Getting Ready for Purim - Rabbi Yosef Palacci

[Music] tonight we are going to speak about simcha I want to make sure everybody in this room knows the definition of sometime it's a little module on my end I heard this alerted help from Russia from Pincus and we're gonna discuss it tonight first of all it says mission it Masada might be missing ha now everybody knows notice when it comes to Alf it says mission across arms what does it say me Martine bit some huh we minimize the simcha when it comes to poutine when it comes to add our mission Abbasid on Martine base simcha we add simcha if you do wish you should just know you always have to be in this state of mind of happiness always now sometimes you have to hear music sometimes you raise the volume sometimes you lower the volume you know a person has to know he's always singing is always on the same hot stage sometimes you gotta raise it sometimes you gotta lower it but at the end of the day you Jewish you know you should be lucky you know understand everything is somehow this month might be Mitchell ha now what is this sim ha they answer this question I'd like to ask you a question it's not a trick question you ready do all pigeons look the same if you would look at a pigeon and you're looking at a pigeon do they look the same don't use your head too much I'm saying they look the same to be honest you have a goldfish yeah you have a goldfish you know you know when you're playing the I don't know yet your kid Windsor or you when you were a kid you came home look on when they're jellyfishing ordinator a goldfish in the bag and he have fun usually usually usually they all look the same correct they all look the same they can elephants an elephant yeah okay maybe one's bigger than the other but at the end they all look the same every elephant what's the same every tide was the same every Lyle it's the same but when it comes to Bernard down when it comes to human beings you see they don't look the same every face how many people are in the world how many people know huh eight Billy eight billion people I had eight billion people now one person looks to save imagines today I know someone's thinking why bye bye I know a twin they look the same okay twins maybe they look the same okay but I'm telling you now if you look and you take a look out of every single you would be if I were to give you a pen and a paper and I would tell you draw me I'm gonna give you five things eyes ears nose mouth some eyebrows some hair and I'm gonna give you a pen in the paper I want you to draw for me with these five items a billion different types of picture with these five things eyes nose could you do it how many can I do you think you could do you know how everything is amazing and out boy l olam what ad and he created every human being with a different face I ask you why why that's a shame have to make it you can made everybody look the same almost the same you know everyone's totally different you look around here I could see all the faces if you look around the face of it and we looked at different face this person never face difference but there's different faces but why Hashem could have made it just like the picture has the same everybody everybody looks of it what he make like that tonight you can hear the answer you ready now I like to say over it says for the Sheva better Hodes you know a guy gets married you know he's excited in this that one of the things that we say in the shed but a hole every time we saves the moon for the hot on what do we say never there right chucko chucko just some carbon or know we always err in the Z moon that we save Britannica la sha some husband or know that this happiness here before what is this happiness that I shed has extra special that is Catan and calah huh what's this special what what's the uniqueness let me explain like this if you buy a new suit if you buy a new suit there's a piano on the new suit you say sugar honey you got a brand-new suit nice suit I'm talking about you're very happy you're very excited this is Chicago on a brand new suit right now if it's expected I so don't want a good one yet so so my question to you all is my question to you is when a person has something new he's usually always happy for example a guy gets a new house he's very very happy right he's extremely happy but now if you look you take the same guy after a month or so or sometime he gets used to the house he needs something no he needs something fresh you know and I don't know wealthy guy over some people you may make fun of a very very wealthy guy what happens every three years he changes his old house he redecorate his all I'm talking about from the from the floor and up he has loads of money changes the whole tile Jake what are you doing if you would walking down I would love to sue this house what are you doing you crazy house like this you changing it all up you know why cuz he got used to it he needs something fresh he's something you know what a new restaurant opens up or something no no I excited I wanna go check it out something new it's different it said it's a thing or let's say for example a he douche you want how I heard something new tonight so it gets you excited right and if you walk just to tell you over hey douche of the Torah listen even ha kadosh but who has a special simcha when he hears somebody says a new I do SH and I'm really over says over here the Zohan he quotes and I really she called me loud the Mila every single word parity today me P ha down anytime a person says that he does from a human being Kadosh Baruch neckla hashem kisses it uma Atala and he puts a crown over the skadoosh when you dance with Natesville he creates a world in shall mine imagine that you hear what you say he do is just no and shall mine you are creating a new world a new world why something we never heard of before wow so you see that something new is a simcha say you know he do you get a new car alright you just get married how for how fun is it the guy is flying it gets engaged right I think it's married he's so happy ed today but at the beginning at least try at the beginning he has that some Chi as that happiness now why are you saying somehow the Modoc let me be very very clear when you get married right take yourself for example you have children or you yourself Hashem put you with parents and you have no ideas growing up your entire life you're in your house you think that no ideas you hearing me this you that you know and then finally many years later you get married and you you with another wife another spouse and they come with this marriage with different ideas that they came from their parents and together in the marriage you grow and the Shabbat table it is totally different than your own chapati but are you used to why is that because your parents guarded it one way her parent started another way she wants to put her ideas that she got from her parents you want to put your ideas on the Shabbat table that you got from your parents and together the Shabbat table is a different Shabbat table and you know what's that some car that I said is having when you're getting married shot some crappy mano all the time he's happy can't wait why because there's something new in the service of a shed look at this you stab