The Secret to Success No One Teaches You - Rabbi Bentzion Shafier

[music] >> Mesillas describes life a fever pitched battle [music] every stage every setting with the wealth poverty health disease it's all an opportunity to grow all a test [music] but it's a battle and many people fail because they don't know how to count I explain to you what I mean want to imagine a professional baseball player making millions of dollars world famous at the top of his game and you get to watch him you see him at bat and the first time at bat in the game he strikes out the bush of embarrassment oh my goodness he gets up again second inning >> [music] >> again strikes out oh my goodness third inning the same thing he struck out three times in a row he gets up fourth time at bat he actually hits a single not a home run a single he's on base [music] he gets up the next time and he hits a double and the game's over you'd imagine this man is crushed he's at bat five times and three of those five times he struck out he only got on base twice he's a loser they'll probably cut him right off the roster and then you watch as he walks into the locker room and one of his buddies says wow great game amazing hitting another friend says yeah that batting average is going to really go up there so he says what kind of business he struck out three out of five times until you realize how they count the game in professional baseball if you're batting 300 you're top delete athlete batting 400 it's mythical but that means you're batting 300 that means out of 10 times at bat you're going to strike out pop out or foul out seven times seven out of 10 times you fail and that's a multi-millionaire professional who's on the top of his game in the past 80 years not a single player and batted 400 across the season that means no [music] one the best of the best do not manage to succeed in getting on base more than four out of 10 times and I believe there's a great principle for [music] life you're going to face any test in life that's a real test and I'm saying and you win three out of 10 times you're doing very very well but don't tell me I won every fight I've lost what's with me I'm a loser but you have to know how to count if you actually won three out of 10 you're doing phenomenal but you're not going to win every battle you're not going to win every fight and you have to understand how the game is played and how it's counted when you understand that any real test you're going to win some you're going to lose some and if you're batting three out of [music] 10 you have to know how to count your victories I won today I may have failed yesterday I may fail [music] tomorrow but today I won I count my victories I'm happy and it may be that I'll fail again but that's how I'm going to get back in the game that's how you grow that's how you accomplish in life that's what Hashem wants from us >> [music]