The Tremendous Impact of the Words We Say - Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser

very special to be here on behalf of kazak kazak an organization that does so much throughout the entire world to help every Jew to help any Jew a very very special Yash to Robbie Robie ABA is one of the most talented individuals that I know gives over himself for cloud Israel he is here not only himself but his parents and also his grandfather a very close friend of mine the fact that they are here tonight is something special for the whole Community uh I want to start off in a very uh interesting way a lot of times a person says what's my words what's my words I say a word it don't matter I'm not somebody big I'm not somebody that's going to make a difference so I said a word to one person or I said a word in my room nobody heard it nobody saw it I said something fascinating I'll just give you from the prophets Amos said the following the one who made the mountains that what happens that Hashem says to everyone the one that forms the mountains the one that the air begins to create things in this world tells a person what their words are the fascinating thing is the great sadik of vision re Isel of vision says a person does not know by the a of their words they could create Essence they could create aot in this world aot that we won't even realize that I am forming by my words that's how important it is I give a person a bra the could come true I give a person Shalom I give him a curse it could come true but then I also will get punished from it so it's not good a person has to watch every word when we watch our mouth in our language then a person watches that nothing happens to them bad I want to start off I got so much to say we're going to need a couple hours Robbie till you know it's good we're going to go overtime with this I got so much to say let me start like this I went in borrow Park borrow Park I live in Flatbush but I went to borrow Park I needed to go to buy someone he needed to have some clothing a a poor person I went there to buy some clothing for him I go inside all of a sudden enters in a former student that I had a former student a woman young woman and she goes uh Reby shalom shalom she's already got older no she do she don't have anybody to go out with I feel bad I began talking to her all of a sudden while I'm talking to her comes into the store a how you call it a shopping bag lady a lady lives on the streets a Jewish lady uh very poor comes into the street into from the street into the store and she sees this young woman and she says to her you should have a you should get married Shopping Bag Lady Lady looked like she was you know a little bit not 100% if you know what I mean I told to the student say Amen she said I said Say Amen she said amen The Shopping Bag Lady finished she went out the door that was it 3 weeks later I get a call on the telephone Reby Reby remember I saw you in that store the clothing store I said yes and you remember that lady said that I should get a shid remember you made me say amen I said yes she says I want to tell you what happened that night I go home do you know my telephone doesn't ring nobody calls up with a Nobody calls up to go out my telephone rang she introduced herself the lady said I heard about you I have a very nice shid and I would like to suggest it I didn't care who it was I didn't care what it was I said yes I'll do it no don't worry she goes out the hand of God comes into this world at different times she goes out she wanted to tell me it looks very good if it goes good on that date that she's going out could she come in together with him for a braa for a blessing that's how good it looks so a person might say what is my worth what is my M what is my blessing what does my words matter what does it matter it matters a lot because Hashem gave us the power of our mouth in our words if we use our mouth in the right way our mouth can build our mouth can do great things for this world can bring blessing to our families to theil the CL Isel a person does not know what we can do with our own mouths let alone the power of a person takes the sidor they open it up they need something and they begin to pray with a broken heart they begin to pray they shed one tear do we realize what theot can bring us tonight we're going to talk just a little bit about it we will just open the door what is it mean that the person opens their mouth in bra and blessings come into this world one Hashem gave us the power our words are very holy that's why hasem says guard your words watch your words when you watch your words you're careful then your words have a power for good if a person doesn't watch their words on the other hand it does not have a power for good it could have it the opposite way around and we're going to talk about it uh first of all it says in theal a person should never open their mouth never open our mouth to the too bad what does that mean that means I'm about to do a business deal this thing I say is never going to work out I tell my friend it's not going to work out I'm going to take an exam I say on my way to exam I'm going to fail the exam I'm not going to pass it don't open your mouth Never Say Never say bad only a person should say good why because the TAMU tells us that if our mouths say good we are going to bring good into our life don't open it up to ever say bad I will give you an example there was a group of a group of students that they were going out and uh there was a meeting in a Sho or whatever it is so it happened to be that the sh the outside was like a store one guy when he was walking into the sh the sh is Holy you know the sh I walk in over here I have to tell you it's a holy place I feel as soon as I come