Tu B'Shvat: Attaining Happiness in Life - Rabbi Paysach Krohn

[Music] I've come to speak today about a topic that is so important because of all the stress and all the challenges that each of us face every single one of us is challenged in certain ways and when you come to a gathering like this and you see so many people and you might think wow that person has everything that's only because you don't know what's going on in their lives everybody's got something whether family children problems parnassia problems health problems it's always something that's what golus is all about we may be living in Eretz Israel but we're still in Gullah still Messiah comes so the question is how do we cope every day and how can we become happy and content people so I want to tell you something amazing Rev Shimon Schwab once told me we all know the gomorrah mishenichnas adar Marvin B simcha when other comes we increase the simcha but do you know that the mattress tells us that not a majestic kumara the same Gomorrah the same mission that tells us mission illness of when the month of off comes the Martin B simcha we minimize our simcha so Rob Schwab pointer doesn't say that there's no simple enough even though that we remember the destruction of both bottom Mick dodge but mishenichnas adar barbam we increase mishenichnas adar me Martin we minimize our simcha but a yield always has to be by simcha a Yid always has to find something that should make them happy and he gave me a wonderful muscle and I'm happy to see that everybody here is over 20 years old because if you're under 20 you won't know the example what he told me and that's a pilot light you tell a kid today about a pilot like they think that's the light that the pilot turns on on the plane right but we know we know that the pilot light is that light that was on the oven there was always on when you cooked it was elevated and when you didn't cook it was minimized but it was always on and he said just like the pilot light always has to be on the element of simcha always has to be on and you know many times when I speak about marriage I tell people this Gomorrah a fascinating Gomorrah the Gomorrah tells us in Chinese that Elio Innova he was once walking with Rob Roy Co and this is a gomorian tiniest of bass Amidala for those of you taking notes and the Gomorrah says la Johan nobody said to her breaker you see these two people coming here they have a straight ticket to Olam haba and he was wondering who are these people such great Siddiq him I didn't know they're such greats a deacon so after la Johan no he left and I'm so amazed that the gomorrah says that rob breaker waited till le o are nothing left in other words if you're walking with an important person you don't start a conversation with somebody else it's not their ferrets so he waited till la ya'know he left and he goes over to these people and he says my Aveda tiger what do you guys do I heard that you're going straight talking with my boy you must be so special you listen what they said they said in chiba d theanine we are happy people me but keenan @cv we make those that are unhappy we make them happy Wow that's an amazing thing that if you could make people that are depressed you can make them happy you have that capacity you have that smile you have that words of his oak you going straight to other my boss as a matter of fact I'll tell you an amazing thing those of you who'd Amish hours in the morning there's a certain phrase that I have underlined in my sitter and think about it for a second in the holla Lucas let's see I'm gonna tell you three words and let's see who could think of the first letters of those three words what word could you make from them her ofa Lycia VAR a lave how little right her ROI is really if we say about Hashem that he heals the brokenhearted as soon as she R ever said that's how L that's the biggest praise if you that type of person who walks into a room and you make people feel good about themselves that's how L that's a really short wave but you know what the mom ladies tells us a fabulous lesson he said let's listen carefully to what they said he asked them what do you guys do they didn't just answer we make people happy they added something there was a caveat they said in she Brazilian and we are happy people we make others happy why did they say that so the mom Louise in Dharam vestment science says physician Luo Newsom ate him that which they said they are happy over some come a harem and they make others happy comes to teach us shame autumn writes Ellis americium you want to make others happy you want to make your spouse happy you want to make your kids happy you want to make your co-workers happy Sarika sorrow hot smelly SML you have to be happy she made matzah more you want save him if they would be negative depressed people i feel oh how you write similar somewhere how a damn lawyer you hire them even if they wanted to make somebody else happy they wouldn't be able to do it so in other words you want to know how come your spouse is not so happy well how come your kids are not so happy or your coworkers are not so happy you know you should do look in the mirror and then you'll see oh my gosh maybe it's because of me because if you're negative and you're always complaining and you're always looking for what's wrong not what's right