Tisha B'Av: The Root of Destruction - Mr. Charlie Harary

[Music] so we are now entering into one of the most confusing parts of the year this is really the beginning of the nine days for the Spartan we get a break this issue Sahaba when it falls different conversation for a different time but it's fun to be sorry a lot of benefits we make it up by ello so don't worry anybody who's thinking we get it easy but then we need to comment some pace a whole nother story and what we're doing is we are culminating in what is supposed to be the saddest day of the year that's gonna be taking place more session about Sunday which is tisha buff and if you ask anybody what is Tish above they'll tell you well it's the day where bad things happen to us in history we've lost - based on big dishes the city of Beit are all the stuff all the tragedies that we deal with throughout history somehow is connected to that one day the day of Tisha Bhavan if you ask somebody why what happened on tisha Bob they'll tell you the story that we all know about the deserts if you remember the story Jews are going through the desert a couple of lips along the way but they make it all the way to Kanaan they're bouncing it into the Promised Land and they're standing at the banks and God goes here it is you're gonna walk in about a minute from now you're ready and they're like wow course we're ready because we saw what you pulled off in Egypt I mean you are very creative and you had some incredible moves we can't wait to see what you got what you have in store for those in Kanaan and gods like oh I'm sorry you didn't get the memo well you're gonna be fighting they're like what us know what we're Jews like we can sue them if you want like that's okay like we can heal them we could eat them to death I'll call my mom we can guilt them to death but like what we do or Jews you nobody see a bunch of guys come out of a bar and be like yo yo do you Shiva let that light out let's cross the street it's get ugly it's never gonna happen we're Jews we're not scary if other means fighting isn't one of them unless you put an IDF your uniform then it gets a little different but when you're ready to do not happening and the juice go what are you kidding me I don't think so oh come on you can do it they don't know no not for us you know what let's send in spies remember spies go in spies come out spies turn around they go everybody we're gonna die it's there's no chance the Jews cry that whole night God turns and says you cry tears of vain Buffy Athena you'll cry for generations that night was Magill endure this Kamara and Tina's that I was tisha buff questions is that fair let's be straight God's supposed to be the merciful God he's supposed to be our dad Kel raah whom vahanam he's supposed to be the person we turn to when we need something and he's supposed to care for us more than our Father the Jews through each through the bid bar they had a couple of blips they did something's wrong Moshe showed up on a mountaintop brought God down and God revealed himself to the world forty days later they were serving idols in the Golden Calf that was bad they had a thing with appropriate connections the connections with the princesses of mala that was bad they complained as soon as they left Egypt that was bad and all of those things we survived they're scared the kid doesn't wanna go on the roller coaster and the father turns him and goes you're crying you're crying oh honey get me the bat oh you're crying now you're gonna crawl you have you want to show you what you got something to cry about this is this is Hacha the Kurdish brothel can turn to us and say you cried because you're scared I'm going to make you cry forever that's a ship of Kalra home vacanam how could it possibly be that this is what a Kurdish Rojo told us so I want to share with you one line that I believe tells the real story because for sure not Hashem punished us because we were scared for sure there's one line that tells you the entire story when the Jews come out they turn to the people and they give their report and they add in one line and the line is Beshara in una feeling Bonet anak we saw these giants midnight of filum and then they say maybe I think when you look at this Rudy's lawn you almost feel like it's not in Torah they say Vinny he gained a new key hug of him we were in our eyes like grasshoppers the hane hi you baam and so we were in theirs what does that mean because in my opinion that's the secret to the whole story and the secret to tisha buff so I want to tell you a story I grew up and I had one passion I had my first love in life was an orange ball it was a basketball when I went to sleep my basketball was with me when I get up I went to breakfast guess who came with me my basketball my whole life as a kid was basketball Baskerville Baskerville when I got into high school I played for the basketball team and I had one game that I'll never forget we were playing a rival school and I want you to picture this for a second I was playing on the varsity team and no plate the gym is jam-packed and the whole game is totally closed we're tied or up I won the whole game we get to the end of the game and we're up by one with one minute left and their team comes down and with ten seconds left their team scores and we go down by a point we get the ball back we call timeout you can't even hear yourself think the entire gym is jammed and I come into the huddle so my coach can call the last play of the game seven seconds left packed down by one I go into the huddle and on my team there was a guy who had the greatest shot I've ever seen he can score from anywhere on the court and I knew for sure if there's one play left the coach is going to that guy and I come into the huddle and the place is rocking and the coach goes okay you're going here you're going here you're going here he goes Harare you're coming around the bend and he turns to the guy that's gonna inbound the ball and says you you give the ball to her re charlie you take the last shot I said honey you said Charlie you must have made him right he goes no you're I'm like no I mean you mean him him you calling him Charlie now he's like I'm looking at you you're taking mush I'm like are you sure like because we have one shot left there's only five seconds left he's like