in that I want to pray here I feel like I want to learn here the beauty of the Sho the kadus the Holiness of of here I Wish I Was Here for Shabbat I wish I could come and pray with you that's how you feel in this particular building anyhow the guy makes a comment makes a comment just like he walks in he says you know it looks like a laundry mat you know will you make the laundry a Sho you can't say a Sho a la say a laundry map not to say that young guy just said it the guy gets married two years later they look for an apartment they cannot find an apartment anywhere nowhere there's no apartment to be gotten one place they were able to get an apartment one place they were desperate where's that place it's on a row of stores in order to get into their apartment there is a laundry mat they've got to use the door to the laundry mat go to the right up the stairs they get to their apartment what does everybody say when they come to the house they make a joke do you live in the laundry mat I'm outside I'm not sure how to get in a person should be very careful not to open their mouth to the Satan and this is a very interesting topic for tonight the power that a person has to say the right things to say good things uh very interesting that we have in we also say it on the sometimes there's a mistake that goes out of the ruler's mouth the king makes a mistake and then all of a sudden it has to go on it was a mistake I didn't mean to say it but then everybody follows it have to be very careful because when the ruler when the king says something people are going to follow it people are going to do what he said the same thing is by us we have to be very very careful and there is a story that we read about in K it's in the tud a fascinating thing of Yehuda the son of Rabia he was the son of Rana he would sit and he would study every ER of Shabbat he would be there until night they would come home right before the Shabbat when he would come home raban would see a pillar of fire am would be following him along one day he was so involved in one day he was learning so deeply what could he do he stayed in the hall he forgot to go home he was so steeped in his learning he forgot a person could completely for forget he forgot to go home reani didn't see him ah what happened reani said turn over the bed it was a sign of a a sign of mourning loo because if yehudah was still alive he would have come home on time for the Shabbat he would have been here oh sh they quoted the it's like when a person made a mistake they used their mouth in the wrong way sh what happened to him he died why because somebody said the wrong words that's how careful we have to be to say only the right things and it's interesting because the great re Al the great re alhan ask a question why why in this case it was an accident it wasn't on purpose he didn't mean to say it it was a mistake he didn't mean to say it so why did it come true why was it fulfilled re the great sadik asks and he says the answeres a person who has a holy mouth our mouths are holy our mouths have a power po even without any meaning without any feeling when a person says something with their mouth it comes true that's a power so a person has to be very careful whatever we say wherever we're at it always is going to register somewhere s says even a person says something with their mouth they don't think didn't matter they can never tell it may have mattered very greatly they called me to is the organization I had to say some words for them I had to speak for them when I was ready to leave there was a group of secretaries the the girls the young girl young women that work for them they were all seated I'm on my way out the door and they said rebi uh could you give us a braa all of us group nice group uh all laughing smiling and I said said what would you like AA for one of them one of them was a little bit of a joker one of them was a little bit of a comedian she said well yeah you know we want aan we want to get married and she was a little bit laughing I said okay for you I bless you with aan tll dark [Music] [Laughter] andic I said don't say do not say don't say a word don't say a word I gave you the you want to fool around I also did okay good good I leave she's like there oh know and everybody's watching and I gave the others a I come home some time goes by I get a call in the telephone that girl calls me up she says Rabbi I didn't know your braa is so serious I said tell me why she said I am now engaged to Aid moonat not only does he wear a beasha will wear a stral but even worse white socks white socks white socks oh I didn't know whether I should laugh or wasn't nice to laugh but I told her is he a great Katan yes yes but my parents and I never thought in a million years that this was going to be so we have to be careful we have to be very careful because we can never tell exactly what is going to be the result the uh the to of the words that we say we have many different things that an individual can do and sometimes if we will seal it and say good a person uh is a a little bit in uh I don't know a little in trouble a person is a little bit uh they're a little bit nervous about something you have no idea when you say good for the person you wish them well you give them a doesn't matter who it is it says don't let the of a simple person be light in your eyes a simple person tells you something take it for a lot even somebody and even that person gives you a you may say Amen you can say Amen to that and it will have an effect on a person a blessing from anybody is important so the first thing that I'd like to go over is that number one we'll be very careful with our mouths show it says watch your mouth watch what you say of course no no good no good be very