Rabbi Reuven Lauffer - Chumash Insights: Parshat Massei - Part 5

okay we're on page 932. um just just before we get going on the on the the la the last bit of the pasha um there is so i wanted to talk about yesterday i forgot to mention it but there's a very interesting idea you know that the the uh the torah spends a lot of time right if we go back to 9 28 you don't have to go back i mean just you know verse wise we're going from verse number nine all the way through to the end of the chapter in verse number 34. all right so talking about 20 you know 25 verses worth of talking about people that are really not such great sadiq right you know people that killed inadvertently manslaughter that kind of stuff we spoke about yesterday the idea of the spiritual level of the jewish people you know reflecting what people can and cannot do right so if the spiritual level of the jewish people was higher then this person wouldn't have been able to commit manslaughter because he he would have been a little bit more in tune a little bit more you know there's an interesting thing that there's for example emits for observance there are there are three different levels of sinning i guess i'm going to use the word sinning in inverted commas there's what's called mazed when a person knows perfectly well that they're not supposed to do it they do it anyway there's what's called shoygeek which is an inadvertent sin and then there's something called ones which is completely beyond your control right so for example let's talk about for example putting on lights on shabbos right so amazing is somebody who knows perfectly well that he's not allowed to put the lights on in shovels and he says you know what i'm going to do it anyway a shy gig is somebody who knows that he's not supposed to put the lights on the showers but he forgot that it was shabbos like a momentary you know it happens right we you put the lights on six days in the week it's a it's a natural you know it's just a natural reflex when you walk into the room that you flick the switch and he forgot and then there's another anointing that i don't know he never knew that he wasn't allowed to put the lights on to begin with right so he can't be held accountable for what he's done it's an interesting idea a person who does something amazing they do something on purpose so obviously they get the full force of whatever the punishment is and the person knows that he shouldn't be switching on the lines and shabbos he does it anyway so that you know he's going to have to answer to god in the the fullest form and he doesn't really have a leg to stand on the one who didn't have any idea whatsoever that was forbidden to begin with the ines so for him also what's that could you spell gonna say to him how come you put the lights on and shove he's gonna say well i never knew there's no there's no case to answer the one in the middle the showgig so he forgot momentarily whatever it was whatever happened he was aware of the problem and he he momentarily forgot about it he put the lights on so that person is also going to have to give an accounting to god right in order to explain why he did what he did and there'll be some form of a punishment as well so the the commentaries ask a very simple question why why if somebody has a momentary lapse and they forget that it's shabbos and they put on the light or they forget something and they do something they shouldn't have done so they asked why why would they be held account why is there some kind of a punishment to pay why is that different intrinsically from the person who never knew about it to begin with so the answer is because these things are supposed to be ingrained inside of us which means that if i have a momentary lapse it means that i you know i took my eye off the ball for a moment and then i did something that i should never have done actually you know what the idea that usually using a you know taking the sports analogy a little bit further i think we can we can all relate to that right the sportsman who takes his eye off the ball for a moment so what happens either the other side scores a goal or you miss the goal whatever it is right but the the repercussions of what you've done are going to be felt which means there has to be some kind of a spiritual has to be some kind of a spiritual accounting for somebody who did something that they shouldn't have done even though they can't be held accountable fully in the full sense of the word because there was some kind of a momentary lapse and that's what's going on over here as well which means that the spiritual levels of the jewish people are such that we're like i mentioned yesterday we're all attached to each other so somebody is able to commit manslaughter what that means really is that the person just above him obviously wasn't quite you know wasn't quite high enough spiritually and the one above him wasn't quite high enough spiritually either and you know up and up and up and up in order to pull the jewish people up so it's interesting that uh the bali a muslim he says like this the torah dedicates a lot of time a lot of verses to people who are not such great sadikin why is that so he doesn't explain but i i think i think the answer is maybe twofold i think first of all the torah is dedicating a lot of verses to people who aren't such great sadiq and they're not so righteous right in order to teach us first of all our responsibility to try to make people more righteous so how do you make somebody more righteous not by going over and telling him and and you know dictating to him and and and you know trying to control him but rather by our becoming more careful ourselves for for ourselves that will have an impact on other people as well i i often tell everybody you know i've never come across in all the years that i've been teaching here