What's Wrong with Receiving Gifts? - Rabbi Shlomo Schiller

[Music] is is it a issue problem or any idea of receiving free gifts from somebody are you aware that it comes that you heard about this right so Abram was told to go down to deliver come on he travels there Israel tec-9 and what happens when he arrives teknon right there's a hunger no food right so what does he do go down to Egypt they come down to Egypt so let's say a verse 12 let's read the yaki who attack emits rim and the Egyptians will see you vamoose das what is his wife the house goatee they'll kill me but AHA you and leave you alive right so Abram is asking from Sarah he's telling her Amina please say a hottie are you my sister Lamon in order yet have Li the Avila what is Abram saying please say you're my sister that what okay but in the words of the Torah what does it say verse no no worse yet page 56 verse 13 say please you're my sister the money toughly the avila that may go well with me right so and it has a few meanings and a few ways you could explain it but he thought would heat up what's whatever decaf from the word told are you familiar with the wrote of good right the man-eater that would be good for me what is the good so very interesting Rashi says that they'll give me gifts it newly matter not that swatch associate the money tablet newly matter not okay as well this is in Egypt okay so okay as well later on again when the second time when the he has the story with the same story with a vanilla the face of every minute so they they take Sara right he he brings her back right and he gives gifts to Abraham and Abraham receives it okay so those are the two places that Abraham does receive a gift or willing to give gifts or staking gifts fun in Egypt right and the story of avi Mela verse 22 this is this is talking after it was a major war going on if you realize guys yesterday or in the last week during the parish I was a major going major war going on probably guys in history this is the first war going on if you just look in details very interesting though the back in the day there were kingdoms right so each one had a control on a certain territory and your king there are four kings fighting against the five right so this is actually the first war that is happening where this is happening where wisdom in Israel right so the first war that is happening in history right in his is in Israel if it's not the first fight the first fight was in was who the two brothers kind in heaven right that he was jealous he kills his brother so it's not the first fight but it's the first war that countries or King does are fighting right an interesting enough that it's over Israel one of the kings that involved in actually the initiates all this is Nemo did you hear about this kingdom odd very interesting right the same idea he wanted to take control of the world it was the one that what tried to build the Babylonian Tower and God stopped him and spread out so Nemo it says okay in a good way right trying to build the Babylonian Tower let's try to force them to accept my kingdom and go out to war trying to control the world so that's just in the brackets okay so it's a major war going on in Israel and who they did and one side wins and they captured right they took away people of stone and who is there who is captured also who's taken away lot who is lot the nephew of Abraham so Abraham here's the story right away he gets his people with him 318 people that are servants workers by Abraham you know they go and they go and fight and release right and take a back right all their spoil and bring back right all the goods that were taken from stone including lot so they come back from the war so let's read page 64 verse 21 so this is coming back from the war biomimetics tom says the king of stone O'Laughlin tavern 10 leha nefesh give me the people right all the people that captured give me back the harlot who Sh what son who Sh they spoil the the the all the goods right lock so take whatever they took you know cows animals tanks and the mission right airplanes right that you keep to yourself but the people get back to me so look what this over of immense aback well your mom and medics dome how he motya d i'll raise my hand allah shame Kelly on the they caught the the God above connection my bad the creator of heaven and earth if I'll take from you in me hood a string that soccer shoelace right it may emit in Makhachkala shoulder-high if I take anything from you the lot Tom are you shouldn't say i nee has shouting right I is the one that made Abraham wealthy so over here you see very clear a Abram was offered here it takes from the spoiled take it right you bring you went you fight it right you got it take it it's for you what does Abram say nothing I'm not taking a string or a shoelace from you that you shouldn't say that I'm the one this king of slum shouldn't say I'm the one that made wealthy Abram so the question is first let's see is it a conflict here in the beginning we saw that Abram was willing to take from Pharaoh and avi Miller right when they took away Sarah right Abram was willing to take from power enough American over here now that's question number one question number two if he refuses Abram is a really a holic idea a Jewish idea not to receive gifts from others so those are the two questions something minor right Abram was willing to they receive so from far off I'm a female I wasn't usual something minor that's why he was willing to receive but all the spoils from the war right he didn't want to receive that's number one okay and another answer is that at this point Abram was enriched yet so it was no concern what did Abram say there why he doesn't want to take from the king of stone that he shouldn't say what I'm the one that made Abram rates right so it's no concern yet over here by far enough America because Abram wasn't rich yet so therefore he