careful we might want to say something bad but we shouldn't hold ourselves back it's so important it can gain us the entire world even one time I call up my friend and I say you know I got to tell you something about him and he says no what's your name he says no don't tell me re I can't hear it one time I hold myself back and I don't say it reward forever and ever another thing another thing uh we may not say 100% sometimes the truth uh person have to be very careful uh even in business you know I hate to say it but we got to try to say the truth is important signs his name with the truth Hashem signs his name with the truth a person has to be very careful never to tell a lie mitvah always to tell the truth even if it is difficult for an individual and certainly for the children never to tell them uh say for instance Somebody's knocking on the door you may not want to answer the door CU you know maybe it's a guy coming to collect or something you don't want to answer the door so you tell your kid listen uh say nobody's home ABA but I'm home yeah no just say nobody say there's no adults ABA but but you're in the house no no no I'll go out the window don't say I'm not home right no no no no no no no no can't do that you got to train the child to go in the proper way to go in the right way the child was supposed to to go to yes every day yes important learning a person can't miss you don't miss a day in Yesa but you want to go on a skiing trip so you can't get back on time on Monday because you're a skiing trip over the weekend that takes till Monday so the boy's got to go back in and the re's going to ask him what's the REI going to ask him Tuesday where were you where were you well what's going on so you know what you tell your son you say tell your rebi I was under the weather under the weather on the slopes maybe but not under the weather like he's thinking Shalom then he tells the rebi something then he said something about cannot do it no she can't do it n to say the words that are proper in our time we got to say the right words we've got to say words that are proper in today times the language that you can hear on the streets the language in the papers the language you're right it's a person should not ever let their ears hear those words has to be good clean words it says in theu that the words itself assur they are prohibited and it also says shalom that the person that uses those words that is not such a good outcome for that individual so to be careful in all of the other things to make a person feel bad uh say for instance a person is a uh a gar a convert right so you have to be careful convert you can make him feel bad you got to be extra careful the convert used to celebrate you know the 25th day on December so you say to the convert well let me ask you a question did you used to have a tree in your house on the 25th did you get dressed up that they make a thing for the guest oh no no no no why because that itself is theim that could hurt a person they could feel very bad they could think about where they were a person does TOA a person that was not always so religious and now became more religious we can not ask him or her about what happened in the earlier days so tell me when you used to go out and eat ham was that good is that all they cracked up to be or wasn't so good no no no no you have to be very careful how you use your mouth that person that can guard their mouth they save themselves from a lot of trouble they save cells from difficult times so all of these things we have to try always to be careful not to say the wrong thing a person even if it will hurt sometimes never to say something that is embarrassing never to say something that may make a person feel uncomfortable in any way there is a a very fascinating den and that is that if you make somebody uh if you could make somebody feel bad it is sometimes the D that you can tell instead you cannot tell you don't have to tell the truth you don't have to say the truth if it's going to make somebody else feel bad you can change it a little bit don't forget Abraham ainu changed it around a little bit in order to protect saru he didn't want she should feel bad so he changed it around just a little bit m Shalom you are allowed to change the words around not to get upset can I give you an example I give you an example maybe it makes it a little easier you have somebody who's a big capan kdan is like they're very insistant they have to have everything done exactly as they want it exactly on the time exactly this way folded that way caban father caban has to be exact he tells his son listen schlomo I want you should take in the cleaning I need it for Shabbat my suit I want you to take the cleaning in now take it now so it's ready by the Shabbat he tells him today's Tuesday Tuesday he says take him take it because I want it to be ready for Shabbat Sho says yes Father I will do it he's very nice schlomo goes out he's playing ball a big game important game you know the series whatever he completely forgets about the suit of Shabbat it's Friday he remembers whoa whoa whoa I forgot about it I forgot if my father knows that I forgot to take his suit in that it should be clean for Shabbat it will beb by it he hurries up he takes out the suit from the closet he runs like crazy down to the cleaners he goes in he starts to cry he said you got to do this suit in time for Shabbat or I'm in heavy trouble I'm going to be in deep water and the cleaner man he sees him and he says I better clean this thing it looks like a case of P NE it's a case of life or death I better take care of this thing right away so the guy does it he does a rush job the son goes he picks it up before the father gets home he he rushes back he puts it in the