Tisha B'Av: I am Prayer, and Prayer is Me - Rabbi Reuven Lauffer

[Music] but the a pretendin insider' bass Yonkers and his stick lung tissue both he writes that all of the tourists that come they come to clannish table because we don't mourn for the hope if our only Sid would be that we aren't moving for you shall I'm would be sufficient to extend the goddess that's what he writes and then he adds in my opinion this primary cause for all terrible suffering beyond description that the fools are single us is because we don't dabble for the whole we persecuted we have no peace and it's all because the morning has left our hearts so that seems to be clear enough why are we here today but on the other hand the AIDA straw writes Shabbos has on the Shabbos that we just had yesterday is the most exalted Shabbos in the year the meddra says that there was no young terrific longing soul as when the base of leaders was destroyed the nature of love between people is that it increases when they're about to depart one from the other it's based on a Gibran yavanas therefore right before the destruction of the base of English when Kitty Osceola cottage beaucoup is going to depart from us send us into godless the love between us was very very strong even greater than before and that's why says the oil D strong the shadows before Tish above his perhaps the greatest shadows of the year so maybe now it's not so clearly on the one hand we have but Jakob ended on the other hand we have the idea straw listen to this the sub sofa it's Josh's rights if I weren't afraid I would say that tisha Bob is a young saw some of the cinta it really should be a happy day we're crying and mourning each year for new devastations due to our many sins curses and souls become greater every day than the day before then he continues we should be praising Hashem on this day that's the reason why tisha bub is called Amoy eight a festival but our sins prolong the girlís and as always more therus and more agony and fresh grief that overrides the old happiness so is it good or is it bad it's moment that we're in right now listen daughter pincus's after the three weeks three weeks of mourning that we've just been through there followed by what are called the seven weeks of consolation Sheridan again T says there are Pincus three is foundation the number three is a Kazakh the number three is the establishment of something the number seven says the morale is structure you have the six sides of a box and then you have the inner point the hater our koi dish in the middle in the center that brings structure to our lives in seven days of creation the seven days of the week says rapid coos you can only have the shedder than a gente you can only have the seven weeks of consolation after you've had the three weeks after we've been through the experience of shavasana tamils I was whole dish all a teachable but Destler explains that the Shepherd the magenta the seven weeks of consolation of a bridge between the three weeks and Emmel and children the words of the picklists tragedy brings morning morning sparks yearning yearning leads to hope hopes those sorts of children and to the results in Atonement and with reconnection to our College Board it's amazing it's astonishing what starts off as being the most awful the most dire day in the here turns into the four bringer of all that is good how can that be how's it possible that from the very depth of awfulness we'll reach up and we'll be able to touch everything that's good the answer is very simple because when things happen we have no idea at the time what the ultimate outcome is going to be however very close Talmud much older than I am before the outbreak of the Second World War in the 1930s the economic situation in Europe was absolutely atrocious it was appalling and Jews were trying to leave not because of the anti-semitism per se but because they couldn't afford to put bread on the table and of course everybody wanted to go to America but they could get into America so this Talmud who was very young boy at the time together with his parents they emigrated to Columbia to South America there were visas to be had he was born in this in this town of sigit which is he founding movement of what turned into the Satmar Hasidim his father was a staunch Satmar closeted and together with his father's brother and their families they moved to Columbia and in Columbia life was a little bit a little bit better it wasn't great and all they dreamed about was to go back to see it that's where they wanted to go to go back home back to Eastern Europe and he said every month his father and his uncle would buy a national lottery ticket each one would buy one ticket in the hope that one of it would win and one of them would be able to take their family back to Eastern Europe and one month they bought their tickets and the uncle turned to his brother and said I don't like the number on my ticket can we swap his brother told him for sure no problem and they swap tickets and lo and behold what was her father's ticket and he given over to his brother was the winning ticket that month and the uncle went to collect his earning his winnings of course one of the very first things that he did was that he picked himself up and his family he moved back to the aldehyde his hometown of cigarettes my Talmud told me that him and his siblings for months afterwards they kept asking their father why did you do that what did you give him your ticket for that could have been asked and here we are stuck over here we're never gonna get out of this place and then the war broke out and not one member of his uncle's family survived the war and yet him and his parents and his siblings they all survived and he said the whole time his father would tell them is good whatever call his broker wants it's gonna be okay it's gonna be good if it's out of a coma he loved live right the justice darkness is sometimes hidden behind the light so too light is sometimes hidden the darkness so what are we supposed to do what are we supposed to do in order to turn the darkness that we're presently in into something that's going to be a blaze of light that will light up the entire world when he's doubled we need to Davin effectively the SIDS are okay after work at rights from the time that the base of meters was destroyed a college boy who doesn't give goodness