Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser - Soul Surfing: The Key to Life

i was born in los angeles i grew up in west l.a in brentwood i don't know if you guys know where that is at all you heard of barrington so i grew up north barrington uh my next door neighbors were all the stars you know i had john densmore the drums john tennis one of the drums john densmore of the excellent i was going to see who got it john densmore the doors lived next door dustin hoffman lived behind our house mel brooks's partner was on the other side of our house and they actually had a pending 70 000 lawsuit on the decibel noise coming out of our house because my brothers and i grew up in a home that our parents our parents were especially my father they were all about like like giving us as much possible freedom as they could ever give a person and that included financial freedom and there were absolutely no rules and they just let us go wild so we were like the boys that your parents wouldn't let you play with and i think i was voted in high school like most likely to be dead or in jail okay we we were wild wild wild kids and we had uh we had massive parties all the time i still to this day it's now i'm out of high school i don't even know how many years 25 30 years i still meet people who are at our parties who i've never met in my life but they're like your glazer whoa like i was at a party at your house and the funny thing is i haven't stopped i met someone in new york just now uh on over the sabbath like yesterday i met someone in new york who was at my sukkah party lap two weeks ago which is a full you know it's got like full strobe and black light psychedelic type things going on with uh it's got a very big sound system and keg beer and live band in my sukkah and this guy says he just thought it was some kind of dance party so he was in there dancing away and dancing hey he had no idea it was my sukkah at all he never like he never got to the host and the um so people ask me sometimes why do you throw such big sukkah parties why do you do it night after night every night there's another raging party in my sukkah so people ask me like why are you throwing these parties and so i answered them that because god's watching and like god's watching everybody but no one else is doing these kinds of parties and i said yeah but god saw my parties before he saw those parties when it was about me and now that we're commanded to party so i'm not going to throw a party like now's i have to do it and there are some nights where i'm like finished i don't want to throw another party but i'm just like i'm going and the truth is this year i was ready to party every night it was great yeah we had a really good time you just should have seen my credit card bill at the end of the week it was unbelievable and i'll be lucky to work that thing off by hanukkah you know which is cool because my name is yamitov and holidays are my thing happy to foot the bill i put on facebook like 500 sponsorships but that like barely covered the booze you know there were like four or five course meals coming out at all times we have chefs working on it and it's amazing and next time you're in in jerusalem for sukkas i invite you all anyway even all at the same time and um anyway so i grew up here in west l.a and i eventually went to the university of california in santa barbara ucsb or you can study buzz and i've graduated there in the fifth year when they finally said like you've got to leave and i went off a week later to jerusalem i've been studying in jerusalem now for 23 years i actually got there 23 and now i've been studying there for 23. so i just told you how old i am but uh but i literally half my life was california surfing and partying and relating to people and the other half of my life has been the same exact thing only swimming in wisdom um people ask me sometimes what a what a radical shift in lifestyle like it seems radical doesn't it a radical shift in lifestyle but in fact there's nothing radical about the shift in lifestyle if you actually count the things i love to do they're the same things that i did before right so look at the things i love to do i love to surf i love to mountain bike i've been mountain biking uh for many many years around the world i'm really into mountain i just actually did 2 000 vertical feet in four days in uh the swiss alps uh about five weeks ago and i'm i'm constantly on the on the search for the ultimate trail and uh also surfing around the world so i love mountain biking i love surfing i love um beer and single malt whiskey um i love burritos and tonight's probably going to be mexi kosher but we'll see uh it's hard to hold me back from mexi kosher when i'm finally back here you know the only kosher authentic mexican food on earth and uh and the uh there's plenty of mexican food restaurants but that's the only real one yeah and then um the other thing i love uh i love girls and i'm married to one so that's amazing and uh and i love uh i love music crazy about music and uh both playing and listening and uh and i love i love wisdom i love all those now if you look at those seven things let's go through them again okay surfing kosher not kosher everyone say oh sure mountain biking beer whiskey okay um what was the next one girls if you're married to one kosher okay um then you got um uh music kosher right and then what was the last one i mentioned wisdom well it depends what you get yourself into but but certainly torah wisdom is kosher so exactly where is the shift where's the shift the only thing i've added to my life is the depth of the wisdom that's it just going into the endless endless pool of torah now you guys are probably looking at me like i know a lot more torah than you do and maybe rabbi lando also knows a lot more torah than you do it may be the case but the truth is we're all equal when it comes to torah we're totally equal don't ever think i'm like somewhere beyond you in torah and you're probably wondering what like how can you be where i am in torah and i learned this actually from my brother sam actually who i don't forget who you heard it from but they said that uh if you put an olympic swimmer imagine you swimming against one of the top who's that who's the pot smoking like number one swimmer phelps yeah yeah he does inhale okay so uh michael phelps um imagine you racing michael phelps in a 100-yard you know pool who's going to win yeah who's going to win against phelps is he high he's really high and now what about both lengths yeah he's going to win and for most of us by the time we dove in the water he's going to be on the other side of the pool yeah okay you ready for the next the next race i'm going to give you against him we're going to drop both you in the middle of the pacific ocean who wins whoever can swim to the boat now the boat's taking off who wins none of us and that is torah that's tour and that's why we're in the same place because tour is endlessly endlessly greater and bigger than the pacific ocean and we both know that you and i are equal swimmers when it comes to being dropped in the center of the pacific ocean we're equal swimmers i mean i may live a little longer just as a surfer i might make for another few minutes and maybe phelps would make it another hour than you but that's it the torah is like the sea and it's an endless scene i've been studying it now 23 years and now i certainly am convinced that i know nothing but it's one of the most beautiful things because normally we try to achieve something you know you work your way and you work your way and you work your way up you work your way up and then you finally achieve it and then you work your way down in the you guys studied economics the law of uh diminishing uh uh what is it called the diminishing deterrence returns yeah