was able to take from them only later on when it becomes so rich right then is there concern yes why he wasn't well first one is there is the the first one he is in Egypt is by far oh yes remember and then he has again the story with every mana so both of them he didn't get to the richest point that is possible okay so only after that he's after the story of Egypt and a vanilla and they both gave him a lot of gifts and he was doing well then actually says that he was doing so well and he had it split from lot right his nephew and each one went A's direction okay okay um [Music] something very interesting that he was just trying to make her happy that say you're my sister and there'll be good for me and they'll give me gifts but he didn't really mean that some say one say one second right just a met tried to make her happy a some say the following some say the following it's very interesting idea what is he saying here say that you're my sister in order that they should save me right and it'll be good to me now what about Sarah is he not worried for her I mean she is a married woman she's allowed to have relationship with another man so he solved his problem what about huh-huh so some say right that's a need explanation I mean right you're worried that they might kill you because they'll think that you're the husband right what about her so some say that ideas like this say she was saying like this say that you're my brother right and I will tell them that you are married you're married woman and I'm looking right right I'm looking for the husband so that's the idea so they that he's saving both so some say like this I told them that you're my my bra that you my sister sorry told them that you're my sister right and I will tell them that you are my a married woman not to me but you're a married woman and we're looking for the husband so like that he's saving both right he's saving him that they won't kill him because he's not the husband right and right and and they won't touch her because knowing that she's a married woman so like that all should work out right okay okay Abram they won't kill because he's not the husband Sarah they won't take because she is married they'll come to Abram and Abram ohto right hey she's married and we're looking for the husband okay and why because they want to find out if he's alive or dead and such a no she'll remarried but they want to find a husband okay so some say okay guys so that enters the conflict how come from peril and a female appears willing to take and not from the king of stone okay that just the answer the first question now the second question guys is it in the halacha but the Jewish people issue a problem idea of not receiving gifts so guys if you open the book of leash lay you've heard about the book of Mitch late michl a is written is the wisdom of hemella that he wrote all kinda ideas and lessons for life Miche lay one of the books you know that miracles the wisest man on earth right why this one so ever that was on earth and he wrote a few books and one of them is initially well in michl 8:15 verse 27 is the verse there and it says an end of the verse this Sony whoever hates matter not gifts yes yet whoever hate gifts will live so what Islam essential Omar Malek's saying don't take gifts right so no matter not if here okay so that's the verse in the Miche late let's uh let's see how we go about it so I'll give you will go over and the Talmud a few cases that talk about it the first case is brought down and tracted keep machine was a man that was looking in to buy a piece of land right so let's say in this matter it let's make it clear that you should understand david was looking to buy a piece of land right Ronnie comes and actually buys the land so who's looking first to buy the land David right and who actually bought it Ronnie so David which in the case of the gamora's of ghido let's call him have Gidon right Goodell wasn't happy I was looking to buy the land and here comes a Baba his name is ah Baba comes and buys it sir oh very good so comes the holiday right and they go to the rabbi and the rabbi calls love Kahana he calls him right Robby Abba sorry he calls RB Abba they actually the guy that bought it and he told them like this what do you say about a situation that a man is searching in the trash in a garbage to food and come somebody and grabs it right so you have the poor man searching for food commonly somebody from the outside comes in grabs it right it was a piece of bread or cake and grabs it so Robbie Abba says that man is evil a shock so the rabbi says to him how come you did something similar to it what did he do what did ababa do Porterfield that somebody else was looking into it so the rabbi told RBI but how come you did it so happy ever says sorry I didn't know so far so good so the buyer right lobby IVA says I didn't know that somebody was looking in this land okay now what so Robbie Abba says like this the bar says like this to sell it to him I can't sell it to him why because it was a sign this is the first property that ababa purchased that he birthed it's a bad sign if you buy something and sell it right away people don't look on you good I don't know back in the day seems to be was the issue that to sell the first property right away it doesn't look good so I beaba says like this it only creates a bad name maybe so people won't do business with you that could affect him badly so he says like this they sell it right I cannot sell or cause me damage so I've added the buyer he's at Siddiq he doesn't want he didn't know that someone else was looking into it so he says okay what do we should do to sell it I cannot sell I'm willing to give it for free yeah let him take it right so Ronnie's willing to give their Robbie I buys over here and I've giggles over here right he says take it take it back I didn't know that you were looking first well of Kidal