Parenting: Coping with Jealousy - Rabbi Avraham Halevi

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death and this is what i said jealousy maybe the wall jealousy we know the borders of yourself and jealousy make a noble heart just because we're yourself you have say father Calvino he gave him better clothes he gave him more respect he made him is a love beloved child and that caused the bodies to Hayden and sell him an almost killing and for that we suffer till today but this distinct this character of jealousy starts from the beginning of creation what do we see it we say to the Sun and the moon and a sham created the stars equated the Sun and the moon in the same level and they were supposed to light to beat the day the day was supposed to have to two-thirds of light but after the moon came to a shame and said how could he be two kings in the same time how could two kings all on the same time so a sham said you wait so you should make yourself smaller so he took her light completely and he gave us some light of the Sun and that's why when the past hook speaks in the fourth day your mother vain the Pacific speaks first says email would welcome i buy you a mobile cache memory ir lry your friend we are silly machine a miata giggling she made two big lights so that first there were two big lights but then it says 8am al-ghazali machete young with a mohawk autonomy a little like all of a sudden this one became big and this one became small so having tell us we learn from here when a person is jealous he doesn't win he loses supposed to make him on this day the moon wanted the Sun to be small & sham said no you be small I think my lima said who let me see that even though I shame told the moon to be smaller but still he gave the moon all the stars and a shame said that every was holy Sh we have to sacrifice a goat siren Zim had the hetalia shame we have to bring one style hot at la shame means a shame says give give one sacrifice of hot odd for me I sinned I made a mistake because why did I create them the same of course it's going to cause jealousy so I made a mistake so every was chodesh we bring a coal bangla shame kiwi a hole for a shame that sham says bring a carbon for me this is I think the only time that there is such a thing that a shame says bring Ecobank for me in the books we see they say that we learn from here that when a father the buchs is done for example of the mother versus daughter o son and there's a fight and says why me why not this why not my sister when I my bother why not didn't we always have to know that sometimes we caused the jealousy most of the time we caused it somehow that there is jealousy between the waters so what do we do we learn from a shame shame says few jealous of a you start to complain you the one to give up if you feel while why you give her the same okay so you take less but in the same time you caused the jealousy so you have to somehow make the shallow left I a Soto like a shame toward the moon I'll give you all the stars and I'll give you a messiah l agree model that says chance le saca vivino the vid everybody is like the moon I'll give you a Miss rail i'll give you a lot of other benefits for being smaller for giving up you're giving up you give up your candy you're giving up something i'll give you something else don't worry and we have to know that for causing jealousy we have to also suffer ways to also give as for forgiveness for doing this this jealousy in with ranch we see that the Sun was also fighting with the moon not only the moon was fighting in the dr says that also the son was fighting with the moon and saying I'm bigger than you and they were finding who is began who is more so why the sign wasn't punished why was only the moon vanished so it's difference between fighting between the kids and involving the parents once you come to invoke the parents somebody comes to tell about his brother the one who comes to tell is the one to lose is the one that they have to give up later will understand it a little more but when we go a little deeper than this the mistake of the moon what's the mistake of the moon the moon really came we're asking why do I have to be how could you make to two kings in the same time she said the right thing what's the mistake the mistake is there is no 2 Kings over here it's not talking this is to slaves to servants this is to seventh of a shame this is not to kings and a person feel like that is the king then is jealous linnaeus jealousy how could it be to kings but when there is two slaves or hundred slaves to all have to look up on the King above so they all the same it's no problem to be the same if you are serving me and he is serving me and both of you have the same light what's wrong with it the old problem these two stars is that they felt they are the kings this is a big mistake and you have two people on the show when they start fighting and have questions why me why him why I didn't give me a Leah why did it start fighting when there is feeling that there are kings but when everybody knows its place but there is a king above there's no reason for jealousy we all have to support the higher king so many times jealousy is a result of people or children giving too much respect too much attention when children feel the tail kings then why he is getting why this why always he has questions why why why you got more why I got this sometimes giving too much attention or too much respect too much places is not good we landed from Patna right partner Hashem said kill her I eat it's a dick live on iPod or Z shame told Noah I saw that you were righteous Sadiq but it oh I tell us that no I was etched Sadiq damn him he wasn't only it's a dick it was a