The Process of Outreach - Rabbi Zev Leff

[Music] you are all here I assume because you want to be involved in Kirov in some way but there are conditions how that's possible as by Blum hinted to at the end that or la Gola was created to give one the tools to be able to be a person who's involved in Kirov the Mishnah gives certain other conditions that have to be fulfilled before you can be mckerrod of people hill along Mir heavy meat a meat of shall our own oh hey Shalom the road they've Shalom Oh Ava Saab Rios and only after all of that the Corvin littoral and then you could be McCarthy first you have to be a town meat of ro you have to be a no wave Shalom and a road they've solemn and a no Ava sub Rios thought it would be a good idea to explain what those conditions are in order they should be able to fulfill the end of that mission of McCarville atoll Oh also why do you have to be a talmud of our own Hillel just sort of said you should be always Shalom and road they saw them and Oh Eva sub Rios and then you can McAra people at solar why do you have to be a town to develop now the answer is that there are many ways of being a knowing Shalom in a row they've Shalom and in Oh Ava sub Rios but you need to be a town bit of our and to know how to do those things properly and how to approach them properly because all of those things can be distorted our own was a Cohen goggle now Cohen Gordon could have been called Cohen Hiroshi Cohen Hiroshi why Cohen God Aaron was over to the title god--all Moshe Rabbeinu also resulted to the title of goggle how many blood Gomorrah do you have to learn to be called the gaga in the world we live in today all you have to do is be my Mitzvah and then you're really a god I always like to say at the bris we say Zahra cotton got a year by the bar mitzvah I think we should say Sarah gado-gado yeaa but what do you need to be called the god oh the Torah tells us specifically why Moshe Rabbeinu was called the god Oh toda says biiig Delta Y Ella Moshe grew and the next plastic says biiig down motion the first one he grew physically the second one he grew and was fit to be called an autumn God Oh what gave him that privilege by age sale F of a Yaris of Lhasa and Rashi says no Sun Ain of the libo Leo's mates are they him when moshe rabbeinu was no saber all he was able to empathize much more than that also with cloudy swell then he became a god irenna Cohen Cohen God Allah my sir feels that he is part and parcel of every Jew and therefore he can go into the codis a Kadosh iam and Yom Kippur and represent every single joke he could be miss vada on the serie Lazar zel as a representative of all the cloudy slope that's a goggle why why is that designation no son aina of the libo Leo's mates rally him why does that make you a god with swimming scope that's all in the akadama - sorry yo she asked the following question on the one hand the Torah says that a person has to worry about himself not only worry about himself but self concern is the paramount concern a person has to have you always come first if you have an animal that's running away and you're a being has an animal that's running away and your father has an animal running away and you can only save one of them you save your own that's of awful it's a question between your Rebbe and your father and your taking care of then there's Silas but if you're you come first you have money and you need it and there are other people who need it you come first f is slow yeah but whoever young you have a canteen of water and if you drink it you'll get through the desert and survive if you give it to your friend he'll get through the desert and survive you share it both of you will die in the desert what's the halacha you take it kaya cacodemon you come first so self concern is a very legitimate concern according to the Torah and yet we have a responsibility to be concerned about others - so how do we resolve the conflict between self concern and soul and concern about others big conflict says women it depends how you look at other people if you look at yourself that's you and everybody else that's someone else that's a big conflict but there are some people who are bigger than that and they consider their spouse part and parcel of themselves East okay gufo bowed to East Oh mommy's one as they say that revoir you Lavigne once took his wife to the doctor she had some kind of pain in her leg the doctor a severity what is the problem he said my wife's leg hurts us that's a person who feels that his spouse is mom is part of him so when he's concerned about his spouse or her spouse who's not concerned about someone else he's concerned about himself that's self concern except his concerns for two bodies that make up himself some people are bigger than that and they understand their children pro broker ah davu all their children are extension of them so when they're concerned about their children they're concerned about themselves except now themselves is a lot of bodies some people understand that their entire extended family is part of them uncles aunts cousins that's me oh boo sorry Otto so when they're concerned about their family they're concerned about themselves and some people understand their entire neighborhood their entire city entire country the entire cloud Israel are also part of them so then there's no conflict between self concern and concern for others it's also