there's no way you can make anybody happy so we must learn today how to be happy people because we want everybody around us to be happy as well so therefore we have to learn how to be happy and I'll tell you amazing thing about marriage every time I speak about marriage I tell over this story I have a friend who's a marriage counselor I don't know why all my friends are therapists and marriage counselors but whatever there must be something with but whatever it is he once told me you know what the three most important words in marriage are not the three you're thinking about the three most important words are I am wrong now I am wrong so I was so amazed by that so a few weeks later I had to speak about marriage and I said at this speech I said you know my friend dr. Mayer Wicklow told the three most important words in marriage are I was wrong and everybody's nodding their heads the men the women everybody's absorbing it then I go out for lunch you know and I am you know I'm the whole way and I hear some guy go over to his wife he said you hear what the rabbi said you were wrong he really learned that lesson right didn't eat so we have to know that it's up to us not to the spouse you know many times we always find blame by other people but again look at yourself look into your own heart and let's see so I'll tell you I think one of the ways to become a happy person is to begin looking at stories of Ashikaga practice now when you see stories of a shahe protest that means Hashem orchestrated something so perfectly so exact you begin to realize oh there's a got in this world and he's taking care every every little thing that happens and was only because he wants it so therefore there's got to be a reason nothing happens and Pat said I just have to understand why but it's not just some Heffner so you see that there's a whole orchestration in the world and I'll give you an example in my neighborhood where I live in Kew Gardens New York this past pora meant the days before Purim there was a terrible snowstorm and people couldn't get around to give Shawn come on as well because you know the sanitation wasn't picked up the snow plowing wasn't done it was a tremendous storm so for two or three days they didn't collect the Sanitation now two or three days after poram it's 2 o'clock in the morning and we have a yeshiva in our neighborhood called yeshiva shot Terry the receiver of common Epstein it's a brilliant fellow he's up at two o'clock in the morning probably learning and all of a sudden he hears the sanitation people outside so his kitchen had a whole bunch of black bags you know filled with garbage he runs outside and it gives it to one of the guys he says could you please take this a guy says of course and the guy says Tim excuse me sir are you a rabbi that's not what he was expecting this sanitation guy should ask him and he says who uses my name is Theodore he says are you rabbi he says yeah I am he says rabbi I have a question can I ask you a question and he's thinking what kind of question could a sanitation guy have two o'clock in the morning right what Shiloh Korea so he says to him rabbi my mother died a few hours ago and I know that she would have wanted to have a Jewish burial but I'm not religious and my brother and sister not religious my mother wasn't religious and they want to cremate her that means they want to burn her in ashes and I know even though my mother wasn't religious but you know she lit candles Friday night we didn't always keep kosher or the Sabbath but she would want a Jewish but rabbi what should I do I didn't even tell them that she died yet so he said he's very smart he said I'll tell you what to do it's two o'clock in the morning right now nine o'clock in the morning called the Jewish funeral home and tell them that your mother died tell them where the body is veldt bring it over to the funeral home arranged a funeral and once everything is arranged call your brother insist and say listen mom died and the funeral was all set for two o'clock this afternoon and once it's all set you'll see they won't complain that's exactly what he does he calls the funeral home they pick up the body one o'clock he calls her my Epstein he says rabbi you're a genius that's what happened I arranged the whole thing I called my brother and sister and they come in at 2:00 o'clock for the funeral thank you so much so everybody says you're very welcome he says no rabbi please I gotta ask you one more thing you're the only rapper I know you think maybe you could come speak at the funeral he never even knew this lady he didn't even know this lady exist until two o'clock in the morning but he's it sadiq so he said yes so I said what you say at that listen to what he said he said people reap in death what they sowed in life now this woman she felt a closeness to God she may not have been totally religious but she lit the candles Friday night so she had a connection to Judaism so Hashem God orchestrated that she should merit that she should have a Jewish burial and then he left he didn't stay for the Quran that was someplace else and that was that then he told me the next day had to be in Lakewood and this guy lived in Suffolk County for those of you who knew York no that's way out in Long Island and he traveled from Lakewood to Suffolk County 160 miles to go be Menachem oval