Parshat Pinchas: Leaving your Comfort Zone - Rabbi Eliezer Zeytouneh

[Music] so what everybody want welcome you thank you so much for joining us tonight wonderful class we have it so few there's a - M I think if I may say so myself tonight this might be the most important the most powerful know what sport in class now we've given since last week I mean for a while we all know Mike American teen rights then I can't so by cancer hypothermic - because it can't sent by kamsa because of seen a phenom because I've been so sacred because of Quarles because of fights because of discord we no longer have a picnic - and yesterday we had two fears and we might have two fists again in three weeks if we don't do what we need to do to rectify so we should all be so genocide the topic tonight we should all go home is that the Shem and figure out a playing strategy some sort of blueprint that's going to enable us state us to become better people to acclimate tack we as with other people and there's other Shem throughout phenom in three weeks we won't have to fist again this myself in class that was it very carefully such an important topic is it something that you're gonna have to take notes for Kobe King in no time last week's Parishad Sameer and Selam Cosby but soon start sinning penalize gets up let's go to the episodes are very ready here we go says the pleasure like this six pleasure via penalize banana banana Mikado class comes and who is the son of Allah saw the son of man on the Koran gets up he stands me talking I got from within the assembly V gamma beard oh he takes a dagger in his hand levar you see Celica Wahby culture damn right it comes to boats and me and Cosby and in unison a one time he kills both of them he stabs both of them at one time by the way they come when I comes and writes that at that point he lives them both up by the dagger and walks around my honey self to show everybody this is what happens to people they finally put a lot of work so that was last week's bonus job this week's photo chat starts the following way development sure more people cars bitter lies I been alone then I don't know kawin Peter Sciences Center villas art the son of I don't go in hey Shiva thought my team Albanese though he returned my wrath my anger from kinase a big animal connected it to him because he was zealous on my behalf vocally pepin a nice opportunity and because of his jealous miss I didn't have to be jealous I didn't have to be jealous and I didn't obliterate I didn't I late I didn't exterminate then he said well anymore therefore I'm watching it going I'm watching announce you know you know 10 long till if you show them I'm gonna give him my confident to peace so I have a couple of questions okay by the way he note in law at beauty show them so some interesting comes rights like this like this what does it mean anything you know - I'm gonna give up my confident to peace once I mean I'm gonna give up my deal apiece sesame Taj big Dino shake up Elsa at all he deserves his reward by judgement the man deserves his reward have a couple of questions question number one is what the puzzle tell me where he got up from why do I have to know pin classes original location when he went to go kill Jim Lee and Cosby this is so important let's not a GPS I have to know no you're not bringing out for me what exactly was the reason tried to tell me you guys got up me talk hey dad from the assembly what's your number one question of it - what's that I continuously report to me the people cars with the son of Eleazar the son of Aaron a coin I understand why he doesn't pass up in time in Paris up in cars as she writes that the people were barking class you're gonna come and go kill in the sea in Israel you know your grandfather was your grandfather was in thrall shippi Tim I got a Buddhist era he's a cup of worship idols that's your grandfather you're gonna get up and go kill a prince in Israel so it was maybe that wasn't what fine but on the other side he was the son of Eleazar the son of Aaron Cohen and therefore don't mock can class so fine that's why you say one time that's why you really do the grandfather ISM once but why if I said balik did also tell me that he's the grandson of another coin that's question number two question number three is what does it mean bid Dean was you compel sacado he deserves that reward you deserves to reap that benefit what do you mean Big D know what I mean in judgment he gets what he deserves and question number four what's lesson for me there's nothing in the Torah that's written nothing of cause down that's relate that doesn't have a practical application for me so if I'm sitting you tonight in there many people that don't generally come here tonight if you're it tonight is the reason why but anyone wanted you to come to this place there's something like you have to listen to something that God wants to transmit to you that's your resonate in your mind should penetrate your soul so let's try to understand what exactly it is everybody ready what's it very carefully so comes the Benny's flying and it's a phenomenal thing since we know we just described to you the violent act of pecans peanuts comes he takes a dagger he stabs two people at one time and then if that wasn't enough the depth that didn't suffice he then comes a live stem up and walks around the camp showing everybody how he'd killed so if you take a look at because you think because of the warrior it was Buffy was built he looks like rabbis if that's what you would think why does that make you everything I'm not puffing bill and that's what you would think if you think no one has a violent nature thing must be is such a strong person or an angry person someone's quick to anger so it's a quick to