concerned then the problem is only the priority of which part of me now I have to prioritize and if that sounds like semantics still me or those other people it's not the solution rim ask the following question Yaakov Aveeno wants to find a stone to rest his head on and twelve stones are arguing or lie or near side the kiss Rochelle so what is the rebels from doing makes an ace and he uses all the stones together says a fiduciary what did that solve the problem Yaakov Oh avi nose head didn't get any bigger and the stones didn't get any smaller so you now you have one gigantic stone that's twelve times the size of Yaakov head his head is only gonna be on one twelfth of the stone why aren't the different parts of the stone arguing on which part is Yaakov gonna put his head says if you share in as long as they were separate stones it made a difference but once it's one unified stone whether it's on this part of the stone or that part of the stone made no difference anymore when you consider other people other people and me is me from my head to my toes and that's it then is a very big conflict between me or them but when it's all me it's just different parts of me then the conflict becomes very very much minimal so that is a goggle a goggle is someone who encompasses all of cloud Israel or of the world and a very small person a cotton as a person who only considers himself part of himself and everybody else is somebody else out there Jimin says that's the meaning of another mission of that Hillel said it may not Neely Miele if I don't worry about myself who's gonna worry about myself I have to have self concern but Keyshia Neely asks me when my Ani is just little me from my head to my toes more Ani that's not my anemia Maya knee has to encompass everyone and then I have to really be concerned about me but me is all of cloudy so I think there's a hint in the world Ani itself to this idea a knee is comprised of three letters Aleph and known and Hewett The Aleph represents the individual the iord represents a minion at Seaboard everybody else the community how do you take the individual and the community and unite them into your Ani with an odin the known represents Tammy samsara bina and commission sorry Tara like Rashi says in order to be that god o who feels that someone else's mom is part of them you need a novel ebook you need eyes you need brains you need Satan if all you have is emotion then you may feel other people's needs but you may not understand what they are and you may distort them so you need more than just a lathe you need a Naima we need eyes you need Satan to know how to take care of other people's needs and what their needs really are but if you only have eyes and only have seho then you'll write studies about poverty and about kirov but you'll never get involved because you don't have a heart because you don't feel anything so in order to be that real gagal you have to have a nyam and a lathe seho and reggae and emotion those are the fifty gates of bina and the fifty gates of Tahari if you have that none then you can combine the olive of the individual and the yard of the Seaboard and make that your Annie that is an autumn goggle that is Aaron Cohen goggle that is Moshe Daniel who's an autumn goggle first you have to be a town made of iron before you can start with Owens although man rode the Salomon Tauber sub Rios because first you need a safe home and first you need to feel heart wiesen connected to other people and say too wise to know how to be connected to other P and then you can start the process that ends in McCarville atolan what is that process first thing is oh hey so love peace that doesn't mean that you love sitting in a lounge chair sipping your lemonade and having a peaceful serene time that's not what show them is that's not going to lead you to do anything surely not be makar of other people so what does it mean Oh have shovel joy peace serenity it's not what solemn means Shalom means lame-o's perfection you love the concept of perfection you're put in this world to reach as much perfection as you can to be like the rabona solola and you love you have a connection love means a connection to something you have a tremendous connection and a desire for salimos now what is flameless flameless is not the domain of any individual flameless is a group effort there is nothing in this world only I caught his Baraka was perfect everything else in this world is imperfect and in order to reach perfection needs to have a group effort with other things and it's on all levels the most simple physical level thus far now says that the first six days of creation the rabona some looked at what he made and he said is good they are eloheem quito on friday after he finished everything he gave it one look and it says Vienna Loki Mascola sure also that he made Tove my oak I caught his birth who saw all the things that he created and they were very good says this for know what transformed all these many good things into something very good there's a lot of good things now is it very good to illustrate what the Swarna says give you an example take an automobile and break it down into its components what I live they do that often so now you have all the parts of an automobile strewn out on your lawn you have tires you have a gas tank you have spark plugs you have a horn you have the seats each one has a function you can use the seats