this guy who he had never seen til the night before and the guy wasn't sitting Shiva but he didn't go to work and he spent some time with him he told me he tried to reach him a few times afterwards he wanted to follow up the guy never answered the call finally two weeks later again he hears the sanitation people outside no common runs outside he says guys wish Theodore's he here today they say who's Theodore said what do you mean who's Theodore he was the guy who was here two o'clock in the morning two weeks ago oh they said no he never comes here he works in Suffolk County which is 80 miles away from here that night we needed extra hands because the Sanitation hadn't been complete that's the only time he ever worked in the city in his life he never came here before Komachi Nashik aha the a mr. made it that he should come that night Africa and Rob Coleman should have the Sanitation banks in his kitchen and through that house soccer practice this lady had a Jewish burial so I was crazy about that sturdy sees such a Chicago they was to orchestrate so many different things so I told it over and can't monk this summer now my rebbe reb david cohen is the robe of that kent and he's sitting and listening i want to show you how our other god or thinks he comes over to me afterwards he says okay tell me what's the move on of that story what's the essence of that story I said wherever yeah I think it's obvious right let's go huh brothers he says not so much more than that listen to you already said he said how did she make a connection - em through fire she lit the candles Friday night because she made a connection with fire Hashem made sure that fire didn't harm her isn't that amazing that's an autumn cuddle I get the chills now even as I tell it to you it's amazing right because the Ishay you just saw that she used fire to make that one connection a sham said my talk - I'll protect you I won't let you get burnt just amazing now here's another thing that's amazing when you see ash go hot brought this this guy city guy from Lakewood told me he works for conve room and those of you from New York America know that convey is a wonderful organization for baby Hasan was stuck in a car or you know the mother forgot and locked the kid in the car or locked herself out of the house or a father can't get into his car for whatever reason they can come and help you they never charge it's a wonderful organization so this guy from Havana room told me a couple years ago it was Friday afternoon before a three-day yontiff or three-day aunt of me it was gonna be Shabbos and then Sunday and Monday was gonna be sure it's an hour before yonder and he gets a call could you please come and fix my flat tire he says we've a it's an Al before unit of where you stuck the Garden State Route nine where are you they says no the cars in my driveway he says come on you're gotta be kidding right you know won't you leave a car there I'll come if the aunt if he says no I'm on that so uh I might need the car over yom tov the hovater i'm guy told me he felt like two cents wait how could he be accused this guy of calling him so unnecessarily he's right a car a guy who has that whose are not so has to have a car that's you know available 24/7 mileage 24/7 he said I'm so sorry I'm gonna go myself I'm coming to your house and I'm gonna fix the flat for you he told me he came to the house that's all the guy was so busy dispatching making all clinicals you never even got a chance to speak to him but the son thank the Kaveri guy wanted to give him a gift cover him guys don't take gifts fine you will not believe this matzo Shabbos the first night of yontiff they're all sitting around the table children grandchildren grandparents all of a sudden the middle of the meal the mother-in-law of this fellow ha verum she plops smacking her chair her eyes are going through her head and people yell she's having a stroke she's having a stroke every second counts get out Salah and they call hot so on and who do you think shows up that guy who they fixed a flight could you imagine this guy saved his mother-in-law's life and most of the time that's a good thing [Laughter] my wife kids then when I say that but she's not here today but anyway but that's the truth that's the truth he mama shaved his mother-in-law's life because this guy from Ottawa was right there not far from where he was and they rushed her to the hospital is just amazing and you know we all know you should never know personally of course that by a stroke victim every second counts and here's one more story about Salah he could go crazy from this in here in your Shalom there's a wonderful yeshiva rubbish Multi Brazil has the Shiva and he told me that he had a Talmud who became a traveling salesman and he was in the car many many hours during the day and he was in America this fellow and he didn't want to listen to all the radio shows in Irish gate the sports shows and the political shows you know it's all the same every day so he decided he's only gonna listen to Torah tapes let's hover there are only gonna listen to you the show things now this guy spoke Yiddish and he had heard about the Khoisan burger rebus a decided that he had never heard sure about the closing burger from the Khoisan burger ever but he knew that he was an autumn God oh one of the good day we had our