The #1 Marriage Killer - Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch

I was once asked on an interview what is the number one problem facing marriages today an answer is very simple I just reached into my pocket and pulled this out it's a smartphone do you know this is a number-one problem people have in my office when they come speak to me when I started counseling several years ago people didn't have cell phones then they had cell phones and they left them in their jacket pockets when they sat down a few years after that people would put their cell phones on the table in my office but recently I have to tell you an unbelievable story people actually hold on to their cell phone while they're talking to me in my office and they're actually looking at their messages they're checking their whatsapp they're checking their cell phone messages they're checking their Facebook messages this is indeed the number one problem most marriages are facing today people spend so much time on their smartphones I saw one study once that a person looks at their cell phone between a thousand and twelve hundred times a day how many times you actually turn to your spouse as much as you turn to your cell phone and we can understand why your cell phone provides for you almost anything you want instantaneously you want news turn to your cell phone you want to connect with somebody turn to your cell phone you want to go shopping turn to your cell phone you want to take a drive to a place if you're not sure if there's traffic or not you also turn to your cell phone so one of the most important things we have to do in relationships today is to learn to put down our cell phones there's no question about it that if we spend more time with one another our marriages would be that much better so I hope you turn what we call face time into real time I hope you're able to put down your phone turn to one another and I guarantee you a more happier marriage welcome to this new series in HIDA Brut called marriage matters my name is rabbi Daniel shomba and I'm a licensed Marriage and family therapist based in New York and around the world via Skype on this important series I will be answering your questions you have about marriage relationships dating parenting and about any issue during the family relationships but more than what I have to say I want to hear what you have to say so please email to this address and send in your questions and I'll try to answer as many questions on this new show