complete addict so why I ashamed in and telling you I saw that you are at the dicta me why didn't I shame tell him it's not so good it's not so good to give too much respect to somebody and his face you could say it behind his back it's good to say more places behind his back but to say to him you have to say poses no question place is very very important we're going to learn about it but when it's too much it makes them a little bit java want them to become a graph done and that this is endless of problems the middle age says this is a persoo can miss lane soo Qamishli you know Muslim army lahore the book miss lane unbelievable safer to learn so this episode over says me faneca Aldo finek me no la Vida mojadito Emma noon very helpful so what the Pacific means mechanic and English is what we call spoiled if you spoiled your slave me finek me know when the flavor is young you already spoiled in a hurry toe at the end this slave would not be a slave he would be the king he would be the commander so the spoiling is it's like English spoil is really spoiled a causing this kid a lot of trouble in his life endless problems when you spoil the kid that's why we had haga sucat not long ago what is a shame tell us by hal su coche you know what I took you out on me trying I put you in su coche put your intense if you put us in villas ah give us beautiful cottages villas I don't know ok beautiful thank you so much we'll make it you should remember you should memorize that we came out to meet women a shame gave us villas when he's trying to tell us now sukkot shame is telling us how to educate ourselves how to educate our kids how to teach what's the right way to teach what's the right way to begin life marriage also what's the right way to begin marriage with the villa richness know the best way to begin is with small apartment rented apartment somewhere under the ground I don't know basement huh walking knew the best yeah this is how you start life the best way to start life because they say how you connect people connect to each other when there's not too much cash mute involved soshim says you know how did I begin you yo nation for the years and desert we were together we were like a family we became a family united family because we lived in a tent believe it or not living in a tent you become a family and before I continue a creation and we get to a highly- soon there's another story very sad story of somebody who killed one foot of the world ah coda of the world who was that kind Mike I'm killed his brother so we know there's a demand haha kind in heaven for people he killed his brother it's like one quarter of the world he created turbo why I killed him cuz it was jealous why was he jealous for a good reason seems to be when you read it to one he was just for the good reason but the good reason says the Torah that these two brothers went and sacrificed to a shame in a shame he accepted the koban the offering of heaven and it didn't accept the one of kind and kind is the big brother and ashamed in and accept his co ban the fire came down and took the koban of heaven not a kind kind was very upset how could it be that his co bond is not accepted so it was very sad and a sham came to him and says why why you so said lemon of lupine a holla mohalla la alemana flew panera why you so upset you should know I limitative said I'm not ET la patate hut hut at of its a shame told him listen if you change your character you'll become higher than you bother and if you not you'll go down and down and even though I shame spoke to kinda shame himself spoke to kind kind did not listen he kept his jealousy when he saw his father the other day he start arguing with him any children he killed him because of jealousy so here we see went to borders from one mother of jealousy they could go and kill each other and even in this week's parasha parashat no no I had three children he wanted to have another one he said three not enough I need another one that's going to be my helper for later I mean I need a young boy to help me is a 601 years old his old man he wants a child young child to help you to create a new world here to build so he's going to go with his wife and get another child so what are we drinking whatever happened honking ha me son came and did something somehow damaged his father in a way they couldn't have any more children why would he do this to his father why would his son do this to his father says Rashi what Sam said what my father's gonna have another child now 600 in one years old he's going to have another child did it two brothers kind in heaven couldn't agree about this world they were jealous about how to split this world now we have already three children another one is for how are we going to do it side it doesn't want his father to have any more children he did whatever he did by the way he had four children himself hamed for children and Noah came out after he woke up came at Noah and cursed his for child says if I don't have four children you for children you for children would be asleep because he needed somebody to help him he says you for child would be this late so what do you see again the second scene if you could say in the world is hump damaging his father why would which character we talking about kina jealous so let me ask you a question every time I have a new baby we have a new baby in the family so my father schlitter shemesh mulatto he says what you gonna do why he has its more brother or sister it's gonna be jealous he's so cute he's so loving and so this is so happy and everything what's gonna happen tomorrow maybe another child but then later he comes and he sees the kissing each other happy playing it together the not jealous