get agitated that's what you would think if you read the puss sucker face value so therefore the pursuit comes it says know who was king class been class is gonna Lazar get out on a Cohen patatas grandfather was known as mode of operation his way his standard his lingo his motto was Oh have some little tips on the family DNA was one of peace and tranquility in fact not only did they not fight themselves but they went out to make sure that any two parties they were fighting that they would make peace with each other that was the family lineage up in cars so don't think that Pincott came from a very violent family it's not true that's what it's all I keep saying bin al Asad get out on the Koran to say that don't think that because his family was a violent you know crew they were people very peaceful well get fine wait a second I know people where the parents are wonderful people and the kids straight it you can't say this just because the parents are wonderful their benevolent their client they greater generous they're righteous that Sonny came that the kids are automatically gonna be the same that they're automatically gonna follow suit so maybe that's what happened over here Troy on the Quint was what like pursuit piece it's older than I thought let me be his son maybe his son Street so they were the pursuit rights via called me talk Ida where was because when this was all transpiring when she meets a Cosby and they started sitting where was passed by down what's in it uh that was ready done it's sunny dream pink rice was one of the rabbi's the sunny dream he was a great rabbi in your shape or Harleen each time he was a simple person he was a very calm person so it wasn't natural for the class to get up and go do something the pin size did pin has did something that in life we have to do and that is that he left his comfort zone he left always come from the comfortable friend he level was convenient to him he'll have all was easy fin and he got up and he did something that he believed was right and that's why he deserves a reward because you don't get rewarded for things that come easy you don't get me one of the things in that facility you don't get me one of the things that come with no effort the more you exert the harder it is them what uncomfortable it is the less pleasant it is and yet throughout all you do what's right that's when you received the biggest blessing and that's what the pursue Christ padeen who he does and why because it wasn't natural hits a break loose had to go and he had to traverse when he thought was calm and collected and you had to go do what was right regardless of how inconvenient it was fan and by the way if you don't believe me that Ben class was a console so listen very carefully with the llama my panel says there are mommy call comes out something phenomenal who has been highest in a previous Gill go where the big guys come from is it the first time his mission I came to this world so listen whether I might be paddles are something unbelievable says an atomic final before pin cars came to this world his neshama was embodied in yourself your self at Sadiq also 95 in person but wait if that doesn't satisfy you who was yourself in the previous kill go yourself in the previous school goal was none other than no one since then I'm a beep Anna what was no one there are lies right no one had a wonderful attribute and that was that he was Noah there were not means poisoned who is Noah video there was no how I call him that's why put him laughing so much they know how much I've been out of line cuz he was a simple person he was very calm he was very easygoing nothing bothered him he didn't get angry so naturally potassium an impaired skill gleam was a comment collected person so for him to go and for him to commit such a heroic act took a lot of discomfort and that's why he's rewarded with such a great reward because he left his comfort zone he did what was not convenient what wasn't easy we had no facility and that's what I want to talk about tonight tonight I want to talk about the importance then we leave our comfort zone that we do things are not always so convenient not so easy and do what's right and we'll talk to you about how that is the only way you're ever gonna grow and that's the only way you're ever gonna succeed and that's the only way you're ever gonna become a leader are you ready that's are you taking notes good make sure you email them to me I have no idea what I do that second I'm done everybody ready everybody knows that there's a holiday a holiday when we come and we celebrate a wonderful phenomenal victory for anybody know what Charlie that is the holiday of Hanukkah who said Hanukkah oh good you want to give the cliff no okay one second I know the answer binary that's it something one second but ladies and gentlemen you think that was the only miraculous award the brain cell ever won was that the only time deputies till ever won a war with miracles does everybody know the story of Jericho right everyone no place L could not penetrate the wall the wall of Jericho was impenetrable you couldn't go in it's a forget it man there was no way Phil came to the award for 70s around the wall they started blowing so far the wall comes and it sinks and there's no holiday called Jericho ding why not why do they know how they call Jericho thing but beneath so one it's come to mama so time they wanted to go and enter a t-cell and as they want to go into t cell they have to go and in pairs of Jordan River what happened the jordan river splits says he cabana wasn't only a masseuse the jordan river split the coin team went through the race i went through and yeah i don't echo this was just the beginning of the jordan river how's he gonna get over so