turbine a strong without filler if we want things to be good and for those of you that things are already good if you want things to be better we have to doubt them have to learn how to down the floor Super's writes that it's known that all believers of our College both massage Gawker that in the goddess para NASA can so lien that in the narrative filler because filler is instead of the Quran has placed some of his death Ronnie and the o'clock I say not just PAGASA all success within our lives emanates from Tefila so we need to doubt we need to govern effectively but that's hard we all know that what's the key Babita says but your love beneath saw it when Claudius wallah waiting to going to arity stroller they have a problem because they can't pass from some of the lands but Mesilla Nylund will go on the highway as the MV it made it make a nice chair and if we have to drink your water I mean we can i but I Tatti me from whatever it costs will pay whatever needs to be paid rock a dog of Bharat Lee Evora which a simple chat means just let me pass through let my feet pass through the aside avoider plays around with the words a little bit rock a dog of Bradley are very if we want to pass through if you want to succeed or what we're doing a person has to overcome his rodillas overcome doing things because that's what you always do to overcome doing things because you do them by rote without thinking how does a person change his nature how does a person manage to change his outlook of doing things by rote simply because you do it every single day by practicing slowly the chilling step-by-step person doubles once with Cavani and then hopefully they'll govern again with cover and then the next time with kevanna until it becomes a part of you until the recognition of dabbling with karana is not a concept that you've heard about another concept that you've learnt about but a concept that you live with a concept that's part of you and it all begins with recognizing the value of every single filler not to imagine for one second the one filler is of less value than another filler your chakras is of paramount importance but your medical is of paramount importance as well and you're married is of paramount importance and the chakras that comes afterward and the min term that comes after that in a never-ending cycle of paramount importance dama de Mello says capital crooked tests how shafted there are five there are sheep around lie translation is like considered my ways that my feet returned because out - and out the other tamela everybody would get up and he had all kinds of things that Kings have to do I don't know what Kings did in his day maybe they went and opened hospitals went to visit the sick I don't know and he would get up every morning with a whole long list of things that he needed to do Oh Schatzi de la vie I had a whole series a whole schedule to keep to Bathsheba Adelaide but my feet just took over they took me back to the base of Medicine the base Island says like this cause shaft eat there are high that every single thing I do if I look at everything I do is being cautious as being something important something valuable to me every single good act every single moment every single filler is of something of importance therefore as she I'm able to change my regulars I'm able to change that sense of doing things out of a sense of roads and to feel that I'm doing it because I'm supposed to be doing it I don't want to depress anybody over here imagine you're depressed enough as it is but very often my talmidim are concerned about a particular in the cooter a particular point in the process of becoming through very often they ask when am I going to reach mainstream orthodoxy where am I not going to be considered to be about sugar anymore what am I going to be part of everybody else I tell them a simin move hug an absolute sign of being part of mainstream orthodoxy is when you take your three steps back for the Amidah and momentarily you can't remember whether you're beginning or whether you're ending it's that but unfortunately it's true there'd be nothing to me breast that says we need to start over every day sometimes many times every day the base of meadow should discuss NS burnt down and when the Senate's inquired to the source of the fire he was told that came from a lit cigarette that was dropped in the Attic the center said that if a small fire could create such an inferno how much good can come from a fiery pillar that's how I avoid them to learn how to govern effectively which means paradoxically it seems that repetition is beneficial because we're apart by repeating its Villa over and over again it helps us reach the point where weakened a burn more or less consistently with karana there's a locker though when suddenly dad's in a shul they should have a maken Cavour what is a maken cover not just a diamond in the same shoe but in the shoe you should have it in the same place why is that because we're distracted by our surroundings when I dabble in the same sure that I've been dabbling in for the last twenty years but I sit in a different seat that sure looks different the neighbor in front of me the person batting in front of me his ears are different to the person normally sits in front of me and all of a sudden I can't concentrate on what's going on so that I laughter is what that you should go to the same sure that you should have it in the same place within the same valid analyst because in order to dab it effectively we have to learn have a try to strip away the distractions there are so many of them have you said Broyer right in american 1939 from frankfurt our mind he was the grandson of a suction will fall Hirsch and he came with a vision that he was going to re-establish the Frankfurt are mine tequila there in New York in Washington Heights and in 1939 he opened up a vineyard in his apartment that a minyan which that meeting which will become eventually Kalidasa sure and all of a sudden it grew and it grew the most extraordinary rate and they created moist as a fiddle they created voices of Hessert they created a Caprica disha they created a half-shirt which until today is considered to be one of the premiere show in America the killer was thriving growing from week to week built around the personality of Rob royal nobody called the show Calabasas sure they called it Brewers