Do we really expect 12-year-old girls to keep the whole Torah?- Yisro On Fire

This Torah class is brought to [music] you by tora anytime.com. >> A Torah Anytime original series. >> Let's ask an obvious question. How is it possible that the moment a girl turns 12 or a boy turns 13, they are suddenly expected to carry the entire Tyra on their shoulders? The Tyra at Hari was given to all of Kl's throw evenly. Whether you're 75 years old and seasoned by life and reflective and mature or you're 12 years old and barely know what you're doing and yet the obligation is the same. You are now responsible to keep the entire Tyra. Isn't that a little hard on a 12-year-old or a 13-year-old? Think about it. 10 seconds ago, they were just lounging around all day playing ping pong, jealous of their friend sneakers and wishing they had the coolest backpack or newest gadget. And now suddenly, no more jealousy. 10 seconds ago they didn't exactly respect their parents and now suddenly 10 seconds ago they knew almost nothing about Shabas and now they're hit with an avalanche millions of Shabas they're supposed to know all of them like just like the like just like that the snap of a finger how does Hashem expect a child to just flip a switch and overnight suddenly keep everything here's the answer the answer is that somewhere along the way we observe absorbed a completely false idea that at any given moment you're supposed to already be a sadic that the minute you turn bar mitzvah or basitzvah if you're not ki or kvki you're already behind that if you slip once and say a little ashara you failed if you didn't finish shas in high school you failed if you don't know every last detail of hos shabas you failed that mindset isn't just wrong it's a mistake of epic proportions. Hashem does not expect greatness the moment we come out of the womb. He's not waiting with a clipboard at age 13 saying, "Okay, let's see if this one nailed Judaism yet." Life is not about being a sadic on day one. Life is about ending up at sadic, about movement, about growth, about becoming a sadic. Here's the part a lot of people miss. Hashem is a lifelong journey. It's not a pop quiz. It's not a light switch. It's not an overnight transformation. You're not meant to walk out of childhood as a fully formed spiritual giant with everything figured out. The goal isn't perfection at 13 or even 27. The goal is that when life is over, you can say you spent it climbing. And climbing is messy. It includes confusion and missteps and backtracking [clears throat] and falls. It includes trying and failing and trying again and sometimes failing better the second time. The Tyra doesn't demand flawlessness. It assumes struggle. It's built for human beings, not angels. Hashem isn't asking, "Are you perfect yet?" He's asking, "Are you moving? Are you growing? Are you still in the game?" Because greatness in Judaism isn't about never failing. It's about refusing to stay down. Listen to this Gimarra. The Gumarian DE says something shocking about the greatest spiritual collapse in history, the Aelv. It says the gar is trying to figure out how in the world could the holiest Jews who ever lived commit such like an egregious act immediately after receiving the Tyra. So the garra says that in truth they were on a much higher loftier level than committing such a sin. However, Hashem lowered their guard so to speak so that they should sin and then thus be forced to do chuva and introduce to the world the concept of chuva. That's what the Gumar says. Let's ask an obvious question. Are you serious? That's when you teach us about chuva. I I'm all into chuva. It's important. There's no doubt. Can you wait a few minutes before orchestrating the most catastrophic publicly talked about sin in all of world history? Does it really need to be 10 seconds after we get to Tyra? Can't you wait until some random cloudy day in October? The Jews are sitting around in the desert counting sand and minding their own business and there is nothing else going on. And then you lower their level. And they do the ago. And we do chuva. And we teach the whole world for all time the concept of chuva. Why orchestrate it to coincide with the giving of the Torah. Oh, only the single greatest, holiest moment in all of world history. That's when you teach me about chuva. The answer is that Hashem chose that moment on purpose right after mantra because he wanted to make something crystal clear once and for all. Don't you ever dare think that the Tyra is only for its sadikim. Don't you ever dare think it demands perfection, that it's only for people floating in some holy spiritual incubator where everything is peaceful and pure. No, that's not real life. The reason the eagle had to come immediately after ma is to show us that a Torah life without failure and more importantly without knowing how to get back up doesn't work. The Tyra was given with failure in mind. The Tyra doesn't just understand failure. It expects it. It anticipates it. For the same God that gave us the Tyra, gave us the and the challenges to strengthen