The Tragic ''All or Nothing'' Misconception - Rabbi Efraim Stauber

[Music] okay so continuing our discussion of our relationship with chuhwa the next thing we have to talk about is the simple mistakes we make the misconceptions we have about sugar and some of them are tragic because they're so simple to fix we just don't really know what it is and perhaps the most important thing to share with people is this truth from the muppet because probably what stops you from doing it - sugar most of the time is that we don't think we can we think we're not gonna keep it up you know imagine if Eliyahu Hanavi came to you today and he said if you did to shove it now you will succeed I promise you I guarantee it you started into sugar we'll just go higher and higher and higher so who wouldn't jump on the chance then it's only because I don't really believe it's gonna happen it's just a mistake and listen to whether my bit tells us this is a public service announcement to the Jewish people they reached on the my bit in his safer char kuba chapter 12 says the following - Shiva is different than other mitzvahs other for example sits us you've got to put sits it's on all four corners of your garment right well what if you only puts it is on three of those corners it didn't do it not only that it's actually a very cuz you shouldn't have been wearing those four corners in the first place if you're not gonna put sits on circus comes you got your low love you've got your asterik you've got your heads awesome yay no robbers mmm no good nothing you haven't done the MIT so you make a broker a brothel about our the mob it says uber is different than that partial chuhwa is chuhwa even though Chuba really has three components everybody knows kurata you gotta have regret for what you've done you also have to leave a circle at the Kabala lost it you've got to let it go you've got to promise never to do it again obviously that's part of Cuba and you have to have video you've got to speak to God tell him I did these things I'm sorry for them I won't do them again and ain't sugar pockets Michele Shaila their opinion it says it's not true but without these three things that's what real true ver is but in my bit tells us even though it's not real true ver without all three but you did part of Juba it counts it's not my octave each part doesn't make the other parts not count and this just permission its permission to start because you know what will not give your fridge it's like I can't do it I'm gonna fail no because even if you just have Hirata and you don't think you're ready to make a commitment because you're not your heart that still counts every Victor Miller talks about this idea and his inimitable way he just gives most awesome illustration imagine you smoked yeah two packs of cigarettes a day okay so you're smoking 40 cigarettes ah man I gotta stop smoking it's killing me right so aha but I can't how am I gonna stop smoking 40 cigarettes so everybody comes over and says hey why don't you stop smoking one of those cigarette smoke thirty-nine cigarettes sitting what good is that I'm still smoking thirty-nine cigarettes I mean I'm not really stopping to smoke right no but if you stopped smoking one of those cigarettes it's 39 better than 40 well no well obviously technically yeah but it doesn't make me feel like I'm doing anything that's just it it's not about how you feel guys a little bit of chew bar is a step in the right direction that that counts I think the Miller says it even more it was actually kind of easy to stop that forward your cigarette what's the B little smoke thirty-nine cigarettes just stop one can't even do that of course you can so when you come to do chuva what jet God means so little to you that you can't even do a tiny tiny little bit it's either all or nothing it's like you're such a bold guy for all you so is it all about you if you can't do a perfect job you're not gonna do it at all just get get off that high horse a little bit more humble it's not about that it's not about me being a great person it's about that I am insulting God every day he gives me everything I have health family all the things I mean I love I spit at him I don't pay attention to my ignore him I don't pray to him a little bit show him something so little at least a part that's easy jump into that so this is just the public service announcements from them up bid that even partial Trueba is very very meaningful it's come join us in the spiritual you teshuva kabura send your e-mail to the terrace enter gmail.com where we're really jumping into Shula [Music] you [Applause]