they come out right to the ironic old age came in levitated and my mind went up it came and it floated and everyone that was holding it went for his zipline ride across the jordan river unbelievable that there's no one jordan river holiday why not because those things took no effort there was no effort exerted over there so what bonito going a company circumvent the wall seven times in the board show fives in the wolf falls and they go and they win a war that's wonderful but there was no effort didn't have to do something uncomfortable but the Maccabees were rabbis they were coining a sanity Lantern all day they bit off with that all day they put Couture day that's what they were doing so for them now to go fight a war against the Greeks dad to traverse the comfort zone had to go do something inconvenient something they're not used to something was hard for them to do and that's why these are eternalized as heroes and until today we celebrate Hanukkah because they went I feel like it's December because we went and they weren't tears what they felt was convenient and they succeeded and that's what I want to talk about tonight everybody ready and go you know what the rabbi's bring a very famous story there was once a king and the King got a bodyguard you know you don't want anybody approaching a king take a look at Trump right president drop a Secret Service try to get in the Secret Service I need one of those guys by the way I need me away from Simon right I love you know I love you Simon right when he's sleeping what ticket so another thing say here ie the guy is the king is and he's walking and somebody tries to accost the King tries to come and tries to beat the King so share another Secret Service guy comes and he starts banging on the guys who's beating him senseless until the guy can't move anymore I think I start like unconscious thinking says thank you so much have a good day the next day the king is walking again but now the Secret Service is not available I guess he went to the Bahamas I mean the Bahamas and he's walking and as he's walking all he has is him and his assistant the guy who holds his wares and sure enough again another ruffian comes and tries to accost the King tries to attack the King and who's it a defendant surrender of this puny little assistant says he drops a little things and he jumps on the guy and he starts beating the guy up for the Kings looking in shock and amazement I can't believe it the guy's lying unconscious and he calls his assistant and says for you I'm giving a bonus so the Secret Service guy comes to saying that's not fair I see if you like yesterday why am I not getting you and the King says because you're skilled that's what you do yep you're trained in it you that's all you do all the time you practice it I'm not giving you such to do something that's easy for you the other guy adding something inconvenient something he's not used to something he doesn't do all the time and he had to get up and you have to have courage you have to be emboldened and that's why he's such a hero because he did something that doesn't come natural and that's what I want to talk to you about today ladies and gentlemen it's wonderful on you I take a look at this room this was so great and you people come every Monday night almost hmm and I would say the most you are religious all of you but are we doing things that are not in our comfort zone are we excelling in things that maybe don't come so easy to us they're not so convenient and I want to talk about that tonight everybody ready let's go because in the mastaba cowboy who knows the Mishnah and mr. Wright's been here here or Mia says been hanging there for satire like that the more pain that I feel when I do Mitzvah the harder it is the more challenges there are the more more uncomfortable I am the more inconvenience I am and I still accomplish that they ask the more we want I reap the greater it is because life is about taking these hardships and turning them into masterpieces taking life taking all the challenges when things are not simple and making sure that I grow from these opportunities everybody's confronted with uncomfortable situations I give you an example you know yes this Shabbat I was giving a class and when I got up from my class someone shook my hand and when he shook my hand I realized that my pinkie was numb there was numb and I looked and I'm a person they say in Arabic I a father oh ho you know what that means I'm scared for my life like you know and every little thing that happens to me I don't know what to do when I talk to my mother I talk to my wife and I talked to my I don't think my mother I told everyone else all right and so I figured um and I know what to do I'm going to doctor the doctor in my shoulders this doctor that says I don't know could you go like this chicken to check your balance they take the cotton like this I don't know what's going on everyone says you know what go to Urgent Care tonight good orgy care I said fine we'll go to Urgent Care so sure enough my doctor was closed he's not he's not in town so I go to Urgent Care and I'm sitting there an urgent care and a lady come and that she wants to take the information so she's sitting there and he says okay uh name Elias is a to knee height 5 min and a half wait none of your business right she says let's try it again wait I said none of your business she goes sir we're not playing a game here you know here to feel better and therefore I understand it's uncomfortable but you want me to do my job right you got a face of discomfort in life many times there are things that are uncomfortable that are obstructing our success obstructing our happiness obstructing our guilty to survive and we gotta make sure that we