us and to eventually bring us back to him through the most powerful force in the world, a force called Chuva. Hashem was sending a message not just to the Jews of the Midbar, but to every single Jew for all time. That pit in your stomach when you mess up, that ache, that guilty feeling, that anxiety, that feeling that you should be spiritually more than you are right now, that's not something that gets in the way of your aid. That is your reashem. Being real, being raw, coming to Hashem, not with perfection, but with honesty, with the bruises, with the baggage, with the regret, with the burning desire to pick yourself up and keep going. That's not a flaw in this system. That's not a bug in the system. That is the system. Hashem didn't give the Tyra to angels. He gave it to people, real people with jobs and bills and screaming kids and spilled coffee and annoying co-workers and sore backs and overflowing schedules and breaking points. And somewhere deep inside of all of that, a spark that just wants more. The fact that you wish you learned more terra. The fact that you regret you don't davin better. That you cry when no one else is looking because you really want to give more stuck and you wish you could. That you carry spiritual dreams you never had time to chase that still nag at your heart. That's not failure. That's the spark. That's not something that gets in the way of your aid. That is [clears throat] yearning to be better in a hashem isn't a detour. It's the highway. And yet, how often do we walk around saying, "Hey, I'm not a gud, so I'm a failure. I don't dive in like the stone or rebel, so I'm a failure. I don't learn like Finstein, so I'm a failure." What a mistake. Hashem doesn't expect you to be an instant guttle. He wants to see you learn to grow. He knows your life. He knows your struggles. He knows your limitations. He made your limitations. Of course, he doesn't expect a 13-year-old or a 12-year-old girl to be perfect on their bar mitzvah day. What he wants is that you're climbing the ladder, not settling on the floor. Hashem never asked you to be a gull overnight. He asked you not to give up on becoming one. So, stop disqualifying yourself. Stop comparing your beginning to someone else's end. Stop calling growth failure just because it's not finished yet. If you're climbing, even if you're out of breath, you're exactly where you're supposed to be. I recently made is for my son. The min is that being that a child learns the entire Tyra in his mother's womb and then is tapped on the lip and forgets it right before he leaves. We go all to be manak him and console him so to speak. So I asked the following question at the sha. I said I don't understand. This baby a few days ago was sitting and learning with the greatest giants who ever lived. He was being taught by angels. He was learning kabala from the arizal. He was learning lumis from Brisker and from Karo and he was learning with Rava and Abay and he was learning sitting next to Rashi and then he leaves and he is distraught and he comes into this world and we are his us a room full of people who barely know anything. Aren't we only confirming his doubts on this world that this is a world of people who know almost nothing in comparison to the angels that he was learning with? isn't a room full of tired and worn out men who had a long week working who probably didn't learn too much who are just trying to make it in life and we are the he sees the guy who hasn't opened the safer in months he sees the guy who is on a third grade level of and he's 50 he just finished learning with the pua and the moral and the emis this baby and this is his we how are we comforting him we are terrifying him the answer is we're telling him something loud and clear. The Tyra isn't about knowing everything. It's about growing. It's about trying. It's about struggling. That's what this world is for. That's why we show up to show him the beauty of effort, not perfection. We're telling them, you don't lose out by being born. You're starting your journey to greatness. One that will last you your whole life. You see, a lot of people go through life thinking, "I'm 27. I still speak lash. I still look look at things I shouldn't. I still don't do properly. I'm failing. I'm a nobody. I might as well go just go make money all day and make the most out of my haz hope for the best. But that's wrong. You're not supposed to be at Saddak at 27. You're supposed to end up at Saddak. That's the game plan. That's the secret. Life is designed to challenge you, to stress you, to push you into the chuva highway. Your mistakes, your regrets, your I can't believe I just did that moments. That's where the growth lies. That's where the real spiritual work happens. The Tyra isn't a VIP club for perfect people. It's a manual for real people with messy lives. And if you take it seriously, failures, struggles, chaos, and all, you'll end up at Sadic. Not immediately, not tomorrow, but in the end. And at the end of the day, that's what counts. 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