law of diminishing returns so there you achieve it and then you deal with the law of diminishing returns when it comes to torah you strive and you strive and you strive and you strive but you never achieve you never achieve it and it's awesome it's amazing you can just go and go and go into its wisdom and you'll never ever get there and i'll tell you something else when you call me rabbi i'm embarrassed because i have a rabbi who you should not call me if you knew my rabbit you wouldn't be calling me rabbi you'd call me yomtov okay he's the rabbit but the funny thing is whenever we call him rabbi he's like he's like i'm so embarrassed you're calling if you only knew my rabbi and his rabbi said if you only knew my rabbi you'd know not to call me rabbi and his rabbi said if you only knew my rabbi and so it's just an endless endless pool yeah oh his name is rabbi shalom friedman he's from denver colorado what no no he's uh he's kind of part of no institution he's pretty reclusive uh guy um he sleeps two hours a day except for thursdays and fridays where he doesn't sleep at all um he only eats what keeps him alive and he lives in the moment only there's nothing but this moment and he won't even let you take a picture of him because he says why are you freezing the moment he lives in the moment eventually they had to take him to a doctor because they he wasn't staying healthy you know and he's six foot five they brought him to the doctor because he was getting weak and the doctor asked what do you eat he says two slices of white bread and they're saying what how's that gonna keep you alive and and he says oh that's what i have to eat he says why he says have you ever seen how many ingredients are involved in white bread the doctor's like yeah he says i'm raising up probably every country on earth because those ingredients come from all over the planet and i'm raising up the planet when i eat that bread and the rabbit is the doctor is like you're going to die and he's like what do i do he says you need to eat whole wheat bread and so now he eats two slices of whole wheat bread yeah this anyway this is my teacher yeah rabbi shalom friedman he's way out there way out there and he's like and he doesn't like students very much you know he's like he's like i once asked him rabbi can't you teach another class like during the week we'd like to come other than just this one night he says what makes you think i'm teaching a class tonight the whole class is there and we're like what do you mean he says well normally i'm studying quietly tonight i'm studying out loud like oh great yeah it's like he's the bug repellent and we're the bug and very few people stick with him i'm with him now 20 years with him 20 years now and there has never been more than 10 students at any given time because he just he's like just he's like centrifugal like you know what i mean he's like spinning around and he just shoots you out shoots you out and one of the few people who's had the tenacity to to hang in with him really really something yeah okay um anyway so i grew up there and uh in west l.a went to santa barbara and then i got to jerusalem and studied many years there met my wife in the first year at a party i thought she was super cool and wanted to date her whenever i'd be ready to date we kind of take our time in jerusalem to date so i didn't date for the first three years i just studied and focused studied and focused when i was finally ready to date i said that's the one i want to date first we never even got to data called her out to ask her out we we spoke for three hours on the phone are you gonna you take them to spot and they're gonna go to the spot yeah you guys are gonna go to this super holy spiritual place called spot and she was teaching in a seminary in svad a women's yeshiva and i called her up to ask her out we spoke for three hours and we're engaged by the end of the conversation so i never dated her and that was it and we're married 20 years just had her 20-year anniversary which it's really amazing and we have eight kids thank god and uh and uh my oldest daughter just got married she's in her first year university and she's like uh you know about to give birth you know you imagine giving birth in your first year university yeah that's pretty out there but in jerusalem that's considered totally normal to be married and pregnant in your freshman year so we do things a little differently over there and uh anyway so so things are rocking over there i'm getting kind of getting ready to be a grandpa and uh can you imagine me being a grandpa okay kid just hold on to the front of that surfboard there and grandpa's going to take care of you anyway i started a company about 13 years ago i run a company that's run here in the u.s uh new york i'm in new york all the time and i also run it in jerusalem mainly and i'm launching in toronto in about three weeks i'm launching my course in toronto it's a seminar company uh have you guys ever done any seminars in personal development personal growth you guys ever done that because you did something very nice how was it that kind of thing very good so i'm like the jewish tony robbins yeah yeah so so which is amazing because it gives access to jews who just don't want to like put their brain you know in someone else's hands just because you don't know where they're taking you a jewish brain is like real estate it's like real estate it's a jewish brain that's your real estate that doesn't go anywhere yeah you're not just selling off parcels for a buck yeah and jewish brain needs to be focused and care for what it takes in that's why it's the scariest thing is the the web because it just you know it's just coming you know and television and no one's asking you any questions you know he's just clicking around and boom boom boom next you come out of there you need a mikvah so so the uh but when you start looking at your jewish mind as a as a as real estate it's real estate what kind of parcels you willing to give up of your of your mind and it's really something i myself on facebook i got thousands of friends on facebook so so i can read down the posts and feel totally adulterated by the end of the uh you know 15 minutes just looking what people are posting can really be like you know what i'm saying that feeling like you just saw more than you should have yeah so so anyway we got to protect our real estate we got to protect that real estate you know you want to let out a prayer out of these lips you want to let out a prayer you want to connect to god ultimately you're really going to be connecting from your mind it's from the heart but you know you're going to be using your mind but the mind needs space and peace and purity to to connect with the almighty and so so that's that's a real estate now when you put when you go to these events you're really putting your life in their hands because if you want to grow you can't you're never going to grow in personal growth seminars you're never going to grow staying defensive right i don't know if you let yourself go in there everyone did that's good yeah so if it's really the right seminar it it kind of without you knowing it it makes your guard go down mine does as well so so the um but it's nice to have someone running a seminar like that where you know it's going to stay kosher for your mind and for your heart and for your life you get that like it's going to be it's going to be like that and it's also not going to be all open-ended it's going to be like you know let's get something really positive flowing at the end because in the end it's got to be something super positive and righteous and good for the greater good of humanity as well yeah no selfishness okay so i've been running that company for 13 years and it's been really really amazing it's growing and growing