oh-ho sure so what do you do that kids are not gonna be jealous most of the time many many feminists dicey 90 and there's a new baby the one before goes crazy bitsy math whatever X we are crying breaking every child is something that he does doesn't sleep at nine wakes up every child goes crazy when there's no baby in the house this is from creation what do you want we learn even animals to a sense that you're not allowed to use the ax show Mohammed Anki together to plow right when you play took two animals we have to take the same either two acts or two donkeys we can every game mix them it's a big scene why what's the difference i'll just be plying the ground what's the big deal so the show name explained that the acts as you know you choose gun minzy it keeps eating even even when you finish eating it takes the up and down again and again it's an agent is but the donkey doesn't muncie it's it's over yes big more so what happens when you play with them together the donkey looks on the ax and he sees that is huh eating he's eating and I'm not the donkey is walking plowing he doesn't eat and the other one is eating so my master yeah that shoko no ho raha more whose beloved the animals know who feed them Dunkey get jealous why he gives him more than he gives me why he fits him more than me he could die on the spot I'll kill that something is going to happen jealousy is terrible a shame says do not cause jealousy between the arcs and donkey so of course not to cause jealousy between two brothers turbo so how do we do it one is getting more attention is a new baby the mother is kissing him all day and all night text him and feed him from one side to another side and the other kid is going crazy not well how will I to have two kids I don't know even we find jealousy in creation kind of jealousy the trees the the earth with the shame tell to the earth to bring trees what countries it's furry or separate a shame told the earth to bring up trees that the tree himself could be eaten could have it tastes a good taste its belly or simply that they the stock himself today it should be with a good taste and the else did not listen and what its ads are separating now it's very right why because the elstead i'm going to create a tree like this all the animals and the people are going to eat me I let them eat the fruit enough not to eat the trim sell more than that the big scene of the world which is huh it's a dad hava have I men she ate from the food fine she wanted to why she went and gave it to Adam you wanna see it's ok some people have desires so desire you eat but after she ate the desires / / why she wanna go and give it to her husband she knows it's an olive do you know the answer jealousy very good she is worried a shame is going to create another hubba she'll die because she ate it she'll die because of it a demolition is gonna marry another woman till here is she's she rather him die then get an animal you know another wife and I do I know she ate jealousy what did they in a harsh tell her how did in a hush convinced her to eat what did he tell her shams she said no shame said not to it what did he tell her Fotolia is very tasty but he said why would she eat it he told her kyo di lui kiama for semi-main ov-10 que lo in your debt over so I she explains that then a Hodge daughter is true a shame said not to eat I know but you know why did a shame say not to eat and because you now lad to it because he is jealous of you it doesn't want you to eat from it because he ate from this he a bond o Shah Alam he ate from the tree and that's how he became God and as he so he's jealous doesn't want any God any anybody else to become a gun so he told you not to eat from it if you eat from it you'll be like like a shame we 10 kilo him you'll be like God if you'll eat from here you'll be able to have so smart you be so smart it's a dot you'll be so smart that you also know how to create the world oh the made sense it made sense to her that a shame is he's what jealous he's jealous it doesn't want you to eat because so that's that's how I know she was she has the character of jealousy because if she thinks that God is jealous is because she's jealous because we have a rule call apostle be mama few thing about somebody or something it's who you are that's why you think everybody else is the same so she is so jealous over damned if he's gonna go and married another wife and let's go a little deeper why did then hush wanted her to eat from it why what'd he want put it in a husband then a hush wanted to marry hover he said she's gonna give it to add an atom will die and he'll marry her that's what's his husband so everything around this creation is or what jealous this is deep deep here causing us all anger garvie running after money running after everything in Mesilla to Charlene he says if people didn't have jealousy people will be so happy in the life so happy not just happy peep everybody would live like the bed wins it says everybody would be so happy to live in a tent and have like a donkey outside and some chicken and some days this is the best life why everybody is running to have big houses and they have to clean this all four floors and clean and Jared and so many clothes and so many days and changing all day and laundry and Longinus and close and closing why because the neighbor has the same this one has the same so everybody wants to be like him and this one wants to be like this and it and that's how we became so we need there if we need to move right we need not just one trailer we need a few trailers there for family of three people if you think about it if people didn't have jealousy they didn't have to make the wedding's so expensive about mitzvahs