so he got a whole bunch of CDs at the closing burger ever and every day the second he got into the car he put in the CD one day he's driving and all of a sudden he hears a loud horn behind him and he wakes up he realized oh hey he fell asleep at the wheel van Horn woke him up he's about to go into a car that stopped that stopped at a red light he was gonna get into an accident it slammed on the brakes and bruh Hashem he didn't hit the car now of course if you're at a red light you don't look to see if somebody's gonna bang into you so that guy just left the guy was at the red light left when it turned green but he was shaking and wanted to see who blew the horn how did anybody know that he fell asleep he looks in the back no car looks at the right no car looks at a left no whooping horn and then he realizes he presses rewind on the CD and he realizes 35 years ago in Union City New Jersey when the claisen burger rebel was giving his shear the window was open and a guy just happened to drive by and blew his horn for whatever reason and the a broish tail waited 35 years because I shall knew that one day this guy mission anthem l'avenir huh instead of nourish Kate I'm gonna save him from an accident could you imagine who would you hear a horn we're here on a thousand times a day right we don't make anything of it but Dan Ashe caja because he was careful not to waste this time in the car but vishen anton Levana ha that's what saved him and when we hear stories endless stories like this and we tell them to each other we see that I shall miss day every second everything that happens happens for a reason for whatever reason that our talk couldn't be a 12 o clock it had to be at two o'clock for whatever reason one day we'll figure it out maybe there was some lady who couldn't make it at 12 o'clock and she had to be here for two o'clock who knows whatever the reason is but there's a reason for every little thing that happens and when we understand that when we understand that then we can feel a contentment and closeness to him because he knows he's mean we know that he's guiding us every second now I want to ask you a question that I am sure nobody ever asked you before and if you call out the answer whatever the answer is because there's a hundred answers to this question and if I like it I'm gonna put it down and you'll be in my next speech so let me ask you this question think about it for a moment and then I'll tell you my answer what is your favorite bra to make okay that's your favorite okay Chicago one lady once told me she Sonic it's a name I love that another lady once told me hardik national Shabbos another one the action is on ego other people told me I ever my Israel my favorite bra until I prepared this talk was to make the braava here in your shall I am on circus night late shave Asuka sitting with your family and sang shil I cannot say those two brothers without crying how lucky people aren't to be in your show lion with family on circus which is the greatest simpler of all to be here the few days before usual and before circus you know what's going on and may azshara men it's fabulous nothing like it in the world but you know what I think and many women called it out it should really be a she oats are now I want to tell you something there's a posse and the plastic is in all places in Asia in a hog in opposite grommet s it tells us my is signing autumn how how could a person who's living complain give her a hot off can anybody say that we are rulers over our hot time that's a and a hug emo plus a climate s all of us none of us are perfect a sham could find the reason llama give get a hug emo plus a climate s a sham could find a reason to do something that would be harmful to us because none of us are perfect we've all done things so but if we're alive we should be so happy how can we be happy every day that we're alive I supposed to think about that in my humble opinion it's by saying gosh yachts are and what I want to tell you is from now on from today on let's make a Kabbalah Bleen nether from now on every time you say you come out of the facilities and you say she had to stand in one place you know when I told this to somebody you know what he said he put up a sign outside his bathroom I'll show you outside is not real Assad Arif right it's it's hysterical because when people are saying gosh yatza what are they doing they're getting into the car they're getting dressed they're making the coffee that I bring the baby right there texting or wherever they're doing a hundred different things but uh she yachts our talks about life I'll tell you something so amazing that Rabbi tat said rabbi Akiba tatsu's a genius he said something so interesting we know that the word how do you say skin in Hebrews anybody know how to say or I involve race what other word can you make with those letters I involve right.he there which means blind why why should everything in lush in kodesh has a reason why it's called that Mike in English a spleen could have been a colon a colon could have been a kidney a kidney could have been a heart you know like what makes it that but in Hebrew it's not like that and you know what he said something so genius or the skin blinds you to what is going on in your body if we would see what's going on they the digestive system the respiratory system the