i've never come across anybody who became orthodox because somebody threw a rock through their windscreen on shabbos you know sometimes when cars go driving through orthodox neighborhoods it does depend on what kind of neighborhood it is but when they go through driving through certain orthodox neighborhoods so you know sometimes they get you know pelted with stones i've yet to come across anybody who became orthodox because their windshield was shattered by a stone on shabbos i've met plenty of people who became fruit because they were offered a bowl of challenge on shabbos right that's for sure which means that the way the way that we're going to have an impact on other people the way that we're going to be able to show other people the beauty of what it is that we believe in is by believing in it ourselves the stronger our belief is the more the more beautiful we find it the more majestic we treat it then the greater the impact on other people is going to be that that's for sure no so i think that's the first reason the first reason is that the torah is coming to give us what's called a little bit of musa right to try to teach us that if you want to have an impact if you don't want people committing manslaughter how can how can we stop manslaughter by our being more careful in our midterm observance the more careful we are the trickle-down effect again it means that the person right below me is going to be affected and the person right below him will be affected until you get to the person who could have been able to commit manslaughter but now he can't because everything's been raised up a little bit hold on just one second i think there's another reason as well though and i think the second reason perhaps is something which is maybe more significant in a certain way which is that the torah is coming to teach us that everybody no nobody's perfect right everybody's got inside of them that yates a horror that's causing them to behave in a way that they shouldn't behave and causing us to want to do things that we shouldn't want to do and maybe the torah's coming along to teach us that you know it's it's it's okay not to be perfect it really is we have to learn how to try to you know how to try to work on ourselves to fine-tune to become a little bit better than we were of course we have to do that the whole time but we also have to remember that perfection is something somebody somebody once sent me an email with a signature line on the bottom which says if you think you're perfect then you're finished and it's true however however you read it right it's true if you've been put into this world in order to try to reach a certain level if you think you've reached perfection and you have no function left here in this world at all you're done you're finished right i mean i think the simple understanding of the signature is that most people who think that they're perfect are insufferable and uh they're also finished right that's difficult people to be around but uh the idea of the idea of working you know trying to reach a point i heard once the most beautiful idea i wish i could remember which hasidic rebbe said it but slow mahamelech writes we should educate each child according to who he is and it's a very very fundamental you know parenting thing that every child is different it's something fascinating you know children come from the same space same dna dna pool they've been brought up in the same environment every kid is different so king solomon says each child needs to be educated according to what that child is according to who that child is so one of the khasirisha rebels once said like this if you take a look in the way it's spelt but when melech wrote it he wrote it without a vow it's missing a letter i don't know if you realize just how absurd that really is right to write hanoi which is to educate it's like writing education with a k i mean at least somebody realized that that was wrong everyone else seems to think that's fine but you know it's like it's like writing education where they're going to be hanoi and you you spell hanoi wrong you miss out you miss out a letter on the way so this has he said like this he says that we have to understand that when it comes to when it comes to education everybody's deficient everybody's missing something somebody who thinks that he's not missing anything is somebody who can't be taught somebody who thinks he knows everything right we've all had the misfortune to spend time with people like that right they they know everything you can't tell them anything they won't listen it's it's it's it's pretty bad right so here what does i think one of the things that is trying to teach us over here is that it's it's okay to be deficient it's okay to be imperfect of course we want to work on trying to you know to plug up the holes and to be less deficient and to move on and to grow great and to grow bigger but at the same time we have to know that pitching for perfection is not really going to get you very far at all yeah i'm sorry you wanted to in the example with the light switch and the third example of the person who was completely unaware and did it um but the fact that it was done are there wouldn't there be spiritual repercussions the same as if the at the um city of refuge one committing manslaughter beyond his control it's something he he just he didn't do anything to prompt or to incriminate him but it was done um there are spiritual repercussions it's it's you know of course yeah yeah for sure there are spiritual repercussions but it's interesting even in the case of manslaughter there are definitely occasions where a person may kill somebody else and not have to go to the city of refuge which means if if you are completely there you didn't do anything untoward whatsoever i you know i'm trying to think of an example