Rabbi Shlomo Schiller - Weekly Torah Portion: Chayei Sarah - Jewish Respect for the Dead

I you ok guys so i'll just share with you some points for today so right this week dispatches calle saga what haisa the life of sarah so first one of the very interesting idea you see it says that the righteous people that sad Hakeem is like the Sun that the Sun sets one place but it rises in another place in the world right that said Hakeem right the merit of the today Kim right which we need for the world for the generation you see before one dies what happens I shall make sure that a new one is gone right or before or just it could happen together so when we see that idea guys where we see that idea right what did we learn last week guys and last week's polish on chapter 22 right verse 23 what did we learn right that bit will write had a child had a girl named rifka right this is the family of Abraham right so bit too and gave birth has a child to a girl named rifka right right who dies right after a few verses after in chapter 23 sir right so you get the idea right that has shin make sure that right it shouldn't leave that generations of this big empty with no merit so before SAR passes away Oh or exactly at the same time Alex right rifka is born now to show you a little bit more about this idea you know the merit of the righteous people so i'll just show you right last week in the Pasha right I shall want to destroy Saddam right they're bad people evil people and who is praying for them who is doing negotiation with God Abram look carefully to 18 verse 25 Abraham says right it's forbidden for you it's not appropriate for you God right to kill righteous with the evil right the judge of all earth will do so so what does God say in verse 26 so Hashem said right if I find in stone fifty righteous people right in the right I'll carry for the whole place for them for the merit of the righteous people right so look carefully I'll show you the ideas like this was the idea 50 i give you know guys what why did abram choose the number 50 because the 49er tomorrow what's so special about 50 guys llama la oh so there are five stunned or five counts so the commentaries explain Abram was praying hoping that will be ten righteous people for each town a minyan you see you'll see later that it drops down right so he said maybe they have ten for each town and will save the whole place right and God says yeah if I find 50 people ten feet for each town I'll forgive for the whole place i'll return the Hebrews is right in 26 but yamaha chez michelle said mmm son if I find this dormant dome I'm machine 50 siddiqui righteous people Venice atiyah now carry for the whole place what it means I'll carry for the whole place I'll forgive right I won't do nothing all right destroy I won't destroy and I won't punish right I'll forgive that's it look carefully when Abram says 45 why we go to 45 what's the idea 40 50 so nine for each city and so to speak god Abram is asking from God you will be the 10th you hear the idea guys that's when Abram is asking God will be the 10th oh yeah yeah we're missing its ideas we have the majority we have nine right and so to speak God will be the 10th meaning what almost there he's asking for extra mercy right his idea i'll tell you also is the idea like this this opinion that is what I'm Terrell AHA guys are you familiar with the idea that if you have nine people nine men and you're missing one for minyan is idea that you could take a child below 13 right under 13 with the Hamas with a holy book or safe return and that will make a minyan we do not file I know you're looking at me and I had in full from the moon but it's both down that opinion okay let you take a child not yet bottle Mitzvah with the holy book with that we can make a minyan it's both on that opinion practically speaking we do not follow that opinion so what's that idea we're almost there right you have nine right you're missing one so let's try to work it out a child with us a fatter could finish the minion that's what a promise ain't there God if will be nine in each town we're missing only 210 fright come on you'll finish it you'll make it there minyan help us stay with your mercy okay but now let me show you guys so Abram is asking for 45 and what does God answer look at verse 28 what if the 50 righteous people should like five so when 45 right nine th down yeah go ahead would you destroy the entire city because of the five he said I will not destroy if I find her 45 aha look carefully in a verse now God doesn't say I'll carry for the whole place what does God say I one destroyed what's the difference between verse 26 to 28 and 26 God said if that 50 10 in each town I'll carry for the whole place moshe right there off the hook right Jeremy but in 28 what does he say I one dish to a hot do you see the difference you realize there's a difference and the difference is the following right when they're 9 in each town when they don't have a minion fetch down God said ok I won't destroy it but I'll still punish them very good and that's the difference you see if they have the merit that they have 10 for each town ok I'll carry for the whole place right on touch one destroyed won't punish nothing but if they don't have the 10 they don't have the merit of 10 in each town God says okay I won't destroy it but I will punish you see in the numbers also if you look quickly in 29 right so he's asking maybe they fought when maybe we'll find 30 40 right what it means 40 how why we dropped down to 40 maybe there are four places that have 10 for each town so not the five towns we won't save the five towns but maybe we could save four towns very good what does God send verse 29 guys I'll not act at all right so I'll save the whole four towns completely right if they have 10 for each town good so one time I'll destroyed but the other for what I'll do won't act at all right same thing guys write verse 30 what does a what does it say I won't act if i'll find 30 meaning i won't act at all right God will forgive for all the three places that have a minion you will forgive and one right won't act but look what happens guys in 20 look at verse verse 21 31 right maybe we'll find the 20 and God said I will not destroy it for the 20 oops now God saying i will not destroyed but i will punish so now we back that idea that if is 20 and again and the next verse or so 10 right God says I will not destroy but I will punish what happens what's the switch between 30 to 20 