and growing launching all over and uh and if you guys are ever visiting i also get i get russians from like sheepshead bay and brighton beach and stuff they'll come into the seminar it's really been a lot of fun and i would say my russian students have been some of the greatest and there's a famous guy a russian student of nine names uh stephen asness you guys ever heard of steven asness he's very well known in the east coast and he's been kind of a big big sport with my work okay that's it for my background uh now i'd like to teach you a little bit but any questions in the meantime i don't have a question i'm just a little curious about i mean you run these seminars right but there's only one of you and you've got them on in multiple locations i've been traveling a lot so you're you're the one who does every single one of them you don't have i've trained two people to do it one of them's sitting about four seats from you it's my brother sam i know that sounds a little nepotistic that one of the two other people trained is my brother uh so he's been trained to do it and uh and please god we're in high level discussions right now on our our work and uh and there's a woman from uh israel really heard them a fabulous amazing story who she's she was actually a christian and uh an evangelical christian who was born jewish she's actually jewish and she uh she uh in her whole process during her time of being a christian she had one point become a an obese 450 pound wheelchair-bound situation and really really bad and through this work she is now like a lean mean personal growth public speaker and uh yeah someone really really special and she's been working with me for many years now and so i'm not the only one i'm not the only one yeah anyone else uh any other questions okay so let's learn a little something um i think what i'd like to do with you guys and teach you a little bit of kabbalah all right would you guys like to learn some color that's been my emphasis you heard who my rabbi is you might as well you know get a little taste of the kabbalah but i've got a a way for you to access the kabbaliner in a very sweet way that you'll understand it right away now what we learn is this being called oneness you know god is absolute oneness this being that's absolutely one creates a world of multiplicity there's many chairs in the room many tables in there many people in the room any protons neutrons electrons many molecules this the world's made of the multiple yet it's all coming from oneness we're being beamed from oneness a unified field for those who know little physics it's called the unified field theory yeah you've heard of that so even in physics they know it we're being beamed from absolutely unifi unification from oneness and that oneness is coming into into physicality which is made of you know great massive amounts of facets to it how does that oneness become many how does it become the many how does it become the physical world how does the oneness become a physical world how does god's light how does light energy become matter is really the question and so the answer is is that light energy becomes matter via ten um ten spheros they're called the ten spheros so that's something you wanna get wired for those getting tested on your stuff okay there's ten spheros otherwise known like ten beams that god's creating the world with now this is fascinating because it's a major claim i mean for the kabbalists to come tell us with all of our science background that the world's made of 10 major beams like the whole world everything you look at will always be made of these 10 things and they've been saying this for thousands of years so that's a big claim and i'd like to show you how all 10 are happening right now all around you and once you know these 10 you have the key to everything because from now on you can see the face of god in everything you look at a little background why would i call it the face of god the answer is because god doesn't have a face god isn't made of anything it has absolutely no image at all have you ever noticed in the torah that it says that were created human beings are created in the image of god and yet at the same time one of the 13 principles of judaism is god has no image so it's like if he does we're in the image of god and god has no image what's going on here and so the answer is is we are made in the image of how god creates creation i e those 10 ways god creates the world in 10 ways and we're made of those 10 ways and in fact your very body has a representation of each of those ways and this gets even into ancient chinese medicine but we are made of all those ten ways three up here three intellects you have your associative mind maybe i should be pointing this way that's your right right yeah because for me it's my right brain but i'll go over here you have your associative mind you have your analytical mind your left brain and then you have something that probably no offense few of you have i certainly have none of it and that is a meaning we all have it but it's it's hard to very few people one in 50 have it strong it's called the decisive mind you know what i'm talking about yeah the decisive mind so we can have associative thinking we can think like for example i i i feel like dairy okay but then you have an analytical mind well do i want cheese do i want ice cream do i want a coffee do i want a glass of milk do i want to slice a pizza that's all the analytical mind and then there's the decisive mind no i want yogurt yeah and that's your decisive mind has anything happened yet is there a yogurt anywhere at this point no it's all intellectual and it's called the there's three hidden seven revealed okay so how many are there all together say it ten what are they called spheros say spheros is any one of the sphardic traditions excellent spirit so if you're of the spartak tradition your job is to say spherot how many uh maybe i'll do it i see quite a few people what are they what are you guys boharing or something or one of the stands oh we have persians here amazing no i grew up in a persian household i don't like persian yeah yeah well they came a little later to brentwood but uh but i i i grew up in a persian household i was i was uh i know that's my brother i grew up in a personality my best friend was persian the uh the ten spheros have start with three hidden okay how many spheros ten three are hidden okay three hidden they are called bina and das you've heard of khabad they named their movement after those three okay what's the associative brain the associative mind that's your brainstorming mind that's your genius mind that's your pro problem-solving mind that's called okay then there's bina bina is your analytical mind okay that's your left brain bena in analytical mind and then the third one is called das or if you're sparty and that's everyone say das or dat we're going is farting okay and that is the decisive mind and again 1 in 50 people that's their main that's where they sit and they're usually like ceos or heads of companies and stuff who can like call the shots right there and boom that's what we're doing yeah very special people are like that and those are the type of people you should be seeking advice from yeah if you're ever feeling like stuck and you're indecisive you always seek advice yeah the only way up mount everest is with a guide and life's a lot harder to climb the mount everest you find someone who has strong dot and you always bounce your situations whether they're financial emotional friendships relationships associatives you you always um you always bounce your stuff off people you'll have you'll go very far that way okay now the seven revealed okay you ready the seven revealed begins with one called hesed try the word acid now let's see if anyone knows what hesed means