I'm sure whistle blows we get on the court and I am shaking ball comes the guy inbounds the ball and I come right around the pick and I catch the ball and as I'm catching the ball my brain says the following to me the coach is wrong you're totally gonna miss and you're gonna Barriss yourself he thinks he knows you know better here's what we're gonna do we're gonna get the ball and then we're gonna pass it and someone else is gonna shoot and he's gonna forget about the whole thing so I come around the bend I get the ball and instead of shooting it I pass the ball to another one my teammates who doesn't think it's coming because he was in the huddle as well a second ago and he also heard Charlie you're shooting he catches the ball off-guard throws it up he misses and we lose the game it's terrible I'm still getting over it as you can tell this is just one big therapy session I get to the locker room and the coach goes all right everybody good game my coach was like 65 been coaching for 40 years he goes look everybody great game practice on Tuesday no problem we all get up and he goes Charlie I want to speak to you and I was like oh you're dead some like you're sure it's like yes so I wait afterwards and the cup of the locker-room clears out and looks at me goes what happened I said well I know you gave me the bowl I know you called a play for me but I know he's a better player so I thought to myself you'll probably of a better chance of winning if I passed it so I tried to pass the ball I knew it was a better move he stops and never forget this and he says how old do you I said I'm 17 because how many R's you're playing basketball I said oh no seven eight years go separate eight years he goes I've been coaching basketball for more years and you've been alive he goes in fact I've been coaching basketball for more years than before your parents even met he goes who do you think wants to win the game more me or you Mike I know he goes the coach or one of the players I said probably you goes so if I know what I'm talking about and I put you as the one to shoot the last shot why what did you shoot the last shot I said cuz I thought I was gonna miss and then he tells me a line that I will never forget for the rest of my life he said he's okay that you feel nervous and you know what it's okay that you may not even believe in yourself but at least if you're on my team have the decency to believe in me because I know more than you and if I tell you to shoot the last shot then you better believe that I see something in you then you may not even see in yourself and shoot the shot anyways cuz if I put you in the game I see in you something you don't see in yourself and even if you don't think you could hit it I think you can hit it and that's enough for you to take it in the first place believe in me enough to know that I believe in you more than you believe in yourself and I said you're right sir next day like I just shot every shot it's okay to stop shooting the Jews came out of Egypt and the Jews in Egypt not just Jews in Egypt because when you look at Torah and all you see in Taurus would happen long time ago you missed the entire lesson the lesson of the Jews in Egypt standing in front of Herod's Kanaan is the lesson of me and you in our entire lives because every single one of us live our lives and we all have problems all of us have a problem all of us have a challenge if you're alive today something that you have in your life is challenging you the only people that don't have challenge are the peoples that are sleeping in cemeteries because if you're alive and you're trying in life the purpose of trying in life is growing through challenges and when we go through our challenges we think that the challenges are bigger than us and so many times in our lives we look at our days and we look at our challenges and we're looking on wise and we go there's no way I can do this this is beyond me I can't and as we go through our lives what stops us in life it's not the ability to fight for challenges it's That moment when you go up against something that you say to yourself at some point I can't do it I can't I can't I can't I can't is the part of our lives that stops us what is destruction what is horrible whoever Allah is not failure hormone is giving up its hopelessness when a Jew goes through life and God gives them challenges he doesn't get destruction when he fails he gets destruction the minute that he or she wakes up and says I can't do it it's beyond me it's not me I can't I can't do this and all of us have something it's a relationship or it's that kid you know that kid you never have you have anyone have like that kid where you just thank God you didn't have him first because you had him first you'd only have one you know I'm talking about or pardon OSA or she took him all of us have that thing that we go into our lives and we're wake up in the morning and we go through our days and in our guts something tells us you just can't give up give up you can't the story of the mid bar is the story of the Jewish people that stand up against something and then when they turn to Kanaan they stand in front of Kanaan and they walk in and when they come out the words they tell each other as I can't but if you look into the actual words what they're saying is then he gained a new kiss hug of him we see these giants how do you know they're Giants how do you can't take them on meaning he be Ain a new kiss hug of it because look at the words it's unbelievable they literally spell out their problems because we see ourselves in our eyes like grasshoppers the Thayne how you be a mayhem so since we feel inadequate we must be an adequate and God looks at them because who told you you're inadequate who told you you can't because you feel like you can't because you see something bigger than you I'm not gonna punish you God says I'm gonna teach you a lesson that attitude is the core of your own destruction but he has seen him isn't God punishing us it's God showing us what's why we're punishing ourselves but he has haenam is life when we look around at our lives and we cry tears of vain it's the tears of I think I can't so that I can't because the whole essence of challenges from the Hebrew word nice I own and nice I own comes from the word mace mace means a banner with