30 God says I won't act 20 God says I won't destroy it but i'll punish what happened we're going back now like the 45 right that if is no mature if there's no minyan so God said I'll not destroy but I'll punish so what happened be right you guys you realize the difference you see in the numbers you okay what's the change haha matter how you okay here's over there right what happened what's the change between right 30 that God will carry for the whole place when we're down to 20 God says okay right I will not destroyed and the same thing for 10 okay nada guys oh very good when we have 30 it means the majority of the towns are still okay so God is willing to give right 30 means we have 10 people in three pounds right we have ten righteous people in three times which that's the majority of the whole area how many times the 15 so if we have three towns right that have ten righteous people we're not bad shape right we still have the majority of the town's have ten good people oops guys but if we don't have that if we're down to 20 what's going on out you have only two towns that have ten righteous people so it's not the majority of the place and now it goes back like what we said before in the 45 now if we're down to only twenty righteous people so God says okay I'll not destroyed but I will punish okay and the same thing for 10 right obviously if is only one town that has ten righteous people so God says okay the same I won't destroy it but I will punish yes so 45 is destroyed because we don't have 10 for each town 45 was the idea is the same idea 45 those nine for each town so we don't have a minion so God said okay I will not destroyed but I'll punish it could be 10 in four towns and five hundred others this was my babies so uh what about when it goes down to 40 it says a 45 is destroyed and then what is that 48 yes yes we will not ask for the four towns he'll say that's right correct correct yes because we're asking 40 for the four towns the fifth down is out destroy yes how do we know each divided up like that for tecnica for millions and it won't sound so that the commenter is based on mid regime say that that's the whole idea 50 asking for 10 for each down the five towns and the idea here we're working around with the idea of 10 for each town and that's negotiation of here okay if I can say down maybe four times maybe three times maybe two towns right maybe one town but you see the difference of so what I want to point out from you guys over here that you see that the merit of the righteous people is quantity and quality you see that it plays what majority that if there are 30 for example God is willing right to forgive to the three places but if we're down to 20 God said okay we won't destroy it but i'll punish so the merit right talking about the merit of righteous people guys is quality and quantity right depends how many people are doing it but right it's very crucial also the good people how many good deeds they have okay so its quality and quantity okay good okay okay so that's the idea you see from negotiation it's very clear ok that the merit of the people you see from the dome that if they would have the attend people how much lower able to save if they had but they didn't have even ten people for one town and you see that the merit what the most interesting is that the merit of the people could even save the whole town that God even won't punish right that's if we had majority for example at least 30 God is willing even not to punish the place right not only not to destroyed even not the bunny okay guys let's go back to our Pasha say yes uh-huh okay so back to chapter 23 guys so first of all very interesting another idea just about talking about righteous people you see there a two-part shot in the Torah that are named life and you're talking there about people that are dead passing away right the first pot shots over here we call it the life of Saba hey Sarah and it's talking about the death of Sarah right the second place is an end of book of Bereshit is via he and he lived is talking about the life talking about Jacob and it's talking about the passing away of Jacob so you're naming to powershot life and you're talking about the death of the people so what's the idea so they did is like these guys right for the righteous people really the world here was only like a hallway like we say right and the main world is the world to come which then the shamma the solo go but some say also just the added some say the following right a righteous man with his good deeds that he did if he left here somebody in a road that is following his actions his good deeds is as if that he's still alive so the matrix and the patriarchs right with their good deeds that they had they made an impact and they left here children descendants that are following them is as if that they're still around okay you hit idea so even though park Sarah physically passed away but since she's leaving a son Isaac right and from Isaac will have a whole future right they are following her philosophy huh believe in God how good deeds so is as if that she still around the same thing by Jacob Jacob physically is passing away but he's leaving the twelve tribes that are following his mission so it's as if that he's still alive okay M inverse one let's read a minute verse one right by hookah yay Sarah and it was the life of sarah a hundred years 20 years seven years right schnee the years of life of sarah so you see was a mention t over here we separate a hundred years 20 years and seven years why every time it all repeats the years right you realize yeah how to say 127 years that's it we say a hundred years 20 years seven years why we repeated so how she brings down over here that the numbers here are crucial to say the following the highlight that you're so righteous a hundred is like 20 we have the idea that in the in the court in heaven we don't punish somebody the low 20 so this highlight to say that use clean and pure with no sin like a girl but 20 years old okay so even though she was elder regios much more than 20 right the highlight that when she was a hundred she was like 20 meaning with no sin okay that's spiritually to saying how she was righteous and also how physical she was in good condition 22 compared to seven to tell you that just like 20 she looked like seven physically good looking good okay so that's the highlight the years that she was so great spiritually and physically okay so okay so she dies in Clea Taliban in