which might make it make some sense but for example in today's in today's you know today's environment if somebody rushes out into the street and gets knocked down so who's responsible the person to rush down into the street i mean it's true that the person driving the car was one who killed him but it wasn't through the person driving the car was doing exactly what he was supposed to do he didn't do anything he wasn't supposed to do i'm talking about somebody who's walking across a you know walkway or somebody who's crossing on a green light uh you know uh when the traffic light is red and he's crossing and we're not talking about that we're talking about something which is really beyond the control of the person who did it so in a case like that then even even according to a lock in a case like that the person wouldn't have to go to the city of refuge which means like this are there spiritual there are always spiritual repercussions right when somebody somebody loses their life of course there's going to be spiritual repercussions that we can't even begin to you know we can't really begin to to measure over here but the the physical dimensions are going to be measured according to what happened who are you right so going back to the idea of the light hackers it's true the light has now been switched on on shabbos by a jew right has that got a spiritual repercussion to it of course it does but speaking in in in terms that we can relate to can god now confront that person and say why did you switch the light on in shabbos when the person had no idea that there's a concept of not switching on the lights and shadows no what the rabbis do say is that what god will confront the person with is why did you never why did you never investigate why did you never go to you know try to find out who you are and what your heritage is that's something else which means like this that that when it when it comes when it comes to answering accounting will never ask you to account for something that you're not accountable for right nakamura again person has no idea that he's not supposed to put the light on and showers you've got god cannot then say to him why did you do that because the answer is obvious the answer is i never know the one that didn't know you know wasn't aware are you comparing him to the four sons but she ain't know you'll love their head yeah maybe maybe he says a daily show from one of the four sons in the in the haggard on pesach night and he's somebody what do you mean any a daily show what does that mean it means that he's he's so ignorant that he doesn't even know that he's supposed to be asking about what's going on why would he be punished he's not punished uh it's spiritually something no no no i can't what no sorry again he's not he can't he's not gonna be punished for putting on the light because that's not something which was a part of his his uh his understanding at all what he will be held accountable for is the fact that he never investigated which bocal saying like this you know there are only a limited amount of loopholes over here to get out of our responsibility the question is what are you being held responsible for right there's a there's an increase you know there's an incredible measure so meadow says like this that elio navi elijah once came across a a fisherman see you know next to next to the beach so a jewish fisherman right so he says to him you know what do you do he says i'm a fisherman he says that do you learn he says no i don't learn i don't learn torah. so eliana he says to him why not so the fellow says i have the perfect excuse to give god don't worry about it i've got it all worked out so elianovi says to him really here let's pretend i'll be god you'll be you you what's he what's your reason so he said i tell you the truth he says i'm a pretty stupid guy god made me stupid so what do you know what does he want he wants me to sit down and learn torah but he never he never gave me the ability to be able to do it so i'm off the hook i guess pun intended he was a fisherman right so uh so uh eliana says wow he says that that's a that's a pretty compelling argument that's pretty good and then he says to tell me says to be a fisherman what do you have to do so the fella says well look i tell you the truth you know being a fisherman it's a pretty complex thing you've got to buy flax and then you have to weave nets and the nets the holes in the nets they can't be too big and they can't be too small because if they're too big then the fish will get through them and they're too small then you'll catch the fish you don't want to catch and then once you've got your net you've got to take them out in the boat and you've got to find the place in the sea where you imagine the fish are going to be and then you've got to drop the net down to the right level to the right depth and then you pull it in and then you've got to bring it back to the shore and then you can sell them he says you know he says i hope you i hope you're listening to what you say it says because the same person who gave you seiko to be a fisherman is the same person who gave you seiko to learn torah we imagine that in order to learn torah you need to have an iq of you know 180 and and you've got to be brilliant and you've got a total recall and if you don't if you if not then it's just not worth it it's not true learning torah is something that we have to do as much as we understand we understand but to sit and to study and to toil over learning torah that's something that everybody has to do so that's a that's a pretty compelling argument right when god says to the person who came up who put on the light on shabbos and he never knew that there was shabbos and he never knew that you weren't allowed to put the light on i couldn't sparkle's not going to say to him why did you transgress