what's fessa mean kindness i knew you're going to say that it was a trick question so we actually use the word hesed for kindness acts of love and kindness are called you know but in kabbalah the word does not mean kindness in fact it's one of the most destructive of all attributes and the word tested means unbridled flow okay so let's just say it means flow okay what's it mean flow so for example the ocean is it the water in my cup is it okay why is it destructive because if you have pure acid so you know it's just gonna it's gonna blow blow everything over you know a tsunami says okay the torah actually used the word tesset for incest you know the torah has a list of forbidden relationships you know it's a long list 37 mitzvahs of thou shalt not with your uh you know what's yeah so it's the 37 you want to hear it in a wrap yeah yeah okay sorry about the instead of boss i say boss instead of bot okay bot means daughter bot bot would be your granddaughter these are all forbidden relationships obviously we don't need to know that everyone knows that sicko yeah the only reason the torque puts it is just so you're extra busted because it says so you understand you're busted even you never read the torah but that the tour wrote it means you're just you're totally busted okay here you go you're ready you don't even know what i'm saying but i'll do it anyway a shazaab for example is your father's sister sorry your father's wife meaning not your mom but if your father remarried that's on the list of like the big no-nos okay these are all huge no-no's ready aim aims mother obviously that's a huge no-no boss boss boss 37 commandments right there we have them all in a wrap all 6 13 we haven't been wrapped up no would you like one yeah yeah so what 613 yeah yeah i dollar tour idolatry has 51. like we're where i study in in jerusalem is called asia torah and it's super like anti-religious so so that's why we memorize all the commandments because like because if you if you don't know what you're doing that means you're religious if you don't know what you're doing then you're just religious why are you in these classes we don't want you to be religious jews we want you to know what you're doing why don't you be literate okay this isn't about being religious it's about being literate we want you to be as literate as possible we're not into religion judaism's not into religion and we've suffered so badly at the hands of religions so it's the whole planet yeah we're not in the religion and the reason why in ace we memorize all the commandments is because we want to know what we're talking about we're not just doing stuff because we don't know what we're doing we want to know what we're doing why not understand every command we want to know and by heart it's also nice known by heart because jews have suffered so much persecution if they take away my books i got it by heart can't mess with it yeah my brother sam and i we've been uh on this whole thing to memorize the entire prayer book because uh you know if they ever took away our prayer books not gonna stop praying and he got the prayers by heart and he can't take it away that's great so means flow and our torah calls incest because it lacks limit lacks border tsunami okay this water fits into any vessel but i just pour it on the floor it's going to keep going to wherever it's just going to scatter as it flow now the next attribute is the attribute of gevorah everyone say the word gavura gevor gevora means limitation so this cup would be hesed or gevor the cup good where everyone say gavura the water is what the cup is gabor very good okay and the right side it's actually your right arm but i'm going to pretend that's my right arm for you guys that's it okay and the left arm is gevura okay your whole body you're made in the image of god you're a walking ten spirits of creation and if you look at creation every single thing right now that you could look at is it together so for example this wood here was a tree it was just a beautiful round natural tree okay but what happened here came the planer they planed it what's that hazard it's gevorah it's limiting okay everything here these glass windows back here yeah over here that was molten molten glass it was just liquid glass jesuit present but it was put into molds that shaped it into glass windows what's that very good when i drive in los angeles my right foot's very much involved with the attribute of hesed yeah and our my poor cameraman has been suffering horribly yeah especially in new york where i rented a uh a must a red fire engine red mustang convertible and we were just like so i'm a very tested oriented driver and and of course then there's the break which is what attribute gevora here's a guitar over here guitar is an amazing amazing example of of quesadilla it's even in tune so you want to hear hesed i'm going to change these strings that's present sound good doesn't sound so good right because what's going on each string's oscillating completely see that string oscillating okay see this one that's all sitting at 120 120 oscillations per second right there sorry 220 oscillations per second okay now when you just let them oscillate so that's it but what happens i limit the acid yeah i limit it and put my fingers here limiting the hazard oh it's out of tune i have to tune it so let me tune it so it sounds nice at least what's this tuner doing right now is a whole different really cool thing and it's it's it's what is it it's checking out vibration doesn't hear the guitars it's feeling the vibration of the wood to try to get it to the exact frequency because there's nothing but frequency your clothing is made of the frequencies your skin's made of the frequencies everything's made of frequencies that's how you know there's a god just through physics think about it everything's made of frequency that means none of this exists it was only the creator who admitted these frequencies so when i when i limit the strings now i'm limiting them so what's this hand here pester gabora gevora what's this hand it's kind of but i'm not playing it like that that would be playing it nicely so that's it because i'm playing but i'm strumming i'm but i'm pressing and limiting for the sound that you're hearing okay which is gabor is that clear hesitant we got that wired very good now the next attribute so far we already got quite a few hawkman same with me associative mind associate of mine okay the decisive mind okay then okay that's flo okay gevora limitation and that's gevorah limitation and that's the left arm okay now the next is the chest area and that's called tifaret try the word tiffer see ferret and ferret means beauty this isn't a big gulp cup have you ever seen a big gulp cup like from 7-eleven it's a waste of water and i'd be running in and out of the bathroom this whole class yeah it's a waste of water we don't need that much water the size cup someone thought it out they said okay let's make this size they don't have to come back for seconds so quickly the other hand they're not going to get too much that you know the whole party is going to run out of drink because everyone fills their cups too much water there's a beauty to the hessed in the gabora like meaning it's telling how much gevorah so that people pour proper amounts for that kind of party if we're a keg party i would say a little bigger cups now check this out tiffaris listen carefully t ferris looks to the 10th sphera and tells gevura how much to use i'm going to say that again tifares looks to ferret looks at the 10th which is actually the feet that's why i'm kind of aiming down now it looks to the 10th sphere which is the recipient and tells how much gevorah to use i want you guys to try that t ferret looks at the recipient which is really the 10th sphera and i'm going to tell you