Married Forever! Parshat Ki Tavo - Rabbi Yaakov Asher Sinclair

[Music] statistics show that almost as many couples get divorc nowadays as stay married there's been a five-fold increase in prenuptial agreements over the last 20 years more and more couples enter marriage with fewer and fewer expectations now the Torah acknowledges that not all marriages will be successful and it gives us the mitzah the Commandment of gushin of divorce the concept of death as to part is not a Jewish idea the tal says that when a couple gets divorced the M the holy altar weeps how are we supposed to understand this idea of the M weeping nothing in Judaism is merely poetic so why should it specifically be that the MB the altar weeps why not the tablets of the Covenant why not the ark why not the husbands to fill in why not the wife Shabbat candelabra probably the greatest source of marital dis Harmony is misunderstanding the purpose of marriage the secular Paradigm enshrined in every fairy tale from the brothers Grim to the brothers Metra golden mayor is that the princess finds the prince of her dreams she finds total fulfillment in her prince charming and he finds everything he wants in her beauty Poise intelligence money someone who puts the top on the toothpaste marriage is not about finding someone to fulfill you it's about finding someone you can fulfill marriage is no more than a machine for giving marriage is about living the principle that I'm not the center of the world in the book of basus in Genesis the Torah says it is not good for man to live alone when you live alone you have only one person to give to Yours Truly the world revolves around me I am the center of the universe the mbak the altar is the place where man so to speak gives to God man gives of his best and he offers it to his creator the word Coran woefully inadequately translated into English as a sacrifice derives from the Hebrew word karov meaning close to be close when you give you become close when you take you make yourself distant the Torah tells us that no Corban no offering could be brought on the altar without the presence of salt salt is the archetypal Giver salt has only one purpose to give taste to something by itself salt is nothing when a person sees himself as salt when he sees the whole purpose of his existence is to give he's added the vital ingredient of success to his marriage he's added the spice of life right