my shabbos he's just going to say to him how come you never went out to learn about who you are and that's a very very powerful argument you know the koska river one of the great hasidic rappers used to say like this it's true that ignorance is bliss he says but i prefer wisdom with the pain that comes together with it i don't know sometimes somehow inside of me i have this feeling that ignorance is bliss is something that many jews are happy to apply to their spiritual lives to their jewish lives but they would never ever do that in their professional lives right could you could you imagine you know an accountant coming to work and and not knowing anything about accountancy because you know if i did then you know maybe i would have to be responsible for what i do it's ridiculous right you ever ever seen you ever heard of a surgeon who you know has a has the uh has a patient up on the table and he cuts open his stomach and then he sort of looks something says okay what what now what what what is this what's this tube over here what does this do right no why how come it's something really it's something it's really something quite extraordinary the way that many many jews relate to judaism even though they're really very ignorant or completely ignorant but they've all got a they've all got a say about what they feel right you know again can you imagine you've got this guy lying on the bed over there and he's just been cut open and you've got a world-class surgeon who's like poking around inside of them pulling out bits and pieces right in the fella saying oh well i don't i don't think you should do that i like that but put it back in when it comes to religion though so the unfortunate thing over here is what we're learning is that you you can be as ignorant as you want about your religious identity but it's not going to help when you get upstairs and believe me when we get upstairs at that point you do not want to be in a state of ignorance you really don't you want to be able to say to a college barclay i may not have done very much but i did my best i tried i tried as hard as i could you're here you hear the difference right so let's say you're stuck in the you know in in in the middle of nowhere in the university where there isn't very much jewish life there isn't very much jewish infrastructure but you try don't always succeed but you try so for that courage bogus gonna be very happy you know what may shall we say that saying what made him say it he was giving giving parenting advice right that every child should be taught according to who he is the end of the positive is even more important in the beginning the end of the pocket says at the end of the possible the end of the verse says kin that why why do we have to educate each child according to who they are because as each child gets wiser he shouldn't abandon his yiddish cut he shouldn't abandon his judaism right it's very very important very very important idea of it really is right yeah what should i medic is teaching us is that the fundamental of jewish education is not to get a degree it's not to you know to to take another test and get another exam and get another a and another hundred percent but rather to invest in our children so that when they grow up they'll be able to carry it on into the next generation that comes after them which means that the the importance of education jewish education is is not qualification the importance of jewish education is the ability to be able to carry it through from one generation to the next and then on to the next one afterwards you know when you stop and think about it for a moment as far as we're concerned every single person is a it's a bridge between one generation and the next and in order to be a bridge between one generation of the next that means that you have to do what you have to have the the caleb you have to have the ability to be able to take what you've been given and pass it over to the generation that come after you and pass it over in such a way that they can do the same thing you're here it's a responsibility it really is a responsibility but that's what we're supposed to do that's what we're here for so whatever okay just say that let's move on 932. um now what's going to happen over here if you remember we're going to come across them right at the end of the patch but if you remember we had these five daughters of slav that they wanted they weren't married yet and what was going to happen they were going to be given a portion in the land of israel and what's going to happen to their portion right the tribes are now concerned what are they concerned about they're concerned that if these girls girls they were they were ladies they were in the 40s already if they receive a portion in the land of israel and then they get married to somebody outside of the tribe of menasha which is where they came from then what's going to happen to their land their land will now be transferred to whoever they get married to and then what's going to be it won't belong to the tribe of menasha anymore so the tribe of menasha of course is is very very concerned over here so they come and they say what's the problem everything's going to be given out according to a lottery and slavkod and his daughters what's going to be by you we're concerned that these girls will get married to somebody outside of their tribe and then what's going to be their nakhla their portion is going to go to the husband um and the total land of the tribe of menasha is going to be reduced it'll probably be even more complicated because it won't even be on the edge it'll be in the middle somewhere and all of a sudden punk you'll have pieces of land that don't belong to the to the same tribe anymore foreign and what will happen in the in the end everything is going to disappear from within our within