closet after he puts in the closet who comes home the father he says schlomo my son did you do what I asked you did you take it in schlomo should not say to him you know I didn't take it Tuesday cuz I completely forgot I just took it in this morning and by a miracle we got this thing right he couldn't answer the father he could say Aba don't I always do what you want in this way he watches his mouth he didn't make somebody feel bad on the other hand on the other hand he said it he was careful with his mouth exactly what he said the Torah says the more careful that we are with another person the more careful that Hashem is that nobody should be hurt the great meit rebi great melit rebi said the following if no Jew would ever harm another Jew in any way no one from the amim from the nations of the world would be able to touch us not to touch a hair on the head nobody if we will be careful in that I also saw from the Great rivit that says the power of our mouth will be the protection of Cl against our enemies and today in our times knowing what is happening in ER Isel knowing what's going on with all of the people in all of the North and the South and all over what could be better for a person than being careful with our mouth not to say anything particular at this time we also uh have in terms of our we have a very important uh very important thing that it is uh a custom when we come to the end of the amida when we come to the end of amid that we say our names or the which is reflective of our name uh the first letter of our name and the last letter of our name a pasuk that fits it many uh people have the minhag that they say it and what is the reason in order to remember our name on the Y after 120 years when we will be uh going into ganeden after 120 years we should all live long and be well in good health and happiness with plenty of with plenty of money and everything that we need for everybody so what happened I say the little I say the Little P of my name so that I do not forget my name on the Y on the day of judgment there is a question that is asked why do why does anyone think that they may forget their name on the day of judgment everyone knows the name everybody schlomo Miriam sham everybody got a name why would I they mention it a thousand times all the time everybody calls me right how would a person ever forget it very deep from is like this when a person says says something not nice about other person so something goes what happens at that time I thought to myself you know this guy I didn't like him I was in the Sho and I was going to do something and this guy stole the opportunity away from me and I got upset so I got home and I said you know that guy I want you to tell that guy y that yob you think he's a big sadik I can tell you he's not such a big sadik I tell you about it no no no no you can't do that why because if I'm going to speak about y what happens is the mitv that I do are going to go to yob all the everything I did all the charity all the all the nice things all helping people all the time I put Onin all the time I'm Shabbat it all goes over to yov all of it the a the sins that he did that I just spoke bad about that guy all the sins come to me G he stole I knew he was a thief he stole he came to me all the other things come to me he lied it came to me he didn't worry about the Shabbat it came to me all the a all the sins become me why because I said something bad on him he gets my mitv I get his a my name is not yov that's his name my name oh no my name is different my name is Ru so after 120 years the God goes up to sh Ru he's the guy that now is walking around with a so when he comes up to sh all the malim all the Angels begin to say oh yov yov how are you no no no my name is Ru y nice to have you y no no no no my name is Ru please please oh boy oh you are yov we see that you yov and they begin to go back and forth finally it comes to be he doesn't know who he isov in order not to forget our name in the Y we say the at the end of the amid that is how careful a person has to be only to say the right things now I'll give to you another uh example of this always to say good uh you're going out on a date sa forence of person's going out on an outing don't say before you going out oh you know what this is never going to work out he ain't going to say yes she's not going to say yes you go out you say be everything will be good you have to take an exam be everything is going to work out I'm going to get a a even if I didn't study at all whatever H you know hasem will make a miracle for me okay nce I'm going into a business deal and they already called me up and said they ain't going to do the deal they're not interested in what I have so before I leave I tell the people in the house I don't even know why I'm going this thing ain't going to work anyhow shom when a person goes they should say I will be in the name of hasem I will do it and I will be successful no matter what when you write on the paper before you begin a letter before you begin application you write with the help of hem that's the way that you go into something then it could be that you win the business still then it could be that you be and you will pass the test then it will be you go out on the date you go on the outing and you will have a beautiful that's the way that a person should go in this world one other thing it is very important that a person should remember to say right now I'm going to do a a test in school be with hashem's help I'm right now going I want to be successful in this business still or in an interview right now I'm going to try to talk to a person to negotiate something beem everything with hashem's help this is a very curious incident that happened and it happened with the