How to Deal with a Child who Doesn't Want to Go to School - Rabbi Refael Ribacoff

rabbi Ribicoff what if a preteen or preteen aged or kid does not want to go to school what do we do with them these days you already said we don't lock him in the closet anymore correct can I take that back I guess I agree a hundred percent robot classical what he said just I had a different dimension to the whole the whole question I think parents get nervous when Chavez want to go to school what's going on maybe the word about you know going off the D going off with Derek maybe there's issues and religion and things like that that they also get turned off but I think a lot of these things they don't happen overnight it's something that's a it's a it's a process that that takes time and as a parent I think that we're missing out a lot of times of really communicating with the child being there working with them when it comes to homework when it comes to test studying spending time with them and in talking to them and to find out how are they doing in general you know how is the social life are they getting along with the school what's going on in this why you going to the parent teachers conferences to find out from the teachers you know how the child is doing again it doesn't happen overnight that the child you know let's say it doesn't like school or spelling or having issues and problems it's something that takes time and if you're not an active parent and being there it's not just having kids and that's the end of a then let let the wife they care about the school take care of it and that's the end of it you still have to put in a time and effort into raising the children being involved in their lives when it comes to the day to day growing up of the children is one thing that my wife instituted many years ago at the beginning I hated it she would take out the kid once a day at a school and have a lunch or a snack with them in the middle of a school time and for me it was like I'm paying tuition why are you taking the kid out of school I wanted to get every minute as they can once a year once a year but then over time I noticed that the kids look forward to it they they love that special time with the pen brush and we do have a big family and it's it's you get lost in the shuffle sometimes and when a child feels that you're special I wanna give you one-on-one with mommy with daddy you know the child feels great they feel they feel like they you know they want to succeed they want to make mommy daddy happy they want to be there for the for the parent and and and you build up a rapport with them you have a connection with them you have a you have open communication that they shake you know you able to talk with them because you don't want them talking to their friends you don't want them talking to the computers you don't want to get things off the streets if you're an active parent and they know they have where to go to when they have their issues I'm gonna have the problems of the struggling into whatever it is in life they have the channel where to go to that's you and you'll be able to talk with them and to give them the right a scuffle the right advice the right tour perspective on what life is all about instead of getting it from the streets or from a fun places which are which are you know immoral or just not not problem for them to hear or to see so if you build up that connection with the child you'll be able to get that that connection with them and understand what your responsibility as a parent is and this way hopefully a child you know one day won't just wake up and then decide they're you know they're having their issues a problem you know you'll be on top of it to be able to control before it gets out of hand [Music] [Applause]