heaven and Abram comes and gives eulogy and he cries for her and now what you have to do after the funeral guys what they usually do if the funeral is correct so you're looking for a place for burial right so now you heard about the idea that Abram was tested with 10 tests right this is one of them Abram is sitting in a land he's a very important person in the land you see that people accepted him as the president as a king of the place he's a very important man in an area over there and when his own wife dies he needs permission from the people in the area for a burial place so this is one of the tests of Abraham right he didn't come and say to God hey God what do you mean a man like me so important and so honorable men in the area I have to look for a place I have to go and ask for mission to bury my wife this shouldn't be an issue right so this is one of the tests of Abram so he's going to the local people the local people they are the children of head right and he's asking them please do your mind give me right as a cave in a corner right as a fellow a name a man named F on and then the side of his field is a cave over there I wish I want to bury my wife over there so the way that it works if you realize right verse I'm an alien and resident among you grab me in a state for a burial site with you that I may bury your dead from before right say saying so to speak I'm not I wasn't here originally I just came here right I settled over here I'm not here originally from this place could you please right allowed me the idea is that every back in the day every family had an area of a cemetery so he's telling them I'm not local I'm not for the originally right I came from the other side of the river and I'm looking for a place to bury my wife so the custom is that was an area section that every family had for cemetery the desk and could you give me a place to a cemetery right yeah go ahead verse 5 the children of Heth answered Abraham saying to him hear us my lord your prince of God in our myths and the choices of our burial places bury your dead any of us will not with all this gorilla place from you from burying your dead right so they in turn bad they honor him respect him as you see and they say oh yeah you're the longer the master amongst us choose whatever you want wherever you want nobody will block you you could choose whatever you want which area right you could use it as a burial place for your family right okay go on verse 7 then Abraham rose up and bow down to the members of the council to the children of Heth yeah god posted i'm saying if it is truly your will to bury my dad from before me eat me and intercede for me with efrain son of Zoar let him grab me a cave of machpelah which is his on the edge of his field let him granted to me for its full price in your midst as in the state for a burial site so Abram is asking for specific place this place this cave is Mac Bella yeah we'll explain a minute the name of Allah and he's saying that cave is an end of the field that's what I wish that's what I want God verse 10 now efrain was sitting in the midst of the children of s that front that is I responded to Abraham in the hearing of the children bad bro come to the gate of this city saying no my lord eat me I have given you the field and as you as for the cave that is in it I have given it to you in the view of the children of my people have I given it to you bury your day so Efron seems very large guys Abraham was asking only for what for cave that's it a burial site for his family the cave is enough f1 when he ends his back what does he say oh no my lord right take the field and the cave right so he seems to be very larger from they realize he's sane tamer well now you don't that the cave is connected to the field how you go through right and it's not respectful for you to go in the fields of others you got to take the field and the cave so it seems that f1 is very large and just take it right ok go ahead restroom bow down before the members of the council he spoke to F on the hearing of the members of the council saying rather if only you would heat me I give the price of the field accept it from me that may vary my dad so abram doesn't want to take it for free why does abram doesn't want to take it for free he wants to pay for this later and say oh yeah you know right so the idea is like this two reasons that lay down they shouldn't say oh you mean we gave at Abram it's our cave right he only has it because of us right and they might regret even so a Vermont avoid all that a bond is willing to pay a full full price like you see right and it should be no issues and no problems afterwards the same thing we find guys when King David was looking to build the temple at least at least the purchase the the land the property so the fellow they non hiya Lucy that's one of the nations that were living in Israel before Israel came and occupied the place and a bruh he wanted to give it to free to the King David and King David said nah I want to pay full price for it right King David didn't want to take it for free you wanted to pay a full price fate meaning the idea is like this we shouldn't hesitate and we shouldn't have any issues to avoid later on they'll say ah you Jews right you build a temple we gave it to the land right so it shouldn't be a like a insult a non respectful way we should show that we're willing to pay full price for the property of the temple that's the same idea over here Abraham doesn't want any issues or any comments later on i'm willing to pay way over from the real price ok so what i want to show you guys are you familiar with this following statement the righteous people talk a little bit but they do a lock right but the evil people the wicked people the opposite they talk a lot and they do nothing you heard that statement right who we learn it who was a good example who's the bad example that's right Abraham was the example going back to last week's parsha again guys when he found the angels the the the people the guess what does he offer them come into my house I'll give you a bit bread and a bit water and lean under the tree that's it bread water and you'll lean under the tree a bit shade constable water and bread what did that's what he said to them what when they come what does he give to them guys a festive meal tongues with mustard right the Flay chic meal meet tongues right and he tolds the Sarah go ahead and bake some bread cakes right so right and that you did the