great sadik of satmar the great sadik satar happened there was a young man the young man was married for a few years years and he was not to have a child his father is AED of the great rebi of satma he tells he tells his son I want to take you the son said Papa I'm not you you go me I'm not Aid the father said why you have against it he's big man he's big sadik you go you get what do you care the sun begins to argue back finally the sun says okay pop I'll go I'll go I'll go with you they both go to the great Rob of satmar rabenu yoel they both are seated at the table and the father begins to introduce the son and says that the son has something he wants to tell the rabbi he tells the rabbi Rabbi he has been married for years he does not have a son he does not have a child does not have a daughter the rabbi for some reason began to close his eyes it looked like he fell asleep it looked like he fell asleep you can never tell it's not for us to judge the great Rabbi is sitting there his eyes are closed he's looking down 10 minutes pass 15 minutes pass he doesn't wake up finally it's a half an hour a half an hour they're sitting watching the robs sleeping the son said pop how long I got to stay here I mean do we want to stay the whole night and watch him sleep what are you doing does f father said wait don't leave don't leave you we don't know what this means we don't know what's going on anyhow came to be 15 more minutes 45 minutes the sun had it up till here his patience were gone he picks himself up and he says I'm sorry my father but I'm going to go he left 10 minutes later the great Rob of atar wakes up when he's still coming out of whatever he was in he lifts up his hand and he says to the father because only the father was there you should have a son so the father n months later has a son the father who right now is in his upper 60s the sun didn't have the power of the braa the power of a person that uses their mouth in the correct way the truth is that even when a person is praying even when a person says the amida all of us we pray every day when we say the amida we should be very careful because we always say before we start Hashem shall open our mouths and our uh we should declare the praise to Hashem meaning that sometimes we need a little bit of a before we even start that my prayer should be a good prayer Hashem help me that my mouth should have a CO and when I say something it's going to happen I will tell you an incident I there is so much that I would like to say I live near Avenue J in Flatbush I live the Avenue J so I'm walking down I often I'm walking on that street there are a lot of stores I'm walking down a woman comes over to me and she says you RAB goas I said yes can you give me a broa I said what would you like a broa for the woman says I don't have children can you give me a broa for children I said B you should have a child I gave her the braa and I left couple weeks later I'm walking down the same street on Avenue J out of nowhere she comes again can you please give me a braa for a child as if she never said anything I said to her you're great person may Hashem bless you with a child you should be a happy mother she said this repeated two more times the last time she asked me she began crying when she asked it's one thing a person asks you it's another thing a person begins to cry I said to her you should have not only one child but you should have two children you should have four children B Sons and Daughters your house should be full she said amen she wiped away the tears I took down her name I said I will be mpal for you I will pray about a year later I get a call R goldwaser we would like you to be the sand de I had twins [Music] two boys we would like you to be the sand de in the tamut Torah sh in Flatbush it was my biggest Z and then I began to watch when the parents would be so wonderful when I would pass by sometimes they would see me they would run out from their apartment to show me the boys little toddlers as they were growing person may know what could I say I could have told the person who Am I who am I to give AA what you want from me uh you know you asked me that three times already so I'm going to tell you fourth time uh you know uh no Hashem says bless CLA Israel use the power that you have in your mouth to be able to bless others and to give them the have the great branim do you know that when rinberg in Arab Isel used to come to America so in not every place so they do do theim bless every day so he used to go specifically to that Sho where they have bat Kim because the great R shinberg wanted the kohanim to bless him and he would go every day to that show no other sh only the sh that they had the co that would give the that is the power of the blessing that is the power that we all have in this world have a power and we also have a power we have five minutes five minutes okay I got to I got to and I if I could I talk all night this is such a beautiful and it's got such character to it such I love that the name AK is in the middle I love it because there isn't a more important name a more name that a could have than this it it is great she should be for the whole for her family and B she should have I will just to finish off a person can never tell how we affect another individual if you'll take a look all of those things that we say in uh Al when when a person begins to say Vio for the whole year look count how many things have to do with speech with something I may not have said in the correct way speech has a lot to it when we finish everyone tell me what is the last day of the whole the last day the final seal the final decree anybody the last thing that we do we take the and we beat it what is the willow what is the willow everyone will