traverse those obstacles and don't allow those things to stop us can I give you a couple examples anybody ready here we go disagreements I did so time now if you'd sign them around I think about comes into the famous game around and everybody always says this camera we always call this camera ready listen very carefully that is should be occupy Cecilia Cuba each facie Zaku shaking up it in him man and wife if you have married it's a wonderful you'll have second amongst you man and wife if you have married you do what you gotta do shaking I my chicken I will be among step in the end wonderful believe the gentleman it's not easy to be so here for that shitty not to resign people think they're getting married is having it's wonderful I can't win until I give nari it's so much fun and the girls once I'm there five years older putting on wedding dresses and you should because it's a beautiful thing but it's not easy getting married is that I see some men are doing this right getting married is not your husband to take it easy it's not easy because men and women are very different men and women are very different you know I'll give an example nothing about myself kaduche in the fehb terrible death and they give out over their rights very hasta la cabina shell c Ha Na flu Lola there were ten liters of conversation that fell into the world to Charlotte's Luna Sheen nine of them were taken by women they are hot cold out on culo and one was taken by the entire world which means that women like to converse and they'd like to talk there's no we're talking now but they like to converse I have to have a conversation I have to know how your day was I don't have to know how you're doing and that's the way you're feeling that way and what you and then just don't care I don't want to tell you I'll give an exam thank you me you know me talks I call my wife and my wife gets on the phone and she's excited because I call them you see she calls me I call her honey honey honey the week great what's for dinner steak okay thanks that's it oh you wanna make you something else also no no that's all you called to tell me no III also wanted to tell you you know it's sunny outside today she was it honey pie right because she wants to hear more she wants hear about my day she was yeah things are doing she wants me we were about our day and I just want to work I can't do it so somewhere would be too me and her we need shake another come down so I gotta be a little bit uncomfortable and talk more and she's gotta be a little uncomfortable and told class and by doing that will bring body alignment at home it's not easy and it's not comfortable but that's why it's so rewarding that's why it's so great that's why it's so unbelievable and one second you know thinking around my second get teen now if I'm involved with her I think guys are the phenomenal thing I love this camera it's one of the greatest get mine eyes that ever told my boys and I teach my ninth-grade this game a lot every single year everybody ready Freddie you remember this get my not you I mean yeah in sight yet okay ready was it big a man turn or a banana I rabbis wanted a brighter honey I love in vain an old bean people they get embarrassed and don't embarrass others show me a Python van mushy bean they hear when they're embarrassed the little demean and then all mister placate or see Maya was speaking me Celine they act out of love and they're happy when they suffer I'll then I could do a little man Yoav up gets it that me speak for that time but LM sense about this person you're like the Sun in its greatest night you're as strong as the Sun in its greatest night wait a second so what does that mean I don't understand working you like the Sun so everybody knows the famous myth rush to the trash right that when what L I'm created the Sun in the moon they were both the same strength and the same size and then what comes to what LM says waiting God it's not fair you can't have two kings reigning at the same time you can't have two rulers over the same two dominions over the same Anthony what's gonna be greater and one's got to be weaker and this change Steve quiet the some kind of defended himself the sucker I said you know what why what one do it in the day I wonder wonder the night but the same potency the Sun kind of reciprocated he can answer the sunset nothing buddy Ellen says to the moon you spoke so mighty that's man what's in your light we can you light and the Sun you're gonna say the dominant son on one second I understand and it's very possible because if the Sun was given a reward for not talking it must have been difficult for the Sun to stay quiet it must've been difficult for the Sun not to answer not to respond not to reply why because he was rewarded and the Foom Solara the harder it is for you the more reward you reap you know I want to tell you the other day everyone knows my son yeah buddy if you don't you guys say way thank you and bite up my son is a good guy he's a nice guy and my son likes to compete with me and everything he likes it could be the basketball so since the time he's 12 he wants to try to beat me in basketball okay and we have a week every Chevy is summer I spend time my son and I don't let him win I'd beat him so now sure but he's 17 years old and he's beating me naturally but he's getting bigger and every year he likes to come and he wants it measure himself against me defuse if he's getting taller and he's getting tolling I eventually he's gonna definitely get tall for sure so let's finish about he said dad could we check all right let's do it sorry I get stupid as I we see in bent back to back we're standing back-to-back and sure enough the guys goes oh oh I think your son is taller by here now here you have a