Walk a Mile in My Shoes - Rabbi Yaaqob Menashe

[Music] it's a good evening ladies and gentlemen thank you all for coming down all right so the title of the lecture tonight is I think you all know and hopefully you've seen it and you've heard it and you know what it's all about that's why you came the title of the lecture is walk a mile in my shoes what does that mean that means before you judge before you pass judgment on another person you understand their position in other words you judge them favourably you walked in here today you saw a lot of friends and you were happy to see it maybe so a few enemies to that I don't know but you saw a lot of friends and you you went up to them you hug them you were happy to see them you also saw people you've never seen before let's be honest you took one look at them you instantly made a judgment about them you knew instantly by looking at them the second you saw them what kind of person they were you knew because of the way they looked because the way they smiled about the way they frowned the way they were acting the way that we're standing how they were interacting with others some you know maybe you spend a little more time looking at you have a better idea and you've passed more judgment about them but the others everybody that's why we say first impressions are so important so we should know that that is human nature so therefore we have to be careful about the first impression that we make however we must not fall into that trap we should not be the ones to be judging people because we saw them for a split second we saw them for 30 seconds we know absolutely positively nothing about them yet we've judged them it says in ProCare both the ethics of the fathers your sherbet Peres hello man yoshua the son of Bharata here says a few things and the one I'm going to quote now is here we done it color down the hassle judge everyman that's what the Mishna says every man will touch on that later every man favorably so it says you must judge every man favourably it reminds me of a joke that I heard can I tell it to you these two friends just walked out of synagogue on Shabbat morning they prayed and they came out what do they see when they come out they see another friend of theirs who certainly makes out like he's very religious he dresses religiously he speaks religiously he begs religiously he's always in synagogue here on Shabbat they come out of synagogue on what do they see they see him running frantically after a taxi to go flailing his arms trying to stop the taxi to stop for him so one of them sister the other I thought he was religious look at this he's trying to hail a taxi on Shabbat his friend says listen I don't know how was it she would assure the other day and they said it was in Coleman I think they said that you have to judge everybody favourably so therefore I am gonna try and find a reason why he's doing this why he's running after the taxi and trying to stop him he says you know what this is what he says maybe it's sick he wants to go to hospitals his friend said he's sick the guys running 25 miles per hour after a taxi sick he says no he's more fit than I am that can't be the reason that's not why he wants to stop the taxi he says okay but I'm not giving up there has to be a reason why we can say that he has to be judged favourably so I you know I got it I got it he says I got it I've been thinking about it I got it his wife just gave birth the friend says nice try she gave birth a week ago and it takes longer than a week to get another kid I didn't know that I found out when I read this job he said okay I got it I got it he's going to visit her in hospital he said she came back five days ago nowadays they only let you stay two days the guys getting a little bothered now you know he's trying to find a reason to justify the fact that this religious apparently religious friend of theirs is trying to stop a taxi on Shabbat so he says okay you're saying that his wife gave birth and she's at home he needs to get a doctor so that's what he's doing he's running after the taxi to get a doctor the friend says he is a doctor this is I don't know I'm running out of ideas I got it I got it I got it he needs medical supplies please medical supplies you know new baby mother just gave birth these medical supplies he said the pharmacy is in the other direction so he's about to give up but he says you know I can't there was it this shoe or and I really have to find the reason he says I got it this is what he forgot that it was Shabbat happens this happens to all of us right you've never ever turned on the light by mistake in Shabbat you forgot at that moment it's Shabbat he forgot it's Shabbat the friend said he didn't forget it sure but he says how do you know he says look at how he's dressed look at that fancy silk tie that he's wearing Christian Dior he never wears that tie during the week he only wears that when it's Shabbat the Francis I didn't even notice his time you didn't notice his tie you didn't notice that it was caught in the back bumper of the taxi [Laughter] and so that's all folks that's all I have for tonight you know all right I quoted you procure both I quoted you the ethics of the fathers but that's not the source of a commandment to judge favorably let's look at it we're going to safer wire crap it says lava asou our album inspired you must not do anything Muslim any mustn't do any unrighteousness if that's a word in judgment loaf is subpoenaed dad you shall not raise or respect the face of the poor well okay that Pineda a doll and he was not honored the face of someone important they say dick despot America rather in righteousness you will judge your neighbor what does this mean now let's continue before we look