as furniture you can use the spark plugs to make a fire you can use the gas tank to store liquids use the horn for a musical instrument it's all good it all has a function but when you put them all together and they create a functioning automobile that's very good the automobile is better than the sum of its parts so to says this floor know when each thing was created in itself was good but when it all was put together to be a functioning universe that's very good so perfection can only be reached to be like the rabona saw was perfect with a group effort know one thing in this world can ever be perfect has to be a group effort in order to reach perfection that's on the physical level social level if everybody in this world would be doctors we'd have a very healthy world but who would take out the garbage and if everybody were garbage men we'd have a very clean world but who would yield the sick so in order for the world to be as perfect as possible you need all the various occupations and each one contributes his unique part towards the common good and that's how the world reaches perfection but it doesn't end on the physical and social level it also applies the spiritual level too we pride ourselves that we received the Torah with 605 teen missus perfection is being mcian 613 mitzvahs there's no one in this world who could ever fulfill 613 mistress not cuz it's too hard it's impossible because there are certain niches that are only for Kohanim so if you're not a co ain't forget it you're out of the out of the race okay so you'll tell me Kohanim have 630 mistress no there's certain niches that are only for non Kohanim if you're a co and you'll never fulfill the mitzvot padena been as a father you're exempt from it so Cohanim have niches that no non cohen has and non Kohanim that missus that no cohen has men have mitzvahs that no woman could ever do no matter what kind of feminist she is or whatever their missus are impossible for a woman to do she can rap fill-in on her head she can sing to her kiss kiss out on Rosh Chodesh but they're certain misses are impossible for a woman to do and there are certain mitzvahs that are impossible for a man to do in my lifetime I'm hoping that no man will ever bring the sacrifice after childbirth it is a woman's Mitzvah so unless you are a man woman cohan LaVey Israel all wrapped into one which under normal circumstances was not possible today may be possible you can't have 613 mixes so what is this myth of 613 mitzvot the answer is we didn't receive the Torah as individuals we received the Torah kaisha quod believe effort as a conglomerate called Claudius wealth and cloud Israel has 613 mitzvot see some have this part some have this part together we have 613 mitzvot see that slings that's perfection on all levels physical social spiritual and the truth is that's what we say when we greet each other Shalom Aleichem my alaikum solemn we're using God's name God's name his solemn because he is the ultimate lameness and this was instituted to use God's name when greeting someone by boas and his basely Boas greeted his his harvesters and he said to them Hashem me ma femme and they answered you heretic wash em so why they salaam alaikum alaikum Salaam what does it mean and the morale says that somebody who initiates that greeting of Salaam alaikum is a sign of tremendous humility what's the humility but when you say to someone Shalom alaikum you're saying the following my flameless and my connection to the rabbinical olam which is my connection to perfection depends on you I can't do it myself Shalom my perfection is all a them depends on you now if the other person would answer Shalom Aleichem just like pingpong no no my perfection depends on you and just bantering it back and forth so the second person says you're right you're perfection depends on me but I'll later my Shalom but my perfection also depends on you I accept what you're saying not throwing it back at you but I'm reciprocating by the fact that my perfection also depends on you when was this instituted in the time of Boas when the safer and Northey says ISA Austra the aim of Yasha and those generations everybody did what was good in their own eyes if it's good for me that's enough to be good and Baz wanted people to know you can't only concern yourself about yourself but your perfection depends on other and if it's not good for someone else maybe that's not good for you either so you can't do si your serve there ain't enough you have to be able to take other people in consideration because your perfection depends on them also so first you have to be an OU have sulla before you can get involved in ki Ruth you have to learn from our and a co hang how to be an O if Sheldon what it means to love peace not to love being peaceful and serene it means you love perfection and you want to seek perfection for yourself and for others because you're an awesome goggle like the Cowan goggle that you're perfection depends on others too and if others are incomplete that you're incomplete and then there's a second condition road they've show them now the two meanings I think to road they show them one is you can be an O have solemn I really love the concept of perfection right huh Buddha's about it and I'd really understand it in all of its depth but it's only theoretical your described is not theoretical it's the mices if you're an oxo um you have to be a