what it's called it's called malhot that's the tenth sphere ferret looks at the recipient and then tells this part repeat and tells gevura how much to employ so for example you guys are now let's say i'm doing a concert and you guys are my recipient you're the crowd i'm the player so you're the recipient so my attribute i'm gonna have an attribute of to ferret and it's gonna look at your you guys and say hmm these are young uh you know persians russians descent people they probably like to rock yeah they don't want to hear some like you know old jazz frank sinatra song they probably want to hear you know like what's this yeah that's probably what they want to hear and i see look at your face you're all like yeah you know so so that's t ferris i write what's to ferret looks at the recipient and tells gavura basically how much has it to put out how to employ gavura to limit the to put the rest of where it belongs yeah now if you were senior citizens which was my concert last night in new jersey the mean age was like 107 at my concert meanwhile i mean i can really rock the house but i didn't want to cause any cardiac arrest there but it got cool though in the middle of the concert all of a sudden my students from muncie showed up in a giant school bus completely painted for like peace in israel and everything with neon lights and external speakers blasting and they showed up to my concert and you know what nanak people are in the nana they're all nanaks and all my nanak students showed up to this concert and the old folks were just like wow they're so happy okay so we already have a bina das jesse givor t ferrous and malchus it leaves us only three so we're almost there what's marvelous in the end it's the end result for example i feel like dairy what kind of dairy do i want i want yogurt okay has anything happened no purely intellectual but what do i do i get out of my house and jump in my car and i'm heading to a kenyan yogurt place like the yogurtland yeah i'm going to yogurtland yeah so me driving yogurtland what attribute is that no that's it okay and again that's it and gabor is obviously the breaks and like got to be careful stay in my lane you know that's all gavora stay in the lane and no swerving and and then when i get into the ice cream store and i finally now i'm like i'm licking my yogurt yeah what what attribute is that malchus it's the final product so let's go back to god god says i want to create a world what kind of world what kind of world do i want to create i want to create this kind of world and that's our torah have you ever heard the kabbalistic statement that it says in the zohar it says god looked into the torah and created the world because the torah is called dot torah.tor try that torah the torah is called the dot-tor that's what god created the world it's the blueprint you ever heard the term it's the blueprint of creation so that's the dot it's the actual blueprint and think about it a guy who says you know you know americans they like to go up in a mountain oh it's just beautiful and some guy's like i say we build you know anyone else can enjoy the view but an american has to build there so i say we build and so what does he do he thinks like i want to build a house bina what kind of house do i want to build yeah what kind of house do i want to build do i want three stories do i want a basement do i want a tutor house do i want a spanish looking house do i want an adobe looking house do i want a colonial looking at what kind of house that's all beena that is i want this kind of house you get an architect they make a blueprint that's our torah our tour is the blueprint of creation but unlike a regular blueprint where once you're in the house like this building had a blueprint but can you burn the blueprint today and the building will stay standing yes not our torah artur is a blueprint that's constantly when you're learning torah the blueprint's constantly creating the world you're literally creating the world when you learn torah anytime you're studying torah it's like a living blueprint that likes fueling the the world and and we have a statement from our sages that if the whole world would stop learning torah for one second like if the whole world stopped thank god we're all over the planet so we're always learning but if the world stopped learning torah for a second the whole world would disappear into nothingness because this blueprint's alive you can't get rid of the blueprint it's unlike this building where the blueprint is no longer that necessary you keep a blue room by the way never throw away the blueprint in your house it couldn't be important um anyway so tesla giveaway fair sorry being a dot guivor t ferret is the chest area and i just like because you guys are young singles yeah and you guys married at this point okay since you're young sing i just want to mention something i'm about to give you the greatest or i already did give you the greatest dating advice ever ever okay you use the ten spheros for dating use it for everything means flow okay that's what happens in dance clubs do the relationships last very long no because what is it lacking what attribute gevoula yeah it's lacking gevorah to ferret looks at the recipient if i were meeting you what's your name dan dan i'm yomtov nice to meet you now imagine i just gave a big hug and a kiss yeah he'd just be like get away from me okay when you meet someone you give them some space you give them some space what actually is that gevorah let a person feel safe with you before you go in for a hug yeah give a person some space that's who's the recipient if i'm meeting you for the first time i want to give you a little space that you feel safe in your own space and then as you're feeling safe so i'm willing to be more close it's the key to long-term relationships is having hesita and gevorah properly adjusting all the time based on the body language facial muscles the movements the the what do you call those uh kind of that kind of language it's called uh it's non-verbal cues you're watching so people are really good at non-verbal cues know exactly when you can get closer to somebody and if you take it that way you can actually build a relationship forever with a person because you take it real slow and you make sure that you only go to malhus yeah without being too literal what malthus is all about yeah but you only go to malhus when everything's in place and there's been proper gevorah which is respect of that person's space and only when everything's set up and there's a vessel for things can i now really bring the facet on and you'll notice that i do a lot of counseling i'm sure rabbit lando does as well is one of the number one things that i deal with in marriages is they're now married and the and the guide says rabbi there's the ring pointing to her finger there's the ring where's her heart yeah he doesn't understand and she doesn't either because we all have this weird crazy dream that when we get married we're going to finally be able to give ourselves over fully to somebody but what the brain thinks and what the heart does is two different things the fact that your brain tells you that once you're married then you'll get to be able to give all of yourself the heart's not going to be that trusting it takes time it takes time because of the imbalance of jessica and tufares because the imbalance of basically and the the broken vessels that happen as a result i.e broken heart so it takes a while even after marriage to really develop the trust to let yourself go i'll let you know when i'm there okay we're married 20 years and i'm still i can't say you know that feeling of just giving yourself over totally to someone it's a euphoric feeling you only get it once in your life really i'm planning on getting there you know my wife and i are