our portion so it says moisture like this espana sol alpia shem lay more the moisture commanded the jewish people alpe hashem lay more according to the word of god kane mateb and a yosef that the tribe of yosef are speaking correctly yeah i mean monash's complaint is invalid yeah right zer davo ashativa hashem this is the word that god commanded live noists chat that i courage boca was telling them they need to get married they should all get married hashem they should find their bester they should find their zivagan they should get married but it should be from somebody within their own tribe that the land shouldn't disappear so rav gifter says like this go back to verse number five let's try and read it through again because there's something here a little bit incongruous that this is what god is commanding the jewish people then says the verse kane mate then a yosef dove rib that the tribe of joseph are speaking correctly you know i don't know it doesn't sound quite right which means that god has commanded that god's made a command that you should marry within your own tribe right so what difference does it make whether it says cain where's it gone cain mata been a yosef dover that they're speaking correctly that their lock has now been formulated right which is everybody here you ask what's the problem the first versus the preceding this has just explained to us what happened that the tribe of menasha came they said they're very concerned they don't know what's going to be and then a college bocal says you know what you guys are right and then it says cain mata been a yes of dover that they're speaking correctly but we know that if god is ruling that this is what needs to be done then we know that what they said is correct i've given to something else all together which has got it's not really it's not really got anything to do with the practical application of the halacha over here rav gifter is saying like this kane mate yosef davrin is a sign that even though god has ruled on a particular issue we still need to try to work out why right here what's going on most of the oral law right mishna and the gemara what's it taken up with it's taken up with trying to understand why the halakhas are the way that they are you know if anybody here of you if you're familiar with learning gemara so you'll know that invariably after a mishna what is a mission the mystery is the oral law what is the gemara the gemara is a discussion on the oral law right so invariably after the mission of the first words of the gemara very often are manani mili how do they know that how do the rabbis who formulated the inside of the mission or how do they know what they're saying if you stop and think about it for a moment that's a pretty that's a pretty outrageous thing to say isn't it what do you mean they're formulating the mishna what do you mean how do they know what they're saying so the gemara is coming to teach us what no everything needs to have a source everything needs to be sourced back to where it to where it needs to get to right so when they say immediately it's not like they're saying oh you know how do you know that but rather it's a it's a a question it's a research question how did they get to that conclusion to help that person give an answer oh so what what's how does it help me to know where it comes from and if you can get back to harassing i then that's that's the you know the strongest proof that you can bring right so what what's chat how does it help me to know that because the more i know and the more i understand and the greater i see the way that something is built the greater is my ability to appreciate what it is that i've been given you know if you're like me i am mathematically challenged no it's official well you don't look at me like that i i don't i don't mean you to you know to feel think less of me than you already do right it's such a thing as possible but i'm i'm mathematically challenged i really am along with all my other challenges that's one of them so when i was in school i never i never understood this really when i was i was just i used to copy the answers from the person sitting next to me so when we were learning how to do equations in school yeah you know when you get given an equation eighty percent of the mark is for the working out the teacher wants to know that you understand how to do equations right 20 percent is for the answer you get the answer right that's good if you don't get it right even but if you if you're if your logic is good you'll get 80 of the marks you won't get 100 because you can get to the right answer me being the lazy kid that i was and being mathematically challenged i didn't have time or inclination to when i was busy cheating right to copy everything that he was writing down over there so i just copied the answer that's all and i never understood this guy who i said he was good this guy so he came out with a hundred percent and i would come out with twenty percent and i think the teacher knew perfectly well that i was probably cheating off and i'm sure i'm sure the teacher knew you know on the rare occasion when he got the answer wrong it meant that i got the answer wrong as well the only difference is that i had no idea why i got the answer wrong but at least i was consistent so i didn't know why i got the answer right either are you hip chat we're being taught in math right we're being taught how to deal with any problem that might arise like later on which doesn't come in the standard mathematical formula of an equation it's giving us a little bit of life skills right which either you pick up or you don't that's exactly what our gift is saying over here kurdish boca who's saying like this in a lock it's the same thing could have told us here here's a list of what you can do and here's a list of what you can't do