tell you it's the lips it's the lips the willow it looks like the lips if you see it the lips why the lips because we say to Hashem we know that the key to for the year the key to the key to the key to the key to all the blessings in the world is with the lips Hashem I'm taking this right now and I'm taking it and hitting it please hem and that's everything my lips anything that I need a kapar anything I need to have atonement for for Hashem please be help me the very last thing not anything else not I stole something not I didn't keep the Shabbat not I didn't do this or that or I forgot to say or I didn't where to none of that none of that none of that I even forgot to light Shabbat candles none of that what is the last thing that I say before Hashem is going to make the seal it is only one thing it is my lip Hashem help me that anything I didn't say right it should be right I should have kapar I should have proper and so there was in ER is a man aid from slum from slum and also in this particular case he never had a child years and years went by married 32 years he is now 54 54 years old at 54 years old he felt pretty bad no child he went everywhere anywhere in the world all the sikim he went all he went to all the doctors he came to America he came to New York the finest doctors he went to see Specialists here and there no matter where he went nothing worked nothing worked finally the doctor sent them home he was in America for treatments with his wife the doctor sent them home and said forget about it I am done you are finished we have tried the greatest treatments there is no way that you are going to have a child forget it do something else put your energies into other areas it's finished sorry he goes home he cries and cries and cries he can't get over it because all the years he kept trying he went to a different reab he went to a different thing he went over here he tried this he tried that he tried everywhere nothing help nothing he tried every doctor nothing helped now he's at the end of the rad he goes home and he and his wife in separate corners of the room they break down and cried Hashem puts in a thought to our minds that could come from nowhere a thought could come into our mind how to help ourselves how to be saved how to get blessing all of a sudden that mind can start thinking AEM interjects a thought hashem's thought will come and save us out out of nowhere this man remembers when he was a young B in the B midash learning in the ISA he remembers something that happened he was very studious always with the Tam learning late at night he was the most serious of everybody ER very very genuine genuine one day the fellow students came to him the said listen there is a Jewish cleaning lady she comes to clean up the Yesa every Friday she makes it nice for Shabbat she cleans it she dusts it off she washes the table she does everything however she brings her children she brings her little boys they make noise when we are here trying to learn on Friday and Friday after afternoon and the boys are there and they're there and they hit the chairs and they bang the table sometimes and they make all kinds of Noise We can't take it it is mafa it disturbs our Torah learning you they say to this man you are a person that everybody respects you're a person that will know how to do it in a diplomatic way to say the right words we would like you to approach the clean meaning lady and tell her very nicely that her boys are disturbing the learning and that she should not bring the children to the Yeshiva he said I don't want to it's not my way they said to him you have to you're the only one that she may listen to t you got to do it it was against his better judgment he decided he'll do it that Friday afternoon he goes to her and he tells her I'm very sorry you clean beautifully you make the sh the ISA in honor of the Shabbat it is outstanding it's stunning the only thing is you bring your kids they make a lot of noise and it disturbs the CH the B from learning right away her face fell she said I bless you you should never have you should never have any trouble from children when children grow up everybody has a little there's some tears there's some UPS said she said I bless you you should never know now it came back to this man 54 years old who saw that there is no hope and began to think for the first time of what happened so many years ago in Yeshiva right then and there he calls the Yeshiva finally he was able to get through to one of the principles he says the principal I must get in touch with that cleaning lady the principal said I'm sorry uh she retired about 5 years ago and we don't know where she's at but she don't work here anymore well who can I find out from he came to the ISA they went they researched it finally they found where she lives he ran to her house he knocked on the door she answers the door she's still living she says could I help you he said I don't know if you remember me but many many years years ago you used to clean the ISA and I came to you one Friday and I told you about the children making noise and you said to me I bless you should never have she said that's correct he said I'm asking M I ask you forgiveness I ask you please find it in your heart to let this go I will do anything for you but he said never was to have children she said okay I Mo you I am sh with a complete heart I bless you with children a year later they had children a year later they were able in the great sh in ER Isel of slan to make a kidush at which everybody was uh invited a person has to be careful how we use our mouth what we use our mouth for we should all be to Great blessings to great success to a tremendous amount of Satay great help for Hashem in all that we do and thank you you