a couple there I know you Shabbat table every weekend or Shabbat table but now this eternity collide they're getting married they're gonna make a whole new Shabbat table Hashem is ecstatic now don't get me wrong he's happy with your Shabbat table also but the difference is the hedonic Allah just made the Hindus in the world they just made a newness and when he had something new it automatically brings simcha it automatically brings happiness to put it all up wow it's a whole new take you bet the shell-bed brings the only thing Wow yeah that's why if you look further you see many people in life how you know we we ask the question why is it that every face is not looking the same every face is totally different you know why I let you with this there was one great rabbi and his student came and he said rabbi if I had the brains like the Shaggy's RA and if I had the meat there like the Isola showstopper with that if I had the heart to stop stop and he said the rabbi told them Hashem wants your head Hashem wants your heart and a chef wants your be those that's a great lesson that we have to have in life because what you can do I cannot do and what I can do you cannot do and to life you have done the same like a dog for whom once you are good at the shame he really has done a person's service anybody is not a person the way he's serving at the hospital cool we don't have to be a copycat we have to create something new those for whom new needs to see that simcha you understand that's why you look successful companies how do you have the successful companies I'll give you a hint you know somebody came over to me tells me rabbi it's ridiculous I'm working for 30 40 years I finally got my company to where I want to get to and then it comes one guy and creates there was nothing suddenly a little bird he created something new in the world overnight billionaire how.what because he created something new and if you look at all businesses what happens every business once the carbonara guy or what do you do even this what do you do only this omelet is this they can't be the same exact thing oh you don't want to succeed in your business you're right there is a certain foundation they ask that have but more than that you have to create in your mind things and I'll give you an example everybody knows Yahoo deeds you ever hear of you deeds you did was the times in a Conca and she was the daughter of Johanna Wayne God or the law was the law was anybody who gets married he wants to get married any girl any lady that wants to get married has to go first with the general is growing general imagine a Jewish lady oh she's ready to get married oh I would say come on tell you before you get married you gotta go with the Jewish jetan guys know what the gory general you gotta go with the Greek general judy's she starts getting married and they don't listen you gonna go okay nope well you know what she does she goes she feeds him some cheese gives him some wine he gets a little bit tipsy he day she takes a sword cuts his head off but you didn't do that she didn't finish you by the way she helped the head put it in a bag went back to her brothers open up the bag it sounds gruesome right well this is the end of the story right what and the generally he wasn't doing the craziest things he was doing and she cleans the bag she opens up the bed in front of her brothers and says if I had banished my yob to do this and I did this you will have stylish Maya to go out to war and to fight the Greeks and guess what that was the beginning of the victory of Chanukah one lady she thought of something new she said listen everybody's falling for the same same same she and what happened I'm gonna think outside the box for a little bit and I'm gonna think how I'm gonna do something different to save my Jewish brethren and guess what she did she succeeded she went out and trust me it was very hard for a lady why do you think Elena knows that if you think I sort of just chop someone's head off that was hard fun but she said something new that nobody tried before and what this is what I believe is gonna save Crawley's rail she went ahead she had the courage she went ahead and had the courage and guess what she got see a finish Maya she succeeded something totally no Robert I when the point of the Jewish Shiva came out of the womb or two and he was on his way to building a yeshiva in been a block on top of a mountain people thought that he lost his marbles more than all of the specialists even say mama Israel is like advance don't think like it was like you think now you're going every block it's jamming and pumping and amazing imagine you go right now when you see nothing nothing in a place zero who seasoned with some grace glowing and he points to that he'll today grace and says on that mountain will be bad what are you talking about shut up cuz II there's that no he had a vision he had a goal he stuck to his goal and guess what a sham gave him extra oughtta the shmaaya that he succeeded in making one of their greatest yes she bought of all time and do you know how many people tried knocking sense keep their whole drama what are you talking about what are you doing impossible impossible impossible he said this is my dream this is my goal nobody starting me and with ash MC astonish Maya he succeeded guess what he thought outside it wasn't just anybody Isis about that a shame you have no way of serving a shame I have my way of serving yourself of course don't get me wrong there's one foundation I'm gonna speak about that soon there's one foundation everybody has that but I'm talking about outside that foundation person thinks how could I improve how could I do things that could change there was a lady a block and a half away from me and all I know was my wife was going on a constant basis once a week she was going down the block to this to this lady's house so what it what are they doing what are you doing they open up a book a surfeit let's say it's about emunah about happiness about I know being patient about being good to the husband I don't know but the bottom line is once a week she would go and guess what this radius such as who because this is the what happened my wife said oh you know what it's a great idea she comes over to me she says how could we don't do it for the ladies in the shoe my shoe Bucklin we said how come the ready isn't true don't get involved in this situation once a week I'll go by my house I'll do by our house and she won ad and she said you know what we're gonna try something new now in the shul you know what we're gonna do of course he wants to meet with the rabbi of course in the to show what they do they came up let's make once a week shoot or not for ladies but it's gonna be a little bit different we're gonna open up the book we're gonna read one page one page at the same and everybody's gonna speak of what they feel how could they improve and this and improving bad and this and that I guess what it built so much that let me tell you a true story it built so much that one time she said this next two months we're gonna focus on Hill hood NIDA and they spoke about hopeful Nita and a few of the ladies that were coming to see or were way way off the data they had no clue about Nina and one of them in the she