guest in my house who just made fun of me you know what I would doing him but I stayed quiet and I left it off I thought it was a dark I thought was a very funny comment it's great and I stayed quiet because it's uncomfortable and if it's uncomfortable it's productive it's great wasn't it what is it what about sense written by Rob Yusuf I am wonderful sesame yourself I am in such a case in such a situation when things are not so easy and some of the barristers you push it down and you don't answer back what somebody writes them is admissible MPP shot many varmint no mischief the Havel / if you don't answer back but it's okay little bit anything not only do you retain what you have you usurped where your friend has if you stay quiet you don't only get your portion you gave your friend's portion wait a second if that's the case I just got an insight what happened by the Sun the Sun in the moon of the same potency the same strength the same radiance the moon made a claim against the Sun the Sun stayed quiet the morning diminish its light but according to the finished I know what just happened not only the Sun keep his light the Sun actually absorbed the light of the moon he got it because it was uncomfortable because it was inconvenient because it was a hard for him to do how many times the person sitting and the mother walks him know what everybody you know makes fun of the mother moon walks in and she said then she looks it easy goes you know my daughter could have married a doctor so you want to just say you know what you're gonna need a doctor in a minute right what does that mean my my daughter married you one of my toughest chop-suey and he stay quiet the reward for that silence is immeasurable here at work and your pores demeans you he screams are you embarrasses you Democrats you and you stay quiet to stay silent you don't respond back so we wanted your mind is insurmountable and measurable it's through those comments you could become a better you because that is the foundation of every hardship in life of every challenge in life of every uncomfortable circumstance in life and I want to tell you there is someone in this room tonight which is doing this so I'm gonna have to say that okay who has a barbecue in her house now that she is hosting for her friends now are you canceled oh not yet they're coming yes leave was that what you saying so I'm gonna take away the whole example is anymore now you can go and she's here you know how hard that is no I'm comfortable that is how difficult that must be but she did it by the way save me some steak I'm coming right after class no I'm just joking back home just send it to my house Thanks okay unbelievable how many times right do I talk to people Joe listen tomorrow minyan it's so important that's so important but rabbi it's so hard it's so difficult I don't know how to get up I don't know how to wake up in the morning I really know what I'm gonna do Joe I'm telling you it's worth it you find it hard it's uncomfortable to wake up with them with that alarm that's exactly why you should do it cuz that's gonna make you into a person that's gonna develop you into someone great that's gonna show you the great ultimate success it's those uncomfortable moments that cause us to flourish in life or girl wants to start dressing up a little bit more modestly and you want to put on that skirt or extend a little bit why she wants to start covering up a little bit more but rabbi it's gonna be so uncomfortable all my friends dress the other way my parents are gonna make fun of me then you tell me I'm never gonna get married my father's gonna take a look at me and says what happens when I do to you what school did you go to now busy Tony's right it's gonna be uncomfortable and that's why you should do it coz what LM is pretending it with that moment with that situation Hashem wants you to utilize that and it wants you to be propelled into entirely different sphere unbelievable and by the way let's uh let's be honest ladies and gentlemen it's a beautiful room tonight really wonderful my question is tonight why is it that we can't do comfortable things why why can't I do things that are uncomfortable just maybe a little inconvenience so I can do it I'll tell you why many people don't want to put themselves into a situation of discomfort because they're scared that they're going to feel very scared they're not gonna make it they're not get a persevere they're not gonna succeed they're not gonna excel that's why they don't want to do things that are not easy for them because they're scared of failure and tonight I want to talk about this exact point this exact idea that we're scared to fail therefore we won't do anything that would sorry that's outside of our boundaries because we're scared we're going to falter is it look at their thought and their good theater something phenomenal so listen to this I'm not me together that guy whatever person wants to go from one level to the next level who listen to the following words Saavik Cielo yet edad called Amalia he's got a fool before he excels he's got a fall before he ascends kyani diet actually Talia because falling is only for purposes of getting bad oh and going higher that's why God makes you fool that's why God makes you feel that's why God makes you falter because you're supposed to use that feeling and propel yourself to the next level and therefore size of the kutiman on that specific potato when your person feels don't give up don't give up don't despair because ultimately God made you feel I says you try again and succeed you know what it's like so there's a new place I don't know if you have heard of it it's called sky Zone anybody ever hear of sky Zone with me okay Rosina okay sky Zone as a