and everything else everywhere I think sometimes I see Bar Mitzvah people make about Mitzvah I know this guy came to me and asked me for money for help and he once had but Bar Mitzvah I go to his Bar Mitzvah say why this guy as rich for two hours is spending so many so much money feeding all these people have the food goes to the garbage order for what and people for example sitting now in America and Europe in all these places working day and night or because they want to have money in the same time the children are learning in public school been learning days because she they don't know Hebrew they don't know how to wait they don't know gamma why they don't know nothing there they're not in their family they live the parents they lived everything they go to live over there in order to every a few more dollars it's all because dip dip is ever called jealousy he wants to be like this he wants to be like hell inhale this guy went to America became a millionaire he also Graham become millionaire people who owned the real life of themselves just because you know I know if you know about this person but probably you heard of him he's a guy by name dudu topaz nah he heard of him it was a sock on let me call it huh like a movie star okay make jokes and it was very very rich person and yeah he got married a few times if you any committee that he went to play was the best it was always like he had the most rating ever and Israel most waiting whoever would he said everybody knew every joke he said everybody I spoke about so famous he got a little older with other players getting close to him so he tried to get rid of them send some people are not to do pick them up of something so they don't bother him he should stay so he ended in the jail and then he took his life he died in a bathroom and one of his jokes one of his comedies I don't know I was told he said about other people he meant himself right this person has this and he said all these beautiful things that the world is running after he had everything and he still wasn't happy riya Musha and this is how we ended his life young age so a person could have money cars houses villains woman this everything he wants but if he didn't walk on himself he didn't walk on this character which is built in US which is called kena jealousy never be happy so we see that a shame created asked like this because he put it in the elf he put it in the animals he put it in everywhere in the Angels even even the Angels how come him said but jealous it says that tastes so a demolition that he was so holy so they said he's gonna win us he's going to become favorite over shame more than us so they came to the Nahash and told him look look hava lookup beautiful she's do something to a damn yeah with all the angels so even the Angels have jealousy they don't avenge a jealous between themselves but they have just between them and us that's what the emulsion explain dangerous that we are better than them so if everything in the creation has jealousy what do you want from us so look at this what do you think which well should we look for the solution for the medicine for the clear well well what should it be written huh well of course in the Torah but where where should I look to look for cure I'm looking for a cure when a shame created Adam right when he created us that's where we should look for the real solution because you know that Adam was created after everything else and everything else already had jealousy so when we come we built from everything else that we before us so haha what we're gonna do we created from the earth and the water and everything else that everything at jealousy even water jealousy and I shan't split down the water the water was all on Shah mine he took it down he split the water from the above and data in there and under so they start fighting why were you here and that's why you see the world all the time and they're the waves in the ocean trying to come up John to come up all the time so have him say because the water is going to him what did you put us here we want to go back up so so where is dancer vo melalui now say Adam bethel maine whoo kid Newton here's the answer well shame said let's make Adam let's make a person but Salman whoo kid mutant like our figure this is very hot pursuit to explain in English but let's look at osh now say Adam what's the word non sarà what does it mean let's together now say it's fluid now said them let's do let's make a person who is telling a sham with a shame telling to the angels the Angels could do something they could create a damn why is telling them look at this alpha P shallow sea oh BTW rato even before that the beginning of wash now Sarah invent an auto shalaka doors bahu lamagna mika villain for me how a shame is humble shins amber and he says let's make a person a wife wasn't a shame Hamburg before everything is generated before he says well you're my lucky me i didn't say na say he did I said no me fije Shaddam with mu tamala he viet can o bo levy Harnum luck buying a [Music] person right a person who beat mutt mal up a person is similar to an angel and a few things not like animals the angels are not jealous of animals they not jealous of anything on this creation the only jealous of us because we able to speak we able to do a lot of things that they could do place a shame etc and because of that they are jealous of us so what did a shame do so they won't be jealous what they do involve them he said let's make a person officialdom with muta melaquin because the person is similar to dangerous wait can oppa they will be jealous of him if you him blocked by him yeah that's why a shame came to them and said let's do it together what do you