and just do it right but that's not enough akris boko wants us to plumb the depth of what's going on he wants us to understand why we're doing he wants us to recognize how to formulate to be able to formulate halocha you have to know how halakha came into being to begin with right otherwise how could you get up and say in you know today's modern age that we live in so how can you get up and say that something which does not appear in the torah in any place or any form whatsoever that it's okay to do on shabbos or it's not okay to do on shabbos how can you do that the only way that you can do it is by understanding how formula how formul how formulating halocha works if i know how to formulate halocha then i am capable of being able to work out what the halo of something is even if i don't know and i can't find a source for what's going on in the standard classic sources report it says like this you know the written torah is what the written torah is a skeleton you can't understand the written torah without the oral torah so it says what's the orator the mishna right says robhner if that's the case then the mishnah should be something which is absolutely crystal clear right if the whole function of the mishnah is to to explain the taurus of the or the written torah to explain it fully and clearly then every mishnah should be a hundred percent crystal clear we all know that's not true right anyone who's ever learned the very first mishna in the in the whole of shasta and the whole of the talmud begins with a question and then a whole discussion about you know may amos aiko and krishna when do you read the shma in the evening and there are three different options that are given no it's supposed to be clear right it's supposed to be something which we that that's going to spell it out for us in such a way that we don't have to worry so it says roughly the most incredible idea over here he says the first thing a person needs to learn when they come to learn torah is that without a rebbe they can't know and how does your rebbe know what he knows from his rebbe and how does his rebbi know what he knows from israel until you get to where until you get back to harassina torah is not something which is just being created out of nowhere torah is something which has been created out of something which exists already something which was given to us by kurdish boko haram sinai and now we have to work out how we're going to how we're going to use it how we're going to formulate it says gifter that that's a shadow with kane mata even a yosef dover you know what guys these guys they're speaking they're speaking good you know that that's what you're saying yeshivish he said good joseph come in because menasha is part of yourself right okay okay but you hit your hip shot so you say to yourself hold on a second kane mate yes they're speaking good why are they speaking good that needs to be your question why what so why they're speaking good why does it make sense what they're saying what difference would it make if the lab went off into a different into a different tribe why can't they get married to whether they want to get married to and then you start investigating and then the more you investigate the smarter you become the more wise you become and the greatest your ability to understand torah better that's all they're meant to say their question is correct yeah that's like but again what gifts are saying is that the phrase is superlative obviously if god is ruling according to what they're asking about then what they're saying is correct otherwise there's nothing to ask about yeah when they requested to spy out the land um they weren't declining that request right neither were they said oh what you're saying is good yeah so it's more of like not just a way of investigation it's more of a way of assurance reassurance that what you're what you're doing is legitimate well you're asking a legitimate whereas for the spies there's oh maybe that's an interesting idea okay maybe right which means that over here it's like wants to assure them absolutely you know what good that's a nice idea right that uh that instead instead of uh you know maybe there's a concern that people would be scared to come forward and to question because look look what happened back then right so kurdish spock was reassuring them and he's saying no no it's a great question the the only it's a night it's a nice explanation the only thing is that if that were the case then perhaps the beginning of the perhaps the end of the verse should be at the beginning and not at the end which is perhaps god needs to preface everything by saying kane mata yosef to him you know what these guys are saying good and here this is what we're going to do but for some reason over here they switch it around god says that this is what we're going to do right and they you know these guys are speaking good they're saying good you know what's good it's a nice idea here let's flip over the page let's get to the end of the patch of the lady so if not let the idea is that the tribes are supposed to stay within their own sort of tribal limits the whole boss you see if a woman inherits from her father again like stockholder he had no sons right so what's what's going to happen over here his daughters are going to inherit but if the daughters inherit then they need to get married to people within their own tribe to make sure that the land stays within the tribe this is the last verses in the whole of the book of bhamirbar and this is what we're really finishing the torah in a certain way it's finishing over here because i've shown next week we'll talk about the the status of devarim safer tavarian what it really is but the torah ends with benoit's love with the daughters of god this is the third time that they're being mentioned they're mentioned twice