and yet there was something very strange about the rats brushes every week on Shabbos the rat will talk about the same two things either he would speak about Shabbos or in the summer months he would speak about sneers with the approach of the summer the rap would speak out against the shmoo Tajikistan galaga going to the the disgusting beaches this was a marked contrast to all the other rabbis of the day that were around there in the neighborhood they would use their servants to talk about social issues leading news stories and that royal week after week we'll talk about the same things after a long long while one of the members of the Keeler astor up he plucked up his courage and he asked around why he felt that he needed to speak about the same topics week after week after week we all now have Arab homes said the congregate why not talk about other things as well and in a seemingly complete non sequitur Rav Boyer said to him have you ever heard of Chesterfield cigarettes and congregate looked at the lab but he says that sure he says everybody's heard of them so Australia so why do you think they feel a need to advertise on the back cover of Life magazine every single week hasn't everyone already seen the advertisement doesn't everybody know what Chesterfield cigarettes are the reason is because eventually through constant repetition week after week the message seeps in in a way that transcends merely knowing that cigarettes exist an I say the what's true in the world of cigarette advertisements larval is true in the world of tiller but there's more to all of us and just filler so it's time rights and the court in that in addition to the Schmoe nursery a person should pour out his fillers from the depths of his heart even when he's in private alone in his home why and the reason is because these fillers are so important and we say that three times daily but because we say them every single day so often we say that by rote it's a very famous story they tell about a man who was sent by his wife to the shock to the market to pick up some fruits and vegetables and he's busy admiring the tomatoes and squeezing the peaches and all of a sudden somebody bashes into him and he looked to see who could have been so rude and it's him himself he's in the at the Schmoe nicer and he got to swallow and he's banned in his chest by roads his wife had told him before he goes to Davao please stop in the shook on the way home he was already there in his mind he was already there he just happened to still be insured ugly minitor since a cop Italian but he sorrowed together with the milah of Dominic every single day three times a day is that sometimes we don't think about what we're saying so there's a cop it's fine but when a person's by himself when he makes a hash bananafish about his situation he reflects on the Taurus that he has in his life on the poverty in the housing life on the other sorrows that he has and then he'll pour out his heart like water before I polish bottle and that feeling will be said with such karana it would be a filler from the depths of his broken humble heart that says thyself expire such a filler will never be returned at unanswered in capital cool days Dominic says it's fill in the immediately leave now should be specific that's filler for the afflicted when he swoons the active is normally translated of spoons before should say because a person is so weakened by his suffering he can't he can't stand up to what's going on but filler for the afflicted when he swims and pours forth his supplication before I share custody should hide the deeper science says Villa Laura Giotto if the attitude comes from the lotion lead to death to be wrapped up when we make a bra for our teachers in the morning or like we did to this afternoon Lisa tasted so we surround ourselves in art Alice its Villalona Kioto that we should wrap hearts pillars within our conversations that we speak every single day since the Buddha mckisco used to say it's easy to do whatever you're doing whatever you're saying doesn't wash em double fish non bias dubbing for novice thumb for success in all your endeavors and the more you dive it the more you realize that success lies in the hands of a college ball go down to him - our feeling shy - am i when the words were I'm sure you can replace many fears with one fear is in Koufos but he's filler I am Philip I am prayer the 60d replica anna says but to him an ordered Scylla that we're certain that if we dug and correctly were certain that I call his broker will listen but it's more than that that's not a simple Chan of the woods dollar the medic says by me to fill out I I'm a stick filler me every single one of us it's a stick spit over a piece of filler varied filler it's not something which is separate from us it's not something that we say and it leaves our mouths and it disconnects rather filler is me and I am the seller says listen to these words about unbelievable words I feel he's had filler that the words of the filler the letters of the filler had a voice they're very very lofty the official might see always so hard on Corrado he when a person brings him out of his mouth in the way that he's supposed to Hamish I realize the oil oyster show show they sing out and they connect back to their roots up in the shaman he chant when we davon the way that we supposed to dab it hating the show nice the only noise leshan they sing they sing their own song the song that we created and they joined together with that college block when the Shania but nevertheless it's hard why is it so hard because we tend to focus on our failings I read not very long ago a beautiful poignant story a true story about a bottle who came to his Rebbe to his Russia Sheba and he was depressed he was upset he told them he said I'm trying so hard to work on myself but I only succeed for a little bit and then I fall again the Rebbe thought for a few minutes and then he gave the most unbelievable reply he said to the boy I am ready to take the consequences for all of your failures if you'll only give me the reward for your efforts in trying to overcome struggles we focus on our failures we focus on what we're not doing right and we don't recognize that within the struggles within the trials of trying to become better we connected to our chorus powerful we have to look beyond ourselves in order to see her