whole would go crazy every time I go to a doctor I take a look at that's the a chart that's in my head that's going on in my ear and my nose and I want to tell you something I happen to mention this yesterday and meddra Schmo by rubber Newman Moskowitz and in the Shiva and Rabbi Katz his son was sitting there I had no idea that he's there he comes over to me he said you know there's something that my father added to that I said what is that you could go crazy he said in English skin there's another word for skin what is it hide isn't that amazing skin is high you could go crazy from that right so our and he there or is blocking us from seeing what's going on and the skin is hiding what's going on it's amazing that's what Jesus are all about I'm telling you so I want to tell you something great a couple years ago my dear son-in-law was also you walk again we have my son was genius and cd-roms if you go online you'll see coal drum multimedia the stuff that he's done and we've done a lot of stuff together we did something called designer perfect you could probably see it going designer perfect the miraculous workings of the human body it's just fabulous we interviewed from doctors about the skin and about the ear and the head and the eyes and the colon the stomach the heart area fabulous so I began realizing when I was doing this project that in the Hebrew language every body part has a double and a triple meaning doesn't have an English but watch this how do you say liver in Hebrew what's the heaviest organ in the human body deliver cavae that's heavy now I in your eye is am I on it's wet it's always lubricated but if somebody doesn't have eyes that are lubricated then they have to get what's called false tears poison comes from the word must nyan a balanced scale did the inner cochlea if that's out of single person loses his balance and each one of these like as me listen to this about teeth why a teeth called Sheen I am so one dentist says because we get through sets right now some of us have three sets but that's not natural right okay but and you know what what is the word she no you mean she no means change Shan is she no what changes the composure of foods that we could swallow it that's the tea and then dr. labovick from Los Angeles told me amazing thing the Gemara says PE valley boy shovin your mouth and your heart have to be the same in other words when you say something you really have to believe it otherwise don't say it it can't be F of a pair of F I believe how many teeth do we have thirty-two how much is LAIV equal 32 do you know that those people that have gum problems eventually have cardiac problems piffle e boys shovin you could go crazy from that the gemara says your mouth and your your mouth and your heart have to be the same so here's the cardiac problems that you know LAIV - this 32 teeth but here's my favorite I asked my rebbe reb David Cohen what about dumb and dumb him money and blood he said they both circulate and then he said it's hard to get people to do to donate either one of them as a real tears let me know so what we should do today really it's from now on every time we say Ashiatsu and you know something I've been saying this in so many places and a lady called me up and she said Robert Crumb you're right I said how do you know I'm right she said don't we say EF shelah MoIT live on that huh mom I just stand in one place that's amazing right I told her you didn't even learn a brisk and you knew that that's amazing and that's amazing that's and you know something you would not believe what the Vilna Gaon brings out in the city huh gras he says this is the only bra ha the only bra that we mentioned kiss a cavity huh you think about that for the highest place of kedusha we don't say it by show you pho we don't say it by matzo we don't say it by creates a toilet nothing only by this it's almost embarrassing to talk about this topic and you know what they're going rights or they write it from him that this is showing us a film is shown even from the Keisei October 8th who Marcia Alvaro Salem Kayla Tara Shem takes care of such mundane things so we've got to make this cup all ably nether so a guy calls me up a couple of weeks ago and he says rabbi Crone I was listening to your dresser now every time I come out of the bathroom I think of you what a compliment that's worth it all right but but the point is it really is something it's a way of saying thank you Tasha it's a way of being grateful that we're alive now I want to tell you something this is very special to me tonight's my birthday Super Show thank you now I just want to tell you what somebody told me on my birthday last year and the truth is it really is appropriate for every single one of you but the person who told it to me I was so inspired and so elevated and the person said you know on your birthday many years ago the day you were born that's the day that a Shem decided the world can no longer exist without you that's beautiful and you know something that's you two and you two and you two the day you were born a Shen decided the world cannot exist without you to me that is so invigorating and so inspiring you know why because every one of us have made that decision that the world needs us I don't have to be like you you don't have to be like me and both of us don't have to be like her