trampoline park it's the whole place full of trampolines right the whole place no everything is trampolines bouncing off walls this place you bounce off everything what happens in the trampoline and a trampoline it's the higher you want to jump the stronger you have to go down the more you go down on the trampoline the Boyar bounce right back up that's the way a trampoline works you know I once saw in a circus I forgot the guy's name I think was bozo I don't guys wanna pop oh so he had two names one of these guys and he would jump off the trampoline and he would do like a motorcycle thing like a bicycle and come back Danny we do another things like that so I was watching with my kids a circus I said do you think this guy is something watch me I could do it like it said yeah you're definitely a clown I've hidden sitting and Here I am skyzone and they get the sky Sox you know they I do you can't just wear regular socks you have to wear sky socks so I put on my sky socks and I tell my kids now you'll watch a real clown I mean a real jumper ready I thought jumpy and I'm jumping and like okay daddy where's the tricks I said it's coming up now anywhere the tricks as it's coming up daddy where the trick said it's not coming up and after they stopped jumping mr. daddy what happened to I said I don't want to embarrass the guy cool guy huh Z that's his job I can't put up the shame but the lower you jump the higher be fine people need to fail in order to succeed if you don't feel your success will be very superficial everyone here we go ice skating anyone nope people I ski right very good good I don't ice cream III don't I'm gonna be very very honest I do not I ski I get on I put on my ice skates okay and the second I'm on I'm the magnet on the wall and I could say Danny come get me in what give me and I'll help you or get out me I said the second you touch my end and I'm off dice you're gonna fall with me so daddy baby steps baby steps I said I'm in my 30s I didn't think baby steps in 30-something years so glad it destroyed and I took today I have no idea I ski I don't know how to roller skate either well roller skating maybe probably knee I never understood that you know there were some things called ice roller skates sorry no - roller skaters it has for not not the for this way as for you don't throw them out now they have these these shoes they're funny shoes the wheelies want to do that what is that I want to walk I don't want no wheelies but because I never got up when I failed I don't know an ice skate and that's okay when it comes to skating but it's a tragedy when it comes to life when it comes to life if I don't leave my comfort zone because I'm scared that I'm not gonna make it then you're guaranteed not to make it but if I do go into my discomfort zone and I try that's the only way you're gonna succeed now this get out when I saw this face shabak I was planning this class and God but it showed me this game and I listened to this game around they can actually found I must say my selling it the deaf man game over man sorry I'm an owl and they got rights like this ready right figure my on and at that moment on the when I am Kenya Sheldon a person cannot successfully learnt or not unless he feels first here I just said a person can't successfully learn on the stand comprehend internalized thought on unless he feels first cuz real success as a result a failure of going out on my comfort zone trying things that I'm not used to drawing moving in ways I'm not used to moving talking in ways I'm not used to talking that's how you become a person in fact I've just the rights a beautiful thing sensor of Destler when a person comes in mind colostrum cool mighty loud I'm over that cachaca zone if a person is faced with a situation it's so difficult challenges present themselves as being almost impossible they're not it's not something like duple I can't do it listen with Professor rights now I mean we shoes in Chad after Michelle K shame Elliott Lea a person has to realize it's only because of these difficulties that you're gonna succeed it's a difficulties in life it's a discomfort its agitation it's when things are not so easy not so fat so then I got a Trevor sit and I got a tryst kiss those boundaries and that's what's gonna make me a success wait a second where's these Palacios percent black purse up a lot but like hires bill um who was a profit to go crispy days now who is Bill on bill I'm was known as to how I wait to tell me I don't know what to my iron means what is it - mine - mine means the bill I've only had one good eye the although I was handicapped he was the first man document in the Torah who had a cataract do i man a cataract he was able to see but it was covered right the audience if time one second these words this kind you know an order for a person to be a prophet you gotta be a pretty only person not anyone could be a prophet you see guys you go on sometimes in the city okay guitar case open he's hoping they can throwing stuff over here by the way genius why is going people can hush all this stuff but you don't feel the things you don't just become a prophet you need to be only man if that's the case how do you feel I become a prophet Balam wasn't in greek he was an adulterer he was an idolatry but how did he become such a it's such a holy man how did he get the transmission from God by the way the rabbi's right that his nevah was greater than motion everyone says all yourself Oh Joseph right then whatever person to receive transmission you need at least one body part that remains pure Balaam had a handicap in his eye that means it's all I never saw anything evil never saw anything impure never saw anything in matters it was that failure that blemish that handicap that