both guarant like dedicated to getting to that vulnerable place but so far i had i just don't i don't have a gps system sensitive enough to find the micro doors that slammed shut over the years of me not understanding chester and gabora growing up in l.a and santa barbara and all the parties and all the scenes and all the relationships that were out of balance so so just take it now as a lesson because it's the biggest gift you could ever give your spouse when you finally get married is to have a balance of now i eat lots of gamora in order that you can finally have a hesit that is which means beauty so you can have a relationship that lasts forever things that last forever always interference and things that are destroyed are always because there was some imbalance between caesar and gevura the story i just told you of rabbi there's the ring where's her heart what does she have too much of gabora she's too protective she her heart doesn't realize she's married yet and safe she doesn't know she's safe yet and so she's still so involved in gabora that she hasn't let the acid really flow yet and by the way i'm using it as that example it could be easily the guys doing it and therefore boundaries are so important also in raising our children i grew up in purified you heard about my background was that hazard or gabora what do you think is my biggest challenge as a father of eight gabor it's my biggest challenge in my marriage and my my family life am i raising my children yeah when my kid says you know do you think i should try this little rocket-powered suit i developed and i'm like for sure you know my wife's like honey that's really dangerous so anyway i'm just so hesit right yeah you heard my son remy was arrested in england yeah yeah yes i didn't even hear that you knew i didn't know about it yeah see that's what i'm trying to tell you yeah so my son was arrested yesterday in england he uh he carries mace in israel because it's perfectly fine to carry mason israel he's the kind of guy he's a like self-protection guy so he carries mace that's his gun until he's old enough to carry one but he studies in europe and he forgot and brought his mace to europe packs and mace is illegal in england and so he went through cuss and they looked through his bag and found a bottle of mace and so he just got turned around and sent back to israel poor kid i think he's done i think he got blacklisted i'm so happy because i don't want my son we moved i made aliyah and i don't want my son living in europe he's been studying in europe for a couple years he's a big torah scholar and he's been stunning in belgium belgium stan anyway back to our business every single one of those late night stations playing songs bringing tears to my eyes i was seriously thinking about hiding my receiver when they switch radio it's cleaning up the well you had better do what you were told you better listen to the radio i wanna fight the some of my friends sit around every evening and they worry about the times ahead but everybody else is overwhelmed by indifference and the promise of an early bear they either shout out or get caught up they don't want radio it's cleaning up the nation they said better but they don't give you any choice cause they think that it's jesus well you ain't better do what you were told you better listen to the radio radio that was totally not too fairest to play that song to a bunch of people would probably never heard an elvis costello song in their life you ever heard of elvis costella everyone knows one song i don't even know it how's it go no one knows that you know anyone know that son no you don't answer this muslim she knows it great song in there anyway so listen up you can see how tested i am like there's no like i'm going all over the place okay but in the end you're going to get all 10 spheres we're almost there okay hes its flow guivour's limitation yeah t ferris is getting the right combination how you look at who's the recipient you employ the right amount of gavura for the for the relationship to last for it to be beautiful that's why the music right i'm going to hit the right chords right volume for the recipient next last three ready last three are nets say the word nets it means it means perseverance the ability to last long time meaning it's the same as it net sucks the right leg i'm going to point to my left leg though nezhak is the right leg yeah which is just like meaning i can flow i can go to go buy yogurt yeah so now i'm driving down the street the problem is i get to the yogurt store and they're under re they're under remodel that's not what i'm going to do yeah so turn around go home what if what someone with the attribute of nets off he's gonna go find another branch he's immediately google you know where's another place where i can get this stuff and he's gonna go find it net sucks perseverance okay a marathon or a sprinter he doesn't need nets off marathon runner needs nets he's got to keep going okay netsuck perseverance it's the the the continuation of the heset okay so for example i always tell people get married i said i'm very happy for you got married but us rabbis we celebrate anniversaries we don't celebrate marriage to get married all you need is a pulse anniversary where what real people are made of yeah what attribute is anniversaries that's nazar yeah getting married it's more of a heisted thing anniversaries are nets hanging in there yeah how long you marry now sam 21 years ago i'm saying we just had our 20th where you guys holding 10. great and you'll notice like people people hang in there in our circles yeah we were built to last yeah built to last a lot of nets ah a lot of nets so um net sock is the fact that i still serve no reason i should still serve that's ridiculous yeah but i still circle i do something i think it's cool i like it i stick with it yeah i grew up in like crazy music world yeah my brother's still in the crazy how many concerts do you think you see a month yeah imagine how many concerts you see a year probably more than anyone you know yeah once a week okay i think he goes more than that um it seems like every single time i call you you're on your way back from some crazy show you went to and he goes by himself most of the time because he would love to go with somebody because no one's willing to go hear that much live music anyway but netzach is the fact that i still have in my car i have 11 speakers two amplifiers and it's like busting with music like busting music in my car because i'm still totally into i'm still totally into myself i'm still totally into my beer i'm still totally into my mountain bike yeah netsuck i'm going to keep doing it i'm not going to stop not stopping man that's hot okay my judaism got turned on judah was 23 years old i've never looked back okay my first job as i kept by accident there was no such thing as in there wasn't even internet email forget about it facebook it was in the glimmer of someone's eyes it was nothing nothing there was no cell phones on the planet unless you're like in the army okay so how do i break shabbos smoking i didn't smoke yeah healthy man don't smoke yeah so i didn't smoke so how do i break shot was light switches someone had taped the light switches okay i was in israel my first trip to israel after santa barbara which actually he's the one who sent me to jerusalem sam sent me to jerusalem and the light were taped so i kept my first shabbos by accident is perseverance the next one is the right leg the left leg and that's hod okay everyone say the word hode means focus okay staying focused something i have almost none of okay like no hold okay hold is focus so net sock you're going to keep going but hoed is you're going to keep going on the subject matter you're going to actually be doing the same thing you know so so hode