Our Family, Our Strength - Principle #24: Educating to the Fear of Heaven - Rabbi Yirmiyahu Abramov

we continue in the twenty five basic principles of Jewish child rearing we are now in principle number 24 educating to the fear of heaven now we know that in Judaism the concept of year our charm am having fear of heaven and fear is not terror fear of heaven is all of having respect of heaven now this is something that is an integral part of of a Jew a Jews personality as a child develops more and more a fear and a connection with God and a fear of heaven and this gives him the inner strength to handle all situations of crises that may develop in life everybody's facing challenges now if the child feels that he's got a strong sense of connection and attachment to to our Creator to a Shem then he will always have a confidence you'll have an all over confidence around him and that when things happen which are not so pleasant he'll say the classic Jewish statement no Ximena shamim this is from heaven I'm sure this has got some good cause it's developing a very specific attitude and that attitude is something which will accompany when when something negative happens in the child feel as well that was meant to be I'm sure there's a good reason for this that's um this is all rooted in Europe shamayim it's all returnees basic belief now the primary source of a child's yerachmiel is from his parents he's constantly you've said this many times parents should feel themselves constantly there with spotlights on them they're being watched very careful every move of there is being watched and is going to be emulated so parents should feel a real sense of responsibility particularly in this area and when something goes wrong then a the family are going in there miss Abbas now if the reaction of the parents is one of of anger if one of expressing things in a in a very negative unbecoming way that's a message that's a message to the child but if the most of us are the father of the mothers as well that's minish am I'm that was meant to be I'm sure there's a good reason for it so the child will will internalize this message whether you're going on an outing and there's bad weather so to speak there's no such thing as bad weather that's the weather that a Shem is brought into the world for that day with all its good reasons but bad weather doesn't spoil fun so we'll say okay bad weather will do something indoors but they have to feel all the time that everything is being orchestrated by God and Anna Shem is with us at all times he's guiding us he's watching us and this is something which parents if they keep expressing this and children keep hearing from from their parents expressions of of such belief this will become inculcated and part of them and this is one of the greatest gift we can give so therefore let's verbally express our belief in a shame our belief that a shame is controlling our destinies our belief that he is behind everything and that everything is for the good and parents who demonstrate this by in speech and in action this is the greatest educator to you Rachel I'm you