Q&A - How Severe Is Wasting Seed? Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz

this is a very very difficult issue the issue of wasting seeds uh emission of Zera latala masturbation typically would be the the situation and this is indeed a very very great challenge part of our challenge is that we're not able to follow kaz's advice I mean kazal told it says in peros get married at 18 uh if we got married at 18 uh this wouldn't be as big of a problem uh as it is but fortunately for various reasons we're not emotionally ready to to get married at 18 and I wouldn't tell a person get married so you shouldn't be I mean you have to be ready for marriage in other ways other ways as well so it is a sin uh this is the sin of a and Onan a and Onan were yehuda's children and both of them it said that uh they uh didn't want to Mar the beauty of Tamar with a pregnancy or on who was the second brother thought the child would essentially be the first brother's child and not his child so they interrupted their intercourse and the seed was spelled outside of the body and for that reason uh they were K of Misa so I cannot deny that it is considered to be an AA how strict is it so here we get into difficulties The Zo Kadesh in the in the langu in the literature of cabala they say this is like the worst sin in in the Torah Etc and there's not even cha but in like the writes that although the Z makes it into a very very bad Sin but to say that there is no Chua of course there is chuva uh there is chuva for everything and the the primary chuva comes by by trying to uh you know restrain yourself uh trying even if you then fail that doesn't negate G the Chua because you're on the road of trying to improve and uh the second issue is Li is said to be a very very powerful force now the say the following it's very important that even though you know I can't give anybody a green light for this I mean I can't I can't just tell a person it's okay but even if a person is know n it's very important that you don't allow yourself to get depressed or get in despair because that's another Yater there are two yaras in AAS one is the Yahara that makes me sin now that's the Yahara that says I got to give in to my tyus whatever it is but then there's another Yara that says after you sin you say I am so worthless I Am So Unworthy I'm am so no good that what's the point of trying to be better that Yahara the say is even worse than the Atara that caused you to sin in the first place place you fall off the horse you got to get on the horse again you can't uh can't give up and every attempt to try to be better in is very very Val valued byes I think has a saying I don't know what the marcker is they say the battle itself is the victory meaning the fact that I'm trying to be better that's a victory even if in a given situation I lose this is true for this and this is true for learning this is true for doing this is true across the board a person should never feel that their efforts are feudal and worthless and unavailing there's always you know an impr a way you can improve yourself and many have said that the zoar's statement I mean it's hard I mean I couldn't say it on my own but there are some that say this the Z statement that is the worst of a in the Torah some storm say this is a form of hyperbole a form of exaggeration so people should know it's a serious thing but it doesn't Mish mean it's the worst of a of the Torah right it's not again I I'm a little hesitant because I don't want to you know make it light but it's not as bad as the simple language of the zor would say