wore heard she wasn't sure want to use mikvah night she thought when a second she starts seeing the damn seeing the blood she dips today no guess what 13 years marriage she didn't have any children if the hearing that she was doing mikvah room that next time she went she got pregnant amazing then how did will stem from one hey douche oh you know we have to do you know everybody's doing oh sure you know what to do in the house we're gonna do once a week she ought to die for the ladies it was something men went outside the box in the house saying one page speaking about it something's you can develop something new Mahara Todd is blocked he moved to Murray Park he comes over to me Sunday morning he says Rob I can understand you're safe you know the stairs at one says he understand this one guy in my block he saw a bunch of little kids running running all all Jewish little kids running down the block back and forth says one of these guys wanting just playing I'm not doing nothing on Shabbat just running running running like like like like craziness he took them all with his house he broke gushers he broke fruit by the foot he said them all down he said everybody's gonna read one day lemurs gonna get gushers fruit by the foot and I'm gonna tell you a story up to the King until today every week every single week he's doing that why cuz he thought outside the box and guess what that brings Hashem extra some ha that brings a sham extra some car and don't think that you cannot do that don't think you cannot do that everybody in this room could Mecca there's something in their life and that's why I've news for you that's why we don't look the same no one will look the same because a sham wants something new from you what are you gonna do different than the other guy didn't do what are you gonna do and now you might say oh I want to be very specific now it doesn't have to be what are you thinking all I have to make an organization or I have to make a shoe I have to make a bet with that if you want to do it cool girl oh look a book but if a person thinks you know what it doesn't have to be the whole world has to know when this it could be even small things in your own home even small things in your own home I will tie I'll give you an example of an example somebody came over to me once and says it's me rabbi I want to tell you something very very special so what's the what's the very special thing what's the very special thing so that I never told this to anybody now I'm gonna tell you what happened but before I want to mention one point of the Mitzvah that I'm gonna tie in now through this story Magilla read the making lotta state Megillah in the beginning of the making laughs you look what does it say it says where was the hospital where did he put his kingdom where Shushan you know what all the machine ask I don't understand it was really supposed to be wearing my venom why by mail because although the Kings were from Marvel why are you - oh Sh why are you changing it to go to Shushan for what you know it's me - says Midrash says that he really wanted to sit on to someone MELAS throne but there was a problem because if you know so I was thrown they had different types of animals on the steps so he was scared maybe the animal will attack ah - oh Sh so he hired a bunch of guys from Persia and told these guys listen listen right now what I want you to do build me a duplicate the same exact one as ash the one manner what do they do with a building after they build it she tells him okay bring it to Bible bring it up about the rebelle well look at all the kings up but either way well guess what it was too heavy they couldn't transfer even possible say impossible okay if he can't bring it no problem I'll baby and he moves all the way to where the shoe shine now that is what happened but in essence really really really really it was all because Mordecai was living in Shushan and because Mordecai was living in to Schad that's why he moved to whole Megillah is also makgulli how do you spell Nagila man gimel you'd love it hell yeah man get Mohammed a right if you change the vowels and Iguodala on the bottom instead of May which is the same a right Magilla it could also spell make golly what doesn't make a they mean to reveal you know what he soup that is that means deep down Hashem was revealing to us was all because of Mordecai and he revealed it later on you see in life a person has to understand whatever you do in your home don't think it's not being recorded because one day that will be revealed you all have a megillah' that's going to be make a live to understand what I read you can make me laugh yeah danila you're safe big leather van to make you laugh like he'll make you like they said and everything is written down whatever you do that means if you in your house and nobody sees you and you see what am i right yeah what happens have a nose for who it's automatically they're writing it down and show might I called base a fitness I mean it's fact it's programmable do not hide ruching away this is fact but the thing we're trying to say is you're big you I will be make a leg now what am I trying to bring over my point I'm trying to bring over is like this one time I was sitting I was sitting Sukkot we're sitting Sukkot and as I was a guest over one of my good I invited one of my good friends he was a little off the dare there it wasn't really so religious you know he went off a little bit so I looked at him I said when everybody was inside we were having some drinks he was a little bit yeah I tell them listen I'll baby I said what's gonna be where you're gonna head there tell me where are you gonna sit I wanna know what are you doing with your leg you're wasting which to know I love you that's why I'm telling you come on get up and smell the coffee as they say he looks at me says just know I have my wife to rely on I said what are you talking about he tells me I guess he was a little bit you know a little bit too much drinks he tells me like this he tells me that in the middle of the night 12 o'clock 1 o'clock every night his wife gets up and she sits on the floor by the dopost in the room and every night of course besides Friday night what is she doing she's crying for the Potomac - ashamed bring the machine I shan't bring you a bed to make - I shan't please we want we want you to come how many is he says over five years over 30 years every night is telling me now you see nobody in the room and nobody ever will ever know that and you'll see this lady and you'll never think that she's the type to even do that you means regulator she cooks she cleans she did she that takes is carpool she does this she does that you're not in the saving she's writing her own Nagila and that will be revealed after 120 everybody will realize well look at the good that this lady did and guess what it was a douche it's something of course sugar who says a person a sham and do that and it's enough it was he ditch the cheese method - and that's why in life a person has to understand that well when you're serving Buriram and you do something different whatever it is guess what it's really down and this Magilla will be mikela it will be revealed and that's why if you look there's two types of gifts you give to a person what's