she'll Bostick an acre that we just read Perry given says this Ashley date meet Akash near Shem we also could reach both will destroy them from under the heavens of our share pame says thus Ashley Dane comma meet Akash now share we have to destroy the mesh the notion that things happen under the heavens we must recognize that everything happens from the heavens everything happens from Hashem the poster kinky Satan says ish a shallow yet are me Carolina a simple Shawn is talking about tumor and tire when somebody is pure when they're impure in the sifrits Hasidim they said like this is shallow yet are there are two kinds of people who are not pure the first is the one who says Mikra everything happened by chance it's not a Kurdish ball the second one is the one who says Lila that all of a sudden their lies became bleak that lies became dark from the terrace so dark that I said is not there both those statements itami both of them are impure even when things are dark everything is for the good during the Holocaust in one of the concentration camps there was a Nazi Russia who every night at roll call would randomly call out a baby as they lined up and he would have flicked that person the terrible terrible suffering more than everybody else one day drink roll call the Russia calls out lady stein we can't judge ladies time for what he did we can't judge anybody for what they went through during the Holocaust but this latest I turned around to the person next to him in the line and he sets him in a very loud voice loo lady the guard called you what are you waiting for person standing next him in the line with somebody called River Ranch diner he quickly assess the situation and he could have claimed that his name wasn't they be Stein but he decided that that was to happen there not only would lady stein die but he would die as well and he decided that if it was his time that it was bigger and he was going to step forwards in the hope of saving the other person step forward prepared to accept all the pain that was going to be given to him all in order that the other person shouldn't suffer and then this Russia malucia announced you know what this time we're going to play a different game this time the person who stepped forward is going to live and everyone else is going to die how do I know this story because rip up and Steiner died not very long ago in Bnei Brak he was 96 years old and he told over the story we imagine that I could reach Bocas not home because things are bad we imagined that we know better than I college ball for the very famous gamer at the end of Marcos that I have fallen so foxes coming out that the destroyed basically - the good my brother says that the foxes are the wisest of animals Epis as a hint that the base of it - was destroyed because of those people who thought that they were wise wiser than that the Prophet says in Bamidbar last laugh emotion the ballot Orion writes slakoth emotion that the end letter of each word spells out the word Hassan laughs yes laughs ah for an ocean man Safa that the Moroccan were wise they were scholarly they would Sadiq him but maybe we can understand the ballot Orion now in a different way maybe the problem rest with the fact that they thought that they were wiser than everybody else maybe we can explain what the Bharat Orion was the captain's cabin tool that they thought that they didn't need moisture a banal in order to understand what needed to be done and maybe that was the root of their downfall there's a very famous Jewish singer called Benny Freedman don't worry I'm not gonna sing to you he said once a very beautiful light he said don't take yourself too seriously but do take your it'sh kite serious all the time wherever you are of cushion Edelstein Lauren Rocha she respond a says that he remembers his mother his mother died when he was very young I think he was only nine years old when his mother passed away but his mother used to say that if you cannot be done in the cat's horse if you can't judge somebody favorably than be done in the calf stuff just understand that people behave in stupid ways sometimes and don't judge that person harshly it's finished with her and uplifting a beautiful story there was a lawyer who had been much firmer when he was younger and as he became more and more successful he became less firm on the way but he sent his children off to very religious institutions to learn and he came to have an alleged anger to complain that his son who is now ready to go to yeshiva none of the Sheba's would accept him because of the father that the boys phone is Elif his crush of the Yasha but they weren't prepared to give him the police because the father had become less and less from a bad Lane asked the father to bring the boy in and he sat him down and he gave her little fur hair he gave him a little exam tested him for what he was learning test a little bit of hash copper a barren Lane understood that this boy was definitely Roy he was definitely worthy to be in a mainstream yeshiva his house coffers were wonderful he was a full boy so some phone calls were made and when I Rosh Hashana gets a phone call from of an alleged stamen it's not very much that he can do he can't say no so they accepted the boy they're a bad lady asked the father to come in wanted to give him the good news personally and he told the father the wonderful news that his son have been accepted into the achievement of the son wanted to go to Andhra badly told the father after he told him he said like this I expect something returned for my efforts on your son's behalf I said the father was a very wealthy man he assumed that obviously Rabelais was looking for a very substantial donation to his various stalkers Rab and I told him the compensation that I want from you is this erased from your heart all anger resentment and criticism of the Russian achievers who initially refused to accept yourself we should cry at the simplicity and the depth of our colleagues words and we should cry at the simplicity in the depth of his whole approach to life you not sunshine is Carolina Biafra blazer sure that we should all be so fair that our tillers all about skill is not just a formal Spillers come from the depths of our hearts and that from our striving to reach up to our English a lion will be able to greet the men are my chef together here [Music] [Applause]