say let's should we make a damn what do you think he involved them in his decision to make Adam I think this is a solution for life I thought about before I know this that's why when i saw this rashi i read to sochi many times I never realized that he is giving us a way the beautiful answer how to raise kids without jealousy I tell you what I do before I know even this but I thought it was the logic we have a new baby shot ova so what I do I go to all oh and I bring my kids to the hospital everybody is welcome from the youngest to that door and go we all want to see my wife of course and this and the the newborn but most people the right way say no no no don't bring the kids don't make them close don't touch don't diss don't so this little kids they come they was so happy that they had no button by all of a sudden the terminology is more expensive is more important is more delicate and whatever then you and you not allowed to touch this is the first step to jealousy you should do the opposite okay wash your hands whatever you have to do you hold the baby you let him touch him it feel will the baby feel that connected I'll get him dis gave him this get his pamper get his batter gatos you make him involve every day it's also a lesson not just in the hospital yeah this is just the beginning but when you come home the kids supposed to be friends and supposed to be involved you have to invoke them and then in the life of the new baby they have to be part of it so much that then they're gonna say enough but once you put them you separate you say no don't touch don't come close is the King now here's the king I was the King and maybe another lesson over here here in Israel especially it is a nice min hull seems to be nice that woman gives birth and either way my husband goes and gets a somewhere for a few days to go to third stone rd call this beta flama this vacation base arrest some rest in she needs rest to ask it's very good but it's also very dangerous for the other child the other child in the house when it's too long without his mother in a we don't know what he walks on his brain something then when the mother comes on again starts some distance the child is angry in his mother he gets angry and gets this and get jealous that the new baby took his mother way so sometimes you wanna really to recuperate but you come on you get more headache than you believe or violin of a month with this node with his dad child that gives you a headache non-stop so if to really think had to do it in a way they won't be too long has to bring the child over there able to do I don't know different things that this drive would not real that he's separated from his mother so long it's enough the days that she's an ass but is already but what I really meant is for the the next child you know for jealousy I'm talking really about the jealous but we have to work hard to let give attention to the other child and as I said involve him just like a shame did a shame said I have children which the mother him the mother him is the children that you've already had it says I am pointing now another another kind of angel a small one but they're gonna be jealous of me what should I do I'll talk to them so even before you came you give birth even before you talk you talk to the children and you make them a part of it what we're going to call him what we're going to do but which one we're going to give him where we're going to put his clothes but everything and rub them with everything that you're going to do won't be any modulus the engine is and as I said we're going next week business from the end of this week is gonna build a heli man so a holy men oh she comes to her husband Yakko and she doesn't give me a child and if you don't I'm what did she say if you don't give me a child I am dead so yeah covino get upset this is what you want I have children you don't have children would you want for me taha tell you my name and Amir play button me many Roman an iguana what do you want from me I have children you don't have children so what did she do what did the hell do I the way you remember ahead she a day chief ha she had a servant she took a servant Bilhah and gave it to Rocco and she said all I Beniga manaphy me Mina she says I'll be built from her she gave him bill ha and he had a child from bill ha and after that the hell give birth also and she listened to her hair and she had yourself this is the story over now very hard to understand Yakov in she asks you give me a child would you tell her I have children you don't have children what you want she goes and she gives him villa what's going on it look at this there's a passbook before before she came to a common told him I'm dying if you going dog you may try them dead there's a pursuit before you know where the pursuit before says pursuit before says Vatican a hey bajo de and her hair was jealous of a sister how come she has children and I don't lie she said she was jealous of her good deeds and etc but still the some kinda tall assets come kind of jealous she comes to our coven and she says listen either you give me child I'm dead what did she say dead because Michelle O'Byrne who told us this lesson Midrash says Elmo cherabino Mashaba know before he died he simply told a shameless in a shame I want to live more my mother you have it was still alive when Michelle died you know that when she was hunting in 20 years old and his mother was hundred and thirty when she gave birth doing so makes us born Howard she was when he ought to 50 Masha told ash a machine my mother she already buried two children Miriam and I want now she's gonna bury me I can't take it give me more time give me more life a sham said you know what I can't