at what this means this appears to be only about judging people it continues poor people rich people important people it says love is never here come America you shall not hate your brother in your heart oh hey oh hey hey Tommy theta you shall surely reproach your neighbor well Lucy Sal now hate and you shall not its different ways of translating this but you shall not on his account carry a sin love the comb will off at all you shall not bear a grudge initial not avenge it been a method any of your people and then of course one of the most famous expressions from the Torah where a holiday akka come over and you shall love your neighbor as yourself the kamyelle Shibboleth Talmud bubbling learns for different laws from the special team for different laws the second of which I'm not going to all of them now but the second of which is that you shall judge your neighbor favorably I want to tell you a story from the camara of Shabbat big amount of Shabbat apparently this is between rebbi akiva who was the employee and rebellious I've been hookah nose to grates of course who is the employer it tells us that our rabbis teach us that whoever judges his neighbor favorably is judged favorably himself by a Kadosh Baruch a very very important concept if we judge another person favorably that is how God deals with us maybe we'll speak a little more about that later the story goes like this it says there was a man who came from the Upper Galilee and he was hired by a man in the south I told you who apparently these people are Arab Yom Kippur on the eve of Yom Kippur after working for him for three years the employee comes to the employer and says please give me my salary my wages so that I can take care of my wife and children what did the employer say he's worked from for three years now I don't have any money what would you think if your employer told you that so we said okay then give me some produce what did the employer say I don't have any uh-huh this is okay give me land what's he saying I don't have any this is all right give me cattle I don't have him I know what you'd be thinking about this point this is all right so give me what you have in the house on the beds you know the the bedding the pillow was the sheets the blankets don't have him so he took his things I guess he put them over his shoulder and went home obviously feeling terrible Arab Yom Kippur after all the holidays after the festivals the employer took this man's salary with three donkeys full one with food one with drink one with various monomial um beautiful foods and went to the workers house they sat together they ate and they drink after they drank the employer said to the employee when you asked me to give you your salary and I said I don't have any money what did you suspect me of he said I thought maybe you found some merchandise at a great deal you know you got a great deal and you bought all of it and you didn't have any money this is okay when you asked me to give you cattle and I said I didn't have what did you think he said I thought that maybe you your cattle to others said ok what about what you said give me land I said I don't have any what did you suspect me out he says I thought maybe you leased it to other people but then you asked me if I have any produce and I said no what did you think he said I thought perhaps the tithes the MA I said had not been taken season when I told you I don't have any pillows sheets blankets comforters what did you think he says I thought maybe you've dedicated all of it to the beit hamikdash and you couldn't give it to me he said to him that's exactly right because I vowed a way I made an a there to give all that I have all my property to the bottom of - on account of my son perkiness who is not following in the path of the Torah so the idea was that this would be everything that her kano's would inherit so he gave it all the way to the bay thermic - and therefore he had no right to touch any of it again he says but then I went to the other ha ha Meem my confess is it worth in the south and they know - my vow and that's why now he was able to do it and he said and as far as you're concerned just as you judge me favourably so - ah Kadosh borrow the Holy One blessed be he will judge you favorably this is a very important a very very important lesson because I don't think that be too many people who would give the employer okay he happened to know that he was a very good man but I don't think there would be too many people who would give their employer after three years of working for him dedicatedly this kind of judgment in his heart and as a result we see what the Gemara tells us is that God would then treat him the same way I want to tell you something I'm gonna speak about myself if I ever make an assumption about something when a situation occurs and I try to guess what took place I'm always wrong and I think I'm reasonably intelligent when I look at a situation and I'm not happy with what happened and I try to figure out what happened and I even talk to people and we sit together and we try and figure out usually wrong and the more certain I am the more I know I'm wrong and if I don't do it anymore I gave up on it because I found repeatedly it was always some kind of explanation that didn't fit at all with what I could have imagined always ask before making any assumptions even if it seems obvious even if seems clear ask because when you start making assumptions what happens is those assumptions become truths hardness truths in your mind there are no longer assumptions they're fact because you made an assumption and like I say my experience is that almost invariably the more certain you are that you're absolutely right the more likelihood there is that you're absolutely