these two types of gifts one gift you give is when a person needs for example you see a guy he needs tie every week he comes - surely yeah he needs attorney every time he wants a tie it doesn't can't afford a kid either so you give him what he needs there's another type of gift well he doesn't need it from the love that you have him you give it for example what do you have a guy comes and he gives a bouquet of flowers today's watch let's say alright sometimes the wife does meet it actually but and I let's say for example you give your wife a bouquet of flowers not necessarily it need me need but you went out of your way and you gave her that it shows a bigger gift you know why because wow look I didn't even need it and you gave it to me father you really mean thought of me you understand what I'm saying or what now why am i bringing that out because it's the same thing when it comes to Allah - it basically won't on you it wasn't a ship everybody has to follow Allah the Torah but there are those things that you give gift stash em more than what it says in the books and when you doing that your reward is even more tremendous because it shows you the love that you have passion and when we see that from home no other than more share a bed what happened to Michelle Michelle was living in the palace with but all he was with royal clothing he was a prince he had been going guess what he sees that his Jewish brethren are out there suffering holding all these blocks and all these different type of heavy cement and you know he bends he takes all his gorgeous suit jacket his gorgeous princely garmi rolls up his sleeves and he goes to help out the Jewish people I shouldn't even tell him to do that he said look I see this in need of it I have a feeling over here I'm gonna go ahead and I'm gonna go out of my way to help I shall didn't tell him to do that Hashem did it up take off your prints called Prince Charming Gaga me and go sweat it out and help you Jewish brethren he did them and guess what you know what the Midrash says his reward was from Oh shame listen to this and I quote he says over here what was his reward and this I want to read to you because this is something tremendous America those for whom this is where a sham says 'add ah you will share he nasta a cicada you left what you were doing there last a little odd bits are shell isla el you want to see the side of Chloe fail when a heart I mean a hug our team and you made yourself like a brother to them princess Annie action says Annie bonier et al yoni where the Barry Meza are we don't abide now and talk with you imagine when she who did Michelle abate I'm that ashamed stop everything to talk to him was he who why you know why cuz what she saw something and he said this I have to take action and he took off his Prince Charming garment and he went down and his level of the people itself ground Hashem says you went down I'm gonna go down from my heavenly throne just like you took Emma no I'm gonna take my heavenly gumbo and I'm gonna go ahead and I'm gonna speak to you why tell me why he saw something that needed to be done and he went ahead and he did it sash and said why you did this I'm gonna do me doc a naked me da and that's what it says all right away there are kadosh baruch shem Oh Sheamus ah recycled Roberto table they pick up by a cry lab so keep tossing it right away Hashem spoke to Michelle fine you know why more shared for mites he could have said listen right now I'm busy I'm Prince Charming a mom by your husband arrows how can i lo my level what are you talking about no no no no no I see my Jewish people need help I'm gonna go out of my way and I'm gonna help them and guess what he was so here that I should have spoken because of that so what do you see about that what do you see you see even though it doesn't say black and white you must do this you must do that that already you have to do you know what that is by the way look at Martin Odum Unni what is nothing really it's a person when he meets you have a yawn you have per person he needs it so you have to give it doesn't make sense you have to give it to him right it doesn't uh it's it's me it's a gift that's needed conversation oh my no it's not a gift that's needed is it a gift that feed sonic a tweet oh my god even if you have the richest guy in the world you're going to give me mother Michelle my dog you fool Mitzvah it doesn't mean you're here you know yeah I don't know whatever you put in mr. morrow do you haven't touched it in this night I need it but you know what it's rejoice above your knees and that's the same thing when I was out a share whatever share we need the same one the Torah tells us but he's a major aspect of the Torah and that is Miss Hoffman out what's that woman on that miss oh my god is going out of your way of doing he did shoot of doing things the one that doesn't say in the books and he's doing it anyway I would die I came today on the way here Joe Aurora he drove me and he's sitting in the back but I wanna show me shooting she can good could you do it was a lesson that she should know as we're driving we got a phone call who is it I remember I gave a shield once to a few bar two other guys and one of these bow trooper guys he came over to me and he tells me rabbi and cut the eye and he must get out young I'm telling you honestly I sinned in the past so what he what are you talking about I used to pick up girls when I was single Hospital Oh what should I do I said this you need a you know I'm saying you gotta make big to Vava days it's not a job and he says now Rob I left everything behind I left everything behind that I don't do any more stir York but I want to do something can I get that I said me that kidding give me that go instead of pick up what you're doing before in the go pick up jewish souls neshama and bring them back just like in the nightclubs you brought the girls of my club a special of bringing Jewishness Award back to the baby glass so that's a bath we were walking and on East 9th and Avenue T we see about six seventeen year old kids and they were planned or talking to they say that you're this you're that and right away I see it about you rather than working with he says rabbi stop didn't you tell me today may one of the environment foot you by now one of the things if I want to do something extra special to combat what I did in the past was to bring jewish souls back to chuhwa gets my rabbi one second wait here how's like what are you doing he says rap my dad talked my mouth was useful to bed now i'm going to use it pretty good this goes up with the new boys boys what's happening well yeah and he's using a new he's doing his language y'all my brother how you doing and giving a hug in the head shaking the whole nine yards and he says then you boys wanna do something amazing so now they're they pumped up wow what is it don't shoot it up no no I see you later young teenage kids Punk's you know these guy come on zan Anna what is the guy say on the spot he says guess what I'm gonna make sure that I get you what do you like chicken fingers hot poppers sushi whatever you like I'm gonna I'm gonna hook it up for you now he did it 1 week 2 week 3 week 4 week and he did a good job at Burger shed about six guys on learning Torah now every