does of Goodell wanna - no laughs Keaton says no I don't want to take it for free so Nemeton ot here right we know that homologue said that you shouldn't take gifts for free so here we go we stuck he doesn't want to sell it for what reason that song right you see you bought a piece of property he's selling it right away bad sign he's willing to give it for free he doesn't want to take it why he doesn't want to take it for free doesn't want to receive right and the property remains like that and I mean pal the prices increase another piece of Talmud guys and checked it the Baba Batra so it says like this there are partners they have a piece of land the Talmud says that you know at one point if the partnership doesn't go well what do you do when the partners she doesn't go well split right when the partition goes doesn't you split but it has to be a minimum amount the minimum amount has to be 8 Ahmad you have to have that it CLE should be enough to each one that each one will receive for not technically you have therefore mod what happened guys if they are partners for 7 Ahmad so what we do now huh you need the minimum that you that works the split is 8 right so each one gets 4 and as we say Shalom Allah said bye-bye each one goes to his way right but what we do when they are sharing their partners for 7 now what we do okay so the Talmud says like this could one say like this right here okay we have two friends here right could one say like this you take four mod right and I'm willing to take only three is that a problem okay guys so the Talmud says like this one opinion says right if one offers listen you take the four and I take the three so it's okay good good to go cuz the one of them offers it he's happy with that he wants to split he can continue this partnership they both actually cannot so he's offering you take the four and I'll take the three and Shalom bye so one opinion says it's fine that opinion is saying oops you have a problem what's the problem he's receiving a gift right Robyn shimon ben Gamliel says this is in tractate bubble butter that even if he says right you take the four right and write the he's offering you take the four and I'll take the three he could refuse and say no you know why the a male because the guy that he wants it he's offering to give him the four he says to pay you I don't have money to pay the extra I don't have I don't wanna I don't have money uh I don't want to invest in it so to give you money for the extra I don't want I don't have write and to received as a gift I don't want so Nemeton ot here okay so this is the second place that I'm showing you guys right the earlier one owes in tractate kaduche in about the man searching looking in to buy the land a piece of land somebody else bought it right the question is how we solve the problem now he didn't know that the first one was looking into it right and to give it as a gift right is a problem and the second one is over here the two partners that one is split right so right how do we solve the problem it's not enough really the measure it's not enough to give to each one for how we go so one opinion said if one is willing to give the big area the four take it and the one says no he could refuse and saying I don't want to receive gifts okay so far so good okay so how we go by this there are other places but for now guys these are the one of the two they took the two places that I showed you those are the main ones that talk about this subject so we have Mitch laid that king says the one that I will hate right won't receive gifts he'll he'll live so named eternity here and we've seen a ton of the two cases that actually they take place so how will go by this okay so let's let's try to clarify and I'll give you right tractate build a hot and track they put a hot in page ten the Talmud says like this Amana beat sock Howard sale a hey not kaliesha whoever wants a benefit enjoy received gift gifts like the Prophet Elisha Wright it's fine okay the Prophet Elisha the one that we know that he was traveling and they put him in an attic and they set up a nice bed for him a table light right so the hope in him out when he was traveling so the Talmud says Howard Silla he not kaliesha is fun if you want to be like a Nishant to benefit from others it's fine vishay know what's la notte but if you decide that you don't want a benefit like shmoo l like the prophets well it's also fine right so the time the Talmud says that if you want to be like Elisha that we see that he did receive from others it's fine and if you want to be like swell swell we know that whatever he traveled he took everything with him the others shouldn't have to give him right so right that no one will have to give him so the Talmud says right if you want to be like Elisha it's okay and if you decide that you want to be like SH well to refuse to take anything from somebody right it's also fine okay then it attracted to a hot so the question is what's going on here which one is better right the Talmud says you could decide to be like Elisha and to take receive from others or to be like Schmoll and not to take from others which one is better what is the right thing is that equal you could do whatever you want oh what's going on here so one of the explanations that I saw guys and that could answer and give you a bit clearer today whole idea so remember is a verse in Mitch Lee is that before he came in we mentioned as a verse in Mission a slow Muhammad who wrote the Qamishli and it says the man that'll hate gifts will live meaning it shouldn't be you know in a life thing that you're doing receiving the whole time gifts right so it's your idea so how we explain this verse and how we explained this behind bar hot right if you want you to be like Alicia to receive from others and if you want to be like she will not to receive from others so the explanation that I saw and actually