wrong I want to tell you another story there's a true story that somebody told me some years ago the man who told me this the story had a daughter who was married to a man who was had a very successful job high-flyer literally flying all over the world doing very well they lived in different countries he was always being transferred then after some time something and he lost the job we're not quite sure why they weren't quite sure why but they knew that he lost the job so they moved back to America the father said to the daughter obviously you know he's looking for something else in the meantime it's probably a little bit difficult would you all like to move into the house she spoke to the husband and he was you know you might think you'd feel awkward but no he was very happy so they moved in okay so they're all living in this house one day the daughter goes for a shower she moves her jewelry she had a ring which was a family heirloom and very very expensive it was a grandmother's great-grandmother's I don't know was a family heirloom very expensive ring she took it off for the shower and then came out when she came out right away the cleaning lady went in after a little while she realizes she doesn't have a ring she goes running to the bathroom it's gone nobody else could have taken it she was there as soon as she walked out the cleaning lady walked in I don't know how many years the cleaning lady had been with them but they confronted her she denied it of course what's he gonna say okay say yeah I stole it and it's the best of my knowledge they got rid of her some time later the father gets a phone call from the bank the manager saying mr. so-and-so you mind stopping by I want to discuss something with you he said sure know some financial may be a new deal I don't know what he goes the bank manager takes him into the office if he sits him down and he asks him a question which is very irregular for a bank manager he says mr. X is everything okay between your daughter and son-in-law he's positively shocked by this question he said I think so why he said well there have been instances of fraud with your daughter's account and we've investigated and we found that your son-in-law has been forging checks and doing other things with credit cards and so on father says I thank you then go into any more details went home and they all sat down with the son-in-law trying to find out what was going on and what had been going on and then suddenly while they were talking the father had an epiphany since the son-in-law what did you do with the ring he said I sold it and they found out a whole bunch of other things that had happened not just financial things other improprieties the end of the story is that the young couple got divorced I don't know what happened with the cleaning lady I don't know what you see we can be so sure yet the truth is the exact opposite so does this mean that we have to trust everybody give everybody the benefit of the doubt our rabbis tell us something very interesting people should always be like thieves in your eyes but you must honor them like Rabban Gamliel what does this mean it's a story about famous story many of you know Rubio schewe a traveller was I came to his house came to his house his home and you let him in and he probably gave him food and drink and they sat together at the table whatever and he said yes certainly you can certainly you can sleep here the night and he treated him with a lot of respect and at night there was you know they were had an attic was quite common in those days where guests could sleep and there was a bed up there or whatever he needed up there and they had a ladder you know not not permanent stairs it's just a ladder that's attached to the Attic and it probably went up with the guests show the way she should sleep etc the guest goes upstairs to the Attic however at night Rubio schewe removes the ladder doesn't say anything doesn't tell the man he just removes the ladder at night when he thinks everybody's asleep the man goes around upstairs and steals anything of any value and then I guess it was dark no electric lights in those days he's gonna make a quick getaway he goes down the ladder that is not that wham he falls to the floor and injures himself so he's still lying there in the morning Rubio schewe gets up and sees the man lying there he says you fool we had our suspicions what did he do he honored him like a guest but he was careful with him as if he was a thief and in this case he really was so how does this fit in with what we are told to do basilic the spot I meet aha you have to as we said we quote the verse you have to judge your people your neighbor would say that with righteousness this seems to be a contradiction if you're going to judge everybody with righteousness here you're treating him like a thief even though you're treating him honorably you're treating him like a thief that seems to be a contradiction so it seems to me that we have to break this down based on what I rabbis tell us into three maybe four categories so the the two obvious ones that the rabbi's tell us is a person is the Siddiq or Russia if a person is righteous completely righteous this person has always been known to do the right thing if he does something that is plain to see that it's wrong no doubt in your mind that it's wrong you are not permitted to think that he did something wrong on the contrary you must judge him favorably because you think you know everything even though you saw him I don't know shoot somebody I don't know what your song do you don't know the story you don't know what happened you didn't walk a mile in his shoes you don't know anything about it he has always proved himself to be honorable trustworthy