Sunday night from this one conversation that as were coming here something happened what happened the guy was away this person response is every single week so the boys always contact him because he's the official sponsor they always contact again they call me up all the way a rabbi said well we didn't get no dinner tonight and guess what I don't know this is not right this is not fair dues that I said don't worry about it oh no wrong boy so Joey's in the car show you where he's driving me right this is rabbi give me the phone I give him the phone he said go to the restaurant and they go through my son dumb tell me call me back when he got the restaurant they go to a nice fancy restaurant whichever restaurant they pick he said go to any restaurant that you want and he went ahead of course you know young teenagers they picked the most fanciest one the best one the best dish the best that and they said everywhere I'd stayed this place said no problem give me the manager and I made the call within our hearing this and he's our witness and he's behind you right there and he says let me speak to the manager since their manager you have a pen and paper he says yes she's right my credit card number down this is for six I don't buy her for six one two four and he says did you get it says he I got it so what do you want me to do with it and this is his words he said take care of them whatever they order on the menu it's on me I don't care how much the bill is don't even call me it's on me you know how good these guys felts they told me they say rabbi we're coming show better learn to and this is his accoutns why because he saw that there was anything you saw that something is not right right here something is happening so only knows it could be a five six hundred dollar bill up series one time I got a bit like is crazy okay but the fool because what he saw that it was in me if there is any there's no shook on our roof that says oh yeah go out of your way and sponsor a crazy dinner for six seventeen year olds don't say that you learn but guess what in life you got a do like a mushaf my wrote something that's not really the book something that's extra we said methanol everything they needed so you give it they need it but the person doesn't even you're right but guess what I'm getting a Madonna anyway and a sham wants your but then all Hashem wants your gifts a shame created every single person with different powers and like we said earlier my power I don't have your pal and your power but when a human being bases are all in life a person should cry you don't whine because this huge passed away nobody could survive like this person if we cry who's gonna take his place nobody can take his place of the dead man but now we are alive and now everybody's gotta look deep down within him and see what you could do differently to serve a sham you know because that's what's going to make a shame even happier that's what's gonna make him a liar and I'll prove me big you know why when it came to Adal Haddad is a month we're really really really really really all the Jews were supposed to die every one of us and the Midrash goes on to say that there was eighty thousand five hundred people at the so da ba - oh Sh and this sat on came and they sat on tell the shame a shame look at these people look at these people they they going is another huh Tommy's their avatar he can't go through the answer is they're not gonna I don't know Serrano's as he can goes with that take on kind of think outside the box sometimes it doesn't make sense don't do these things a trans person doesn't do these things it doesn't make sense we don't like the way you talk that's not our way and guess what the speech that we have is so different that because we didn't change our language and guess what the quality where I guess what because we never changed our clothing we got seeing that Egypt you know guy wants to look cool Oh rabbi gonna stain these jeans now they came with a new style they have a whole by the meat and then they have a whole over year and all over there the guy came with us what do you have you know you you know you need your jeans are it no right but this is the style now I said come on yeah like you got a gray dress like me and guess whether that's same from Egypt that wouldn't change our clothing a sham says you didn't change your clothing I am going to you know it is a big deal yes because it's showing you you're part of like you're a part the Jewish you different bring your Wow - I can't I love it I love you part of them you part of me too you part of my show that's it and guess what episode - Manoj when they sat down was complaining what do you think happen says look all the miracles that you would have is if sat down playing all the miracles that you did and there's and that and this is what this is what the Jewish people do they chew out and have drinks and soda everything is kosher right everything's kosher but the way it's not finishing go get a move on and he gets a make me laugh it's a fun and a shame right these Jewish people are gonna go and be perished hope it's certainly gonna be comes and yeah I wanna be one stop the Hamasaki our goals you guys don't know what's happening do something says his things it already rain things that I was already rain did they do something wrong they did something wrong so they accept what you want us to do then yeah all right the motion of a new he said one share I beg you more I beg you I beg you please please please one plane the Jewish people pray pray for this is what happened in total whole story he says always what you're saying is there any said big in the world say he said yes says who Mordecai let more that I pray and I'll pray in heaven and true Alberta be Lord will get saved and he said before you do that how did I see everybody out of it's out of like cement that of mud did he write things in I then we can all perish out of mud or out of blood he said out of much kind of like cement out of Peaks so okay go quickly go up with a high go to and they prayed and they prayed it where they say but guess what always when a part of one person what the time saved the entire Jewish nation a person in life cannot sell himself shorts you cannot say Oh Baba I've already older now what can I do to the world right now how could I change the world right now my strength is I being bi can't do that you cannot do that you know the Franco you know Franco you know the Franco Rambam you hear the Franco Rambam you know I'm talking about a no Shabtai Franco he heard shout that Franco so you know what happened he started a project almost in his enemies it was almost a when he was starting a project what was he doing he was collecting all the round bums manuscripts you ladies old you leave everything behind you know eight years old okay the guy says okay come on it's about whatever I did I did know I'm gonna start oh come on I guess what he went around and around getting foggier back because of writing the manuscripts and guess what what he was close to maybe in the ninety of course the 1918 he found they told him that in Cairo Egypt there's one more manuscript that they found of the Rambam but it's for sale close to a million dollars you want it coming right now he flew to Egypt bought