everybody's different look at this photographer here so we have his talents no but he's there for a reason you know how many schools in this saticons because of him thousands and thousands of people are not only gonna see this lecture but they see other lectures so we're not like him but he's not like us but look what he's doing it's not just I'm a photographer he's bringing joy into the world the thousands and every one of us has different talents and every one of us can make a difference in the world and when we were born that was the day that Hashem said that the world can't exist without you so I'll tell you all of you certainly heard of Robertson young grace Allah showing she passed away just a year and a half ago and she told the story that's so amazing she was very very close to her husband Robert Sholem but he died many many years ago many years ago and she wrote and she told people she said that she was so close to him that when he died she couldn't even open his notebooks she couldn't even open his forum because it had his handwriting in it and it just pained her because he had a very exquisite type of handwriting and it just reminded her of him and one night her daughter found an index card and she said ma please read this and the Rebbetzin said that after she read it she realized that her husband probably left that card for her to see so she could go on with life listen to what it said on that card a long life is not good enough but a good life is long enough and that's an amazing thing to remember a long life is not good enough but a good life is long enough and how do we make ourselves have a good life I'll tell you a story many of you know that I go to Europe every year we go to different places where tsadikim lived and when we go to Warsaw in Poland and we go to the caver of this famous I always tell people this fuss ms the second gear rebel lived to be only 58 years old and when he died so his son the MRAM Esther would be the third guy Reb he said to her brother at least our father had a real us youngin so the brother said I realize y'all Mimi didn't have longevity only love 58 he said I didn't say that he had IRA has shown him length of years I said he had a real class young him length of days nobody nobody can guarantee for anybody for themselves no Roth no doctor nobody can guarantee I realize shot him nobody knows what tomorrow brings but every one of us can guarantee I refashion length of days you know how you guarantee I realest youngin make every day count and when you make every day count you feel good about yourself you go to sleep with a relaxed heart and a relaxed mind Hashem I didn't waste this day I did something and the hover time tells us I'll tell you what to do the whole time says and he writes it in a safer Avice fastened and he writes like this avast rested para queued base oh my oh sorry laser a person has to be so careful shall i yes Alameda San serif Illinois method from today on today on we're gonna make a second couple not only a shiatsu but everyday we're gonna do a facet for somebody else now I'm not saying a husband for a wife or wife or a husband that you got to do if you know it's good for you but I'm talking I'm talking out of the house so some people through charity begins at home yeah but you don't become about rest because you're nice to your kids right let's face it when you do something for somebody else that's how you become a special person and everything he's supposed to learn something and if you want to be a happy person and you'll be able to close your eyes at night and say I didn't live only for myself if I'm a lush and I used to tell his son lie lots might live right you were not created for yourself every one of you here has a certain talent everybody has a certain talent take that talent Hashem didn't give it you to become rich or famous Hashem gave you that talent to help other people so let me just tell you two or three wonderful stories about rested and then we'll close with a beautiful idea let me tell you what it means to do a lesson there's a lady mrs. Reed Aslam watts she's in her 80s she lives in Washington Heights and she told me this story there was a woman in Washington Heights who was 90 years old her husband passed away he was also 90 nebith they had no children and this man her husband he was the youngest of his siblings so he was the last one of life of his family so she was the only one sitting Shiva she was his wife but there were no kids and no brothers and sisters so a few of the older ladies from Washington Heights who knew her came to hironaka mobile all of a sudden a middle-aged couple from Borough Park came and nobody knew who they were and they began asking questions about the husband what he did where he lived finally they knew I'm on a set excuse me my husband said no she said um I just want to ask you something if you don't mind I don't know you and you don't know me and both of you didn't know my husband like what are you doing here listen to what they said you could faint they said we live in Borough Park and we get to ham oh dear and in the Hamel dear mrs. Kim has a list of all those people sitting Shiva and if we see anybody that sitting Shiva alone we go to be Menachem oval it takes your breath away who would think of that what an unbelievable asset didn't even know the people