row they've saw them pursue it do something Marisa Shiva of gift of that self said in this week's Edra the daughters of sloth claude come with a good time they want to inherit their father's not law since there are no sons before Moshe a bane or before the republished along answers their question ha logically he says a preface Cain Binoche love Kedavra they're saying something substantial there's Shiva learned from that that if somebody does something good you just can't stand on the sidelines and say great you have to get involved give me some strength give my yashuko I came below slavka Dobros be involved I always say that's trapping the Gemara the Gemara says I'm the hand of my shoe that's awesome the ænima somehow over bhai colas I'd like to understand that in the following way a person's in the hen Ebisu the song I like now marriage a great idea great institution and the henna misoo disgusting I like the idea of marriage so fine then do something about it you have a chance to be mr. mayor this customer Carla so we must cement them get involved don't make it theoretical it's a nice idea fine so do something strengthen them but on the hand amiss to discuss and you like the idea they ain't no Masako but you don't get involved so you're over bhai colos you're basically ignoring the purpose of why that institution exists because you're not getting involved personally so therefore you can't just be an oh hey viola you have to also be a road names other you have to pursue it practically do something about it if you like the idea don't sit back and just pontificate about it do something there's another idea though of oh hey solemn and rotational the force of mass the word roll Dave usually is pursuing somebody to hurt them to chase them away to get rid of them that's a roving so what's the road Dave Charlotte sometimes being peaceful is not going to bring perfection to the world ain't Shalamar our family destroy wicked people who want to destroy the perfection of the world strengthening them and being at peace with them is not solemn it's the opposite of Charlotte Neville Chamberlain want there to be a peacemaker now enabled Hitler to do what he did had he not been such a great peacemaker and made pieces of Adolf Hitler that maybe the world be a better place so sometimes you can't just be an oh hey Shalom to really love perfection sometimes you have to be a road they show them you have to pursue it to destroy it where you have to make my locus and you have to pursue people who would want to destroy the perfection of the world if that sounds very radical give you two mashaallah very relevant to this week cetera but let's start with governor Miller Zaventem LF was told by Nasim Hanavi that he could not build the base of make dos because his hands were bloodied with all the wars that he made but hemella who was a man of peace as his name represents no wars he never fought any battles he could build the base of Nick - which is a house of peace yet the Madras is just the opposite the Madras says duh Vuitton LF I can't let you build the base I make duster because if you build the base of meekness it'll be eternal and I can't at this point in history have an eternal base on meekness I have to have the option that if cloudy else in I can destroy the base of meekness in place of destroying them Safa cars so elites in Bhavani but if you build it it's going to be eternal I won't have that option I have to destroy the Jewish people so at this point in history we can't have a eternal day selectors but your son he'll be to build the base a minister can be destroyed so we'll let him build it I seems from the sukham that Governor Mellott couldn't build it cuz he was negative he had his hands full of blood now whose blood was on the hands of Governor LF the blood of a saw him he destroyed to show him he brought perfection to the world that kind of perfection is an aggressive perfection that kind of perfection can build a eternal day some ignition Shalom AHA Mellinger said a passive perfection he never had any wars that kind of passive perfection can't build an eternal they some ignition so peace it's not necessarily sitting by and let everybody live and let live do your own thing that's not piece that's copping out on your responsibility in this world another example this week said pin has been a loss of an ironic owain hey Shiva sama Steve Albini Israel Lehane mr Hina Nino sing la Brisa Shalom what does Pincus get as his reward breezy Shalom why cuz he was such a peaceful person right who murdered two people right and and held their body like on a spit well he was such a peaceful person who's been to us so he gets the the oath covered of so low that that fella because if pin Haas didn't do what he did then the Jewish people could have been destroyed it would have been the opposite of perfection by destroying these to restore him by standing up for what was right pin has brought perfection to the Jewish people and he was blessed with breezy Salah eternal soul therefore sometimes for the sake of perfection sometimes you have to chase away some people you can't be the nice guy right and let everybody do whatever they want to do if you want the Torah to be like this fine we'll make it like this you want the total to be like that we'll make it like that and unfortunately there are people in Kiev who think their purpose is to reform the tolerable they're not