the manuscript close to a million dollars 750 thousand miles to be exact now we'll be probably 1.5 million and he came back and he was speaking to his his writer that was with him he says come come come to my office ASAP ASAP as soon as part of I just came back from Cairo with the Rob Bob's manuscript that they couldn't find for many many years guess what he's sitting down the writer comes he runs in on came again sits down and the writer spilled his coffee oh man you sleep on your bed guess what it was so old the manuscript that it got this integrated to today we do not have that wrong BOMs manuscript you know we're shocked I wrinkled it you know anything he leaves the room comes back a few minutes later with a cup of coffee he says you dropped you coffee he looks at him he says what I can't believe you the writers began I shot my friend I cannot believe you men in this let me tell you says is it gonna help me if I get angry the Rambam manuscript is a lost already it won't help if I get angry and therefore is your coffee you know what that means that means he was fully in control of himself that means too I've thought you know he was doing in his life but he was working on his character traits he was working on his character traits everybody has character traits in his role some people get very angry very quickly and some people are very impatient right the second to that the light turns green and the guy you're funnier doesn't go you ready start honking you know at least in where I come from foppish that's what I do don't be but don't go great patience hi baby patience come baby just try your trainings waiting for you hi but guess what the guy owed me Wilma says if the price is not constantly working on his character traits love my lying why should he live the I love we heard that I'll say it again the girl the girl on my village says if a person's not constantly working on it constantly the boat I constantly work on the character trees why should he live that means we're saying tonight everybody figure out something new when this and that is your character traits how are you going to change yourself and that is everybody everybody but watch everybody puts on to come in every day come on everybody it's not so song you know difficult important feeling every day and guess what after a few months you get used to it correct yes or no yes Shabbat in the beginning it might be hard for a person to get your blood but after a while it gets used to when they give Shabbat correct yes yes what about the windows what about the character traits that's ingrained in the human being a bowtie that's any like a oh and through wife the God is saying to us we have to eradicate it we have to knock it out and that's something new for us god knows what that's white without very good rabbi you said very good but how do we work on a character traits how I'll tell you a piggy assault and that is you we have to take first of all internalize what you have to work on take a trait like laziness versus lazy maybe he's sluggish in the morning by the time he gets up by the time it is but I have the day is over you know no those guys are let's go up waiting outside okay I'm coming I'm out I'm coming I'm not some call me come on sometimes the husband's wait for their wives for the wedding right now honey I'm in the car I got one more piece of makeup okay let's do the same come on you know a person's got to work on his character traits I guess what one of the things one of the biggest downfalls that a person have is he doesn't think which one he has to work on but if you think wouldn't have to work on slowly but surely you will dominates that character traits you know I said if you douche many many years ago but it's a shame I have to say it again it says it's talking for a wife you goof you want your wife is one goof but if you think about it how is it one goof how is in one body you're here use your body and you write this so else you're not always with your wife you're not walk away why 24/7 some people like but Hashem Hashem not but anyway you're not 24/7 will you're right right so how is it that your wife is one goof tell me how is it one goof so that we all retire tonight you know what it means this is a kaduche it says the city law as they can dig though what does that mean I will make Hashem says and taurine Bereshit I will make a helper as I can make know what's gonna go what does that mean can it go against I will make a helper against you does that make any sense whatsoever I and this what attracts us there are she explains but what is the plan say tonight says I will make for the man a helper against him Wow now people liking no wonder why rabbi have my shuttle by heat what does that mean tell me what does that mean against you so where she explains it as is ajita right Daisy those are attacking Engel but I want to say a little bit shot on this little little the roof and that is every person in life every person in life has different types of character traits some people get more angry than others fact now you also have a spouse a wife shitty is sometimes very very very calm and she doesn't get angry through life you got to learn from your spouse not to get angry learn from your wife's me don't and the wife has to learn the character traits from her husband and guess what you have a look at the ship and a horse what do you want to share with our quote at the end I don't accustomed over here but by us what we do we take the wine at the end and report in to know the glass and another glass reporting what we're doing besides the ha aspect to it but that's Cabaye you know we're doing we're telling the husband my dear husband my husband think your wife's character traits and hold into those look at her character traits and through life learn from her ways and then we tell the Calaca lie you're just getting married you also have to fix your character traits learn from your husband pull it into you and to life you will learn from each other's way to act to bring back character traits there was a fellow called me up he says rabbi I have to tell you the story so what is the story he said you should just know I got married and my wife of about three months into the marriage my wife asked me for a cup of water ice cold water and he says I was going to give it there and by accident my hand fell and on her head by accident did he spilled it so I called him and what was your iced reaction tells me rabbi I swear to you she didn't say a word that's how you serious yes I swear she didn't say a word so all of a sudden I told did you ask your wife why can he say work says yes and you know what she answered he told me he says is honey you're not gonna describe me you're not gonna bug out on me hidden that to me forget about it you're not gonna go crazy right now you know what she says she says I know you definitely didn't do that on purpose I mean I just thought about it and I said it doesn't make sense that you would actually come on top of my head and pour a cup of water on my head so I said why should they get angry most it was an accident even though I didn't feel it's an accident imagine hey you know what this guy you know what this guy told me he said Rob I could sweat he tells me one time my wife she spilled the whole