but if somebody's sitting alone they're gonna make a difference that's unbelievable when you do a Hesed like that you could go to sleep comfortably I'll tell you another thing so beautiful rub gifter the receiver of tells was traveling a number of years ago with his wife they were traveling on a plane from LaGuardia to Cleveland it was very late at night and there was a bar from the Shiva that was trying to get on the flight and finally he was the last one he got on standby he was able to get on on the flight those years they used to serve meals if you remember so right today you got to pay for a snack well what and you know in those days you got a meal so all of a sudden the stewardess brings him a meal so he says to the stewardess you know I appreciate it so much but I don't really deserve this I didn't make a reservation for a kosher meal and I was the last one on so you know it's not really mine she said I know but the rabbi told us that we should give you his meal he couldn't believe it I'm gifter is telling the stewardess that give him the meal he goes over to the Russian Shiva he says Russia she ride I just want to thank you so much like but why did you give me your meal he says you're my man I'm traveling with my Rebbetzin we're gonna come home late tonight but no matter how late we come home she's gonna make me supper but by the time you get back to the dormitory they'll have served supper hours ago you're not gonna go with supper tonight I wanted to be sure you have supper that's a Rebbe that's a Russia Shiva it's amazing that's amazing so I just want to tell you one more thing and you know we could go on forever but I am speaking tonight on a different topic totally so you're welcome to come there if you can make it I don't know where eras where am i speaking tonight Rahal net tear where is that yes Romanesco okay Yaakov Netta right and I'm gonna start I must start at 9 o'clock cuz I have a point tonight 9 o'clock right okay Aaron says yes and that means maybe okay so I'm just gonna tell you just one more story I know you're not gonna believe this but it's just amazing most of you know that I'm a mile and I had a bris in Muncie right after Pesach and I stayed in the most wonderful Rove's house rabbi Chesser I don't know if any of you know him you know her but Chester okay so a wonderful wonderful family he became robbed at two years ago at Thomas Holcomb a wonderful kind person whatever and with you know when I came into the show Friday night so I don't know I didn't know where to sit so I you know I'm walking around and a guy says wait there's a place for you I said there is he said Yeah right up front there's a table for guests I thought wow that's such a nice thing you know you would think table for guess you know would be someplace in the back but it was right behind the right behind the about fella okay I sit down this Amish and a sitter you know for anything that you would want Friday night I'm about to begin that when a guy brings me a tender I said excuse me sir it's so nice of you to have brought me you know gave me the seat but you have to give me your standard he said that's not my friend it's yours I said mine they said yeah take a look what it says on it you wouldn't believe it it says our guest could you believe that why shouldn't every shul in the world have that every show in the world should have so now I'm gonna tell you one more great story which I see already that you know but that Shabbos can I know her the Chesser family they have eight sons and I never ever in my life heard smears like that I really thought that I was in the base I make - the harmony of those eight boys together with the father not only the shum away from desk you know so Dawson there were boinking alum him and the coma cottage it was heavenly even of dollar it was beyond now they there's only one family that I ever heard sing like that and that's my daughter and son-in-law the Kramer's they live in Baltimore they both have great voices they have five children one has a better voice than the other and the harmonies and I never saw except for the Chester's I never saw any family like that that sings like that except my daughter and some of the Kramer's and we was so impressed with that family that much of Shabbos my wife goes over to mrs. Chesser and says you know I have a granddaughter in Baltimore and you have a son and you know I was wondering maybe you know maybe we can make something yet she says well he just come back from Ranchi surely didn't stop going out yet she said okay let's keep it in mind a few weeks ago rabbi Chester had to come to sheva high school my wife is the Hebrew principal there and he had to speak to Rebbetzin Hertz as the principal and my wife recognized his Rochester and she goes over to him she says well Robert gesture family remember me he says yeah your rabbits are grown right to write you at the house he said what's your son oh he's starting to go out now oh that's great my wife comes home you got a call as rush receiver right now I called the Russia Shiva we got an OK and they just got engaged so we should all have syphilis could you imagine my wife was a shopkin for her granddaughter it's like unbelievable right okay but anyway thank you very much for inviting me thank you for listening it should always be happy [Applause] [Music] [Applause]