performed Jews they call themselves Orthodox Jews - shiva said he's not an Orthodox Jew he's a Torah observant Jew Orthodox is a word that comes from the Greek the Greeks were not necessarily Orthodox Jews so people who claim to be Orthodox but use method they think that they're helping cloud Israel by permitting people to do things that are totally not sanctioned by the Torah or by the rabona shel Olam and they're fixing up the world they are being micariff cloud Israel it's easy to Makai repeatly thumb do whatever you want to do the kind of people tell them they have to keep mitzvahs and they have to keep the mistress the way their bones from wants to the keep not the way they want to keep them so that's very difficult it's hard to get people to change their ways but they're not to change their ways you be what you want to be if that's the Torah will make the Torah fit you that's not Shalom that's the opposite of shorter so sometimes you have to be a road they show them you have to know when it's impossible I'm not the arbiter of the Torah I don't have the right to make my own decisions of what Torah is and therefore sometimes I have to throw up my hands and say like a doctor says sometimes I can't cure the patient dr. Lisa some doctors at least admit that sometimes they're not all-powerful there's things they can't do that's the way the world is in the spiritual world is the same thing sometimes a person has to say I would love to be matter the Saguna I would love to help this person but I can't according to the rules that rabona some gave just like the same rules their bones from gave in nature I'm helpless I can't change the rules I can't change the way the laws of nature either so sometimes you have to be not only an om Shalom you have to be a road they've showed them to with one condition that you always have to have the desire to do it even though sometimes you can't by Yaakov Aveeno it says that he was punished that his daughter was attacked by shrimp because Lamaze Marielle hazard because he refused let Dina marry Asaph he hid her away for fear that ASA would see her and want to marry her and maybe she would be my fear and her uncle and turned him into about Shova ki Ruth the obvious question is that's how he makes you do him you have a daughter fine Bais Yaakov girl right and she really has power of persuasion and cue she's great kirov person so you want to marry her off she go to the tel-aviv bus station find some guy who's drugged up drunk a bomb on the street kick him and tell him listen I got a great girl for you maybe she'll turn you into some Sadiq it's absurd what was a tiny on Yaakov Aveeno says the outlet from Slovakia Yaakov Aveeno had to hide away his daughter he couldn't take the risk of maybe ace of the Mafia and little Dina instead of Dina being must be at Uncle ASA but when he knocked the nails in the box he did it with a little too much gusto he should have been crying I wish I could be my SPEA and my brother I wish I could take the risk but I'm not allowed to but the desire is there that's how a person has to be I wish I could be Makar of the whole world I wish I could help this person who has a very serious a logic problem but I can't change the total but I feel bad that I can't somebody once told me rabbi uri from los angeles sacred sadiq live Rafa told me a story of Shimon Schwab learned in the mirror and he came from Germany so every once a year he went home Pesach time and he was preparing that was Pesach was coming and review from the Messiah had mere notice that regime in Schwab wasn't getting ready to leave she went over sarn't you going home for Pesach you haven't been home for a year he said I would love to my parents were supposed to send me money for the trip and it never Kame so Bureau so what's the problem I loaned you the money and when you come back you'll pay me back she gave him the money he went home he came back paid back the loan and when he paid back the loan he said thank you ready bucum said what you can't say thank you ribbit tsavorite alright you can't say thank you when you give back alone okay next year the same thing happened money didn't come and he had to go home so again he borrowed the money from Peru home but this time he learned his lesson and when he came back to give the back the money he didn't say thank you so Bureau who looked at him sternly and said where's my thank you she said Rep you understand last year I said thank you told me it's awesome and now I didn't say thank you and you want to know where the thank-you is he said yeah you're not allowed to say thank you but I should have seen that you wanted to but you were prevented too because the hidaka says you can't do it but at least you should wanted to say thank you so sometimes you have to want to do something even if it's impossible to do you can't do it feel bad a doctor feels bad that he can't cure a patient beyond his capabilities but he feels bad about it you know what the difference is when he'll be able to cure a patient he'll do it if he doesn't care he's very insensitive then even when you can't do it you won't do it so you have to want to change the world but you have to realize sometimes your hands are tied but you have to want to do it the toes of Russia shiver value mayor blocks that's out the Damara says the olam title shall all the moon reverse and my Brielle's person should always be social marabous