of bowl and he cracked and it made a whole mess and I just had a dry cleaning soup brand-new dry cleaning suit and it splattered all over me and usually I would go crazy you don't know me right back good in the shoe but me every shoe robot I'm gonna go crazy but I controlled myself I learned from my wife's we don't why why why why why inaudible time alone from the spouse who learned from that but guess what it doesn't start there it doesn't start there because you know what you really really really really really have to do go ahead go ahead there's a separate cohorts that we keep the ways of the turkey you know they say foo know anybody know what I'm talking about they haven't even one English I rub my first year in Israel all day long I was busy with the self and a horse they came it goes step by step of each character traits it speaks about Samaha it speaks about our laziness the tells you how bad laziness is and you read about it it gives you knowledge about each character it speaks about of a person stingy how bad it is now I know what you're thinking oh I know a guy is stingy I'm gonna go to book a time and just show them and read this book the rabbi said it's a bad business and bring me dad that you can think of is in that book in that same day go over a whole city came and read it thoroughly and guess what my advice I should also do it as well is that as a whole we start working which we die you want to work out this week this week and you write it on a piece of paper not only our iPhone out on this not on that this is how successful people do it by the way you want to be successful in life this is how what successful people do they go ahead and they write this week I'm working on the middle of laziness I want to break my laziness you write it down on top I'm breaking my laziness this week starting to tonight's don't wear till tomorrow because that's on the internet works I'll do it tomorrow and then you never do it you forgot oh what do you forgot this he forgot that oh yeah yeah kaval don't want to tomorrow tonight as soon as people now start thinking which character traits were working on whatever you want to think of but I'll give you mine I don't want to work on laziness that's what I want to do this week Sunday night you know you have the whole week Monday to Shabbat you know Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday come Shabbat right write it down tonight I'm breaking my laziness tonight pick a piece of paper take a pen and put it in your pocket and hold it and review it tonight I work on late tomorrow morning you wake up is it is ooh you put on your shirt quickly you put on your shoes you put any dish you put are you that quick quick quick quick quick you break it break it break it break it break it and then in the morning when you're putting on your filling in the morning you're doing energy not like you have sleeping you put on ether land with the energy why cuz you're breaking the laziness so tomorrow morning what are you putting it too late not just putting but about that huh I don't know you're gonna do it like a firecracker like you're on I don't know what's gonna take it but I think that there is a simple book you're gonna think wow what are you on my friend won't you won't you drink last night give me some right huh and then once when you put on eat if you lean you do it with energy you don't do it like you know I'm doing like a robot every for 20 years I'm putting on okay tomorrow morning at least throughout the week this is what we're working on for the madness we're working on you've got out of your zone and he's saying you write it down trust me write it down but your laziness and tomorrow morning you do it energy but the other thing and then you you know what you put you know what you have to put the energy you gotta say oh I have an arm some people have been living on you haven't supported me in the shed big travel oh I have a head some people don't know that you know and nobody starts whenever you start a chef Manabu Shammar like the bit with the energy the same thing with the ladies the ladies also play in the morning they're also simple kind of shocked on how you gonna do to me with energy doing settings ooh through with all doing with fire this week I guess what everyday before you go to sleep you think about how did i do from the morning till the night before going to sleep every night I'm telling advice from the shooter from be sluggish mean I'm telling you but sluggish TV rises and then in panic Gitmo there is a move he says every night you know what he told me don't let it bother do people think it but the dude came from breslav it's not true my stuff didn't create his body do Katie miss lavish Andy he's poking out the biggest Bollywood star speak about what they do you know that what is it mother dude what are you sitting there and he contemplating how am I going to get close that Wow I'm working on my character breaking laziness tonight we're gonna write it down tomorrow we're gonna work on it tomorrow night before we go to sleep think about your day was that was I energetic the whole tie today the whole bed was energetic or was a sleepy you know dope ah I was energy yes I'm gonna do it again tomorrow and then every day you repeat yourself at the wheel and guess what you're gonna see your life is gonna check like wow I will fire with service of a shadow hooah and it's gonna feel so good people tell me rabbi it's dry what's dry you're dry there's no driver dry you know why cuz we're not connecting we're not connecting you know you have to take it I'll bet you know you know your phone you know your phone you need to charge the battery you got to put it in the in the voltage huh you know I'm talking about same thing you have you finished your mom you have to bolt it in you have to put the charge Bardot's but when the new you let me on fire you love doing whatever she wants you to do because we're in fact you ate it with love that and that's really damn it that's really really there man and guess what you can do it again and again and again him again and then he comes Shabbat you're gonna look back you're gonna look back on your week and you say ah I succeeded in breaking my laziness this week comes with a shop on Saturday night you do the same process if you want to continue with laziness continues now go on to anger I do repeat that process repeat the bathroom you'll see you'll be such a happy life you'll be sorry baby you know why you work for yourself and that's exactly mission is Masada Marvine by simcha what does it mean are being bitten car what some car some kind something new everybody loves something new everybody waiting on all you you have to taste this new dish sick its new let me taste it it's something new no the McCarthys don't have this this is something of yet something new why don't you wanna our new rabbi's thing I want to hear is new you know I'm talking about it oh oh there's a newer a new suit so let me see what they got everything new is fresh and that's what we have to freshen up freshen up in words what SIM card with the SIM card like we send my disorder is so happy when people are saying it is new he's also happy when people are selling freshness today I have another Cornish and that we conclude that every