righteous then whatever happened you have an obligation to judge him favorably a Raja a wicked person always doing the wrong thing always going against the Torah nobody there's nobody who only does bad every once in a while to do something good right we're told if you see a Rashad doing something good you must not judge him favorably you must assume he's up to no good even when he does something good but then there's a couple of other categories which kind of are difficult to separate in a way you've got what I would call the Ben Oni the the in-between it might make a difference whether he's done more good things or more bad things but let's just say overall he's done good things and he's done bad things maybe fifty-fifty this is different why is it different you know he's already done something bad you've seen him do something bad he's done good to but he's done something bad why shouldn't I judge him as having done something bad I remember once speaking about this I remember many years ago in yeshiva I was having trouble with a concept of the Shoreham wad of an ox that has a hosaka it is considered to be an animal that gourds it has its gourd three times it's been warned and this this sure this ox has special rules that apply to but we're much more strict about it about the oxen with its owner but I had a difficulty with that I'm a smart guy I say what difference does it make if it did it three times or once I remember saying to the rabbi give him the shoe you want to tell me I'm smart you know you want to tell me that the the Ave Dean the head of the religious Court would allow his little son to be in the in the corral and the pen with a a a an ox that bored once he said no of course not but still it's not the same as an ox that is known to God it didn't once a person sometimes it's done something wrong who hasn't right but it's you can't say that person will always do something wrong so that is a different category you cannot put them in the category of of a Russia and the truth with that is that really you should also judge this person positively and then this is the unknown a person you've never met before like the story reveals show on so there the concept of Cappadocia they who honor him but suspect him can rightfully apply that means you treat him you treat him with respect you treat him well but you've got to be a little smart you don't know he's an unknown quantity be a little smart about what you're doing according to Rambam in the cypher I'm a suave one is obligated to judge a friend favorably but he says to judge a stranger favorably is an act of piety so in other words he seems to think it's good but it means you're being you're being pious Hillel said in ProCare both various things but one of them is ant adenine have Erica it have Erica I shoulda given como don't judge your friend till you get to his place don't say I would not have done what he did I can't believe he did this did you see what he did and then you tell your friends do you know what he did can you imagine this guy don't say that till you've been in his shoes you've walked in his shoes on the contrary what would you do if you had done what he did well what would you do if something if you were called out and do something wrong I tell you if you're a human being if you're above that that's a different matter but but if you're like the rest of us you will start justifying it yes but you know I have a reason for it you don't understand this happened that happened the other things yes very good those are the excuses you have to make for your neighbor all those excuses that you would have made for yourself those are the excuses you have to make for your neighbor so when you listen to the news and you hear a politician being quoted something negative what is usually the thing they say they say what I said was taken out of context if you saw the whole interview you would know was out of context the reality is when we judge another person we're almost always judging them out of context because we don't know the whole story we don't know what happened before we don't know what happened afterwards it's like reading a book or you know even better you're watching a video of a rabbi people don't watch your videos from beginning to end anymore I know if you know that very rarely they want you to know word in the beginning that movie in the middle and move to the end I watched it I watched it ok very good you happen to just see one thing in the middle of this video and the rabbi saying I enjoy lying I enjoy cheating I enjoy hurting people I enjoy it less you honor I enjoy this guy you turn it off and immediately repeating it to everybody else yeah but you got it out of context he's saying he's repeating what somebody sent to him and this man came to me he said I enjoy lying I enjoy cheating and I'm doing this and then I told them but you didn't see that it's out of context that's the problem when we start when we start judging people for the most part we're judging them out of context so we don't even have the facts we only have a little bit I myself realized many years ago that you've got to have a lot of patience if you want to judge anyone in anything I don't judge I try not to certainly don't want to be a judge when somebody would come to me even till today but now I know and tell me because maybe there's a problem at my husband a wife the partners in business whatever and tell me about the problem they're having with their partner you would know when the person says can whether or not believe me I tried I did this I did that but the other one you won't believe what they said what they did you wouldn't believe it your heart goes out for them you feel so bad because there's such good people and the other side is