because this is the time of your shoe are you sure has to be now the king the leader so what did what she say why she say ok let me show a bit a leader and I'll be student chef said ok you want to say sisters be student you'll be the student of Yahshua that day a shame came down to the Mishka any called Yahshua and was a cloud between Yahshua and machine when she couldn't come inside yoshua came out Michelle him you sure what did the Sham tell you what the prophecy you got today so you're short on misshapes excuse me when you you used to be the leader you the perfect did you tell me what a shame told you know so now I'm the perfect and I cannot tell you what a shame told me right away Michelle said Miami taught below kinna a hot is better to die a hundred times and not to be jealous one time I rather die than be jealous such bad character if I be jealous of my student it's terrible and I cannot do it I rather die and that's why he died same thing happened with her help hey as we know she gave to see my name and she did everything she had no jealousy whatsoever of a sister she was willing to give a sisterly ah yeah covino so a hell is Emma Burnham semi-hard she's supposed to be a happiest woman because the person has no jealousy is always happy that's how you know not jealousy because the person jealous he could never be happy he's got only make-believe is happy but he's always thinking looking at this guy right sohail was Emma Burnham Samaha because she has no jealousy she gave her she was willing to give you a cop too Tula but after when I had four children and she had no children what did you feel what is not happy jealousy we takin her bother when she felt this she said I rather die yeah Cobb either you give me a child was finished och och and software is the problem of not having children is not mine because I have the plan is use you have something that you have to fix a cop was not it was a shame it it was a true man detained Amelia co Yaakov could not like he said the truth I I am perfect I have children it's you the problem what do you mean what's my problem what did you say you want to die why you wanna die because you have jealousy so you know what this is your problem that's why you have no children shame wanted you to fix that to create a level of jealousy that even you rehanne have to collect when when a sham gave you the test of a lie ahead we're giving this in my name given this getting married you pass this the test ok but a sham now raised you level and it gave you a bigger test what's the test now let's see she has children and you don't now what would you be jealous she had some something shamsul you see yo havena told you see this is why you have no children this is what a shame want you before you have children collect this and what did she do by the way how did she collect it she gave her husband hell servant that's not a sister than a servant because a woman is jealous that her husband is going to take another woman so not just that his sister is there now a servant is there so even more jealous she should be but she says since this is my problem how do I collect it I work on it who lie beneath me Mina this is how I'm going to be built be built this I when my person is working on his me dot when it's better person is working in me dude that's how you call it I that's how you build up yourself you becoming a better person but in the safeway are cut off any images for myself or Kabbalah which is called galley Elijah which the student of the reason to love the Ariza he says who was born after this from our head yourself your self is gay materia 156 which is gamma Tauri akina yourself is D'Amato yukina jealousy and all story the life story of yourself from A to Z is all about jealousy this is of the galoot tablet and everything started so the Guardian hacia says listen to it this time that it says Vatican era el bajo done this is a short time I don't know for how long was it some time hey jealousy from a system for this time with jealousy between brothers and yourself yourself in the bath we can oh boy arrived in all jealousy that came up it's all a result of kin are between the two systems so a small little very very little jealousy that our parents have aa becomes very big in the children if we don't work on ourselves huh what's going to be with the children so parents have to first of a walk under me Dodge before they gonna start walking in the middle of the kids the children if you show you children they here and they see that you fight with your sister you fight with your neighbors you fight with you mother you fight with this you fight with this and yea and my parking spot and this and this is mine this is you this is mine this is mine denied kids Hills mine mine in all day what you want for him to do but if the kids see is you know the Mishnah acids in a vote she literally Michelle hahaha zoomy that though mine is mine is you as yours is me that's dumb this is dumb what mine in mine us use this is perfect hundred percent perfect person he is supposed to be a judge in Supreme Court if a person who could go to 11 the mine is mine in yours is used in eville stills it should be in supreme court by the tall asses are coming said same access dome and it's done they said it's my parking spot it's my house am I this I have I have a dog outside no don't come in beware of dog mine is mine uses field I don't touch use and you touch my hoes bahu this is nothing this is da muah muah this is when a person gets used to mine is mine it doesn't share this is this is how even to people that have the old world kinda never to people just in the old world cannot get along because mine is mine is yours you saw what is mine what is used