one of us should really really really really take it seriously take your life seriously you know I'm gonna end up with this there was a fellow he was telling me about his aunt true story that happened you ready listening he said he's not gonna have to work update his life I said why he said my aunt told me I'm inheriting all her money so therefore I don't have to work so hard in my life so the guy wasn't working wasn't working but guess what his aunt wasn't dying wasn't dying so eventually guess what happened he found out later on what happened when she actually did die she really didn't have too much money and she not only did she say to his nephew she said to all the nephews because what she wanted to make sure that everybody takes care of her and she succeeded because everyone's by her side and when they pulled out the will and they saw there was nothing that crazy you see so people could be rich and could be wealthy without working in this world how they could get inheritance right yeah I've got all of a sudden his father was a multi-millionaire the guy dies his father died and he becomes a multi-million if the work a date is life however that's good for money in this world but forget ending in a home about there's no inheritance you cannot inherit all about you cannot inherit again ended you gotta work hard for it it's not gonna come flying in the sky you know I I'm living because there's a guy he always tells me I always try to get in close to a Chevy not my wisely waiting I always thought we're gonna be he says listen call these to the le Ashley I think a little about everybody in Israel doesn't it say you're gonna go against us all right everybody Cody sale everybody in Israel has a portion in a little bar right so what am I gonna deny that I said of course but the question is what type of portion you're going to have are you going to have in the back bleaches all the way in the back back back back back back back back back or you can be front row if you want you got a move for it it doesn't just come like that about die that's actually taking into action brother hu rabbi no no don't just leave this your you take it with you and you work on the things that we said tonight like we said we'll work out with that of lazy's that's what we're gonna do this week everyone's gonna do it that's what we get into until Shabbat and we're gonna review it tonight tomorrow night and everything about those about comes I'm gonna be celebrating with that because you gotta work for it you know we can always oh my lunch sang this story cuz it's so true they got all their thunder was water was traveling one part and he was by the train station and I have the train station he was there and it was almost close to Shabbat he said I'm not traveling and he saw a nearest house and he went to the house and he knocked on the door he didn't know what was he saw miss was up says please please please kind of comments before Shabbat I have no I just a he says I don't let anybody any but I let you in but don't bother me came no problem buddy we stayed at his room he started learning and learning and learning if they go to learn to obey he had his a meal and that's it come Saturday night the ball abideth of the house says okay you can join me for a cup of tea he sits down with a cup of tea the guy looks and he says oh yeah you look like the gardener I the truth or you know me I'm a builder it's true yeah I am yeah oh now we're talking rabbi I have a question for you so what just where am i embedded tell me where do I sit in a llama baa when will I be sitting in the well that is eternity you know you want to add something funny cuz when we get used to it if you ever get a new car you get used to it right you get used to it right when you get into a house you get used to it when you get this again you are used to it but guess what long buzz not like that eternity is not like that because Hashem has it made false then every second it's a crazy new sensation yes don't think a lot about is just it is forever and ever and ever and ever and ever and ever and we don't realize that what he turned to is but it's forever and ever we're gonna see each other for a billion children years we're gonna see each other yes truely's I guess what and we're sucking in a whole bottle it's a medicine section it's not like oh you stole Holub already you think oh no I'm okay I got used to it already nothing like that it's not like that it's a new sensation and you cannot stand that sensation without our giving you an extra power to accept that pleasure you don't want a guy wins the multi-billion dollar lotto sometimes you can have a heart attack sit down shortly what would you do if you win a million dollars what would you do if you won 2 million what would you do until you get 150 billion dollars the guy doesn't have a heart attack you know because you know can you enjoy the money but Hashem gives you special power to enjoy a rubber ball so there are these phantoms that go on go on tell me wait do I see little what am I sitting get in there where do you sitting I need to tell me what do you think what do you think front row never if it's not for what you guys start working on it if you don't think you're getting front row you gotta start working on up what I I'm not even kidding you if you have to be the first step in the shul be the first time there should be the first in mini ad if you have to be if you're a lady one two more heads and do more hair said you want to create new things on your block another shoe Durance because you got one change in life one two chains and this is you eternity and it's gonna last forever and ever and ever this world's fastest was very very very very fast go ask anybody that's all the 60 70 80 90 way means go down so fast that's what I tell you so fast so he sits there and he tells to go on go on please tell me where I'm sitting at it he tells me tell me what you do I don't know what you do how am I supposed to know what you do well her way we said I know tells like this this is me I'm a shoemaker all day long I'm making shoes polishing shoes putting the shoelaces in this and what else I come home ground by I'm wild I'm dead tired of this some dad says how much money I make very very little money I come back I just put bread on the table and the next day I do the same thing is it do you do anything else says no just I should make it you don't do anything else no they go on hotels - and you're working so hard just to make a few dollars to support yourself in this world and you're sweating it so hard and you're just making a living what are you doing to work for the next world what are you doing where's your sweat what did you sweat you connect with a chambray bowtie kodesh you mean there's so many things out there that we can improve improve work on yourself work on your big don't work on it work on it I'm working on this meter I'm working on up don't stop don't stop don't stop don't stop don't stop don't stop don't stop don't stop you're gonna see you're gonna feel so good it's gonna be hard at first I'm gonna tell you now by the third four days can be very very hard but don't give up don't give up because at the end you're gonna be very very happy mission it was hard on this [Applause] [Music] [Applause]