just so bad but you have to hear the other side you know I don't like to make judgment based on listening to one party and I'd love to do that and when the other person comes and you hear the other person sometimes it's a hundred ninety degree retreat but for sure if it's not 180 degrees it's not the same anymore it's a different story the facts are completely different and here we are we judge somebody based on what we think that person did and we have no idea about the other side of the story all we going on is what we saw in our eyes now ROM or the highly our rights he says in this pursuit that we caught it before where it said I'll just read it for you again look this up and it down first one says no to our you mustn't do anything any and something that's not part of righteousness when it comes to judging North is up in a dial you mustn't raise the face of the poor well rotate that penne kadhal and he mustn't honor the the big important person they say dr. Spota meetha but you shall judge your neighbor with righteousness he says the following he says there's something else we can learn from that he says loaf is supper Nate died don't raise or honour the face of the poor man he says this is also talking about you not just about him what do you mean what do you mean it's also talking about you he says the following you'll say I have a lot of reasons why I did that it's not my fault it's how I was brought up and my mother my father my sister my brother my work my circumstances my money my this by that it's not my fault it's not my fault you always find reasons to justify what you do why because I'm a poorly skin I'm a poor guy he says no no no no no no don't look for excuses also don't honor the important person don't say about yourself listen my position is different I'm an important person you know I have to consider other circumstances so stop it you're making excuses well it says vasilich the spot i'ma take on that with righteousness you have to judge yours your people this is this applies to you also you have to do a hash boniface you have to be honest with yourself as to how you're behaving so this pursuit not only comes to tell us that we shouldn't judge others but it also tells us that we maybe should be judging ourselves a little more honestly than we do typical example guy goes to synagogue every day and there's another guy who comes late every morning every morning this person comes late to synagogue every morning no exception to the rule so what do you think this guy he's always late everyone's talking about it they're all talking about it he's late again today yesterday one minute if you were late what would you say you would say I had my reasons my wife has to go to work I know normally she would be the one but she's working very hard to be trying to make ends meet and she asleep before me so the song as the bus comes late maybe something else up with you you'll have a lot of reasons to justify why you do it that's what you have to do with the other guy when you see comes in late you don't say why is he late if you wonder for a reason find a good reason I on the other hand I mean all of people go everyday to synagogue because they're awful lot of people who don't and I think that has to be the first thing Oki comes late but you know what he comes every day this is something remarkable and really I am in awe there are some people I would not expect it ever and they come every single day I'll tell you another story there are more than a yellow and how much alone tells he says one Shabbat he went to a synagogue where there was a Bar Mitzvah very important my missing a very important family very wealthy family in Israel and at some point in walks the father and the Barmes oh boy oh boy is the father dressed well expensive Italian suits designer brands designer tie is not the one that was caught in the taxi a different one oh that one got my stuff designer ties designer shoes properties undershirt oh but he couldn't tell the Sun no less no less designer shoes designer this designer hat you name it they walk in splendid they go to their seats sit down the father opens this his seat bag is the bag of the Thalia doll takes it out and puts it on modify leo says he was staring at him Monica always staring at the man he says he's coming looking resplendent with these new clothes and he's put on this old this old tallit Katan that is frayed yellow and a little dirty and he looks at him okay the prayer is over the man comes up to remedy 3000 that was Shalom and he says okay was I wrong it's a very great honor that you were here with us today but can I ask you when I walked in you looked at me for a good minute what was going through your mind he said I'll tell you he said I see you walked in with his beautiful suit with these beautiful shiny shoes your son the same unbelievable he must have spent a fortune he says and what did you and and then I saw that you put on this this all yellow afraid Telly's get all this is Kay mother what did you think what I think I said to myself for sure you bought a beautiful new telly together you know there are different grades you bought the fancy is the most expensive and you were running late coming to synagogue because there was a lot going on and maybe you had to carry the candies the officer was in there oh because he carried this to see he says you have to carry this yet to carry than that and there's probably pandemonium in the house and you were running late and you wanted to make sure your son got your time so you ran out you grabbed your yours to seed bag you drive you have the Tonys go but you took the wrong one and you didn't realize you don't live across the street you came to the synagogue and when you open it you saw your mistake