How To Respond When Your Spouse Complains - Rabbi Zamir Cohen in English (AI)

if we delve into the minds of men and women the psychological analysis can assist and promote marital Harmony in the home why is it hard for a husband to hear complaints from his wife a man naturally feels responsible for the house he feels like the head of the family and therefore wants to make sure everyone is happy at home when he arrives home and his wife informs him that she is a experiencing difficulties with the children work and other matters she is unaware that she actually desires attention however he perceives it as if she is attacking him as if she is complaining about him that he is not okay she doesn't mean that at all she just wants to express what's in her heart but for the husband who feels responsible for the house he feels like she's attacking him she tells him you're not okay I'm under stress all because of you to defend himself he tried tries to show her that the situation is not as serious as she thinks he says the situation is much simpler so how does she respond he doesn't understand me he doesn't respect me he thinks I'm not doing anything and I'm just complaining so she tries harder to show him how She's suffering and how she's contracted more and more illnesses in the past 24 hours this creates tension between the couple but a clever husband when your wife tells you about her difficulties exaggerate them if she says my hand hurts so show her that really her whole body hurts not just her hand if she tells you that she didn't get along with one child so tell her I don't know how you manage with all the kids when a woman realizes that her husband understands her that he stands by her side it calms her down when a husband comes home and his wife says she has terrible back pain and he tells her I think you simply had a hard night night and you didn't sleep so well he assures her that the back pain will pass by tomorrow this reaction makes her feel disrespected but if he says to her I'll make an appointment with an orthopedist the back is very fragile if the spine breaks a person can die I have to book you an urgent appointment right now suddenly she'll say the situation isn't so bad you shouldn't overreact suddenly she's healthy and she's blossoming everything starts to fall into place she just wants you to understand her and share her pain she doesn't mean to attack [Music] you