in pasha's pinhus and they're being mentioned over here as well and not only are they being mentioned over here but the torah that safer by midbar is ending with bernoulli's suffer which means there's something very very significant over here the tiene tierraco milka vanaya benoist so here first of all i don't expect anybody over here to be following this carefully but every single time that the daughters of slovkada mentioned they're mentioned in a different order twice in pinchas and once a week in pinchas we've got tirtsa the gnoya milko o and then the second time they mentioned in pasha's pinkrest it says tita or milka the hoglow or and then we've got noyah milka the tirzo so the gemara the kumar is intrigued about all of this all right it's a gemara where's it come on the kumar is in uh why is the order being changed around right on top of that the emma says if you look if you look very carefully you'll see that the vove some of some of the names have got above and some of them don't and right here so but in in the other places the valves appearing in a different order so the gemara bastard says like this that the first time they come it's an order of khochma the order that's given oh they're coming to ask a great big cash robber here akasha that masha obey himself is not able to answer and it has to be answered by god right so the order that's given the first time around is to do with their who's who's the smartest one there over here it's talking according to their age because over here is to do with marriage right they should get married according to their ages right however there's another explanation which is given which is that they were all completely equal and when you're equal it makes no difference what order you appear in and the torah is coming to be emphasized right if they appeared in the same order every single time and that would seem to it that would seem to indicate it was some kind of a some kind of a hierarchy over here right however they appear each time in a different order what it's coming to say is that each one was equal they were all as righteous as each other the emma says i don't know if you if you remember this stuff but uh moisha and aaron very often it's sometimes it sometimes it says moishe aaron sometimes says aaron vamosha and rashi himself says why why is the order switched around from time to time to teach that we're equal to each other right in their task within the jewish people right and they they were equal to each other which means that we hit the same kind of idea that they're equal to each other in their righteousness one last idea and then we'll see why in all events we're still we're still stuck with this white why does safa bamiba end with this why is this the last thing and then it's a very poignant moment when you finish a whole book right and the mitz hashem next week we'll start a new one that's all it's all very you know these are very very poignant moments so the question over here is why so the the matter she says like this i think i mentioned this actually when we spoke about banana suffer but it's worth hearing it again moisha bano was married and he separated from his wife in order to be able to receive prophecy from god the whole time that they were in the desert moishrabeno at the end of his life maybe there's a just a little tiny concern that he may think to himself you know what i was i was pretty righteous you know what i i'm br that's pretty self self can you say self sacrificial i don't know that's like a big self sacrifice right to separate from my wife in order to be able to lead the jewish people and it all right in order to remove any any possibility whatsoever that moisha might have a tiny trace of being prideful about what he did he brings him beneath slovkod who none of them are married they're in their 40s already they're not married yet because they haven't yet found husbands who are as righteous as they are it's a little listen my friend you separated from your wife but you know what you got when you separated from your wife you've got a you've got a an open communication with me 24 hours a day seven days a week it's probably worth it no these girls over here they didn't get anything out of what they did they just they're waiting in order to find suitable partners people on the same spiritual level that they're on in order to be able to build their homes together with you know what if you if you think you did good right they did even better than you and that's why it appears over here when it appeared in pasha's pin because it's not a question because you know that's the way that things unfolded the chronology they need to know what's gonna be but over here why is it being repeated again in order the end the very end of mushroom's life to teach him that to be righteous 24 hours a day seven days a week without getting anything particularly you know out of it that's something which is very difficult to do and then the medicine says that the the the the daughters of slavkan in the merit of their waiting and in the merit of their of their being so righteous they found within their own tribe they each one found their husband and they all established beautiful homes with righteous children but they all had to be from the same shaver yeah you want to come from chevrolet menasha they would have gone to another ship marry somebody that's it and the land would have gone that's it we should all be strong the jewish people should be strong the land of israel should be strong the soldiers that are defending us should be strong it's hashem we should only share good news together and it's hashem we're going to stop over here everyone should have a shabbat shalom it should be a wonderful out to mitsushima shabir and uneventful shabbos how about that and hashem will meet up as always over here sunday morning you