is just that focus for example i'll tell you the what's not hoed is a man in a hardware store okay he's like i think i need a phillips screwdriver let me just step into home depot hold is fidelity in a relationship that's hoed hod's staying true to your spouse okay that much i do okay so hode is just staying with the program hod's staying at a job for a long time nets are staying with anything for a long time hode staying in that job staying loyal to the company that you're working for okay that's all attribute of hode clear and you see how it's gevorah oriented remember gavor is limitation so oh it's also it's limited staying focused a good example of netsock as far as distance would be a searchlight you ever seen search lights shooting up into the sky but they're going wider and wider and wider as they go like a flashlight tell me what kind of light would be a hode light laser laser beams yeah it goes long distance but it stays perfectly focused it's f it's somehow it's like focusing in on itself as it as it expands out it doesn't expand it spins forward but not out okay that's the attribute of hope so remember laser beam for hoat okay and you think about it when you think of an air force pilot yeah he's going to be like laser beam with his focus in his work clear okay that's hode okay let's say the word hoed again and now the penultimate sphero we've already done the ultimate we did have malcolus so the penultimate sphere is you guys know the word penultimate second to last okay try that where you get a little vocabulary penultimate you can use it it makes you sound smart and no one ever knows what you're saying okay penn ultimate the penultimate sphero is yi sode everyone say the word you sowed you so is the penultimate that's going to be our last that we have to do here and you sewed is connection it's like a usb cable usb cable so like for example if you have some kind of device that's got so much going on you know like in my my phone hey where's my phone anyway my phone i think it's in my code but that but your phone like if you like a iphone or a galaxy or whatever it's got so much happening yeah there's guys there's gabor there's two pairs of nets oh everything's in there but i need to now download stuff into my computer so there's different ways of doing it they're all you sewed if i want to bluetooth it in if i want to uh wi-fi it in the network or i want to just grab that usb cable and just you know hardwire it straight to my computer but that's you sewed okay so for example this was made of concrete over here so they're going to be pouring it off those you ever seen those cranes that pour concrete yeah so but there's always a guy in there you know his name's probably miguel or something and he's like he's like holding this nut thing you know to make sure it's between the two slats to fill the wall with cement okay that's that's he sewed okay that's you so that's the the uh ninth attribute and that's the i'm not gonna point to that one that's the genital regions okay that's that part of the body okay so we have we have in the brain we got bina dat yeah ferrous you sowed the center part and that's connected that's the usb cable connection of everything going on with you connecting it into maurice which is the final recipient okay which is called the feminine okay and that's why there's so much illusion of male and female in in judaism in the kabbalah the song of songs kabbalah shabbat is all the bride and the groom god's the groom we're the bride okay we're the feminine and the feminine is that last attribute is malhot is the feminine and the upper sixth jessica jessica are the six that's the masculine energy those six of the masculine energy by no coincidence they are the aleph bet gimmel dalit hey vav if you look at ava that connects heaven to earth it's a it's that symbol of the the male body okay that's above connects heaven to earth it connects all the ideas connects the relationship it's the it's the the the consummation of connection of everything we've discussed is you sowed and male into female okay and that's those six attributes connecting to malhus so this relates to absolutely everything you'll ever deal with in your life the more you understand the stuff the smoother your life will go and what you now have gotten and i'm going to do a quick review where we'll say them all all 10 again what you now have gotten is the key to life it is the key to everything it's called the tree of life actually in kabbalah it's called the tree of life and the more you get it wired you see the face of god remember how he said the face of god because god doesn't have a face doesn't have an image but nevertheless this is how god creates creation so the more i understand how god creates creation the more i understand how god wants at least me to relate to him just like through my face you'll relate to me this is but you're not that's not me my face isn't me my face is my face there's a me that's an essence so to god has an essence we'll never know it will never understand it but god has chosen these 10 attributes how to create the world and how to relate to god and you can relate to god via all ten spheros when i'm thinking in kabbalah and like tripping out on god that's when i'm studying which is the analysis analysis of all of the laws of the torah i'm using my bean attribute to relate to god when i'm studying jewish law which is like this is what you do because in the talmud it's like open-ended everyone's arguing about what the law is but you never know what to do but when you study the which is the actual code of law that's dot that's what to do okay and so i'm i'm connecting to god when i study dot okay that's it is when i'm flowing i'm throwing my sukkah parties yeah or i'm making a kid-ish yeah i can imagine when i make kid there's not a lot of wine left in the cup when i'm done yeah it's a total hazard you know and i'm serving god with all my attribute of present yeah but governor i'm a parent i'm a father i do not send my kids in rocket suits up to heaven yeah i i'm i'm involved in gevorah believe with eight kids all the way down that line they're two years apart all the way down until four years old there's a lot of gavor going on yeah they got to watch out yeah not that i would ever harm the kid but you know you want monsters on your hand raise them like my parents raised me yeah okay you can be you can create a real monster with no gevorah and in la oh my gosh we just passed a teenager kid looked like it was about 12 driving the nicest porsche career you could ever see you know and i i finally pulled it next i want to see i was following him because he was just racing through traffic i wanted to get here on time finally pull up next again the kid looked like he was you know three years old you know he was a little kid driving this porsche he was just like you know and i don't know what his parents are thinking but it's just a pure hesitate upbringing and no governor and you know what what's gonna happen when he slams that thing into a wall they're gonna buy him a new one ain't they yeah if he's alive yeah don't buy him anyway so anyway so when i do that i'm serving god with gavura when i'm keeping halacha what does it mean to keep i want to do this i want to do that i want to eat this burger oh but but we don't know you know the grill it was on someone just made someone just made a grilled cheese sandwich on that grill like are you sure like yeah i mean i'm pretty sure it looked like grilled cheese sandwich i'm like you positive you know because i already made the burger i just want to eat that thing yeah but when i keep that law what attribute am i serving god with gabor no not eating yeah it's not worth it and i'm gonna serve god with gevorah i'm not gonna eat it and then when i when i with the attribute of tifaris