son ace because the only way we grow in life is when the Commish grow who gives us a challenge and so it is totally how challenges work that we don't think it's normal for us because if it was normal for us it wouldn't be a challenge the whole essence of challenge is it's too much for me that's what a challenge is and the only way we fail and challenge is when we go I feel like a grasshopper I feel like I can't so I must not be able to ma you don't know me I tried math for two minutes and I can't do it I must not be good at math I don't have the friend I can't fight this this is taking way too long to solve this crisis to solve this problem I can't be this from I can't connect to God I can't whatever it's in your head right now of the thing that you can't Harbin comes the minute you say I really can't and the sin of the marah gloom wasn't that they failed the sin of the Magnum was that they didn't believe in God enough because even what if they didn't believe in themselves they should have taken the shot anyways because the greatest aspect of what it means to be a Jew is to stare down your challenge and say I don't think I can but God would never have given this to me if I can't so I'm gone forward anyways because I would rather fail and fail and fail to not even tried because not trying is destruction and if you want to know what regret is in life regret is when you look back in your life and go I could have had this relationship with my wife I could have done this with my children I could have been this connected to God I had no idea that if I would have just tried a little bit harder I could have I could have is the person looking back in the life of saying I can't and every year God looks us and says stop blaming me do me a favor stop blaming me I'm giving you an insight on your life if you think that you're gone if you think that your life isn't standing at your promised land if you think that life isn't standing at a promised land right now and saying I want that and God goes really I want you to earn that now let me make it a little bit hard for you and you go oh I can't I can't I can't and God goes how many years have I been doing this and my little older than you do I want to win more than you want you to win how about this how could you believe me that I believe in you more than you believe in yourself and when a Jew walks his life and says to him every day God believes in me more than I believe in myself you become invincible because you break destruction at its core you know the some sulphur says this and with this I lend some sulfur says that every single day it's an amazing thing God puts he doesn't say this exactly why not I'm adding the basketball marshal he didn't use the bass commercial that's me whatever is basketballs me whatever store is him just giving you know every day God puts you on the court and gives you a shot and you start your day off and gaga's listen I believe in you so we grow up and we hurt we feel that we say when we grow up is every morning they taught us we say Madonna - FML fib Khayyam chef Hazara be nish Marcy but hem la raba am una seja Hossam so fir says you're not saying it right the way you're supposed to say it is this more day on e of the financial mela Divac I am I stand before you and thank you God Melek ivic I am the coach of coaches she has desired to be Nash ma T or mr. Massey depending on what side you're sitting on chef hard to be an issue mighty /c you gave me back my soul you put me on the court the hem la with love , raba and munis aha you have a lot of faith in whom the Hossam surfer says in me i woke up this morning and I still got problems I woke up this morning and I'm still struggling and if you put me on this earth and you put this thing in front of me you know why you did it God because you believe in me more than I believe in myself and I walk my day and even at the moments where I say to myself I can't they're giants I can't they're so big I can't in my core I say maybe he believes in me more than I believe in myself the fix for this period of time the fix for the core of destruction is a bunch of Jews that walk through their lives and say as big as it looks and as scary as it can be it wouldn't come my way if I couldn't overcome it my dad would not place it in front of me if I wasn't strong enough to break right through it and when we believe in that we become a piece of coal a venue funa we become a piece of alone olive and near us no so we become a piece of that small voice that says let's fight let's push let's go I would rather die in battle than sit behind the banks instead stay in the camps it is my brother to us and by the way we're gonna sit on the floor and say I wish kula can come cause look and go really your wish goal can come you can bring it yourself because gula starts off personal I want Google in our marriages and our children and our relationship to God and our work you want to really achieve gula if we really want a life of gula we don't have to wait for someone to knock on the door and say it's mushiya you wanted this time really sit on the floor and say I want gula then we stand up and say every single challenge in front of me I know is being is there to build me I will not fall into the same trap as the spies ever again and say to myself that because I feel like a grasshopper I am a grasshopper if God put me by the banks of the river of the promised land I'm going in no matter what because that's what God wants us and the swastika says when this Ln says I think I said this once before there's 216 hours in the nine days do you know why swass m/s this is because 216 is the gamma tree of RA you know what God wants from us during this period of time not to be broken not to be upset and sad God wants us to become lions he wants us to stand up and say no more I know what they did it's not happening anymore of me God I don't care I will not fall into that same trap if we rise like lions I SH and will bring us into the lands that were meant to be it is my brother to all of us that we in our core believe that even if I don't believe in myself the master of the universe believes in me Rob Emunah seja we fixed the challenges brought to us by the spies and become the lions that all of us are meant to be thank you so much and all the best [Applause] [Music] [Applause]