but it was to fine you you'd be late dude that you wouldn't go back home this is key whether I want you to know that's exactly what happened he said I had the two of them one next to another and by mistake I thought I took the wrong one this is when I saw it I nearly died but like you said I live far away I couldn't go back and get it the same way that we judge other people a kadosh baruj judges us very very important concept we always have to look because I'm sure many people were sitting there thinking can you believe this guy you didn't believe it on a certain other clothes he'll spend a fortune of money but when it comes to something holy look at how he behaves but the answer was we would have been completely wrong how do we judge us he wanted to judge us favorably or do we want him to say hmm must be couldn't be bothered buying a new Italian Godot we know the answer to that question speaking of Prayer it's isn't the brain or the hai going on the end of all the specific theme that I read to you well how come Oh ha and you shall love your neighbor as yourself since romanians I said that every morning before we pray we have to love our neighbor like ourselves we have to say how many Oh a bird called a hammer been a second of sheer woody I love every single dude like myself unbelievable how much I love them this is why the answer is when you pray in the morning there is no person alive who can have concentration the correct Kawana from the beginning end of the end to the end of the prayer like this supposed to nobody if you can do it through the I mean that you're amazing you try to focus and all of a sudden you're halfway through the next block on you your mind has gone somewhere else but somebody somewhere is focusing on the one you're not focusing on when there is love between the Jewish people not judging people in a bad way but loving each other because these things are all connected then we become like one we become unified and then a kadosh part of who takes all the prayers of all the jews we're all like one and takes all the common notes together and makes a complete prayer and that's also the importance of praying in a minyan but here when you literally love every jew like yourself and they love you too then everything is blended together and we fuse together we become like one and I've had those about who takes your Kawana from here he's from there they have one from there and it becomes a complete prayer that we've all done and that is the concept of Abdullah giacomo ha and it's the same with the study of Torah it's the same with the study of Torah if we love each other and we're like one nobody has studied everything and nobody understands fully everything but the Torah that different people have learned gets fused together and we're all credited as having done it only if i amo ha you didn't go judging your your neighbor in a bad way but on the contrary you love them like yourself we've spoken about that topic in the past I'm not getting into that today but that's the general that is the general point now when Romeo Phoebus said this he said the clog at all but Torah is calling the Torah of course he didn't say it he's calling it arise it's a great concept in the Torah the pursuit ends after Africa mocha and Neha shame I am God Hashem is the okay Wow okay God's ineffable name all right we know the famous game Atia that I have a love and a had won unity are the same geometry we know that they're both thirteen when one person loves another one Jew loves another his love is thirteen the other Jews love is 13 13 plus 13 26 26 Shem Hawaii okay Wow okay God's ineffable name well I have telecom oka and you shall love the Lord your God you love him and he loves you and he has shame I am God I am kawaki I am 26 it's a very very important concept in the Jewish religion that we love each other as one people the holy Bennish hire hummus if hyeme allow us alone right this is when a person is angry at his neighbor he's angry at another person what does it mean means he thinks he's better than the other person you only angry at another person view I would not have done such a thing I'm so angry that you did that I would never behave in such a way he said but he should ask himself am I really better than the other person don't I sin to Hakadosh Baruch don't I constantly do things that God asked me specifically not to do and what does God do he loves me he gives me life he's merciful to me if he got angry with me I've been terrible shape so I to get upset and angry at somebody who I feel has done something wrong he says that is why in the Pisco key all these famous piece of him that I'm quoting back and forth that we started evening with verses for theft oh yeah that means how you shall surely reproach your neighbor we say we translated as surely reproach but it's really a double lash all it says the same word twice okay after he means the same thing this is wild after yeah he says one is to reproach your neighbor when he does something wrong and the other is you to reproach yourself to not think that you're superior but understand that you've done a lot of things that are wrong and a Kadosh Baruch who is being merciful to you because you've been sinning against Hakadosh Baruch Oh I'm gonna end with a story that's probably one of the favorite words that anyone likes to hear when they come to a lecture I'm gonna enter the story you know I think I'm gonna trick everybody next time and I said at the beginning and they just keep going the concept of judging others favorably actually we're told applies to ha ha Meem the righteous I mean more than to anybody else not monetary matters that's a separate issue but in in general and how many times have you seen that a person goes through