yeah is to make to make i don't just make kiddush in a dixie cup man i make 150 silver gorgeous goblet yeah it's a gorgeous goblet and that's tiffaris beauty i'm gonna serve god with beauty i mean because think about it like that's it's not just molten metal either it's got design it's it's got it it was rested and gavor totally mating to become this incredible kiddush cup and i'm gonna do kiddush in that thing i'm gonna light hanukkah the most gorgeous manure i'm gonna serve god with two ferris when i crank my stereo it's not some rap music with you know on my car stairs you know i'm not gonna serve god with some garbage music to serve god with like awesome awesome tunes that bring like you know spirituality and closeness to god it's tifares netzach i'm not just keeping shabbos that one by accident and the next one i kept on purpose i'm going to keep shabbos till the day i die that's how i'm not going to stop doing that it's the beauty it's the key to everything shops i'm doing it forever that's how i'm going to serve god with nessa yeah and i'm going to and hode staying focused staying staying connected to my spouse staying focused on my on my goals at hand staying focused on my on my business and making sure i don't i'm not overly exposed in the business you know running a business you got to check exposure all the time and you know cost money to to deal with exposure and hold stay in focus i'm going to serve god withhold by staying focused on god because we all know when things are going tough we're struggling we forget about god and so someone who can recognize god not just when it's going well but also when it's going bad to recognize that it's all from god it's all part of some story we're in it's called history it's your personal history his story it's his story of your life you're living you're living god's story and so hoda is staying focused that god is you know behind the scenes he's pulling the puppet strings there's no accidents there's no coincidences i'm not some victim of some stupid circumstance this is all building me because i'm always focused that this is coming from god and that's hode and you sowed you sowed his connection power where am i at the what time am i in the right place at the right time like where am i is it all going to connect in the end am i going to be able to consummate my dream with reality and i can serve god with yesod by by recognizing that always that god is is what's causing everything around me everything around me is all from god and so that's the because think about it what is the usb cable of interface the usb interface between god and creation and the answer is right here right now being present in the moment like every new age speaker will tell you just be in the moment yeah that's you sowed it's just totally in the moment and that's my review the rebbe you're the a spiritual leader i spoke about my rebbe you asked about my rebbe this nice lady over here asked about my review so he's the attribute of you so all the rebbies are you so just connecting connect you connect staying connected they're in the moment and and then finally malchus is is the physical world you know it's whatever malhouse is all the end result you know the guy created the guitar so the guitar is small eating the yogurts for our physical world that's moscow's so everything you do in this physical world to to sanctify god's name everything you do in this world is sanctified again it's ultimately malhouse and let's just bring up remember malchus kingship the final one final that's the feat is the feminine that's the feminine so anything you do in this physical world which is the feminine the physical world is the feminine the final physical world is the feminine and everything you do to connect the feminine world meaning the physical world to god i.e take your bucks and make a gorgeous shabbos table take your money and put your kids through torah school take your money and buy a beautiful gift to someone who you know meaning in honor of the holy shabbos or something you're doing the physical world to connect the female physical world to the masculine uh flow of the upper spheros yeah everything you do to connect it the physical and i'm now going to connect it on this guitar for all of us yeah and which is called kiddish hashem sanctifying god's name through the world through physical world that's called models okay so let's review them all real quick point with me so you'll get it i want you guys get alive here okay ready let's start from your brain to the right you're going to the right no no you should go to your is that your right again okay remember what those are associative analytical and decision okay okay flow and stomp that's okay that's this world physical world okay and that's the end result of anything you do is called malhot in the end of because you think anything you'll do in your life dan was yeah anything you'll do in your life dan will always have all ten because the whole world is made of all ten no matter where you look in this room no matter what you'll do with your life every endeavor every every dream that you wanna somehow uh concretize will always be going through all 10 of those attributes and the more you get to know them the more you'll you will master this world the more you'll understand the face of god and the more success you'll have so i bless you all to to have all that and we'll say amen and blame the little song all right nice take guess who's older which one me no i look older because i've been staring into the sun way longer i think i stare at the moon with a blue solo in e ready i'll play rhythm i just do a little so okay bye nice oh yeah that was cool that thing's nice oh i got mine let's do raheemi because there's so many any of people russian descent originally yeah oh yeah that's what you said i wrote this for uh my russian friends who came over in 1990 right after the curtain fell like it was the first time americans could really say that we accomplished anything because we were so excited about helping soviet jewry and so i was asked about a song for capital records to help raise funds for uh resettlement in the united states and israel and this was the song i wasn't there but i wasn't there i wasn't there when esther took the stand in every age we've got to make a choice to rise up and take the stand or ignore the outstretch and dig i wanna be the one i wasn't there on the eve of crystal night i wasn't there when they packed the trains millions were crying did nobody hear the voices i wasn't there but i feel the pain me is i wasn't when there spoke to abraham my parents again i wasn't there where moses freed this days in every age we've got to make a choice to rise up and take a stand or ignore the outside nice me thank you very much everybody amazing so if if you want to follow it up at all uh there's a couple of things uh number one is you can check out any of my brothers when it's amazing samglazer.com just go on there samglazer.com my stuff's also on itunes yum tube glazer and uh i've classes all over line and they're much more focused by the way so they're not as crazy as this one was but there's something about when i come out of surfing i like my brains like spilling out all over the pacific so the um anyway but you can check out online lots of youtube videos uh probably my most uh traveled website for my classes is called torahanytime.com just look up my name on tourneytime.com i've got about 20 titles that are really very special classes but youtube's got a ton of stuff um you can come to israel to study with me please god we'll be together there but also people fly in all the time to learn with me a similar one-on-one in an executive center and uh but otherwise people come who are rich or famous will come 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