tradition demitasse that we had is that it when a guest used to come to Abram you just ask him what do you usually eat for lunch right so for example if he said you know a simple bread so he gave him the nicer bread right whole wheat grains right and if he said well I usually have a chicken so he gave him meat whatever he used to say the gas used to give him more right that's how used to feed the people so Abram is the example of right talking a little bit don't talk too much but it depends what you do that's really the measure of a person that's what you talk it's what you do f1 is the opposite What did he say to Avon ah take the field take the cave right no problem right take it now what does he say in verse 15 guys my lord hit me land worth 400 silver shekels between me and you what is it Barry your day yeah go ahead bursa can go on 16mm heated efrain and Abraham weighed out to a friend the price which he had mentioned in the hearing of the children of Heth 400 silver shekels and negotiable currency and efron's field which was a mas bella facing mom during the field and the cave within it and all the trees in the field with in all its surrounding boundaries was confirmed ok so the idea is like this you see so the right we went here the process right Abram is coming to ask permission for site for cemetery right they say no problem think whatever you want right she says ok I want the that cave right in a side of the field of F 1 F only hears this there's no problem take that cave and the field right Abram refuses to take it for free says I'll pay fit so what does he say in verse right 15 oh what's the big deal for injure coins what's the big deal between me and you right you see the idea over here f1 it really is revealing what's in his heart how did he price it you're willing to give it for free you said to just write a minute ago to Abram right take it for free take the field and the cave and then two minutes later you say ah come on what's for the checking if you want to pay what's four hundred shekels between me and you right what's three four million dollars between menu right that Daddy quote the number that's showing really that he showed Abraham are you should know this is a real thing you know this is Rolla this is like Fonzie coin silver back in the day you know the money is real money right they went with the weight of silver the world good coins and bad coins what's good coins and what's bad coins somewhat more than weight was so so some already had damaged right they have scratches defects right pure right now the bad coins not every shop or not every businessman will take their coins he doesn't want it so when it says that when Abram gave him right four hundred coins what kind of a coin the good ones the best ones I won't have problems to give over so you see the idea guys right that if one is really revealing and showing what's in his heart when he said I take it to a free he really didn't minute because here you go he has the price fit right so and he says ah what's the big deal right between me and you such friends what's four hundred coins right aha that's why I says in verse 16 vaya shma Avraham and I've um listen what it means I've on listen what it means quiz it he understood by ishma over here just don't listen it means he understood that that's what f 10 like to get paid when f one is saying oh what's four hundred coins between me and you right so right he understood that that's the price that he would like to get paid for immediately gives them know ago she ation not starting a whole deal with him gives him the four hundred coins bye-bye gimme the cave the field and the field has an elevation right in verse 17 the field and the cave have elevation that now the owners Abraham are not f1 okay guys but that's the idea right remember is the matter is what you do is not what you took okay I'll just end up with this guy's in the chapter 24 right verse 1 it says that Abraham was older man right and God blessed them with all right and back call so what it means back all basically he had everything he was wealthy right he was making money he's rich he was honored he has a child he has a continuity so basically you have all pleasures on earth right god bless them with wool I was he making money how you were rich it was very rich got less than with the lots of animals cattle sheep goats cows um okay now but just the expression over here Abraham was old how they translate in English Rita miiverse a 24 one now Abram was old years and no sham had was they run whatever so Abram was old and what whoa years well on in years okay where's so if you read in a Hebrew in verse 24 1 the other Hamza can use older Bob by a mean what's bad by a mean coming with the days so what is it that a man is old and coming with good days could you be old and don't come with the days the ideas like this look very carefully he's older and he's coming with the days right so the question is could he be old and don't come with the days the answer is yes guys there's a story that all that was a guy went to some town and he goes to the cemetery and he looks on the tombstones and he says oh my gosh what's going on here this guy died 20 years old this 25 this 30 right this 27 this guy 15 so he went and he asked me what's going on how people died here so young so they told him no you don't understand we write only the years that he achieved that he accomplished and the people over here lived actually to lady 90 some made it 100 even right but the days that they achieved there's only like twenty percent so one made achieved he really got use of his life 20 years 15 years one was 27 so we wrote only what the people accomplished and they achieved in life that's the idea over here Abram when he's older right at the age of the years over here is around the 160 hundred and seventy he's coming with the face what it means every day by Abraham he accomplished he achieved that people that go through life and that people that live the life so when he's taking that Abram was all darkness coming with the day means he didn't come empty he didn't just live a long life you see the idea you have people that live a long life but not much going on in the days right not accomplished they didn't achieve so when he's saying that Abram was older he had a blessing that he lived a long life and he's coming with the days cuz he's lived the life he accomplished he derived everyday from life not just going through life guys have a wonderful day you