Step 1: Selecting Your Passionate Spiritual Goal - Rabbi Efraim Stauber

[Music] okay so we've already explained to the core the essence of how to change of how to do chuhwa which is to learn how to enjoy spirituality more than all the variables so that we want it the fingers I went out of order I wanted to tell you that first that you understand the basic principle of how you're going to change but there's actually chronologically speaking something you need to do first before you could obviously begin a dynamic rasberry nefesh you have to have your own personal your own unique chuva goal and this is something that actually surprisingly a lot of people just kind of skip and you're like okay I got it achoo uh so what's it going to be matters so much I need to change you know man now the danger right here is that there's a lot of low-hanging fruits what that means is there's a lot of like prepackaged caballes chuhwa initiatives that people offer to you like there's amazing people out there who apparently did true at some point got inspired and they took certain mitzvot specific niches and they made it them into empires and they developed them and now they have glossy literature that you could read and movies and videos to help you get inspired about them and of course that's fantastic the danger is it may not be your personal unique next step in your spiritual growth you know for example maximal fee I mean these people are absolutely amazing right what they've done right the hobbits crime Heritage Foundation what they're doing is amazing we're taking the Mitzvah of najara they're very Russian etc and other mitzvahs and they're just helping people get inspired about it and they're just educating the Jewish people and that is fantastic so you can say great what I'm gonna do is knock some of the feet maybe that's what you need to do but maybe not maybe your next step is something different I want to talk to you about how to figure out what it is that's uniquely something that you need to be working on besides my personal face I know main to breakfast you know the power of a mane it's like the next thing that has been discovered amazing it's fantastic inspirational wonderful amazing education Jewish people make it a main parties or not maybe that's not your next step in spiritual growth don't get bribed and don't get you know just pulled away by what's easy and say oh people are making it easy for me I'm just gonna jump right into that beam a cobble shop is 20 minutes early that's a great thing to do but is that your next step bake challah 40 days baked challah for 40 days at the cosa Wow amazing say say for tell them every day from words backwards and then my heart and do when you're standing on your head these are wonderful things the question is once again how do you know what to choose on what's the thing that I need what's my next step in about it's a sham and sugar and here is the first thing we have to realize we already spoke about this whenever earlier sure the thing to realize is people mistake the word chuhwa and when they think of tuba we think of stopping to send repenting we already explained that's not true the definition of the word Shuba means to return to God the my bit Tata said in his the beginning of his safer but Juba care of a lush m-may reclick I said of course that causes red hook cause this distance but Rupa means returning to God from that distance so of course stopping the sin is a necessary part of that process because sin causes distance but that's only the trees of the forest the actual forest itself the goal of Juba the meaning of the word is less sure to return to God so when you ask yourself so how do I teach over the first step is well what is chuhwa why do I want God do I want God and why do I want God what is spirituality mean to me that has to be an exciting positive goal if we're not exciting if we're not passionate about spirituality you know what where the chances really succeed anything that's difficult in the world if you're not passionate about it chances are you're not gonna succeed and guess what getting into the nitty-gritty of this evader that that's the kind of stuff that after a while where's he done so you made a Kabbalah and you decided I'm gonna help this organization package food for poor families for Shabbos and I'm gonna so great so at the time that you were inspired you did that and it was amazing you know what two months later you're not feeling the same inspiration anymore it's hard to keep it going the goal cannot be stopping to do the severa or starting to this Mitzvah the goal has to be why do you want spirituality what excites you about it so this is the first question that's involved and choose a spiritual goal and it's choosing they're finding out why am i passionate about spirituality and if you're not passionate about it if it's not something that you really really want it's not the goal for you hey maybe something good for somebody else or you should do it you know but making this the focus of your Chuba for a month unless it's something you're passionate about and you know what you're crazy for this thing that's not the right goal now I've got a whole chart to help you develop this idea and you can send me an email I'll be happy to send it to you of course free of charge but let me tell you a little bit of how it works one of the most useful questions that I found to ask in order to figure out why I want spirituality is which I've a rose keep knocking me down and now we're gonna pay attention to have a rose see once again we said the first thing is don't pay attention to where it's pay attention to what you watch over me to get in touch them yeah I know but the best way to figure out what is bothering me what I need to accomplish is well what pay it's like when you go to the doctor and trying to figure out what illness you have so he's gonna ask you well what hurts why is he asking you that is the doctor don't ask me water hurts you know that's just like a little symptom I want you to tell me I want you to diagnose the illness he says yeah I know but the only clues I have are your symptoms so talk to me about your symptoms you have a rash on your skin even though there are only those are superficial indications so those are not the essential thing but that's the only way I have a figuring out what the illness is so spiritual illness means that we're far from a sham but our symptoms what's can help us figure out what we're really looking for is which I Varys are bothering me right so I'm going to once again use the same example I used earlier that someone I was working with Chuba so this lady said well fathers here is the way she makes brockless or she forgets brockless just says them by rote and bothers her so great that's your symptom my question to her was what about that bothers you what do you care so you say wrong husband rose do you know you same time did you other stuff know what what buddy what do you care what part thinking about that she's like oh well you know what that means it means that I'm not a grateful person either I just I'm just enjoying life I'm participating away from but I'm not thinking a Shemp for it I'm just living on autopilot I'm really what she was getting into is she wants to live with more of a sense of connected a sense of aware more a sense of mindfulness of that richness of life world life really has to offer is the dress living life on autopilot Wow okay so now we had like this amazing spiritual goal her spiritual goal is to feel connected and live richly her symptom are the Broca's so the way we're developing the spiritual or spiritual goal is mindfulness and connected to Hashem the symptoms she's gonna be paying attention to as she works on this is what's happening to her Brooklands because of course if you get more healthy the symptoms will abate all by themselves so this is the first step choosing a spiritual obviously chronologically this has to come first getting passion and then there's a passion test yet the question is are you passionate about this goal and I asked her how would you feel if you accomplished this way of life were you're more connected oh sure how would you feel Wow amazing boom that's what you want you feel that inside that's something you get excited about you could you could dedicate a whole month to that kind of work and there's one more test B rent imagine Shabbos comes so we mentioned earlier Shabbos the time to sit back and enjoy your spiritual satisfaction spiritual growth you spiritual achievements that's why shop is the time of Manuka of rest it's a time to enjoy what you've already accomplished so would that work for you imagine Shabbos came and you achieved to some degree you know yeah perfect but to some degree you achieved more mindfulness more connection more richness in of Hashem in your life would you feel like you accomplished something so meaningful it would give you real pleasure you have a sense of arrival at your goal it was like wow yeah of course you passed the second test of pleasure now you know this is something you could be passionate about and this is something you can dedicate this month to so that's step one and it's actually going to tell you two more there's three steps one two three of the Trueba process the first step is choosing but ruber goal the next thing I want to tell you about is how to harness the power of the subconscious but we're going to call total immersion Chuba and then the third step is the dynamic Kuzma nephesh so send your email to the very center gmail.com join our chupacabra and stay tuned to the next clip while we tell you more about how to activate the power of your subconscious and make this a Total Immersion kind of shooter [Music] [Applause]