a rabbi for advice or rabba makes a pronouncement and that people say yeah was he known he's got some his own reasons for saying that that's not good I won't tell your story apparently that was a Jew who lived in a town called Shiraz in a place called Persia some of you may have heard of it I'm not sure he had an incredible voice incredible voice he was a son and he also used to sing do I know maybe a wedding is and this and then the other but it was famous he was famous for his voice so famous and even the non-jews know about it one day he's summoned by the the ruler and told that in a month from today I want you to come and sing at the palace we're having a very major festival they're gonna be all kinds of dignitaries over there and we want you to come and honor us with your beautiful voice because it's famous I guess this was a great honor he says and make sure that it's something suitable for the festive occasion ok so he gets out his diary or I know if it's an online diary or what they had knows there I've no idea he gets out his diary nice looking at the dates he says okay one month over here let me write down because oh that's the night of tisha about what am I gonna do I can't tell the ruler that I'm not going to come and sing what am I gonna do I better ask Tom he owes the rabbi Isis kill whether up I got a big problem the ruler you know the rule of Oldboy do you know the ruler the ruler says I have to come and seek for him on this day and you know what it is it's the night of things about anyways gonna sing happy songs so there have my sister he says you know what you have to go no question you have to go otherwise it's been a pleasure knowing you but you're just going to sing you know you're gonna sing the tisha babe mournful dirges AHA oh no what am I gonna do it goes to his wife you're not gonna believe what a cop said I gotta go what I gotta say whatever better if I just flip the country I gotta go I gotta sing dirt isn't he what something happy and all these these dignitaries are coming from all over when I was where just don't go he said wouldn't we go go Tom said I have to go after loserdom she says why don't you speak to Fred Joe your friends say he goes to Fred Joe no don't go you gotta be out of your mind you'll be locked up they'll throw away the key if you're lucky who knows what else they might do he says but the Dom said so I have to do it good night after shopping up comes he goes to the palace with his violin I said please please everybody so happy to see him please sing he goes up and he starts all this you know all the dirges the people are getting angrier and angrier they came to celebrate didn't understand a word but they got the message from the tunes and the way he was singing of a brother crying problem was they looked at the ruler and he was in ecstasy he was so happy he was swaying to the music with a smile on his face maybe a couple of tears coming down his eyes they didn't dare say anything after it was over the ruler came to him and he said I don't want to thank you he said I'm so sick of all the same music that they always play at these events this was the most moving and emotional music I've ever heard he says I want you to come once a month and play and play for me he says and I promise you that that one day that you play for me every month I will pay enough money to you for it that will keep you going for the entire month true story Lumina Tobler Himba Tamim if you go faithfully in his path God will not prevent good from coming to you we have to know by the way I said was a life story I didn't say I'm not gonna talk for another half an hour after that we have to know that every action like we said before that we do on earth causes a similar action in heaven we are in gallows we are in exile why because there's no better book - there's no temple and why is that no temple well the second time the first one got rebuilt so we don't consider that at the moment the problem that we face today is the second one that was sitting on a no base this hatred hating everybody judging everybody negatively the whole time you know what that prison did nasty no good I can imagine what they were up to exactly what it is we have to show a kadosh baruj that we love each other that is what we have to do we as Jews have to show a Taj Mahal that we love each other I love you you love me Ruben Tejada quoting Yaya who learns out that the galoot is because as we said of sanath Han Nam baseless hatred but what's significant is he says that miss worth doing the precepts the Mossad the commandments is not I mean we got to do those do don't get me wrong it's not what's gonna bring the gorilla it's not what's going to bring the redemption ha ha ha dude ha ha ha ha I miss it been collecting the only thing that will bring it is unity and love true love between all of you meaning all the Jewish people that's what the Navi is saying that's what the Prophet is saying that is the only thing that will bring the gorilla the redemption after the destruction of the temple it's my prayer that we are we first of all will put this into practice and through that it'll become I'm sure the people are all speaking about this it'll become something that is catching one person learns from the other from the other for the other when you will you hear people judging people favorably you pick up on it you start doing the same thing ah that don't really didn't someone says no but maybe it's this maybe it's that you start picking up on it and hopefully will have that effect and hopefully the Jewish people will all understand it and will start loving each other soon bring us two coming up my sister Kenny wake up I'm Robbie I may know within your soul in a Miami [Applause] [Music] [Applause]