in my Brielle's Rashi says there lies so skilled so nice for each to do when everybody wants he says you can't do that because sometimes this one wants this one this one something zealous you can't do what everybody wants he says it doesn't mean that you have to do what everybody wants sometimes you can't but it means that when somebody asks you for something your first initial reaction should be why not and then you have to think about it and see maybe there is a reason why not most people when somebody asks them for something they say why yes then they have to think about it see maybe yes they can do it so it last so stiff so knees for each is not necessarily have to do for everybody you have to want to that's your initial same thing you may not be able to make are of the world there are situations that you are not the ballet boss over your hands are tied but you have to at least want to and then Oh Ava sub reels you have to realize that your flameless depends on other people and you love all the creations because they're part of you says I've roma vino an emphasis there are super coram always bothered me he made a lot of converts should have said hundred for so Sasha Russell so the pav answer is when it comes to rupiahs everything is one but it's not true because he saw my going going doesn't have that actors of this dramas so I say her nefesh have two understandings and they're both true one is if you're looking only to change the multitudes you're not willing to get involved unless there's a lot of people involved you'll never be successful with anyone if you don't appreciate the importance of every individual then you won't be successful and if you appreciate the individual you'll be successful with a lot of individuals I've Roma V no honey fest it will be one person it was to die for him because that one person and slay must to me and that's the second shot her nephesh is not very efficient he wasn't perfecting them he was perfecting himself because the more imperfect people that are in the world the more imperfect I am so I'm concerned about my nefesh in order to have reached perfection I have to help other people reach perfection and I'm also concerned therefore about every individual it's not numbers that make the difference if numbers make a difference we are outnumbered by the Chinese how many times so numbers when it comes to cloud Israel though Atem me it makovan love me rube him it's not because in numbers of the repulsion shows us so that is the prescription you have to be me Tammy the fill our own you have to learn the tools you have to learn the right hash gothis you have to learn the right means by being a talmud of our own and then apply it to always solemn and road they've saw them and no waiver sub reels and then after all of that the carven latona then you can talk and really be Nakara people to the total and sometimes the key rule has to be very subtle you can't do it knock somebody over the head and think you're gonna make them throw them in two minutes because you're gonna tell them that if they don't they're gonna go to get hem them and you better change your ways or whatever that's not the way it'll be in care of people sometimes that's to be very subtle says that Noah didn't have children till he was 500 so no none of his children should be Bar Mitzvah those days but miss was a hundred that's when you became a bar mitzvah children shouldn't be Bar Mitzvah when the man the marble King why cuz if they would bearish or him they would be judged on their own they we destroy to be terrible for Noah and if they beat Siddiq him they'd have to build all those other tables though he's bothered me just because they're tsadikim why could they fit it to north Staver it wouldn't be bigger right why why would they have to build their own tapers but one of the reasons why Noah had to build the TAVR is because he couldn't go and give muscle to the generation they would have killed him they would have ignored him what Arrakis would assign the world's coming to an end the flood is coming they were left at him so what if no octo he built the TAVR in his backyard for a hundred and twenty years and people saw all he really meant it and they came to him and they said Noah what are you building over here just a little big big for your bathtub and he said this water around here said there was gonna be a lot of water if you guys don't approve it so he had a way of having a conversation with them and it started with a model that this guy really means it he's working 120 years building this boat he must really believe that this is gonna happen sometimes the hot spot is not what you say it's what you do what your personal example is it has to be very subtle and therefore if Noah children were of bar mitzvah age a hundred they'd have to build their own pavers to fulfill that Mitchell of Tohoku they'd have to do it personally not just Beyonce would know us so in your session if we take this seriously and you follow the prescription of Hillel Tom neither shall our own oh if solemn roving solo Oh Ava sub Rios and then the carvanha Torah then we'll see the day that will be very successful and Ellie are novel come the heikkila Volvo's are bonding the late Bogomolov awesome will come to the time when this period of the year will turn from availa s-- and sorrow to source on the symbol of the human toll in the narrow domain [Music] [Applause]