it makes sense so the story is like this right depends how you learn guys the verse initially how do you understand when hemella cells so nimita no teeth in it why what's the problem the one that will hate gives the live why what's the problem so now she says since that he refused to receive gift more so he'll stay away from stealing you were actually saying that if he won't receive gifts more so he will stay away from stealing that's what Gashi is saying right Rashi and another commentary also over here say that is like a fence not to steal if you won't receive gifts among others more so you won't steal the other commentaries like the Rubino bhai and others say very interesting idea that obey me bhai says the following guy is very interesting idea unbelievable the obey no bhai says you know what is the less commandment we have Ten Commandments the first one is I know hey Malacca haha me shame you God what is the last one look touch mode what slow talk mode you shouldn't be jealous what your friend has the Rubino bhai says the first one and the last one are connected and he says the following the one that is jealous the whole time of what others have he'll constantly receive gifts from others is a lack of his faith in Hashem because if right he has a loss tava constantly looking and the others have and he always feels that he's missing so is a lack of faith in Hashem somebody that has full faith in Hashem wouldn't take gifts from others because he say Hashem will give me whatever I need and if I didn't get it it means I don't undeserving so that a banal bit higher has a whole different idea right that the whole idea of receiving you shouldn't take gifts is a lack in the faith of a Shem that you know that Hashem right the master the creator of the world and he gives we believe Olson haschke hoppitty providential kindness and each one gets exactly what he deserves so if you're constantly looking on and jealous with thought with the others and receiving gifts on there is the lack and the faith of an ax Shem so the banner behind says that the last commandment is connected to the first one if you fulfilled the last one you really right also fulfilling the verse the first one and Noli hashem elokenu okay so those are the two approaches what is the issue what is harmonic sane right the one that all hate gifts or live according to Rashi is if you want it's a issue of stealing so to speak that we're sure that if you won't receive gifts for sure you won't still according to live a new Messiah is a let as a lack in a faith of a Shem believing in a shame why are you taking gifts constantly from others believe in Hashem he'll supply he'll give to you will be the difference between the two explanation the two approaches so commentaries explain like this how about somebody's giving you something to use not forever is it okay or no right they're hoping you out but temporarily you right you could use it they're giving you a bed a bike a car right but you have to give it back it's not fervor so over here it might be the difference right in the two approaches if you're talking about the issue of stealing there's no problem of stealing here right because you have to give it back right but if you're talking that it's a lack in a faith of a Shem so that might be also a problem if you're constantly living on gifts of others right oops that's a lack in the faith of a Shem so that might be guys the two approaches Elisha Hanavi the Prophet what did we see that the woman that he stayed by she provides him a bed a table right and a light is he taking with him right he wasn't like the Israelis you know the Israelis they go to hotel you know what they take with them so right that's Thursday summer Israelis right today is becoming better right so we assuming that Elisha Wright wasn't like that he's not taking it what is he using it right so at least so that's what the Talmud says that right if you want to be like Elisha that's okay because you're only using it well you're not thinking with it but if you want to be like small meaning small even didn't want to use of the others right here you hold that it might be is a lack and a faith of a Shem even to take the use something of the others okay so that could be the difference guys what is the explanation right what is the issue right with there with the with the idea of refusing to receive gifts right is it a idea staying away from stealing or is a problem in the faith of a Shem so that might be the two explanations that's the idea in the Gemara right and by a hot that elisha was holding right there it's a problem of theft so therefore if you're just using something and giving it back it's not a problem but if you wish to be like Shmuel meaning that you all those extra careful because it might be a lack in the thief of a Shem that if you're constantly giving receiving gifts of others that might be a issue okay so those are the two approaches guys right that you could explain and that's why in a case also I told you that the partners that wanted a split so one opinion is saying right if one is willing to give it so that's okay why because he's gaining from it also the partner that wants to split the partnership he's willing to give to his partner a bigger piece right because he can continue this partnership so he's gaining for me right so there's no problem of stealing right but the other opinion says but hold on you don't have the problem of stealing but you might have the problem of lack and thief of ocean right so with this explanation guys you could explain a few places in the Talmud but it all starts with the idea how do you explain the verse initially right so no matter not if here is it an issue of stealing right receiving constantly gifts it might come to stealing or is a lacked in the faith of a Shem according to that you could explain well different places have a wonderful day [Music] [Applause]