you you you you you you become weak and tired so the thing is if I want to contain this Kusa I have to surround myself with all the these Gates all these fences these are all the negative mitv all the precepts it's not to make my life hard is to seal these holes now the this Holiness is not living that's why you see certain individuals they're like flying they're not they're not they're not affected by the world why the soul is like lifting them up so anything that has to do with Purity and impurity affects directly the soul so when I go to sleep at night my soul leaves the body if I'm not guarding my body then all these powers of impurity go into the body and they suck oh Mya and then I wake up in the morning after a 9 hour sleep either I'll wake up like a shat tired either I'm going to wake up depressed either I don't want to feel like going out of bed I'm going to get wake up upset I'm going to wake up impatient I'm going to wake up I don't feel like waking up how many times did you really wake up in the morning like charged today I'm going to turn the world upside down and you walk down and you're smiling and you're happy you hugging your kids how many times you had that probably never how many times you walking down in the morning and you're hugging your kids take your kids away now forcely not on a don't go on a vacation forcely take the kids away from you your soul is going to be ripped to pieces I'm dealing now with a family that the government took their kids you can't even imagine the the the the Suffering The Torture they're going through now look how distorted it is you can't wait to get rid of the kids oh I got to sleep already just give me some peace and quiet it's your kid it should be the complete opposite your kid comes home from school you should be throwing your phone in your computer and running to the kid and hanging them how was your day my precious child if Shalom the child will be taken a parent is devastated but we live our life we don't appreciate the moments that my kids are around me they're annoying me all day long they're not annoying me I'm annoying myself and I'm blaming my kids that they're annoying me so how I put myself to sleep that's how I'm going to wake up if I I I set myself spiritually the right way how to go to sleep my soul will go up to sh it will get recharged it will get cleansed it will get washed I wake up in the morning without an alarm clop with a smile on my face I throw the blanket off me how many times you wake up in the morning you're like I don't feel like getting out of bed so husband you take them to school you you get them ready I don't feel like doing it right now why it's not normal so when I wake up in the morning I have such impurity on my hands if you don't wash your hands right first thing in the morning you keep this impurity on you don't do the two two hours later when you do the morning prayers you do it right away why because you have this impurity on your hands now what happens when you have this impurity on your hands first thing that you do is start brushing your teeth start touching your face face then you start touching food you're preparing the food for your kids for the school where your hands are impure all this impurity goes on the food you touch the kids goes on the kids one simple act just do like this in the morning one little act do it right when you wake up so everything that has to do with theity and impurity affects directly your soul and the major one is the one for you is the mik if you would understand what a mik does not only that you wouldn't miss it even one time in your life you would be counting the days to go there because the mik is the source of everything because when a woman has her cycle she reaches a very high level of impurity to the reason why she reaches that because she had the potential to bring life she was ulating and then she didn't bring life so it caused the complete opposite form opposite of life is death so that's why the blood is so impure the reason why the woman has the period is because when Adam and when they sinned each one got 10 curses Adam got 10 curses hav got 10 curses the snake got 10 curses everybody could got curses one of the curses the woman God is the dam so it's it's a tun it's a a way how a woman can correct the spiritual damage of the universe but the point is in the spiritual level that it brings a very strong impurity on the woman the mik reverses everything now I'll tell you in a very short way a little bit what means a mik mik is something that we don't understand why a bath of water can make a person pure but mikra has to be 100% precise if it's not 100% precise the mik is kosher it has to have a certain amount of measurement of water if it missing one drop of this measurement the m is not it's not going to work the mikra has to be rainwater that the water was captured you can't use any other type of water there's so many laws in the mik in essence how it works that water in the spiritual term presents growth the power of growth and birth you take now seeds you put it in the ground if you're not going to water the ground nothing's going to grow you pour water then starts growing water has the power of of of of birth and growing and you see there there are four elements in the world fire earth air and and uh and uh and fire water Earth and uh wind and wind air fire wind water and Earth everything in the world is built from these four elements each element has different character traits so you see the element of fire has the the the the character traits of consuming anything you put in Fire it consumes it water is the complete opposite anything you put water in it it will inflate so water has a certain power of cleaning and the power of creating you see that where is the baby in the in in the mother's womb for 9 months in water the whole point of the mik is that the water when it's a certain amount of measurement and it's water that did not touch the ground meaning that it didn't get affected yet by this world has some type of of Holiness in it when a man or a woman goes into the mik what he does he goes back to the original state where they started that's what what the the the the the reverse that the mik does because when a person Shalom does some type of a spiritual spiritual damage he removes himself from his source and the mik has the power to reverse that damage when a person goes when a woman goes into the mik first of all if you see that if you know the measurement of the mik has to be 40 that's a measure certain measurement this 40 corresponds to the sphere of Bina Bina is is the SPH that everything is getting born from that SP when a person damages something and he removes himself from the source he has to go somehow back to the source when a woman immerses herself in the water then she elevates herself back to her Source the period removes the woman she separates herself from a source now when she goes back to her Source she gets back all of her energy all of her powers all of her blessings everything goes back to its source when you go into imerse in the mik in this little bath of water the spiritual act what you do is you take your soul back to its source any damage that was caused on the way it's being reversed right on that spot why does it do it we'll never understand don't even try to understand that but the tun that it does it's it's like almost like taking take a baby when a baby is born the baby's perfect no issues he doesn't have an ego he never said anything wrong he didn't lie has 100% emuna 100% belief babies believe in anything slowly slowly when they start becoming part of this world so they start becoming impure cuz they see things they they they eat things they're starting to become less and less and less pure take a 2-year-old you see it's like you know this this innocent thing you know everything you tell them they you they believe slowly slowly we get affected by this world and when we come to become adults we're already completely different from how we started imagine how you would be able to reverse your life and go back to your mother's womb for a couple minutes and come back again so you clean yourself you go back to the original state you reverse everything this is the mik so for a whole month or two months or half a year you're accumulating all sorts of dirt you're removing yourself from your Source then you go into this pool of water you reverse everything you go back to your Source if you want to compare compare it to our to our terminology at the end of the day your phone ran out of battery it's dead it's worthless you can't do anything with it you have to connect it to its source to recharge it this is what mik does it recharges you now if a person doesn't do it then he gets further away from their Source you further away from the source you don't get anything from your from from your Source it's almost like you'll you'll you'll hear Now Music the further away you go from the speaker the softer it becomes at some point you don't hear it anymore the further away you go from your Source then you don't get affected from your source so you lose your your own selfness so when you go into a mik you reverse the entire thing you go back to your Source you get recharged rebirthed you get all these new energies and you starting clean now who does it affect besides you your kids now if a child is being born when the woman was not in the mik before that then all the spiritual dirt that she had before gets dressed on the child that's one of the main reasons why children already are born with all sorts of is issues mental and health and emotional cuz the dirt that the mother carried with her was affecting the child right away [Music]