bill are possessed they caused him to become one of the greatest Navy me I never lived it was God failure that allow to become a legend okay funny rabbi I got you I got it I've decided it's not the Shem from now on I'm gonna pick you know what you don't have to pick everything pick one thing that you find uncomfortable one thing there are people that I know that don't have a compliment don't know how to compliment it's very difficult to them because you know they're jealous or because they think people you think of nerdy right it's uncomfortable for me to say something nice it's uncomfortable pick one thing that's uncomfortable tonight ladies and gentlemen one thing I'm not gonna ask you to pick everything one thing and work if it's any good - and here's you've seen use a little bit do it oh my gosh roots level I want to tell you some when I started observing Halabi sale I decided one day you know I was a big yodel guy I love yodels you know I'm at the old the Drake the old oh the thing with the devil doors oh my okay right see myself but all that was is it's like kind of hidden in this world KitKat gave me okay oh I wanted a break like every five minutes I loved it and then nacho cheese I know you know that stuff to death like again I don't I do ready one second haagen-dazs Baskin Robbins myself you with another director now right there he said my stuff and now I decided I am NOT gonna eat it anymore how laughs tom is off my menu and yes it was hard and yes it was uncomfortable and yes there were many times where you go to someone's house and there they would have bagels and tuna that I don't want and eggshells I don't want and finally challah cream cheese empty up Philadelphia I said I don't say I got some James J stuff of it have you got Jane Jane what is that it was uncomfortable but guess what I'm still alive and I'm still eating only I love you Sam and I think that it made me a better person I think it took me to a higher level but that only happened because I do think they're inconvenient so pick one thing that's hard that's uncomfortable that's inconvenient that's a struggle and tonight no Windell tomorrow but that's that's convenient tonight let's decide to jump into this comfort zone and become better people but how do I do a rap on one of my steps what am I supposed to do well tonight bears out the shame I'm gonna give you two steps two steps ready number one write the order T on this is a beautiful thing all that John says I'm really too many called over Paul Anka everything in the world Jiali devar hashem echad negated the hose otro sitter Dava once my mind decides to do something once I am resolved wanting to say ugh that's it nothing is gonna stop me you always do what you think what you decide you gonna do again not I'm gonna try hey you coming Monday night I'll try what do you mean I'll try if they dig through a hole to get to me what are you trying me that I need to know what that means out wrong without try what that's right basically means no it means I'm trying once you decide you're gonna do something you do we have to really decide I decide tonight I'm only wearing skirts or not me I'll be very big problem okay but I decide tonight only bake yourself meat I decided tonight no more leshawna but it's a decision it's not a frill idea don't you do it so that's step number one but step number two isn't if it's a high and then everything comes this is a beautiful thing person wants open up a business what's the first thing you do when you want open up a business you go to business experts you go to people to guide you gotta open up a business person wants to go and buy a house what do you do you get an adjuster you get a big to come down right yeah if someone comes in to valuate oh just go willy-nilly a buy a house and therefore if I want to do something and change myself and do something that's not so comfortable maybe go to someone to guide so step number two is I gotta find a friend I can't be done someone I look up to not down to someone I look up to that's going to inspire me to excel and ask him to help me find strategies a plan away a blueprint to help me succeed and by employing these two tactics I'll be able to go out of my shell and out of my parameters and out of my comfort zone and start really building my life so really being what I can be you know it's funny but in America they have a slogan be all that you can be where no one's ever anything anymore be all that you can be in the army why can't I be anything and all that I can be sitting on my couch why not why can't I be all that I can be sitting in the a/c listening to rabbis at 20 because think you're letting yourself down you're not uncomfortable you're not struggling but in the Army you struggle and you fight and that's when you could be all that you can be so let's go back tonight and make a list of all the things are so uncomfortable inconvenient bothersome I pick one and then call my friends and say listen this is what I want to do can you help me and by doing that why are you step down on that trampoline and board a olam comes and propels you to the greatest of heights to give you peace and tranquility in your life to give you a real good law just like middle class went totally out of his nature zone at his comfort zone and was so carefree him and his children forever to be corny imagine the buses we could repress our children and grandchildren forever imagine the shell and bite the shaky now we could bring it down home imagine how beautiful the blessings the light of radiance of the Sun we could have all it takes is two steps but don't try commit to do it tonight and just watch how high you can jump I think you all for joining me tonight but underlying all that and then [Music] [Applause]